1 01:00:00,666 --> 01:00:01,541 Good morning. 2 01:00:03,166 --> 01:00:05,583 And welcome to your morning cereal. 3 01:00:11,666 --> 01:00:13,250 Well, hello and welcome to Friday. 4 01:00:13,791 --> 01:00:14,750 Well, we're in this kind 5 01:00:14,750 --> 01:00:16,500 of in-between holiday haze 6 01:00:17,041 --> 01:00:19,125 that we've just got another week or so of 7 01:00:19,125 --> 01:00:20,083 that we're just kind 8 01:00:20,083 --> 01:00:21,083 of making it through. 9 01:00:21,083 --> 01:00:22,041 Not that I'm complaining, 10 01:00:22,541 --> 01:00:24,041 I really enjoy this time. 11 01:00:24,375 --> 01:00:25,541 We're lucky enough to 12 01:00:25,541 --> 01:00:26,416 have a little extra time 13 01:00:26,416 --> 01:00:27,958 with the family over this time period. 14 01:00:28,458 --> 01:00:29,208 Well, I guess we've got 15 01:00:29,208 --> 01:00:30,125 the weekend coming up here 16 01:00:30,250 --> 01:00:31,083 and some of us might be 17 01:00:31,083 --> 01:00:32,708 looking at end of the year parties 18 01:00:33,000 --> 01:00:34,416 or planning for a New Year's Eve 19 01:00:34,416 --> 01:00:35,541 celebrations next week. 20 01:00:36,291 --> 01:00:37,208 So like I already said, 21 01:00:37,208 --> 01:00:38,125 we're kind of in this 22 01:00:38,125 --> 01:00:39,958 holiday celebrating mode 23 01:00:40,500 --> 01:00:41,791 and I hope you and your family 24 01:00:41,791 --> 01:00:43,375 are really enjoying the time as well. 25 01:00:44,041 --> 01:00:45,166 Okay, well, let's go ahead 26 01:00:45,166 --> 01:00:46,500 and jump into today's episode 27 01:00:47,083 --> 01:00:48,541 with today's quotes where we 28 01:00:48,541 --> 01:00:50,500 give one fun nostalgic quote 29 01:00:50,500 --> 01:00:51,500 from the 80s, 90s or 30 01:00:51,500 --> 01:00:53,000 2000s and then a second quote 31 01:00:53,416 --> 01:00:54,416 to tease our book 32 01:00:54,416 --> 01:00:55,583 review later in the episode. 33 01:00:56,500 --> 01:00:57,416 I'm hopeful one of the 34 01:00:57,416 --> 01:00:58,458 quotes will speak to you 35 01:00:58,541 --> 01:00:59,416 and jumpstart your day 36 01:00:59,416 --> 01:01:00,416 in a positive direction. 37 01:01:00,833 --> 01:01:02,791 Also, it's national fruitcake day. 38 01:01:03,125 --> 01:01:05,208 So that's already a big win for us today. 39 01:01:05,583 --> 01:01:06,708 All right, the first 40 01:01:06,708 --> 01:01:08,250 quote is from Hope Floats 41 01:01:08,708 --> 01:01:10,375 and it seems to fit on a 42 01:01:10,375 --> 01:01:12,416 lazy Friday between holidays. 43 01:01:12,791 --> 01:01:13,333 So here it is. 44 01:01:13,916 --> 01:01:14,916 "My life has no big 45 01:01:14,916 --> 01:01:16,875 meaning or direction or purpose 46 01:01:17,375 --> 01:01:17,875 and I'm happy." 47 01:01:18,416 --> 01:01:19,083 I like that. 48 01:01:19,416 --> 01:01:20,166 Sometimes it's harder to 49 01:01:20,166 --> 01:01:21,083 be happy than we think. 50 01:01:21,958 --> 01:01:22,958 Okay, and today's teaser 51 01:01:22,958 --> 01:01:24,666 quote from the book review is, 52 01:01:25,083 --> 01:01:28,041 "I've asked too much, too much." 53 01:01:28,625 --> 01:01:29,791 As usual, we'll unpack 54 01:01:29,791 --> 01:01:30,791 that here in a minute 55 01:01:30,916 --> 01:01:32,000 during the book review segment. 56 01:01:32,458 --> 01:01:33,791 But first, let's jump into 57 01:01:33,791 --> 01:01:35,041 our usual dose of nostalgia 58 01:01:35,041 --> 01:01:36,875 and fun facts from this day in history. 