1 01:00:01,250 --> 01:00:04,125 Good morning and 2 01:00:04,125 --> 01:00:06,000 welcome to Morning Serial. 3 01:00:12,000 --> 01:00:14,875 Okay, good morning and welcome to Monday. 4 01:00:15,208 --> 01:00:17,291 Now, I hope your first weekend in the 5 01:00:17,291 --> 01:00:18,208 month of October, I 6 01:00:18,208 --> 01:00:19,375 hope it treated you well. 7 01:00:19,375 --> 01:00:20,541 I don't know, maybe you got some 8 01:00:20,541 --> 01:00:23,333 Halloween decorations out or maybe you 9 01:00:23,333 --> 01:00:25,000 were at the football game or at the 10 01:00:25,000 --> 01:00:26,750 soccer or at the volleyball games. 11 01:00:27,250 --> 01:00:28,125 Whatever it was, I 12 01:00:28,125 --> 01:00:29,333 hope you had a good time. 13 01:00:29,958 --> 01:00:31,916 And now that your coach is done yelling 14 01:00:31,916 --> 01:00:33,458 at your kids or at you, 15 01:00:33,791 --> 01:00:35,000 we should celebrate them. 16 01:00:35,250 --> 01:00:38,000 Today is National Coaches Day, honoring 17 01:00:38,000 --> 01:00:40,541 those mentors who push, inspire and, 18 01:00:40,541 --> 01:00:42,125 well, they sometimes yell us into 19 01:00:42,125 --> 01:00:43,791 becoming better versions of ourselves. 20 01:00:44,166 --> 01:00:44,791 At least that's what 21 01:00:44,791 --> 01:00:45,666 they want us to believe. 22 01:00:46,375 --> 01:00:48,500 Well, our quote is from Hall of Fame 23 01:00:48,500 --> 01:00:50,375 coach whom I met just a couple of years 24 01:00:50,375 --> 01:00:52,416 ago, Bill Self, who said, 25 01:00:52,416 --> 01:00:54,000 quote, "Life is like basketball. 26 01:00:54,000 --> 01:00:57,125 It takes guts to shoot," end quote. 27 01:00:57,666 --> 01:01:00,125 And coaches like life, they're not there 28 01:01:00,125 --> 01:01:01,375 to make things easy. 29 01:01:01,666 --> 01:01:03,500 They're there to make us stronger and 30 01:01:03,500 --> 01:01:05,500 instill confidence in ourselves. 31 01:01:06,000 --> 01:01:06,958 So take the shot. 32 01:01:07,375 --> 01:01:09,125 All right. Well, today's news facts and 33 01:01:09,125 --> 01:01:11,708 birthdays are for October 6th. 34 01:01:11,958 --> 01:01:13,875 And we're going to start back in 1956. 35 01:01:14,250 --> 01:01:16,291 That's when scientist Albert Sabin, he 36 01:01:16,291 --> 01:01:18,416 announced that his oral polio 37 01:01:18,416 --> 01:01:20,000 vaccine was ready for testing. 38 01:01:20,000 --> 01:01:23,333 And it would soon supplant Jonas Salk's 39 01:01:23,333 --> 01:01:25,333 vaccine in many parts of the world. 40 01:01:25,541 --> 01:01:28,625 So just so you know, polio cases in 1955, 41 01:01:28,625 --> 01:01:31,208 which were prior to the vaccine in the 42 01:01:31,208 --> 01:01:34,583 U.S., were almost 29,000 cases. 43 01:01:35,375 --> 01:01:37,541 And following the vaccine, polio cases 44 01:01:37,541 --> 01:01:38,666 plunged until it was 45 01:01:38,666 --> 01:01:40,166 completely eradicated. 46 01:01:40,916 --> 01:01:42,500 Vaccines. Who would have thought? 47 01:01:43,333 --> 01:01:45,833 All right. Well, in 1987 on this date, 48 01:01:45,833 --> 01:01:47,625 that's when George Michael, he released 49 01:01:47,625 --> 01:01:48,916 his single, "Faith." 