1 01:00:01,250 --> 01:00:02,000 Good morning. 2 01:00:03,958 --> 01:00:06,041 And welcome to your morning cereal. 3 01:00:11,833 --> 01:00:12,875 Okay, good morning. 4 01:00:13,250 --> 01:00:13,916 Welcome to the first 5 01:00:13,916 --> 01:00:14,833 Friday of the new year. 6 01:00:15,041 --> 01:00:15,750 You did it. 7 01:00:15,750 --> 01:00:17,125 Maybe you've already gone back to work 8 01:00:17,125 --> 01:00:18,833 or maybe you're heading back next week. 9 01:00:19,333 --> 01:00:20,125 Either way, it's nice 10 01:00:20,125 --> 01:00:20,958 to have a weekend here. 11 01:00:21,416 --> 01:00:23,250 I know our home is still a bit chaotic 12 01:00:23,375 --> 01:00:24,125 because the kids don't go 13 01:00:24,125 --> 01:00:25,583 back to school for another week, 14 01:00:26,166 --> 01:00:27,291 but we are back to soccer 15 01:00:27,291 --> 01:00:28,458 tournaments this weekend 16 01:00:28,666 --> 01:00:30,333 and taking down Christmas decorations. 17 01:00:31,375 --> 01:00:32,541 As a side note, did anyone 18 01:00:32,541 --> 01:00:33,833 else see the end memorial 19 01:00:34,375 --> 01:00:35,458 on the New Year's Eve shows? 20 01:00:36,208 --> 01:00:37,083 Holy cow, we've lost a 21 01:00:37,083 --> 01:00:38,041 lot of people this year. 22 01:00:38,541 --> 01:00:39,291 I know we've lost some 23 01:00:39,291 --> 01:00:40,208 people in our own family 24 01:00:40,333 --> 01:00:41,458 over the last couple of years, 25 01:00:41,458 --> 01:00:42,666 and it's just so hard to see 26 01:00:42,666 --> 01:00:44,541 such special people leave us. 27 01:00:45,083 --> 01:00:45,708 That's why it's so 28 01:00:45,708 --> 01:00:46,750 important to live for today 29 01:00:47,083 --> 01:00:48,041 and tell people you love 30 01:00:48,041 --> 01:00:49,166 them and appreciate them. 31 01:00:49,583 --> 01:00:50,416 Sorry, my sentimental 32 01:00:50,416 --> 01:00:51,333 side coming through there. 33 01:00:51,333 --> 01:00:52,125 It's got the best of me. 34 01:00:52,666 --> 01:00:53,791 All right, well, let's go ahead and jump 35 01:00:53,791 --> 01:00:54,833 into today's episode 36 01:00:54,833 --> 01:00:55,625 with today's quotes. 37 01:00:55,833 --> 01:00:56,791 One fun, nostalgic 38 01:00:56,791 --> 01:00:58,041 quote, and then a second quote 39 01:00:58,291 --> 01:00:59,041 to tease our book 40 01:00:59,041 --> 01:01:00,083 review later in the episode. 41 01:01:00,583 --> 01:01:01,458 Hopefully, one of the 42 01:01:01,458 --> 01:01:02,250 quotes will speak to you 43 01:01:02,250 --> 01:01:03,041 and jumpstart your day 44 01:01:03,041 --> 01:01:04,166 in a positive direction. 45 01:01:04,708 --> 01:01:06,125 All right, the first quote is from the 46 01:01:06,125 --> 01:01:07,000 late Princess Diana. 47 01:01:08,041 --> 01:01:09,916 "Carry out a random act of kindness 48 01:01:10,166 --> 01:01:11,375 with no expectation of 49 01:01:11,375 --> 01:01:13,000 reward, safe in the knowledge 50 01:01:13,000 --> 01:01:14,208 that one day someone 51 01:01:14,208 --> 01:01:15,333 might do the same for you." 52 01:01:15,541 --> 01:01:16,833 Yep, she's talking about 53 01:01:16,833 --> 01:01:17,958 the often underestimated 54 01:01:18,500 --> 01:01:19,458 random act of kindness. 