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Hello and welcome to Pickleball Therapy,
the podcast dedicated to your pickleball

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improvement with the focus on your mind.

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That super important and sometimes
overlooked part of our process as

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pickleball players and bigger
picture as human beings.

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My name is Tony Roig, by the way, before I
dive into this, I'm the

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host of your weekly podcast.

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Sometimes I forget to
introduce myself to you.

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If you're new to the podcast,
Welcome to the podcast.

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It's great to be with you.

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If you're returning listening to the
podcast, it's always

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great to have you with us.

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We strive to provide you
content every week that will help you

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navigate a healthier
and a more constructive relationship

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with this beautiful sport of pickleball.

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And that's what I was getting at a second
ago, getting to, which is we get feedback

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from players from time to time about how
once you embrace the mental journey or

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the mental part of your journey, because
you're going to have a mental part

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of your journey no matter what.

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But once you embrace it, once you
face it head on and improve

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it, work on yourself, that the benefits
far extend far beyond

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just the pickleball court.

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They apply to your life, they
apply to everything that you do.

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And you're just going to feel better about
everything once you have a clarity about

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your mental processes and improving them.

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And this week, what I'm going to do I'm
going to read to you

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from the book, Acuity.

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Well, Acuity is not necessarily the name,
but that's what I call it internally,

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Acuity for the Mental Process,
or Mental Acuity for pickleball.

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And that'll be in the rift today.

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Before that, I'm going to talk to you
about what I see as a fallacy in thinking

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that is pretty pervasive out there.

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And I want to address it in case it's
something that

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affects you from time to time.

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And what I want to do is
share with you how that approach is

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actually It doesn't work the way you think
it might, if that's what you're doing, and

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might help you with some friends as well
in terms of if you see them doing that.

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Before we do that,
though, a couple of items.

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One is we have our academy for
50 plus players open right now.

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It's a super good price, I think,
relative to what else is out there.

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It's basically like
a lesson and a half, if you want to think

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about that way, at most
local lesson rates.

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And you get a year worth of coaching from
C, Jamie, and the Better Pickleball

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Coaching Team inside the
Better Pickleball Academy.

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It's just bang for your buck,
can't get better than that.

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So give that a check.
Betterpickleballacademy.

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Com, I believe it is.
We'll put a link in the show notes.

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I also want to do a
couple of shoutouts here.

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I appreciate you all taking a moment
to rate and review the podcast.

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As I always mentioned at the end, it helps
us reach other players who, just like

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you, might benefit from this process.

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So the first one I'm going to
do is from Mike from May 5.

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Thanks, Mike, for leaving this.

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The Zen approach to Pickleball.

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Love it.

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Lots of great advice on how to relax and
enjoy the game instead of always striving

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for perfection and feeling bad when
we fail to meet our expectations.

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Embrace the process.

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That's also my great way of
framing it, and thank you for that.

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And then the other one is
from Marion on May 12th.

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I look forward to every episode.

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I love that every episode
is short yet impactful.

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The tips and lessons Tony shares help me
with my mental game,

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help me to maintain an appropriate
perspective, and remind me to be grateful

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every time I get to play
this amazing game.

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Thank you very much, Marion,
for leaving that review.

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And if you enjoy the podcast,
I'll say it again at the end.

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If you have a moment to leave a
review, that would be appreciated.

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All right, let's dive into the first topic
I want to talk about,

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which is this idea of...

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It's the idea of quick gratification,
of immediate gratification.

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We live in a
society that is increasingly, and I'm not

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talking just about this
society, the society in general.

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We're living in a time, I guess I should
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immediate gratification
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We want everything yesterday.

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There's comedians doing jokes about Amazon
Prime and how you can

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get something delivered.

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One could be that's something pretty funny
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that Amazon basically is going to start
delivering to you before you even know

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you want it because they know you want it.

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So they're just going to bring it to you.

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Then you want it yesterday
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As humans, it's hard to fight it.

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How do I swim upstream here?

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And the pickleball and pickleball
learning is no different.