59 01:01:37,625 --> 01:01:39,791 Today's nostalgic and historic news facts 60 01:01:39,791 --> 01:01:42,000 are for December 27th. 61 01:01:42,250 --> 01:01:44,208 In 1831, Charles Darwin 62 01:01:44,208 --> 01:01:45,833 set sail on the HMS Beagle, 63 01:01:46,416 --> 01:01:47,375 beginning the voyage on 64 01:01:47,375 --> 01:01:48,500 which he would formulate 65 01:01:48,666 --> 01:01:49,791 his theory of evolution. 66 01:01:50,333 --> 01:01:51,916 As a side note, that's the answer 67 01:01:51,916 --> 01:01:53,791 to a trivial pursuit question. 68 01:01:53,833 --> 01:01:55,791 So pocket that little tidbit of info. 69 01:01:56,250 --> 01:01:59,250 In 1932, Radio City Music Hall opened up 70 01:01:59,250 --> 01:02:00,500 at Rockefeller Center in Manhattan. 71 01:02:01,416 --> 01:02:04,458 In 1947, the first airing of NBC's 72 01:02:04,666 --> 01:02:05,916 Howdy Duty Show took place. 73 01:02:06,416 --> 01:02:07,250 I vaguely remember 74 01:02:07,250 --> 01:02:08,500 seeing the show as a kid. 75 01:02:08,833 --> 01:02:09,958 I'm not sure if those were reruns 76 01:02:09,958 --> 01:02:10,708 or if it was still 77 01:02:10,708 --> 01:02:11,750 running at that point in time. 78 01:02:12,791 --> 01:02:15,458 In 1975, Queen scored 79 01:02:15,458 --> 01:02:16,750 their first number one album 80 01:02:16,750 --> 01:02:18,708 in the UK with A Night at the Opera, 81 01:02:18,958 --> 01:02:19,625 which included their 82 01:02:19,625 --> 01:02:20,500 first number one hit, 83 01:02:20,750 --> 01:02:21,625 Bohemian Rap City. 84 01:02:22,583 --> 01:02:26,000 In 1981, Edmonton oiler Wayne Gretzky 85 01:02:26,000 --> 01:02:27,833 became the fastest NHLer to 86 01:02:27,833 --> 01:02:29,208 get 100 points in a season. 87 01:02:29,625 --> 01:02:30,833 It took him 38 games. 88 01:02:31,458 --> 01:02:32,250 I honestly can't 89 01:02:32,250 --> 01:02:33,541 believe Wayne Gretzky facts 90 01:02:34,375 --> 01:02:35,916 are from the early 80s. 91 01:02:36,250 --> 01:02:36,625 Time flies. 92 01:02:38,041 --> 01:02:39,791 Okay, in 2008, Taylor 93 01:02:39,791 --> 01:02:41,666 Swift began a seven week run 94 01:02:41,666 --> 01:02:42,500 at the top of the album 95 01:02:42,500 --> 01:02:43,916 charts with her album Fearless, 96 01:02:44,416 --> 01:02:46,625 featuring the title track, Love Story, 97 01:02:46,833 --> 01:02:47,666 and You Belong to Me. 98 01:02:48,500 --> 01:02:49,750 And speaking of Tay Tay, 99 01:02:50,291 --> 01:02:51,833 how are those Kansas City Chiefs doing? 100 01:02:53,333 --> 01:02:55,000 Okay, moving on to birthdays. 101 01:02:55,000 --> 01:02:56,583 Happy birthday, today is your birthday. 102 01:02:57,041 --> 01:02:58,458 You share a birthday with a 103 01:02:58,458 --> 01:02:59,958 somewhat short list today. 104 01:03:01,125 --> 01:03:02,583 Here's the first one. 105 01:03:12,000 --> 01:03:12,666 There it is. 106 01:03:13,625 --> 01:03:15,375 Shay Mooney is a 107 01:03:15,375 --> 01:03:16,458 singer from Dan and Shay. 108 01:03:16,958 --> 01:03:18,791 He'll be just 33 years old. 109 01:03:19,625 --> 01:03:20,083 That's incredible. 110 01:03:20,833 --> 01:03:22,291 Timothy Chalamet from the 111 01:03:22,291 --> 01:03:24,000 newest Wonka movie in Dune. 112 01:03:24,333 --> 01:03:24,958 He's even younger. 113 01:03:26,041 --> 01:03:27,083 He's 28 today. 