1 01:00:01,250 --> 01:00:02,000 Good morning. 2 01:00:03,958 --> 01:00:06,041 And welcome to morning cereal 3 01:00:11,958 --> 01:00:15,041 Okay, good morning and welcome to Friday. 4 01:00:15,666 --> 01:00:17,083 And be sure to make the most of it 5 01:00:17,083 --> 01:00:17,708 because this is the 6 01:00:17,708 --> 01:00:19,250 final Friday of April. 7 01:00:19,833 --> 01:00:21,458 I don't want to put too much pressure on 8 01:00:21,458 --> 01:00:22,291 you, but I'm going to 9 01:00:22,291 --> 01:00:23,083 go ahead and put a little 10 01:00:23,083 --> 01:00:24,750 bit more pressure on you right now 11 01:00:24,750 --> 01:00:27,208 because today is National Arbor Day. 12 01:00:27,708 --> 01:00:28,833 So celebrate it by 13 01:00:28,833 --> 01:00:30,458 planting a tree if you can. 14 01:00:31,166 --> 01:00:33,666 Over 500 million trees have been planted 15 01:00:33,666 --> 01:00:37,541 since the first Arbor Day back in 1872. 16 01:00:38,875 --> 01:00:42,416 Well it is also World Penguin Day, so I'm 17 01:00:42,416 --> 01:00:43,333 not sure they will 18 01:00:43,333 --> 01:00:45,125 appreciate Arbor Day or 19 01:00:45,125 --> 01:00:46,291 the fact that it's National 20 01:00:46,291 --> 01:00:47,875 Hairball Awareness Day too. 21 01:00:48,541 --> 01:00:50,750 But perhaps they will appreciate the fact 22 01:00:50,750 --> 01:00:52,583 that it's National Lingerie Day. 23 01:00:53,083 --> 01:00:54,083 You know those penguins? 24 01:00:54,541 --> 01:00:55,666 They're frisky little critters. 25 01:00:56,500 --> 01:00:59,000 Well today's quote embraces the natural 26 01:00:59,000 --> 01:01:00,458 flow of life, which 27 01:01:00,458 --> 01:01:02,708 sometimes is easier said than 28 01:01:02,708 --> 01:01:03,000 done. 29 01:01:03,791 --> 01:01:05,958 Well Al Pacino said quote, "If something 30 01:01:05,958 --> 01:01:07,916 is working, don't fix it." 31 01:01:08,125 --> 01:01:08,500 End quote. 32 01:01:09,541 --> 01:01:10,666 Well today's news facts and 33 01:01:10,666 --> 01:01:13,000 birthdays are for April 25th. 34 01:01:13,000 --> 01:01:15,083 We're going to start back in 1953 and 35 01:01:15,083 --> 01:01:16,041 that's when the double 36 01:01:16,041 --> 01:01:18,125 helix structure of DNA was 37 01:01:18,125 --> 01:01:19,916 first announced in academia. 38 01:01:20,666 --> 01:01:21,875 Then we're going to skip all the way up 39 01:01:21,875 --> 01:01:24,208 to 1990 when on this date 40 01:01:24,208 --> 01:01:25,750 the Hubble Space Telescope, 41 01:01:26,250 --> 01:01:27,708 it was released into orbit. 42 01:01:28,250 --> 01:01:29,833 And now that the Hubble Space Telescope 43 01:01:29,833 --> 01:01:31,000 was unhindered by the 44 01:01:31,000 --> 01:01:32,291 impurities and the distortions 45 01:01:32,625 --> 01:01:35,083 of Earth's atmosphere, the nearly eight 46 01:01:35,083 --> 01:01:36,708 foot telescope, it has 47 01:01:36,708 --> 01:01:37,708 delivered some of the most 48 01:01:37,708 --> 01:01:39,333 spectacular images of the 49 01:01:39,333 --> 01:01:40,708 far reaches of the universe. 50 01:01:41,833 --> 01:01:44,916 Well lastly on this date in 2011, the 51 01:01:44,916 --> 01:01:46,500 largest tornado outbreak 52 01:01:46,500 --> 01:01:48,583 ever recorded hit the U.S. 53 01:01:48,958 --> 01:01:52,625 with a total of 358 confirmed tornadoes. 54 01:01:53,833 --> 01:01:54,875 Well happy birthday to you. 55 01:01:54,875 --> 01:01:56,708 If your birthday is today, you share a 56 01:01:56,708 --> 01:01:59,083 birthday with actress who you had at 57 01:01:59,083 --> 01:02:00,708 Hello, Renee Zellweger, 58 01:02:00,958 --> 01:02:02,458 she's 56 and 59 01:02:02,458 --> 01:02:03,666 basketball player Tim Duncan. 