In this episode, I’m sharing a powerful tool that helped me face a lifelong fear of scuba diving… and ended up expanding my life in ways I didn’t expect. I walk you through how I unknowingly used an alter ego to move through fear and anxiety — without forcing confidence or over-coaching myself. I talk about borrowing the traits of someone I admire and why that worked when nothing else did.
Alter egos have been used for centuries by performers, athletes, and everyday people to show up differently in high-pressure moments. They work because they create psychological distance—bypassing the part of the brain that overthinks and hesitates.
It isn’t about character acting or pretending to be someone else.
It’s about accessing parts of you that already exist—and letting them lead when fear or self-doubt would normally take over.
If you’ve been holding back or waiting to feel ready, this episode will give you a tool to take your next brave step.
You’ll Learn:
- What an alter ego actually is
- How borrowing traits from someone or something empowers you
- Why identity matters more than motivation or willpower
- How to create and use an alter ego in one specific area of your life
- Simple ways to practice this tool in low-stakes, everyday moments
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What is Break Free with Becky?
Feeling stuck? Break free from anxiety, depression, and the patterns that hold you back. Join me as I share my recovery journey, along with practical coaching tools to help you grow stronger, feel capable, and create a life you love.