114 01:03:28,500 --> 01:03:30,041 And Shelly Ann Fraser Price, 115 01:03:30,291 --> 01:03:32,166 you might know her as the gold medal 116 01:03:32,166 --> 01:03:33,250 winning Jamaican sprinter. 117 01:03:34,333 --> 01:03:35,833 She's 37 years old today. 118 01:03:36,708 --> 01:03:38,041 So happy birthday to everybody. 119 01:03:39,375 --> 01:03:40,416 And now to my favorite 120 01:03:40,416 --> 01:03:41,625 segment of the morning serial, 121 01:03:42,208 --> 01:03:44,625 the music of the 80s, the 90s, and 2000s. 122 01:03:45,791 --> 01:03:47,208 Okay, and this song 123 01:03:47,208 --> 01:03:49,916 was number one in 1995. 124 01:04:00,208 --> 01:04:00,875 I know I say it on 125 01:04:00,875 --> 01:04:02,041 every episode, I feel like, 126 01:04:02,958 --> 01:04:03,791 but I guess because 127 01:04:03,791 --> 01:04:04,791 they're all number one songs, 128 01:04:04,791 --> 01:04:06,916 but you can definitely 129 01:04:06,916 --> 01:04:09,375 recognize these songs 130 01:04:09,375 --> 01:04:10,041 in the first bar. 131 01:04:14,666 --> 01:04:16,416 (upbeat music) 132 01:04:20,500 --> 01:04:22,708 This is One Sweet Day by 133 01:04:22,708 --> 01:04:24,083 Mariah Carey and Boys Da Men. 134 01:04:24,625 --> 01:04:25,500 This song actually held the 135 01:04:25,500 --> 01:04:27,000 number one spot for 16 weeks, 136 01:04:27,541 --> 01:04:29,625 which broke Whitney Houston's I Will 137 01:04:29,625 --> 01:04:30,500 Always Love You record. 138 01:04:31,000 --> 01:04:31,958 We talked about that yesterday. 139 01:04:32,750 --> 01:04:33,875 In fact, the One Sweet 140 01:04:33,875 --> 01:04:35,708 Day record would stand 141 01:04:36,291 --> 01:04:38,000 for an incredible 23 years 142 01:04:38,000 --> 01:04:39,375 as the longest number one 143 01:04:40,166 --> 01:04:40,625 at the top of the 144 01:04:40,625 --> 01:04:42,875 billboards for 16 weeks. 145 01:04:44,666 --> 01:04:46,666 (upbeat music) 146 01:04:46,666 --> 01:04:48,750 The early to mid 90s 147 01:04:48,750 --> 01:04:49,875 were my high school years, 148 01:04:49,875 --> 01:04:52,708 so these songs just really take me back. 149 01:04:56,833 --> 01:04:58,125 So you might be asking, 150 01:04:58,791 --> 01:05:00,875 what song broke the record? 151 01:05:01,333 --> 01:05:03,000 That stood for 23 years. 152 01:05:03,958 --> 01:05:05,000 Well, it was this song. 153 01:05:05,375 --> 01:05:12,125 (upbeat music) 154 01:05:13,958 --> 01:05:16,416 Old Town Road by Lil Nas X. 155 01:05:16,458 --> 01:05:30,291 (upbeat music) 156 01:05:30,291 --> 01:05:35,250 Another great song, don't get me wrong. 157 01:05:35,583 --> 01:05:37,458 It's on my playlists. 158 01:05:38,208 --> 01:05:39,541 I think it's on my workout list too. 159 01:05:43,333 --> 01:05:43,791 All right. 160 01:05:44,458 --> 01:05:46,875 Well, and finally, here's the anthem song 161 01:05:47,125 --> 01:05:49,625 from the number one movie in 1984. 162 01:05:52,166 --> 01:06:02,625 (upbeat music) 163 01:06:08,333 --> 01:06:09,833 Another easy one to recognize, 164 01:06:09,833 --> 01:06:10,791 but the name of it 165 01:06:10,791 --> 01:06:12,083 would be hard to remember. 166 01:06:12,333 --> 01:06:13,333 I would never have remembered it. 167 01:06:14,250 --> 01:06:17,666 This is probably another quiz answer. 168 01:06:21,375 --> 01:06:22,833 Anyways, it's Axle F 169 01:06:22,833 --> 01:06:24,125 by Harold Falton Mayer, 170 01:06:24,833 --> 01:06:25,833 and it's from the 171 01:06:25,833 --> 01:06:27,333 number one movie in 1984, 172 01:06:27,708 --> 01:06:28,750 Beverly Hills Cop. 173 01:06:29,583 --> 01:06:30,541 I need to rewatch 174 01:06:30,541 --> 01:06:31,625 that movie at some point. 