55 01:01:20,333 --> 01:01:21,333 And today's teaser quote 56 01:01:21,333 --> 01:01:22,416 from the book review is, 57 01:01:23,083 --> 01:01:24,625 "I'm talking about a new way of life." 58 01:01:25,041 --> 01:01:26,416 Let me repeat, I am 59 01:01:26,416 --> 01:01:28,333 talking about a new way of life. 60 01:01:28,833 --> 01:01:29,958 As usual, we'll unpack 61 01:01:29,958 --> 01:01:31,083 that here in just a minute 62 01:01:31,458 --> 01:01:32,708 during the book review segment, 63 01:01:32,708 --> 01:01:33,625 but first let's jump 64 01:01:33,625 --> 01:01:34,958 into our usual dose of fun 65 01:01:34,958 --> 01:01:35,833 and historic facts 66 01:01:35,833 --> 01:01:36,666 from this day in history. 67 01:01:37,708 --> 01:01:38,708 All right, today's news 68 01:01:38,708 --> 01:01:41,333 facts are from January 3rd. 69 01:01:41,333 --> 01:01:43,416 In 1924, King Tut's 70 01:01:43,416 --> 01:01:45,250 sarcophagus is uncovered in Egypt. 71 01:01:45,791 --> 01:01:46,708 Come on, I mean, wasn't 72 01:01:46,708 --> 01:01:47,791 King Tut just mystical 73 01:01:47,791 --> 01:01:48,541 when you were younger? 74 01:01:49,333 --> 01:01:52,000 In 1959, Alaska was admitted to the Union 75 01:01:52,000 --> 01:01:53,625 as the 49th US state. 76 01:01:54,166 --> 01:01:55,083 The territory had been 77 01:01:55,083 --> 01:01:57,250 bought from Russia in 1867 78 01:01:57,250 --> 01:01:59,083 for only $7.2 million. 79 01:02:00,500 --> 01:02:02,583 Still a great steal in today's dollars, 80 01:02:02,583 --> 01:02:04,125 it was only $153 million. 81 01:02:04,583 --> 01:02:08,375 In 1973, George Steinbrenner's group 82 01:02:08,375 --> 01:02:10,166 bought the Yankees from CBS. 83 01:02:10,916 --> 01:02:13,791 And in 1977, Apple was incorporated 84 01:02:13,791 --> 01:02:15,875 by Steve Jobs and Steve Wozniak. 85 01:02:16,500 --> 01:02:17,000 I hope you bought 86 01:02:17,000 --> 01:02:17,916 some stock at that time. 87 01:02:18,166 --> 01:02:19,250 And if so, can I book 88 01:02:19,250 --> 01:02:20,041 a week on your yacht? 89 01:02:21,125 --> 01:02:22,458 In 2004, after hosting 90 01:02:22,458 --> 01:02:23,916 the show for over 30 years, 91 01:02:23,916 --> 01:02:25,625 Casey Kasin gives up the hosting duties 92 01:02:25,625 --> 01:02:27,916 of American Top 40 to Ryan Seacrest. 93 01:02:28,750 --> 01:02:30,791 In 1987, Aretha Franklin 94 01:02:30,791 --> 01:02:32,291 is the first female artist 95 01:02:32,291 --> 01:02:33,458 to be inducted into the 96 01:02:33,458 --> 01:02:33,791 Rock and Roll Hall of Fame. 97 01:02:34,250 --> 01:02:37,083 Another female first in 2001, 98 01:02:37,833 --> 01:02:39,625 Hillary Clinton was sworn in as a US 99 01:02:39,625 --> 01:02:40,625 Senator from New York. 100 01:02:41,000 --> 01:02:42,333 She became the first 101 01:02:42,333 --> 01:02:44,000 first lady in US history 102 01:02:44,000 --> 01:02:45,750 to win an elective office. 