In today’s episode of Creative Business Mindset™, I’m talking about something that so many creative entrepreneurs quietly struggle with but rarely say out loud: why networking feels so exhausting and what you’ve been getting wrong about it.
You’ve been in that room before. Maybe you’re that person. I know I was. Walking into a networking event with your elevator pitch rehearsed, business cards ready, scanning the room for the “right” people to talk to. Every conversation feels like a transaction waiting to happen and before you even get halfway through the room, you’re already drained.
Here’s the truth: it’s not the room that’s exhausting you. It’s the mindset you walked in with.
In this episode, I break down how we’ve been taught to approach networking like a sales event and why that approach is quietly sabotaging your ability to build real relationships, the kind that actually grow your business. Because nobody likes being sold to and yet that’s exactly the energy we walk in with.
Instead, I want to offer you a different way to think about networking. Not as a strategy or a performance, but as a social skill, one you already learned long before business was ever part of your life. This is about genuine curiosity, real presence and actually getting to know people beyond what they do.
Because the truth is, you don’t earn your place in a room by what you hand people. You earn it by how you make them feel.
I share how shifting from a “what can I get?” mindset to a “who can I connect with?” The approach completely changed how I show up in rooms and how it can do the same for you. When you let go of the pressure to perform and focus on being present, conversations become easier, more natural and far more meaningful.
Here’s what I break down in this episode:
✅ Why networking feels draining when you lead with a sales agenda
✅ The difference between transactional energy and real connection
✅ Why people can feel your intention before you speak
✅ How to approach networking like a social skill, not a performance
✅ Why one meaningful conversation is enough
✅ Why the goal is the conversation… not the business card
Sometimes the shift isn’t doing more.
It’s doing it differently. When you walk into a room to connect instead of to sell, everything changes. Conversations feel easier. People lean in. And business becomes a natural byproduct of real relationships.
So next time you walk into a room, ask yourself:
Am I here to give… or to get?
Because that answer will shape everything.
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BUSINESS Therapy™ is the podcast for creative entrepreneurs, women business owners, founders, and high capacity women who are ready to build a business that works without losing themselves in the process.
Hosted by Joké Durojaiye, Life Coach + Business Strategist and creator of BUSINESS Therapy™, the podcast brings together the personal and professional sides of entrepreneurship.
Joké brings more than two decades of experience turning creativity into business. But she didn't start with all the answers.
She did what most creative women do.
She worked harder when she should have thought clearer.
The shift from creative to CEO mindset was real.
Joké fumbled her way through turning her love for design into a real business that pays the bills.
Now, she helps creative women make that same shift, because building a business is never just about the business. The person running it matters too.
BUSINESS Therapy™ explores the strategy, mindset, and emotional realities of entrepreneurship, including the moments that don't make it into the business plan. The difficult client. The slow sales month. The negative review. The decision you've been avoiding. The comparison that makes you question your progress. The business that has grown, but somehow feels harder to run.
Joké brings these conversations back to one central idea: Separate the math from the drama.
Because you can be brilliant at what you do and still struggle with the business of doing it.
Expect practical business strategy, honest conversations, fresh perspective, and the questions that help you see what is really happening in your business so you can decide what to do next.
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