175 01:06:32,583 --> 01:06:33,833 I did notice that it's rated 176 01:06:33,833 --> 01:06:35,250 R when I was preparing this, 177 01:06:35,666 --> 01:06:37,791 so I can only imagine what's in it. 178 01:06:38,416 --> 01:06:39,958 Right now, most PG-13 179 01:06:39,958 --> 01:06:41,791 movies from the 80s are rated R 180 01:06:41,875 --> 01:06:43,208 by today's standards. 181 01:06:44,250 --> 01:06:45,750 All right, great song, great movies. 182 01:06:46,416 --> 01:06:47,875 Okay, well, let's move 183 01:06:47,875 --> 01:06:48,958 on to some enlightenment 184 01:06:49,291 --> 01:06:50,000 in the book review 185 01:06:50,000 --> 01:06:51,041 segment of Morning Serial, 186 01:06:51,416 --> 01:06:52,458 where we take a few moments 187 01:06:52,458 --> 01:06:53,791 to reflect on lessons learned 188 01:06:53,791 --> 01:06:55,416 from the current book we're reading. 189 01:06:56,000 --> 01:06:56,625 And currently, we're 190 01:06:56,625 --> 01:06:57,958 reading through Dale Carnegie's 191 01:06:57,958 --> 01:06:59,583 How to Win Friends and Influence People. 192 01:07:00,541 --> 01:07:02,000 It's a timeless book that's 193 01:07:02,000 --> 01:07:03,625 consistently on must read lists 194 01:07:03,916 --> 01:07:05,500 and it's packed with rock solid advice 195 01:07:05,500 --> 01:07:06,458 for all of us to use 196 01:07:06,458 --> 01:07:08,083 and build healthy foundational concepts 197 01:07:08,083 --> 01:07:09,166 and actions to live by. 198 01:07:09,666 --> 01:07:10,541 All right, well, we're 199 01:07:10,541 --> 01:07:11,750 finishing up chapter one today. 200 01:07:12,041 --> 01:07:12,916 And it's entitled, If 201 01:07:12,916 --> 01:07:14,250 You Want to Gather Honey, 202 01:07:14,458 --> 01:07:15,500 Don't Kick Over the Beehive. 203 01:07:16,375 --> 01:07:17,333 On the last show, we 204 01:07:17,333 --> 01:07:18,458 discussed how the art 205 01:07:18,458 --> 01:07:19,083 of dealing with 206 01:07:19,083 --> 01:07:20,458 people is a learned process 207 01:07:20,750 --> 01:07:22,791 and that it also includes self-control 208 01:07:23,125 --> 01:07:24,125 to implement these skills. 209 01:07:24,791 --> 01:07:25,791 We ended yesterday 210 01:07:25,791 --> 01:07:27,000 with Carnegie pointing out 211 01:07:27,000 --> 01:07:28,791 that we need to rise above our emotions, 212 01:07:29,333 --> 01:07:30,666 above a situation, and 213 01:07:30,666 --> 01:07:31,666 take a measured approach 214 01:07:31,666 --> 01:07:33,375 to our actions and how we speak 215 01:07:33,791 --> 01:07:35,125 and how we treat other people. 216 01:07:35,708 --> 01:07:37,000 And ended with a quote 217 01:07:37,000 --> 01:07:38,416 from Thomas Carlisle saying, 218 01:07:38,750 --> 01:07:41,500 "A great man or woman shows his greatness 219 01:07:41,916 --> 01:07:43,541 by the way he treats little men." 220 01:07:44,625 --> 01:07:45,500 So this is a quote 221 01:07:45,500 --> 01:07:47,083 that does hit home for me. 222 01:07:47,416 --> 01:07:48,875 And I'm sure you're like 223 01:07:48,875 --> 01:07:50,208 me in that we don't wanna be 224 01:07:50,208 --> 01:07:51,416 the person that's 225 01:07:51,416 --> 01:07:52,625 known to be quick to anger 226 01:07:52,625 --> 01:07:53,708 or the person that just 227 01:07:53,708 --> 01:07:55,291 snubs or blows somebody off 228 01:07:55,666 --> 01:07:56,958 and skips right past them. 229 01:07:57,416 --> 01:07:59,125 We don't want to be the person 230 01:07:59,125 --> 01:07:59,625 that is always 231 01:07:59,625 --> 01:08:02,666 defensive or one upper, right? 