60 01:02:04,041 --> 01:02:07,083 He's 49 today and actor and of course my 61 01:02:07,083 --> 01:02:08,833 favorite godfather Al Pacino. 62 01:02:09,291 --> 01:02:10,500 He's 85 today. 63 01:02:11,416 --> 01:02:12,875 Well the number one song on this date 64 01:02:12,875 --> 01:02:17,166 back in 1993 was "Informer" by Snow. 65 01:02:17,875 --> 01:02:20,333 Now this song did not define the decade 66 01:02:20,333 --> 01:02:22,000 and it wasn't super huge 67 01:02:22,000 --> 01:02:23,208 but I think you'd remember 68 01:02:23,208 --> 01:02:24,458 it if you heard it. 69 01:02:24,833 --> 01:02:26,250 So again real quick you can check out the 70 01:02:26,250 --> 01:02:27,250 Instagram page for the 71 01:02:27,250 --> 01:02:28,250 clips of these songs. 72 01:02:29,000 --> 01:02:30,958 Like the Canadian singer Snow, he wrote 73 01:02:30,958 --> 01:02:32,291 this song while he was 74 01:02:32,291 --> 01:02:34,500 in jail for a fight he was 75 01:02:34,500 --> 01:02:36,958 involved in and apparently he wrote the 76 01:02:36,958 --> 01:02:38,958 song to entertain his fellow inmates. 77 01:02:39,666 --> 01:02:41,541 Well it was entertaining enough to top 78 01:02:41,541 --> 01:02:43,916 the charts at number one for seven weeks. 79 01:02:44,666 --> 01:02:46,416 Well let's entertain ourselves here just 80 01:02:46,416 --> 01:02:47,541 for a few more minutes 81 01:02:47,541 --> 01:02:48,791 in our book review segment 82 01:02:49,208 --> 01:02:51,083 and as you know we're reading through 83 01:02:51,083 --> 01:02:52,291 Stephen R. Covey's "The 84 01:02:52,291 --> 01:02:53,833 Seven Habits of Highly Effective 85 01:02:53,916 --> 01:02:56,416 People" and we're in Covey's second 86 01:02:56,416 --> 01:02:58,416 chapter "The Seven Habits" in overview. 87 01:02:58,916 --> 01:03:00,750 Where Covey is discussing how important 88 01:03:00,750 --> 01:03:02,083 and influential habits 89 01:03:02,083 --> 01:03:04,375 are in our lives with habits 90 01:03:04,375 --> 01:03:06,375 defined as quote "the intersection of 91 01:03:06,375 --> 01:03:08,875 knowledge, skill, and desire" end quote. 92 01:03:09,500 --> 01:03:11,208 And Covey is acknowledging that it'll 93 01:03:11,208 --> 01:03:12,916 take tremendous effort to 94 01:03:12,916 --> 01:03:14,500 change these deeply embedded 95 01:03:14,500 --> 01:03:15,833 habitual tendencies. 96 01:03:16,750 --> 01:03:18,416 And yesterday we talked about how these 97 01:03:18,416 --> 01:03:19,916 habits were on a maturity 98 01:03:19,916 --> 01:03:21,791 continuum that consisted 99 01:03:21,958 --> 01:03:24,416 of growing from dependence to 100 01:03:24,416 --> 01:03:27,541 independence to interdependence and 101 01:03:27,541 --> 01:03:28,708 respectively growing 102 01:03:28,708 --> 01:03:31,625 from the paradigms of "you take care of 103 01:03:31,625 --> 01:03:33,625 me" versus "I can take 104 01:03:33,625 --> 01:03:35,416 care of me" versus "we 105 01:03:35,416 --> 01:03:36,583 can do it." 106 01:03:36,583 --> 01:03:38,666 So continuing in Covey's sub-chapter "The 107 01:03:38,666 --> 01:03:39,625 Maturity Continuum" 108 01:03:39,875 --> 01:03:41,583 it's fairly obvious that 109 01:03:41,583 --> 01:03:43,875 as we grow the maturity level of 110 01:03:43,875 --> 01:03:45,958 independence is more 111 01:03:45,958 --> 01:03:47,333 than that of dependence. 