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One of the things"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":570.68,"endTime":575.45,"body":"that I promised in this podcast"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":570.68,"endTime":575.45,"body":"life of mine is that I would"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":575.45,"endTime":580.52,"body":"bring practical tips as we are"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":575.45,"endTime":580.52,"body":"learning and growing together."},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":580.76,"endTime":583.79,"body":"And one of the things I wanted"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":580.76,"endTime":583.79,"body":"to share in relation to how I"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":583.79,"endTime":590.78,"body":"stopped my crazy was first to"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":583.79,"endTime":590.78,"body":"get clear on what it is I"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":590.78,"endTime":594.23,"body":"wanted. 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Now mind you"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":615.77,"endTime":619.28,"body":"picture this, you've, you've got"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":619.28,"endTime":622.7,"body":"this blank slate, there's nobody"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":619.28,"endTime":622.7,"body":"in the room, there's nobody"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":622.7,"endTime":626.33,"body":"who's going to read the list,"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":622.7,"endTime":626.33,"body":"there's no judgment. And yet,"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":626.54,"endTime":635.06,"body":"for me to identify what I wanted"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":626.54,"endTime":635.06,"body":"for my life was, it was not, it"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":635.06,"endTime":640.16,"body":"was not an automatic response."},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":635.06,"endTime":640.16,"body":"And after some time, when I"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":640.16,"endTime":645.62,"body":"looked back at that exercise,"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":640.16,"endTime":645.62,"body":"realized, even that process and"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":645.62,"endTime":651.08,"body":"what it took, it occurred to me"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":645.62,"endTime":651.08,"body":"that I had built so much time"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":651.08,"endTime":654.26,"body":"and put so much energy and"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":651.08,"endTime":654.26,"body":"effort into taking care of the"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":654.26,"endTime":659.06,"body":"people around me. 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So my suggestion"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":717.56,"endTime":721.91,"body":"Sis, for anyone who's going"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":717.56,"endTime":721.91,"body":"through anything similar, where"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":721.91,"endTime":725.18,"body":"you're feeling like you can't"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":721.91,"endTime":725.18,"body":"sing the song that you were"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":725.18,"endTime":732.98,"body":"meant to sing, is to start"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":725.18,"endTime":732.98,"body":"taking action. If your action is"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":733.01,"endTime":738.98,"body":"as simple as getting a journal,"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":733.01,"endTime":738.98,"body":"then get a journal, I highly"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":739.58,"endTime":743.78,"body":"suggest journals and advise"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":739.58,"endTime":743.78,"body":"folks to get journals. Because"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":743.78,"endTime":748.85,"body":"there's something about writing"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":743.78,"endTime":748.85,"body":"down what's happening in your"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":748.85,"endTime":753.29,"body":"head. You're right, like, there"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":748.85,"endTime":753.29,"body":"are those of us who just stay in"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":753.29,"endTime":758.06,"body":"our heads. 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But"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":784.7,"endTime":790.97,"body":"before you blow up, and, you"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":784.7,"endTime":790.97,"body":"know, take folks with you on"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":791.0,"endTime":795.53,"body":"that journey, I suggest being"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":791.0,"endTime":795.53,"body":"very intentional. You know, one"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":795.53,"endTime":798.62,"body":"of the other things I suggest is"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":795.53,"endTime":798.62,"body":"as you are journaling, if you"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":798.62,"endTime":803.84,"body":"find it difficult to just begin"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":798.62,"endTime":803.84,"body":"to describe what's happening in"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":803.84,"endTime":808.88,"body":"your life and documenting how"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":803.84,"endTime":808.88,"body":"you're feeling. Then find some"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":808.88,"endTime":813.11,"body":"prompts that relate to self"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":808.88,"endTime":813.11,"body":"awareness. 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Just start somewhere."},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":835.45,"endTime":842.08,"body":"I heard Mel Robbins talk about"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":835.45,"endTime":842.08,"body":"her definition of joy. And in"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":842.08,"endTime":846.19,"body":"one of those definitions of joy"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":842.08,"endTime":846.19,"body":"for her it was keeping promises"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":846.19,"endTime":850.84,"body":"to herself. And when I heard"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":846.19,"endTime":850.84,"body":"that I thought my God, how great"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":850.84,"endTime":857.32,"body":"is that? and How simple is that."},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":850.84,"endTime":857.32,"body":"However it's not always easy to"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":857.32,"endTime":861.49,"body":"implement, especially if you're"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":857.32,"endTime":861.49,"body":"someone who's constantly pouring"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":861.49,"endTime":866.14,"body":"into and taking care of those"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":861.49,"endTime":866.14,"body":"around you. Keeping promises to"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":866.14,"endTime":870.73,"body":"yourself is a good start. And"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":866.14,"endTime":870.73,"body":"journaling. Getting those"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":870.73,"endTime":873.97,"body":"journal prompts that relate to"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":870.73,"endTime":873.97,"body":"self awareness is a great place"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":873.97,"endTime":880.09,"body":"to start start small and I"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":873.97,"endTime":880.09,"body":"promise you,  you're going to be"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":880.09,"endTime":886.57,"body":"surprised at what happens next."},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":880.09,"endTime":886.57,"body":"That's it. I want you to know"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":886.57,"endTime":891.52,"body":"you're not alone. So if after"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":886.57,"endTime":891.52,"body":"you hear this story you'd like"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":891.52,"endTime":896.83,"body":"to DM me or email me, mail a"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":891.52,"endTime":896.83,"body":"letter contact me in any way."},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":896.86,"endTime":902.32,"body":"Just head to our website,"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":896.86,"endTime":902.32,"body":"effortlessandunbothered.com and"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":902.35,"endTime":904.36,"body":"let me know if this resonates"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":902.35,"endTime":904.36,"body":"with you. Leave a comment"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":904.54,"endTime":906.28,"body":"wherever you listen to podcasts."},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":904.54,"endTime":906.28,"body":"I thank you for spending this"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":906.28,"endTime":909.94,"body":"time with me today and I hope it"},{"speaker":"Darice Rene","startTime":906.28,"endTime":909.94,"body":"was helpful to you."}]}