1 00:00:02,089 --> 00:00:03,065 Hey, my name is A. 2 00:00:03,097 --> 00:00:03,577 A. 3 00:00:03,593 --> 00:00:03,806 Justin Kowalski. 4 00:00:03,827 --> 00:00:07,177 Am the associate pastor at our Palm Avenue campus in Riverside, California. 5 00:00:07,274 --> 00:00:09,210 Thanks so much for listening to Sandals Church. 6 00:00:09,289 --> 00:00:12,189 Our vision is to be real with ourselves, God, and others. 7 00:00:12,259 --> 00:00:13,839 We hope you enjoy this message. 8 00:00:16,370 --> 00:00:16,974 Hey, guys. 9 00:00:17,012 --> 00:00:18,025 Welcome to Sandals Church. 10 00:00:18,057 --> 00:00:21,949 Man, I am super excited about this new series called Oblivious. 11 00:00:22,449 --> 00:00:24,414 Anybody heard of or met anybody? 12 00:00:24,532 --> 00:00:25,640 Wait, hold on. 13 00:00:28,649 --> 00:00:29,399 Hello? 14 00:00:30,410 --> 00:00:30,917 Yeah. 15 00:00:31,004 --> 00:00:32,600 No, I'm preaching right now. 16 00:00:33,130 --> 00:00:34,613 No, I'm kind of in the middle of something. 17 00:00:34,652 --> 00:00:35,560 You need me? 18 00:00:36,490 --> 00:00:37,634 Okay, I'll talk to you later. 19 00:00:37,692 --> 00:00:38,213 Bye. 20 00:00:38,341 --> 00:00:39,673 Anybody hate that? 21 00:00:39,871 --> 00:00:41,259 Anybody hate that? 22 00:00:42,189 --> 00:00:43,286 Oh, my gosh. 23 00:00:43,398 --> 00:00:46,380 You can't go anywhere anymore without this, right? 24 00:00:47,229 --> 00:00:48,281 Especially our old people. 25 00:00:48,335 --> 00:00:51,438 I love you old people, but this there needs to be training. 26 00:00:51,524 --> 00:00:52,926 If you were over 70. 27 00:00:53,107 --> 00:00:53,933 Okay. 28 00:00:54,131 --> 00:00:54,542 Yeah. 29 00:00:54,595 --> 00:00:56,078 Anybody been in the doctor's office? 30 00:00:56,164 --> 00:00:56,750 Yeah. 31 00:00:56,899 --> 00:00:57,978 Got the diarrhea? 32 00:00:58,073 --> 00:00:58,829 Yep. 33 00:00:59,409 --> 00:01:00,762 Thank you for sharing. 34 00:01:00,905 --> 00:01:02,154 Thank you for sharing. 35 00:01:02,281 --> 00:01:03,353 Oh, my gosh. 36 00:01:03,481 --> 00:01:06,370 We just live in a culture that's oblivious. 37 00:01:06,709 --> 00:01:07,873 And you know why that is? 38 00:01:07,912 --> 00:01:09,042 We're focused on this. 39 00:01:09,096 --> 00:01:10,626 We got our headphones on. 40 00:01:10,727 --> 00:01:12,129 And here's the thing. 41 00:01:12,280 --> 00:01:14,739 The world is all about me. 42 00:01:15,189 --> 00:01:15,986 Me. 43 00:01:16,168 --> 00:01:19,469 My world, my feelings, my identity. 44 00:01:19,549 --> 00:01:20,213 And here's the thing. 45 00:01:20,251 --> 00:01:22,280 At church, we're about him. 46 00:01:22,890 --> 00:01:35,659 And that's going to be really challenging for us, because even when we come to church, 47 00:01:22,890 --> 00:01:35,659 when we live in a me world and we live in a me culture, it's hard for us to divorce 48 00:01:22,890 --> 00:01:35,659 ourselves from ourselves so that we can hear from God. 49 00:01:36,030 --> 00:01:38,969 And that's what I want to challenge you to do in this series. 50 00:01:39,469 --> 00:01:41,769 We all know someone that's oblivious. 51 00:01:41,849 --> 00:01:42,909 Anybody raise your hands. 52 00:01:42,980 --> 00:01:43,213 Okay? 53 00:01:43,251 --> 00:01:45,373 And if your hand ain't up, it's you. 54 00:01:45,492 --> 00:01:46,462 It's you. 55 00:01:46,596 --> 00:01:56,609 Right now, your spouse is like, we're going to talk about how to identify the obvious in a 56 00:01:46,596 --> 00:01:56,609 culture that's oblivious. 57 00:01:57,510 --> 00:02:03,742 We live in a culture that is oblivious and often unaware of their surroundings. 58 00:02:03,885 --> 00:02:05,825 Anybody travel to a foreign country? 59 00:02:06,007 --> 00:02:07,733 You know what's not in a foreign country? 60 00:02:07,852 --> 00:02:09,265 Danger signs. 61 00:02:09,457 --> 00:02:13,586 The rest of the world knows Americans are like, what a cliff? 62 00:02:13,698 --> 00:02:15,909 And we just go right off it. 63 00:02:16,060 --> 00:02:19,042 In America, there are signs everywhere. 64 00:02:19,186 --> 00:02:24,086 A good friend of mine was a missionary in Africa, and I'm like, man, this is dangerous. 65 00:02:24,117 --> 00:02:27,653 And he goes, yeah, in Africa, stupid people die in America. 66 00:02:27,701 --> 00:02:28,810 They multiply. 67 00:02:29,469 --> 00:02:30,741 That's what he said. 68 00:02:30,895 --> 00:02:32,590 It's like, oh, my gosh. 69 00:02:34,370 --> 00:02:39,870 And so many of us are just completely unaware of our surroundings. 70 00:02:40,210 --> 00:02:42,045 I want you to know you're in church right now. 71 00:02:42,068 --> 00:02:45,069 Or maybe you're watching church from home right now. 72 00:02:45,139 --> 00:02:48,849 And this is a very different thing that happens anywhere else in life. 73 00:02:48,919 --> 00:02:51,460 This is the place where heaven and earth connect. 74 00:02:51,830 --> 00:02:58,945 It's the place where we reserve out of our time with God for God, so we can hear from God. 75 00:02:59,127 --> 00:03:02,177 But do you know that many people, when they come to church, are oblivious? 76 00:03:02,274 --> 00:03:03,750 Even in church? 77 00:03:04,090 --> 00:03:04,866 Even in church. 78 00:03:04,897 --> 00:03:09,849 I hear stories all the time of people in church doing what I just did answering their 79 00:03:04,897 --> 00:03:09,849 phones. 80 00:03:10,270 --> 00:03:14,437 I had a friend of mine, huge church, not Sandals church, a huge church. 81 00:03:14,533 --> 00:03:21,062 And he said a guy answered his phone and walked out in a conversation while he's 82 00:03:14,533 --> 00:03:21,062 preaching. 83 00:03:21,205 --> 00:03:24,394 And my friend wanted to be like, Hello, I have the microphone. 84 00:03:24,442 --> 00:03:26,413 But he didn't do that because their vision isn't being real. 85 00:03:26,451 --> 00:03:28,000 You know, I would have said something. 86 00:03:31,090 --> 00:03:32,361 It's a true story. 87 00:03:32,515 --> 00:03:37,854 I cannot tell you some of the most bizarre things that I have seen at our church. 88 00:03:37,901 --> 00:03:43,699 When people get together, just completely oblivious of others. 89 00:03:44,069 --> 00:03:46,557 Man, we've had all kinds of situations. 90 00:03:46,734 --> 00:03:54,806 Some of you, when I preach, you just give me the and then some of you are artificially 91 00:03:46,734 --> 00:03:54,806 peppy, and you're a distraction, man. 92 00:03:54,828 --> 00:03:57,286 We had a happy clapper at Hunter Park a couple of weeks ago. 93 00:03:57,388 --> 00:04:02,746 And I don't know if this person was on something or off something, but we needed to help 94 00:03:57,388 --> 00:04:02,746 them. 95 00:04:02,848 --> 00:04:05,337 And it's just absolutely crazy. 96 00:04:05,424 --> 00:04:18,125 The things that people do in church, wear to church, say in church, and what we need to do 97 00:04:05,424 --> 00:04:18,125 at church, we say, okay, what am I oblivious to when I am around others? 98 00:04:18,307 --> 00:04:21,545 And so here's the thing is, I know many of you have kids in church. 99 00:04:21,577 --> 00:04:24,221 And look, we love your kids, and we care for your kids. 100 00:04:24,276 --> 00:04:28,194 We spend a lot of time making space for your kids. 101 00:04:28,391 --> 00:04:31,134 But here's the thing is, some people in here are going through a divorce. 102 00:04:31,182 --> 00:04:33,985 They're battling cancer, man. 103 00:04:34,168 --> 00:04:41,009 They don't know if they want to live till tomorrow, and they need to hear every word 104 00:04:34,168 --> 00:04:41,009 that's spoken in church. 105 00:04:41,089 --> 00:04:43,750 And so what we have to do is police ourselves. 106 00:04:44,250 --> 00:04:46,146 We have to check ourselves. 107 00:04:46,338 --> 00:04:53,339 And so, ma'am, we love your kids, but we need to be aware at Sandals church of others. 108 00:04:53,949 --> 00:04:54,985 Of others. 109 00:04:55,168 --> 00:04:57,014 And it's just a reality. 110 00:04:57,062 --> 00:04:58,410 We've forgotten that. 111 00:04:58,560 --> 00:05:00,410 Anybody wait in line lately? 112 00:05:01,389 --> 00:05:04,060 And you're the only person that knows there's a line. 113 00:05:04,370 --> 00:05:10,074 Everybody else just kind of walks to the front, and that's when you completely forget that 114 00:05:04,370 --> 00:05:10,074 you love Jesus. 115 00:05:10,122 --> 00:05:13,120 Please don't have a sandal shirt on when you confront that person. 