(upbeat music)
Don't think I have an
addictive personality.
That's probably
something you should know.
I don't know stress, I'm not stressed.
So how do you deal with it?
Not well.
No.
I meditate every
morning for an hour and a half
and then I'm good.
You got that much time
in your day, good for you.
I have to really try now not to be fat.
Are you serious?
This is not a vacation.
Right.
Don't bring swim trunks.
Don't even bring swim trunks.
There's a pool at the hotel.
This is not for fun.
They're behind me aren't they?
(laughing)
Oh.
Sorry.
Introvert, extrovert.
Brain.
Strain.
Not a sprain, strain right?
Sprain.
Strain?
Sprain.
Sprain and ankle.
Strain and muscle.
Then just follow social norms.
Where we are engaged.
Scene of crime.
Someday we'll tell the
story about how I rented out
the entire top.
You did.
Of the Empire State Building to just us.
Yes.
My proposal.
We met on a cruise,
have you seen the movie?
(upbeat music)
All right, we'll give it a go.
Back at it.
How you doing?
I am, well, how are you?
Way to jump into it there.
I'm awkward with you right now
because I haven't seen you in four days.
It's like I gotta get to know you again.
Hi, I'm Megan.
Nice to meet you.
I'm Shawn.
Nice to meet you.
Yeah, you have a great handshake.
Thanks, you do too.
You do.
(laughing)
Oh man, this is one of those odd ones
where we haven't seen
each other in four days
because of the schedule.
So we get to play a
little bit of catch up.
Yes.
Live.
And on recording.
Which is always the best way to do it.
Yeah, live on recording, so.
Yeah, of course.
Oh, what could go wrong with that?
It usually means I'm
spending way too much time
cutting a lot of stuff out.
Probably.
Because we need to start
on a tangent of some sort
and that doesn't make it.
Cut it in four type stuff.
I know, it's like we've welcomed everyone
into our date night.
That's right.
Which is, you know,
often just catch up time.
That's right, yeah.
So that's where we're at on a Monday.
Is it Monday?
It is Monday.
It's a Monday.
Yeah, I flew in with
our youngest last night.
We got in about midnight.
We left on Friday morning for,
it's just insane that he's 12, right?
And we're talking to him about it.
And you talked to him and I did too,
that you guys are, and his
whole team is 12 years old.
Everybody that
watches this regularly knows
that they're at the
highest level on their team.
They're not ranked as high this year as
they were last year,
but they're still playing the same teams.
Right, right.
And honestly, we just
gave some games away,
so we should be doing
better, but we're not.
Agreed.
Just from our record,
this is the classic,
your record doesn't, you know.
Show how good you are, blah, blah, blah.
Yeah, fair. Exactly.
All that aside, these
kids are 12 years old
and we are flying all over the country
so they can play in the tournament.
Three games, you know, and it's like,
do we really, like, do we
really need to spend $2,500
every two or three
weeks just to, you know,
we were in Virginia, you
know, for three days, you know?
And why not?
Right.
Two weekends ago, we were in Oklahoma.
Yeah.
A couple weekends before
that, we were somewhere else.
I mean, right now, I figured it out.
We were traveling six out of, or sorry,
five out of six weekends.
Oh, you figured that out, yeah.
Math on that doesn't
seem like it's too hard, so.
And then we're turning
around midweek this week,
so it's just crazy to
me because the youngest
that I was talking about, his friends,
and I know you asked him this too,
like, do your friends who
are in sixth grade with you,
do they think it's
crazy that you leave school
to go fly places to play soccer?
Like, he already has to
feel like he's a professional.
Exactly, I mean, that's the life
of a professional athlete, right?
You're constantly traveling.
You're always having
to juggle and manage.
And I mean, and he's just so, like,
almost robotic about it, you know?
He's just like, this is what I gotta do.
It's I'm in the zone, I gotta do it.
Yeah, they know, they've got it down now.
It's like not, it's almost,
he said it to you, I think.
It's not, it's fun.
It's fun.
But it's not, like, exciting anymore.
Right.
The whole, he's over it too.
Like, I talked about a
week or two ago, like,
traveling's not sexy.
Nobody likes to travel.
He's over the travel too, to some degree.
Right.
Like, he doesn't like
having to get on the airplanes
because we've had enough bad trips now.
He's like, I don't like traveling.
Like, you never know what's
gonna happen on the airlines.
Right, right.
And he just, but it's
funny because, you know,
kids in his class are like,
you dude, that's so cool, you know?
Yeah, they think it's awesome.
He's like, yeah.
And he's very much like,
I mean, yeah, it's really,
I get a lot of cool experiences,
been a lot of cool places,
but this isn't travel for fun.
He's not sightseeing in these places,
and really none of our kids
are when they're traveling.