232 01:08:02,666 --> 01:08:03,916 But we do want to be the 233 01:08:03,916 --> 01:08:05,458 person that adds positivity 234 01:08:05,625 --> 01:08:07,000 to whatever situation we're in. 235 01:08:07,541 --> 01:08:08,416 Now, don't get me wrong. 236 01:08:08,625 --> 01:08:10,000 I'm not an all rainbows 237 01:08:10,000 --> 01:08:11,125 and unicorns kind of guy 238 01:08:11,208 --> 01:08:13,500 all the time because there are times 239 01:08:13,500 --> 01:08:15,083 when we do need to be more aggressive 240 01:08:15,416 --> 01:08:16,833 and that's what the influence 241 01:08:16,833 --> 01:08:18,083 part of the book is all about. 242 01:08:18,625 --> 01:08:19,375 And we're gonna get to that. 243 01:08:20,041 --> 01:08:21,500 So the final pages of 244 01:08:21,500 --> 01:08:22,875 chapter one are dedicated 245 01:08:22,875 --> 01:08:25,166 to a very popular classic poem entitled, 246 01:08:25,541 --> 01:08:27,750 "Father Forgets" by W Livingston Learned, 247 01:08:28,416 --> 01:08:30,333 which Carnegie uses as 248 01:08:30,333 --> 01:08:32,250 a request to the reader 249 01:08:32,250 --> 01:08:33,500 to consider before you 250 01:08:33,500 --> 01:08:34,458 criticize other people. 251 01:08:35,083 --> 01:08:36,000 And in this case, 252 01:08:36,000 --> 01:08:37,125 specifically your children. 253 01:08:37,666 --> 01:08:38,750 I'd encourage you to 254 01:08:38,750 --> 01:08:39,666 Google Father Forgets 255 01:08:40,000 --> 01:08:41,125 by W Livingston Learned 256 01:08:41,625 --> 01:08:43,250 and read the whole poem for yourself. 257 01:08:43,791 --> 01:08:45,416 It will take four minutes of your time. 258 01:08:45,666 --> 01:08:46,958 And if you have kids, it 259 01:08:46,958 --> 01:08:47,958 will definitely hit home. 260 01:08:48,583 --> 01:08:49,958 And I will say it brought tears to my 261 01:08:49,958 --> 01:08:50,833 eyes when I read it. 262 01:08:51,500 --> 01:08:53,291 Okay, to summarize this poem, 263 01:08:53,625 --> 01:08:54,666 one night a father 264 01:08:54,666 --> 01:08:55,833 has a sudden realization 265 01:08:56,333 --> 01:08:58,583 and he slips into his young son's room 266 01:08:58,875 --> 01:08:59,916 while he's still sleeping. 267 01:09:00,250 --> 01:09:01,208 And the father reflects 268 01:09:01,208 --> 01:09:03,333 on the moments of harshness 269 01:09:03,541 --> 01:09:04,625 towards his young son 270 01:09:04,625 --> 01:09:05,958 throughout that particular day. 271 01:09:06,500 --> 01:09:08,458 The father acknowledges his impatience 272 01:09:08,625 --> 01:09:09,083 and his critical 273 01:09:09,083 --> 01:09:11,208 behavior, scolding the young boy, 274 01:09:11,208 --> 01:09:12,583 often for small mistakes, 275 01:09:13,250 --> 01:09:14,416 nagging about his actions 276 01:09:14,625 --> 01:09:16,125 and expecting perfection. 277 01:09:17,208 --> 01:09:18,250 This is a quote from the poem 278 01:09:18,458 --> 01:09:20,000 where the father is speaking to himself. 279 01:09:21,166 --> 01:09:23,250 Quote, "What has habit been doing to me? 280 01:09:23,666 --> 01:09:24,791 The habit of finding 281 01:09:24,791 --> 01:09:26,625 fault or reprimanding." 282 01:09:26,833 --> 01:09:27,125 End quote. 