116 00:05:14,370 --> 00:05:15,482 How about the movie theater? 117 00:05:15,545 --> 00:05:17,129 Anybody been to the movies lately? 118 00:05:17,290 --> 00:05:18,879 I can't stand it. 119 00:05:19,829 --> 00:05:24,098 In a couple of weeks, I interview one of the movie directors in our church, and it's one 120 00:05:19,829 --> 00:05:24,098 of the things I ask them all the time. 121 00:05:24,184 --> 00:05:28,081 How are you going to continue to make movies and get people to come to the theater? 122 00:05:28,225 --> 00:05:32,374 Because people are on their phones, people are talking with each other. 123 00:05:32,411 --> 00:05:34,069 People are throwing skittles. 124 00:05:34,730 --> 00:05:43,314 I mean, it's just a know, one time at church years ago, there was a woman on the front 125 00:05:34,730 --> 00:05:43,314 row, and she had a kid with a rattle. 126 00:05:43,442 --> 00:05:45,814 Does anybody have I do. 127 00:05:45,932 --> 00:05:48,519 You know, and I'm just like I can't even hear the Holy Spirit, right? 128 00:05:49,370 --> 00:05:51,021 And some of you guys know this story. 129 00:05:51,076 --> 00:05:51,593 It was terrible. 130 00:05:51,641 --> 00:05:54,382 I didn't know there was a news reporter in the audience that day. 131 00:05:54,516 --> 00:05:55,886 I know, because I'm special. 132 00:05:55,987 --> 00:05:57,978 And I said something in the middle of my sermon. 133 00:05:57,994 --> 00:05:59,134 I'm like, can I help you? 134 00:05:59,252 --> 00:06:00,141 Can I help you? 135 00:06:00,196 --> 00:06:03,790 And it didn't go well, and I made the news for all the wrong reasons. 136 00:06:04,370 --> 00:06:11,182 But here's the thing is, we're all oblivious to our surroundings, to other people, and 137 00:06:04,370 --> 00:06:11,182 we're oblivious to ourselves. 138 00:06:11,245 --> 00:06:14,221 Anybody realize how bad your breath really is when you wear the masks? 139 00:06:14,286 --> 00:06:15,089 Remember that? 140 00:06:15,240 --> 00:06:17,718 I was like, oh, Tammy has a know. 141 00:06:17,884 --> 00:06:18,920 I understand. 142 00:06:20,889 --> 00:06:24,146 But we've all met people with breath problems, body odor. 143 00:06:24,257 --> 00:06:26,194 Anybody that amen work with youth. 144 00:06:26,242 --> 00:06:27,750 Amen praying for you. 145 00:06:27,899 --> 00:06:28,742 Love you. 146 00:06:28,875 --> 00:06:29,557 Love you. 147 00:06:29,644 --> 00:06:31,670 You know, when I was in boot camp this is a true story. 148 00:06:31,740 --> 00:06:37,754 When I was in the army, when I was boot camp, our drill sergeant would make us raise our 149 00:06:31,740 --> 00:06:37,754 hands and stand up like this. 150 00:06:37,791 --> 00:06:40,730 And he would walk down a line sniffing our pits. 151 00:06:43,470 --> 00:06:48,906 And he told us, if I smell one hint of body odor, he's like, you guys are going to run 152 00:06:43,470 --> 00:06:48,906 till you puke. 153 00:06:48,937 --> 00:06:51,934 And we puked a lot because some people it doesn't matter. 154 00:06:51,971 --> 00:06:54,610 It's like, did you not hear him say scrub your pits? 155 00:06:54,949 --> 00:06:56,129 And they didn't. 156 00:06:56,790 --> 00:07:01,060 But here's the thing is, we live in a culture that's oblivious of God. 157 00:07:03,189 --> 00:07:04,557 What is up, Sandals Church? 158 00:07:04,574 --> 00:07:08,045 We are starting a new series today called Oblivious with Pastor Matt. 159 00:07:08,077 --> 00:07:11,958 Before we jump into that, I wanted to take a brief moment to invite you to partner with 160 00:07:08,077 --> 00:07:11,958 us. 161 00:07:12,043 --> 00:07:14,550 You can do that by going to donate SC. 162 00:07:14,699 --> 00:07:16,360 Now, let's get back into the message. 163 00:07:18,089 --> 00:07:22,379 But here's the thing is, we live in a culture that's oblivious of God. 164 00:07:23,470 --> 00:07:24,266 Oblivious of God. 165 00:07:24,288 --> 00:07:26,153 Listen to what Romans 119 says. 166 00:07:26,271 --> 00:07:32,060 It says they know the truth about God because he has made it obvious to them. 167 00:07:32,589 --> 00:07:34,959 You ever met an atheist that's mad at God? 168 00:07:35,569 --> 00:07:37,021 You wonder why that is? 169 00:07:37,156 --> 00:07:38,733 Because they know he's there. 170 00:07:38,851 --> 00:07:39,966 They know he's there. 171 00:07:40,067 --> 00:07:41,485 People intrinsically know there's a God. 172 00:07:41,507 --> 00:07:52,740 Now, they may have had a bad experience at church or a bad experience with Christians, or 173 00:07:41,507 --> 00:07:52,740 they may be wrestling through some real sin issues, but they know there's a God because 174 00:07:41,507 --> 00:07:52,740 it's obvious. 175 00:07:53,110 --> 00:07:54,180 It's obvious. 176 00:07:55,110 --> 00:07:58,194 Number one on your outlines, you can take notes on your phone. 177 00:07:58,232 --> 00:07:59,521 And don't think that I'm going to judge you. 178 00:07:59,576 --> 00:08:00,853 I want you to download the app. 179 00:08:00,891 --> 00:08:02,966 I want you to take notes on your phone. 180 00:08:03,067 --> 00:08:04,949 Just turn the volume down, okay? 181 00:08:05,019 --> 00:08:05,473 Amen. 182 00:08:05,521 --> 00:08:09,189 For the love of Jesus and all that is holy, there's a volume button. 183 00:08:09,259 --> 00:08:09,781 Find it. 184 00:08:09,836 --> 00:08:14,329 And if you can't find it, let one of your neighbors help you find it and turn it down. 185 00:08:14,480 --> 00:08:20,473 So, number one, I want to challenge you to create a culture of truth with those that are 186 00:08:14,480 --> 00:08:20,473 around you. 187 00:08:20,672 --> 00:08:23,565 We live in a culture of lies, right? 188 00:08:23,668 --> 00:08:25,802 Think of my favorite movie, the Elf. 189 00:08:25,865 --> 00:08:27,353 You sit on a throne of lies. 190 00:08:27,401 --> 00:08:28,394 Remember the fake Satan? 191 00:08:28,442 --> 00:08:29,545 That's our fake Satan. 192 00:08:29,577 --> 00:08:30,670 Fake Santa? 193 00:08:31,730 --> 00:08:33,200 No judgment there. 194 00:08:34,210 --> 00:08:35,225 The fake santa. 195 00:08:35,258 --> 00:08:36,850 You sit on a throne of lies. 196 00:08:37,669 --> 00:08:39,090 And that's what our culture does. 197 00:08:39,159 --> 00:08:41,220 Our culture is not honest about anything. 198 00:08:41,590 --> 00:08:42,340 Anything. 199 00:08:42,789 --> 00:08:44,642 Listen to what the Book of Proverbs says. 200 00:08:44,696 --> 00:08:46,658 This is God's book of wisdom to you. 201 00:08:46,744 --> 00:08:54,519 Some of you were raised in homes where your dad didn't teach you anything, your mom didn't 202 00:08:46,744 --> 00:08:54,519 tell you anything, and everything you learned on the streets, and you're finding out it's 203 00:08:46,744 --> 00:08:54,519 all wrong. 204 00:08:55,129 --> 00:08:56,261 Well, here's the good news. 205 00:08:56,316 --> 00:09:00,649 Your father in heaven loves you, and he tells you the truth, and he tells you what you 206 00:08:56,316 --> 00:09:00,649 need to know. 207 00:09:00,799 --> 00:09:02,121 Proverbs 23 three. 208 00:09:02,176 --> 00:09:06,299 Listens, buy the truth and do not sell it. 209 00:09:06,750 --> 00:09:09,514 One of my favorite translations says it this way. 210 00:09:09,711 --> 00:09:13,679 Buy the truth at any price and never sell it. 211 00:09:14,370 --> 00:09:17,629 You see, one of the things that our culture is sold is the truth. 212 00:09:18,450 --> 00:09:22,761 And this is why we struggle with basic, basic things in California. 213 00:09:22,826 --> 00:09:23,754 Here's one of the lies. 214 00:09:23,802 --> 00:09:25,460 We say we have a homeless problem. 215 00:09:25,909 --> 00:09:29,620 No, we have a drug and mental illness problem. 216 00:09:30,149 --> 00:09:35,725 Housing will not help people with addiction, and it will not help people with mental 217 00:09:30,149 --> 00:09:35,725 illness. 218 00:09:35,918 --> 00:09:39,474 We live in a culture that is immune to the truth. 219 00:09:39,522 --> 00:09:41,841 We're allergic to the truth. 220 00:09:41,985 --> 00:09:45,697 We blame anything and everything but the truth. 221 00:09:45,874 --> 00:09:47,285 And so here's what many of you do. 222 00:09:47,307 --> 00:09:49,490 You're like, well, that's why I'm leaving California. 223 00:09:49,570 --> 00:09:52,889 Or you could create a culture of truth around yourselves. 