Show Notes
David and Terrence touch on 3 questions that you need to ask yourself in order to weather your personal storms!
1. How do I change my perception of the storm?
2. How do I remind myself of God’s authority over the storm and the authority that he has given to me?
3. What is the storm trying to remove in me?
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Weathering The Storm Part 3
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Welcome back to week three of the imperfectly human per podcast series on, uh, you see, I was you.
I did that.
Yeah. Welcome back to week three of our series on weathering the storm. Uh, this week, we're going to be talking about the application. So how did you weather the storm? What do you need to do to continue to survive that storm? Before we get into where we want to shout out our listeners on Apple podcasts, Google [
00:01:00] podcasts, breaker cheering in Amazon music Audible Pandora.
Um, What's that one. Y'all you guys go over this? I don't feel well. I don't think we were on Sirius XM, Sirius XM fam or whatever.
David: [
00:01:30] but yeah, no shout out to everyone and shout out to them, to you guys on YouTube. We appreciate you watching and tuning in weekly. Um, we hope you enjoy this series. Um, and as we said, we're going to dive right into the application. So, uh, you know, what's her send me, let me, let me go first and I'm bringing it up.
So, um, the first one, so yeah. First part. So the application, so how do we weather the storm well first things first. So [
00:02:00] how do, how do I change my perception of the storm?
David: [
00:02:07] now I'm gonna let you go. Yeah, I'm gonna let you go.
Terrence: [
00:02:10] Okay. So. When you break down perception, perception is all about sight. And so it's what you see, but also from past experiences, what you observe and then you anticipate.
So in order to change your position of the storm, you have to one have a background that's rooted, not in your own experience, but in God's word. And then your sight has to change, which you can see to then what God is trying to show you. And I think if you can change those to what you remember behind you, but like what's informing instead of you informing your sight, [
00:03:00] you let God's word inform your sight.
And instead of you looking at what you can see tangibly say like, Lord, show me what this is. Supposed to teach me, show me, change in me or whatever, because I felt, I knew how to use my eyes, but I don't. So you then show me what this is supposed to do, not to me, but through me and for me.
David: [
00:03:33] So that's kind of how that's good.
That's good. So I think, um, what kind of, what kind of hit me when you were saying that was, um, something some myself and my wife were watching, um, Uh, YouTube. Uh, um, and she was just talking about her therapy. She was cause she [
00:04:00] talking about, she was being transparent about being in therapy because she suffered from, um, anxiety and panic attacks.
And, um, so when it would come, she would start to feel overwhelmed and then the adrenaline would start to go and she would start to feel. The fight or flight response kicking in. Um, and her therapist said to her, remind, you know, remind yourself that you are not in any physical danger and. By breathing and slowing down and taking a breath and in and breathing, you start to remind your body that actually there is no physical danger anywhere around me, calm down, stop the adrenaline, slow it all down and take control back.
And it's kinda this, it kinda made me think of [
00:05:00] that. And, um, when we're in the midst of the storm, We need to stop panicking. It's kind of again, it's like they say when, um, Oh, um, I'm going to come back to this. I'm gonna come back to this man. I've got this from um I've got this from a show called in contempt.
I'm gonna come back to this, but yeah, it's that kind of stop panicking. Stop panicking and slow down and breathe and calm down and realize that the storm is not there to destroy you. The storm is there to change you. Now, when we start to realize that it's not, if we, once we start to, to, once we stop the panicking.
That perception shift can happen a lot [
00:06:00] easier because panicking, we panic because we feel we're in danger. We panic because like we said, we don't want the devastation to be exposed, but sometimes it's a bit like, um, it's a bit like when you see, I used to watch extreme, extreme makeover home edition. And they go rebuild the house for people and you see the trail of destruction.
And then all of a sudden, two days later, three days later, you see this beautiful, remodeled house. That was way better than what was there before. But the pain had to come. The destruction had to come. Then the devastation had to happen. The storm had to pass through and tear down what was so ropey and weak so that something stronger and new could be built.
And that's [
00:07:00] sometimes that's what we have to remember that this storm is not there to, you know, yes, the storm will leave a trail of destruction or devastation, but that devastation will clear away and make way for something strong and new. And, um, the thing that I was going to come back to was, um, They say when, um, people are drowning, they were talking to this lifeguard and they were like, Oh, so describe it.
