1 00:00:01,046 --> 00:00:06,713 Hello everyone and welcome to another great episode of Bikinis After Babies. 2 00:00:06,713 --> 00:00:09,036 Thank you so much for joining us again. 3 00:00:09,036 --> 00:00:12,942 We have a fantastic episode to bring to you guys today. 4 00:00:12,942 --> 00:00:15,986 But of course, I am one of your hosts, Mandy Rashawn, here with your other 5 00:00:15,986 --> 00:00:18,028 beautiful blonde host. 6 00:00:18,156 --> 00:00:20,637 Hey everybody, thank you for tuning in. 7 00:00:20,637 --> 00:00:25,199 This is Gillian Hughes and thank you for joining us for another episode of Bikinis 8 00:00:25,199 --> 00:00:26,519 After Babies. 9 00:00:26,519 --> 00:00:30,962 Today it's just the two of us and we thought it would be good to kind of catch 10 00:00:30,962 --> 00:00:35,884 you up on what's been going on with us and then we're gonna segue into talking about 11 00:00:35,884 --> 00:00:41,727 when prep gets hard and some strategies that we have to survive the rigors of the 12 00:00:41,727 --> 00:00:43,447 grind of prep. 13 00:00:43,487 --> 00:00:48,110 But we wanna start today just kind of by updating you on what we're up to 14 00:00:48,110 --> 00:00:53,586 Mandy has returned from a weekend away where she was expediting a competition in 15 00:00:53,586 --> 00:00:55,394 Iowa, right Mandy? 16 00:00:55,394 --> 00:00:56,594 Yeah, yeah. 17 00:00:56,594 --> 00:01:00,055 So for those of you guys that don't know, we usually record our episodes Monday, 18 00:01:00,055 --> 00:01:03,076 Tuesday, so we're just getting back from a busy weekend. 19 00:01:03,157 --> 00:01:07,479 So my weekend, I was expediting out in Des Moines, Iowa. 20 00:01:07,479 --> 00:01:09,219 It was a fantastic show. 21 00:01:09,219 --> 00:01:14,142 Again, I love being able to have the opportunity to expedite, it's great. 22 00:01:14,142 --> 00:01:19,104 I meet a bunch of great people and it's a lot of hard work, but being able to be 23 00:01:19,104 --> 00:01:26,267 there for the athlete's biggest day, because we both know, this is a day 24 00:01:26,448 --> 00:01:27,308 never forget. 25 00:01:27,308 --> 00:01:29,009 You will always remember it. 26 00:01:29,009 --> 00:01:33,591 And to be able to be back there and to make it great for them is a great thing to 27 00:01:33,591 --> 00:01:34,672 be able to do. 28 00:01:34,692 --> 00:01:38,894 It's very busy, it's a lot of running around and doing a lot of stuff, but it's 29 00:01:38,894 --> 00:01:40,095 beyond worth it. 30 00:01:40,095 --> 00:01:46,718 So I left Kansas City Friday and then did that Friday, Saturday, came home Sunday 31 00:01:46,718 --> 00:01:50,580 morning and then immediately right back into mom mode. 32 00:01:50,660 --> 00:01:51,901 I got home. 33 00:01:52,686 --> 00:01:56,667 caught up on work, clients of course, and then straight to a soccer game. 34 00:01:57,028 --> 00:02:01,129 Carson, one of his leagues just kicked off, so we have lots of games, like we 35 00:02:01,129 --> 00:02:04,131 have like three games, two, three games a weekend. 36 00:02:04,591 --> 00:02:10,574 And so we're out, I had a game in the mid morning, and they came home, and Carson 37 00:02:10,574 --> 00:02:16,116 and I took a nap, and then basically woke up, was almost late for the other game, 38 00:02:16,116 --> 00:02:20,318 and just ran out the house and made it to the other game. 39 00:02:20,318 --> 00:02:22,779 And then when we both were, 40 00:02:23,760 --> 00:02:27,503 It was funny, it was like, Carson's kind of banked up, all the running around all 41 00:02:27,503 --> 00:02:29,204 weekend and everything, he's sore and tired. 42 00:02:29,204 --> 00:02:35,389 I'm like, I'm pretty sure all of us are going to go to bed at like 8.30 today. 43 00:02:35,449 --> 00:02:36,150 And we did. 44 00:02:36,150 --> 00:02:41,894 Carson, he took a shower and wrapped his, he has, his leg is hurting him, so he took 45 00:02:41,894 --> 00:02:44,316 a shower, wrapped his leg, ate some food. 46 00:02:44,316 --> 00:02:45,576 He was out. 47 00:02:45,757 --> 00:02:48,058 Aaron and I were out by like 9, 9.30. 48 00:02:48,079 --> 00:02:49,079 Like we were done. 49 00:02:49,079 --> 00:02:51,441 Our weekend, we were just tapped out. 50 00:02:52,516 --> 00:02:53,296 That's awesome. 51 00:02:53,296 --> 00:02:54,176 Family nap time. 52 00:02:54,176 --> 00:02:55,017 That's so good. 53 00:02:55,017 --> 00:02:59,599 There's nothing worse than like the weekends, especially like my middle school 54 00:02:59,599 --> 00:03:01,940 kids, they always like wanna stay up. 55 00:03:01,940 --> 00:03:03,781 And I'm like, no, mm-mm. 56 00:03:03,781 --> 00:03:10,644 Like Brady went Friday night to a friend's house and he was like, okay, well, can you 57 00:03:10,644 --> 00:03:11,304 pick me up at 11? 58 00:03:11,304 --> 00:03:14,906 And I'm like, yeah, I can do that. 59 00:03:15,366 --> 00:03:17,167 No, here's how it really went. 60 00:03:17,167 --> 00:03:18,568 I'm texting my husband at work. 61 00:03:18,568 --> 00:03:22,109 I'm like promising all these like favors. 62 00:03:22,550 --> 00:03:24,294 him to pick up Brady. 63 00:03:24,568 --> 00:03:29,150 I'm like I will do this and this and this if you please pick up Brady because like 64 00:03:29,150 --> 00:03:33,232 for me like beyond nine o'clock I probably shouldn't even be operating vehicle, you 65 00:03:33,232 --> 00:03:38,214 know So I was a big promise when I said I would I mean his friends everybody lives 66 00:03:38,214 --> 00:03:42,356 close by so like really if I had to whatever but Brian was like I got this. 67 00:03:42,356 --> 00:03:46,758 I'm like, thank you know, so I will say it like what my husband's wonderful like a 68 00:03:46,758 --> 00:03:50,340 team player as far as helping out with all the kids stuff like, you know, he gets 69 00:03:50,340 --> 00:03:54,381 home from work and he works really long hours and you know has to 70 00:03:54,482 --> 00:03:55,963 commute to another state to work. 71 00:03:55,963 --> 00:04:01,268 So, I mean, it's a long day and he's a very active dad and does what he can when 72 00:04:01,268 --> 00:04:01,648 he's home. 73 00:04:01,648 --> 00:04:02,649 So I appreciate that. 74 00:04:02,649 --> 00:04:05,892 That's where you can really help me the most in life is just anything that happens 75 00:04:05,892 --> 00:04:11,316 after eight o'clock at night, I need help because I run a lot of carpools, but 76 00:04:11,316 --> 00:04:13,958 beyond eight o'clock, it's just, it's nighttime for me. 77 00:04:14,614 --> 00:04:15,761 totally relate to you. 78 00:04:15,761 --> 00:04:16,643 In fact, 79 00:04:16,806 --> 00:04:20,007 we have it to where it's a rule in our house. 80 00:04:20,007 --> 00:04:23,849 So like I'm the morning parent and Aaron is the night parent. 81 00:04:23,849 --> 00:04:29,732 So it's like anything after six o'clock, I can go out and do it, but like it's, cause 82 00:04:29,732 --> 00:04:32,493 you know how the kids are, cause our sons are really close in age, you know, Carson 83 00:04:32,493 --> 00:04:33,973 will be 15 this year. 84 00:04:34,074 --> 00:04:37,795 And so anytime he's like, well, can I go to the movies? 85 00:04:37,795 --> 00:04:39,056 And it's like six or seven. 86 00:04:39,056 --> 00:04:40,277 Can I go to a friend's house? 87 00:04:40,277 --> 00:04:41,877 Like, you know, that time. 88 00:04:42,298 --> 00:04:45,159 It's like, I'm not the parent you need to ask. 89 00:04:45,159 --> 00:04:46,259 Like you, 90 00:04:46,780 --> 00:04:51,703 I'm the wrong parent and he's like, yeah, so then he'll talk to Aaron and they'll 91 00:04:51,703 --> 00:04:54,865 figure out if he could go and the drive And everything like that and Aaron will 92 00:04:54,865 --> 00:04:59,408 stay up but like anything in the morning So like I get up so early I do all the 93 00:04:59,408 --> 00:05:03,751 like getting up for school cooking breakfast packing food and anything kind 94 00:05:03,751 --> 00:05:08,594 of in the mid afternoon to air kind of like your husband like Aaron's schedule is 95 00:05:08,594 --> 00:05:12,497 so demanding and that he like gets stuck on the phone or he gets you know in 96 00:05:12,497 --> 00:05:16,279 meetings and there's just no Way, there's no way he can like do certain things 97 00:05:16,660 --> 00:05:19,662 day in the morning is really like, I'm the parrot. 98 00:05:19,662 --> 00:05:20,663 I'm the one running around. 99 00:05:20,663 --> 00:05:22,004 I get, I do all the stuff. 100 00:05:22,004 --> 00:05:24,346 But then as soon as it's the evening, I'm like, no. 101 00:05:24,346 --> 00:05:25,928 Like, mm-mm. 102 00:05:25,928 --> 00:05:26,868 I am tired. 103 00:05:26,868 --> 00:05:28,109 a village, it really does. 104 00:05:28,109 --> 00:05:32,431 Especially with what we do, we have very healthy lifestyles, but in order to get 105 00:05:32,431 --> 00:05:36,272 everything done and prep, I have to get up and get my day started. 106 00:05:36,272 --> 00:05:38,073 Plus, I really can't sleep in. 107 00:05:38,073 --> 00:05:39,954 Like, I always want to. 108 00:05:39,954 --> 00:05:44,156 I'm always like, yesterday specifically, I was like, oh, we don't have anything until 109 00:05:44,156 --> 00:05:48,918 10, because practice cheer was like at 10, 10 to 12 yesterday. 110 00:05:48,958 --> 00:05:52,780 And I mean, 4.45, boop, eyes are open. 111 00:05:52,780 --> 00:05:56,262 I'm like, oh, I just gotta go back to sleep, please, 112 00:05:56,262 --> 00:05:58,023 and I couldn't so I was like, all right, I'm up. 113 00:05:58,023 --> 00:05:59,044 But I mean, it's okay. 114 00:05:59,044 --> 00:06:02,366 I think like where it's good is like, if I have to catch an early flight or something 115 00:06:02,366 --> 00:06:06,869 like next week we're going to Orlando and my flight is like, like 5.05 in the 116 00:06:06,869 --> 00:06:07,149 morning. 117 00:06:07,149 --> 00:06:10,471 And I'm not stressed about it because I'm used to like being up early, but it does 118 00:06:10,471 --> 00:06:13,994 help in our household because you know, I'm getting, we have three different bus 119 00:06:13,994 --> 00:06:17,176 times with all the different schools that the kids all have to, anyone has early 120 00:06:17,176 --> 00:06:18,697 practice or something, I have no problem. 121 00:06:18,697 --> 00:06:21,582 So I don't mind it, but yeah. 122 00:06:21,582 --> 00:06:25,023 always base my schedule kind of around Carson. 123 00:06:25,023 --> 00:06:28,385 So, and it's weird, I do it around his entire schedule. 124 00:06:28,385 --> 00:06:32,987 So whenever school starts, what time does he have to be out the door, go to school, 125 00:06:32,987 --> 00:06:37,489 and then I will back up basically what I have to do with that schedule. 126 00:06:37,489 --> 00:06:42,552 So my cardio, food, get ready, gym, anything like that, and then I'll marry it 127 00:06:42,552 --> 00:06:44,452 with that semester. 128 00:06:44,552 --> 00:06:47,494 And I know Christmas break comes, so maybe I can sleep in a little bit. 129 00:06:47,494 --> 00:06:50,175 Just like summer's around the corner, because I'm like you. 130 00:06:51,896 --> 00:06:55,318 I would love to just sleep till six. 131 00:06:55,318 --> 00:06:58,260 That would be unheard of for me. 132 00:06:58,260 --> 00:07:05,504 But same, I just like ding ding, I get up at 430 or 445 or four right now and I'm 133 00:07:05,504 --> 00:07:09,086 like really, just really can't sleep no more? 134 00:07:09,086 --> 00:07:13,950 But I'm gonna, yes, yes. 135 00:07:13,950 --> 00:07:16,711 I can do like, you know, it's peak week for three of my athletes. 136 00:07:16,711 --> 00:07:18,773 So I was able to do like their check-ins. 137 00:07:18,773 --> 00:07:21,974 And so then at least when I'm training, because I typically go to the gym like at 138 00:07:21,974 --> 00:07:26,817 7.30 once the middle school kids are on the bus, then you know, I don't feel like, 139 00:07:26,817 --> 00:07:27,818 I've gotta hurry up and get back to work. 140 00:07:27,818 --> 00:07:29,399 Like I've already kind of got a start on my day. 141 00:07:29,399 --> 00:07:32,180 And then I typically start my work day at like 10. 142 00:07:32,180 --> 00:07:33,501 So it's just different. 143 00:07:33,501 --> 00:07:34,782 I've done so many different things. 144 00:07:34,782 --> 00:07:38,343 Like I've been the four o'clock in the morning training person and. 145 00:07:38,464 --> 00:07:40,904 you know, I just can't, I can't do that anymore. 146 00:07:40,904 --> 00:07:42,285 But I'm not saying that won't happen again. 