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And so this
concept that I've been working on and

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wrote a couple of articles about recently,
arose from a video that I did

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on basically the one shot that
you need, the most important shot.

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And I focused on 50 plus play, because
that's where I'm at in my game.

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But basically, it's the most important
shot in pickleball, period, end of story.

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If you follow, if you're a system student
or been following us for a while,

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you already know what shot it is.

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And you also know that the
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And You also know that a lot of players,
and you know these players, right?

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You're friends with a lot of them, and so
am I, the minute you say

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the shot, they tune you out.

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They're gone, right?
They're done.

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So I did a video on it, and the video was
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to hit it, two keys to it,
and then three benefits about why hitting

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the shot that way will help you
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I can't believe how many comments I got.

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I mean, I can't believe it, but I got a
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saying, This took forever.

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Two minutes to even mention it.

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And players were just
like, Where's my fix?

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I need shot right now.

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Shoot me up, shoot me up.

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So it got me thinking, right?

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Because this is not uncommon.

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If you imagine if I had
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probably 500 behind there
I mean, actually, boring.

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This video already has like 25,000
views, which is a lot for our channel.

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So happy about that.

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But when I see this
bucking of information get delivered by a

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coach who's thinking about the game in
a way that will help, it's pause, right?

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And I also went back and
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I went back and I said, You know what?

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Maybe did I spend the first two
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I like doing something weird?

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Or was there something
that I did for a reason?

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Because usually, not usually, but usually,
like 90% of the time when I'm coaching,

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there's a reason why I've
done it the way I've done it.

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And so I go back and look at the video.

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And so let me just tell you how it was
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Because there's two points
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Let me lay it out for you first,
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So the first two minutes of the
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And what I'm talking about here is I talk
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that we were talking about
was getting attacked early in rallies and

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was losing a lot of points quick, right?

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So how do we fix it?

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And then I talked about the There's
shots that you could work on, right?

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So you could work on a role volley, a hard
serve, figuring out every answer

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to every dink, things like that.

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Then I introduced the concept of
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which again, if you're a student of ours,
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But the idea is How do I prioritize
my journey, my improvement journey?

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Because we're being specific here.

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If you're watching this video, it's
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better for your game.

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So how do I How do I prioritize
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Well, consequential importance tells me
which shots are most consequentially

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important to my game, meaning
which ones have the biggest impact.

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So then I asked questions about the roll
volume, things like that, basically

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saying how often you hit those.

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And then I said, well, compare that to the
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discuss, which is the return to serve.

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So the phrase return to serve is
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the minute I say return to serve, if I
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who's watching in that video.

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Not you, but most players don't understand
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So if I start the video by saying, Hey,
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serve,
you leave without really understanding

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that it's going to give you all of these
benefits and also not thinking about

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this concept of consequential importance.

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So there's lessons inside lessons.

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So I'm teaching about
the benefits of it indirectly by talking

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about how you get attacked early and how
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a good It's indirect at the beginning
by saying, This is what's happening.

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How do we fix it?
This shot will fix it.

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I also validated the shot by saying, This
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So when I play in a tournament as a senior
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on my mind and as a coach.

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So I've already set the
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One is, I think players have a hard time
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teaching is occurring.

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For the players who commented, and I
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a process for them, and I offered to share
the article with them if they wanted.

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So I have the team looking out, and if
they reply and say they want the article,

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give us an email, send them the article.

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But basically, the one fallacy is that
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but they're not recognizing that they're
learning because their reaction is, I

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just want to I was on to have a shot.

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And the problem there is it's
not fulfilling that way, right?

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And it's not as complete and
it's not as long lasting, right?

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Because you just have a quick little
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the context for it, right?

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So there's a reason why the video is
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because it's going to be more impactful.

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Now, in fairness, the vast majority of
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got the impact.

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They were like, Whoa, okay,
I got to think about that.

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Yeah, that makes sense.
That type of thing.

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So there was comments like that.

