In Episode 4 of the Deacon Life Podcast, Deacon Michael Halbrook sits down with Deacon Patrick O'Toole for a remarkable conversation about faith, family, and following God's unpredictable path.
Patrick's journey includes divorce at 35, a conversion experience sparked by a Baptist radio preacher, remarriage and 10 children, and decades working for the Church in marriage ministry, retreat leadership, and missions. But the most surprising chapter? When his wife became a travel nurse, they bought a bus and took their family across America—serving in parishes from Illinois to Florida to Washington State and everywhere in between.
Along the way, Patrick discovered the beauty of the universal Church expressed in countless parishes, raised children who have no fear of change, and learned that close quarters create deep family bonds. His kids now gather for "dad lore" nights, asking to hear more of his story.
Patrick speaks honestly about his struggle with workaholism, the importance of his wife keeping him grounded, and why 3 AM adoration is his favorite hour. His advice for men considering the diaconate: "If you think God might be calling you, he is. Jump in."
Key topics: Divorce and conversion, blended family, travel nursing ministry, living on a bus, parish diversity, Christ the King, adoration, homebound ministry, obedience to the bishop
What is Deacon Life?
Real conversations with permanent deacons about the joys, struggles, and Christ-centered journey of diaconal ministry. Each episode, host Deacon Michael sits down with a fellow deacon to explore the moments that shape this unique vocation — from the call to ordination, to navigating family life and parish ministry, to the quiet sacrifices no one sees. Whether you're a deacon feeling the weight of ministry alone, discerning the diaconate, or simply curious about what this calling looks like from the inside, you'll find honest stories and a reminder: you're not alone in this calling. New episodes every other week.