WEBVTT NOTE This file was generated by Descript 00:00:00.870 --> 00:00:06.600 Welcome to Resilience Talk hosted by Paul Spencer of Second Nature Solutions. 00:00:07.020 --> 00:00:07.860 Let's dive in. 00:00:09.200 --> 00:00:14.570 Software engineers have a saying that basically says, if you're not embarrassed 00:00:14.570 --> 00:00:20.660 by your code from, say four months ago, two months ago, even six months ago, 00:00:21.320 --> 00:00:23.030 then you're not learning fast enough. 00:00:23.660 --> 00:00:29.360 And what that means is that as craftsmen, so we always think of ourselves 00:00:29.360 --> 00:00:34.070 as software craftsman, that we are constantly learning every single day. 00:00:34.070 --> 00:00:35.630 We are improving our craft. 00:00:35.960 --> 00:00:41.780 And so it should be fairly easy to look backwards on things that we did even 00:00:41.780 --> 00:00:47.690 recently, two months ago, four months ago, six months ago, and be able to say, Hmm, 00:00:48.050 --> 00:00:49.700 I could have done that in a better way. 00:00:49.880 --> 00:00:51.410 I could have done that in a different way. 00:00:51.710 --> 00:00:55.610 And so what the reason why I bring that up is because in 00:00:55.610 --> 00:00:57.560 our lives, in our broad lives. 00:00:58.760 --> 00:01:01.520 We have an opportunity to constantly elevate. 00:01:02.210 --> 00:01:08.930 Um, when we think about business as owners, sometimes we get stuck with, 00:01:09.110 --> 00:01:17.540 um, an idea or a strategy or, um, and we can't quite move forward with it because 00:01:17.540 --> 00:01:21.050 we're waiting and we're waiting to see. 00:01:21.460 --> 00:01:26.450 well I can't quite do that until this person does that or a supplier does 00:01:26.450 --> 00:01:29.390 this or until the economy is this. 00:01:29.810 --> 00:01:32.930 And what that does is that stagnates the business. 00:01:33.560 --> 00:01:37.190 And then next thing you know, none of those things are quite lining up. 00:01:37.190 --> 00:01:40.640 And you can always find a reason why we're not quite ready yet. 00:01:41.480 --> 00:01:46.340 And here we are two, two years later and we haven't made any improvements 00:01:46.460 --> 00:01:47.750 and we haven't learned anything. 00:01:48.110 --> 00:01:50.600 And so, uh, we also do that. 00:01:50.915 --> 00:01:55.955 Personally in our own lives is we'll do the same thing and 00:01:56.045 --> 00:01:57.905 uh, and we don't move forward. 00:01:58.175 --> 00:02:00.605 We should have this constant movement forward. 00:02:00.995 --> 00:02:04.025 And when I say forward, I mean forward and up. 00:02:04.505 --> 00:02:05.585 We're elevating. 00:02:06.095 --> 00:02:11.285 And what does elevating look like, um, for an individual? 00:02:11.345 --> 00:02:18.755 Well, We uh, should be able to say similar to the, the software developer, right? 00:02:18.755 --> 00:02:20.255 If I'm not embarrassed. 00:02:20.885 --> 00:02:23.645 By the code I wrote six months ago, right. 00:02:23.705 --> 00:02:25.355 Then I'm not learning fast enough. 00:02:25.895 --> 00:02:31.265 So we could, we could rephrase it if I'm not embarrassed by the things that 00:02:31.265 --> 00:02:38.675 I was doing saying, right, creating the work that I was producing, the life I 00:02:38.675 --> 00:02:45.215 was living five years ago, three years ago, then I'm not elevating fast enough. 