147 00:07:42,285 --> 00:07:45,606 Like that might be the case in the summer because I was looking at like the football 148 00:07:45,606 --> 00:07:48,347 schedule and everything, I'm like, I might have to start going a little bit earlier, 149 00:07:48,347 --> 00:07:49,287 but we'll see. 150 00:07:49,287 --> 00:07:54,129 I think the theme is just, we're flexible and you know, we really just work around 151 00:07:54,129 --> 00:07:56,389 the kids and their sports and their schedules. 152 00:07:56,389 --> 00:07:59,491 And I make it work, but you know, sometimes it's just, okay, that's not 153 00:07:59,491 --> 00:08:00,151 gonna work this week. 154 00:08:00,151 --> 00:08:02,171 I have to like move things around, so. 155 00:08:02,270 --> 00:08:05,251 Yeah, Carson has like this agility training he does all summer, but it's 156 00:08:05,251 --> 00:08:09,614 literally up the street and he can like, oh yeah, and it's not till eight. 157 00:08:09,614 --> 00:08:13,216 So even if I dropped him off, he like, it's a, it's the whole high school too. 158 00:08:13,216 --> 00:08:16,197 So like he can easily like catch a ride home and I don't have to worry about him 159 00:08:16,197 --> 00:08:17,438 getting home or anything like that. 160 00:08:17,438 --> 00:08:18,298 But I know what you mean. 161 00:08:18,298 --> 00:08:22,321 Like you just kind of take it however their schedule works. 162 00:08:22,321 --> 00:08:22,637 So 163 00:08:22,637 --> 00:08:23,659 yeah, I mean... 164 00:08:23,924 --> 00:08:25,824 It's busy, but it's fun. 165 00:08:25,824 --> 00:08:27,025 I was like somebody, who was that? 166 00:08:27,025 --> 00:08:29,126 I was getting my nails done, this lady was like, I can't believe you have so many 167 00:08:29,126 --> 00:08:29,866 kids. 168 00:08:29,866 --> 00:08:34,268 And she's like, how do you, is that how you stay so skinny you don't have time to 169 00:08:34,268 --> 00:08:34,448 eat? 170 00:08:34,448 --> 00:08:37,630 I was like, thank you for calling me skinny. 171 00:08:37,630 --> 00:08:40,731 But no, believe me, people find time to eat. 172 00:08:40,731 --> 00:08:42,012 No, it's funny. 173 00:08:42,012 --> 00:08:44,873 I think if anything, it's just, you know, it's go, go. 174 00:08:45,133 --> 00:08:48,315 I mean, we'll talk about this later in the episode, but like I am too busy to be, I 175 00:08:48,315 --> 00:08:49,095 never get bored. 176 00:08:49,095 --> 00:08:50,456 So I'm not like, oh, I was bored. 177 00:08:50,456 --> 00:08:51,316 So I wanted a snack. 178 00:08:51,316 --> 00:08:53,798 Like I'm never, if I sit still for long enough, 179 00:08:53,798 --> 00:08:55,459 probably will fall asleep. 180 00:08:56,541 --> 00:08:57,534 But yeah, so. 181 00:08:57,534 --> 00:09:00,255 that the soccer game yesterday, I feel like I almost fell asleep on the chair 182 00:09:00,255 --> 00:09:01,075 watching the game. 183 00:09:01,075 --> 00:09:04,117 I'm like, cause I was wrapped in a blanket cause the morning game was cold and I was 184 00:09:04,117 --> 00:09:07,238 like, I was like, I could just like, wee, yeah. 185 00:09:07,238 --> 00:09:08,198 It's like, yeah. 186 00:09:14,241 --> 00:09:15,021 Yeah. 187 00:09:15,062 --> 00:09:19,444 Well, and that's another thing we can also play catch up on is as lean as I am right 188 00:09:19,444 --> 00:09:23,345 now Both of us are the same which is nuts because we're both doing two totally 189 00:09:23,345 --> 00:09:28,388 different shows in two totally different locations But we're the same amount out 190 00:09:28,388 --> 00:09:32,549 which was not intentional with even weirder. 191 00:09:32,590 --> 00:09:37,732 I know so for you listeners For you listeners out there to just play it just 192 00:09:37,732 --> 00:09:42,474 to let you know So I did my show my very first show of the season March 30th and 193 00:09:42,474 --> 00:09:44,915 when the feedback I got working with my coach 194 00:09:44,996 --> 00:09:47,978 another show in the summer, like kind of the beginning of summer. 195 00:09:47,978 --> 00:09:54,602 So Jillian was already in prep for her DC show which is June 8th and so my coach and 196 00:09:54,602 --> 00:09:55,623 I are looking at shows. 197 00:09:55,623 --> 00:09:57,504 I wanted to pick a show relatively close to my area. 198 00:09:57,504 --> 00:09:58,645 I wanted to have a good promoter. 199 00:09:58,645 --> 00:10:00,926 I wanted you know I wanted to be really kind of simple. 200 00:10:00,926 --> 00:10:04,609 I didn't want to travel too far you know things like that and so I'm like oh I'll 201 00:10:04,609 --> 00:10:06,470 do the Omaha Pro Show. 202 00:10:06,470 --> 00:10:09,992 I can just two and a half hour drive like this is perfect and then lo and behold 203 00:10:09,992 --> 00:10:12,774 it's the same weekend as your show. 204 00:10:12,774 --> 00:10:13,526 So Jillian and I 205 00:10:13,526 --> 00:10:14,372 know. 206 00:10:14,976 --> 00:10:16,137 weeks out. 207 00:10:16,198 --> 00:10:17,799 How are you feeling? 208 00:10:17,800 --> 00:10:18,581 Six. 209 00:10:18,682 --> 00:10:19,582 Oh gosh. 210 00:10:19,705 --> 00:10:21,986 Well, not Wednesday, it'll be six and a half weeks out. 211 00:10:21,986 --> 00:10:25,247 Yeah, I feel really good. 212 00:10:25,848 --> 00:10:30,670 I did not feel so good two weeks ago and you talked me off of a ledge and between 213 00:10:30,670 --> 00:10:34,071 you and my husband, I was definitely having a... 214 00:10:35,308 --> 00:10:38,429 you know, just this has gotten tough. 215 00:10:38,609 --> 00:10:43,671 And I'm with a new coach who is a great fit for me. 216 00:10:44,272 --> 00:10:47,593 His personality and mine are a good match for each other. 217 00:10:47,593 --> 00:10:49,274 His style I really like. 218 00:10:49,854 --> 00:10:51,095 And it's been awesome. 219 00:10:51,095 --> 00:10:55,037 I've been with him like seven or eight months now. 220 00:10:55,197 --> 00:10:56,898 So we did an off season together and then prep. 221 00:10:56,898 --> 00:11:00,359 But I didn't know, I didn't really ask like what his methods were. 222 00:11:00,359 --> 00:11:04,161 I don't usually, because I know these like coaches, they do what works. 223 00:11:05,722 --> 00:11:10,065 knowing wasn't going to like change my decision about hiring him as a coach, but 224 00:11:10,065 --> 00:11:12,026 I just never really thought to ask. 225 00:11:12,086 --> 00:11:16,889 So, you know, checking in every week and things are tightening up week by week. 226 00:11:16,889 --> 00:11:19,150 I'm really excited with my progress. 227 00:11:19,351 --> 00:11:22,973 There's parts about this journey that like, I look at my physique and I'm like, 228 00:11:22,973 --> 00:11:24,915 I've never looked like this at nine weeks out. 229 00:11:24,915 --> 00:11:26,556 I've never looked like this at eight weeks out. 230 00:11:26,556 --> 00:11:29,818 Like, you know, but I've also really been very efficient. 231 00:11:29,818 --> 00:11:33,140 I had a really efficient off season, first time probably ever. 232 00:11:33,140 --> 00:11:35,561 I really cleaned up my drinking habits. 233 00:11:35,802 --> 00:11:38,444 I made a post about it on Instagram, I don't want to go into it too much in this 234 00:11:38,444 --> 00:11:42,707 episode, but that was a huge, huge modification in my lifestyle. 235 00:11:42,707 --> 00:11:45,248 Just a lot of things have really aligned for me. 236 00:11:45,248 --> 00:11:49,431 Stress management, gut issues, everything's just going so good. 237 00:11:50,232 --> 00:11:55,775 So my protocols would be returned after my check-ins and I'm going like, man, this 238 00:11:55,775 --> 00:11:58,277 seems pretty aggressive for this far out. 239 00:11:58,277 --> 00:12:02,340 And looking ahead at my schedule with, I'm coaching this weekend and that's always a 240 00:12:02,340 --> 00:12:04,621 big energy expenditure. 241 00:12:05,102 --> 00:12:09,464 cheerleading competition the following week and I'm looking at like low food high 242 00:12:09,464 --> 00:12:14,488 cardio going like oh my gosh like you know progressively those things are getting 243 00:12:14,488 --> 00:12:17,950 tougher and tougher each week and I'll do anything like I I'm not afraid of hard 244 00:12:17,950 --> 00:12:21,492 work but just kind of going like what am I gonna like if this is where we are now 245 00:12:21,492 --> 00:12:24,915 where are we gonna be in two weeks or three weeks or four weeks like am I gonna 246 00:12:24,915 --> 00:12:29,478 be like able to eat anything like you know have I made a mistake have I made a 247 00:12:29,478 --> 00:12:31,839 mistake I'm gonna be honest like that's how I was 248 00:12:35,282 --> 00:12:40,345 I talked to Brian and I was just like, oh my gosh, my family needs me. 249 00:12:40,885 --> 00:12:45,688 This is already challenging and PrEP is challenging anyways, but I'm like, I know 250 00:12:45,729 --> 00:12:48,650 where my body is. 251 00:12:48,891 --> 00:12:51,873 So anyways, so then I called you just sort of like, what am I gonna do? 252 00:12:51,873 --> 00:12:53,054 What do I say to James? 253 00:12:53,054 --> 00:12:55,495 I don't want him to think I'm a big weenie. 254 00:12:56,356 --> 00:13:00,699 So you were like, just girl, A, you knew this was gonna be hard, B, just talk to 255 00:13:00,699 --> 00:13:01,239 him. 256 00:13:01,239 --> 00:13:05,341 And it wasn't like I really was thinking, oh, I'm not gonna do this anymore. 257 00:13:05,362 --> 00:13:11,446 or I've made a bad decision, I just never really thought to ask what the methods 258 00:13:11,446 --> 00:13:12,746 were moving forward. 259 00:13:14,128 --> 00:13:15,709 So I communicated, oh, what do you know? 260 00:13:15,709 --> 00:13:18,391 That's the solution, just fucking say something. 261 00:13:18,391 --> 00:13:23,674 And so I sent him a message and I was just like, hey, do you think I'm making good 262 00:13:23,674 --> 00:13:24,855 enough progress? 263 00:13:24,855 --> 00:13:28,557 I just keep, every week this keeps getting, there's more cuts, there's more 264 00:13:28,557 --> 00:13:33,160 cardio, oh my gosh, and so then he explained his strategy and I was like, 265 00:13:33,160 --> 00:13:35,181 cool, I'm in. 266 00:13:35,402 --> 00:13:35,942 No problem. 267 00:13:35,942 --> 00:13:42,188 And it's so funny how it's the actually it did get tougher since that last drop And 268 00:13:42,188 --> 00:13:46,131 and I've been fine just because I know where I'm headed So I'm the type person 269 00:13:46,131 --> 00:13:50,595 that if I like see the path and see the journey like I'll do anything So I went 270 00:13:50,595 --> 00:13:53,217 from feeling like oh my god, I'm gonna die I can't possibly do one more minute of 271 00:13:53,217 --> 00:13:54,959 cardio to like bring it on. 272 00:13:54,959 --> 00:14:00,283 Let's go, you know, so anyways, but I just I think it's important the 273 00:14:00,768 --> 00:14:04,693 you know, to just speak up and say like, you know, and I don't think I was really 274 00:14:04,693 --> 00:14:06,395 even feeling like I can't do this. 275 00:14:06,395 --> 00:14:09,459 It was just more like, you know, what can I expect? 276 00:14:09,459 --> 00:14:13,024 So now that I kind of know the big, I have the big picture ahead of me. 277 00:14:13,024 --> 00:14:13,885 I'm really excited. 278 00:14:13,885 --> 00:14:17,891 So, so yeah. 279 00:14:17,891 --> 00:14:18,139 No. 280 00:14:18,139 --> 00:14:18,939 the same. 281 00:14:18,939 --> 00:14:22,801 It's never the same coming, you know, like you said, you had a successful off season, 282 00:14:22,801 --> 00:14:29,004 because I remember when, it was like back in August, we were at the, ah, what is, we 283 00:14:29,004 --> 00:14:32,406 were at that casino together, and we were grabbing coffee, and you told me, you're 284 00:14:32,406 --> 00:14:35,807 like, I'm gonna work with him, and I was like, oh cool, and that was like back in 285 00:14:35,807 --> 00:14:36,087 August. 286 00:14:36,087 --> 00:14:39,449 So like, you've been, you know, you've had a really good off season into an on 287 00:14:39,449 --> 00:14:42,490 season, and you've been working really hard, and it's just getting to that time 288 00:14:42,490 --> 00:14:44,912 where you're like, are we sure? 289 00:14:44,912 --> 00:14:45,552 Are we sure? 290 00:14:45,552 --> 00:14:45,972 Are we sure? 291 00:14:45,972 --> 00:14:47,693 And it's scary, man. 292 00:14:47,693 --> 00:14:53,657 Like, I mean, I kind of had the same thing with Sam just in a different way, because 293 00:14:53,797 --> 00:14:56,619 the way I was eating, same thing, the way I was eating, the way I was looking, the 294 00:14:56,619 --> 00:14:58,701 way things were happening, I'm like, I've never done it this way. 295 00:14:58,701 --> 00:15:00,642 I've never, you know, I got a little scared. 