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But there is a significant number of
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So one, there is teaching that's happening
that may not be readily apparent because

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It's not like, this is the shot, here's
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it, but not the overall story.

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So some players were basically saying
something like, this could have been done

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in a minute, two minutes,
90 seconds, whatever, right?

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Yeah, sure.
We do shorts.

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I do YouTube shorts, not all day long,
but we're getting more into those, right?

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And because that's what
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So we'll do shorts, but shorts are not
You're not really learning.

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You get a little...

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It's getting a glimpse.

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It's like watching a trailer
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Actually, I hadn't
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But it's like that.

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It's like you're trying to get the essence
of the Godfather in a

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three-minute trailer.

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But How much of the movie do you miss?

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That way.

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The other thing is if it's the most
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mom, this video was only
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It wasn't a 20-minute video.

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I could talk about the
return of surf for an hour.

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And with meaning and substance.

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It's only six and a half minutes of it.

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So for the most important
shot, that's well worth it.

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But the other thing,
here's the other fallacy.

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It's time.

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So players think that it could
have been explained in 60 seconds.

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Okay, sure.
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What's the most important shot?
Return to serve.

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How long does that take?

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Four seconds, five seconds?
Sure.

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There you go.
Done.

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I'm out.
Mic drop.

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But that's not a way to learn pickleball,
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learn anything long-lasting.

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And the example, the analogy And the last
metaphor that I used in the article was,

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so imagine you're building a piece of IKEA
furniture, and there's this one piece

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of the puzzle that you can't figure out.

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It's like some doorhanger or something.

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And so you go on YouTube
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shows you exactly where to put it.
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I mean, that's perfect.

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I don't need a 15-minute video on
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The reason is because it's a one-off.

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And you're not building a
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You're going to be an
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You're doing it four days a
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It doesn't work the same.

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Meaning you want to understand
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Right?

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These hangers, these door pieces, all
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a new piece of furniture that you haven't
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to go find a quick fix.

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Otherwise, you're just
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And that's how some players
pursue their pickle ball.

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That's what got me
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That they just want 30 second sound bites
about this and about this and

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about this and about that.

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But that's That's what
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Again, not you personally,
the player doing that.

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Basically, it's like
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How do I do this?
How do I do that?

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How do I do this?
How do I do that?

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But I never understand how it all works.

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I don't know.

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I don't know about you,
but A, it's not fulfilling.

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But B, I do know this, you're You're
going to lose time in the long term.

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If you're going to play pickleball for 10
years and you're always trying to figure

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out what it is, what it is, what it is,
what it is, what it is, what it is, as

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opposed to understanding the why,
understanding the framework, understanding

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the game, it's going to take you longer.

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You're not going to save time, and
it's not going to be as fulfilling.

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Anyway, so those are the fallacies of that
approach, and I wanted to share them with

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you because it's something that's been on
my mind based on

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feedback to a recent video.

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And you're welcome to
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By the time you listen, this may not be
the very last video on

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the IntuPickle channel, but it'll
be in the last three or four.

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It's like the number one most
important shot or something like that.

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I have a big number one on my
finger, so you can see it.

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All right, let me dive into the RIF.

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I probably already said this.

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I said it last episode, I know that.

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But if you're not already in our email
list, make sure you join our

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email list, betterpickleball.
Com.

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We send out a weekly email with tips and
stuff like that, but we also keep

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you appraised of what's going on.

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So I'm going to imagine
you're already on there.

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But if you're not, check it out.

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All right.

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So I'm going to read you
a piece from the book.

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This is from part four of the book.

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And I'm not going to belabor the whole
structure of the book right now.

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But I don't know if I use the
word belabor there properly.

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Let me know.

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But I'm not going to
dive into that too much.

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But I do want to tell you that this part
four is basically how we fit

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into the sport of pickleball.

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So it's understanding that...

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Actually, I'm going to tell you.

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So the first parts of the book have to do
with you as a player, and

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understanding yourself.

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Next part of the book, we talk about the
game, understanding that's framework and

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understanding that part of the game in
terms of the game itself so we

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can interact with it better.