00:02:46.175 --> 00:02:49.570 Paul Spencer: And, um, and you can tell, um, if you, if. 00:02:50.495 --> 00:02:57.395 For those who are younger, it's hard to see the different stages in life, 00:02:57.845 --> 00:03:03.725 but as you get older, it's easier to look backwards and forwards and 00:03:03.725 --> 00:03:06.935 see the elevations that you have. 00:03:07.565 --> 00:03:15.845 Um, and some of us are blessed to do that, um, intuitively and maybe on our 00:03:15.845 --> 00:03:17.740 own and maybe because of those around us. 00:03:18.755 --> 00:03:20.765 Uh, encourage us to elevate. 00:03:22.325 --> 00:03:27.695 And so it may not have been intentional, it may not had, have had the discipline 00:03:28.175 --> 00:03:32.855 of improving every day, as they say in, um, in atomic habits, right? 00:03:32.975 --> 00:03:34.145 1% every day. 00:03:34.805 --> 00:03:39.785 Um, there might be, might not be that quite, quite that discipline, um, 00:03:40.025 --> 00:03:44.105 but you can look back and you could see the people in your life and the 00:03:44.375 --> 00:03:45.825 environment maybe that you were in. 00:03:46.490 --> 00:03:48.980 Helped you to elevate, to continually elevate. 00:03:49.730 --> 00:03:56.570 Um, there are some who are, uh, look back 10 years, five years, 00:03:56.630 --> 00:03:58.460 and they have not elevated at all. 00:03:58.730 --> 00:04:05.390 They're not able to, to satisfy the statement, which says, I'm embarrassed 00:04:05.750 --> 00:04:09.050 that what I was doing six months ago. 00:04:09.500 --> 00:04:13.160 Six years ago is not any different than what I'm doing today. 00:04:13.190 --> 00:04:13.460 Right. 00:04:13.460 --> 00:04:17.570 And I haven't elevated and I haven't moved forward and I haven't moved up. 00:04:18.680 --> 00:04:26.900 And um, so I think this is important to, um, conceptualize, but it's also 00:04:26.900 --> 00:04:33.770 important for us to talk about and to set things no matter what your age, you have 00:04:33.770 --> 00:04:38.150 an opportunity to take this thinking. 00:04:38.645 --> 00:04:39.425 Apply it. 00:04:39.785 --> 00:04:44.525 So even if you're 70 years old, you can elevate, even if you're 90 years 00:04:44.525 --> 00:04:49.475 old, you can elevate, even if you are 10 years old, you can elevate. 00:04:49.955 --> 00:04:58.025 So there are these different stages in life, um, where, um, it's important to 00:04:58.025 --> 00:05:02.465 do some things, um, while you're younger. 00:05:03.035 --> 00:05:04.055 Let's talk about it that way. 00:05:04.055 --> 00:05:04.865 I know we've talked about. 00:05:05.960 --> 00:05:12.890 Um, in some different newsletters about the compounding interest and, um, the 00:05:12.890 --> 00:05:16.040 opportunity for youngsters, right? 00:05:16.040 --> 00:05:21.320 Those that are, um, say between their teenage years to their mid twenties 00:05:21.830 --> 00:05:28.340 to really compound, uh, the learnings early on so that by the time they're 00:05:28.340 --> 00:05:31.485 in their mid thirties to mid forties. 00:05:32.225 --> 00:05:37.595 They're really cranking, like the flywheel is going, um, because of the 00:05:37.595 --> 00:05:42.365 opportunities that they've had to learn and to really compound, right, compound 00:05:42.365 --> 00:05:46.655 the interest on those learnings and really get to a, an awesome place of 00:05:46.655 --> 00:05:49.685 wisdom and understanding to apply. 00:05:50.405 --> 00:05:56.585 Um, and sometimes, uh, during those years in the twenties, we 00:05:56.585 --> 00:05:57.905 don't really apply ourselves. 00:05:57.905 --> 00:06:01.145 We're not really thinking and learning about life. 00:06:01.970 --> 00:06:05.390 So then we don't get the flywheel until we're say 50. 00:06:05.390 --> 00:06:10.610 Or maybe some of us are 60 years old, and that's not a bad thing necessarily, but 00:06:10.610 --> 00:06:12.320 there's a lot of lost opportunity there. 