103 01:02:47,250 --> 01:02:48,750 And finally, in 2004, 104 01:02:49,083 --> 01:02:51,000 NASA's Mars Exploration Rover Spirit 105 01:02:51,000 --> 01:02:53,333 landed on Mars to study the chemical and 106 01:02:53,333 --> 01:02:54,250 physical composition 107 01:02:54,250 --> 01:02:55,375 of the planet's surface. 108 01:02:56,708 --> 01:02:58,208 All right, moving on to birthdays. 109 01:02:58,208 --> 01:02:59,666 Happy birthday if today is your birthday. 110 01:02:59,875 --> 01:03:02,041 You share a birthday with J.R.R. Tolkien, 111 01:03:03,041 --> 01:03:03,750 he's the writer of 112 01:03:03,750 --> 01:03:04,375 "The Lord of the Rings." 113 01:03:04,666 --> 01:03:06,583 He was born on this date in 1892. 114 01:03:07,000 --> 01:03:09,416 Mel Gibson is 69, and Eli Manning, 115 01:03:09,750 --> 01:03:10,458 better known as the 116 01:03:10,458 --> 01:03:11,416 brother of Peyton Manning, 117 01:03:11,708 --> 01:03:12,916 he is 43 today. 118 01:03:13,500 --> 01:03:14,958 Wow, he's younger than I thought he was. 119 01:03:15,458 --> 01:03:16,541 Also, I have a friend 120 01:03:16,541 --> 01:03:17,958 that is Eli's doppelganger, 121 01:03:18,250 --> 01:03:19,375 so send me a text when you 122 01:03:19,375 --> 01:03:20,708 hear the shout out, friend. 123 01:03:21,416 --> 01:03:22,833 All right, now to the music 124 01:03:22,833 --> 01:03:24,458 of the 80s, 90s, and 2000s. 125 01:03:24,791 --> 01:03:27,416 The number one song on this date in 1997 126 01:03:28,333 --> 01:03:29,166 was "Something About 127 01:03:29,166 --> 01:03:30,125 the Way You Look Tonight," 128 01:03:30,666 --> 01:03:31,916 "Candle in the Wind," 1997. 129 01:03:32,541 --> 01:03:33,500 That was by Elton John. 130 01:03:34,000 --> 01:03:35,666 Elton rewrote the lyrics for this song 131 01:03:35,666 --> 01:03:36,375 as a tribute to the 132 01:03:36,375 --> 01:03:37,541 passing of Princess Diana, 133 01:03:38,000 --> 01:03:39,625 and he performed the song at her funeral 134 01:03:39,625 --> 01:03:40,541 that was watched by an 135 01:03:40,541 --> 01:03:42,166 estimated two billion people, 136 01:03:42,750 --> 01:03:43,583 one of which was me. 137 01:03:44,500 --> 01:03:45,833 And on a bit of a lighter note, 138 01:03:45,833 --> 01:03:47,333 the country was in a different place on 139 01:03:47,333 --> 01:03:48,833 the same day in 1986 140 01:03:49,375 --> 01:03:50,000 when the number one 141 01:03:50,000 --> 01:03:52,041 movie was "The Three Amigos." 142 01:03:52,041 --> 01:03:52,916 Do you remember that movie? 143 01:03:53,375 --> 01:03:54,333 It starred three of the 144 01:03:54,333 --> 01:03:55,541 funniest people on the planet, 145 01:03:56,083 --> 01:03:57,208 Chevy Chase, Steve 146 01:03:57,208 --> 01:03:58,500 Martin, and Martin Short. 147 01:03:59,208 --> 01:04:00,000 It was actually Martin 148 01:04:00,000 --> 01:04:01,833 Short's first movie, so funny. 149 01:04:03,208 --> 01:04:04,416 Okay, well, let's move 150 01:04:04,416 --> 01:04:05,500 on to some personal growth 151 01:04:05,500 --> 01:04:06,125 in the book review 152 01:04:06,125 --> 01:04:07,250 segment of "Morning Serial." 