1 01:00:01,250 --> 01:00:04,125 Good morning and 2 01:00:04,125 --> 01:00:06,583 welcome to Morning Cereal. 3 01:00:08,833 --> 01:00:13,083 Okay, good morning and 4 01:00:13,083 --> 01:00:14,416 welcome to Wednesday. 5 01:00:14,791 --> 01:00:16,416 Here is a fact for you. 6 01:00:16,750 --> 01:00:17,750 Next week this time 7 01:00:17,750 --> 01:00:19,541 it'll be Christmas Eve. 8 01:00:19,541 --> 01:00:21,541 So I hope you have your stockings hung 9 01:00:21,541 --> 01:00:23,083 and your cookies made. 10 01:00:23,458 --> 01:00:24,291 We're almost there. 11 01:00:25,125 --> 01:00:26,916 Let's focus on getting the right hump day 12 01:00:26,916 --> 01:00:30,000 mindset with a quote from boxing legend 13 01:00:30,083 --> 01:00:33,125 Manny Pacquiao who said, "Life is meant 14 01:00:33,125 --> 01:00:34,041 to be a challenge 15 01:00:34,041 --> 01:00:35,958 because challenges are what 16 01:00:35,958 --> 01:00:36,791 make you grow." 17 01:00:37,791 --> 01:00:39,625 So going through the tough stuff isn't 18 01:00:39,625 --> 01:00:40,750 proof that you're failing. 19 01:00:41,333 --> 01:00:43,000 It's the gym membership 20 01:00:43,000 --> 01:00:44,583 for building your character. 21 01:00:44,875 --> 01:00:46,875 If today feels like a heavyweight round, 22 01:00:47,208 --> 01:00:49,333 but remember you're in training. 23 01:00:49,541 --> 01:00:50,500 You're not in trouble. 24 01:00:51,166 --> 01:00:53,000 All right, here are your four moments 25 01:00:53,000 --> 01:00:55,333 that matter for December 17th. 26 01:00:55,333 --> 01:00:56,375 For a historic moment, we're 27 01:00:56,375 --> 01:00:57,750 going to start back in 1903. 28 01:00:58,125 --> 01:01:00,083 That's when on this day, the Wright 29 01:01:00,083 --> 01:01:01,166 brothers are probably a 30 01:01:01,166 --> 01:01:02,583 pretty cold December day. 31 01:01:02,833 --> 01:01:04,541 Well, the Wright brothers, they achieved 32 01:01:04,541 --> 01:01:06,291 the first sustained 33 01:01:06,291 --> 01:01:07,958 airplane flight in Kitty Hawk, 34 01:01:07,958 --> 01:01:10,041 North Carolina, changing travel and the 35 01:01:10,041 --> 01:01:11,875 entire shape of the modern world. 36 01:01:12,291 --> 01:01:14,166 Okay, today's special day is one of Buddy 37 01:01:14,166 --> 01:01:15,041 the Elf's favorites. 38 01:01:15,708 --> 01:01:17,875 It's National Maple Syrup Day. 39 01:01:18,416 --> 01:01:19,541 Yes, buddy, the good 40 01:01:19,541 --> 01:01:21,625 stuff, it does have sugar in it. 41 01:01:21,625 --> 01:01:23,166 Well, the number one song on this date 42 01:01:23,166 --> 01:01:25,333 back in 1986 was "The 43 01:01:25,333 --> 01:01:27,250 Way It Is" by Bruce Hornsby 44 01:01:27,250 --> 01:01:27,833 and The Range. 45 01:01:28,250 --> 01:01:30,583 This is a piano driven hit that blended 46 01:01:30,583 --> 01:01:31,916 pop hooks with social 47 01:01:31,916 --> 01:01:33,666 commentary and it later 48 01:01:33,666 --> 01:01:35,541 became one of the most sampled melodies 49 01:01:35,541 --> 01:01:36,875 in hip hop, including 50 01:01:36,875 --> 01:01:38,458 one of my favorites, Tupac. 51 01:01:39,000 --> 01:01:40,625 All right, well, happy birthday to you. 52 01:01:40,625 --> 01:01:41,791 Today is your birthday. 53 01:01:41,958 --> 01:01:43,250 You share a birthday with boxing legend, 54 01:01:43,250 --> 01:01:44,291 You share a birthday with boxing legend, 55 01:01:44,291 --> 01:01:46,416 senator and multi-division world 56 01:01:46,416 --> 01:01:48,375 champion, Manny Pacquiao. 57 01:01:48,666 --> 01:01:50,041 He's 47 today. 58 01:01:50,541 --> 01:01:52,291 Emmy winning actor known for American 59 01:01:52,291 --> 01:01:53,291 Horror Story and The 60 01:01:53,291 --> 01:01:54,875 People vs. OJ Simpson, Sarah 61 01:01:54,916 --> 01:01:55,500 Paulson. 62 01:01:55,500 --> 01:01:57,000 She's 51 today. 63 01:01:57,541 --> 01:01:59,458 And actor and model famous for her roles 64 01:01:59,458 --> 01:02:00,583 in the Fifth Element and 65 01:02:00,583 --> 01:02:01,791 the Resident Evil films, 66 01:02:02,166 --> 01:02:03,000 Miele Djokovic. 