00:06:12.320 --> 00:06:17.030 And there's something that, uh, for those that are older that can give 00:06:17.030 --> 00:06:21.230 to, uh, the people who are younger in your lives, whether that's a son, 00:06:21.230 --> 00:06:25.235 daughter, a niece or nephew, right, or just somebody within your community. 00:06:26.075 --> 00:06:27.845 Um, that you can help elevate. 00:06:28.295 --> 00:06:30.545 And so what are the things that we can elevate on? 00:06:30.815 --> 00:06:34.835 Well, one of the things I would say that's really important it, 00:06:34.835 --> 00:06:37.685 and it's fairly easy, is to travel. 00:06:38.315 --> 00:06:46.355 So some people have never even left their hometown and is that a terrible thing? 00:06:46.535 --> 00:06:46.925 No. 00:06:46.955 --> 00:06:50.225 There's a lot of value in having a, a tight community and living, 00:06:50.765 --> 00:06:53.045 um, where you grew up, right? 00:06:53.105 --> 00:06:55.295 And, um, and forming a nice. 00:06:56.015 --> 00:06:59.495 Uh, family enterprise, right in that community. 00:06:59.885 --> 00:07:04.085 But it's also important to be able to travel and see different 00:07:04.085 --> 00:07:08.015 cultures, different lifestyles, different environments. 00:07:08.075 --> 00:07:14.075 Like, um, um, maybe you grew up in Nebraska, in the plains, and then you 00:07:14.075 --> 00:07:15.755 go out west and you see the mountains. 00:07:16.265 --> 00:07:18.155 Um, there's a lot of beauty in our world. 00:07:18.155 --> 00:07:20.435 There's a lot of things to be seen. 00:07:20.840 --> 00:07:24.140 To be heard, people to interact with, and there's a lot of 00:07:24.140 --> 00:07:25.520 elevation that comes out of that. 00:07:25.730 --> 00:07:27.050 So that's a fairly simple one. 00:07:27.440 --> 00:07:29.990 Another one that comes to mind is language. 00:07:30.590 --> 00:07:36.050 The more you have the opportunity to learn other languages, and that doesn't 00:07:36.050 --> 00:07:41.780 mean you have to be fluent in five or six different languages, um, but there's a 00:07:41.780 --> 00:07:45.290 lot of things hidden meaning in language. 00:07:45.530 --> 00:07:46.395 So you can think about. 00:07:47.210 --> 00:07:48.770 Um, Latin, right? 00:07:48.770 --> 00:07:52.430 You can think about Spanish, French, German, right? 00:07:52.430 --> 00:07:53.510 Any of those Italian. 00:07:54.200 --> 00:08:02.750 Um, there's lots of things, uh, to be learned, um, by elevating 00:08:02.750 --> 00:08:07.310 yourself out of your own comfort zone, out of your own, uh, way of 00:08:07.310 --> 00:08:09.560 speaking or your own way of thinking. 00:08:09.860 --> 00:08:13.550 You have to think differently in order to speak another language. 00:08:14.150 --> 00:08:16.370 Um, faith is another thing as you. 00:08:17.105 --> 00:08:21.875 As you grow in faith, you see the world in a different way, and, uh, 00:08:21.905 --> 00:08:26.645 you tend to react to things in a different way and which changes 00:08:26.645 --> 00:08:28.865 your emotional quotient, right? 00:08:28.865 --> 00:08:34.355 Your eq, um, which is also really important as you elevate to 00:08:34.415 --> 00:08:37.835 elevate your EQ and your faith. 00:08:38.375 --> 00:08:43.715 Um, another thing is how you network, how you, um, what social groups you have, 00:08:43.715 --> 00:08:46.050 the social groups you have when you are. 00:08:47.210 --> 00:08:50.480 A teenager are likely much different than the ones that you 00:08:50.480 --> 00:08:52.010 have when you're in your fifties. 00:08:53.240 --> 00:08:56.390 Um, and hopefully, right? 