224 00:09:53,789 --> 00:09:56,409 And this is what I'm going to encourage you if you're raising kids. 225 00:09:56,480 --> 00:09:59,225 Anybody raising kids, I'll be praying for you right now. 226 00:09:59,408 --> 00:10:00,460 That's fun. 227 00:10:01,470 --> 00:10:03,046 But when you're raising kids, it's tough. 228 00:10:03,077 --> 00:10:04,245 You got to create a culture of truth. 229 00:10:04,278 --> 00:10:06,686 And I always love parents who are like, my kid would never lie to me. 230 00:10:06,707 --> 00:10:09,840 I'm like, I don't think you know your kid at all. 231 00:10:10,929 --> 00:10:14,206 One of my good friends this week, they caught their kid on video. 232 00:10:14,388 --> 00:10:21,405 On video sneaking into the fridge, and the kid moved the camera, went up to the camera and 233 00:10:14,388 --> 00:10:21,405 moved it so his parents wouldn't see him get into the fridge. 234 00:10:21,597 --> 00:10:23,182 Don't you love kid intelligence? 235 00:10:23,245 --> 00:10:28,605 It's just like, you didn't think we were going to see this, but all kids lie. 236 00:10:28,717 --> 00:10:29,758 All kids lie. 237 00:10:29,854 --> 00:10:30,734 Your kids lie. 238 00:10:30,782 --> 00:10:31,769 When I was a kid, I lied. 239 00:10:31,789 --> 00:10:32,018 What's? 240 00:10:32,033 --> 00:10:32,433 Hilarious. 241 00:10:32,481 --> 00:10:34,066 During COVID My parents lied. 242 00:10:34,177 --> 00:10:35,221 I'm like, Are you out? 243 00:10:35,275 --> 00:10:36,374 Are you at the grocery store? 244 00:10:36,412 --> 00:10:37,206 My mom's like, no. 245 00:10:37,227 --> 00:10:39,610 I'm like, I got you on the tracker. 246 00:10:40,909 --> 00:10:42,620 I know where you are, mom. 247 00:10:44,429 --> 00:10:46,220 That's a fun phase of life. 248 00:10:47,549 --> 00:10:48,902 But everybody lies. 249 00:10:49,046 --> 00:10:51,179 Even in marriage, we lie to each other. 250 00:10:51,629 --> 00:10:52,822 Did that hurt your feelings? 251 00:10:52,885 --> 00:10:53,500 No. 252 00:10:56,049 --> 00:10:56,985 Here's why we lie. 253 00:10:57,018 --> 00:10:58,105 It's not because we want to lie. 254 00:10:58,138 --> 00:11:00,269 It's because the truth has consequences. 255 00:11:01,330 --> 00:11:02,320 It does. 256 00:11:03,490 --> 00:11:11,059 And so what you have to do is one of my favorite movies years ago was Meet the Fockers, 257 00:11:03,490 --> 00:11:11,059 the circle of Truth, the circle of Trust. 258 00:11:11,509 --> 00:11:15,494 Remember one time we were talking with our son, and he's like, what about the circle of 259 00:11:11,509 --> 00:11:15,494 trust? 260 00:11:15,532 --> 00:11:17,080 I'm like, you're not in it. 261 00:11:18,009 --> 00:11:18,774 We're in it. 262 00:11:18,812 --> 00:11:19,960 You're over there. 263 00:11:23,529 --> 00:11:32,299 And that's the thing, is, oftentimes we think people believe our lies, but people see the 264 00:11:23,529 --> 00:11:32,299 truth in us a whole lot more than we give them credit for. 265 00:11:33,629 --> 00:11:36,278 And some of you say, here's the thing in your marriage. 266 00:11:36,374 --> 00:11:37,562 You know what's holding you back? 267 00:11:37,615 --> 00:11:38,470 The truth. 268 00:11:38,629 --> 00:11:40,234 Your relationship with your kids? 269 00:11:40,351 --> 00:11:41,217 The truth. 270 00:11:41,333 --> 00:11:45,741 You know what your problem is with your best friend or your lack of friends? 271 00:11:45,875 --> 00:11:47,149 It's the truth. 272 00:11:47,570 --> 00:11:56,820 And here's the thing is we're afraid to speak the truth because we don't want to risk 273 00:11:47,570 --> 00:11:56,820 hurting the relationships or the people that we love. 274 00:11:57,830 --> 00:12:00,306 But listen to what the Bible says about love. 275 00:12:00,488 --> 00:12:08,070 In one Corinthians 13 six, love does not delight in evil listeners, but it rejoices with 276 00:12:00,488 --> 00:12:08,070 the truth. 277 00:12:08,970 --> 00:12:15,990 Man if you really love someone, if you really care for someone, don't you owe them the 278 00:12:08,970 --> 00:12:15,990 truth? 279 00:12:17,289 --> 00:12:20,885 A couple of years ago, Pastor Claude, he's one of our teaching pastors. 280 00:12:20,998 --> 00:12:23,049 And I love Claude, but he's a big chicken. 281 00:12:24,590 --> 00:12:31,817 He wanted to challenge me, and there were some things in my life that he saw, but he was 282 00:12:24,590 --> 00:12:31,817 afraid to tell me. 283 00:12:31,903 --> 00:12:33,690 And so we were out to coffee together. 284 00:12:33,759 --> 00:12:41,501 And you ever have a friend, you go to coffee date, and they're just him and Han, and 285 00:12:33,759 --> 00:12:41,501 they're not being honest, and you know something's coming, but you don't know what it is. 286 00:12:41,635 --> 00:12:46,062 And so right at the end of our coffee date, he slides me this pamphlet. 287 00:12:46,125 --> 00:12:49,220 You know you're in trouble when you get a pamphlet from a friend. 288 00:12:49,830 --> 00:12:53,250 And the pamphlet is, it says, Struggling with Bitterness. 289 00:12:54,470 --> 00:12:56,806 And he goes, hey, I just thought maybe you'd want to read this. 290 00:12:56,827 --> 00:12:59,639 And he runs to his car, drops it off. 291 00:13:01,370 --> 00:13:07,365 But here's the thing is, I know Claude loves me, and I know he didn't want to hurt me. 292 00:13:07,388 --> 00:13:08,293 But here's what the Bible says. 293 00:13:08,331 --> 00:13:10,234 Remember that book of Proverbs I told you about? 294 00:13:10,351 --> 00:13:11,402 Proverbs 27. 295 00:13:11,456 --> 00:13:17,370 Six wounds from a sincere friend are better than many kisses from an enemy. 296 00:13:18,190 --> 00:13:23,285 Man, I hope you have friends like that that love you enough to tell you the truth. 297 00:13:23,477 --> 00:13:27,902 And here's the thing is, most of our friends, when we tell them the truth, run away. 298 00:13:28,035 --> 00:13:33,389 I want you to know that Claude and I are better friends today because he told me the 299 00:13:28,035 --> 00:13:33,389 truth. 300 00:13:34,149 --> 00:13:37,426 And I appreciate him, and I love him. 301 00:13:37,607 --> 00:13:41,460 And I know it was hard for him, but he did it. 302 00:13:42,389 --> 00:13:45,937 A wound from a sincere friend is better than kisses from an enemy. 303 00:13:46,033 --> 00:13:49,509 Some of you have settled for kisses from your enemy. 304 00:13:50,809 --> 00:13:53,350 This is why Jesus says you need the truth. 305 00:13:54,250 --> 00:13:57,879 He says the truth will what set you free. 306 00:13:58,990 --> 00:14:05,354 Man, I know some of you, you're embroiled in some real pain in your marriage, man. 307 00:14:05,392 --> 00:14:09,210 You're struggling in a real relationship with your son or daughter. 308 00:14:10,029 --> 00:14:11,190 Here's what I've learned. 309 00:14:11,269 --> 00:14:14,799 The closer the relationship, the harder it is. 310 00:14:15,330 --> 00:14:16,813 You know who I'm not worried about? 311 00:14:16,851 --> 00:14:18,029 People I don't care about. 312 00:14:18,179 --> 00:14:20,477 And I know as your pastor, I'm supposed to care about everybody. 313 00:14:20,563 --> 00:14:21,389 I don't. 314 00:14:24,850 --> 00:14:26,590 I mean, that's just the reality. 315 00:14:27,190 --> 00:14:30,241 I care about the people that are close to me and the people that I know. 316 00:14:30,296 --> 00:14:32,573 But here's the thing I've learned about relationships. 317 00:14:32,701 --> 00:14:36,759 No one, not even God, can fix a dishonest relationship. 318 00:14:39,850 --> 00:14:47,320 If you want God to answer your prayers for your marriage, answer God's prayer for the 319 00:14:39,850 --> 00:14:47,320 truth in your relationship. 320 00:14:49,370 --> 00:14:55,100 The best thing that could happen to your marriage today is if you could just be honest 321 00:14:49,370 --> 00:14:55,100 about what the problem is. 322 00:14:57,070 --> 00:15:03,101 The best thing that could happen in your struggle with your friendships, if you could just 323 00:14:57,070 --> 00:15:03,101 say, hey, here's what's happening. 324 00:15:03,235 --> 00:15:04,429 Here's the truth. 