And so, it's cool,
he's been to Virginia now,
but it's not like, I don't know,
I guess maybe you dig
it a little bit of--
Maryland.
In Maryland, yeah.
You got a little bit of culture, I think.
You dig it to, you know, see the sights
of downtown Richmond, I think, this time.
But usually, you're not, right?
Sometimes we do, and I
even thought that this time,
like when I used to travel for the bank,
I would always try to,
there was a while that I tried
to go somewhere to take a fun picture
and send it back to the kids.
So they felt like it was there.
And then there was times
when I was like, you know,
I'm in a city, I should go
see something in the city.
Right.
But usually, more often than not,
I'd be too tired to, or just sit.
But there's a lot of dads on the team,
that they feel this time up.
They come in early, and
they go here or there,
or they're always
checking this or this out.
And I definitely, it's nice,
because sometimes they
pull us along with them.
Yeah, yeah.
Right, so we do it.
And I'm always glad we do
it, but if it was just me,
I'm maybe more of a
homebody, I might not get out.
So I'm glad we do that.
I wish, and I was even
thinking that we should do it more.
Yeah, yeah.
When I'm out there with the kids, like,
I gotta be fun, like we should go
go-karting every time.
Whatever city we're in, we
should go find their best
go-karting and go go-karting.
It's just sometimes
the timing's not there.
Right, right.
Because there's planned team meetings,
there's team meals,
you know, there's games.
So it's very regimented,
and that's why it's not,
and our coach even says,
these aren't vacations.
Like, we've been to San
Diego, we've been to Florida,
we've been all over these places, Vegas.
All these places seem
like, this is not a vacation.
Don't bring swim trunks.
Don't even bring swim trunks.
There's a pool at the
hotel, do not bring,
this is not for fun.
Right, right.
You know, it's like,
but I thought it was.
But I thought, I'm 12, and I
really like to do fun things.
He even said on the way, he's like,
I'm so excited for middle school,
because he gets to play school sports,
and he's like, and that's just for fun.
Yeah.
And I was like, it
kinda hit me, I'm like,
oh, that's sad that
this is like his soccer,
because it's such a competitive level,
that it's not for fun for him.
It's stressful, it's like a job for him.
Yeah, he's there to, you're right,
it's there to do a job,
and I think he loves it,
and I think he does think it's fun,
but it's another when you
go and you're just playing
a pickup game, right?
The levels of intensity
are just night and day,
and so it's not that one is terrible,
but I mean, you do, you have to lock in,
you have to truly pour yourself into that
much more competitive,
versus, you know what,
I'm gonna pick up, I'm
gonna play a pickup game
and have fun with my friends.
Well, there's a national
league they play in ECNL,
if anybody knows it, they know it,
so we play the number one team in ECNL,
we play the number four team in ECNL,
and I think the number 18 team in ECNL,
or number eight, I can't remember,
but we played like
three top 10 ECNL teams.
But here's the thing,
did you see the latest?
Essentially, we will have
played four of the number one
teams in their league
bracket, so even though one is like,
you know, one of the
teams we played this weekend
was the number one team overall,
all of the teams that
we played this weekend
were actually number one in their region.
Yeah. Yeah.
Oh, that's cool.
So he's like, the coach was saying,
like that does not
happen, we will play four
of the number one teams in their region.
Yeah, and we were competitive every game,
we won one of them, we should have won,
honestly, we were in a
position to win the other two.
Yes, we were.
The overall national
number one ECNL team,
now they're not the
number one ranked team
across the country, Sure.
In this league, which
is the second highest
underneath, minimalized, that's too much,
but man, we gave them a
walloping the first half,
we won the first half, we
won the first 15 minutes
of the second half, Yep.
And then we lost, It was, yeah.
The last 20 minutes of the second half,
they scored on us,
and then that got there.
Yep.
I can't remember how they scored,
if it was a PK on
that one, or what it was.
It was a free kick,
right outside the box.
It was a free kick right outside the box,
yeah, that's what it was, so a set play,
we do have trouble defending against,
most of the goals
scored on us are set plays.
Set plays.
And that one was right
outside the penalty box,
anyways, that gave them all the--
Momentum.
There's so much confidence,
you could see their
confidence went tenfold.
Yep.
The other team, and ours folded in half.
Yep.
In fact, some of the
parents that were there watching,
who play those guys,
they're actually in their league,
they stayed and were watching,
because they're like,
we've never seen anybody
take it to these guys like this,
they don't get walloped like this,
nobody gets these kind
of shots off on them.
Yeah, I hope we were just
getting shot after shot.
Yeah, and that was
probably our son's best game,
from that point, which was good,
he kind of stepped up to that.
It was a really good game.
So, anywho, so we're just kind of
recovering from that,
but part of what I
wanted to get into today,
is kind of the main
topic, maybe, if you will,
was just, we always
talk about being busy,
and all that kind of stuff,
we've been talking
about some of the stress,
and it's even affecting
you physically, the stress.