00:08:56.870 --> 00:09:01.850 Um, you have long relationships, long friendships, but the things that you 00:09:01.850 --> 00:09:08.090 talk about, the things that you're up to, um, hopefully have elevated, right? 00:09:08.330 --> 00:09:13.460 Hopefully you're not talking about, uh, uh, things that you were talking 00:09:13.460 --> 00:09:15.080 about when you were a teenager. 00:09:16.265 --> 00:09:18.935 In your fifties with your, with your group, right? 00:09:19.145 --> 00:09:20.795 You have elevated in your thinking. 00:09:20.795 --> 00:09:24.305 You're elevated in your life and the purpose that you have around it. 00:09:24.875 --> 00:09:27.845 Um, one other thing that I think is really important too, which 00:09:27.845 --> 00:09:34.205 is, um, a big thing for everybody I would say, is public speaking. 00:09:34.205 --> 00:09:38.945 So even if you are, um, a great, um. 00:09:40.490 --> 00:09:43.490 Uh, speaker, meaning you have good charisma. 00:09:43.520 --> 00:09:48.410 Uh, you don't really shy away from getting in front of the group or any 00:09:48.410 --> 00:09:55.670 group and, and kind of, um, giving a presentation or just giving a mini speech. 00:09:56.210 --> 00:09:58.670 Um, it doesn't have to be formal, right? 00:09:58.670 --> 00:10:00.920 But you don't have any problem being in front of people. 00:10:01.460 --> 00:10:08.240 Um, even those people, even if you, even if I'm describing you, uh, getting up and. 00:10:08.765 --> 00:10:16.775 Uh, preparing for and, um, and engaging in a, say a keynote speech 00:10:16.805 --> 00:10:24.845 where you have, uh, 700, 1800 people in an audience and you're speaking, 00:10:25.265 --> 00:10:27.185 that's much different, right? 00:10:27.395 --> 00:10:31.625 Um, and so if you're naturally really good at it, and you can speak. 00:10:32.210 --> 00:10:35.660 In your conference room with your company, with 20 people in the room, 00:10:35.660 --> 00:10:38.540 you can do a boardroom, uh, very easily. 00:10:38.900 --> 00:10:43.100 Um, then your elevation is how do I get in a room with a hundred people? 00:10:43.400 --> 00:10:45.320 How do I get in a room with 500 people? 00:10:45.530 --> 00:10:50.240 How do I, how do I lock down a keynote speech at a certain conference 00:10:51.080 --> 00:10:57.680 or a certain, um, type of, uh, um, association or group, right? 00:10:58.040 --> 00:10:59.030 That's elevating. 00:10:59.360 --> 00:11:00.595 And the reason why we do that. 00:11:01.535 --> 00:11:05.795 Um, especially for public speaking, I think is one of the, I mean, we've 00:11:05.795 --> 00:11:07.295 talked about travel and everything else. 00:11:07.295 --> 00:11:12.515 Those are important and I think they're all different pillars, but public 00:11:12.515 --> 00:11:17.405 speaking, um, is an elevation step up. 00:11:17.975 --> 00:11:21.575 And so for those who are deathly afraid of getting in front of the 00:11:21.575 --> 00:11:25.625 group, even if it's just three people in the room and they're your friends 00:11:25.625 --> 00:11:26.860 and you know them well, and you can't. 00:11:27.485 --> 00:11:29.435 Get up and speak in front of them. 00:11:30.095 --> 00:11:34.895 Um, any kind of speaking, uh, will elevate you. 00:11:35.435 --> 00:11:39.185 And so maybe it's just two people in the room, maybe it's five people. 00:11:39.185 --> 00:11:44.135 And you're, and you look back and you say, geez, I can't believe that I had a really 00:11:44.135 --> 00:11:49.625 hard time speaking to those, my three good friends who were business partners. 