WEBVTT NOTE This file was generated by Descript 00:00:15.234 --> 00:00:20.744 Booth Parker: Today we are going to talk about embracing self accountability. 00:00:21.244 --> 00:00:25.914 So that can be a really difficult task when you move into the world 00:00:25.934 --> 00:00:30.394 of being self employed or even the whole work from home thing. 00:00:30.424 --> 00:00:34.794 So I know a lot of people obviously with COVID became a "work from home" 00:00:34.794 --> 00:00:39.714 versus "work in office" employee and so they've had to really change the 00:00:39.714 --> 00:00:41.964 way they get things done every day. 00:00:41.964 --> 00:00:47.279 So I have been asked numerous times how I hold myself accountable and 00:00:47.279 --> 00:00:51.629 how I made that shift when I left corporate America, the nine to 00:00:51.629 --> 00:00:53.229 five, whatever you want to call it. 00:00:53.309 --> 00:00:59.259 But when I left that several years ago and became self employed and do 00:00:59.259 --> 00:01:04.629 my own thing and how I hold myself accountable to get things done every day. 00:01:04.629 --> 00:01:08.439 It's really not something you think about before you make that shift. 00:01:08.449 --> 00:01:09.909 Do you think it's going to be easy? 00:01:10.189 --> 00:01:14.419 You're just so excited to maybe be leaving the rat race, whatever you want to call 00:01:14.419 --> 00:01:16.759 it, with the nine to five type situation. 00:01:17.069 --> 00:01:19.009 And so you don't think about it being. 00:01:19.164 --> 00:01:24.234 difficult now having all of the time for yourself to decide 00:01:24.234 --> 00:01:26.644 how you're going to spend it. 00:01:26.644 --> 00:01:32.494 But like many others, I, I also found it a little bit of a struggle when I left 00:01:32.494 --> 00:01:38.634 that corporate America mentality and the strict schedule and became self-employed. 00:01:38.654 --> 00:01:42.274 So, when you're a kid, your, your parents hold you accountable, right? 00:01:42.284 --> 00:01:45.144 They make you get out of bed at certain times, they make you go 00:01:45.144 --> 00:01:47.974 to bed at certain times, they make you eat dinner at certain times. 00:01:48.004 --> 00:01:51.774 So, you're very held accountable by your parents and a lot of the 00:01:51.774 --> 00:01:56.594 accountability that they are putting onto you is dictated by other schedules. 00:01:56.614 --> 00:02:02.494 Maybe their work schedule, definitely the school schedule, and you might not 00:02:02.494 --> 00:02:07.184 really care about disappointing your parents about going to bed on time, but 00:02:07.184 --> 00:02:09.154 you're, you get this kind of almost... 00:02:09.794 --> 00:02:12.164 Fear, you could call it, when you're a kid. 00:02:12.174 --> 00:02:18.324 It gets instilled in you that you need to stick to this schedule because 00:02:18.324 --> 00:02:22.304 you're being held accountable to someone and you might get in trouble 00:02:22.334 --> 00:02:24.564 if you're late or something like that. 00:02:24.994 --> 00:02:26.944 Remember that old tardy bell at school? 00:02:26.944 --> 00:02:30.924 If you came in after that final bell, you might have detention 00:02:31.204 --> 00:02:32.364 or something of the like. 00:02:32.394 --> 00:02:37.074 So it was instilled at a young age that you would answer to 00:02:37.294 --> 00:02:41.404 authority, basically, and that was who was holding you accountable. 00:02:41.404 --> 00:02:46.434 So fast forward, you grow up, you get a job, you get a big girl job, big 00:02:46.434 --> 00:02:52.094 boy job, whichever, you get a job, and now you're held accountable by that 00:02:52.334 --> 00:02:57.174 job schedule by your new boss, by your employer, however you want to look at it. 00:02:57.504 --> 00:03:03.124 And that whole fear of being late, of not getting things done is still there. 00:03:03.134 --> 00:03:07.944 Just like it was when you were a kid in school, because now the 00:03:07.944 --> 00:03:10.104 repercussions may not just be detention. 00:03:10.114 --> 00:03:13.844 Now they may be losing your job and being unemployed and not being able 00:03:13.844 --> 00:03:15.494 to feed yourself or pay your rent. 00:03:15.634 --> 00:03:18.064 So it can kind of spiral out of control quickly. 