153 01:04:07,833 --> 01:04:09,125 This is where we take a few moments 154 01:04:09,125 --> 01:04:10,541 to reflect on lessons learned 155 01:04:10,541 --> 01:04:11,916 from the current book we're reading. 156 01:04:12,333 --> 01:04:12,958 And currently, we're 157 01:04:12,958 --> 01:04:14,125 reading through Dale Carnegie's 158 01:04:14,125 --> 01:04:14,750 "How to Win Friends 159 01:04:14,750 --> 01:04:15,708 and Influence People." 160 01:04:15,916 --> 01:04:17,666 It's a timeless book that is consistently 161 01:04:17,875 --> 01:04:19,166 on all the must read lists, 162 01:04:19,166 --> 01:04:20,291 and it's packed with rock 163 01:04:20,291 --> 01:04:21,666 solid advice and actions 164 01:04:22,041 --> 01:04:23,666 for us all to use and build healthy 165 01:04:23,666 --> 01:04:24,666 foundational concepts 166 01:04:24,875 --> 01:04:25,333 to live by. 167 01:04:26,041 --> 01:04:27,333 Okay, we are finishing 168 01:04:27,333 --> 01:04:28,541 up chapter two today. 169 01:04:29,125 --> 01:04:31,000 And chapter two is the big secret of 170 01:04:31,000 --> 01:04:31,833 dealing with people. 171 01:04:32,333 --> 01:04:33,041 In chapter two, 172 01:04:33,250 --> 01:04:34,416 Carnegie has us contemplating 173 01:04:34,416 --> 01:04:36,333 our most basic human needs and desires, 174 01:04:36,833 --> 01:04:37,833 and specifically the 175 01:04:37,833 --> 01:04:38,750 desire to be important. 176 01:04:39,500 --> 01:04:40,166 We are learning how to 177 01:04:40,166 --> 01:04:41,166 make others feel important 178 01:04:41,416 --> 01:04:43,291 through open appreciation and praise. 179 01:04:44,416 --> 01:04:44,916 Yesterday, Carnegie 180 01:04:44,916 --> 01:04:46,291 continued to dive deeper 181 01:04:46,500 --> 01:04:47,625 into the importance of giving 182 01:04:47,625 --> 01:04:49,041 appreciation and praise, 183 01:04:49,416 --> 01:04:50,625 and not only in the workplace, 184 01:04:50,625 --> 01:04:52,375 but also in our personal relationships, 185 01:04:52,666 --> 01:04:53,833 and our families, our 186 01:04:53,833 --> 01:04:54,791 friends, and our spouses. 187 01:04:56,125 --> 01:04:58,083 So as we pick it up in chapter two, 188 01:04:58,125 --> 01:04:58,875 Carnegie tells a 189 01:04:58,875 --> 01:05:00,291 story of how appreciation 190 01:05:00,833 --> 01:05:02,458 can change a person's life forever. 191 01:05:03,208 --> 01:05:04,916 In this story, young Stevie Morris was 192 01:05:04,916 --> 01:05:06,000 asked by his teacher 193 01:05:06,000 --> 01:05:07,250 to help find a mouse that 194 01:05:07,250 --> 01:05:08,333 was lost in the classroom. 195 01:05:08,875 --> 01:05:10,541 The teacher had appreciated the fact 196 01:05:10,541 --> 01:05:12,333 that Stevie had exceptional hearing, 197 01:05:12,791 --> 01:05:14,375 perhaps nature's way of compensating 198 01:05:14,375 --> 01:05:15,666 for the blindness in his eyes. 199 01:05:16,250 --> 01:05:17,291 It was the first time 200 01:05:17,291 --> 01:05:18,750 someone had shown appreciation 201 01:05:19,041 --> 01:05:20,416 for Stevie's talented ears. 202 01:05:21,125 --> 01:05:22,958 And as the story goes years later, 203 01:05:22,958 --> 01:05:24,125 Stevie said this was the 204 01:05:24,125 --> 01:05:25,750 beginning to a new life for him. 205 01:05:26,208 --> 01:05:28,208 He began to develop his gift of hearing, 206 01:05:28,833 --> 01:05:30,666 and he went on to become an icon of music 207 01:05:31,166 --> 01:05:32,541 under the stage name Stevie Wonder. 