And they say most lifeguards drown. Um, not when they're trying to save people because the people panicking. When the lifeguard gets there, they push the life guard down involuntarily. So this isn't on purpose, it's involuntary and they pushed the lifeguard down, trying to keep themselves from drowning and they have to try and get, they have to approach them from behind and help them [
00:08:00] calm down so that they can shift that perception.
Of their danger so that they can see that they are no longer in danger, but. They're going to make it, they got help. And again, that's us. If we can stop flailing around and waving around arms around like a crazy person and see that in the eye of the storm, in the midst of it, once we get into the center of it, we are in the calmest part.
We are in the presence of God and we have help to survive and weather that storm. And that storm too will pass.
Terrence: [
00:08:37] Yeah, man. So this, this, this, this kinda hit me while you were talking, talking about your wife and in anxiety and stuff. And I've thought about this. So its different phases of weathering the storm.
So you have the initial. Kind of [
00:09:00] warning of the impending storm, then the storm comes, and then you're trying to find a safe place. But what you were just talking about is another phase of the storm is well, how do you survive after the storm has subsided? Because what you're now having is flashbacks about what the storm did when it was there, when it's not, when it's no longer there.
And just like I was saying too, it made me think about what I had said about, you know, um, can I replace, uh, your past experiences with God's word for me, the ties? And I said, it's still from previous storms that I've had. You know how you had points in time to your day where you tense up a little more like, Oh, I can't just relax because you've been so accustomed to storm after [
00:10:00] storm after storm, after storm and its like your body's just like, I gotta be on alert.
I gotta, I don't know what's gonna happen. I gotta be ready and thats because we've been so conditioned of handling our storms on our own and that's where we have to use so much of our body and physical kind of reserve power through that and give us ship wrecked because then we've expended so much energy.
Now we have nothing left because we operate it from ourselves. But God was like, give it to me. You won't have to use this.
Terrence: [
00:10:41] rely on me. I'm try to get you. But because we've weathered so many stormss, we never come out of. Our day-to-day life isn't storm. It's an extension
Terrence: [
00:10:57] We keep [
00:11:00] reliving storms because we've had so much experience from them. It's just like, man, my, my life is going to always be a storm. It just seemed like stuff to come and comes so even when it's nothing there. We will create them within ourselves or whatever, because we've been conditioned to it. And what you were saying too about the lifeguard that makes the most sense.
Is that God is trying to get to it, but we doing all this stuff, right? Like, man, will you calm down, I'm trying to get to you, chill out!
Get to you, but you go, you taking yourself off path that you've been around and I can get you back stable. I need you back stable so then I can move you to safety, but I can't save you when you, you, I don't have an entry point. Yeah, kind of what you were saying as the lifeguard come, they got to have an [
00:12:00] entry point to secure .
If you doing too much movement, the lifeguard can secure you and then you'll drown because it wasn't the lifeguard fault. It was your fault that you wouln't, you wouldn't accept the help come.
David: [
00:12:18] Yeah, no, that's good. That's good.
Terrence: [
00:12:32] the second one. So how do I remind myself of God's authority over the storm and the authority that he has given to me.
David: [
00:12:40] Okay. So I'm going to go to. The scripture that I spoke about now a couple of weeks ago, I said it was, I was like, Hey, it's in Luke eight, but it's actually Matthew eight. It's just funny that the same story is [
00:13:00] in the eighth chapter of both, both, but yeah.
Matthew eight 23 to 27 and, um, Then Jesus got into the boat and started across the Lake with his disciples. Suddenly a fierce storm struck the Lake with waves, breaking into the boat, but Jesus was sleeping. The disciples went and woke him shouting, Lord, save us. We're going to drown. Jesus responded. Why?
Why are you afraid? You have so little faith. Then he got up and rebuked the wind and waves. And suddenly there was a great calm. The disciples were amazed, who is this man they asked?, even the winds and waves obey him. And, um, that scripture just reminds me that. Listen, no matter what is going around, remember that even the storms, God created them.
When, when God wiped out [
00:14:00] everyone on the earth with the exception of, um, Noah and his family, he called forth the waters. He called forth the rain. The torrential rain that didn't stop for 40 days and 40 nights, God controls it all and he has authority over it. But what was important was what Jesus said to them.
