Good morning and
welcome to Morning Serial.
Okay, good morning
and welcome to Tuesday.
Congrats, you made it through another
Monday and today we've
got a high flying combo.
It's National Aviation Day and we're
celebrating powered flight.
I guess reminding us basically that we
can fly, which is pretty cool.
Well, it's also
International Orangutan Day, right?
No, not your ex actual great apes.
It's dedicated to preserving
these genius tree swingers.
Just reminding us that we might need to
work as hard to save
habitats as we do to save
our passwords.
Well, now a little something to jumpstart
your day from an old
friend, the late Matthew
Perry who said, "There's nothing better
than a world where
everybody's trying to make each
other laugh."
Well, sometimes you're just the Ross in a
world full of Rachels.
So do your best and let
the rest be their problem.
Well, today's news, facts and birthdays
are for August 19th and
we're going to start back
in 1950.
That's when ABC began broadcasting
Saturday morning kid shows
and the first one was Animal
Clinic and Acrobat Ranch.
Now that was a little before my time, but
it paved the way for
some incredible Saturday
mornings with the Flintstones, with the
Jetsons and the Smurfs and He-Man.
All these are classics.
All right, well, let's move up to 1991.
That's when the August coup began.
Soviet hardliners placed Mikhail
Gorbachev under house
arrest, setting in motion the
dissolution of the USSR.
Then in 2010, Operation Iraqi Freedom,
while it was winding down
as the last of the United
States brigade combat teams, they crossed
the border into Kuwait.
Well, happy birthday to you.
Today is your birthday.
You share a birthday
with singer Christina Perry.
She's 39 today.
Former US President Bill
Clinton, he's 79 today.
And of course, the late Matthew Perry.
He was born on this date in 1969.
Well, the number one song on this date
back in 1991 was
Everything I Do, I Do It For You
by Brian Adams.
Okay, not many love songs hit that
nostalgia button like this
one, bringing back memories
of junior high and images of Kevin
Costner shooting flaming arrows.
Well, the song was featured, as you
probably remember, in the
movie Robin Hood, Prince
of Thieves.
And Brian Adams said of this smash ballad
that he didn't expect
it to become such an
anthem.
Well, remember, check out Morning Serial
on Instagram or
YouTube Shorts or even on Tik
Tok.
And you can hear excerpts from all these
songs of the day that we cover.
Well, from seeing declarations of love to
self-awareness,
Kovey's The Seven Habits of
Highly Effective People.
And we are in the sub-chapter for
autobiographical responses.
And Kovey explains why many
attempts at communication fail.
Instead of truly listening, we've been
talking about that we
filter what others are saying
through the lens of our
own life's story, right?
He calls these automatic tendencies our
autobiographical responses.
Okay, Kovey identifies
four common patterns, okay?
Evaluating, probing,
advising, and interpreting.
Evaluation means we judge what someone
says, we're agreeing or
disagreeing before we really
even understand it.
Then probing happens when we ask
questions from our own
frame of reference, right?
Trying to get details that match our
perspective, not theirs.
Then we move into advising, which is when
we leap in with
solutions, even if the person
isn't even asking for advice.
Then lastly, interpreting.
It occurs when we try to explain someone
else's motives or behaviors
based on our own assumptions.
Now, each of these responses comes
naturally, but Kovey points out that they
block real understanding.
Kovey writes, "When we listen
autobiographically, we tend
to respond in one of four ways.
We evaluate, we probe, we
advise, or we interpret."
Now, these responses, they shift the
focus back to where?
To us rather than the speaker.
So then the other person, they might
start feeling unheard
or worse, judged by us.
Instead, Kovey emphasizes the importance
of empathic listening
that we talked about earlier.
Now, this requires setting aside our
autobiography long enough to enter the
speaker's frame of reference, right?
Empathic listening is not about
agreement, but about
accurate understanding.
Kovey explains that once people feel
genuinely understood, trust
is built in, they naturally
open up to influence, dialogue, and even
advice at that point,
if it's asked for, okay?
Well, the lesson of this sub-chapter is
that if we want
stronger communication, we must
recognize our tendency to
center our own perspective.
And then by resisting the urge to
evaluate, probe, advise,
or interpret too quickly, we
create space for others
to feel seen and respected.
Okay, here's your takeaway.
Communication improves when we quiet our
autobiographical responses and we
practice true empathy, right?
Listening first to
understand rather than to respond.
So whether you're launching into a day
like a jet or just
hanging out like an orangutan,
remember your best effort
comes from owning your story.
Hey, thanks for listening today.
Come back tomorrow for more nostalgia and
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