283 01:09:27,958 --> 01:09:29,458 And as the father watches his son 284 01:09:29,458 --> 01:09:30,458 peacefully sleeping, 285 01:09:30,458 --> 01:09:32,416 he's overcome with remorse and love 286 01:09:33,083 --> 01:09:35,291 as he realizes that he has, quote, 287 01:09:35,750 --> 01:09:37,250 "Expected too much of youth. 288 01:09:37,791 --> 01:09:39,041 I was measuring you by the 289 01:09:39,041 --> 01:09:40,750 yardsticks of my own years." 290 01:09:41,166 --> 01:09:41,416 End quote. 291 01:09:41,916 --> 01:09:44,333 That is as true then as it is now. 292 01:09:44,333 --> 01:09:45,958 I know as a father to my own children, 293 01:09:46,166 --> 01:09:46,708 I hold them 294 01:09:46,708 --> 01:09:48,791 accountable to tasks or behaviors 295 01:09:48,791 --> 01:09:49,791 that I would expect of 296 01:09:49,791 --> 01:09:51,458 an adult, not of children. 297 01:09:52,000 --> 01:09:53,416 And likely when I was their age, 298 01:09:53,416 --> 01:09:54,458 I was doing the same thing 299 01:09:54,458 --> 01:09:55,375 that was age appropriate. 300 01:09:56,916 --> 01:09:58,541 Back to the poem, the father, 301 01:09:58,708 --> 01:10:00,958 as he's sitting besides his sleeping son, 302 01:10:01,250 --> 01:10:03,125 he recalls his son's innocence 303 01:10:03,125 --> 01:10:04,625 and pure love during the day 304 01:10:05,125 --> 01:10:07,416 in between the father's constant scolding 305 01:10:08,000 --> 01:10:09,375 as the son excitedly 306 01:10:09,375 --> 01:10:11,208 waved goodbye to go to school, 307 01:10:11,208 --> 01:10:12,833 but he didn't stand up straight enough. 308 01:10:13,458 --> 01:10:14,541 And when the son came into 309 01:10:14,541 --> 01:10:15,833 the father's office for a hug, 310 01:10:16,250 --> 01:10:18,000 but dad was annoyed at the interruption. 311 01:10:18,875 --> 01:10:21,125 And still, despite failure after failure 312 01:10:21,375 --> 01:10:22,500 in his father's eyes, 313 01:10:22,916 --> 01:10:24,958 the son still was spontaneously excited 314 01:10:24,958 --> 01:10:25,958 to rush across the 315 01:10:25,958 --> 01:10:26,958 room for a kiss goodnight. 316 01:10:27,916 --> 01:10:29,541 As these thoughts flowed 317 01:10:29,541 --> 01:10:30,916 through the father's mind, 318 01:10:30,916 --> 01:10:31,875 the father felt ashamed. 319 01:10:32,416 --> 01:10:33,166 And even though his 320 01:10:33,166 --> 01:10:34,500 son may not understand, 321 01:10:34,791 --> 01:10:36,250 the father's epiphany that night, 322 01:10:36,750 --> 01:10:38,583 the father pledged to be a better dad. 323 01:10:39,125 --> 01:10:40,541 Ending the poem with, "I 324 01:10:40,541 --> 01:10:43,375 have asked too much, too much." 325 01:10:44,541 --> 01:10:46,125 It's a powerful poem, 326 01:10:46,375 --> 01:10:48,375 one that I think we can all relate to, 327 01:10:48,791 --> 01:10:49,541 definitely if you have 328 01:10:49,541 --> 01:10:51,208 kids, but even if you don't, 329 01:10:51,625 --> 01:10:52,625 I read this book years 330 01:10:52,625 --> 01:10:53,625 before I had children, 331 01:10:53,833 --> 01:10:54,750 and I remember thinking 332 01:10:54,750 --> 01:10:56,250 it gave me some perspective 333 01:10:56,500 --> 01:10:58,083 on how my parents raised me. 334 01:10:59,125 --> 01:11:01,333 So the poem serves as a reminder 335 01:11:01,541 --> 01:11:02,958 to prioritize compassion 336 01:11:02,958 --> 01:11:04,708 over criticism and parenting. 