50 01:01:49,000 --> 01:01:49,916 And it became the 51 01:01:49,916 --> 01:01:51,833 Billboard Song of the Year in 1988. 52 01:01:52,625 --> 01:01:54,791 Then in 1995, we talked about this last 53 01:01:54,791 --> 01:01:56,750 week, O.J. Simpson's civil trial. 54 01:01:57,000 --> 01:01:58,916 Well, it opened today, just a few days 55 01:01:58,916 --> 01:02:00,500 after his criminal acquittal. 56 01:02:01,083 --> 01:02:03,250 And then finally in 2023, 57 01:02:03,500 --> 01:02:05,166 that's American Simone Biles. 58 01:02:05,583 --> 01:02:07,541 She won the all-around gold at the World 59 01:02:07,541 --> 01:02:09,583 Champions in Antwerp, Belgium. 60 01:02:09,583 --> 01:02:12,041 And she became the most decorated gymnast 61 01:02:12,041 --> 01:02:15,125 ever with 34 world and Olympic medals. 62 01:02:15,875 --> 01:02:17,000 Well, happy birthday to you. 63 01:02:17,000 --> 01:02:19,291 Today is your birthday. You share a 64 01:02:19,291 --> 01:02:20,416 birthday with actress 65 01:02:20,416 --> 01:02:22,500 Olivia Thirlby. She's 38. 66 01:02:23,250 --> 01:02:24,916 Actor from the Fantastic Four, Ian 67 01:02:24,916 --> 01:02:26,541 Gruffold. He's 51 today. 68 01:02:27,125 --> 01:02:28,958 And Elizabeth Shue, the actress from 69 01:02:28,958 --> 01:02:31,375 Adventures in Babysitting, Cocktail, 70 01:02:31,375 --> 01:02:32,916 Karate Kid, Back to the Future. 71 01:02:32,916 --> 01:02:34,458 She was in everything in the 80s and the 72 01:02:34,458 --> 01:02:36,708 90s. She's 62 today. 73 01:02:37,000 --> 01:02:38,000 Does that make anybody else 74 01:02:38,000 --> 01:02:39,458 feel old or is it just me? 75 01:02:39,958 --> 01:02:41,708 Well, let's stay in the 80s. 76 01:02:42,000 --> 01:02:43,250 We're going to go to the number one song 77 01:02:43,250 --> 01:02:45,000 on this day in 1987 was, 78 01:02:46,000 --> 01:02:47,375 "Didn't We Almost Have It 79 01:02:47,375 --> 01:02:48,500 All" by Whitney Houston. 80 01:02:49,000 --> 01:02:51,208 Now this soaring ballad, it became 81 01:02:51,208 --> 01:02:52,166 Whitney's fifth 82 01:02:52,166 --> 01:02:53,833 consecutive number one single. 83 01:02:54,083 --> 01:02:55,958 That was a record at the time and it was 84 01:02:55,958 --> 01:02:59,541 showcasing the unmatched vocal power that 85 01:02:59,541 --> 01:03:00,708 made Houston legendary. 86 01:03:01,291 --> 01:03:03,166 Man, I miss new music from Whitney. 87 01:03:04,000 --> 01:03:06,083 Well, just like a coach reminds us, our 88 01:03:06,083 --> 01:03:08,500 biggest opponent is often ourselves. 89 01:03:09,166 --> 01:03:12,125 Now, Robbins unpacks what we're actually 90 01:03:12,125 --> 01:03:13,000 controlling in her 91 01:03:13,000 --> 01:03:14,000 book, The Let Them Theory. 92 01:03:14,000 --> 01:03:16,916 Here, Robbins digs deeper into the 93 01:03:16,916 --> 01:03:18,666 psychology behind control. 94 01:03:19,291 --> 01:03:21,375 She explains that our attempts to manage 95 01:03:21,375 --> 01:03:24,041 others usually mask something internal, 96 01:03:24,458 --> 01:03:25,750 whether it's a fear or an 97 01:03:25,750 --> 01:03:27,625 insecurity or an anxiety. 