00:03:18.334 --> 00:03:25.064 And so that fear stays there and you stay accountable to the job, the boss, even if 00:03:25.064 --> 00:03:29.674 you don't love it and it's not making you happy, you still stay accountable to it. 00:03:29.674 --> 00:03:33.724 I know for me when I was working the whole nine to five thing and 00:03:33.724 --> 00:03:37.864 many others who have a strict work schedule that holds them accountable, 00:03:38.294 --> 00:03:42.664 you create the rest of your planner, your schedule for your personal life, 00:03:42.664 --> 00:03:44.404 your family, all that kind of stuff. 00:03:44.744 --> 00:03:48.514 You revolve it around that other schedule. 00:03:48.694 --> 00:03:52.364 So that work schedule is what's holding you accountable on all 00:03:52.364 --> 00:03:54.224 fronts in your life, so to speak. 00:03:54.734 --> 00:03:59.254 If you need to leave your house by 7:30 to drop the kids off at school, 00:03:59.254 --> 00:04:04.239 to get to work on time and a workout is important to you; you're going to 00:04:04.239 --> 00:04:09.679 have to get up at maybe 5:00 AM to get a workout in, but that's still... 00:04:09.709 --> 00:04:15.019 the accountability factor there is still actually the job holding over you, right? 00:04:15.019 --> 00:04:17.289 Like you are making yourself get up. 00:04:17.299 --> 00:04:20.719 You're, you're exerting some self discipline there, but the 00:04:20.719 --> 00:04:25.339 accountability is coming from you have to get it done before you go to 00:04:25.339 --> 00:04:27.249 work if it's going to happen that day. 00:04:27.249 --> 00:04:29.859 And likewise, that was when I started meal prepping. 00:04:29.859 --> 00:04:30.269 Okay. 00:04:30.309 --> 00:04:34.569 So I would meal prep on Sundays to get everything done for the week because 00:04:34.569 --> 00:04:38.969 I knew I wasn't getting home from work until 6:00 to 6:30, not really enough 00:04:38.969 --> 00:04:40.989 time to prep and cook a full meal. 00:04:41.279 --> 00:04:42.749 So I would do it ahead of time. 00:04:42.759 --> 00:04:47.129 I know a lot of people that meal plan, meal prep, that work and don't 00:04:47.129 --> 00:04:49.939 get home until later in the evenings because they need these things. 00:04:49.994 --> 00:04:50.524 Done. 00:04:50.664 --> 00:04:54.644 So the meal prepping, the errand running, the laundry, all of these 00:04:54.644 --> 00:04:59.524 kind of things get dictated by when you're at home and not at work. 00:04:59.524 --> 00:05:03.064 And the thing is, when you're super busy like that, and you know you're 00:05:03.074 --> 00:05:07.874 out of the house for 40 to 60 hours a week with a job, you get efficient and 00:05:07.874 --> 00:05:12.714 productive at getting things done because you look at your calendar and you find 00:05:12.714 --> 00:05:17.624 those little spaces to squeeze those tasks in and you get them done because 00:05:17.624 --> 00:05:19.624 you don't really have another choice. 00:05:20.071 --> 00:05:25.861 In all honesty, in a way, it was easier for me to get everything done when I was 00:05:25.861 --> 00:05:30.641 held accountable to that strict schedule until I implemented some new systems. 00:05:30.641 --> 00:05:34.971 But looking back at it, like I was, I had such little time to 00:05:34.971 --> 00:05:39.661 fit it all in that I was very, very efficient at getting it done. 00:05:39.661 --> 00:05:46.411 And then came the day I left the whole 9 to 5 rat race and can't lie, I kind of 00:05:46.441 --> 00:05:48.521 got into a rut with my schedule at first. 00:05:48.521 --> 00:05:52.181 I was like, oh, well, I don't have to do this quite yet this morning 00:05:52.191 --> 00:05:54.191 because I have time this afternoon. 00:05:54.551 --> 00:05:57.611 And before you know it, you haven't gotten anything done. 00:05:57.621 --> 00:06:01.611 You can't really list out any accomplishments for the day. 00:06:01.916 --> 00:06:05.486 And now it's dinner time, and you didn't meal prep, and you 00:06:05.486 --> 00:06:06.886 don't have anything to eat. 00:06:06.966 --> 00:06:11.066 So, it can quickly become a time vampire, so to speak. 