67 01:02:03,000 --> 01:02:03,833 She's 50 today. 68 01:02:04,375 --> 01:02:07,583 And finally, the hilarious actor and he 69 01:02:07,583 --> 01:02:08,500 definitely has the best 70 01:02:08,500 --> 01:02:10,333 eyebrows in Hollywood, Eugene 71 01:02:10,541 --> 01:02:10,875 Levy. 72 01:02:11,166 --> 01:02:12,666 He is 79 today. 73 01:02:13,125 --> 01:02:13,375 All right. 74 01:02:13,750 --> 01:02:16,000 Well, today in Mel Robbins, The Let Them 75 01:02:16,000 --> 01:02:17,708 Theory, we are looking at 76 01:02:17,708 --> 01:02:19,500 the habit of going first 77 01:02:19,500 --> 01:02:21,958 and it's a section that might quietly 78 01:02:21,958 --> 01:02:24,083 change how you approach every 79 01:02:24,083 --> 01:02:25,166 relationship in your 80 01:02:25,166 --> 01:02:25,458 life. 81 01:02:25,666 --> 01:02:26,458 Kind of a big deal. 82 01:02:27,000 --> 01:02:29,333 Well, Mel Robbins explains that most of 83 01:02:29,333 --> 01:02:30,750 us secretly wait for 84 01:02:30,750 --> 01:02:31,916 everyone else to make the 85 01:02:31,916 --> 01:02:34,958 first move, to text first, to invite us 86 01:02:34,958 --> 01:02:36,458 or to follow up, to 87 01:02:36,458 --> 01:02:38,416 apologize, to include us, 88 01:02:38,416 --> 01:02:38,583 right? 89 01:02:39,541 --> 01:02:40,833 We interpret the silence as 90 01:02:40,833 --> 01:02:42,583 proof that we're not wanted. 91 01:02:43,458 --> 01:02:44,875 Mel's answer is simple, 92 01:02:44,875 --> 01:02:46,291 but it's also uncomfortable. 93 01:02:47,125 --> 01:02:48,333 You have to go first. 94 01:02:49,250 --> 01:02:50,791 Mel says, "Be the one who 95 01:02:50,791 --> 01:02:52,750 says hi to people around you. 96 01:02:52,750 --> 01:02:54,333 It makes all the difference." 97 01:02:54,958 --> 01:02:57,583 And Mel ties this idea to the three 98 01:02:57,583 --> 01:02:58,500 pillars of friendship, 99 01:02:58,750 --> 01:03:00,375 proximity, timing, and energy. 100 01:03:00,958 --> 01:03:03,208 And she points out that as adults, those 101 01:03:03,208 --> 01:03:05,500 pillars are constantly shifting. 102 01:03:05,875 --> 01:03:07,125 Again, your friends are moving. 103 01:03:07,125 --> 01:03:08,125 They're changing jobs. 104 01:03:08,166 --> 01:03:09,541 They're getting into relationships or 105 01:03:09,541 --> 01:03:10,625 having kids, or maybe 106 01:03:10,625 --> 01:03:12,125 they're just in a burnout section 107 01:03:12,125 --> 01:03:12,791 of their life. 108 01:03:13,041 --> 01:03:15,458 But if you sit back and you expect 109 01:03:15,458 --> 01:03:16,958 friendships to just happen 110 01:03:16,958 --> 01:03:18,083 the way they did in school, 111 01:03:18,541 --> 01:03:19,250 you're going to feel 112 01:03:19,250 --> 01:03:20,750 left out all the time. 113 01:03:21,333 --> 01:03:23,625 Instead of labeling people as rude or 114 01:03:23,625 --> 01:03:25,000 yourself as unlovable, 115 01:03:25,791 --> 01:03:27,083 Mel challenges you to become 116 01:03:27,083 --> 01:03:28,166 the one who creates 117 01:03:28,166 --> 01:03:29,916 connection and purpose. 118 01:03:30,500 --> 01:03:31,625 In one passage, she writes 119 01:03:31,625 --> 01:03:33,958 about adapting a, "Let me mindset. 120 01:03:34,208 --> 01:03:36,208 Let me be the one who says hello. 121 01:03:36,208 --> 01:03:38,041 Let me send the text. 122 01:03:38,166 --> 01:03:39,666 Let me make the plan." 123 01:03:40,166 --> 01:03:42,000 That doesn't mean chasing people who 124 01:03:42,000 --> 01:03:43,916 clearly don't want to invest. 125 01:03:44,458 --> 01:03:46,833 It means aligning your actions with what 126 01:03:46,833 --> 01:03:48,041 you say you value, 127 01:03:48,583 --> 01:03:50,708 community, kindness, belonging, 128 01:03:50,708 --> 01:03:50,916 right? 129 01:03:51,208 --> 01:03:52,291 Rather than waiting for the 130 01:03:52,291 --> 01:03:54,041 whole world to read your mind. 131 01:03:54,500 --> 01:03:55,791 Now, Robbins is honest that 132 01:03:55,791 --> 01:03:57,583 this can feel awkward at first. 