337 01:11:05,291 --> 01:11:07,083 And that strategy also relates 338 01:11:07,083 --> 01:11:08,416 to how we deal with other people. 339 01:11:09,291 --> 01:11:10,125 Carnegie ends chapter 340 01:11:10,125 --> 01:11:11,791 one with this, quote, 341 01:11:12,583 --> 01:11:13,833 "Instead of condemning people, 342 01:11:14,166 --> 01:11:15,500 let's try to understand them. 343 01:11:15,791 --> 01:11:16,916 Let's try to figure out 344 01:11:16,916 --> 01:11:18,625 why they do what they do. 345 01:11:19,416 --> 01:11:21,000 That's a lot more profitable and 346 01:11:21,000 --> 01:11:22,916 intriguing than criticism. 347 01:11:23,333 --> 01:11:25,750 And it breeds sympathy, tolerance, and 348 01:11:25,750 --> 01:11:26,833 kindness," end quote. 349 01:11:27,666 --> 01:11:29,333 And Carnegie provides this final quote 350 01:11:29,333 --> 01:11:31,125 from the English writer, Samuel Johnson, 351 01:11:31,250 --> 01:11:34,000 who said, "God himself, sir, does not 352 01:11:34,000 --> 01:11:35,333 propose to judge man 353 01:11:35,333 --> 01:11:37,875 until the end of his days," end quote. 354 01:11:38,583 --> 01:11:39,500 And that's a great point. 355 01:11:39,958 --> 01:11:40,875 Take any one of us, 356 01:11:40,875 --> 01:11:42,583 and at any given moment, 357 01:11:42,583 --> 01:11:44,791 we may be having a win moment or a loss 358 01:11:44,791 --> 01:11:45,750 moment in our lives. 359 01:11:46,291 --> 01:11:47,583 I know we would not want to 360 01:11:47,583 --> 01:11:48,750 be judged and characterized 361 01:11:49,083 --> 01:11:51,125 solely by a single bad moment, 362 01:11:51,875 --> 01:11:52,833 as though that's how 363 01:11:52,833 --> 01:11:54,083 we live our whole life. 364 01:11:54,333 --> 01:11:56,750 And I'm guessing that's how most other 365 01:11:56,750 --> 01:11:57,625 people feel as well. 366 01:11:58,041 --> 01:12:00,333 So Carnegie says, "If God judges a man 367 01:12:00,458 --> 01:12:02,291 by the sum of his life, then 368 01:12:02,291 --> 01:12:04,083 perhaps so should you and I." 369 01:12:04,541 --> 01:12:05,833 That's pretty good advice, 370 01:12:06,166 --> 01:12:07,500 and it's how Carnegie 371 01:12:07,500 --> 01:12:09,708 brings us to the first principle 372 01:12:10,125 --> 01:12:10,875 in how to win friends 373 01:12:10,875 --> 01:12:11,708 and influence people. 374 01:12:12,291 --> 01:12:14,333 And that is, quote, "Don't criticize, 375 01:12:14,875 --> 01:12:16,500 condemn, or complain," 376 01:12:17,333 --> 01:12:17,708 end quote. 377 01:12:18,500 --> 01:12:19,833 All right, nice work. 378 01:12:20,250 --> 01:12:21,708 If you joined us for the last few days, 379 01:12:21,708 --> 01:12:23,041 you've made it through chapter one 380 01:12:23,916 --> 01:12:24,583 in "How to Win Friends 381 01:12:24,583 --> 01:12:25,500 and Influence People." 382 01:12:25,666 --> 01:12:26,250 Great job. 383 01:12:27,083 --> 01:12:28,791 Tomorrow will begin chapter two, 384 01:12:29,208 --> 01:12:31,083 which is entitled "The Big Secret of 385 01:12:31,083 --> 01:12:31,916 Dealing with People." 386 01:12:32,166 --> 01:12:33,916 So be sure to tune back in tomorrow 387 01:12:34,166 --> 01:12:35,625 as we dive into chapter two. 388 01:12:36,750 --> 01:12:47,125 (upbeat music) 389 01:12:54,166 --> 01:12:55,791 And don't forget to follow and subscribe 390 01:12:55,791 --> 01:12:57,125 to the Morning Serial podcast, 391 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