208 01:05:33,208 --> 01:05:34,166 It's interesting, as 209 01:05:34,166 --> 01:05:35,000 I'm reading this book, 210 01:05:35,000 --> 01:05:36,708 there are times when in my own mind, 211 01:05:36,708 --> 01:05:37,291 I feel something 212 01:05:37,291 --> 01:05:38,750 Carnegie suggests comes across 213 01:05:38,750 --> 01:05:40,541 as too simple, or maybe 214 01:05:40,541 --> 01:05:42,083 that doesn't quite apply today, 215 01:05:42,583 --> 01:05:43,916 or apply to my situation. 216 01:05:44,583 --> 01:05:45,583 And Carnegie's very next 217 01:05:45,583 --> 01:05:46,833 paragraph addresses this. 218 01:05:47,458 --> 01:05:48,416 Quote, "Some readers 219 01:05:48,416 --> 01:05:49,666 are saying right now, 220 01:05:49,666 --> 01:05:51,750 as they read these lines, oh, phooey, 221 01:05:52,083 --> 01:05:53,958 flattery, bare oil." 222 01:05:53,958 --> 01:05:54,958 I say that all the time. 223 01:05:55,541 --> 01:05:56,541 I've tried that stuff. 224 01:05:56,916 --> 01:05:58,291 It doesn't work, not with 225 01:05:58,291 --> 01:05:59,791 intelligent people, end quote. 226 01:06:00,208 --> 01:06:02,333 He goes on to say, quote, "Of course 227 01:06:02,333 --> 01:06:03,500 flattery seldom works 228 01:06:03,500 --> 01:06:04,541 with discerning people. 229 01:06:04,916 --> 01:06:07,333 It is shallow, selfish, and insincere. 230 01:06:07,666 --> 01:06:09,666 It ought to fail, and it usually does." 231 01:06:09,875 --> 01:06:10,125 End quote. 232 01:06:10,708 --> 01:06:11,833 This is a strong point here. 233 01:06:12,208 --> 01:06:12,625 Carnegie is telling 234 01:06:12,625 --> 01:06:13,833 the readers that simple, 235 01:06:14,375 --> 01:06:16,250 shallow flattery of others, one-off 236 01:06:16,250 --> 01:06:17,291 compliments, et cetera, 237 01:06:17,500 --> 01:06:18,708 is not what he's talking about, 238 01:06:18,708 --> 01:06:19,458 and it's not how to win 239 01:06:19,458 --> 01:06:20,833 friends and influence people. 240 01:06:21,375 --> 01:06:22,291 Carnegie is suggesting 241 01:06:22,291 --> 01:06:24,625 we take real, honest, 242 01:06:25,000 --> 01:06:25,833 interest in showing 243 01:06:25,833 --> 01:06:27,125 appreciation for others. 244 01:06:27,833 --> 01:06:29,708 Carnegie calls flattery counterfeit, 245 01:06:30,375 --> 01:06:31,583 which will just get you into trouble. 246 01:06:32,416 --> 01:06:33,750 But Carnegie goes on to 247 01:06:33,750 --> 01:06:34,458 tell us the difference 248 01:06:34,458 --> 01:06:36,416 between flattery and real appreciation. 249 01:06:37,125 --> 01:06:38,791 He says, and I'm paraphrasing here, 250 01:06:39,250 --> 01:06:40,416 "One is sincere, and 251 01:06:40,416 --> 01:06:41,666 the other is insincere. 