296 00:15:00,642 --> 00:15:06,566 And the way I would kind of communicate with her is just kind of like, hey, I'll 297 00:15:06,566 --> 00:15:07,666 do anything. 298 00:15:07,807 --> 00:15:12,169 I will do what you want me to do, what you tell me to do, but are you sure? 299 00:15:12,270 --> 00:15:13,410 Like, are you sure? 300 00:15:13,712 --> 00:15:14,473 Yeah. 301 00:15:14,832 --> 00:15:18,796 And it's like, and then like you said, just talk. 302 00:15:18,796 --> 00:15:22,039 Like just talk and say, this is like what I'm scared of. 303 00:15:22,039 --> 00:15:23,140 This is how I feel. 304 00:15:23,140 --> 00:15:24,242 This is like what's going on. 305 00:15:24,242 --> 00:15:25,863 Like I'm not saying I won't do it. 306 00:15:25,863 --> 00:15:27,305 I'm not like making excuses. 307 00:15:27,305 --> 00:15:30,569 It's just like, can I like know like, is everything okay? 308 00:15:30,569 --> 00:15:31,129 Is this why? 309 00:15:31,129 --> 00:15:32,170 Like what's going on? 310 00:15:32,170 --> 00:15:34,565 And that's like part, yeah, yeah. 311 00:15:34,565 --> 00:15:34,906 right? 312 00:15:34,906 --> 00:15:36,022 Yeah, yeah. 313 00:15:36,022 --> 00:15:40,984 and if you have a coach that's just telling you, here do this, and then when 314 00:15:40,984 --> 00:15:46,227 you ask a question, you're not making excuses, you're not giving, you're not 315 00:15:46,227 --> 00:15:51,229 fighting it, you're just like, hey, why are we doing this, or what can I expect 316 00:15:51,229 --> 00:15:52,189 here in a few weeks? 317 00:15:52,189 --> 00:15:57,172 I'm pretty sure on every coaching call I get on, with my clients, whether they're a 318 00:15:57,172 --> 00:16:03,675 lifestyle or competitor, they will ask me, where do we see this going in X amount of 319 00:16:03,675 --> 00:16:05,135 time, whatever the timeframe is? 320 00:16:05,516 --> 00:16:08,939 to do and this is what we're gonna hope works and if it doesn't we'll have to do 321 00:16:08,939 --> 00:16:13,303 something else but you have like a method to the madness you know you have a 322 00:16:13,303 --> 00:16:16,505 methodology of doing things and so it's like you just gotta ask so you can have 323 00:16:16,505 --> 00:16:20,029 clarification and like you said it makes you feel better because then now like you 324 00:16:20,029 --> 00:16:23,772 said it like it got harder but you're like let's go okay now I know what I'm doing. 325 00:16:23,772 --> 00:16:25,753 was a game changer for my mindset. 326 00:16:25,753 --> 00:16:30,817 And I think really, I don't think I was ever asking for things to be easier. 327 00:16:30,817 --> 00:16:35,040 And I think that if you do complain to your coach and your coach makes it easier, 328 00:16:35,040 --> 00:16:40,844 you got a bad coach because they should be listening to you and supporting you. 329 00:16:40,844 --> 00:16:45,347 But if they have decided things need to get a little bit harder, a little more 330 00:16:45,347 --> 00:16:48,589 challenging, because we need to push your body more, and they've made that decision 331 00:16:48,589 --> 00:16:50,490 and you say, it's too tough. 332 00:16:51,948 --> 00:16:56,512 really that coach should be finding a way to help you understand or like helping you 333 00:16:56,512 --> 00:17:00,456 with strategies to like mitigate some of that discomfort but helping you to 334 00:17:00,456 --> 00:17:04,700 understand like this is what's necessary because you're always, your body is always 335 00:17:04,700 --> 00:17:09,044 going to say, you need more food, you need rest, you need recovery. 336 00:17:09,044 --> 00:17:11,975 Like that's like our natural survival instinct, right? 337 00:17:11,975 --> 00:17:12,537 hates. 338 00:17:12,537 --> 00:17:13,096 Yep. 339 00:17:13,096 --> 00:17:13,596 Exactly. 340 00:17:13,596 --> 00:17:17,918 David Goggins talks about this in his book and he calls it like the governor, which 341 00:17:17,918 --> 00:17:22,400 is like this like, you know, protective mechanism in our body. 342 00:17:22,400 --> 00:17:24,381 Like you can't do any more reps. 343 00:17:24,381 --> 00:17:25,762 You can't run any further. 344 00:17:25,762 --> 00:17:26,542 You need to stop. 345 00:17:26,542 --> 00:17:28,563 Like it's our body protecting us, right? 346 00:17:28,563 --> 00:17:32,285 So that's natural for your body to like, you know, you need more food than you're 347 00:17:32,285 --> 00:17:32,965 getting. 348 00:17:32,965 --> 00:17:34,506 You shouldn't be doing that, you know. 349 00:17:34,506 --> 00:17:37,767 So I think that can that can sink in and you just need to speak to your coach and 350 00:17:37,767 --> 00:17:39,608 be like, hey, these are my concerns. 351 00:17:39,608 --> 00:17:43,051 And if your coach is like, okay, well, let's just we'll back off on the cardio 352 00:17:43,051 --> 00:17:44,200 you more carbs. 353 00:17:45,076 --> 00:17:46,376 Is that the answer you really want? 354 00:17:46,376 --> 00:17:49,358 Because then aren't you thinking like, well, if you thought I needed it and now I 355 00:17:49,358 --> 00:17:51,378 don't, am I going to get there? 356 00:17:51,378 --> 00:17:53,219 And their job is to get you results. 357 00:17:53,219 --> 00:17:57,441 So I think like, you know, you should feel comfortable asking questions and you 358 00:17:57,441 --> 00:18:00,283 should be able to, you know, speak to your coach. 359 00:18:00,283 --> 00:18:03,604 And James was wonderful and provided so much encouragement. 360 00:18:03,604 --> 00:18:04,685 It got me really excited. 361 00:18:04,685 --> 00:18:06,746 Honestly, I went for like it was such a roller coaster of a day. 362 00:18:06,746 --> 00:18:10,087 Like I went from like having like a fucking meltdown on the phone. 363 00:18:10,087 --> 00:18:12,148 And then you're like, just it's fine. 364 00:18:12,148 --> 00:18:14,529 And you're like, I think you were like at a party or something. 365 00:18:14,930 --> 00:18:16,971 calm me down like you're such a good friend. 366 00:18:17,572 --> 00:18:20,735 I was like, I need to talk. 367 00:18:20,735 --> 00:18:21,755 That's right. 368 00:18:22,857 --> 00:18:25,159 Yes. 369 00:18:25,159 --> 00:18:26,419 It helps so much. 370 00:18:26,431 --> 00:18:30,193 I was with my brother and his, my nieces and nephews and we were at some like play 371 00:18:30,193 --> 00:18:30,833 place. 372 00:18:30,833 --> 00:18:33,555 That's why it took me a minute to even get service because there's like no service in 373 00:18:33,555 --> 00:18:34,115 a place like that. 374 00:18:34,115 --> 00:18:37,757 It's kind of like a, it's like a fun run kind of thing. 375 00:18:37,957 --> 00:18:40,899 Yeah, I just went outside, I went down the road and I was like, what's up, what's 376 00:18:40,899 --> 00:18:41,739 happening? 377 00:18:42,300 --> 00:18:44,521 So. 378 00:18:44,521 --> 00:18:45,506 But yeah, you're co- 379 00:18:45,506 --> 00:18:49,228 and a half weeks out and I'm going to DC to do the DC Pro-Am. 380 00:18:49,228 --> 00:18:53,411 And I'll tell you like how I picked this show and why I would love to come and be 381 00:18:53,411 --> 00:18:57,154 backstage and compete on stage with you, but you had originally not picked that 382 00:18:57,154 --> 00:18:59,115 show and. 383 00:18:59,540 --> 00:19:05,102 So I always just like to make my shows an adventure and DC, I've never been there. 384 00:19:05,102 --> 00:19:09,104 And last year when I was watching the show, they give away these like beautiful 385 00:19:09,104 --> 00:19:10,084 crowns. 386 00:19:10,084 --> 00:19:11,825 And so that's like how I picked the show. 387 00:19:11,825 --> 00:19:16,427 Plus, I knew I wanted to be in front of a specific judges because my goal is to do 388 00:19:16,427 --> 00:19:16,988 nationals. 389 00:19:16,988 --> 00:19:19,569 I'm doing universe at the beginning of July. 390 00:19:19,729 --> 00:19:24,291 So it was important for me to like be up against, you know, athletes that I'm 391 00:19:24,291 --> 00:19:28,013 probably going to see at universe at a national show and then judges that will be 392 00:19:28,013 --> 00:19:29,293 on that same panel. 393 00:19:30,354 --> 00:19:34,337 So that's why I picked DC and then I am usually like coaching shows in the area 394 00:19:34,337 --> 00:19:38,039 around here So I don't often pick shows in the Midwest just because I'll probably 395 00:19:38,039 --> 00:19:41,962 have an athlete on stage And I don't I try not to coach and compete on the same day 396 00:19:41,962 --> 00:19:45,925 I've done it before but it's kind of hard last year at universe I had two girls in 397 00:19:45,925 --> 00:19:51,308 the open and it worked out beautifully because I was done hours before them like 398 00:19:51,308 --> 00:19:56,311 I competed at like right at the very beginning of the show and they had I Only 399 00:19:56,311 --> 00:19:56,892 did masters. 400 00:19:56,892 --> 00:19:58,293 I didn't even do masters 35. 401 00:19:58,293 --> 00:19:59,494 I only did masters 40 402 00:19:59,494 --> 00:20:04,275 and so I there they were on stage like six hours after me so it was great I like took 403 00:20:04,275 --> 00:20:09,537 my suit my shoes off put on like my coach hat and like coach them and then like got 404 00:20:09,537 --> 00:20:13,099 ready for finals and it was kind of perfect so um but that doesn't always 405 00:20:13,099 --> 00:20:16,980 happen and then there was one show I did in Dallas and I was in the same class as 406 00:20:16,980 --> 00:20:22,502 one of my clients and I won and she was like I think she was okay but I think it 407 00:20:22,502 --> 00:20:26,443 was it was still awkward I didn't really like it I'm like I guess as the coach like 408 00:20:26,528 --> 00:20:28,730 you know, I was cheering for her and if she would have beat me I would have been 409 00:20:28,730 --> 00:20:29,251 totally fine. 410 00:20:29,251 --> 00:20:32,615 I don't have an ego about that kind of stuff, but I think it was just weird. 411 00:20:32,615 --> 00:20:34,117 So I was like, oh, I try not to do that. 412 00:20:34,117 --> 00:20:35,707 So anyways. 413 00:20:35,707 --> 00:20:36,174 out. 414 00:20:36,174 --> 00:20:36,914 That'd be tricky. 415 00:20:36,914 --> 00:20:39,915 I will say in the Omaha show like I don't have any athletes I like I know some of 416 00:20:39,915 --> 00:20:43,157 the people that will be there I know people that are competing in a like figure 417 00:20:43,157 --> 00:20:46,879 and I like I think there's gonna be some bikini girls that I know But that's just 418 00:20:46,879 --> 00:20:47,879 from like being around the area. 419 00:20:47,879 --> 00:20:51,701 We're all competing against each other but like you said I didn't originally pick 420 00:20:51,701 --> 00:20:57,043 that show and It was a very it wasn't laugh It's not last minute because I think 421 00:20:57,043 --> 00:21:00,825 I was like ten weeks out when I picked it or something like that So it wasn't last 422 00:21:00,825 --> 00:21:06,267 minute Yeah it just was like that works the best and also like 423 00:21:07,434 --> 00:21:10,035 Kind of like you like I always would make it an adventure for my family. 424 00:21:10,035 --> 00:21:13,436 This was something that's specific for me I need to fix a few things with my 425 00:21:13,436 --> 00:21:17,899 feedback I want to try a few things with my hair change my posing my husband and my 426 00:21:17,899 --> 00:21:22,661 kid don't need to come and like Spend their whole weekend doing that and in fact 427 00:21:22,661 --> 00:21:26,302 it actually kind of worked out because after I picked that show Erin and I were 428 00:21:26,302 --> 00:21:28,564 talking about it because of course he wants to be supportive He's like well, I 429 00:21:28,564 --> 00:21:31,985 can drive up and watch you at the night show, but you don't have to though Like 430 00:21:31,985 --> 00:21:36,307 it's not a big deal and then lo and behold of course the kid has a soccer tournament 431 00:21:36,307 --> 00:21:37,048 like why not? 432 00:21:37,048 --> 00:21:37,388 right? 433 00:21:37,388 --> 00:21:41,531 So like, so it worked out really well for that. 434 00:21:41,531 --> 00:21:45,013 I'm like, you guys just, whenever I travel and I go out of town, they have a lot of 435 00:21:45,013 --> 00:21:45,253 fun. 436 00:21:45,253 --> 00:21:47,474 Like they'll go get sushi together. 437 00:21:47,474 --> 00:21:51,337 Like they went to the, I got a new wifi router, believe it or not. 438 00:21:51,337 --> 00:21:54,259 Like can't have enough of those suckers in this house. 