Why are you afraid? You have so little faith, meaning I have given you this authority. I have poured this anointing on you by you being. Grafted into my family by you becoming joint heirs with me, you have the same authority that I have that you can speak. And it goes back to what you said week one. I think it was that one where you said you speak to the [
00:15:00] mountain and tell the mountain, go from here to there.
And it has to obey if you have faith like a mustard seed. Well, if we have faith, we can step in the middle of that storm and say stop. And that storm must, must stop. There must be calm because we have the authority we need to. So how do we remind ourselves by reading these sorts of scriptures? By reading the countless times that Jesus stepped in or by the reading the countless times that God stepped in and said to the storm be still because he didn't just do it here.
He did it in various ways in the old Testament when, when the people were going to, when Jonah was a stowaway on that ship and he brought the storms. And the people were like, Oh my gosh, what's going on? Who has sinned? [
00:16:00] And Jonah said, okay, it's me throw me into the water. If you throw me into the water, the storm will stop. Threw him into the water and the storm stopped.
God has the authority over those waves. And then let me just be clear. He didn't leave Jonah to drown. You got a fish to swallow him up now y'all might be thinking, Oh no. Hey, this is, he was inside the fish . He made it to shore the fish spat him out. He was good. You didn't get chewed. He didn't get digested.
He was good, but God has, God has a knack for stepping into a storm. And stopping a storm and speak in calm over because he has authority over them why he created them. And just as he created you, he's giving you and breathed into you that same authority. [
00:17:00] That's why he constantly reminds us. And that's why I love, I love the scriptures.
Why do you know. For me, people see them, people might see the as stories. I see them as reminders of you, of the power that God has given us. Power that we use so little of, power that we scratch the surface of, because our faith is so small, so we don't even, and I seen that, I know how small a mustard seed is.
And yet we can't even muster that level of faith to achieve the things that need that, that, that God says that we can achieve.
Terrence: [
00:17:48] It's crazy. So, uh, I'm going to go here from what you said. So this is the visual. [
00:18:00] So you got Jesus on the boat and the storm going on. Jesus asleep. and you got the disciples on there.
So the storm is raging yet it doesn't disturb Jesus. So they like, man, this storm getting bad its getting, worse, man. I think we need to do some Let's wake up Jesus so Jesus wake up. Like he, why are you waking me up? You see what I'm getting some rest why are you waking me up? They're like,
man, we just try to make sure we good. I man, I really, I, I really wish I would've gotten to the point while I was asleep, but I guess y'all didn't so now I got to calm the storm for y'all to understand that. The storm means [
00:19:00] nothing as long as I'm on the boat with y'all
and y'all realize, as long as I'm on the boat, it doesn't matter what's going on. So then I looked at it, a different light is saying, well, when we're able to rest in God, that means that. We give protection to those around us too. So sometimes it's for us to be, and be the people that help calm storms around other people, but not in the way we used to because a lot of us have a issue.
Like I say, you know, I, as far as fixing things for people all the time, that's not what it mean. It means that if I'm resting in God and trusting in God, that would then witness to other people and allow them to weather the [
00:20:00] storm better by showing, by seeing how I'm handling mine and people can see all are going around me and our centred in it, and it doesn't shake me and I can find peace and rest in God.
And they like, man. I know what's going on but. Oh, he don't, you know what I'm saying? Like it fazes him like that. And that's, that's how your life can witness the people louder than your words could, because some people have to see you come through those situations. And see how it was at, the beginning and then, see you come through that and see you be better because of, yeah.
And that's not what we want to hear. We don't want to hear that,
[
00:21:00] but it's not an act, it's not like a facade way, like you were talking about before. It's an honest face of, yes, this is a difficult place, but I won't allow what's going on around me to disrupt my relationship with God.
David: [
00:21:17] Yeah, no, that that's that's good. That's good. Um, well mate, I was just thinking it over and I was like, they went and woke Jesus up.
Like Jesus didn't know what was going on.
David: [
00:22:16] you know, Jesus' woke up mad as hell.