252 01:06:42,041 --> 01:06:43,000 One comes from the 253 01:06:43,000 --> 01:06:44,416 heart, while the other is just 254 01:06:44,500 --> 01:06:46,000 empty words coming out of your mouth." 255 01:06:46,666 --> 01:06:48,291 He says, "One is unselfish, 256 01:06:48,291 --> 01:06:49,416 while the other is selfish." 257 01:06:50,000 --> 01:06:51,083 And lastly, he says, 258 01:06:51,333 --> 01:06:52,833 "One is universally admired, 259 01:06:53,416 --> 01:06:55,125 and the other is universally condemned." 260 01:06:56,041 --> 01:06:56,708 Now, I believe these 261 01:06:56,708 --> 01:06:57,666 distinctions cleared up 262 01:06:57,666 --> 01:06:58,583 pretty unmistakably. 263 01:06:59,291 --> 01:07:00,500 We need to sincerely and 264 01:07:00,500 --> 01:07:01,791 unselfishly give praise 265 01:07:01,791 --> 01:07:02,833 and appreciation to 266 01:07:02,833 --> 01:07:04,000 others if we truly hope 267 01:07:04,000 --> 01:07:05,083 to have any influence 268 01:07:05,083 --> 01:07:06,583 of any sort on them. 269 01:07:07,583 --> 01:07:08,458 Dealing with people in this 270 01:07:08,458 --> 01:07:09,625 way may feel uncomfortable 271 01:07:10,125 --> 01:07:11,416 and be a change from how 272 01:07:11,416 --> 01:07:12,458 we interact with others. 273 01:07:12,833 --> 01:07:13,916 And Carnegie knows this. 274 01:07:13,916 --> 01:07:15,208 He says, quote, "I'm 275 01:07:15,208 --> 01:07:16,750 talking about a new way of life. 276 01:07:17,083 --> 01:07:18,041 Let me repeat, I am 277 01:07:18,041 --> 01:07:20,166 talking about a new way of life." 278 01:07:20,541 --> 01:07:20,916 End quote. 279 01:07:21,583 --> 01:07:22,916 Carnegie continues to make the point 280 01:07:23,041 --> 01:07:24,833 that simple flattery is not his point. 281 01:07:25,291 --> 01:07:27,250 He offers several quotes across history. 282 01:07:28,208 --> 01:07:29,833 "King George V said, 283 01:07:30,291 --> 01:07:31,041 teach me neither to 284 01:07:31,041 --> 01:07:33,125 proffer nor receive cheap praise. 285 01:07:33,916 --> 01:07:35,375 Ralph Waldo Emerson said, 286 01:07:35,833 --> 01:07:37,041 use what language you will, 287 01:07:37,333 --> 01:07:38,000 you can never say 288 01:07:38,000 --> 01:07:39,666 anything but what you are." 289 01:07:40,208 --> 01:07:41,708 The point is, flattery is 290 01:07:41,708 --> 01:07:43,208 cheap and everybody knows it. 291 01:07:43,500 --> 01:07:45,375 We all know when we receive a compliment 292 01:07:45,375 --> 01:07:46,750 from someone that falls flat. 293 01:07:47,250 --> 01:07:48,041 Then you have that 294 01:07:48,041 --> 01:07:49,416 lingering feeling in your head 295 01:07:49,416 --> 01:07:50,916 that the other person just said something 296 01:07:51,333 --> 01:07:52,250 just to say something 297 01:07:52,250 --> 01:07:53,666 because the moment called for it. 298 01:07:53,875 --> 01:07:54,958 Maybe even better, we 299 01:07:54,958 --> 01:07:56,125 all know when we've given 300 01:07:56,125 --> 01:07:57,166 one of these cheap 301 01:07:57,166 --> 01:07:58,625 flattery type compliments, 302 01:07:59,541 --> 01:08:00,666 they are a dime a dozen 303 01:08:00,666 --> 01:08:01,875 and it makes us feel cheap. 