325 00:15:05,409 --> 00:15:13,360 And the reason I think that that's hard for us as Christians is oftentimes we think we and 326 00:15:05,409 --> 00:15:13,360 others are better than we really are. 327 00:15:14,789 --> 00:15:20,580 Number two in a culture that's oblivious is we have to accept that everyone's a mess. 328 00:15:21,669 --> 00:15:22,946 I don't care. 329 00:15:23,128 --> 00:15:26,354 I don't care who your favorite pastor is. 330 00:15:26,471 --> 00:15:28,822 I don't care who your favorite worship leader is. 331 00:15:28,875 --> 00:15:31,062 I don't care who your favorite author is. 332 00:15:31,115 --> 00:15:34,519 I have met probably all of them and they're a mess. 333 00:15:35,049 --> 00:15:36,600 They're a total mess. 334 00:15:36,970 --> 00:15:39,881 Just because someone can write well doesn't mean they're living well. 335 00:15:39,936 --> 00:15:42,841 Just because somebody can speak well doesn't mean they are well. 336 00:15:42,895 --> 00:15:47,529 Just because somebody can sing like Jesus doesn't mean they know Jesus. 337 00:15:49,470 --> 00:15:55,258 A couple of weeks ago, I went to a retreat with a bunch of pastors, 13 pastors. 338 00:15:55,433 --> 00:15:56,221 Why did I go? 339 00:15:56,275 --> 00:15:57,806 My wife said I needed to go. 340 00:15:57,908 --> 00:15:59,039 What's that about? 341 00:15:59,970 --> 00:16:04,638 So I went and I was really unsure and I didn't know anybody. 342 00:16:04,724 --> 00:16:08,813 Well, I knew one guy, but twelve of the other guys were complete strangers. 343 00:16:08,942 --> 00:16:13,118 So we sat around a table and these pastors, these are leaders of churches. 344 00:16:13,214 --> 00:16:24,230 These are people that you would love and respect and look to as an example of the kind of 345 00:16:13,214 --> 00:16:24,230 person you want to be, the kind of marriage you want, an example to raise your kids in the 346 00:16:13,214 --> 00:16:24,230 way that God would want. 347 00:16:24,299 --> 00:16:32,370 And they went around the table and I got to speak last and I was like, everyone is a 348 00:16:24,299 --> 00:16:32,370 disaster, total disaster. 349 00:16:32,529 --> 00:16:35,446 There were guys that had committed adultery, that had been fired from their church. 350 00:16:35,477 --> 00:16:37,190 There were guys struggling with mental illness. 351 00:16:37,269 --> 00:16:39,717 There were guys that were ready to walk away from ministry. 352 00:16:39,813 --> 00:16:43,200 There were guys that said they didn't like their spouse, like their kids. 353 00:16:43,730 --> 00:16:56,980 And then there was one guy who said this three years ago on vacation, somebody offered him 354 00:16:43,730 --> 00:16:56,980 a marijuana gummy and he said he doesn't know why, but he took it and it was laced with 355 00:16:43,730 --> 00:16:56,980 something. 356 00:16:57,429 --> 00:17:01,490 And instantly, three years ago, he went into a psychotic episode. 357 00:17:01,830 --> 00:17:07,700 And he has been struggling listen to this to get out of it for three years. 358 00:17:09,369 --> 00:17:23,529 His life is ruined, ministry is ruined, marriage is struggling, can't parent, and then he 359 00:17:09,369 --> 00:17:23,529 shares he has night terrors in the middle of the night, he'll have these nightmares where 360 00:17:09,369 --> 00:17:23,529 he thinks he's wrestling pirates and his wife has to call the police. 361 00:17:24,190 --> 00:17:26,460 Anybody want to guess who my roommate was? 362 00:17:28,029 --> 00:17:28,778 Oh, yeah. 363 00:17:28,864 --> 00:17:29,740 That guy. 364 00:17:30,190 --> 00:17:31,226 That guy. 365 00:17:31,407 --> 00:17:38,314 330 in the morning, I was calling upon the name of Jesus because he was bigger than me, a 366 00:17:31,407 --> 00:17:38,314 lot bigger. 367 00:17:38,442 --> 00:17:40,526 And I would love to tell you how tough I am. 368 00:17:40,548 --> 00:17:42,109 It's just not the truth. 369 00:17:42,450 --> 00:17:44,781 If he thought I was the pirate, I was going down. 370 00:17:44,836 --> 00:17:47,779 I was going down, and there was nothing to it. 371 00:17:48,230 --> 00:17:49,569 And I didn't sleep, man. 372 00:17:49,640 --> 00:17:52,445 I just was sitting there in my covers, like, oh, my gosh, where's Tammy? 373 00:17:52,478 --> 00:17:53,700 She'd protect me. 374 00:17:56,549 --> 00:17:57,602 But here's the thing. 375 00:17:57,655 --> 00:17:58,965 You know what we do? 376 00:17:59,147 --> 00:18:00,599 We judge people. 377 00:18:01,690 --> 00:18:03,442 And I was sitting there praying. 378 00:18:03,586 --> 00:18:06,359 I was praying two things god, why do you have me here? 379 00:18:07,049 --> 00:18:08,359 These people are a mess. 380 00:18:09,130 --> 00:18:12,059 God, why did Tammy send me here? 381 00:18:13,549 --> 00:18:16,059 And this really just impressed upon me. 382 00:18:16,430 --> 00:18:21,660 I think the older I get and the more successful I am, I have more control over the people 383 00:18:16,430 --> 00:18:21,660 that I hang out. 384 00:18:22,430 --> 00:18:25,130 Know, when you're first starting out, you gotta work wherever you work. 385 00:18:25,200 --> 00:18:26,685 You gotta live wherever you live. 386 00:18:26,788 --> 00:18:29,246 You have very little control of the people that you interact with. 387 00:18:29,268 --> 00:18:32,829 And some of you are there right now, and I'm praying for you. 388 00:18:32,980 --> 00:18:36,509 But the more successful you get, your crowd becomes smaller. 389 00:18:36,589 --> 00:18:41,329 Like, I have the pleasure of working with Christian leaders at this church. 390 00:18:41,910 --> 00:18:44,609 Like many of you at your job, you're the only Christian. 391 00:18:45,670 --> 00:18:47,877 And so I'm blessed in many ways. 392 00:18:48,044 --> 00:18:50,839 So I said, God, why do you want me here? 393 00:18:51,289 --> 00:18:57,000 You see, I was oblivious to what God was obviously trying to do for me. 394 00:18:58,250 --> 00:19:13,993 In the Book of Matthew, chapter nine, verse 35, jesus went through all of the cities and 395 00:18:58,250 --> 00:19:13,993 villages, teaching in their synagogues, and proclaiming the gospel of the kingdom and 396 00:18:58,250 --> 00:19:13,993 healing every disease and every affliction. 397 00:19:14,041 --> 00:19:15,359 Can you imagine that? 398 00:19:16,529 --> 00:19:17,354 Can you imagine? 399 00:19:17,402 --> 00:19:22,041 Instead of a line outside of urgent care, there was a line in our church? 400 00:19:22,105 --> 00:19:25,730 Because Jesus was here, and people are getting healed. 401 00:19:27,750 --> 00:19:31,458 And then he looked at the crowds, and you know what? 402 00:19:31,624 --> 00:19:32,819 They were a mess. 403 00:19:33,349 --> 00:19:34,579 They were a mess. 404 00:19:35,109 --> 00:19:44,518 Broken marriages, addictions, diseases, mental health issues, self righteousness religious 405 00:19:35,109 --> 00:19:44,518 people. 406 00:19:44,683 --> 00:19:46,006 People all about themselves. 407 00:19:46,107 --> 00:19:50,359 When he saw the crowds listen to this, he had compassion for them. 408 00:19:50,809 --> 00:19:51,559 Wow. 409 00:19:52,569 --> 00:19:55,609 For they were harassed and helpless. 410 00:19:56,509 --> 00:19:56,922 Listen. 411 00:19:56,976 --> 00:19:58,326 It's like a sheep without a shepherd. 412 00:19:58,357 --> 00:19:59,945 Now, let me tell you why this verse convicts me. 413 00:19:59,968 --> 00:20:01,097 Do you know what a shepherd is? 414 00:20:01,183 --> 00:20:04,509 A shepherd is translated in the Bible as pastor. 415 00:20:06,529 --> 00:20:08,509 These were people without a pastor. 416 00:20:09,970 --> 00:20:17,140 And then he said to his disciples, and I don't know if you're a disciple or not, but if 417 00:20:09,970 --> 00:20:17,140 you are, I want you to listen to this. 418 00:20:17,750 --> 00:20:19,970 He said, the harvest is plentiful. 419 00:20:20,950 --> 00:20:24,478 I want you to think about all 14 of our campuses are in California. 420 00:20:24,574 --> 00:20:26,529 Are people a mess in California. 421 00:20:28,009 --> 00:20:30,440 It's worse here than it is anywhere else. 422 00:20:31,769 --> 00:20:33,589 The harvest is plentiful. 423 00:20:34,490 --> 00:20:35,720 What's the problem? 424 00:20:36,089 --> 00:20:38,279 The laborers are few. 425 00:20:39,789 --> 00:20:41,180 So what do we do? 426 00:20:41,630 --> 00:20:49,690 We pray earnestly to the Lord of the harvest to send out laborers into his harvest. 427 00:20:51,309 --> 00:20:57,549 Maybe the reason you're at that crafty job is there are people that God is trying to 428 00:20:51,309 --> 00:20:57,549 harvest. 429 00:20:58,049 --> 00:21:04,420 You know that kid that your friend is connecting with that you're really concerned about? 