98 01:03:28,333 --> 01:03:30,375 When someone cancels plans, we're not 99 01:03:30,375 --> 01:03:31,750 just upset about the inconvenience. 100 01:03:32,416 --> 01:03:33,125 We're afraid of 101 01:03:33,125 --> 01:03:35,000 rejection, the rejection of it. 102 01:03:35,375 --> 01:03:37,250 Now, when a child makes a choice that we 103 01:03:37,250 --> 01:03:38,166 don't like, we're not 104 01:03:38,166 --> 01:03:39,875 just worried about them. 105 01:03:39,875 --> 01:03:40,833 We're also a little 106 01:03:40,833 --> 01:03:43,000 anxious about losing influence. 107 01:03:43,416 --> 01:03:45,750 Robbins writes, "The need to control is 108 01:03:45,750 --> 01:03:47,583 rarely about the other person. 109 01:03:47,583 --> 01:03:48,875 It's almost always about 110 01:03:48,875 --> 01:03:50,500 soothing your own discomfort." 111 01:03:51,708 --> 01:03:54,458 Now, once you realize this, you stop 112 01:03:54,458 --> 01:03:56,291 fighting the wrong battle. 113 01:03:56,750 --> 01:03:58,416 The person isn't the problem. 114 01:03:58,833 --> 01:04:01,375 It's your fear. Your fear is the problem. 115 01:04:01,875 --> 01:04:03,791 And she encourages self-reflection. 116 01:04:04,333 --> 01:04:05,791 Ask yourself, what am I 117 01:04:05,791 --> 01:04:06,958 really afraid of here? 118 01:04:07,291 --> 01:04:09,750 Now, this question reveals that the urge 119 01:04:09,750 --> 01:04:10,750 to control is often 120 01:04:10,750 --> 01:04:12,000 about calming ourselves. 121 01:04:12,000 --> 01:04:14,875 Instead of pushing harder on others, 122 01:04:15,208 --> 01:04:16,916 Robbins urges us to comfort ourselves 123 01:04:16,916 --> 01:04:18,000 through healthier means. 124 01:04:18,583 --> 01:04:20,583 Being mindful, mindfulness, breathing, 125 01:04:21,000 --> 01:04:22,708 boundaries, or action steps 126 01:04:22,708 --> 01:04:24,250 that are within our power. 127 01:04:24,666 --> 01:04:26,708 She emphasizes that trying to control 128 01:04:26,708 --> 01:04:28,166 others not only fails, 129 01:04:28,416 --> 01:04:30,000 it damages relationships. 130 01:04:30,708 --> 01:04:31,333 Real connection 131 01:04:31,333 --> 01:04:33,416 requires freedom, not force. 132 01:04:34,083 --> 01:04:36,250 So letting people be who they are allows 133 01:04:36,250 --> 01:04:38,000 authentic bonds to form. 134 01:04:38,000 --> 01:04:41,458 Okay, here is your Monday takeaway. 135 01:04:42,291 --> 01:04:42,958 Control is usually 136 01:04:42,958 --> 01:04:44,708 self-soothing in disguise. 137 01:04:45,416 --> 01:04:47,208 So when you release it, you don't just 138 01:04:47,208 --> 01:04:49,375 free others, you free yourself. 139 01:04:50,000 --> 01:04:52,708 So today, give your coach an extra hard 140 01:04:52,708 --> 01:04:55,000 high five, let go of control, embrace 141 01:04:55,000 --> 01:04:56,708 growth, and move forward. 142 01:04:57,041 --> 01:04:57,666 Hey, thanks for starting 143 01:04:57,666 --> 01:04:58,625 your week with Morning Serial. 144 01:04:58,916 --> 01:05:00,416 We will see you back here tomorrow. 145 01:05:00,750 --> 01:05:03,500 And as always, have a fantastic day. 146 01:05:08,000 --> 01:05:09,416 And we'll see you next week.