112 01:03:48,291 --> 01:03:50,833 And here Covey warns us that although 113 01:03:50,833 --> 01:03:53,041 independence is a quote "major 114 01:03:53,041 --> 01:03:54,583 achievement" it's not 115 01:03:54,583 --> 01:03:55,791 the supreme goal. 116 01:03:56,541 --> 01:03:59,208 And again Covey is aware that the current 117 01:03:59,208 --> 01:04:01,583 social norms quote "put independence on a 118 01:04:01,583 --> 01:04:03,500 pedestal as though communication, 119 01:04:03,916 --> 01:04:05,083 teamwork, and cooperation 120 01:04:05,083 --> 01:04:07,166 were somehow lesser values" 121 01:04:07,166 --> 01:04:07,583 end quote. 122 01:04:08,250 --> 01:04:10,500 He feels that interdependence has 123 01:04:10,500 --> 01:04:12,375 seemingly gotten a bad rap 124 01:04:12,375 --> 01:04:14,125 as the current norms view 125 01:04:14,333 --> 01:04:16,875 interdependence as turning away from 126 01:04:16,875 --> 01:04:17,958 everything that tells us 127 01:04:17,958 --> 01:04:20,000 how strong and successful we 128 01:04:20,000 --> 01:04:21,166 are to be independent. 129 01:04:22,041 --> 01:04:24,000 To describe this Covey uses terms like 130 01:04:24,000 --> 01:04:25,958 becoming liberated or 131 01:04:25,958 --> 01:04:28,583 asserting themselves or doing 132 01:04:28,583 --> 01:04:29,541 their own thing. 133 01:04:30,083 --> 01:04:33,041 And Covey warns us that this quote often 134 01:04:33,041 --> 01:04:35,208 reveals more fundamental 135 01:04:35,208 --> 01:04:37,666 dependencies that cannot 136 01:04:37,666 --> 01:04:39,375 be run away from because they are 137 01:04:39,375 --> 01:04:42,166 internal rather than external end quote. 138 01:04:43,166 --> 01:04:44,500 So for example these internal 139 01:04:44,500 --> 01:04:46,041 dependencies would allow us 140 01:04:46,041 --> 01:04:47,958 to ruin our emotional lives 141 01:04:48,375 --> 01:04:50,541 because of other people's weaknesses or 142 01:04:50,541 --> 01:04:51,708 quote "feeling 143 01:04:51,708 --> 01:04:54,500 victimized by people and events 144 01:04:54,500 --> 01:04:56,625 that are out of our control" end quote. 145 01:04:57,500 --> 01:04:59,541 Covey is just saying to be careful that 146 01:04:59,541 --> 01:05:01,333 your independence is true 147 01:05:01,333 --> 01:05:03,541 quote "true independence 148 01:05:03,666 --> 01:05:06,250 of character empowers us to act rather 149 01:05:06,250 --> 01:05:08,791 than be acted upon" end quote. 150 01:05:09,625 --> 01:05:12,458 And again independence is great but quote 151 01:05:12,458 --> 01:05:15,416 "it is not the ultimate goal in effective 152 01:05:15,500 --> 01:05:16,666 living" end quote. 153 01:05:17,666 --> 01:05:19,750 There are a lot of great people out there 154 01:05:19,750 --> 01:05:20,791 who are great 155 01:05:20,791 --> 01:05:23,208 individual producers but Covey 156 01:05:23,208 --> 01:05:26,083 says quote "independent people who do not 157 01:05:26,083 --> 01:05:27,333 have the maturity to 158 01:05:27,333 --> 01:05:29,666 think and act interdependently 159 01:05:30,166 --> 01:05:31,416 they won't be good leaders 160 01:05:31,416 --> 01:05:33,291 or team players" end quote. 161 01:05:33,750 --> 01:05:35,791 And they could struggle to succeed in 162 01:05:35,791 --> 01:05:37,125 things like a marriage or 163 01:05:37,125 --> 01:05:38,916 family or an organizational 164 01:05:39,291 --> 01:05:39,875 reality. 165 01:05:40,916 --> 01:05:44,041 So remember the natural order of life on 166 01:05:44,041 --> 01:05:45,875 this planet and in humans is 167 01:05:45,875 --> 01:05:47,708 to be highly interdependent 168 01:05:48,291 --> 01:05:48,500 right. 