00:11:52.220 --> 00:11:56.930 Excuse me, that were, um, that was just two years ago and I had 00:11:56.930 --> 00:11:58.280 a really difficult time with that. 00:11:58.550 --> 00:11:59.420 And now look at me. 00:11:59.450 --> 00:12:04.160 I am in front of groups of 20, very easily having a conversation. 00:12:04.700 --> 00:12:11.390 Um, that right there has the ability to change how you interact 00:12:11.390 --> 00:12:15.890 with people individually as when you have public speaking. 00:12:16.520 --> 00:12:18.110 Um, experience. 00:12:18.320 --> 00:12:21.200 It changes how you interact with people on an individual level. 00:12:21.530 --> 00:12:26.540 It changes how you think of yourself and it changes how people observe you as well. 00:12:26.810 --> 00:12:28.820 It's a huge, huge thing. 00:12:29.270 --> 00:12:32.480 Um, as opposed to just the travel aspect. 00:12:32.480 --> 00:12:36.470 Travel, um, is good and gives you some outside. 00:12:36.890 --> 00:12:43.550 Um, outside, um, insight right into how things are shaped and how people are, 00:12:44.060 --> 00:12:50.330 um, public speaking is, is I would say very important for everybody to do so. 00:12:50.480 --> 00:12:54.020 Uh, one other thing I wanted to mention was just, um, what I call the different 00:12:54.230 --> 00:12:56.570 stares of life for the life brackets. 00:12:57.440 --> 00:12:59.780 And so I'm just gonna run through these real quick. 00:12:59.780 --> 00:13:01.610 I don't really have talking points around them. 00:13:02.000 --> 00:13:02.840 I'm gonna read them. 00:13:02.840 --> 00:13:04.340 I have them right in front of me here. 00:13:04.340 --> 00:13:05.540 So, um. 00:13:05.990 --> 00:13:08.630 Some of those life brackets, and these are the ones that I made up. 00:13:08.780 --> 00:13:13.520 So these aren't scientific or anything, but, um, from the day you 00:13:13.520 --> 00:13:18.440 were born until you're about seven years old, is one stare of life. 00:13:20.330 --> 00:13:24.410 And we can think about these, I think as I kind of go through these, um, 00:13:24.680 --> 00:13:27.890 you can think about it and reflect on your own life and kinda go 00:13:27.890 --> 00:13:33.410 backwards, say, yeah, I had a stare, um, in my life around that time. 00:13:34.040 --> 00:13:39.380 And it would be thoughtful and useful, I would say, is to say, why 00:13:39.860 --> 00:13:41.840 did you have a stare at that time? 00:13:42.170 --> 00:13:43.790 Like, what was different about you? 00:13:44.300 --> 00:13:48.500 Um, from five years old to 30 years old, right? 00:13:48.500 --> 00:13:49.820 That's very extreme. 00:13:50.360 --> 00:13:50.630 Right. 00:13:50.810 --> 00:13:53.210 But we'll go through these and that's, I think it's helpful 00:13:53.210 --> 00:13:54.380 for you to think about that. 00:13:54.530 --> 00:13:59.120 And then it's also helpful for you to, to maybe project, um, 00:13:59.510 --> 00:14:02.420 maybe a grandkid or a neighbor. 00:14:03.095 --> 00:14:08.225 Um, or maybe a niece, nephew, maybe a, a son or daughter, um, in these 00:14:08.225 --> 00:14:14.825 brackets and think about how are you applying, um, some stairs right in 00:14:14.825 --> 00:14:21.275 their lives so that they are capable of stepping up, right, of elevating, um. 00:14:22.115 --> 00:14:26.225 And, uh, like a phrase that we have in our house is, Hey, you're, you're, 00:14:26.375 --> 00:14:28.595 you're a, you're an eighth grader, right? 00:14:28.595 --> 00:14:33.815 You're a, you're a sixth grader now, you're a, um, and sometimes the, the 00:14:33.815 --> 00:14:38.795 kids can't quite conceptualize what that means, um, because they're, 00:14:38.795 --> 00:14:40.175 uh, they're only 10 years old. 00:14:40.175 --> 00:14:41.225 They're only nine years old. 00:14:41.225 --> 00:14:42.545 They're only 13 years old. 00:14:43.745 --> 00:14:46.955 So it's important for us to be able to understand what we're up 00:14:46.955 --> 00:14:49.325 to with them to help them elevate. 