But how do we deal with that?
Because stress is a part
that everybody lives with,
every day, every month, their whole life,
everybody has stress to some degree.
Very few people are like, I
don't know what stress is.
(laughing)
I want to meet that person.
They're like, well, my yoga class
is pretty stressful this morning.
I had to learn a new
position and hold it for 12 seconds.
Oh my gosh, can you imagine?
Oh, I've never heard
no, I don't know stress,
I'm not stressed.
That one mom in Hobby Lobby,
maybe she doesn't have stress,
because, well, she was stressed,
she was stressed about
all her returns that day.
She was stressed about the
errands that she had to run.
So, the question is, how
does everybody handle stress?
So, how do you find yourself?
Because we always talk about,
we're busy, we're busy, we're busy.
And that doesn't necessarily
mean we're stressed about it,
but the last two years
have been the most stressful
of our life, of our
relationship at least.
Oh yeah.
So, how do you think you've handled,
how do you think, not
have you handled it,
but how have you dealt with it?
How have you tried to
release that stress?
Well, and clearly I'm
not doing a great job of it
because I have TMJ.
Do we talk about this last week?
A little bit, yeah.
Oh my gosh, never heard this before.
I can't bite.
And that's all stress.
I was like, I thought that there actually
was a medical condition.
Nope, turns out that
I'm just really stressed.
And I've never had that before.
And I was like, gosh, I
thought I was coming down
on the stress.
You're not stressed eating anymore
because you can't do that.
Nope, can't do that.
Like, very few
things, can I actually eat?
Yeah.
But, you know, I actually
was feeling quite a bit better
today because I did take the weekend.
You were traveling and I
was like, you know what?
As much as I can, I'm
gonna not look at social media.
I'm gonna not watch the news.
I'm gonna sit here for just a few moments
and work on a crossword puzzle or
something that, you know,
I find relaxing. One thing I know you do.
And so I had like an extra couple of
hours a few weeks ago
and I was up in our attic.
And I was trying to
get that pulled together
a little bit better.
Yeah, that's one of those
places that when you move in
somewhere, you just
throw everything in there.
And I threw it in there pretty nicely.
Don't get me wrong, it was in good shape.
Oh yeah.
But I want it better, right?
I wanna know where things are at.
There's certain things
I want out, yada, yada.
And I found some
crossword puzzles for you.
So I brought them down,
because you used to do
crosswords all the time.
And you don't anymore.
But what I've seen you do
is puzzles on your phone.
Yeah, so I'll do puzzles on my phone.
Like literally, you can get a puzzle app
and put together
puzzles, because I love puzzles.
Like, I don't think I have
an addictive personality,
but I do have a puzzle in
front of me, a jigsaw puzzle.
I will work on that for 20 hours.
20, like, I will lose myself in that.
And so things like that, I do like.
So crossword puzzles, puzzles.
I did not pull out a puzzle this weekend.
On a scale that I would say, on a scale,
if I were judging you,
on a scale of one to 10,
you can judge me on my turn.
But if I were judging
on a scale of one to 10,
how much does your,
what you just talked about,
relieve your stress levels, I would say,
10 is like letting all the air out.
Like, ah, I feel great now.
You know what I mean?
I would say that's like
a two or three for you.
I would say you're still
pin up like seven out of 10
on a stress level.
Probably.
Which, on a long term, it
seems like you might need
to find more stress relief.
And like, where do you go for that?
I don't know.
I mean.
I'm not trying to put you on the spot,
but that's one of
those things that's like,
that's probably
something you should know.
Yeah, I mean, I do like massages.
And I had a facial for the
first time a couple weeks ago.
Actually, maybe second time in my life.
That was phenomenal.
For work.
Yeah, yeah. That was awesome.
I know, it was for work,
so thank you to my boss.
You know, and she's like,
but it's super important
because you do need to
take care of yourself.
And it was just a
great way to say thank you.
And I truly appreciated it.
It was so nice.
And so massages do help.
Like there is something
about walking into a spa
that instantly relaxes me.
I think that gets me to almost like,
that's like a stress relief.
That's like a seven out of 10 for me.
Yeah, I agree.
Cause we do try to hit a spa night
where we get couples massage.
We sit in there, we do all this stuff.
We didn't do like a facial or anything
like that beforehand.
But then, you know, you do
all like the comfort-y stuff
before and after, and
then you go to a nice dinner.
All that is very nice.
And it is relaxing, but
I don't know that it's,
that's like a nine out of
10 in the moment, right?
Yeah.
But after you go to bed that night
and you wake up the next morning,
if that stress level
has come down from a 10,
down to like a four because of that,
it's probably back up to like a six-ish.
It's pushing five or six again.
It's like, if I could
do that every day, right?