439 00:21:54,439 --> 00:21:58,262 Um, I think we, I, we do. 440 00:21:58,262 --> 00:22:03,105 So I have one actually specifically in this room now, but they, they do that. 441 00:22:03,105 --> 00:22:06,369 They'll go tech shopping and have food together, 442 00:22:06,369 --> 00:22:07,277 stuff. 443 00:22:07,277 --> 00:22:07,568 Yeah. 444 00:22:07,568 --> 00:22:08,428 Mm-hmm. 445 00:22:08,449 --> 00:22:13,632 Yeah, they'll go have chicken wings and stuff, so, but it's nice. 446 00:22:13,900 --> 00:22:17,282 that kind of like is a good segue into what else we were gonna talk about today, 447 00:22:17,282 --> 00:22:20,563 which is Amazon and TikTok finds. 448 00:22:21,924 --> 00:22:25,966 And the reason why I like, since we wanted to bring this up, it's cute. 449 00:22:25,966 --> 00:22:27,846 Is that a part of a set? 450 00:22:27,906 --> 00:22:30,467 Like, does it come with pants or shorts? 451 00:22:30,761 --> 00:22:32,508 it comes in like a three pack. 452 00:22:32,744 --> 00:22:33,510 three different tops? 453 00:22:33,510 --> 00:22:35,782 Oh, I've seen it. 454 00:22:35,782 --> 00:22:40,804 on YouTube, this is like, it's like a cute little like, like just a cross back top. 455 00:22:40,864 --> 00:22:43,805 And it comes in a pack of three. 456 00:22:43,805 --> 00:22:48,207 And if you click on it, instead of like, if you click to open it, there's like a 457 00:22:48,207 --> 00:22:50,588 just a whole bunch of colors you can pick from. 458 00:22:50,588 --> 00:22:52,309 Like so many colors. 459 00:22:52,309 --> 00:22:53,689 And I love this top. 460 00:22:53,762 --> 00:22:57,445 from a three pack as well, this one, and it's short too. 461 00:22:57,986 --> 00:22:59,407 Yeah, well, so... 462 00:22:59,660 --> 00:23:05,462 Prep girlies, when we're prepping and we're spending a lot of time on YouTube 463 00:23:05,462 --> 00:23:08,724 and TikTok, I mean that's what I do when I get through cardio is I'm just usually 464 00:23:08,724 --> 00:23:13,786 looking at TikToks or watching YouTube and my favorite YouTube videos are when they 465 00:23:13,786 --> 00:23:18,288 do a spring haul or something and I'm just furiously adding things to cart. 466 00:23:18,288 --> 00:23:19,849 It's really crazy. 467 00:23:19,849 --> 00:23:24,351 But I'm always shopping in prep and so I thought that would be a little fun topic 468 00:23:24,351 --> 00:23:28,373 to talk about favorite things and fun things that we've purchased. 469 00:23:29,594 --> 00:23:33,174 and tell really because we're a podcast so I purposely didn't like bring the things 470 00:23:33,174 --> 00:23:39,496 to camera but I'm pretty sure my daughter thinks I'm crazy so I um I'm like I'm 471 00:23:39,496 --> 00:23:42,416 older so maybe that's why this kind of happens to me but I remember this 472 00:23:42,416 --> 00:23:47,977 happening to my mom too just getting paranoid about stupid things but TikTok 473 00:23:47,977 --> 00:23:55,719 made me buy fire blankets because I realized no like on things that are 474 00:23:55,719 --> 00:23:58,352 burning um yeah 475 00:23:58,352 --> 00:24:00,055 if like you're on fire or something's on fire. 476 00:24:00,055 --> 00:24:01,229 It's like, I know what you're talking about. 477 00:24:01,229 --> 00:24:03,313 yeah, man, TikTok, man. 478 00:24:03,313 --> 00:24:07,239 I was like scrolling through, it was all happy stuff and recipes and like, you 479 00:24:07,239 --> 00:24:08,341 know, beauty and makeup. 480 00:24:08,341 --> 00:24:09,722 And then all of a sudden it was like. 481 00:24:10,348 --> 00:24:11,748 What if you're curling our lights on fire? 482 00:24:11,748 --> 00:24:14,550 And then I'm thinking about like, you know, we leave the kids at home. 483 00:24:14,550 --> 00:24:18,033 We've got teenagers, you know, like we don't have a fire plan. 484 00:24:18,033 --> 00:24:21,935 Like we didn't ever like sit down and be like, if the house is on fire, you need to 485 00:24:21,935 --> 00:24:22,696 go out this window. 486 00:24:22,696 --> 00:24:26,378 So this first of all, that woke me up out of a dead sleep and I couldn't sleep three 487 00:24:26,378 --> 00:24:27,559 o'clock in the morning on Sunday. 488 00:24:27,559 --> 00:24:29,880 Like, oh, my God, we don't have a fire plan. 489 00:24:29,880 --> 00:24:33,163 Like I have to teach the kids that if you touch the door, don't open it and go out 490 00:24:33,163 --> 00:24:34,303 the window instead. 491 00:24:35,056 --> 00:24:37,698 So then I bought fire blankets, like one for the upstairs and one for the 492 00:24:37,698 --> 00:24:38,198 downstairs. 493 00:24:38,198 --> 00:24:39,279 And I'm like showing Brooklyn. 494 00:24:39,279 --> 00:24:43,483 She's like, you're sort of like insane, mom. 495 00:24:43,483 --> 00:24:45,544 So that was one thing I bought. 496 00:24:45,544 --> 00:24:49,047 But then the other thing that I bought, which, like, I'm so excited about and like 497 00:24:49,047 --> 00:24:54,031 super proud of myself for installing it is this shower head. 498 00:24:54,431 --> 00:24:59,436 Because, again, Tic Tac will make you feel like if you dare use a regular shower 499 00:24:59,436 --> 00:25:02,898 head, your hair is going to fall off of your body and like your skin is going to 500 00:25:02,898 --> 00:25:04,119 like it crusty. 501 00:25:04,608 --> 00:25:08,871 Yeah, but still I have blonde hair and I've just noticed that it just is picking 502 00:25:08,871 --> 00:25:13,135 up this sort of like yellowish Tinge it's probably from the hard water that we have 503 00:25:13,135 --> 00:25:18,439 so I bought a shower head and let me tell you what it was like It was like a magical 504 00:25:18,439 --> 00:25:23,523 waterfall when I took my shower Oh my god, it felt just like it was like soft and 505 00:25:23,523 --> 00:25:23,964 beautiful. 506 00:25:23,964 --> 00:25:30,048 It felt so good and my skin felt so good Just what I mean It's a little ad for this 507 00:25:30,989 --> 00:25:33,551 It's got it's got a vitamin filter in it 508 00:25:34,016 --> 00:25:37,939 and it has a metal removing filter. 509 00:25:37,939 --> 00:25:42,102 And I installed it like myself without like a plumber or anything. 510 00:25:43,143 --> 00:25:47,867 I know, I know I was like, yeah, we'll link it all below. 511 00:25:48,158 --> 00:25:49,500 Oh yeah, so that way everybody can see it. 512 00:25:49,500 --> 00:25:52,164 But that's really neat, because I'm very curious about that. 513 00:25:52,201 --> 00:25:55,743 because the one that I was looking at, it was like Jolie or something. 514 00:25:55,743 --> 00:25:57,304 That was the one on TikTok. 515 00:25:57,304 --> 00:25:58,725 And it was like over 100 bucks. 516 00:25:58,725 --> 00:25:59,846 And I was like, what if I hate it? 517 00:25:59,846 --> 00:26:01,046 Like, what if my husband hates it? 518 00:26:01,046 --> 00:26:02,647 You can't like return something. 519 00:26:02,647 --> 00:26:04,849 I mean, you could put it back in the box. 520 00:26:04,849 --> 00:26:06,530 But I'm just like, I don't really know about that. 521 00:26:06,530 --> 00:26:08,691 So then I went over to Amazon and I was like. 522 00:26:08,804 --> 00:26:12,906 like top, oh no wait, I think I looked on the internet first to see like best, like 523 00:26:12,906 --> 00:26:17,169 top reviewed water filtering shower heads or whatever and I found this one on 524 00:26:17,169 --> 00:26:17,489 Amazon. 525 00:26:17,489 --> 00:26:22,953 So it was less than $50 and that was an amazing shower I just had, so it was worth 526 00:26:22,953 --> 00:26:24,334 every penny. 527 00:26:27,136 --> 00:26:28,317 So anyways, what about you? 528 00:26:28,317 --> 00:26:29,157 What do you buy? 529 00:26:29,157 --> 00:26:30,158 What do you got? 530 00:26:30,198 --> 00:26:32,055 What do you have to unbox that you haven't unboxed? 531 00:26:32,055 --> 00:26:33,395 I buy clothes. 532 00:26:34,695 --> 00:26:35,656 Oh yeah, that I have right now. 533 00:26:35,656 --> 00:26:37,096 Yeah, so I just bought a whole bunch of stuff. 534 00:26:37,096 --> 00:26:42,718 Because I have finally just accepted the fact that my clothes are too big for me. 535 00:26:42,838 --> 00:26:47,579 And I keep my off-season clothes for so long. 536 00:26:47,579 --> 00:26:52,560 I will make them work, I will wear belts, I will figure it out. 537 00:26:54,901 --> 00:26:55,921 Yeah, I don't. 538 00:26:57,042 --> 00:27:01,123 If you see the majority of the stuff I wear outside of the gym, it's pretty 539 00:27:01,123 --> 00:27:01,604 baggy. 540 00:27:01,604 --> 00:27:02,824 I like baggy hoodies. 541 00:27:02,824 --> 00:27:04,165 I like joggers. 542 00:27:04,365 --> 00:27:08,987 If it's not like a sports bra and a jacket, then usually it's a hoodie. 543 00:27:08,987 --> 00:27:11,568 And even date night outfits lately, I've kind of gone through. 544 00:27:11,568 --> 00:27:12,529 I've made a Pinterest board. 545 00:27:12,529 --> 00:27:15,470 I'm like, what do I really want to wear when I go out? 546 00:27:15,470 --> 00:27:16,511 That is always my go-to. 547 00:27:16,511 --> 00:27:23,174 It's like, I have to look at Pinterest and be like, okay, that would be my style. 548 00:27:23,174 --> 00:27:25,214 And then I'll kind of piece it together. 549 00:27:27,056 --> 00:27:30,658 Amazon so if I see like something on Pinterest I'll be like I'll get those 550 00:27:30,658 --> 00:27:34,461 ripped-up jeans with like a crop top that kind of looks like that and a jacket 551 00:27:34,461 --> 00:27:37,983 what's nice like you said if I don't like it I'll just return it takes me two 552 00:27:37,983 --> 00:27:42,786 seconds and I buy it again and I go through this vicious cycle but no lately 553 00:27:42,786 --> 00:27:47,409 I've kind of just embraced the fact that none of my gym clothes fit really anymore 554 00:27:47,409 --> 00:27:51,832 even my sports bras and I've pushed I've been pushing it for probably over two 555 00:27:51,832 --> 00:27:55,975 months now and I've gotten to the point where I'm literally rolling up 556 00:27:56,836 --> 00:27:59,477 that are supposed to be tight to my body. 557 00:27:59,738 --> 00:28:02,540 And so I'm just like, okay, I'm done with this. 558 00:28:02,540 --> 00:28:06,943 So I used to be like, you know, a Lululemon person. 559 00:28:06,943 --> 00:28:11,726 And then after a while, I'm like, I'll try these $24 leggings from Amazon. 560 00:28:11,787 --> 00:28:12,707 And then they're great. 561 00:28:12,707 --> 00:28:15,489 And then I have nails all the time and then they don't rip. 562 00:28:15,489 --> 00:28:16,910 And then there's, I have no problems with them. 563 00:28:16,910 --> 00:28:20,893 And they're $24 and they come in 500 colors. 564 00:28:21,138 --> 00:28:21,494 Yeah. 565 00:28:21,494 --> 00:28:26,936 Yeah, and I'm just like, how come I'll go buy lululemon for like $105 and eventually 566 00:28:26,936 --> 00:28:34,119 they like get shitty, like they do, but these suckers, these suckers for $25, man, 567 00:28:34,139 --> 00:28:35,560 they'll last you a hot minute. 568 00:28:35,560 --> 00:28:39,582 So all my stuff that I've been buying right now is really just like kind of gym 569 00:28:39,582 --> 00:28:44,104 clothes, but they're just smalls now instead of larges or mediums. 570 00:28:44,104 --> 00:28:46,185 They're not as baggy, because it's getting hot. 571 00:28:46,185 --> 00:28:49,627 The gym's getting hot, I have to accept it. 572 00:28:49,627 --> 00:28:51,307 So that's a lot. 573 00:28:51,468 --> 00:28:52,350 vitamins too. 574 00:28:52,350 --> 00:28:56,517 I get like vitamins and different brands of stuff like that on Amazon but I did 575 00:28:56,517 --> 00:28:57,017 out of stuff. 576 00:28:57,017 --> 00:28:58,559 So it's like, oh, I need more glutamine. 577 00:28:58,559 --> 00:28:59,239 Oh, I need this. 578 00:28:59,239 --> 00:29:00,100 I need more fish oil. 579 00:29:00,100 --> 00:29:02,303 And it's just so convenient, you know? 580 00:29:02,303 --> 00:29:07,187 So, I mean, I have a full Amazon storefront with helpful things, but. 581 00:29:07,758 --> 00:29:10,979 So the sweetener drops that I have with me, this was a big one. 582 00:29:10,979 --> 00:29:15,242 So my Stevia drops, I used to always have to go to like a special grocery store, 583 00:29:15,242 --> 00:29:15,482 right? 584 00:29:15,482 --> 00:29:17,463 I adhere at Sprouts. 585 00:29:17,683 --> 00:29:21,866 So I'd go to Sprouts and a little, like I wish I'd have it with me to show you, but 586 00:29:21,866 --> 00:29:25,308 again, like if you have YouTube, like we'll link all of this. 587 00:29:25,308 --> 00:29:29,610 The little squirter bottle I have, it's like $30 at Sprouts. 588 00:29:29,690 --> 00:29:33,813 Well, after a while I would like be like, why can't I just get this on Amazon? 