Terrence: [
00:22:27] all the time, all the time
that you raise me up, I already had control over it. Ain't gonna live then having to be out, but you still want to wake me up
David: [
00:22:43] and that's us. We still sit here today. Yeah today. So, um, all right. Let's um, let's jump into the last one. Uh, what is the storm trying [
00:23:00] to remove in me?
My listen, my wife gave me a doozy for this one. Okay.
Terrence: [
00:23:10] So I'm going to say my part. Um, and I'm a little personal where I am now. Um, what my storm is trying to remove from me now is my own pride. But not pride in an arrogance way. It's a pride of not seeking out or accepting help from people. Yeah. This whole phase of life I've been in the last year.
I want to say has been me moving from the person that was always doing for other people. So now accepting help from people in all their different types of ways, in all different levels of my life. [
00:24:00] And that has been difficult at first because I feel like I was lacking if I needed other people to kind of come in and help.
But in order to grow, you have to understand that. Although people can experience your situation. The way you do is people that see how you're handling your situation and want to assist. I said, like, I know you try, I see how you going through your situation and you doing it in the right way. I want to help you get to where God is leading.
So it's not a pity. Sort of help. It's more or less like, look, I know you committed to this, but I don't want you to burn out or overwork yourself before you get to the place that God wants you to be. So I want to help or [
00:25:00] sow into you or bless you this way or whatever they did. And I had to become more comfortable with your saying, yes.
Or okay. And still like, you know what, I appreciate it, but you know, around me, I'm good right now. It's just, I had to learn to say yes to people in a way that I would never have done before. And it just because it's like, man, I ain't got no
for me,
I have to be more. And the other thing is the, the pain of past storms. I think this is what the phase of life that I am currently is trying to remove from me that. I know some things are similar to things in the past, but this is not going to turn out how things in the past did. And I need [
00:26:00] you to be encouraged in this space because even though it doesn't look like it's changing that much, this is going to turn out different than it did in the past.
Because, because now I'm relying more on God and less on myself in the past, I was relying on myself. And making stuff happen and powering through and not giving up and not giving myself excuses or whatever like that. And I was literally tearing my body down. Like I'll get to the end of the year and pretty much the year with kitchen with me.
And I would get sick every year. Like around Christmas time, December time, anytime I had. I know that you're going to sit down for a, okay, let me give you this sickness. So you can only lay all the way out.
David: [
00:26:52] That is me. That is me every Christmas. Um, I'm laid up for like, [
00:27:00] I get two weeks off and then I'm like, I'm laid off for the first week.
Can't do anything pretty much whole week gone because, um, um, I'm sick. So I know that I know that and yeah, you, right. I think nothing humbles you more than a storm and especially a storm that, you know, you don't have the answers for. Right. And it's like, you're like, okay, go ahead. Well, you're going to have to sort this out and then when God starts to send those people in your life.
Okay. Yep. All right. I see. I see what you're doing going, right. Okay. You, you, you helping me grow that humility to, to accept, help you helping me grow that, um, break down that. [
00:28:00] And it's like you said, it's not pride. It's not an arrogant pride. It's that you're so used to be in the one, helping others. It's hard to accept the help yourself.
We come back to, we come back to what we said. week one, we are afraid that the perception. Of people that people have of us, of the helper, the strong one, the provider, the support system, the, the shoulder to lean on. We're afraid that that perception is going to change. Yup. But the thing is our storm humanizes us.
Our storm helps people to relate to us more so that when we come out the storm. We're able to be there for them because they see the humanity in us because they've seen us in our storm. So [
00:29:00] there's that. Um, but, um, yeah. So let me, let me get you this doozy that my wife gave me when she, when she said this, I had to sit down for a bit.
I was about to go there and lay down. Cause I was like, I was like, we ain't even recorded the episode. Have you not shut it down already? So she came in, as all said, I said, so, um, yeah, I said one, one of the. One of the questions we go around in the application is, um, you know, what's the storm trying to remove from me.
And she, she kinda sat there, you know, you know how they do. She said she was looking at me and she's like, well, she's like, well, I think the storm is trying to remove the same thing. It creates in us fear. And I was like, Oh, she didn't. I was like, she didn't just say that she did not just say that I was like,
[
00:30:00] drop that bomb and then just kind of shimmy herself out of the room. Like yeah, I'm out deuces kind of fade to the back. And I was like, well, she, when she dropped her, I was like, that's it because. When we get into amidst into the midst of the storm. When I'm afraid, we're afraid of all those things, but God is trying to teach us that, Hey, you don't have to be afraid of this.