00:14:50.075 --> 00:14:51.815 Because they're not going to do it on their own. 00:14:52.145 --> 00:14:56.555 So anyway, some of those life brackets are from when you're born to around seven, 00:14:57.515 --> 00:15:04.385 from eight until 12, and then you become a teenager, and now you're 13 to 17. 00:15:05.225 --> 00:15:09.965 And then 18 is when you graduate 18 to 25. 00:15:09.965 --> 00:15:13.415 So if you go to college, it's normally your college years 00:15:13.415 --> 00:15:14.945 are just out of college years. 00:15:14.945 --> 00:15:18.005 If you don't go to college, you are entering life. 00:15:18.215 --> 00:15:18.635 Um. 00:15:19.190 --> 00:15:21.890 Uh, regardless if you go to college, you're entering life. 00:15:21.890 --> 00:15:25.580 You're, you're leaving your parents home, you're getting a job, you're, you're 00:15:25.580 --> 00:15:30.590 responsible for yourself, and it's the first time likely that you're doing that. 00:15:31.130 --> 00:15:34.850 26 to 35 is you're in your career. 00:15:35.330 --> 00:15:39.290 Um, it's the really most important part of your career where you're really 00:15:39.290 --> 00:15:44.930 learning quickly and a lot, probably starting a family in that timeframe. 00:15:46.220 --> 00:15:47.125 36 to 50. 00:15:48.350 --> 00:15:52.130 That's the time where you are likely established in a career. 00:15:52.580 --> 00:15:58.370 Um, you likely have a family or you at least, um, have grown into a family. 00:15:59.630 --> 00:16:01.970 And, um, that's what they say. 00:16:01.970 --> 00:16:07.100 That 36 to 50 is the time where you are most productive and where 00:16:07.100 --> 00:16:09.080 you will make most of your wealth. 00:16:09.650 --> 00:16:09.920 Right? 00:16:10.430 --> 00:16:17.450 51 to 63, 64 to 75, and then 76 to 99. 00:16:18.005 --> 00:16:20.195 And those are the stages in life. 00:16:20.195 --> 00:16:22.985 And that doesn't mean, I think a lot of times we've, we've talked 00:16:22.985 --> 00:16:30.155 about this before too, um, which is, uh, at that 51 to 63, right? 00:16:30.155 --> 00:16:32.915 I'm preparing for, for my retirement. 00:16:33.275 --> 00:16:35.465 And when I hit 63, I retire. 00:16:36.095 --> 00:16:40.805 And, um, and unfortunately there's no more elevation. 00:16:41.885 --> 00:16:45.215 And so a lot of people stop, take their last stare at 63. 00:16:46.310 --> 00:16:49.550 And some people, if they retire early, maybe even earlier, 00:16:50.600 --> 00:16:51.920 and then they stop elevating. 00:16:52.790 --> 00:16:57.800 And I think that's, um, a disservice to yourself, a disservice to your family. 00:16:58.580 --> 00:17:04.580 Um, and I would say as well is a dis disservice to God and to Jesus. 00:17:04.850 --> 00:17:10.370 So there's a lot more to, to do in your life, a lot more to give once you retire. 00:17:10.685 --> 00:17:13.235 And you can always constantly be elevating. 00:17:13.655 --> 00:17:14.945 So think about that. 00:17:15.095 --> 00:17:17.345 Um, very fun topic. 00:17:17.375 --> 00:17:21.605 I think, uh, there's a million different things that you can apply in your own 00:17:21.605 --> 00:17:27.095 life, um, how you want to elevate in your own life, uh, within your own family. 00:17:27.725 --> 00:17:29.225 And, uh, yeah. 00:17:29.615 --> 00:17:30.245 So that's fun. 00:17:30.395 --> 00:17:31.205 We'll chat with you later. 00:17:31.295 --> 00:17:31.685 Thanks.