00:06:11.396 --> 00:06:15.236 So you've got to create a way to hold yourself accountable 00:06:15.796 --> 00:06:17.756 to still stay on task. 00:06:17.756 --> 00:06:22.206 It's funny because I was so good at planning and scheduling, and then all of 00:06:22.206 --> 00:06:28.646 a sudden, I just wasn't doing it because I wasn't holding myself accountable in a 00:06:28.646 --> 00:06:32.376 way, it was probably like my inner child rebelling, like, no, I'm not going to 00:06:32.376 --> 00:06:39.006 school today or something like that, but it quickly became where I was not super 00:06:39.006 --> 00:06:44.916 joyful and content and fulfilled because I was letting myself down because I wasn't 00:06:44.926 --> 00:06:47.116 getting things done that I wanted to do. 00:06:47.313 --> 00:06:50.673 I wasn't getting the workout in and I wasn't getting new 00:06:50.683 --> 00:06:51.863 projects I wanted to start. 00:06:51.863 --> 00:06:55.613 I wasn't even getting them started, much less completed, so it was a whole kind 00:06:55.613 --> 00:07:01.773 of domino effect of not getting things completed or even started because there 00:07:01.773 --> 00:07:04.763 was no accountability factor whatsoever. 00:07:04.996 --> 00:07:09.316 So then one day I realized I was going to have to hold myself accountable. 00:07:09.476 --> 00:07:11.906 I was going to have to be accountable to me. 00:07:12.851 --> 00:07:14.751 But then the question is, how? 00:07:14.901 --> 00:07:17.171 And that's the question I've gotten asked by a lot of people. 00:07:17.391 --> 00:07:21.241 How did I decide to kind of put my foot down for myself and then 00:07:21.251 --> 00:07:23.131 start holding myself accountable? 00:07:23.131 --> 00:07:28.421 So I like to think of self discipline as a form of self love. 00:07:28.831 --> 00:07:33.121 It's really where the joy, the fulfillment, the contentment is found 00:07:33.381 --> 00:07:35.501 when you start with self discipline. 00:07:35.767 --> 00:07:40.137 I recognized that there was a lack of accountability in my life. 00:07:40.157 --> 00:07:43.217 I would look and see that things weren't getting done, and the why 00:07:43.227 --> 00:07:46.647 they weren't getting things done is because I wasn't making myself do them, 00:07:46.907 --> 00:07:50.557 I wasn't making things a priority, I didn't have the self discipline, 00:07:50.567 --> 00:07:53.837 the accountability, all of those factors, so things were not happening. 00:07:54.327 --> 00:07:58.617 And I had to stop and recognize that, and then recognize I was going to 00:07:58.617 --> 00:08:00.427 have to start doing these things. 00:08:00.427 --> 00:08:05.107 So now it's time to hold myself accountable and to be self disciplined. 00:08:05.427 --> 00:08:08.267 But what I'm really doing is I'm showing up for myself now. 00:08:08.297 --> 00:08:13.247 I used to show up for a boss or an employer, co-workers or whomever at 00:08:13.248 --> 00:08:14.937 work was putting the pressure on me. 00:08:15.602 --> 00:08:20.252 But now I'm showing up for myself and that's a better boss, right? 00:08:20.282 --> 00:08:21.362 Showing up for yourself. 00:08:21.402 --> 00:08:25.282 So when you kind of start to look at it that way, that you're showing up 00:08:25.292 --> 00:08:29.802 for you, that you are the boss now, you're in charge, it's motivating. 00:08:29.812 --> 00:08:34.722 You want to make that boss happy and proud of you, and you don't want to 00:08:34.722 --> 00:08:36.232 get in trouble with that boss, right? 00:08:36.272 --> 00:08:40.532 So show up for yourself, and that's where you are able to start 00:08:40.602 --> 00:08:44.052 implementing the self discipline to hold yourself accountable. 00:08:44.052 --> 00:08:47.162 It's like this big circle that just keeps going around and around and around. 00:08:47.192 --> 00:08:53.362 So when you implement self discipline, you are actually creating action. 00:08:53.382 --> 00:08:58.522 Because that self discipline is making you take action and get things done. 00:08:58.522 --> 00:09:02.452 And then once you start taking action on things, whether it's the workouts, or 00:09:02.802 --> 00:09:07.962 making a meal, or starting a project, any of those kind of things, those actions 00:09:08.002 --> 00:09:10.142 are what start to deliver results. 