World of Bullies: Bill Eddy's Groundbreaking New Book
In this first episode of our new "World of Bullies" series, based on Bill Eddy's new book, Our New World of Adult Bullies: How to Spot Them, How to Stop Them, Bill and Megan dive into the timely topic of adult bullying. As co-founders of the High Conflict Institute, they provide invaluable insights for listeners.
Bill shares that his inspiration for the book came during the COVID-19 pandemic when he noticed an increase in bullying behavior across society. He emphasizes the importance of understanding bullies and the need for structure, limits, and consequences to curb their destructive behavior.
Megan highlights that while society has generally evolved to be more cooperative, high emotion media has influenced people's thinking and behavior, leading to a concerning shift in culture.
Questions we answer in this episode:
- What inspired this "World of Bullies" series and Bill's book?
- How have the COVID-19 pandemic, the media, online culture, and more influenced bullying behavior?
- How can we effectively deal with bullies in our lives?
Key Takeaways:
- Bullies require structure, limits, and consequences.
- High emotion media has contributed to a shift toward more bullying.
- Bill’s new SLIC method (setting limits and imposing consequences) is effective for dealing with bullies.
This episode sets the stage for the "World of Bullies" series, providing listeners with a comprehensive understanding of adult bullying and equipping them with practical tools to navigate challenging situations. Bill and Megan's expertise makes this a must-listen for anyone seeking to create a more harmonious environment in their lives.
Links & Other Notes
Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior.
- (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault
- (00:35) - New Series: World of Bullies
- (01:58) - The Reasons to Write It
- (05:55) - Why Are We Devolving?
- (08:41) - Mirroring
- (11:02) - Finding Balance
- (13:38) - Increase in Anxiety
- (14:35) - Reacting Faster
- (17:31) - Becoming Isolated
- (18:08) - Unrestrained Personalities
- (20:49) - SLIC Solutions
- (25:11) - Prison and Weinstein Examples
- (29:43) - Congress Example
- (37:05) - Social Media Examples
- (42:27) - Coaching to Not Bully
- (44:08) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: Bullys at Work and in Mediation
What is It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People?
Hosted by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. and Megan Hunter, MBA, It’s All Your Fault! High Conflict People explores the five types of people who can ruin your life—people with high conflict personalities and how they weave themselves into our lives in romance, at work, next door, at school, places of worship, and just about everywhere, causing chaos, exhaustion, and dread for everyone else.
They are the most difficult of difficult people — some would say they’re toxic. Without them, tv shows, movies, and the news would be boring, but who wants to live that way in your own life!
Have you ever wanted to know what drives them to act this way?
In the It’s All Your Fault podcast, we’ll take you behind the scenes to understand what’s happening in the brain and illuminates why we pick HCPs as life partners, why we hire them, and how we can handle interactions and relationships with them. We break down everything you ever wanted to know about people with the 5 high conflict personality types: narcissistic, borderline, histrionic, antisocial/sociopath, and paranoid.
And we’ll give you tips on how to spot them and how to deal with them.