Totally would.
That might be, then I'm down for that.
Right, right.
And that's partially
how we built this house.
We built our house, like our
bathroom is spa influenced.
Oh yeah.
Right, in fact, the room we're in now
was originally supposed to
be more for like a relaxation,
spa environment that we
turned into the studio.
Studio, it's not quite as spa-like, but.
It's still really, it's a
nice room to sit in though.
It is.
It's relaxing.
It's very relaxing.
You know, and outside
of this room is nice.
So we've tried to incorporate that feel.
And I do, I would say every
time I walk into our bathroom,
I get a notch.
I do, yeah.
Because it's just like, okay, I've left,
even though we work
from our house, right,
your office is just
outside of our, you know,
kind of our primary wing.
Yeah.
Not wing, but primary area.
You know, and mine's just around there.
But once we come
through those two double doors
and we see that big
picture of walking off a dock,
like, and then into
that room, that every time.
We, when we do that specific.
Yeah.
Because we knew even
then it was like, you know,
we just, we go hard.
We do.
You're regardless of the kid's schedule,
our work schedules, we go hard.
There's just no down time on that.
And so, you know, that
stress relief is important.
Yeah.
To continue that on.
Yeah.
So how do you deal with it?
Not well, either, probably.
I don't know that
anybody deals with stress well.
Like, I'm really good
at my stress, you know.
Right, right, I'm great
at stress management, like.
Yeah, I.
Yeah, no.
I meditate every
morning for an hour and a half
and then I'm good.
No, it's funny, you read all
these things that people do
and you try to incorporate what you can.
And like, meditation's one that I've
heard is really good.
Yeah.
No time for that.
And I'm not, and you're not either,
we're not getting out of bed earlier.
No.
Like, I do actually, so
the way I do it is exercise.
That's my biggest way of
doing it, on a daily basis, right?
Like, yeah, I do love
going to the, you know,
getting a massage and
all that kind of stuff,
but those are once or twice a year.
Yeah, yeah.
So it's like, I can't wait
till then to get it all out.
Yeah.
So exercise is big for me
and I've talked about it on here before
and you and I have talked about it a lot.
When I was younger, as an
athlete and playing sports,
you know, into
college and then, you know,
in playing in leagues
after college and, you know,
as an adult and all these kind of things,
that's where I got all my angst out.
Yeah.
You know, I mean, I would play basketball
and I was an intense player.
You watched me play into my,
like before my back just was not good
enough to do it anymore
but I was still playing
at a pretty high level
when you watched me in that last one.
Would you say I was
pretty intense in that?
Yeah.
I was very intense.
Like, I was overly intense.
Yeah.
Like, I've had people
many times say like,
you don't look like you're
having fun playing basketball,
Sean.
I'm like, I love it.
It's the best time of my life.
But I'm super intense.
You know what I mean?
And if you're on my team,
expect for high expectations.
Not anymore, because I'm
probably the worst player
on the team now,
because I just, I haven't
played around in a long time.
But that's where I got all of it out.
Like, I was so much less stressed then,
but I also had a lot of
less on my plate then.
Yeah.
Hence why I want to start
playing basketball again.
I was, I'm just curious.
Because I did play,
remember like a year or two ago?
Yeah.
And it was great.
It was fantastic.
Yeah.
It was, yeah.
And that's something you can
do every day and get it out.
Well, I'm not gonna do it every day,
but if I can do it, you
know, two or three times a week
with a bunch of old guys, you know,
hobbling up and down the
court, great, you know.
I actually bought two new
pairs of basketball shorts,
because I don't have any
basketball shorts anymore,
to wear.
So, I think I'm gonna go join that club.
I'm gonna go join it and see
if I can get in some games.
Hopefully my back cooperates,
because that's the biggest thing.
And I'm nervous about my knee too,
hoping my knee cooperates.
Yeah.
You know, I don't want to be on crutches
when we go on vacation.
No.
You know, but I also can't
live my life scared of it.
Right.
I know, it's such a fine balance.
And to be clear, this
is one of those things,
and this is an insight into our marriage,
because everybody's real
people, you know, that,
how do I say this?
Whenever I say
exercising and staying in shape
is important to me,
when I say that, you immediately say,
what you hear me saying is that,
you're not good enough, right?
Because that's kind
of where you went too,
like, I'm not happy with the way I look.
And it's like, no, you look fantastic.
You really do.
You look incredible.
You've had three children, you're mid,
(imitates
dog barking)
walking 30 minutes a day
or jogging 30 minutes a day,
is it gonna get you in shape?
It's a stress relief.
Yeah.
You know what I mean?
Yeah.
And if that stress release
ends up making your life better
because you can enjoy it more,
that was kind of where I was coming from,
not from, hey Megan, you're fat.
You know what I mean?
Right, right.
I don't think you're fat.