430 00:21:05,190 --> 00:21:08,642 And you think that kid might be a bad influence on your kid. 431 00:21:08,695 --> 00:21:11,809 I wonder if that bad kid is the harvest. 432 00:21:15,990 --> 00:21:23,521 I wonder if that small group that you're in and those people that drive you crazy and 433 00:21:15,990 --> 00:21:23,521 you're like, I don't even know if they're Christian. 434 00:21:23,586 --> 00:21:24,839 What if they're not? 435 00:21:25,849 --> 00:21:27,430 What if they're the harvest? 436 00:21:29,769 --> 00:21:36,266 What do you think Jesus is really saying when he challenges you to pray about sending 437 00:21:29,769 --> 00:21:36,266 harvesters into the field? 438 00:21:36,367 --> 00:21:39,099 What do you think the answer to that prayer is? 439 00:21:39,470 --> 00:21:45,279 For someone else to go or for you to go? 440 00:21:48,079 --> 00:21:50,990 Look, if you've been hurt at Sandals Church, I'm sorry. 441 00:21:51,440 --> 00:21:52,910 Church people are people. 442 00:21:54,079 --> 00:21:57,968 We are just as broken on the inside as people are on the outside. 443 00:21:58,054 --> 00:21:59,824 Sometimes at church, have you noticed this? 444 00:21:59,862 --> 00:22:00,960 We're more broken. 445 00:22:02,099 --> 00:22:03,599 It's just a reality. 446 00:22:04,740 --> 00:22:09,349 It's just like when you go to a hospital, you notice there are more sick people there. 447 00:22:09,799 --> 00:22:10,884 Do you know why they're there? 448 00:22:10,922 --> 00:22:11,364 To get well. 449 00:22:11,402 --> 00:22:12,784 Do you know why people come to church? 450 00:22:12,832 --> 00:22:13,990 To get well. 451 00:22:15,960 --> 00:22:17,430 Church people are people. 452 00:22:18,599 --> 00:22:21,624 Anybody in here been hurt by a person at church in your life? 453 00:22:21,662 --> 00:22:22,327 Raise your hands. 454 00:22:22,413 --> 00:22:23,210 Look around. 455 00:22:24,619 --> 00:22:28,250 I want you to know I've been hurt by church people. 456 00:22:28,940 --> 00:22:30,569 Now, here's the worst part. 457 00:22:31,180 --> 00:22:34,700 I have hurt people in the church. 458 00:22:37,200 --> 00:22:41,003 Man, how sad is that? 459 00:22:41,041 --> 00:22:41,900 How real is that? 460 00:22:41,970 --> 00:22:47,250 I got into ministry to help people, and as a pastor, I have hurt people. 461 00:22:48,339 --> 00:22:53,832 Now, if that shocks you, I want to apologize. 462 00:22:53,895 --> 00:22:58,109 You've just never been to a church where pastor's been honest about that issue. 463 00:22:59,539 --> 00:23:02,130 Our vision at Sandals Church is to be real. 464 00:23:04,180 --> 00:23:12,019 The more successful Sandals has gotten, and I say this in love, the further we're drifting 465 00:23:04,180 --> 00:23:12,019 from our vision. 466 00:23:14,119 --> 00:23:15,509 And I see it. 467 00:23:16,519 --> 00:23:23,849 I see it in our staff, I see it in our people, and I see it in myself. 468 00:23:25,900 --> 00:23:29,369 Because you know what success forces many of us to do? 469 00:23:29,740 --> 00:23:30,680 Pretend. 470 00:23:32,059 --> 00:23:33,000 Pretend. 471 00:23:34,460 --> 00:23:42,539 I was talking with my friend Darren, who's a Hollywood director, and he said, many 472 00:23:34,460 --> 00:23:42,539 Hollywood actors come into the business as Christians. 473 00:23:44,799 --> 00:23:46,076 They want to make a difference. 474 00:23:46,178 --> 00:23:48,132 They want to be men and women of character. 475 00:23:48,215 --> 00:23:49,215 I said what changes them. 476 00:23:49,238 --> 00:23:50,144 You know what he said? 477 00:23:50,261 --> 00:23:50,930 Success. 478 00:23:54,619 --> 00:24:01,450 Oftentimes the very things we pray for are the enemies of our faith that God is calling us 479 00:23:54,619 --> 00:24:01,450 to. 480 00:24:04,170 --> 00:24:08,759 Very few people handle success well, and that includes myself. 481 00:24:10,089 --> 00:24:12,193 So here's what I want to challenge us as a church. 482 00:24:12,241 --> 00:24:13,670 The world is oblivious. 483 00:24:14,730 --> 00:24:16,150 The world is oblivious. 484 00:24:17,630 --> 00:24:21,019 How do we become a church that pays attention to what's obvious. 485 00:24:24,109 --> 00:24:32,000 I want you to think for a second how you spell the word oblivious different from the word 486 00:24:24,109 --> 00:24:32,000 obvious. 487 00:24:33,569 --> 00:24:37,119 Now, I know if you went to public school like me, you're going to pass on this one. 488 00:24:39,089 --> 00:24:42,430 But there are two letters that you remove li. 489 00:24:42,579 --> 00:24:42,990 See? 490 00:24:43,059 --> 00:24:44,561 How do you go from oblivious to obvious? 491 00:24:44,615 --> 00:24:46,529 You take out listen to this the lie. 492 00:24:47,190 --> 00:24:49,569 Come on, that'll preach. 493 00:24:49,910 --> 00:24:52,660 It didn't land in here, but maybe it landed with you. 494 00:24:55,289 --> 00:24:58,519 So let me ask you, what lie are you living? 495 00:25:02,809 --> 00:25:09,579 Because we live in a culture of lies, and a lot of us can see that out there, but we don't 496 00:25:02,809 --> 00:25:09,579 see how it's affected us in here. 497 00:25:10,829 --> 00:25:11,526 Colossians. 498 00:25:11,557 --> 00:25:17,500 313 make an allowance for each other's faults and forgive anyone who offends you. 499 00:25:17,950 --> 00:25:24,400 Remember the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. 500 00:25:27,619 --> 00:25:32,930 Man, I got a direct message on Instagram this week, and this is what it said. 501 00:25:33,700 --> 00:25:41,619 My ex husband repented of his sins this week and gave his life to Christ and was baptized 502 00:25:33,700 --> 00:25:41,619 at Sandals Church. 503 00:25:42,519 --> 00:25:45,769 She said, as a Christian, do I have to forgive him? 504 00:25:47,339 --> 00:25:48,089 Wow. 505 00:25:49,339 --> 00:25:51,480 Well, let's replay that verse. 506 00:25:55,200 --> 00:25:56,589 The answer is yes. 507 00:25:57,839 --> 00:25:58,589 Wow. 508 00:26:00,019 --> 00:26:00,976 Isn't that amazing? 509 00:26:01,077 --> 00:26:06,369 Sometimes as soon as we give up on people, god just starts to work in those people. 510 00:26:07,859 --> 00:26:10,369 Aren't you glad Jesus didn't give up on you? 511 00:26:14,920 --> 00:26:17,910 Man, I'm so convicted by this. 512 00:26:19,079 --> 00:26:25,210 We've got to remind ourselves that I have to give the grace to others that I've received 513 00:26:19,079 --> 00:26:25,210 for myself. 514 00:26:28,220 --> 00:26:29,395 The Book of corinthians. 515 00:26:29,428 --> 00:26:42,589 Two corinthians ends with these words, and you don't have this on the screen, but Paul 516 00:26:29,428 --> 00:26:42,589 says, may the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ and the love of God and the fellowship of the 517 00:26:29,428 --> 00:26:42,589 Holy Spirit be with you all. 518 00:26:43,440 --> 00:26:47,740 There's never been a more dysfunctional church in the history of the church than Corinth. 519 00:26:48,160 --> 00:26:49,468 What holds them together? 520 00:26:49,554 --> 00:26:50,491 Listen to this. 521 00:26:50,625 --> 00:26:55,771 The grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, the love of God, and the fellowship of the Holy 522 00:26:50,625 --> 00:26:55,771 Spirit. 523 00:26:55,836 --> 00:26:58,289 It's grace that centers us together. 524 00:26:59,059 --> 00:27:00,763 It doesn't mean that we overlook sins. 525 00:27:00,811 --> 00:27:03,355 It doesn't mean that we don't pretend there aren't sins. 526 00:27:03,468 --> 00:27:06,420 It doesn't mean that we allow abuse in church. 527 00:27:07,400 --> 00:27:12,150 But a lot of what offends us is just the faults in others, the mistakes in others. 528 00:27:13,880 --> 00:27:21,319 And a lot of what you guys are fighting about and arguing about in your marriage is just 529 00:27:13,880 --> 00:27:21,319 the faults of your spouse that you were blind to when you were super attracted. 530 00:27:23,259 --> 00:27:26,599 As attraction goes down, awareness rises. 531 00:27:28,059 --> 00:27:31,003 That's why when you're dating for, like, three days, you're like, they're perfect. 532 00:27:31,122 --> 00:27:32,316 No, they're not. 533 00:27:32,498 --> 00:27:33,084 They're not. 534 00:27:33,122 --> 00:27:34,539 You just lack vision. 535 00:27:35,920 --> 00:27:37,415 Okay, here's what we're going to challenge. 536 00:27:37,448 --> 00:27:40,430 We're going to pivot here number three. 