Why the Word Boundaries Is Making It Harder to Actually Have Them
The word boundaries is so loaded that just hearing it makes most women either shut down or feel guilty before they have even done anything. So Sarai threw it out and replaced it with something that actually makes sense in your body.
This episode is about your capacity line. What it is, where it lives, why it is nothing like the cold rigid wall you picture when someone tells you to set a boundary, and why the reframe changes everything about how you actually hold one.
Sarai also gets personal about her own version of this. The forty-foot razor wire tower kept everyone out and left her completely alone, and she was actually searching for what she was actually searching for underneath all of it.
You will walk away with a completely different relationship to this whole concept, and one thing you can start doing today, even if you are nowhere near ready for the hard conversations yet.
What is Combative Calm?
This isn’t your sugary, sweet, diabetes-inducing healing podcast.
This is Combative Calm—where nervous system regulation meets rage rituals, somatic releases, and spicy affirmations laced with f-bombs to unfck your trauma responses.
Hosted by Sarai Speer—a trauma-informed yoga + meditation teacher, somatic healer, and high-energy bitch who tells it like it is—this show delivers real tools, not toxic positivity.
It’s trauma-informed, nervous system-rooted healing for the emotionally constipated, burnout-curious, high-functioning humans who are done pretending they’re fine.
It’s time to regulate your shit.