I think everybody out there
would drag me behind a horse
tied up if I thought you were fat
or I insinuated you're fat.
You're incredibly good shape, right?
You're a small person.
That's not the point of it.
Yeah.
You know what I'm saying?
But I think there's more to life,
especially when we're
trying to extend, you know,
enjoyable life, you know, being healthy.
Right.
Right?
Yeah.
Because we have
plenty of time to get fat.
Yeah, I don't--
I'm just not ready to be there yet.
I'm not ready to be there either.
And if I'm being honest,
I hope you're not ready to be there.
No, I'm not ready to be there.
Like, no.
And you're not there.
And you're not saying that to me.
No.
Right?
So I'm just trying to be clear about that
because I wasn't trying to be accusatory
when I used the word sedentary.
But after our conversation,
it just felt like you're like,
there's no time for it.
I'm not gonna, it's
just not gonna happen.
Well, I would love it if there was,
if I could do something
other than wake up at,
right now, the only option I have,
maybe I should say this,
right now the only option would be 5 a.m.
Like--
And I literally said 20 minutes ago,
we're not gonna do that.
I don't wanna do that.
We're gonna get to bed early.
And I am not
disciplined enough to do that.
There was five years there where I was
really good about it.
And the kids'
schedules were perfect, right?
They were on the bus
by 6.50 in the morning.
I could get my workout in.
I could shower and be at my
desk by 8.15 in the morning.
That was perfect.
And then schedules.
And then I was like, okay,
well, let me do it after.
Yeah.
And then, you know, it's just,
our children's evolving schedules.
It's not necessarily our schedule.
It's theirs that have
evolved and make it,
I feel like a brand new challenge.
And right now we have two kids
in not only their school season,
but also still doing
club stuff for their sport.
So we have more things now in a week day,
like our week nights.
I know you're not into
New Year's resolutions.
We covered that earlier this year.
But I would do, I'd be
willing to do a mid-March
resolution with you and say,
if you wanna get up,
I'll get up with you.
If that's what we wanna
do, I'll do it with you.
And then we can hold
each other accountable.
Like, do you wanna sleep in?
One of us has to say no.
We gotta get out of bed.
You don't have to commit to it now.
I don't either.
But I think we should
find times to do that.
Because it's hard for me,
and I have a way more
flexible schedule than you.
I mean, we're exactly
opposite in our schedules.
I have complete
flexibility for the most part,
on most days.
And even then, I'm like
rushing to try to find the time
to put it in my schedule too.
You know what I mean?
If I do it at eight, by
the time I'm showered now,
it's 9.15.
And in my mind, I'm like, gosh, 9.15.
Or if I ended up doing
something from eight to nine,
because I just needed to
get that done off my desk.
And now it's 10.15.
Now I feel like, oh my
gosh, my whole morning shot.
And all I did was work out.
Not true, I've already done
two and a half hours of work.
But my mind doesn't work that way.
It tells me like, oh my God,
you're getting your day started at 10.15.
Totally.
And then I would've thought we'd do.
Yeah, even when I was at the bank,
I knew guys all the time, every day
they'd go 12 to 1.15
and get their workout in, over lunch.
You know what I mean?
And I never did that.
I hated that, because it
was like, are you kidding me?
You got that much time in your day?
Good for you.
I know, I knew people that did that too.
First off, then I'm
sweating the rest of the day,
because I didn't have time to cool down.
Yeah.
You know?
Right, right.
Well, I think that's harder for women.
And if those watching
are one of those women who
wakes up and is like, I'm good to go,
and maybe splash some water on my face
and brush my teeth, and
I'm ready to go for the date.
Kudos to you.
I am not one of those women.
It, as unmade up as I
am, most of the time,
it still takes a long time.
Like, it really does.
I don't, you know, I
have to flat iron my hair,
because I have really bad hair.
Like, if I let it go,
people would be like,
what happened to you?
You know, like, did
you shower anytime soon?
Did you just come in from the rain?
Right.
It was a quote.
I believe I've gotten that, yes.
Someone did look at me and
like, oh, is it raining outside?
And I was like, no, I
just didn't do my hair.
So I do need to put in
a little bit of effort.
That wouldn't hurt, that wouldn't hurt.
If you know who you
are, that wouldn't hurt.
Yeah, it's like, no, no, it's actually a
beautiful sunny day.
Well, I just, I mean, I
didn't mean to cut you off there,
but I bring all that up because, I mean,
everybody out there, I
mean, like, I know, you know,
there's people in my
family, older generations,
but not that, you
know, they're still like,
trying to figure out
how to stay in shape.
I mean, that's a whole other generation.
That's another 20, that's another quarter
century ahead of us.
Yeah.
That we're still gonna be thinking
about this exact same thing.
Oh yeah.
I mean, I kind of pivoted
there from stress mitigation
to staying in shape, but it's similar.
