The Dad Manual

Tony Cooper sits down with friend and fellow dad Aaron Pava for a deeply personal conversation about the fatherhood he inherited and the father he's working to become. From growing up between a strict stepfather and a hands-off biological dad — with no clear middle way — to proudly identifying as a girl dad, Tony reflects with honesty and vulnerability on the patterns that shaped him and the practices that continue to sharpen him. This is The Dad Manual getting real about the man behind the mic.

Key Takeaways:
  1. Growing up with two extreme parenting models — one overly strict, one completely hands-off — can leave you without a template for the middle way.
  2. Being a girl dad carries a specific responsibility: modeling what integrity and uprightness look like for young women navigating the world.
  3. Anger in parenting often has deep roots — knowing where it comes from is the first step toward managing it.
  4. Men's groups that do real, honest, challenging work are one of the most powerful tools available to fathers seeking to grow.
  5. The family dinner table, when it's consistent, becomes one of the most underrated rituals in a child's sense of security.
  6. Kids don't always need your attention on them — watching parents work together toward something meaningful is its own powerful form of modeling.
  7. Regret can be reframed: time spent building something alongside your children, even when the focus isn't on them, has lasting value.
  8. Direct, vulnerable conversations with your kids about how your behavior affects them are rare and important — and often overdue.
  9. Personal growth work — workshops, transformational courses, self-reflection — compounds directly into better parenting over time.
  10. The patterns we inherit aren't destiny. Awareness, community, and consistent small rituals are how we write new ones.
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Creators and Guests

Host
Tony Cooper
Tony Cooper is the founder of Playing the Game of Business, a business coach, father, and podcast host.

What is The Dad Manual?

The Dad Manual is a fatherhood podcast hosted by Tony Cooper, featuring honest conversations with dads about the real, unfiltered journey of parenthood. This parenting podcast for dads explores everything from the excitement of being a first time dad to navigating the teenage years. As one of the best podcasts for expecting dads and experienced fathers alike, we dive deep into what it actually means to be a modern dad—the struggles, the growth, the mistakes, and the moments that change you forever. Whether you're looking for a new dad podcast or seasoned parenting wisdom, this family podcast delivers the honest guidance you won't find in books.