537 00:27:40,880 --> 00:27:46,210 I want to challenge you this week to identify the obvious thing that you need to change. 538 00:27:50,069 --> 00:27:51,650 So I was at that retreat. 539 00:27:52,470 --> 00:27:54,259 God, why do you have me here? 540 00:27:55,609 --> 00:27:58,773 Here's the obvious thing that I was oblivious to. 541 00:27:58,971 --> 00:28:02,359 God needed to renew my compassion for people. 542 00:28:05,210 --> 00:28:08,700 When's the last time you had a renewed compassion for people? 543 00:28:09,549 --> 00:28:11,289 So many of you guys are on Fox News. 544 00:28:11,359 --> 00:28:11,973 You're angry. 545 00:28:12,021 --> 00:28:20,602 You're upset, and everything in our world is pushing us to divide and judge the other, 546 00:28:12,021 --> 00:28:20,602 right? 547 00:28:20,655 --> 00:28:22,718 Think about the conflict in Israel right now. 548 00:28:22,804 --> 00:28:23,821 What's all in the news? 549 00:28:23,875 --> 00:28:25,630 Who's killed more civilians? 550 00:28:26,609 --> 00:28:28,400 It's back and forth on the news. 551 00:28:31,170 --> 00:28:33,438 And that's the way a lot of us are. 552 00:28:33,604 --> 00:28:47,880 Our personal lives are a lot like the Middle East, and we're just arguing about who's 553 00:28:33,604 --> 00:28:47,880 killed more dreams, who's killed more values, who's killed more ideas, who kills more joy, 554 00:28:33,604 --> 00:28:47,880 rather than saying, okay, Lord, what's the obvious thing that I'm doing? 555 00:28:49,930 --> 00:28:51,862 So I'm going to challenge you this week. 556 00:28:51,915 --> 00:28:57,269 Next week, we're going to look about how to rectify and heal disagreements. 557 00:28:57,930 --> 00:29:01,894 So we're going to look at this verse from a different point of view next week. 558 00:29:02,011 --> 00:29:04,329 But this week, I just want it to be about you. 559 00:29:04,480 --> 00:29:06,569 Next week, it can be about you and others. 560 00:29:06,640 --> 00:29:09,609 So here's what Jesus says in Luke 641 and 42. 561 00:29:09,680 --> 00:29:13,309 It says, and why do you worry about the speck in your friend's eye? 562 00:29:13,809 --> 00:29:14,880 Listen to this. 563 00:29:16,130 --> 00:29:25,779 When you have a log in your own you want to know why people don't come to church when you 564 00:29:16,130 --> 00:29:25,779 invite them? 565 00:29:27,509 --> 00:29:28,980 Because they see this. 566 00:29:29,750 --> 00:29:32,579 You want to know why people don't believe in your Jesus at work? 567 00:29:33,029 --> 00:29:34,450 Because they see this. 568 00:29:34,599 --> 00:29:41,640 You want to know why your kids think your faith is hypocritical and you don't really have 569 00:29:34,599 --> 00:29:41,640 an authentic relationship with Jesus because your kids see this. 570 00:29:43,369 --> 00:29:47,842 Jesus says, Why do you worry about the speck in your friend's eye when you have a log in 571 00:29:43,369 --> 00:29:47,842 your own eye? 572 00:29:47,905 --> 00:29:59,690 He says, how can you think of saying friend, let me help you get rid of that speck in your 573 00:29:47,905 --> 00:29:59,690 eye when you can't see past the log in your own eye? 574 00:30:01,650 --> 00:30:09,865 When I read these verses some 30 years ago, that's when I realized, you know what it means 575 00:30:01,650 --> 00:30:09,865 to be a Christian. 576 00:30:10,057 --> 00:30:11,440 We got to be real. 577 00:30:13,190 --> 00:30:14,241 We got to be real. 578 00:30:14,296 --> 00:30:16,609 Listen to these words with ourselves. 579 00:30:19,349 --> 00:30:20,450 With ourselves. 580 00:30:23,190 --> 00:30:26,599 Sandals Church is not a church made for church people. 581 00:30:27,049 --> 00:30:29,160 My wife reminded me of this week. 582 00:30:29,609 --> 00:30:32,433 She said, Sandals does not cater to Christians. 583 00:30:32,481 --> 00:30:34,069 We reach the lost. 584 00:30:35,289 --> 00:30:36,086 Because you know what? 585 00:30:36,107 --> 00:30:38,920 Christians don't want to see this. 586 00:30:40,170 --> 00:30:40,920 This. 587 00:30:44,440 --> 00:30:46,051 You know how we can help our communities? 588 00:30:46,115 --> 00:30:47,236 You know how we can help our families? 589 00:30:47,268 --> 00:30:48,730 You know how we can help our friends? 590 00:30:49,099 --> 00:30:50,490 By dealing with this. 591 00:30:51,099 --> 00:30:52,809 Do you know how you deal with this? 592 00:30:53,279 --> 00:30:54,428 You get real. 593 00:30:54,594 --> 00:31:00,619 Do you know how many pastors have challenged me and said, I don't see being real in the 594 00:30:54,594 --> 00:31:00,619 Bible? 595 00:31:02,000 --> 00:31:08,799 I said, well, maybe there's something blocking your vision. 596 00:31:12,500 --> 00:31:13,599 Preschool. 597 00:31:17,460 --> 00:31:20,819 I've heard of pastors preaching against our vision. 598 00:31:21,720 --> 00:31:26,339 Like, can you imagine starting a church to be unreal with yourself, God, and others? 599 00:31:26,490 --> 00:31:28,390 We want to be as fake as possible. 600 00:31:29,000 --> 00:31:29,476 You're like. 601 00:31:29,498 --> 00:31:31,395 Somebody like I escaped that church. 602 00:31:31,587 --> 00:31:34,612 But let me say that you know what lost? 603 00:31:34,675 --> 00:31:36,329 People want to be real. 604 00:31:37,339 --> 00:31:39,031 You know what religious people want? 605 00:31:39,086 --> 00:31:40,759 A Christian cruise ship. 606 00:31:41,660 --> 00:31:45,309 That's what they want, and that's what they run to. 607 00:31:46,880 --> 00:31:51,019 And let me just ask you, if every Christian gets on a cruise ship, what happens to 608 00:31:46,880 --> 00:31:51,019 California? 609 00:31:53,200 --> 00:31:54,940 It just keeps sinking. 610 00:31:55,680 --> 00:31:56,887 It just keeps sinking. 611 00:31:56,983 --> 00:32:02,347 He says, when you can't see past the log in your own eye, jesus says, you hypocrite. 612 00:32:02,523 --> 00:32:06,384 So why in our vision is real with self first? 613 00:32:06,422 --> 00:32:07,423 People always ask me this. 614 00:32:07,461 --> 00:32:08,720 Why isn't God first? 615 00:32:08,789 --> 00:32:10,048 God is not the problem. 616 00:32:10,134 --> 00:32:10,991 Come on, now. 617 00:32:11,125 --> 00:32:12,049 That's right. 618 00:32:12,920 --> 00:32:14,672 Listen to the words of Jesus. 619 00:32:14,816 --> 00:32:18,660 First, get rid of the log in whose eye? 620 00:32:19,160 --> 00:32:20,500 Your own eye. 621 00:32:21,259 --> 00:32:22,708 You want to change your marriage? 622 00:32:22,804 --> 00:32:23,690 Change yourself. 623 00:32:24,779 --> 00:32:26,167 You want to change your kids? 624 00:32:26,253 --> 00:32:26,887 Change yourself. 625 00:32:26,973 --> 00:32:28,420 You want to improve this church? 626 00:32:28,500 --> 00:32:29,450 Change yourself. 627 00:32:30,460 --> 00:32:31,690 Start with yourself. 628 00:32:32,059 --> 00:32:34,087 This is what Jesus is inviting us to. 629 00:32:34,173 --> 00:32:39,644 Religion is all about these games and pretending and what we say and what we do. 630 00:32:39,682 --> 00:32:40,923 But it's not about who we are. 631 00:32:40,961 --> 00:32:42,589 Jesus is about who we are. 632 00:32:43,440 --> 00:32:44,556 And then listen this. 633 00:32:44,577 --> 00:32:48,023 Then he says, then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend's eye. 634 00:32:48,152 --> 00:32:50,268 Can you imagine if you went to the hospital to have surgery? 635 00:32:50,284 --> 00:32:53,839 And the doctor's like, I forgot my glasses today, but I'm trained. 636 00:32:55,539 --> 00:32:57,700 That's what a bunch of Christians are running around doing. 637 00:32:57,769 --> 00:33:01,349 We cannot see accurately, but we're pretending we can help others. 638 00:33:05,000 --> 00:33:06,230 Here's the thing. 639 00:33:06,759 --> 00:33:09,990 Do you know that it's obvious to others what you should change? 640 00:33:11,180 --> 00:33:19,450 It's obvious, but I am often oblivious to what God wants me to change. 641 00:33:21,259 --> 00:33:23,230 So we're going to end with this today. 642 00:33:24,480 --> 00:33:31,324 What is the most obvious thing in your life that God wants you to work on? 643 00:33:31,362 --> 00:33:32,220 Listen to this. 644 00:33:32,369 --> 00:33:33,390 This week. 645 00:33:35,859 --> 00:33:39,263 Like, if you've been Christian for a week, let me just ruin your future. 