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And then this next part is
how there's other actors in this play.

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So this section that I'm
looking at has to do with...

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Or this section that I just finished
reediting has to do with a

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downsize to an ego approach.

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And we discuss...

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So below, I'm going to read this part to
you, and then I'm going

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to go to second scenario.

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Below, we explore two scenarios that
commonly play out on the courts.

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Each scenario illustrates the downside,
even harm, that can be caused by an

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egocentric approach to pickleball.

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In the first, we explore its impact on us.

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In the second, on our friends.

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And I want to focus on the friends because
I think that's something that

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we often overlook.

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So this section is called
scenario 2, the Come Back Kids.

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Let's move on to another scenario to see
how a self-centered perspective

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can negatively impact our friends.

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In this scenario, we are up 10-2-1
against our opponents, Jeff and Vicky.

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One more point, and we finish
our mission and win this game.

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We're almost there.

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A few minutes later, we're at the net
tapping paddles at the end of the game,

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but there's a twist.

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Jeff and Vicky actually won the game.

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They came all the way back to win 12-10.

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I cannot tell you how many times I've
witnessed this behavior after a comeback

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like that, a comeback
loss by the losing team.

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The losing team walks off murmuring,
Man, we screwed that up,

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or similar to each other.

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The losing team has made the result,
their loss, all about them.

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The losing team's egocentric perspective
is controlling the narrative.

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The reality, though, is that for Jeff and
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they had to play a
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Plus, They had to score 10
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That's pretty impressive, right?

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Yet when the losing team, us in this
scenario, walks off the court saying, We

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screwed that up, the accomplishment
of the winning team is drowned out.

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Rather than being about Jeff and Vicky's
incredible play,

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it's all about our bad play.

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This perspective robs Jeff
and Vicky of their moment.

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To make sure this is not lost,
Jeff and Vicky are our friends.

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Let that sink in for a moment.

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In our Man, we messed that up,
we diminish our friend's accomplishment.

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To make matters worse,
there's no gain in it for us.

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What is the advantage to you and I
of adopting the, It was on us, conclusion?

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There's none.

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I am not suggesting that we should
diminish our friends Even were we

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able to gain some advantage here.

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Pointing this out helps drive home
how completely useless and silly it is for

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us to turn our friend's 'awesome' play
into our failure.

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Switch the scenario around for a minute
because I am 100% confident

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that you have experienced an awesome
comeback in your playing career.

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You have been down
and battled back to win.

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Imagine in that situation that you go up
to the net to tap paddles

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and hear one of your opponents,
again, your friends, say to the other,

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Sorry, I gave that game away, or
Man, we messed up.

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How does that make you feel?

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It's difficult not to feel a
bit reduced in that moment.

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The victory was not due to
your amazing and tough play.

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Your victory was just
because of their mistake.

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Now, it should be pretty apparent that
robbing joy and accomplishment

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from each other is not desirable.

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With the better framing we gain in this
part of the book, we have the tools to

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better navigate the different actors
in the play that we call pickleball.

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The first step is acknowledging
acknowledging that there are other actors.

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Pickleball is about more than just us.

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So that's an exit from the book.
I hope you enjoyed it.

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We're still working, plugging away at the
book, figuring out the last piece is to

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get this thing
in play by the end of the year.

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If it's not up by the end of
the year, folks, I don't know.

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I may think I have to take
a month off the podcast.

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I have to get this done.

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But I hope you enjoyed it.

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And I'm going to be asking for any
interest that you have in

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reviewing the book and things like that.

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But that's a little premature to do that
in this episode, hopefully the

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next one or the one after that.

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That's my hope.

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And we'll keep plugging away on it.

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Anyway, that was this week's podcast.

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I hope you enjoyed the podcast.

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As always, if you have a minute to
rate and review it, we appreciate it.

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And share it with your friends.

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Remember, if you enjoyed the
podcast, they probably will, too.

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Be well, and I'll see you in the
next episode of pickleball Therapy..