304 01:08:02,333 --> 01:08:03,125 What Carnegie is 305 01:08:03,125 --> 01:08:05,166 talking about is taking time 306 01:08:05,166 --> 01:08:07,375 to actually think about the other person. 307 01:08:08,000 --> 01:08:09,375 Examine their good points. 308 01:08:10,208 --> 01:08:10,916 Carnegie says, if we 309 01:08:10,916 --> 01:08:12,208 do this, then we quote, 310 01:08:12,791 --> 01:08:13,750 "won't have to resort to 311 01:08:13,750 --> 01:08:15,333 flattery so cheap and false 312 01:08:15,750 --> 01:08:17,000 that it can be spotted almost 313 01:08:17,000 --> 01:08:18,333 before it's out of the mouth." 314 01:08:18,333 --> 01:08:18,750 End quote. 315 01:08:19,625 --> 01:08:21,541 And again, Carnegie is not just talking 316 01:08:21,541 --> 01:08:22,375 about winning friends 317 01:08:22,375 --> 01:08:23,583 and influencing people 318 01:08:23,583 --> 01:08:24,458 in the business sense. 319 01:08:25,041 --> 01:08:26,541 He talks about how we often 320 01:08:26,541 --> 01:08:27,833 neglect to show appreciation 321 01:08:28,125 --> 01:08:30,125 in our daily routines, often at home 322 01:08:30,333 --> 01:08:31,166 when we can praise our 323 01:08:31,166 --> 01:08:32,250 children for good grades 324 01:08:32,250 --> 01:08:33,541 or baking their first cake 325 01:08:34,083 --> 01:08:36,250 or building a complex Lego correctly. 326 01:08:36,833 --> 01:08:38,541 Kids yearn for this kind of parental 327 01:08:38,541 --> 01:08:39,541 interest and approval. 328 01:08:40,333 --> 01:08:41,833 Or similarly, tell 329 01:08:41,833 --> 01:08:43,041 the chef at a restaurant 330 01:08:43,041 --> 01:08:44,291 that the meal was prepared well. 331 01:08:45,000 --> 01:08:45,791 Or that a customer 332 01:08:45,791 --> 01:08:47,083 service agent was helpful 333 01:08:47,083 --> 01:08:48,333 and unusually courteous. 334 01:08:48,916 --> 01:08:50,333 The point is there are daily 335 01:08:50,333 --> 01:08:51,916 moments we can capitalize on 336 01:08:51,916 --> 01:08:53,625 to give sincere appreciation. 337 01:08:54,250 --> 01:08:55,958 And Carnegie says this, quote, 338 01:08:56,041 --> 01:08:57,833 "try leaving a friendly trail 339 01:08:57,833 --> 01:08:59,333 of little sparks of gratitude 340 01:08:59,541 --> 01:09:00,416 on your daily trips. 341 01:09:00,875 --> 01:09:02,458 You will be surprised how 342 01:09:02,458 --> 01:09:03,708 they will set small flames 343 01:09:03,708 --> 01:09:05,750 of friendship that will be rose beacons 344 01:09:06,291 --> 01:09:07,166 on your next visit." 345 01:09:07,500 --> 01:09:07,791 End quote. 346 01:09:08,750 --> 01:09:09,916 I think Carnegie starts to 347 01:09:09,916 --> 01:09:11,083 tie all this back together 348 01:09:11,083 --> 01:09:12,416 with his principle number one, 349 01:09:12,416 --> 01:09:13,875 don't criticize, condemn or complain. 