589 00:29:33,913 --> 00:29:35,034 Not only can I get it. 590 00:29:35,034 --> 00:29:38,600 on Amazon I can buy a pack of three for cheaper. 591 00:29:38,600 --> 00:29:42,867 And I'm like, I can bulk buy the thing I use 500 times a day. 592 00:29:43,588 --> 00:29:47,390 Yeah, I mean, you'd have to go to a million stores to get all of the random 593 00:29:47,390 --> 00:29:52,814 things that you need, just little helpful things in prep, especially I travel so 594 00:29:52,814 --> 00:29:57,618 much, and just being able to grab different containers or things that are 595 00:29:57,618 --> 00:29:59,599 gonna make my life easier while I'm traveling. 596 00:29:59,599 --> 00:30:03,322 If there's just no other, I don't know what we did before Amazon, and I just 597 00:30:03,322 --> 00:30:08,325 don't have the time to go to 20 different stores to be on a hunt for one thing that 598 00:30:08,325 --> 00:30:10,460 I need when you can get everything in one place. 599 00:30:10,460 --> 00:30:11,562 shopping. 600 00:30:11,562 --> 00:30:15,470 I'll go to the mall to walk around, but I can't imagine actually having to go 601 00:30:15,470 --> 00:30:16,652 clothing shopping. 602 00:30:17,172 --> 00:30:20,453 Oh, and I'm like you, like I'm running around with kids going to sporting events 603 00:30:20,453 --> 00:30:20,733 and stuff. 604 00:30:20,733 --> 00:30:24,695 I'm not like, I don't really dress up very much, but I will tell you, I did buy a 605 00:30:24,695 --> 00:30:29,177 pair of jeans by Good American and they're called like the Always Fits. 606 00:30:29,177 --> 00:30:32,779 And they will get me in both phases of prep. 607 00:30:32,779 --> 00:30:38,041 Like from my off season to like when I'm like very close to a show, they just, I 608 00:30:38,041 --> 00:30:41,883 don't know, they're like magical jeans that like fit you at every stage. 609 00:30:42,003 --> 00:30:43,484 There's just something about like the fabric. 610 00:30:43,484 --> 00:30:45,865 They're really well made, so they are really great. 611 00:30:46,005 --> 00:30:47,325 So those are like. 612 00:30:47,366 --> 00:30:51,207 a good little prep hack of like, because you, I don't know, I did that, I remember 613 00:30:51,207 --> 00:30:54,308 my very first show, I went and bought like a whole new wardrobe. 614 00:30:54,308 --> 00:30:57,649 I was like, I am so ripped, I'm never gonna not be ripped. 615 00:30:57,649 --> 00:31:00,930 I'm buying all these tiny, tiny clothes. 616 00:31:00,930 --> 00:31:05,271 And then like two weeks after the show, I'm like, I'm fat, like, and I wasn't, but 617 00:31:05,271 --> 00:31:06,871 when you put on like. 618 00:31:07,052 --> 00:31:10,755 you know, kids large jeans from Gap. 619 00:31:10,755 --> 00:31:15,419 Like, it's like, no girl, they are not gonna fit you like when you're not like, 620 00:31:15,419 --> 00:31:17,301 you know, in your stage shreds. 621 00:31:17,301 --> 00:31:19,462 And so I kind of stopped, you know, really doing that. 622 00:31:19,462 --> 00:31:21,784 I mean, certain things just fit better and they like look nice. 623 00:31:21,784 --> 00:31:26,409 And I'm like, I can show my tummy and feel fine with that, you know, now, but I 624 00:31:26,409 --> 00:31:29,911 wouldn't like in my off season just be wearing a crop top. 625 00:31:30,139 --> 00:31:31,100 about crop tops. 626 00:31:31,100 --> 00:31:35,243 Like, I think it's just because I have a long torso and I'm tall, I'm like, I'm 627 00:31:35,243 --> 00:31:37,685 almost 5'7". 628 00:31:37,685 --> 00:31:38,314 Well. 629 00:31:38,314 --> 00:31:40,794 Tank tops make me look like shit. 630 00:31:40,815 --> 00:31:43,015 I can't wear tank tops. 631 00:31:43,016 --> 00:31:44,176 Like, I'm sorry, I can't. 632 00:31:44,176 --> 00:31:46,537 I've tried, like, regular tank tops. 633 00:31:46,537 --> 00:31:48,938 They make me look like a box. 634 00:31:48,979 --> 00:31:55,101 But if I wear a crop top with, like, high-waisted pants of any kind, it works 635 00:31:55,101 --> 00:31:55,462 for me. 636 00:31:55,462 --> 00:31:57,623 If I wear a tank top, no. 637 00:31:57,623 --> 00:31:59,543 It is so unflattering on me. 638 00:31:59,543 --> 00:32:01,144 To the gym, like, just out. 639 00:32:01,144 --> 00:32:04,185 If I try to wear a cute tank top, like, no, nope. 640 00:32:04,266 --> 00:32:07,227 I'm just a crop top person and a high-waisted person. 641 00:32:07,227 --> 00:32:08,248 It's just how I'm built. 642 00:32:08,248 --> 00:32:12,416 I've just like, yeah, I can't see a take top so they look like shit on me. 643 00:32:12,416 --> 00:32:13,816 like me in a maxi skirt. 644 00:32:13,816 --> 00:32:14,957 I just look stupid. 645 00:32:14,957 --> 00:32:17,198 I just look like a burrito. 646 00:32:17,198 --> 00:32:18,118 I don't know. 647 00:32:18,118 --> 00:32:21,680 Because I'm really short too, so it looks really dumb on me, and I know that they're 648 00:32:21,680 --> 00:32:25,442 fashionable, or like, I have one of these and I love it. 649 00:32:25,442 --> 00:32:30,324 It's like a duster, is what it's called, and it's like a long sweater that's just 650 00:32:30,324 --> 00:32:31,084 open at the front. 651 00:32:31,084 --> 00:32:33,966 It doesn't like, it literally looks like a bathrobe. 652 00:32:33,966 --> 00:32:37,747 And man, I see women wearing these at the airport, and I think, oh my God, she looks 653 00:32:37,747 --> 00:32:39,048 so chic. 654 00:32:39,048 --> 00:32:42,169 It's so, wearing it so cute over a cute pair of jeans. 655 00:32:42,170 --> 00:32:45,291 I look like I'm wearing just a bathrobe when I wear them. 656 00:32:45,351 --> 00:32:48,493 I still have one though, because I love it, but I don't wear it in public really, 657 00:32:48,493 --> 00:32:49,594 because I look really stupid in it. 658 00:32:49,594 --> 00:32:51,715 Because I'm sure it doesn't look right on me. 659 00:32:51,715 --> 00:32:52,515 I don't know. 660 00:32:52,930 --> 00:32:54,070 I know what you're talking about now. 661 00:32:54,070 --> 00:32:58,334 I have something like that and I don't, it's funny because I don't wear mine in 662 00:32:58,334 --> 00:32:59,595 public either. 663 00:32:59,595 --> 00:33:03,318 I don't think about it, but it's just every time I try to wear it in public, it 664 00:33:03,318 --> 00:33:06,880 doesn't look good, but I do wear it like around the house as like a cover. 665 00:33:06,880 --> 00:33:10,423 And it does look good for like a lounging cover. 666 00:33:10,423 --> 00:33:12,058 Like if you're, like you're... 667 00:33:12,058 --> 00:33:15,044 feel like it looks good, but from the back, it's like, oh, sorry about this. 668 00:33:15,044 --> 00:33:15,685 Not a good look. 669 00:33:15,685 --> 00:33:18,049 I don't know. 670 00:33:18,049 --> 00:33:19,993 Holy moly, we are rambling. 671 00:33:19,993 --> 00:33:21,002 Oh, my gosh. 672 00:33:21,002 --> 00:33:25,043 I know we had a few things we wanted to play catch up with and talk about and 673 00:33:25,043 --> 00:33:27,044 share Tiki Taki, Amazon. 674 00:33:27,044 --> 00:33:28,605 Well, cause you kind of touched on it already. 675 00:33:28,605 --> 00:33:33,207 So like when we go into like TikTok and Amazon, it's because like we're in, we're 676 00:33:33,207 --> 00:33:35,708 shrinking, like our bodies are shrinking and changing shapes. 677 00:33:35,708 --> 00:33:38,470 So we like get excited and we buy all this stuff, right? 678 00:33:38,470 --> 00:33:42,412 And so, and then when we're, when we go out of the show, especially a new 679 00:33:42,412 --> 00:33:46,774 competitor, all the food and it changes, all of a sudden those really tight, cute 680 00:33:46,774 --> 00:33:50,936 clothes that you just spent like time and money on don't fit you anymore. 681 00:33:50,936 --> 00:33:53,136 So how are you gonna mentally handle that? 682 00:33:53,136 --> 00:33:58,178 And that's what really segues into today's topic is mental toughness and how really 683 00:33:58,178 --> 00:34:03,180 to combat, you know, different tough times throughout your prep and like even after 684 00:34:03,180 --> 00:34:03,780 your show. 685 00:34:03,780 --> 00:34:05,961 So that's really what we wanted to talk about today. 686 00:34:05,961 --> 00:34:06,581 So. 687 00:34:07,788 --> 00:34:09,349 That's the theme of today. 688 00:34:09,349 --> 00:34:13,130 Well, listen, I mean, if you're listening, you're either thinking about competing or 689 00:34:13,130 --> 00:34:15,732 you are a competitor or you've competed before. 690 00:34:15,732 --> 00:34:17,492 So you understand the ramblings. 691 00:34:17,492 --> 00:34:21,114 But I think really just it gets hard. 692 00:34:21,114 --> 00:34:24,956 Like we talked about at the beginning of this episode where I had sort of like a 693 00:34:24,956 --> 00:34:28,297 moment where I was really struggling with how difficult it was. 694 00:34:28,297 --> 00:34:30,479 But I think mental toughness is huge. 695 00:34:30,479 --> 00:34:35,001 And I've said this a million times, but I always think like that is like the number 696 00:34:35,001 --> 00:34:36,561 one character trait 697 00:34:37,142 --> 00:34:41,885 a good competitor is mental toughness because I've you know had people come 698 00:34:41,885 --> 00:34:46,308 along and be like oh somebody said I look like I could compete you know I really 699 00:34:46,308 --> 00:34:51,591 want to do a show and okay why well because I think it it's beautiful and it's 700 00:34:51,591 --> 00:34:58,076 like glamorous and I love to perform okay why you know you have to really be okay 701 00:34:58,076 --> 00:35:02,399 with like how hard it is and that and really push when it gets tough and I 702 00:35:02,399 --> 00:35:05,941 really want it because I have seen people that have 703 00:35:07,142 --> 00:35:10,584 and the athletic background, but they just, they can't hang when it gets really, 704 00:35:10,584 --> 00:35:13,866 really tough and they can't deal with the difficult sides of it. 705 00:35:13,866 --> 00:35:19,630 And I've also seen people who have nothing going for them as far as the traits of 706 00:35:19,630 --> 00:35:20,571 that physique. 707 00:35:20,571 --> 00:35:24,453 You know, they might have started working out later in life and, you know, they 708 00:35:24,453 --> 00:35:27,555 might not have any idea what they're doing in the gym and they end up being a 709 00:35:27,555 --> 00:35:32,379 fantastic competitor because they were a student of the sport, they had the mental 710 00:35:32,379 --> 00:35:35,981 toughness and they just weren't gonna stop 711 00:35:36,822 --> 00:35:42,570 goal and that made them a fantastic competitor and they had a great run in the 712 00:35:42,570 --> 00:35:43,050 industry. 713 00:35:43,050 --> 00:35:47,977 So I think that is something that, that's what it really takes in the sport is 714 00:35:47,977 --> 00:35:49,158 mental toughness. 715 00:35:49,674 --> 00:35:52,935 Yeah, and there's no other sport that's like our sport. 716 00:35:52,975 --> 00:35:54,116 Not at all. 717 00:35:54,116 --> 00:35:57,297 Our sport is 24-7, that's it. 718 00:35:57,297 --> 00:35:58,718 It is that cut and dry. 719 00:35:58,718 --> 00:36:02,540 You can be a baseball player, a football player, and you can sit here and say, oh, 720 00:36:02,540 --> 00:36:04,040 my sport is tougher and tougher and tougher. 721 00:36:04,040 --> 00:36:04,741 No, it's not. 722 00:36:04,741 --> 00:36:05,241 Like, it's not. 723 00:36:05,241 --> 00:36:10,203 At the end of the day, like, you can go run and train for three, four, five hours, 724 00:36:10,203 --> 00:36:11,124 that's fine. 725 00:36:11,124 --> 00:36:14,225 But then when you're done training, like, you're done training. 726 00:36:14,225 --> 00:36:18,947 And you can go have family dinner, and you can go get drunk and have a hangover 727 00:36:19,568 --> 00:36:24,131 for X amount of hours and not have to worry about your cardiovascular activity. 728 00:36:24,131 --> 00:36:26,852 You don't have to worry about how many calories you're consuming and where are 729 00:36:26,852 --> 00:36:29,994 they coming from and how they're gonna affect your digestion system. 730 00:36:30,034 --> 00:36:34,677 You don't have to, that's something that no other sport has to think about. 731 00:36:34,998 --> 00:36:37,299 You kinda can clock out. 732 00:36:37,680 --> 00:36:42,243 So like, our sport is way more mentally tough. 733 00:36:42,243 --> 00:36:46,806 Yeah, we spend an hour, two hours, of course, we'll speak specifically about 734 00:36:46,806 --> 00:36:48,186 bikini and wellness. 