Yeah.
Because I think a lot of
people, if you look at things,
how to mitigate stress,
exercise is in the top three
every time.
All the time.
Right?
It might even be the number one.
It may even be number one
across the board all the time.
So that's why I'm always like, you know,
we just gotta find, you
gotta, you, in these times,
when we're as stressed as we are,
gotta find a way to get that out.
Yeah.
You know what I mean?
Pickleball, you gotta get a hobby.
You gotta find some hobby
that gets your heart rate up.
Yeah. You know what I mean?
Yeah.
Gets you in an un-collection of money.
Because that's the only
way I can de-stress for me.
Usually it is exercising,
because then my mind goes
somewhere else and competition's huge.
But if it's not, then it's like, I gotta,
I gotta watch a movie or
I gotta work on a project
and that's how I detach, you know?
But I mean, I know
there's people watching this
that have been, they've
been having to figure it out
for the last life of theirs as well.
Yeah.
It's not easy.
I think everybody, it's
something that every human deals
with. Yeah.
Every human deals with, you know, like,
I don't wanna let
myself go, but, you know,
10 years ago, it just kinda started going
and now I'm 10 years down that road.
And how do I get that back?
Get it back.
You know, because I feel like that, like,
three years ago, I had
to kinda turn the corner.
And that's getting into my late 40s.
So I mean, I know my
metabolism is all, you know,
just getting older,
but like three years ago,
I was like, man, I
turned a corner where I'm not,
I have to really try now not to be
fat.
(laughs) You know what I mean?
I mean, I could be fat real quick.
I don't think you could.
Oh no, I could.
(laughs) I'm surprised you say that.
You've always had a
really good metabolism and--
No, I don't anymore.
It's because I watch what I eat as much,
and I still eat horrible.
Yeah.
I'll gain like 10 pounds and it's like,
I gotta get rid of that 10 pounds.
Yeah.
And that's the biggest difference
in the last five years.
My late 40s to my
early 40s, that 10 pounds,
I could drop it in two
weeks in my younger years.
Oh, for sure.
Right?
Yeah.
And it would be like,
okay, no harm, no foul.
Now, it's like, first off, can't drop it.
Second off, it's not no harm, no foul.
Right.
It's that permanent fat, you know.
It's there.
That I know exactly where it's at.
You know what I mean?
And I hate it.
Because it's not 24 year old Sean.
I have the same thing about myself.
I mean, everybody does,
and that's something that's hard.
Now we have pivoted
into what you look like,
which wasn't the point really on.
Right.
I still think you're sexy.
I will put it out there again.
(laughing) So, all right, well, let's see.
We're trying to keep these shorter
because they're getting
longer and longer and longer,
especially when we haven't seen each
other for four days.
Yes.
So, do you have any I'm Peeped?
I have one, but do you have any?
You go for your I'm Peeped.
I'll go first.
Yeah.
Just since I'll give you
time to think about it.
But I was flying home last night
and Southwest has
changed their new thing, right?
So now it's not, so we have all,
I've been with Southwest forever.
Yeah.
So we have points, we have
all the status with them.
Everybody flies free.
We never pay for flights
because we have points.
Yeah.
So it's always been, I'm
one of the first ones on,
no big deal, we get
on wherever the seat is
and the bin space, we get on.
Right.
Now they have assigned seats.
So the way it works is
there's like eight groups to get on.
Right, and you're in group one,
which is like 20 people, group two,
which is like 20 people and God forbid
I was anything after that.
(laughing)
Right.
Anyways, because group,
because pre-boards get on
and then group one gets on, I'm in group
one most of the time
but now you're
fighting in that group one.
There's no like, oh hey, you know,
you're number one in group one,
you're number two,
number three, number four.
It's just whoever lines up first gets on.
Right, so even though I
might have the most seniority
at everybody there, I might be number 20
because I showed up late.
Right.
But the problem is now, it's great you
have your seat there
and even if I show up late
and I'm like the last person on,
my seat's there, row two, right?
Because I get priority, I
get priority picking my seat.
Right.
Row two or three is where we're gonna be
but there's no bin space.
There is no bin space.
So that's half my peeved
but here's my real pee from last night.
Because of that, last
night our youngest and I got,
we're group one.
We got in line, we happen to
be the first people in the line.
Not because I'm that anal about it
but it just happened to be that time,
it was the right time we got in.
Another guy got up right
behind us, I was talking to him.
And we're sitting there
and she calls everybody up
and everybody's sitting
there and this other lady,
a younger girl, gets
up, their headphones on,
one, one headphone,
she had the other one off
so I know she could hear things, whatnot.
She meanders and
stands right in front of me.
And I've been first in
this line the whole time.
Just meanders, she has no idea what's
going on in the world,
looking up at the ceiling
and just plants
herself dead in front of me.