646 00:33:39,382 --> 00:33:41,490 The sin struggle never goes away. 647 00:33:44,660 --> 00:33:46,683 I always love when we meet young Christians. 648 00:33:46,731 --> 00:33:48,127 I'm almost perfect. 649 00:33:48,294 --> 00:33:49,327 Wait a little bit. 650 00:33:49,413 --> 00:33:50,630 Wait a little bit. 651 00:33:51,799 --> 00:33:52,836 Because here's the thing. 652 00:33:52,857 --> 00:33:55,940 The longer you're a Christian, the Lord just shows you new levels. 653 00:33:56,599 --> 00:33:57,296 New levels. 654 00:33:57,327 --> 00:33:59,619 Some of you didn't know in your house there's a basement. 655 00:34:00,460 --> 00:34:01,256 The Lord's like. 656 00:34:01,278 --> 00:34:01,672 Oh, yeah. 657 00:34:01,726 --> 00:34:03,289 Many, many. 658 00:34:05,019 --> 00:34:06,569 And let me say this. 659 00:34:07,259 --> 00:34:08,407 I love you. 660 00:34:08,574 --> 00:34:10,650 But it's easy to get this wrong. 661 00:34:11,900 --> 00:34:14,510 You ever met somebody that's working on the wrong thing? 662 00:34:15,760 --> 00:34:18,123 Jesus says this in Matthew 23 24. 663 00:34:18,161 --> 00:34:19,496 He says, you blind guides. 664 00:34:19,608 --> 00:34:25,175 You strain your water so you won't accidentally swallow a knot. 665 00:34:25,208 --> 00:34:25,543 A nat. 666 00:34:25,592 --> 00:34:26,664 Anybody ever swallowed a nat? 667 00:34:26,711 --> 00:34:27,056 I have. 668 00:34:27,077 --> 00:34:27,963 I'm a cyclist. 669 00:34:28,092 --> 00:34:31,760 Many a nat has met their maker in the back of my throat. 670 00:34:34,980 --> 00:34:39,190 Anybody ever been in a party where some bug just flies right in your mouth and you can't 671 00:34:34,980 --> 00:34:39,190 fake it? 672 00:34:39,639 --> 00:34:44,387 Oh, the other day I was just swallow it. 673 00:34:44,393 --> 00:34:45,380 It's protein. 674 00:34:47,400 --> 00:34:48,916 I mean, we might as well get used to it, right? 675 00:34:48,938 --> 00:34:51,443 They say hamburgers are going to be made out of bugs in the next 20 years. 676 00:34:51,481 --> 00:34:54,519 Anyways, some of you at Burger King, this is the best beef I've ever had. 677 00:34:54,590 --> 00:34:55,188 I ain't a beef. 678 00:34:55,204 --> 00:34:56,360 That's a cockroach. 679 00:34:57,340 --> 00:34:59,284 Unless, of course, you own a burger joint. 680 00:34:59,331 --> 00:34:59,896 Love you. 681 00:34:59,998 --> 00:35:01,079 Please, tithe. 682 00:35:01,900 --> 00:35:08,699 He says, Listen, you strain your water so you won't accidentally swallow a GNAT, but you 683 00:35:01,900 --> 00:35:08,699 swallow a camel. 684 00:35:11,119 --> 00:35:12,860 You want to know how to fix your life? 685 00:35:13,010 --> 00:35:14,699 Stop swallowing camels. 686 00:35:17,519 --> 00:35:18,956 I follow this thing on Instagram. 687 00:35:18,987 --> 00:35:20,076 It's called nature is metal. 688 00:35:20,108 --> 00:35:23,570 It always amazes me when a snake will swallow something that's too big. 689 00:35:25,059 --> 00:35:26,320 And do you know what it does? 690 00:35:26,389 --> 00:35:28,371 Its appetite kills itself. 691 00:35:28,505 --> 00:35:31,871 It swallows an elk or it swallows an alligator. 692 00:35:31,936 --> 00:35:32,739 And you know what happens? 693 00:35:32,809 --> 00:35:33,860 It bursts. 694 00:35:34,599 --> 00:35:36,469 Here's what Jesus is saying. 695 00:35:37,000 --> 00:35:39,556 When you focus on the wrong things. 696 00:35:39,737 --> 00:35:41,072 We do this in our marriage. 697 00:35:41,135 --> 00:35:42,639 We do this in our relationships. 698 00:35:42,719 --> 00:35:43,876 We do this in our friendships. 699 00:35:43,907 --> 00:35:45,320 We do this at church. 700 00:35:45,980 --> 00:35:48,516 Like, think of all the complaints at church. 701 00:35:48,547 --> 00:35:49,476 The music's too loud. 702 00:35:49,507 --> 00:35:50,244 It's too dark. 703 00:35:50,291 --> 00:35:52,519 Nat, nat, nat, nat, nat. 704 00:35:54,320 --> 00:35:59,150 Meanwhile, Captain Camel, you just swallowed him. 705 00:36:02,159 --> 00:36:04,429 What is the camel in your life? 706 00:36:06,320 --> 00:36:08,349 And let me just run through a couple of things. 707 00:36:08,960 --> 00:36:11,099 I know some of you struggle with addiction. 708 00:36:12,260 --> 00:36:16,416 Those of you who struggle with addiction, I love you, but I had an addict come up to me 709 00:36:12,260 --> 00:36:16,416 and he said, Pastor, would you pray for me? 710 00:36:16,438 --> 00:36:19,036 I'm sure he's like, I need you to stop cussing. 711 00:36:19,068 --> 00:36:20,130 I'm like, do you? 712 00:36:21,380 --> 00:36:23,139 Is that what we need to be focusing on? 713 00:36:23,210 --> 00:36:23,923 Let me say this. 714 00:36:23,961 --> 00:36:28,099 If you are an addict, there is nothing in your life more important than sobriety. 715 00:36:28,679 --> 00:36:30,003 That's the issue. 716 00:36:30,202 --> 00:36:31,590 That's the thing. 717 00:36:32,519 --> 00:36:33,775 That's the demon. 718 00:36:33,887 --> 00:36:34,751 That's the thing. 719 00:36:34,826 --> 00:36:35,976 That's the hill to die on. 720 00:36:35,998 --> 00:36:37,400 You got to get sober. 721 00:36:38,300 --> 00:36:40,275 Do you know how many times I've been doing marriage counseling? 722 00:36:40,307 --> 00:36:43,079 And we don't even talk about somebody who's addicted? 723 00:36:43,159 --> 00:36:45,099 Is that helpful to the therapist? 724 00:36:46,480 --> 00:36:49,789 And you play and you pretend and you're not real. 725 00:36:50,800 --> 00:36:52,380 Do you have an addiction? 726 00:36:52,960 --> 00:36:54,268 That's the thing. 727 00:36:54,434 --> 00:36:55,900 That's the thing to deal with. 728 00:36:55,969 --> 00:36:57,550 That's the thing to manage. 729 00:36:58,960 --> 00:36:59,755 How about this one? 730 00:36:59,777 --> 00:37:00,849 Do you have a health issue? 731 00:37:01,619 --> 00:37:05,884 I got this young man on staff, and I can't help but just say things out loud. 732 00:37:05,931 --> 00:37:06,463 Pray for me. 733 00:37:06,501 --> 00:37:07,563 I just say things out loud. 734 00:37:07,612 --> 00:37:08,876 But I was sitting in a one on one meeting. 735 00:37:08,907 --> 00:37:09,916 I'm like, what's wrong with your nose? 736 00:37:09,947 --> 00:37:11,563 And he had a scab on his nose. 737 00:37:11,692 --> 00:37:13,835 He's like, oh, yeah, he's I got a CPAP machine. 738 00:37:13,867 --> 00:37:16,304 He says, My wife said I was dying in the middle of the night. 739 00:37:16,501 --> 00:37:20,804 Do you know how many dudes in our church die every night, but they won't go to the 740 00:37:16,501 --> 00:37:20,804 hospital? 741 00:37:20,851 --> 00:37:22,036 Get a CPAP, Machine. 742 00:37:22,148 --> 00:37:23,284 I'm just trusting Jesus. 743 00:37:23,331 --> 00:37:26,039 Jesus like, no, you're going to meet me in a second if you don't get a machine. 744 00:37:27,500 --> 00:37:31,623 Like, some of you dudes every night, you're like, fix that. 745 00:37:31,661 --> 00:37:32,771 That's why you're a grump. 746 00:37:32,835 --> 00:37:34,132 That's why you're a bad dad. 747 00:37:34,195 --> 00:37:35,371 That's why you're terrible at work. 748 00:37:35,425 --> 00:37:38,989 That's why you're sleeping through this message, because you haven't slept in a year. 749 00:37:40,960 --> 00:37:42,039 Get the machine. 750 00:37:42,119 --> 00:37:44,750 And I know it looks like alien, but live with it. 751 00:37:46,739 --> 00:37:49,920 Why are we so oblivious as Christians? 752 00:37:50,500 --> 00:37:52,559 For some of you, it's your attitude. 753 00:37:53,699 --> 00:37:54,715 I don't like your sermon. 754 00:37:54,748 --> 00:37:54,847 Why? 755 00:37:54,853 --> 00:37:56,239 I don't like your attitude. 756 00:37:58,260 --> 00:37:59,023 Listen to me. 757 00:37:59,061 --> 00:38:01,699 A critical spirit is not the Holy Spirit. 758 00:38:04,789 --> 00:38:08,925 A friend of mine said he found out there was a woman in his church who wrote him letters. 759 00:38:09,038 --> 00:38:11,373 She attends six local churches. 760 00:38:11,422 --> 00:38:12,690 It's her ministry. 761 00:38:14,070 --> 00:38:14,978 You know what I told him? 762 00:38:14,983 --> 00:38:16,853 Tell her to go serve God somewhere else. 763 00:38:16,972 --> 00:38:17,846 Because you know what she does? 764 00:38:17,867 --> 00:38:19,880 She would write all the things he did wrong. 765 00:38:20,969 --> 00:38:24,065 I was like, man, and he's like, I'm going to send her to Sandals. 