735 00:36:48,347 --> 00:36:49,488 So you spend like probably 736 00:36:49,488 --> 00:36:50,888 an hour and a half at the gym. 737 00:36:50,888 --> 00:36:54,311 And like maybe two, just depending on like your timeframe and everything and how long 738 00:36:54,311 --> 00:36:55,171 you're there. 739 00:36:55,171 --> 00:36:59,814 And you have your cardio, but like, like that only takes like a little bit of your 740 00:36:59,814 --> 00:37:00,455 time a day. 741 00:37:00,455 --> 00:37:03,397 But the rest of the time, like you have to be on point with your food and no other 742 00:37:03,397 --> 00:37:04,257 sport has to do that. 743 00:37:04,257 --> 00:37:09,281 And that takes a lot of wherewithal because we live in a country that shoves 744 00:37:09,281 --> 00:37:13,303 food in your face for absolutely everything we do. 745 00:37:13,504 --> 00:37:14,664 And it's insane. 746 00:37:14,664 --> 00:37:16,685 We literally made up brunch. 747 00:37:17,006 --> 00:37:19,147 Like that's, we made it up. 748 00:37:19,719 --> 00:37:21,285 That does not surprise me. 749 00:37:21,489 --> 00:37:30,273 Yeah, we made a meal time because it was fun to get drunk during that time. 750 00:37:30,273 --> 00:37:34,615 I don't know why we made it up, but yeah, no other countries do brunch. 751 00:37:35,516 --> 00:37:36,096 It's crazy. 752 00:37:36,096 --> 00:37:38,410 And also, um... 753 00:37:38,410 --> 00:37:42,075 during like a lot of, you know, you know how people have corporate gatherings and 754 00:37:42,075 --> 00:37:42,976 they always bring snacks. 755 00:37:42,976 --> 00:37:45,118 Like you have to bring snacks to meetings, right? 756 00:37:45,399 --> 00:37:47,662 No, we're like one of the only countries that do that. 757 00:37:47,662 --> 00:37:54,632 Like, this snacking is outrageous, outrageous here. 758 00:37:54,632 --> 00:37:55,052 That's it. 759 00:37:55,052 --> 00:37:55,530 Look. 760 00:37:55,530 --> 00:37:56,231 are 761 00:37:56,788 --> 00:38:01,210 out of control and everything just even in society like has to do with well let's 762 00:38:01,210 --> 00:38:05,071 meet for a drink or oh we're gonna go here like there's always food there's always 763 00:38:05,071 --> 00:38:08,973 you know some something going on that's paired with every event so it is really 764 00:38:08,973 --> 00:38:13,195 challenging it's not the two hours in the gym it's the other 22 hours that you're 765 00:38:13,195 --> 00:38:17,457 not in the gym and you know there's just not a lot of sports like that I think 766 00:38:17,457 --> 00:38:20,759 watching my son train for wrestling 767 00:38:27,222 --> 00:38:33,086 outside of training and you know with weight cuts and all of that which I think 768 00:38:33,086 --> 00:38:36,988 you know there's probably some parents who wouldn't want that for their child they 769 00:38:36,988 --> 00:38:40,231 might be like I don't think it's good for them to be focused so much on nutrition 770 00:38:40,231 --> 00:38:44,654 but you know with Brady we've really used that as an opportunity to teach him about 771 00:38:44,654 --> 00:38:50,357 how food makes him feel and in being more conscientious on his weekends and in the 772 00:38:50,357 --> 00:38:53,619 offseason it will make his season a lot easier so he 773 00:38:56,562 --> 00:38:59,684 lots of really great solutions for food so that he can have that are enjoyable, but 774 00:38:59,684 --> 00:39:03,846 they're still gonna keep him on track to making his weight for each of his meats. 775 00:39:03,846 --> 00:39:08,870 So, you know, but there aren't a lot of sports that you have to, you know, pay 776 00:39:08,870 --> 00:39:11,031 that much attention to every single calorie. 777 00:39:11,031 --> 00:39:14,353 It's just, you know, focus on protein or would drink lots of water, you know, but 778 00:39:14,353 --> 00:39:17,936 with our sport, there's so many variables and for everything to come together. 779 00:39:17,936 --> 00:39:19,476 So it is tough. 780 00:39:20,017 --> 00:39:24,360 And really our podcast is geared towards busy moms so that we can show you that it 781 00:39:24,360 --> 00:39:25,721 can be done, you know, 782 00:39:26,642 --> 00:39:31,746 does get tricky to push through those hard times like you know like we were saying 783 00:39:31,746 --> 00:39:35,209 earlier when you've got to stay up late because you have to pick a kiddo up and 784 00:39:35,209 --> 00:39:39,993 your meal time was at six o'clock and now it's 11 o'clock like what do you do so 785 00:39:40,013 --> 00:39:43,996 maybe you could share some strategies for like the one main one that people are 786 00:39:43,996 --> 00:39:50,522 probably tuning in for is what to do when you're starving about to eat your arm off 787 00:39:50,522 --> 00:39:51,863 like what are some 788 00:39:52,672 --> 00:39:57,406 maybe we can do sort of like some hacks and then we can talk about the mental 789 00:39:57,406 --> 00:39:58,147 part. 790 00:39:59,598 --> 00:40:03,099 So I'll easily share one this weekend. 791 00:40:04,040 --> 00:40:08,422 Obviously, we're seven weeks out and there is no room for error, right? 792 00:40:08,422 --> 00:40:10,403 We have to do exactly what our coaches want us to do. 793 00:40:10,403 --> 00:40:12,744 We have to eat exactly on point, right? 794 00:40:12,744 --> 00:40:16,866 So I know going into the weekend that I might not have access to a microwave. 795 00:40:16,866 --> 00:40:18,826 I might not have access to silverware. 796 00:40:18,826 --> 00:40:19,627 I don't know. 797 00:40:19,627 --> 00:40:20,967 I have a lot of things that are unknown. 798 00:40:20,967 --> 00:40:27,230 So I off the bat eliminate as many unknowns as I possibly can. 799 00:40:27,230 --> 00:40:29,752 So I will pack food for, 800 00:40:29,752 --> 00:40:30,892 overpack food. 801 00:40:30,892 --> 00:40:35,115 So for example, I needed eight meals packed with me. 802 00:40:35,155 --> 00:40:36,336 I packed ten. 803 00:40:36,996 --> 00:40:39,798 If something happened to one of the meals, I had an extra one. 804 00:40:40,239 --> 00:40:43,601 I packed meals that I could eat cold, and I packed meals that I could eat without 805 00:40:43,601 --> 00:40:44,602 utensils. 806 00:40:44,602 --> 00:40:50,786 So I easily could condense and pack that and be able to walk around, carry them 807 00:40:50,786 --> 00:40:54,008 around, just be able to grab and go and have that. 808 00:40:54,008 --> 00:40:56,510 And in fact, of course I didn't need all ten. 809 00:40:56,510 --> 00:40:58,331 I only needed eight of those meals, right? 810 00:40:58,331 --> 00:40:58,911 But 811 00:40:59,652 --> 00:41:01,973 out my backpack, you know what happened? 812 00:41:01,973 --> 00:41:04,255 I almost overslept for a soccer game, right? 813 00:41:04,255 --> 00:41:08,377 I said that at the beginning, I was able to grab one of those meals that I had and 814 00:41:08,377 --> 00:41:11,720 instead of starving at a soccer game, which is what I would have had to do if I 815 00:41:11,720 --> 00:41:16,243 didn't have a meal, I would have had to just wait, right? 816 00:41:16,243 --> 00:41:18,965 I was able to grab my meal and eat dinner at the soccer field. 817 00:41:18,965 --> 00:41:25,469 And so, you know, it's, I was so overly prepared, it stopped me from having to go 818 00:41:25,469 --> 00:41:26,889 through one of those moments of 819 00:41:29,972 --> 00:41:31,892 Just count on yourself. 820 00:41:32,172 --> 00:41:33,992 I can't preach that enough. 821 00:41:33,992 --> 00:41:41,014 I don't, even if all my friends, family, anywhere I'm going, they say, I have water 822 00:41:41,014 --> 00:41:44,095 for you, I have something for you to drink, I have protein for you, like don't 823 00:41:44,095 --> 00:41:45,035 worry, I got you. 824 00:41:45,035 --> 00:41:47,155 I don't, I'll appreciate it 100%. 825 00:41:47,215 --> 00:41:51,596 And will I consume or eat or drink it if it's there and I can? 826 00:41:51,596 --> 00:41:52,757 Yeah, absolutely. 827 00:41:52,757 --> 00:41:54,117 But will I rely on it? 828 00:41:54,117 --> 00:41:54,772 Never. 829 00:41:54,772 --> 00:41:55,832 No, you can't. 830 00:41:55,832 --> 00:41:59,914 And like when somebody's preparing food, you don't know that they didn't like, you 831 00:41:59,914 --> 00:42:04,176 know, season it too much or, you know, like it's just safer if you just do it 832 00:42:04,176 --> 00:42:06,557 yourself and then you're able to measure it. 833 00:42:06,557 --> 00:42:10,182 And I think that's sweet when people really wanna help, but you know. 834 00:42:10,182 --> 00:42:12,663 have a good, I have to share this actually. 835 00:42:12,663 --> 00:42:16,425 I don't mean to even, I know we're good about not talking over each other, but I 836 00:42:16,425 --> 00:42:20,327 just thought of this, okay, the sweetest thing that happened and I had to turn it 837 00:42:20,327 --> 00:42:21,087 down. 838 00:42:21,127 --> 00:42:24,929 So we had a girly, yeah, we had a girly little get together in my neighborhood. 839 00:42:24,929 --> 00:42:27,350 It was to watch a cute little show on Netflix. 840 00:42:27,350 --> 00:42:28,490 It was so adorable. 841 00:42:28,490 --> 00:42:32,072 One of the themes of the show that we were watching had something to do with having 842 00:42:32,072 --> 00:42:36,794 lemonade, not lemonade, what is the spike, whatever alcohol drink it is with 843 00:42:36,794 --> 00:42:37,154 lemonade. 844 00:42:37,154 --> 00:42:38,615 I can't remember what it's called. 845 00:42:39,576 --> 00:42:42,978 the girl that was hosting it is a friend of mine and she made these cocktails for 846 00:42:42,978 --> 00:42:43,438 everybody. 847 00:42:43,438 --> 00:42:44,739 She knows I don't drink. 848 00:42:44,739 --> 00:42:51,683 So she made a version of this cocktail, but it was without alcohol. 849 00:42:51,884 --> 00:42:55,746 So I got there, she was so excited to show me and be like, I made this for you. 850 00:42:55,746 --> 00:42:57,687 It had so much sugar in it. 851 00:42:57,748 --> 00:43:00,690 I, and I couldn't, like it was so sugary. 852 00:43:00,690 --> 00:43:04,032 And I looked at her and I was like, I was so grateful and I was so appreciative. 853 00:43:04,032 --> 00:43:06,614 And I was like, girl, I'm so sorry, but I can't drink it. 854 00:43:06,614 --> 00:43:08,795 And I just like looked at her and I was so sad. 855 00:43:09,456 --> 00:43:11,609 I totally understood, but like... 856 00:43:12,010 --> 00:43:17,272 This is where the mental toughness is so important because I literally had to say 857 00:43:17,272 --> 00:43:19,893 this to her while she prepared something for me. 858 00:43:19,893 --> 00:43:20,833 I did it with a smile. 859 00:43:20,833 --> 00:43:22,374 I did it caringly, lovingly. 860 00:43:22,374 --> 00:43:27,416 She totally understood, but I couldn't compromise something I'm working so hard 861 00:43:27,416 --> 00:43:32,438 for something that at the end of the day is a sugary beverage. 862 00:43:32,438 --> 00:43:34,139 And she totally understood it. 863 00:43:34,139 --> 00:43:36,720 But like, yeah, I will never forget that. 864 00:43:36,720 --> 00:43:38,901 I was like, oh, I'm so sorry. 865 00:43:38,901 --> 00:43:46,928 like somebody made me a coffee and they poured a bunch of honey and like almond 866 00:43:46,928 --> 00:43:52,774 milk and it's organic and I was like aww cute and I just like I kind of just nursed 867 00:43:52,774 --> 00:43:53,374 it. 868 00:43:54,903 --> 00:43:55,528 Yeah. 869 00:43:55,528 --> 00:43:58,649 I honestly probably wouldn't drink it anyways because it really was like not how 870 00:43:58,649 --> 00:43:59,370 I make a coffee. 871 00:43:59,370 --> 00:44:04,252 But yeah, I think it's just you just have to be you have to be assertive, but like 872 00:44:04,252 --> 00:44:07,894 also kind, you know, because people don't know they really are trying. 873 00:44:07,894 --> 00:44:11,596 They really like they just don't understand like and they might know a lot 874 00:44:11,596 --> 00:44:12,436 about nutrition. 875 00:44:12,436 --> 00:44:15,657 They might, but they don't know about competing and how different that is and 876 00:44:15,657 --> 00:44:16,978 how specific it is. 877 00:44:16,978 --> 00:44:20,760 So I think there's a way to handle it in a way that is courteous. 878 00:44:20,760 --> 00:44:24,402 And, you know, I appreciate this so much, you know, and 879 00:44:24,402 --> 00:44:28,063 and gone like, I'll take it home, my kids will love it, or you know, something like 880 00:44:28,063 --> 00:44:28,383 that. 881 00:44:28,383 --> 00:44:32,585 But you know, because people are like, I don't want you to not have anything, like 882 00:44:32,585 --> 00:44:34,626 especially if it's somebody who is hosting. 