00:09:10.912 --> 00:09:14.442 And then as you start to get results, and the circle keeps going, it's 00:09:14.482 --> 00:09:19.752 getting the momentum, then you start getting success, and fulfillment, and 00:09:19.752 --> 00:09:21.612 joy, and all these kind of things. 00:09:21.729 --> 00:09:23.979 Like you probably already know, I'm a planner. 00:09:24.209 --> 00:09:30.419 So I had to decide what my plan was going to be to start with that self discipline, 00:09:30.429 --> 00:09:35.019 to get that whole circle, that whole wheel rolling and get that momentum going. 00:09:35.019 --> 00:09:39.409 That's where I went back to my planner and my schedule. 00:09:39.409 --> 00:09:42.719 So I recently was talking about productivity and how I do a 00:09:42.719 --> 00:09:44.219 lot of my planning nowadays. 00:09:45.594 --> 00:09:48.644 For a long time, I was just a paper person, and now I'm a 00:09:48.644 --> 00:09:50.904 blended paper digital person. 00:09:51.834 --> 00:09:55.514 But this is actually where I really started using the digital 00:09:55.604 --> 00:09:59.994 side more, was when I was trying to implement the self discipline. 00:10:00.994 --> 00:10:05.284 So the beauty of a Google Calendar is you can create an event in 00:10:05.284 --> 00:10:06.924 there and set it on repeat. 00:10:06.934 --> 00:10:10.604 You can say, every Tuesday at 10 o'clock, I'm going to hot yoga. 00:10:10.959 --> 00:10:14.829 And you put it in there and it goes ahead and blocks that time out for you. 00:10:15.309 --> 00:10:20.369 So that is what I started doing to implement a way 00:10:20.369 --> 00:10:22.089 to hold myself accountable. 00:10:22.099 --> 00:10:25.749 It was already on the schedule, week in and week out. 00:10:25.929 --> 00:10:29.579 So the workout classes I wanted to commit myself to, I went 00:10:29.589 --> 00:10:31.279 ahead and put them in there. 00:10:31.279 --> 00:10:33.499 I think they're in there for the rest of the year. 00:10:33.909 --> 00:10:36.969 So they're already in there every time I'm looking at what 00:10:36.969 --> 00:10:38.629 I have going on the next week. 00:10:39.079 --> 00:10:43.929 The other beautiful thing about putting these commitments to yourself into 00:10:43.929 --> 00:10:47.919 that Google Calendar and setting them on repeat is when you do need to make 00:10:47.919 --> 00:10:52.259 an appointment or maybe use Calendly for clients to make appointments, 00:10:52.759 --> 00:10:57.289 your "you time," your commitment to yourself is already blocked off. 00:10:57.329 --> 00:11:01.079 And so you know what to work around so that you don't end 00:11:01.079 --> 00:11:03.089 up letting yourself down. 00:11:03.259 --> 00:11:08.459 You've made your time and you a priority on your schedule. 00:11:08.639 --> 00:11:10.239 You're holding yourself accountable. 00:11:10.439 --> 00:11:11.809 You're getting those things done. 00:11:11.859 --> 00:11:17.259 Whether it's a workout, Or maybe you block out time to write. 00:11:17.269 --> 00:11:20.819 Maybe you're a writer and you want to block out two hours a day to write. 00:11:21.129 --> 00:11:24.839 You've got to, if you block it out on the calendar and make that commitment 00:11:24.839 --> 00:11:30.649 to yourself, you won't schedule stuff in its slot there on your calendar. 00:11:30.649 --> 00:11:35.069 Another big one that I messed up on when I left Corporate America 00:11:35.159 --> 00:11:40.479 and was now self employed doing my own thing was my mornings. 00:11:40.969 --> 00:11:45.099 So, some, I've heard some people say, I heard this one, one time, this 00:11:45.099 --> 00:11:48.559 guy said you don't need a morning routine, you just need morning habits. 00:11:48.779 --> 00:11:51.719 And I was like, well that's kind of what your morning routine is, is it's 00:11:52.034 --> 00:11:55.394 the habits you do every morning and they create the routine, but whether 00:11:55.394 --> 00:12:00.284 you call it a routine or habits, whichever, what you do every morning 00:12:00.364 --> 00:12:02.874 really does set your day up for success. 