133 01:03:57,583 --> 01:04:00,125 It can feel risky to go first when you've 134 01:04:00,125 --> 01:04:01,875 been hurt or ignored before. 135 01:04:02,250 --> 01:04:04,500 But she reminds you that competence is a 136 01:04:04,500 --> 01:04:05,791 byproduct of action. 137 01:04:06,125 --> 01:04:07,083 It's not a prerequisite. 138 01:04:08,000 --> 01:04:10,166 Every time you initiate, you're not just 139 01:04:10,166 --> 01:04:11,833 opening the door to friendship. 140 01:04:12,041 --> 01:04:14,375 You're also proving to yourself that you 141 01:04:14,375 --> 01:04:16,291 can handle a no, a 142 01:04:16,291 --> 01:04:18,375 reschedule, or silence without 143 01:04:18,375 --> 01:04:19,416 falling apart. 144 01:04:19,958 --> 01:04:21,125 And she also weaves 145 01:04:21,125 --> 01:04:22,333 in the let them piece. 146 01:04:22,750 --> 01:04:24,750 If you go first and someone doesn't step 147 01:04:24,750 --> 01:04:26,416 towards you, well, let them. 148 01:04:26,750 --> 01:04:27,500 Don't spiral. 149 01:04:28,125 --> 01:04:28,541 Don't chase. 150 01:04:28,791 --> 01:04:30,500 Don't build a whole story about your 151 01:04:30,500 --> 01:04:32,875 worth around one unanswered message. 152 01:04:33,500 --> 01:04:35,583 Your job is to steward your effort. 153 01:04:36,458 --> 01:04:36,750 Your goal is to 154 01:04:36,750 --> 01:04:38,375 decide whether to respond. 155 01:04:38,958 --> 01:04:40,500 And by practicing the habit of going 156 01:04:40,500 --> 01:04:41,916 first, you stop treating 157 01:04:41,916 --> 01:04:43,041 yourself like a background 158 01:04:43,125 --> 01:04:45,208 character in other people's lives. 159 01:04:45,875 --> 01:04:47,833 And you start acting like an active 160 01:04:47,833 --> 01:04:49,333 participant in your own. 161 01:04:50,041 --> 01:04:52,250 Mel gives four pointers in this section. 162 01:04:52,458 --> 01:04:53,250 The first one is 163 01:04:53,250 --> 01:04:55,833 compliment people wherever you go. 164 01:04:56,333 --> 01:04:57,166 Number two is to be 165 01:04:57,166 --> 01:04:58,625 curious about other people. 166 01:04:58,625 --> 01:05:01,041 Number three, smile and say hello to 167 01:05:01,041 --> 01:05:03,791 anyone and everyone you pass or you meet. 168 01:05:04,333 --> 01:05:05,375 And finally, she says, 169 01:05:05,375 --> 01:05:06,583 do this without exception. 170 01:05:07,333 --> 01:05:09,000 Be warm to people. 171 01:05:09,250 --> 01:05:10,708 Quote, the warmth you give to others 172 01:05:10,708 --> 01:05:12,958 always finds its way back to you. 173 01:05:13,541 --> 01:05:15,333 Okay, here is your hump day takeaway. 174 01:05:15,916 --> 01:05:17,291 When in doubt, go first. 175 01:05:17,750 --> 01:05:18,833 Extend that invitation. 176 01:05:19,250 --> 01:05:21,666 Start that conversation and let the right 177 01:05:21,666 --> 01:05:22,583 people reveal 178 01:05:22,583 --> 01:05:24,500 themselves by how they respond 179 01:05:24,500 --> 01:05:24,958 to you. 180 01:05:25,458 --> 01:05:27,125 So as you move through this Wednesday, 181 01:05:27,333 --> 01:05:28,291 maybe drizzle a little 182 01:05:28,291 --> 01:05:29,708 extra maple syrup on your 183 01:05:29,708 --> 01:05:30,125 spaghetti. 184 01:05:30,708 --> 01:05:32,291 Borrow some courage from the Wright 185 01:05:32,291 --> 01:05:33,333 brothers and Manny 186 01:05:33,333 --> 01:05:35,708 Pacquiao for that matter and take 187 01:05:35,708 --> 01:05:37,541 that one small, brave 188 01:05:37,541 --> 01:05:38,875 first step to text someone. 189 01:05:39,166 --> 01:05:41,500 Wave first or just say hi in the hallway. 190 01:05:41,958 --> 01:05:43,458 It might be the beginning of a friendship 191 01:05:43,458 --> 01:05:45,958 you'll be grateful for years from now. 192 01:05:46,291 --> 01:05:47,958 Hey, thanks for hanging out with us here 193 01:05:47,958 --> 01:05:49,125 on Morning Serial today. 194 01:05:49,125 --> 01:05:50,750 We will see you back here tomorrow. 195 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