766 00:38:24,097 --> 00:38:25,349 I said, please don't. 767 00:38:25,849 --> 00:38:27,269 Please don't. 768 00:38:28,590 --> 00:38:30,730 And then for some of you, it's an idol. 769 00:38:31,389 --> 00:38:32,985 It's something you've placed against God. 770 00:38:33,007 --> 00:38:34,329 I was having a conversation. 771 00:38:34,750 --> 00:38:36,822 A lot of people think I don't care about sports. 772 00:38:36,965 --> 00:38:38,454 It's not that I don't care about sports. 773 00:38:38,501 --> 00:38:42,445 I used to worship sports, and I couldn't manage it. 774 00:38:42,547 --> 00:38:45,306 You know, just like some of you, you can't just have a glass of alcohol. 775 00:38:45,338 --> 00:38:47,369 There are just some people you just can't. 776 00:38:47,530 --> 00:38:50,369 I'm a person that just can't care about sports. 777 00:38:51,030 --> 00:38:53,090 I don't sport in moderation. 778 00:38:54,150 --> 00:38:55,780 I lose my mind. 779 00:38:56,789 --> 00:39:01,186 I remember my little girls weeping as I would watch a football game. 780 00:39:01,367 --> 00:39:02,722 What's wrong with you guys? 781 00:39:02,775 --> 00:39:04,690 And they're like, Dad's the devil. 782 00:39:06,170 --> 00:39:08,949 Then I would be depressed and angry, and I didn't even get paid. 783 00:39:09,099 --> 00:39:12,226 I never got a check from the 49 ers of the Lakers. 784 00:39:12,257 --> 00:39:13,480 Not even one check. 785 00:39:14,590 --> 00:39:15,050 Never. 786 00:39:15,119 --> 00:39:17,050 They don't even give me VIP seats. 787 00:39:18,269 --> 00:39:19,050 How about this? 788 00:39:19,119 --> 00:39:21,659 Is there a feeling that you're working through? 789 00:39:24,110 --> 00:39:27,840 Man feelings are powerful, but they're often wrong. 790 00:39:29,730 --> 00:39:31,630 Maybe you're overwhelmed with anger. 791 00:39:33,809 --> 00:39:35,039 That's the thing. 792 00:39:35,809 --> 00:39:40,130 Maybe you're like me and it's bitterness and you need Claude to slide you a pamphlet. 793 00:39:42,630 --> 00:39:44,530 A lot of people, it's fear. 794 00:39:45,909 --> 00:39:46,606 Fear. 795 00:39:46,717 --> 00:39:52,389 I prayed with a woman last week at church who's so overwhelmed with anxiety, she left her 796 00:39:46,717 --> 00:39:52,389 husband. 797 00:39:52,809 --> 00:39:54,519 I was like, well, what did he do? 798 00:39:55,289 --> 00:39:56,039 Nothing. 799 00:39:58,170 --> 00:39:59,702 That's just what anxiety does. 800 00:39:59,755 --> 00:40:03,320 Anxiety will get you to the place where you trust no one. 801 00:40:05,130 --> 00:40:06,630 And then depression. 802 00:40:07,949 --> 00:40:09,050 Depression. 803 00:40:10,110 --> 00:40:16,090 I had a guy in my small group that was so depressed, I said, if you don't go to a 804 00:40:10,110 --> 00:40:16,090 counselor this week, we're going to do an intervention. 805 00:40:18,449 --> 00:40:20,400 For some of you, it's a broken relationship. 806 00:40:21,570 --> 00:40:23,293 I got convicted about that this week. 807 00:40:23,331 --> 00:40:27,760 I just texted somebody, said, hey, I'm sorry for how I handled this situation. 808 00:40:28,869 --> 00:40:30,099 Please forgive me. 809 00:40:30,869 --> 00:40:31,842 How about this one? 810 00:40:31,896 --> 00:40:32,398 Stress. 811 00:40:32,494 --> 00:40:33,186 Anybody? 812 00:40:33,367 --> 00:40:34,465 You can answer this one. 813 00:40:34,487 --> 00:40:34,769 Anybody? 814 00:40:34,840 --> 00:40:35,570 Stress? 815 00:40:35,909 --> 00:40:37,489 Here's the thing I've learned. 816 00:40:37,829 --> 00:40:43,653 The older I've gotten, the worse I am at stress, man. 817 00:40:43,692 --> 00:40:45,639 When I was younger, I slept great. 818 00:40:47,369 --> 00:40:48,981 And now I just sit there at night. 819 00:40:49,036 --> 00:40:51,079 I'm like, oh, yeah, I'm messing up. 820 00:40:53,610 --> 00:40:55,719 Maybe it's a lack of grace for others. 821 00:40:56,670 --> 00:40:57,353 Listen to me. 822 00:40:57,391 --> 00:41:03,099 What's the most important thing in your life this week that you're oblivious to, that God 823 00:40:57,391 --> 00:41:03,099 wants you to work on? 824 00:41:04,590 --> 00:41:06,780 And ask God to reveal it? 825 00:41:08,210 --> 00:41:10,414 Ask God in just a second, you can ask God. 826 00:41:10,532 --> 00:41:18,829 And if you hear nothing, ask someone that knows you and that you trust, and that's scary. 827 00:41:19,250 --> 00:41:20,137 Scary. 828 00:41:20,313 --> 00:41:21,134 But here's the thing. 829 00:41:21,172 --> 00:41:27,860 Don't ask somebody if you're going to judge them for what they say, because that's why the 830 00:41:21,172 --> 00:41:27,860 people that love you aren't honest with you. 831 00:41:28,309 --> 00:41:29,793 So ask God to reveal it. 832 00:41:29,831 --> 00:41:32,449 If you get nothing, ask someone that knows you and loves you. 833 00:41:32,519 --> 00:41:34,659 And if it's a sin, repent of it. 834 00:41:35,190 --> 00:41:37,860 Say, lord, I got to stop this. 835 00:41:38,170 --> 00:41:38,581 Next. 836 00:41:38,635 --> 00:41:39,222 This is huge. 837 00:41:39,275 --> 00:41:40,646 You want to know why you don't change? 838 00:41:40,748 --> 00:41:44,673 James 516 confess your sins to one another so that you may be whole and healed. 839 00:41:44,722 --> 00:41:46,440 Share it with your small group. 840 00:41:46,889 --> 00:41:49,739 If you're not in a small group, maybe that's the one thing. 841 00:41:50,829 --> 00:41:52,153 Maybe that's the one thing. 842 00:41:52,271 --> 00:41:53,449 And then here's the thing. 843 00:41:53,519 --> 00:41:57,449 Work on it every day like your life matters. 844 00:41:58,590 --> 00:42:01,579 Work on it every day like you could take your life. 845 00:42:02,030 --> 00:42:02,525 This week. 846 00:42:02,547 --> 00:42:04,286 I was at a restaurant, and I ran to an old friend. 847 00:42:04,307 --> 00:42:05,577 He said, hey, Pastor Matt. 848 00:42:05,673 --> 00:42:08,880 And you ever run into somebody, you don't remember them? 849 00:42:09,489 --> 00:42:11,309 That happens to me all the time. 850 00:42:11,380 --> 00:42:14,690 Like you came to Sandals once in 1998, and you expect me to remember you? 851 00:42:14,760 --> 00:42:15,889 Sorry, I don't. 852 00:42:16,550 --> 00:42:17,793 And I looked at him. 853 00:42:17,831 --> 00:42:21,134 I looked at him and I went, devlin. 854 00:42:21,181 --> 00:42:22,978 And I saw right in. 855 00:42:22,983 --> 00:42:23,585 And here's the thing. 856 00:42:23,608 --> 00:42:24,945 He was really big, and I'm not that big. 857 00:42:24,967 --> 00:42:25,530 Sorry, Devlin. 858 00:42:25,550 --> 00:42:28,945 But he was bigger, and he lost all kinds of weight. 859 00:42:28,978 --> 00:42:30,440 And I said, what have you done? 860 00:42:31,449 --> 00:42:32,710 You know what he said? 861 00:42:32,860 --> 00:42:34,519 He said, I just made a change. 862 00:42:34,969 --> 00:42:42,362 He said, I started to make little changes every day and every week, and just kept adding 863 00:42:34,969 --> 00:42:42,362 to those changes. 864 00:42:42,416 --> 00:42:45,420 And he said, before you know it, I was a different person. 865 00:42:46,429 --> 00:42:47,498 So here's the thing. 866 00:42:47,583 --> 00:42:49,534 Whatever the Lord reveals, work on it this week. 867 00:42:49,572 --> 00:42:49,965 And guess what? 868 00:42:49,987 --> 00:42:52,269 If it's still a problem next week, guess what you do? 869 00:42:52,420 --> 00:42:53,679 You repeat it. 870 00:42:54,449 --> 00:42:57,920 This is how God changes us. 871 00:42:59,329 --> 00:43:08,610 This is how God changes us when we begin to work on the obvious, on the obvious, let me 872 00:42:59,329 --> 00:43:08,610 pray for you. 873 00:43:08,760 --> 00:43:13,460 Heavenly Father, I pray right now that you would reveal what this one thing is. 874 00:43:14,230 --> 00:43:15,346 And here's the thing, lord. 875 00:43:15,378 --> 00:43:21,893 It's going to be different for every single person present in this place, every single 876 00:43:15,378 --> 00:43:21,893 person listening to this message. 877 00:43:22,012 --> 00:43:32,920 Holy Spirit, would you supernaturally reveal to us what's that one thing that I am 878 00:43:22,012 --> 00:43:32,920 oblivious to that is obviously a challenge for my life? 879 00:43:34,969 --> 00:43:41,454 Father, would you give us the courage to share it with somebody else? 880 00:43:41,652 --> 00:43:44,253 And would you give us the strength to work on it this week? 881 00:43:44,291 --> 00:43:46,329 We pray in Jesus name amen.