00:12:02.934 --> 00:12:07.294 It sets you up for getting things done, keeping that mindset of staying 00:12:07.294 --> 00:12:11.164 on task and accomplishing all of those things that you want to do. 00:12:11.164 --> 00:12:15.564 What I was doing wrong when I first left corporate America was I had a 00:12:15.564 --> 00:12:20.244 very set morning schedule back then and I, you know, the rebelling thing 00:12:20.244 --> 00:12:23.984 came out for a little while and my mornings were different every day. 00:12:23.994 --> 00:12:28.224 One morning I might sit and have coffee and journal the next morning. 00:12:28.264 --> 00:12:28.774 I. 00:12:29.099 --> 00:12:31.789 Might make an early morning appointment or something like that. 00:12:31.799 --> 00:12:36.849 And so I decided that I needed some cohesiveness to my mornings 00:12:37.079 --> 00:12:41.119 so that I was knocking things out that I wanted to do each day. 00:12:41.129 --> 00:12:45.309 It was really hard to get in good journal time when I was making 00:12:45.309 --> 00:12:46.894 an early morning appointment. 00:12:46.894 --> 00:12:50.734 And then by the time I got home, it's mid morning and there's other things to do 00:12:50.744 --> 00:12:52.694 and you don't have that sit down time. 00:12:53.174 --> 00:12:59.774 So I really created a dedicated morning routine of habits from journaling to, 00:12:59.784 --> 00:13:04.184 I like to read some type of educational material for 20 to 30 minutes every 00:13:04.184 --> 00:13:06.954 morning, whether it's a growth book or something where I'm learning more 00:13:06.964 --> 00:13:08.824 about my profession, things like that. 00:13:09.144 --> 00:13:13.009 My mind is freshest in the morning, even though I'm not necessarily 00:13:13.009 --> 00:13:17.189 a morning person, but my mind is freshest in the morning and I want 00:13:17.219 --> 00:13:20.689 to capitalize on that quality time. 00:13:21.079 --> 00:13:27.759 So by marking that space on my calendar for every day to have that time for 00:13:27.764 --> 00:13:32.989 myself, I'm already holding myself accountable and getting things done. 00:13:33.709 --> 00:13:36.049 All starts back on that wheel, right? 00:13:36.049 --> 00:13:40.489 Action, progress, results, and then the momentum just keeps right on going. 00:13:40.489 --> 00:13:43.429 And you may need to get an accountability partner. 00:13:43.429 --> 00:13:47.749 So some people work really well having someone else hold them accountable. 00:13:47.869 --> 00:13:50.719 Your spouse may even be able to hold you accountable. 00:13:50.719 --> 00:13:56.074 So if you really think you need some kind of additional accountability, get 00:13:56.094 --> 00:13:59.909 an accountability partner and like I said, it could be your spouse, it could 00:13:59.919 --> 00:14:03.889 be someone you don't know super well there's even apps and stuff out there 00:14:03.889 --> 00:14:07.839 where it can make you check in and things like that to hold you accountable. 00:14:07.879 --> 00:14:12.169 So if you need that little extra little kick in the butt, so to speak, then 00:14:12.169 --> 00:14:14.409 definitely do it and make it happen. 00:14:14.409 --> 00:14:19.749 So I like to do like a daily top three things that are like my goals for 00:14:19.749 --> 00:14:21.909 the day of things I want to get done. 00:14:22.169 --> 00:14:26.199 And as you're starting this journey of self accountability, they can 00:14:26.199 --> 00:14:29.339 be, they can be small things while you're getting that momentum going. 00:14:29.399 --> 00:14:33.499 So if the workout is a really big deal to you, you really want to 00:14:33.499 --> 00:14:37.139 make it happen, make that one of your daily top three for a while. 00:14:37.749 --> 00:14:41.219 But then you'll get to a place where you're holding yourself so accountable and 00:14:41.219 --> 00:14:42.999 it's there on the schedule and everything. 00:14:43.279 --> 00:14:46.669 It won't need to be on your daily top three because it's going to 00:14:46.679 --> 00:14:48.709 be on autopilot, so to speak. 00:14:48.719 --> 00:14:50.669 It's just going to be happening. 00:14:50.669 --> 00:14:53.979 Just like getting up and brushing your teeth and feeding the dog or whatever. 00:14:53.979 --> 00:14:59.222 So, start where you can check things off and you get that satisfaction. 00:14:59.222 --> 00:15:00.262 You're getting the results. 00:15:00.262 --> 00:15:01.222 You're taking action. 