In front of the line.
Are you serious?
She wasn't sitting
there, she wasn't waiting,
she just meandered up.
It's not like she was sitting,
because there's a chair right
there, you know what I mean?
If she was the one sitting there,
I'd be like, oh, you've been
sitting here for two hours,
that's fine, I get it.
You might've, I would've
allowed that a little bit.
Right, right.
I look at the guy who was
number three right behind us.
Yeah.
And he's like, are you kidding me?
He's like, what?
He was mad about it too.
Yeah. I'm like, I don't know,
and it's not like I'm
gonna get mad about it
and be like, excuse me.
I would?
No, it wasn't the right time,
it was not the right whatever.
But I was just, I cannot
believe people do that.
It's just, our youngest
son, you know what he says?
He goes, M.I.P.
Which in our family, M.I.P.
means most important person.
They're the most
important person in the world
and they're all over the place.
So any ever, anytime anybody does that,
cuts you off or whatever we call them,
oh, they must be an M.I.P.
They're the most important person ever.
Yeah.
Oh my, okay, so you
have left your mark on,
wow, I am so glad that he said that
because it's so true
and you just kind of let it go, I mean.
No wonder that peeved you, that's awful.
She did it twice too,
just to carry it on.
Now we are getting along.
She actually wandered
off and sat and I was like,
oh my gosh, and so then I
was talking to our youngest,
I was like, did you see
that girl come up here?
She like, just out of nowhere, stood
right in front of us.
And then I turned
around, oh, she sat in the seat
right behind me, so I'm
talking trash about her.
She's sitting right
behind me in the seat.
It was like perfect, like,
they're behind me, aren't they?
Right there, she's
right behind me, isn't she?
And I know before she had
one headphone on and one off,
so she probably heard me.
But I guess she was waiting for them to
do like another call
or whatever it was, or finally start
boarding pre-boarding.
But then she gets up
and she does it again,
just stands right in front
of us, like that's her spot.
Now, the last thing I'll say about this
and I'll turn it over,
she did have row number one.
So, I'm going to suggest that she is low,
I lower intelligence and
thought in her small brain
that because she was in row one,
that she gets in the front of the line.
Even though that has
nothing to do with anything.
No, it doesn't.
It has nothing to do with anything.
No, it doesn't, no.
I also noted when she got on
because she piqued my interest.
I also noted when she got on,
she had no idea that she
couldn't have stuff on her seat,
she didn't know where
to put her suitcase.
So, she had never
probably, she had no idea
what she was doing. Ever.
But clueless and I just, I don't
appreciate clueless people.
That is rich. Yeah.
The fact that she did it again.
Yeah, anyways, that's my peeve.
After you were talking
trash, which you know what?
Anybody is going to
look at that and be like,
are you serious?
Yeah, yeah.
Anybody, that is the
natural reaction there.
And so, if you don't
want people to talk smack,
then just follow social norms.
That's an unspoken rule.
Too hard, too hard.
Inside our household, we talk,
everybody knows
common sense is not common.
And that's putting it lightly.
There's a good
percentage of people out there
that don't get the world.
It's hard, the world's hard
for a lot of people, I think.
And I think she might be one of them.
Maybe.
And maybe she just
doesn't fly a whole lot.
Or ever.
Yeah, but that's only one of the boxes.
That's only one, that's
one percentage of the excuse
of just all the social norms that she
totally just stepped on.
You know she went through that metal
detector five times.
Like, was this line, were
you already standing here?
I'm number one, that's where I should go.
Nothing, you know what I mean?
The second time she came up there,
I looked at that guy, he looked at me,
and it was like we were brothers in rage.
Brothers in rage is what we were.
We had a tattoo on the plane together.
We got our tramp stamp, it's all right.
Oh my gosh.
But he was a talkative guy too,
so I was actually having
to put my headphones in.
They're like, "Oh, sorry, sorry."
I'm actually watching this game.
What?
Oh.
Oh my gosh, that's weird.
Like our moment of connection's over.
It's over.
Introvert, extrovert, I've famished.
Done a lot of communication.
I'm done, I'm done.
Anyways, that's it, I
got a lot of good stories.
Fun seeing all the family, you know,
all the dads out there and whatnot.
A lot of good stories
that I can tell you offline.
I love it.
Anything else for you?
I don't, and even if I
did, it could not touch that.
Because I think that would trigger
just about any rational person.
There's not many people who are like,
"You know, you put on
the Good Christian hat."
I'm like, "Sure, like one by one."
If someone asks, like,
"Would you mind if I..."
In that case, you say, "Yes."
Or, "Oh my gosh, am I
supposed to be here?"
In that case, you're all forgiven.
Right, that's right.
I think of what my buddy Troy would do.
Our good buddy Troy.
Troy would bestow a blessing upon her
and wish her well.