350 01:09:14,333 --> 01:09:15,833 When he says, honest 351 01:09:15,833 --> 01:09:18,041 appreciation will get results 352 01:09:18,375 --> 01:09:20,291 where criticism and ridicule fail. 353 01:09:21,125 --> 01:09:23,125 And as we get to the end of chapter two, 354 01:09:23,375 --> 01:09:24,250 Carnegie makes the point 355 01:09:24,250 --> 01:09:25,416 that these little moments 356 01:09:25,416 --> 01:09:27,041 we have each day that we can 357 01:09:27,041 --> 01:09:28,750 give honest, sincere praise 358 01:09:28,750 --> 01:09:30,166 and appreciation to others. 359 01:09:31,041 --> 01:09:31,916 These are opportunities 360 01:09:31,916 --> 01:09:33,833 that we must not pass by. 361 01:09:34,375 --> 01:09:35,291 When the opportunity 362 01:09:35,291 --> 01:09:37,333 presents itself, we must take it. 363 01:09:37,583 --> 01:09:39,583 Just do it now and not miss it 364 01:09:39,583 --> 01:09:40,500 because we may not have 365 01:09:40,500 --> 01:09:41,666 that opportunity again. 366 01:09:42,750 --> 01:09:44,791 Carnegie ends chapter two saying, quote, 367 01:09:45,250 --> 01:09:47,458 "give honest, sincere appreciation." 368 01:09:48,625 --> 01:09:49,875 Be hardy in your approval 369 01:09:49,875 --> 01:09:51,333 and lavish in your praise 370 01:09:51,916 --> 01:09:52,958 and people will cherish 371 01:09:52,958 --> 01:09:54,625 your words and treasure them 372 01:09:54,625 --> 01:09:56,458 and repeat them over a lifetime. 373 01:09:57,416 --> 01:09:58,625 Repeat them years after 374 01:09:58,625 --> 01:10:00,208 you have forgotten them. 375 01:10:00,208 --> 01:10:00,458 End quote. 376 01:10:01,333 --> 01:10:02,750 All right, you've earned it. 377 01:10:02,750 --> 01:10:03,791 Here it is, Carnegie's 378 01:10:03,791 --> 01:10:04,916 principle number two, 379 01:10:05,500 --> 01:10:07,791 give honest and sincere appreciation. 380 01:10:08,625 --> 01:10:09,458 So now we have it. 381 01:10:09,458 --> 01:10:10,125 We have Carnegie's 382 01:10:10,125 --> 01:10:11,250 first and second principles 383 01:10:11,625 --> 01:10:12,458 on how to win friends 384 01:10:12,458 --> 01:10:13,333 and influence people. 385 01:10:13,750 --> 01:10:15,250 First, don't 386 01:10:15,250 --> 01:10:16,333 criticize, condemn or complain. 387 01:10:16,875 --> 01:10:18,333 And second, give honest 388 01:10:18,333 --> 01:10:19,916 and sincere appreciation. 389 01:10:21,291 --> 01:10:22,041 All right, we'll begin 390 01:10:22,041 --> 01:10:22,916 chapter three on Monday 391 01:10:22,916 --> 01:10:24,291 and I really hope you come back for that. 392 01:10:24,750 --> 01:10:25,833 Chapter three is entitled, 393 01:10:26,458 --> 01:10:28,291 He Who Can Do This Has 394 01:10:28,291 --> 01:10:29,666 The Whole World With Him. 395 01:10:30,250 --> 01:10:32,333 He Who Cannot Walks A Lonely Way. 396 01:10:32,916 --> 01:10:34,416 Well, happy Friday to you again. 397 01:10:34,708 --> 01:10:35,333 You've made it to the 398 01:10:35,333 --> 01:10:36,583 first weekend of the new year. 399 01:10:36,583 --> 01:10:37,666 That's got to count for something. 400 01:10:38,416 --> 01:10:39,333 Go out there, tell 401 01:10:39,333 --> 01:10:40,541 someone you appreciate them 402 01:10:40,541 --> 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