00:15:01.452 --> 00:15:02.282 You're getting the results. 00:15:02.312 --> 00:15:06.372 You're getting the momentum of that wheel of self accountability rolling. 00:15:06.652 --> 00:15:09.562 And then once you start making those little things, just. 00:15:10.017 --> 00:15:12.267 Habits that you almost don't even have to think about. 00:15:12.597 --> 00:15:16.557 Then you start putting the bigger projects you want to start and other tasks like 00:15:16.557 --> 00:15:20.667 that you want to do on that daily top three, because you've got the momentum 00:15:20.667 --> 00:15:22.397 to hold yourself accountable to them. 00:15:22.397 --> 00:15:27.867 And another thing I started doing was I don't have a really elaborate evening 00:15:27.867 --> 00:15:32.507 routine, but I do like to get in bed early enough where I can I like to 00:15:32.507 --> 00:15:35.747 read fiction at night, not the, not the stuff where I'm really trying to learn 00:15:35.747 --> 00:15:39.667 something, but maybe read for a little bit make some notes for the next day, 00:15:39.917 --> 00:15:45.567 but I definitely always like to review my tasks and my schedule for the next day. 00:15:45.567 --> 00:15:48.607 It kind of sets my brain up for when I wake up the next morning, 00:15:48.657 --> 00:15:52.447 I'm hitting the floor running and I'm getting those things done. 00:15:52.477 --> 00:15:54.727 And the accountability is already there. 00:15:54.737 --> 00:15:59.157 My brain knows what it's got to get checked off that next day. 00:15:59.157 --> 00:16:04.127 So taking a few minutes each night before you go to bed and reviewing those kind 00:16:04.127 --> 00:16:06.867 of things that you know you're going to have to hold yourself accountable 00:16:06.867 --> 00:16:11.447 for the next day goes ahead and sets you up for success the next day. 00:16:11.447 --> 00:16:13.397 We want to set ourselves up for success. 00:16:13.397 --> 00:16:13.737 Right? 00:16:13.757 --> 00:16:18.607 So, letting ourselves down can often be worse than letting others down. 00:16:18.607 --> 00:16:18.867 Right? 00:16:18.867 --> 00:16:20.477 We know what we expect of ourselves. 00:16:20.767 --> 00:16:23.337 We know what we're capable of deep down inside. 00:16:23.647 --> 00:16:27.757 And so when we let ourselves down, it really, really sets our 00:16:27.757 --> 00:16:30.945 mindset into a place where we are not moving forward with momentum. 00:16:30.945 --> 00:16:35.858 Implementing that accountability plan, back to that whole wheel. 00:16:35.868 --> 00:16:39.918 Getting that wheel, that big circle rolling with momentum 00:16:40.278 --> 00:16:41.648 actually will give you confidence. 00:16:41.758 --> 00:16:45.408 And confidence is what you need to keep going with all 00:16:45.408 --> 00:16:47.008 the new tasks you want to do. 00:16:47.068 --> 00:16:48.608 One little step leads to the next. 00:16:48.658 --> 00:16:50.128 The action, action, action. 00:16:50.368 --> 00:16:51.588 Results, results, results. 00:16:52.351 --> 00:16:56.601 I kind of like to think of it as a roadmap to your best self, and I know 00:16:56.601 --> 00:16:59.791 that whole best self thing is kind of played out these days, but it really is 00:16:59.811 --> 00:17:04.101 a true thing, like we want to live up to what we know we can do, and we want 00:17:04.121 --> 00:17:09.251 to put ourselves in a situation where we are happy, where we are content with 00:17:09.251 --> 00:17:12.871 what we're doing, where we are fulfilled with what we're achieving, and we're just 00:17:12.871 --> 00:17:18.011 very, very joy filled and grateful, and having that accountability plan to make 00:17:18.011 --> 00:17:24.221 sure you're holding yourself to your highest standard is how you get there. 00:17:24.821 --> 00:17:28.701 You've got to love yourself, but sometimes, and this one's hard, 00:17:28.701 --> 00:17:31.391 but sometimes you've got to give yourself a little tough love, right? 00:17:31.411 --> 00:17:35.571 Just like you would your kids maybe your spouse time to time, things like that. 00:17:35.591 --> 00:17:39.161 Sometimes you've got to give yourself a little tough love because 00:17:39.161 --> 00:17:43.441 you know what you can do if you just hold yourself accountable.