883 00:44:34,626 --> 00:44:37,248 And I'm always like, it's really fine, trust me. 884 00:44:37,248 --> 00:44:38,548 Like you don't have to do anything. 885 00:44:38,548 --> 00:44:42,050 Like I'm just excited to be around you and enjoy your company. 886 00:44:42,050 --> 00:44:44,631 And that's I think what's so interesting about our society is we're so far removed 887 00:44:44,631 --> 00:44:46,572 from the purpose of really getting together. 888 00:44:46,572 --> 00:44:49,073 It isn't about the food, it should be about the company, right? 889 00:44:49,073 --> 00:44:52,655 So I kind of just try to like lean into that and be like, I'm mostly excited to 890 00:44:52,655 --> 00:44:53,715 spend time with you. 891 00:44:55,990 --> 00:44:57,710 Yeah, I have that a lot with vegetables. 892 00:44:57,710 --> 00:45:01,732 I'll have a lot of get-togethers or friends, and I'll bring my own food, and 893 00:45:01,732 --> 00:45:02,793 nobody asks. 894 00:45:02,793 --> 00:45:06,194 They've kinda gotten to the point where they know I'll bring my own food, like my 895 00:45:06,194 --> 00:45:09,696 close friends and stuff, but a lot of their husbands will still be like, oh, 896 00:45:09,696 --> 00:45:16,419 well, we cooked a bunch of veggies, but they drown it in oil, which is fine, but I 897 00:45:16,419 --> 00:45:18,120 can't eat that. 898 00:45:18,120 --> 00:45:22,362 And so sometimes it becomes kind of like, well, it's vegetables, but that's like, 899 00:45:22,742 --> 00:45:25,823 people don't understand, and they're trying to be nice. 900 00:45:26,104 --> 00:45:28,585 you know, be courteous and kind, always grateful. 901 00:45:28,605 --> 00:45:33,769 It's just people's vision of healthy is so different. 902 00:45:33,769 --> 00:45:37,091 Like if it says natural and organic, that might be somebody's version of extremely 903 00:45:37,091 --> 00:45:38,572 healthy, you know? 904 00:45:38,572 --> 00:45:42,014 So it's just you never really know people's background or where people are 905 00:45:42,014 --> 00:45:45,276 coming from when it comes to like being healthy, you know? 906 00:45:45,276 --> 00:45:50,780 So it's just you really got to stick up for yourself and respect your boundaries 907 00:45:50,780 --> 00:45:53,462 and your why are you doing this? 908 00:45:53,462 --> 00:45:55,864 Like why are you working so hard? 909 00:45:55,864 --> 00:45:59,027 you know, why are you stepping on stage and really have that guide you through 910 00:45:59,027 --> 00:46:00,689 like those moments in time. 911 00:46:00,942 --> 00:46:01,764 Yeah. 912 00:46:01,764 --> 00:46:06,206 through all of it because there's gonna be times where, you know, your cardio gets 913 00:46:06,206 --> 00:46:09,787 moved around because, you know, you suddenly have something come up and you 914 00:46:09,787 --> 00:46:13,249 had this whole day planned and it doesn't work out how you thought, but, you know, 915 00:46:13,249 --> 00:46:14,809 you have to push yourself. 916 00:46:15,250 --> 00:46:21,673 It is not, no part of this is easy and the payoff is huge, but, you know, and the 917 00:46:21,673 --> 00:46:26,315 payoff comes because you realize that you did a lot of things when you didn't think 918 00:46:26,315 --> 00:46:30,257 you could, but you always feel good when you do something that you don't wanna do. 919 00:46:30,257 --> 00:46:31,718 Like, there's been so many times 920 00:46:31,718 --> 00:46:34,679 like specifically back day. 921 00:46:34,679 --> 00:46:40,103 I'm just like don't it's like it's not my favorite and I like dilly-dally around in 922 00:46:40,103 --> 00:46:44,326 the kitchen and I'm like I don't want to go like I don't say it out okay I've said 923 00:46:44,326 --> 00:46:48,189 it out loud a couple times and I end up having the best work I'm not gonna not go 924 00:46:48,189 --> 00:46:52,251 but it's just not like glute day and I love training glutes and I do train lower 925 00:46:52,251 --> 00:46:56,554 body like four times a week so I like I really only have to train our body twice 926 00:46:56,554 --> 00:47:00,437 but like that one of my day I'm always like and Brian knows he's like it's back 927 00:47:00,437 --> 00:47:01,477 day isn't it 928 00:47:01,858 --> 00:47:03,779 yeah. 929 00:47:03,799 --> 00:47:06,561 So you know doing things that you don't want to do and then when you're done 930 00:47:06,561 --> 00:47:08,222 you're always like oh man. 931 00:47:08,222 --> 00:47:12,625 So like this is what I think is the beautiful thing about our sport is the 932 00:47:12,625 --> 00:47:15,987 growth that comes from it and that's why when you talk to people who've done it for 933 00:47:15,987 --> 00:47:20,130 such a long time that's like the reason why is because it's helped them to level 934 00:47:20,130 --> 00:47:24,913 up and but you have to want to do the hard things and a lot of people don't and 935 00:47:24,913 --> 00:47:29,156 that's okay but I think that's why some people don't understand our sport because 936 00:47:29,156 --> 00:47:30,096 that's just 937 00:47:31,638 --> 00:47:35,581 they don't have a fulfilling life like they do and that's great but if you're 938 00:47:35,581 --> 00:47:39,304 here and this is what you want to do then you're kind of like one of those weirdos 939 00:47:39,304 --> 00:47:42,747 who likes to do the hard things and you know that's why we kind of all got to 940 00:47:42,747 --> 00:47:44,929 stick together right because we understand each other 941 00:47:45,806 --> 00:47:46,546 That is true. 942 00:47:46,546 --> 00:47:48,307 That is so true. 943 00:47:48,307 --> 00:47:51,630 And kind of like you touched on a little bit, you know, one of the probably 944 00:47:51,630 --> 00:47:53,671 toughest things that people don't... 945 00:47:53,671 --> 00:47:55,473 I don't want to say they don't expect it. 946 00:47:55,473 --> 00:48:02,058 I think they don't expect the feeling, but of being hungry and like really wearing on 947 00:48:02,058 --> 00:48:02,798 that. 948 00:48:03,819 --> 00:48:05,040 You do. 949 00:48:05,841 --> 00:48:06,364 I feel like... 950 00:48:06,364 --> 00:48:07,225 in the beginning. 951 00:48:07,225 --> 00:48:12,769 Like I remember coming off of my reverse and I'm eating like 250 grams of carbs and 952 00:48:12,769 --> 00:48:15,071 my first cut was like below 200. 953 00:48:15,071 --> 00:48:17,112 I was like, I'm absolutely gonna die. 954 00:48:17,112 --> 00:48:18,573 Like, what am I gonna do? 955 00:48:18,573 --> 00:48:23,197 And now it's like poverty macros and I'm like, let's go. 956 00:48:23,197 --> 00:48:26,459 It's like you really do get used to it. 957 00:48:26,932 --> 00:48:28,133 Yeah, poverty. 958 00:48:28,133 --> 00:48:32,819 Yeah, like literally like, you know, do I? 959 00:48:33,480 --> 00:48:35,502 I'm a mess is why. 960 00:48:36,248 --> 00:48:38,128 But yeah, I think you really do. 961 00:48:38,128 --> 00:48:41,870 And it's not like my stomach, I guess maybe my stomach has shrunk too, but 962 00:48:41,870 --> 00:48:44,671 because it's like, you know, you've got to take it in stages. 963 00:48:44,671 --> 00:48:50,234 Like we talked about this in an earlier episode, like you don't get to this macro 964 00:48:50,234 --> 00:48:52,935 level, these calories right away. 965 00:48:52,935 --> 00:48:53,656 It takes time. 966 00:48:53,656 --> 00:48:57,517 So gradually, you know, you're building each week, you're getting leaner and then 967 00:48:57,517 --> 00:49:00,619 you start to see the progress and you're like, okay, you're getting closer. 968 00:49:00,619 --> 00:49:03,940 So there's also that like, ooh, you know, it's right around the corner. 969 00:49:03,940 --> 00:49:06,001 It does get easier. 970 00:49:06,202 --> 00:49:10,945 you do the hard things and I don't know I don't love my stomach growling but when 971 00:49:10,945 --> 00:49:14,887 that happens I'm like okay this we're probably getting ready to have good drop 972 00:49:14,887 --> 00:49:19,250 here you know and I think that that's just a feeling that is just something that is 973 00:49:19,250 --> 00:49:23,073 hard to adjust to and you will have days where you don't physically feel all that 974 00:49:23,073 --> 00:49:27,856 great because you know your body is trying to conserve energy and you've got to go 975 00:49:27,856 --> 00:49:32,359 and train and whatnot and it's temporary so I think you just have to be like 976 00:49:32,359 --> 00:49:35,801 alright sucks right now but it's not forever and 977 00:49:36,382 --> 00:49:40,805 So you have to go okay well this is something that I want to do and I'm gonna 978 00:49:40,805 --> 00:49:43,967 suck it up and then you know and it Passes it's temporary. 979 00:49:43,967 --> 00:49:46,208 We have to get used to like discomfort. 980 00:49:46,208 --> 00:49:47,829 We're so much of a society. 981 00:49:47,829 --> 00:49:50,131 That's like Oh, you have a headache take a Tylenol. 982 00:49:50,131 --> 00:49:51,652 Oh, you're cold to get a blanket. 983 00:49:51,652 --> 00:49:55,915 Oh, you're hot You know cool yourself down in front of the fan like everybody 984 00:49:55,915 --> 00:50:00,098 everything's instant fix everything right and this is You don't get to do that. 985 00:50:00,098 --> 00:50:04,741 You're gonna have hard times You're gonna have discomfort and you just have to suck 986 00:50:04,741 --> 00:50:05,977 it up, you know 987 00:50:05,977 --> 00:50:06,621 do? 988 00:50:06,802 --> 00:50:08,022 Yeah, and it's crazy. 989 00:50:08,022 --> 00:50:13,125 I was I was just talking about to Carson about that yesterday because he felt like 990 00:50:13,125 --> 00:50:17,567 shit after his soccer game His back really hurt his knees banged up and i'm like, 991 00:50:17,567 --> 00:50:20,308 well, this is what we have to do you know when I rambled off the stuff that we have 992 00:50:20,308 --> 00:50:25,090 to do and he was just like miserable and i'm like We're not always supposed to feel 993 00:50:25,090 --> 00:50:25,490 great. 994 00:50:25,490 --> 00:50:31,133 Like, do you know all the shit that goes on inside us to live like not like I mean 995 00:50:31,133 --> 00:50:33,354 if you actually sit down and think of like 996 00:50:36,756 --> 00:50:39,836 on inside us, like, we're not always gonna feel great. 997 00:50:39,836 --> 00:50:44,377 So like, it's okay not to feel great all the time and be uncomfortable. 998 00:50:44,397 --> 00:50:48,859 But yeah, I mean, it it's so gradual, like you eventually do get used to being 999 00:50:48,859 --> 00:50:49,819 hungry. 1000 00:50:49,859 --> 00:50:55,600 You know, there's so many ways to combat it and as like to get used to it. 1001 00:50:55,680 --> 00:51:00,221 I will say the busier you can be, or the more distracted you can be. 1002 00:51:00,922 --> 00:51:01,862 the better. 1003 00:51:01,862 --> 00:51:04,603 Still enjoy your rest days and things like that. 1004 00:51:04,823 --> 00:51:09,065 You can even sell, what I will sometimes do is I'll split some of my meals up and 1005 00:51:09,065 --> 00:51:13,587 make them into smaller meals if I feel like I'm gonna be hungry that day or 1006 00:51:13,587 --> 00:51:13,908 something. 1007 00:51:13,908 --> 00:51:15,768 You know, kind of get a feel for the day. 1008 00:51:15,769 --> 00:51:22,272 But if you're listening to this podcast and you have been in the industry for a 1009 00:51:22,272 --> 00:51:24,973 while, if you know who Chris, I don't know if I told you about this. 1010 00:51:24,973 --> 00:51:27,854 So what really got me was about a year, 1011 00:51:30,836 --> 00:51:32,376 Bumstead is of course, right? 1012 00:51:32,797 --> 00:51:33,537 Right? 1013 00:51:33,537 --> 00:51:34,558 Of course. 1014 00:51:34,618 --> 00:51:36,019 So he... 1015 00:51:36,379 --> 00:51:37,040 Exactly. 1016 00:51:37,040 --> 00:51:40,101 If you don't know who Chris Bumstead is, look him up now. 1017 00:51:40,242 --> 00:51:41,542 He's the greatest. 1018 00:51:42,944 --> 00:51:49,088 I heard that one of his Olympia preps, he's the classic physique competitor for 1019 00:51:49,088 --> 00:51:49,848 those of you listening. 1020 00:51:49,848 --> 00:51:52,210 He's like the person. 1021 00:51:53,451 --> 00:51:54,772 He's also the sweetest male. 1022 00:51:54,772 --> 00:51:56,873 Anyways, he's... 1023 00:51:56,873 --> 00:51:57,933 Stop it. 1024 00:51:58,474 --> 00:52:00,996 Anyways, if you look him up and you see 1025 00:52:00,996 --> 00:52:05,319 Like who this man is and everything he's accomplished and just all of him as a 1026 00:52:05,319 --> 00:52:10,162 being he one of his Olympia preps He did on 1500 calories. 1027 00:52:10,162 --> 00:52:17,066 Look how big he is He he's a beast and if he can be hungry Can you imagine how 1028 00:52:17,066 --> 00:52:22,310 hungry he must have been on 1500 calories to look like that to go on the stage? 