You do not have to fear this storm because I am God in this storm. This storm will not break you. That perception that you are holding onto. So dearly, actually this new perception that people will have with you is greater than that perception that you're so afraid to let go of the devastation that you're afraid of people seeing is going to make way for a new [
00:31:00] creation and everything that we were just holding onto.
So tight, everything we feared God is like, I've got an answer for all of that. You don't need to be afraid. Let go of your fear. And I think I've said this before, and, um, in an episode, there is an acronym that someone taught me a very long time ago. Fear is false evidence appearing real. And then the midst of the storm that is amplified, all that false evidence around us appears so real.
And God is telling us. Don't don't fall for the okey doke I've got the real.
I know, man, she just, she [
00:32:00] just came through stolen, stole the show and she can't even be on the show and she stole the show.
Terrence: [
00:32:09] No, that's good. That's good. And I guess it's I guess, that if we could allow the storm to, to really take away, I fear, then we can move into what God has for us. So when he removes what we didn't need, he tried to give us space to then approach or see the things that are. Bigger than what we had and not bigger in far as materialistic thing, but I, a higher level of belief of what God can do through us.
If we allow ourselves to be used [
00:33:00] and not focus on how we're going to complete some, but how can I strengthen my relationship with God and my faith? Strong enough to where he does greater work through me, so that I position myself for that.
David: [
00:33:19] Yeah. No, that's good. You did. You just added to it and shut it down? Like that's the end of the episode we done?
No, for real. Um, that is, um, that is a perfect way to end it. If we can, if we can truly accept what God is trying to change in us in the storm. Then we open the door for what he truly wants to do in us. You know, if he, if you keep running around trying to avoid the storm, you're just going to keep running into [
00:34:00] a storm, go through it, let the storm pass through, take the devastation that comes with it.
Take the change that comes with it and come out brand new.
Terrence: [
00:34:15] Yeah. I ain't got nothing
we done no, we, we want to thank you for tuning into this. Um, the series we hope, uh, we definitely hope you been blessed by the series. We've we've enjoyed this. We've enjoyed the series. It's um, Like I said, weathering the storm is something we all have experience of. I'm not ashamed to say that I've got personal in depth experience in weathering storms.
Um, you know, it's part of our walk. [
00:35:00] Um, if I think the times that we should, we should fear the most are the times when there are no storms. Because in the midst of the storm, you know, that you were in the midst of God's presence when everything is just code, you know, cozy and rosy and peaceful.
Sometimes that may just be that we've just drifted so far we are out of storm range. Yeah.
David: [
00:35:44] So yeah, we just want to thank you for tuning in and hope you guys have been blessed. We will catch you on the next series. Um, Not sure what the title is. Oh, Oh. Before we go, before we go, [
00:36:00] um, just a quick reminder that, um, so what is it next week? Next week? The date will be, and I've got to look at my calendar cause I I'm all the way lost T um, or the way it looks, um, try to bear with me folks.
We are saying, um, I believe it's Tuesday, the 23rd of March, we are hoping to record the live episode. Um, so you guys. The we been, we we've been we've been planning this for a while, but hopefully Tuesday the 23rd. We want to record a live episode. So that will be 8:00 PM. GMT 2:00 PM. Central standard time are. Yeah.
So we want to record a live episode. We're [
00:37:00] hoping that you guys that watch with us will be in there and ask some questions. Um, and yeah, we'll, we will record that next episode fielding some of your live questions and just go with the flow see how it turn out, we were looking forward to that, but yeah.
Um, we'll, we'll, we will catch you on that, the next episode of the imperfectly human podcast, and we appreciate you all, God bless. I'm Mr Daley and you can keep up with me on. Twitter @dydaley on Instagram @dydaley on Facebook, a Daley perspective network, um, on YouTube Daley perspective network and, um, on the blog www.daleyperspective.co.uk
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Terrence: [
00:37:56] All right. I'm about to Terrell Johnson. Uh, you can catch me at [
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David: [
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