Pray for her.
What would Troy,
WWTD, what would Troy do?
WWTD, maybe pray for her to
get a little more observant
of social norms.
I've been looking for a
way to get Troy a shout out.
(laughing)
Hi, Troy.
(laughing)
Oh my gosh.
All right, well, let's call it then.
What do we got?
Anything you wanna highlight?
We're going to New York this week.
Going to New York this week.
This is Ayers, we'll all be back.
Our daughter is running at nationals.
Yeah.
It'll be interesting.
She's been dealing with this...
Injury?
Quad injury that we've been,
we spent a small fortune to tell
everybody to tell us.
It's a mild sprain.
Sprain?
Not a sprain, strain, right?
Sprain.
Strain?
Sprain.
Oh, you can sprain a quad?
I thought you strained a quad.
Oh, I don't know.
Sprain and ankle.
You strain a muscle.
Oh, there you go then.
I don't know.
You sprain a joint.
I think you strain a muscle.
Strain a muscle?
Well then, yeah, it's mild strain.
Great one.
You've been to two of the
three medical appointments.
Been to two, three, yeah.
Yeah.
Dr. Jenny was great, huh?
Dr. Jenny was great.
She's a riot.
Oh my gosh.
Hilarious.
I will tell you though,
I mean, that was like
boot camp for our daughter.
Holy moly.
First time was too.
Like,
I was just like,
"Oof, you got it.
"You go, girl."
I also was so
impressed with how our daughter
was doing all these exercises.
I was just like,
"Oh my gosh, I would
cripple, like most people would."
And she's like, "You
didn't see me shaking?"
I was like, "Well, I did."
And she was like, "It was that hard."
But, no.
She's gonna continue to
compete at these high levels.
I mean, that's what it's gonna be.
Yeah.
She's like, "These
elite athletes, I mean,
"those are what you see them doing."
Yeah.
I mean, it's crazy.
Insanity.
Just how much stronger they'll be
in all the different muscle groups.
And it's crazy.
It was cool, yeah.
But yeah, we'll head out again.
And, you know,
really quick turnaround
for you, unfortunately.
I feel a little more rested.
You had your week two weeks ago, so.
Yeah.
Yeah, we had some busy
times, but it'll be fun.
We'll get to show our daughter Manhattan.
Mm.
You're good.
Good job.
Where we were engaged.
Yeah.
We should take her there.
Scene of the crime.
(laughs)
There's no crime.
(laughs)
It was all good.
Someday we'll tell the story
about how I rented out the entire top.
You did.
Of the Empire State Building to just us.
Yes.
My proposal.
It, you did.
That was magical.
It was magical.
It was so magical.
We will have to tell the
story of that engagement
at some point in time.
You cannot beat it.
And I always feel bad.
I'm gonna brag a little bit.
I always feel bad.
People tell their engagement stories,
and I have to just be like,
stop, Megan.
That is so special.
That's beautiful for
them, and blah, blah, blah.
Like, do not tell your story.
(laughs)
Yeah.
So the ring was in the cake.
Wow.
Oh, it was in the champagne glass?
That's so special.
Yeah.
And unique.
And very unique.
I'm sure people get engaged
on the top of the Empire State
Building all the time, too.
So ours is that unique,
but very few are all alone.
All alone.
Whole thing to themselves.
In the clouds.
Like, it does not get better.
It was glowing.
That was crazy.
It was the cool, oh my gosh.
No visibility, you
don't wanna go up there.
No visibility, no, we do.
I wanna go up there.
(laughs)
Yes, I do.
We met on a cruise.
Have you seen the movie?
I know.
Anyways, if you know.
If you know, you know.
You know.
Best romance ever.
Yeah.
All right, honey.
We gotta let these people go.
All right, well, until next time.
Ciao, ciao.
All right, thanks for joining.
We'll see ya.
Thanks.
(upbeat music)
Don't think I have an
addictive personality.
That's probably
something you should know.
I don't know stress, I'm not stressed.
So how do you deal with it?
Not well.
No.
I meditate every
morning for an hour and a half
and then I'm good.
You got that much time
in your day, good for you.
I have to really try now not to be fat.
Are you serious?
This is not a vacation.
Right.
Don't bring swim trunks.
Don't even bring swim trunks.
There's a pool at the hotel.
This is not for fun.
They're behind me, aren't they?
(laughing) Oh.
Head pull.
Sorry, sorry.
Introvert, extrovert.
Brain?
Strain.
Not a sprain, strain, right?
Sprain.
Strain?
Sprain.
Sprain and ankle.
You strain a muscle.
Then just follow social norms.
Where we are engaged.
Scene of the crime.
Someday we'll tell the
story about how I rented out
the entire top.
You did.
Of the Empire State Building to just us.
Yes.
My proposal.
We met on a cruise,
have you seen the movie?