169 01:05:49,291 --> 01:05:51,125 Here's a longer excerpt from the book 170 01:05:51,125 --> 01:05:52,458 that I think spells out 171 01:05:52,458 --> 01:05:54,041 and it sums up what Covey 172 01:05:54,041 --> 01:05:55,958 is talking about regarding the 173 01:05:55,958 --> 01:05:58,166 differences between both the good 174 01:05:58,166 --> 01:06:00,291 qualities right of dependence 175 01:06:00,625 --> 01:06:02,000 and further along the 176 01:06:02,000 --> 01:06:04,416 maturity continuum interdependence. 177 01:06:05,375 --> 01:06:08,125 Here's the quote "Interdependence is far 178 01:06:08,125 --> 01:06:10,833 more mature a more advanced concept. 179 01:06:11,583 --> 01:06:14,166 If I am physically interdependent I am 180 01:06:14,166 --> 01:06:16,833 self-reliant and capable but I also 181 01:06:16,833 --> 01:06:18,125 realize that you and 182 01:06:18,125 --> 01:06:20,833 I working together can accomplish far 183 01:06:20,833 --> 01:06:22,375 more than even at my best 184 01:06:22,375 --> 01:06:23,666 I could accomplish alone. 185 01:06:25,000 --> 01:06:28,583 And if I'm emotionally interdependent I 186 01:06:28,583 --> 01:06:30,083 derive a great sense of 187 01:06:30,083 --> 01:06:32,000 worth within myself but I 188 01:06:32,166 --> 01:06:34,541 also recognize the need for love 189 01:06:34,541 --> 01:06:36,125 forgiving and for 190 01:06:36,125 --> 01:06:37,916 receiving love from others. 191 01:06:38,875 --> 01:06:40,458 And then finally if I'm intellectually 192 01:06:40,458 --> 01:06:42,583 interdependent I realize 193 01:06:42,583 --> 01:06:44,458 that I need the best thinking of 194 01:06:44,500 --> 01:06:45,750 other people to join 195 01:06:45,750 --> 01:06:47,333 with my own" end quote. 196 01:06:48,458 --> 01:06:50,125 Well thanks for sticking in there with us 197 01:06:50,125 --> 01:06:51,458 I know we're jamming a 198 01:06:51,458 --> 01:06:52,750 lot of great information 199 01:06:52,958 --> 01:06:55,125 into about a three or four minute book 200 01:06:55,125 --> 01:06:57,000 review process here but I 201 01:06:57,000 --> 01:06:57,833 hope you're sticking with 202 01:06:57,833 --> 01:06:58,625 us and I hope it's 203 01:06:58,625 --> 01:06:59,958 making good sense for you. 204 01:07:00,666 --> 01:07:02,291 Well stick with us because on Monday 205 01:07:02,291 --> 01:07:03,083 we're going to finish up 206 01:07:03,083 --> 01:07:04,250 this longer sub chapter 207 01:07:04,250 --> 01:07:06,750 of the maturity continuum before we move 208 01:07:06,750 --> 01:07:08,416 on to the next sub chapter which is 209 01:07:08,416 --> 01:07:10,041 called Effectiveness 210 01:07:10,041 --> 01:07:10,791 Defined. 211 01:07:11,583 --> 01:07:13,916 Hey thanks for joining us today enjoy 212 01:07:13,916 --> 01:07:15,333 your weekend we'll see 213 01:07:15,333 --> 01:07:16,333 you back here on Monday 214 01:07:16,333 --> 01:07:17,666 refreshed and restored 215 01:07:17,666 --> 01:07:20,208 and have a fantastic day. 216 01:07:22,625 --> 01:07:24,375 Don't forget to follow and subscribe to 217 01:07:24,375 --> 01:07:25,000 the Morning Serial 218 01:07:25,000 --> 01:07:26,625 podcast on the One Life 219 01:07:26,791 --> 01:07:27,625 Live It channel. 220 01:07:28,166 --> 01:07:30,083 You can find more episodes and videos by 221 01:07:30,083 --> 01:07:31,750 visiting our YouTube channel and the 222 01:07:31,750 --> 01:07:33,375 website at seaningless 223 01:07:33,708 --> 01:07:35,875 and at seaningless.com, where you can 224 01:07:35,875 --> 01:07:37,208 also follow our other 225 01:07:37,208 --> 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