1029 00:52:22,370 --> 00:52:27,173 For Olympia and win multiple times on 1500 calories. 1030 00:52:27,273 --> 00:52:30,736 I got this motto in my head after I heard this I'm like dude if he can do it 1031 00:52:30,736 --> 00:52:35,098 Like I can do it look at my size and look at his size and I'm eating more than 1500 1032 00:52:35,259 --> 00:52:37,580 calories Like I'll be fucking fine. 1033 00:52:37,580 --> 00:52:43,804 Like I'll be fine So like thinking like that like just the mindset of like yeah, 1034 00:52:43,804 --> 00:52:46,686 I'm a little hungry right now or yeah, it sucks I do know I'm gonna eat in like an 1035 00:52:46,686 --> 00:52:48,227 hour or two or I'm gonna eat later. 1036 00:52:48,227 --> 00:52:51,570 Like I'll be fine like It's fine. 1037 00:52:51,570 --> 00:52:53,250 Like it's all okay. 1038 00:52:53,251 --> 00:52:59,835 And it just like over time thinking like that instead of I'm so hungry. 1039 00:52:59,835 --> 00:53:00,516 I'm so hungry 1040 00:53:00,516 --> 00:53:05,821 I'm so like just it's so annoying just Enjoy the process be grateful you get to 1041 00:53:05,821 --> 00:53:11,526 do it have gratitude for the things you get to do and like Just be a little be 1042 00:53:11,526 --> 00:53:15,490 hungry sucks for a little bit be grateful You get to eat in a little bit and you get 1043 00:53:15,490 --> 00:53:20,815 to pick what you eat and how you eat and how you Yeah, like just think a little 1044 00:53:20,815 --> 00:53:21,676 different 1045 00:53:21,900 --> 00:53:27,043 It's just like, again, we wanna fix everything and we want everything to be 1046 00:53:27,043 --> 00:53:28,243 hunky dory and whatnot. 1047 00:53:28,243 --> 00:53:32,605 And I just think, and what you're doing to yourself, if you're in that mindset of 1048 00:53:32,605 --> 00:53:37,848 like, I can't have this and I'm so pissed, I can't have this or I can't go here and 1049 00:53:37,848 --> 00:53:39,088 all these like, no's. 1050 00:53:39,088 --> 00:53:44,951 What you're really doing is like creating such a mindset around like scarcity and 1051 00:53:44,951 --> 00:53:48,953 then on the flip side of that, it's not a good place to be. 1052 00:53:50,054 --> 00:53:55,997 Show's over, dangling carrots removed, you're not X weeks out, nobody's following 1053 00:53:55,997 --> 00:54:01,681 your progress anymore on Instagram, we're not taking photos every day of your abs, 1054 00:54:01,681 --> 00:54:02,081 right? 1055 00:54:02,081 --> 00:54:05,583 And then you indulge in all those things you were bitching and complaining about 1056 00:54:05,583 --> 00:54:06,683 not having. 1057 00:54:07,360 --> 00:54:08,680 How happy are you now? 1058 00:54:08,800 --> 00:54:09,541 You're not. 1059 00:54:09,541 --> 00:54:11,642 So you have to think about that, right? 1060 00:54:11,642 --> 00:54:14,883 And everybody's had the bellyache from like overindulging. 1061 00:54:15,103 --> 00:54:17,024 You don't really, really want that. 1062 00:54:17,024 --> 00:54:20,666 It's just a matter of kind of like, you know, it is weird to think like, I thought 1063 00:54:20,666 --> 00:54:25,328 about this the other day, like I haven't like gone to a drive through and for 1064 00:54:25,328 --> 00:54:28,789 myself like in years. 1065 00:54:28,810 --> 00:54:32,571 And I know that that's to say that's not normal. 1066 00:54:32,856 --> 00:54:36,757 because it's society that is what people do often. 1067 00:54:36,757 --> 00:54:39,719 And I'm not saying everybody's getting burgers and fries because people make good 1068 00:54:39,719 --> 00:54:40,579 fast food choices. 1069 00:54:40,579 --> 00:54:42,380 We give them to our clients all the time. 1070 00:54:42,380 --> 00:54:44,101 There are healthy options, right? 1071 00:54:44,101 --> 00:54:47,522 But if I sat around and went, do you know how long it's been since I've had fast 1072 00:54:47,522 --> 00:54:50,124 food or a glass of wine or a piece of pizza? 1073 00:54:50,124 --> 00:54:54,005 Well, that's gonna make my mind focus on the wrong things. 1074 00:54:54,005 --> 00:54:55,906 Like, that's not a good place to be. 1075 00:54:55,906 --> 00:55:00,829 So in general, like the more positive your attitude is during prep, the way better 1076 00:55:00,829 --> 00:55:02,669 your off season is gonna be. 1077 00:55:02,910 --> 00:55:06,212 be fixated on food and all these things you want to have and all the things you 1078 00:55:06,212 --> 00:55:08,013 couldn't have when you were in prep. 1079 00:55:08,013 --> 00:55:11,115 You know you have to get out of that mindset because I know people are probably 1080 00:55:11,115 --> 00:55:14,477 tuning in going like oh I wonder what they eat when they're hungry and like what are 1081 00:55:14,477 --> 00:55:16,979 the like sugar-free things that you can have so that you don't have to feel 1082 00:55:16,979 --> 00:55:17,759 hungry. 1083 00:55:17,840 --> 00:55:22,243 You just have to feel hungry sometimes like because if you fill up your time 1084 00:55:22,243 --> 00:55:28,747 between meals with all kinds of fake zero calorie stuff you're just putting a bunch 1085 00:55:28,747 --> 00:55:32,730 of chemicals in your body and like I'm not here to say I don't have a diet doctor 1086 00:55:32,730 --> 00:55:35,232 pepper once a day, sometimes twice a day. 1087 00:55:35,232 --> 00:55:36,393 I totally do. 1088 00:55:36,393 --> 00:55:38,595 But I'm not like, oh, I'm hungry. 1089 00:55:38,595 --> 00:55:40,036 I have to put something in my belly. 1090 00:55:40,036 --> 00:55:43,979 Let me chug a gallon of Crystal Light because that's not gonna really do 1091 00:55:43,979 --> 00:55:45,920 anything good for my body. 1092 00:55:46,161 --> 00:55:49,664 I'm also not gonna train my stomach to not expect something. 1093 00:55:49,664 --> 00:55:53,627 I have to kind of get used to that because it's not like I'm gonna get more food in 1094 00:55:53,627 --> 00:55:54,608 the days ahead, right? 1095 00:55:54,608 --> 00:55:58,431 So I just think mindset is really the secret to all of it. 1096 00:55:58,718 --> 00:56:02,499 Yeah, I remember right when I was coming out of my room or I was going into my 1097 00:56:02,499 --> 00:56:08,342 reverse from clash and well for one when I was backstage At clash somebody one of the 1098 00:56:08,342 --> 00:56:12,924 vendors that was backstage like happened to bring Wendy's and of course like You're 1099 00:56:12,924 --> 00:56:16,746 backstage with all of these competitors like that smell of fries We could all 1100 00:56:16,746 --> 00:56:22,008 smell that a mile away, but I'm like you I haven't went through a drive-thru or had 1101 00:56:22,008 --> 00:56:25,030 like any I haven't gone through unless it's Starbucks. 1102 00:56:25,050 --> 00:56:28,691 I haven't gone through a drive-thru or got eaten fast food 1103 00:56:29,452 --> 00:56:31,794 I honestly can't remember because it's just not who I am. 1104 00:56:31,794 --> 00:56:32,894 This is even outside of prep. 1105 00:56:32,894 --> 00:56:34,415 That's just not who I am. 1106 00:56:34,616 --> 00:56:39,539 And it, but that, that was the key to that is that there was all, I shouldn't say all 1107 00:56:39,539 --> 00:56:39,719 this. 1108 00:56:39,719 --> 00:56:43,682 There was Wendy's backstage and oh my gosh, these girls, they were just like, I 1109 00:56:43,682 --> 00:56:44,482 can't wait to eat that. 1110 00:56:44,482 --> 00:56:45,243 I can't wait to do that. 1111 00:56:45,243 --> 00:56:47,064 I'm so hungry, da da. 1112 00:56:47,264 --> 00:56:51,867 And you're in this group of people and it's like, you have this knee jerk 1113 00:56:51,867 --> 00:56:58,651 reaction that you're supposed to fit in or, or get involved or be like them. 1114 00:56:59,032 --> 00:57:00,313 don't lose yourself. 1115 00:57:00,313 --> 00:57:05,696 Like, think of who you are, because I listened to this and I immediately, as it 1116 00:57:05,696 --> 00:57:09,419 was my turn to speak of course in the group, I immediately was like, oh, I don't 1117 00:57:09,419 --> 00:57:10,199 eat that. 1118 00:57:10,700 --> 00:57:15,103 Nothing to do with prep, nothing to do with where I was at before prep, I just 1119 00:57:15,103 --> 00:57:17,224 don't eat fast food because it's not good for me. 1120 00:57:17,224 --> 00:57:19,225 That's my personal choice if you do great. 1121 00:57:19,225 --> 00:57:26,870 But like, I'm not gonna, don't compromise yourself and your integrity to fit in with 1122 00:57:26,870 --> 00:57:27,671 the group. 1123 00:57:28,140 --> 00:57:29,020 Yeah. 1124 00:57:30,300 --> 00:57:34,142 And you might, that might be your idea of a good, a good cheat meal. 1125 00:57:34,142 --> 00:57:36,703 Like everybody has their thing, right? 1126 00:57:36,963 --> 00:57:41,184 But, you know, I just think I've, I've set this analogy to so many of my clients. 1127 00:57:41,184 --> 00:57:47,647 Like if I gave you $5,000, are you going to go to Louis Vuitton? 1128 00:57:47,647 --> 00:57:49,467 Are you going to go to Dollar General? 1129 00:57:51,512 --> 00:57:54,914 If this is money, then I'm saying don't spend this on anyone else. 1130 00:57:54,914 --> 00:57:56,975 Buy yourself something decadent. 1131 00:57:56,975 --> 00:57:59,256 You would spend it wisely, right? 1132 00:57:59,256 --> 00:58:01,397 So it's the same with calories. 1133 00:58:01,397 --> 00:58:04,978 Don't spend it on a bunch of crap unless you really, really want it. 1134 00:58:04,978 --> 00:58:06,739 Like everybody's different, right? 1135 00:58:06,739 --> 00:58:10,041 Like some people have like who is it who eats carnival food? 1136 00:58:10,041 --> 00:58:10,601 Oh, my God. 1137 00:58:10,601 --> 00:58:11,941 It's one of our clients. 1138 00:58:12,322 --> 00:58:13,462 Who is it? 1139 00:58:13,882 --> 00:58:14,183 I can't. 1140 00:58:14,183 --> 00:58:15,043 I'll think of it. 1141 00:58:15,043 --> 00:58:20,245 OK, so one of our clients, her post show thing is like she wants like funnel cake 1142 00:58:20,245 --> 00:58:20,946 and like 1143 00:58:20,946 --> 00:58:24,428 like carnival food, because it's like from our childhood, right? 1144 00:58:24,428 --> 00:58:28,071 So I'm like, that's a smart spend of calories, because that's something that's 1145 00:58:28,071 --> 00:58:29,712 going to make you super, super happy. 1146 00:58:29,712 --> 00:58:33,115 Or if it is like a, you know, microwave pizza, like who cares? 1147 00:58:33,115 --> 00:58:34,036 I'm not judging you. 1148 00:58:34,036 --> 00:58:34,996 I am not judging you. 1149 00:58:34,996 --> 00:58:36,377 You can go to Wendy's all you want. 1150 00:58:36,377 --> 00:58:42,001 But my point is, those calories, if you get them, spend them wisely. 1151 00:58:42,001 --> 00:58:45,064 Don't spend them on crap that you don't want, that's not good for your body. 1152 00:58:45,064 --> 00:58:47,886 If you're going to have a belly ache, have it over something that's really, really 1153 00:58:47,886 --> 00:58:49,827 good and have a good moment, you know? 1154 00:58:49,990 --> 00:58:52,432 Yes, the moment, enjoy it. 1155 00:58:52,513 --> 00:58:56,458 Absolutely, because see, exactly, like after the show I went to a nice steakhouse 1156 00:58:56,458 --> 00:58:59,261 and dude, I spent those calories on probably one of the best steaks I've ever 1157 00:58:59,261 --> 00:59:00,061 had. 1158 00:59:00,102 --> 00:59:00,983 That was so good. 1159 00:59:00,983 --> 00:59:06,029 And then of course like potatoes and all the other stuff, but absolutely. 1160 00:59:06,029 --> 00:59:08,111 Well, Julian, we touched an hour. 1161 00:59:09,172 --> 00:59:13,437 Plus the 35 minutes that we chatted before we even hit record. 1162 00:59:13,478 --> 00:59:14,319 I know. 1163 00:59:14,481 --> 00:59:17,735 Yeah, we always have to warm up before we start, but. 1164 00:59:17,735 --> 00:59:19,139 just catch up. 1165 00:59:19,262 --> 00:59:19,970 Yeah. 1166 00:59:19,970 --> 00:59:20,228 Right? 1167 00:59:20,228 --> 00:59:22,489 Hopefully that was helpful you guys. 1168 00:59:22,489 --> 00:59:27,411 And we have a really cool concept for an episode coming up here soon. 1169 00:59:27,411 --> 00:59:32,873 We're gonna bring on some novice bikini, true novice bikini competitors and have 1170 00:59:32,873 --> 00:59:37,055 them share their experience of their very first competitions. 1171 00:59:37,255 --> 00:59:38,976 And that was from a viewer question. 1172 00:59:38,976 --> 00:59:40,037 Somebody suggested that. 1173 00:59:40,037 --> 00:59:42,398 So we love to have your ideas. 1174 00:59:42,398 --> 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