1 01:00:12,083 --> 01:00:13,625 Okay, good morning and welcome to 2 01:00:13,625 --> 01:00:16,375 December 31st, the last day of 2024. 3 01:00:17,125 --> 01:00:19,250 What's the line? The days go by slow but 4 01:00:19,250 --> 01:00:20,166 the years go by fast? 5 01:00:20,833 --> 01:00:22,208 This was definitely another fast year. 6 01:00:22,875 --> 01:00:24,375 But I hope you have some time to reflect 7 01:00:24,458 --> 01:00:26,333 on another year past and all the 8 01:00:26,333 --> 01:00:27,958 potential of another year to come. 9 01:00:28,666 --> 01:00:30,833 If it helps, today is National Unlucky 10 01:00:30,833 --> 01:00:33,166 Day so you can unload all the bad juju 11 01:00:33,166 --> 01:00:35,083 from this last year and it's also 12 01:00:35,083 --> 01:00:36,500 National Makeup Your Mind Day. 13 01:00:37,416 --> 01:00:39,833 So you can make up your mind just how 14 01:00:39,833 --> 01:00:41,791 great you want 2025 to be. 15 01:00:42,250 --> 01:00:43,250 Okay, well let's go ahead and jump into 16 01:00:43,250 --> 01:00:44,708 today's episode with today's quotes. 17 01:00:45,041 --> 01:00:46,125 One fun nostalgic quote 18 01:00:46,125 --> 01:00:47,958 from the 80s, 90s, or 2000s. 19 01:00:47,958 --> 01:00:49,458 And then a second quote to tease our book 20 01:00:49,458 --> 01:00:50,500 review later in the episode. 21 01:00:51,333 --> 01:00:52,708 Hopefully one of the quotes will speak to 22 01:00:52,708 --> 01:00:53,583 you and jump start your 23 01:00:53,583 --> 01:00:54,833 day in a positive direction. 24 01:00:55,291 --> 01:00:56,958 Okay, the first quote is from the movie 25 01:00:56,958 --> 01:00:58,000 when Harry met Sally. 26 01:00:58,666 --> 01:00:59,958 And Harry, Billy Crystal's character, 27 01:00:59,958 --> 01:01:02,000 tells Sally, who's Meg Ryan's character, 28 01:01:02,708 --> 01:01:04,708 "It's not because I'm lonely and it's not 29 01:01:04,708 --> 01:01:05,958 because it's New Year's Eve. 30 01:01:06,125 --> 01:01:07,791 I came here tonight because when you 31 01:01:07,791 --> 01:01:09,375 realize you want to spend the rest of 32 01:01:09,375 --> 01:01:10,291 your life with somebody, 33 01:01:10,708 --> 01:01:12,291 you want the rest of your life to start 34 01:01:12,291 --> 01:01:13,291 as soon as possible." 35 01:01:14,375 --> 01:01:15,666 Yeah, I think that still holds up. 36 01:01:16,166 --> 01:01:16,958 And today's teaser quote 37 01:01:16,958 --> 01:01:17,958 from the book review is, 38 01:01:18,208 --> 01:01:19,583 "If you tell me how you get your feeling 39 01:01:19,583 --> 01:01:21,041 of importance, I'll 40 01:01:21,041 --> 01:01:22,000 tell you what you are." 41 01:01:22,583 --> 01:01:24,291 And as usual, we'll unpack that here in a 42 01:01:24,291 --> 01:01:25,458 minute during the book review segment. 43 01:01:25,791 --> 01:01:27,583 But first, let's jump into our usual dose 44 01:01:27,583 --> 01:01:28,791 of fun and historic facts 45 01:01:28,791 --> 01:01:29,750 from this day in history. 46 01:01:30,750 --> 01:01:31,375 Today's news facts 47 01:01:31,375 --> 01:01:32,958 are from December 31st. 48 01:01:33,000 --> 01:01:35,125 And all the way back in 1879, Thomas 49 01:01:35,125 --> 01:01:36,125 Edison demonstrated 50 01:01:36,125 --> 01:01:37,708 incandescent light for the first time. 51 01:01:38,000 --> 01:01:39,083 That's the design of the 52 01:01:39,083 --> 01:01:39,875 traditional light bulb. 53 01:01:40,708 --> 01:01:43,416 In 1907, the first annual New Year's Eve 54 01:01:43,416 --> 01:01:45,083 ball drop at Times Square happened. 55 01:01:45,666 --> 01:01:48,791 In 1970, Paul McCartney made the move to 56 01:01:48,791 --> 01:01:49,625 dissolve the Beatles. 57 01:01:50,791 --> 01:01:53,458 In 1984, Def Leppard's drummer Rick 58 01:01:53,458 --> 01:01:55,125 Allen, he famously lost 59 01:01:55,125 --> 01:01:56,500 his arm in a car accident 60 01:01:56,500 --> 01:01:57,708 outside of Sheffield, England. 61 01:01:58,583 --> 01:02:00,166 In 1988, you may 62 01:02:00,166 --> 01:02:01,750 remember watching the fog bowl. 63 01:02:01,750 --> 01:02:03,333 It was a heavy dense fog that rolled into 64 01:02:03,333 --> 01:02:04,291 Soldier Field in Chicago 65 01:02:04,666 --> 01:02:05,666 during the second quarters 66 01:02:05,666 --> 01:02:06,625 of the Bears-Eagles game. 67 01:02:06,958 --> 01:02:07,458 That was during a 68 01:02:07,458 --> 01:02:08,500 divisional playoff game. 69 01:02:08,875 --> 01:02:10,041 Good news, the Bears won. 70 01:02:11,000 --> 01:02:13,833 In 1999, the Panama Canal 71 01:02:13,833 --> 01:02:14,916 was turned over to Panama. 72 01:02:16,250 --> 01:02:19,000 Also in 1999, Vladimir Putin became the 73 01:02:19,000 --> 01:02:20,541 acting president of Russia 74 01:02:20,833 --> 01:02:22,583 following Yeltsin's resignation. 75 01:02:23,333 --> 01:02:26,166 And lastly, in 2019, the World Health 76 01:02:26,166 --> 01:02:28,208 Organization first learned of viral 77 01:02:28,208 --> 01:02:29,666 pneumonia cases in Wuhan, 78 01:02:29,666 --> 01:02:32,041 China. That disease was later determined 79 01:02:32,041 --> 01:02:33,875 to be the cause of COVID-19, 80 01:02:34,208 --> 01:02:35,875 which obviously became a global pandemic 81 01:02:35,875 --> 01:02:36,666 in the following year. 82 01:02:37,708 --> 01:02:39,541 Okay, well, let's move on to birthdays. 83 01:02:40,125 --> 01:02:41,208 Happy birthday. If today is your 84 01:02:41,208 --> 01:02:42,666 birthday, you share a birthday with a 85 01:02:42,666 --> 01:02:43,958 somewhat short list today. 86 01:02:44,916 --> 01:02:46,583 Young Joey McIntyre of the New Kids on 87 01:02:46,583 --> 01:02:47,958 the Block turns 52 today. 88 01:02:48,416 --> 01:02:51,958 South Korean singer-songwriter, Psy, only 89 01:02:51,958 --> 01:02:53,750 known to me for his song Gangnam Style, 90 01:02:54,125 --> 01:02:56,416 he's 47. The great Sir 91 01:02:56,416 --> 01:02:57,875 Anthony Hopkins is 86. 92 01:02:58,666 --> 01:03:00,000 And finally, the Iceman 93 01:03:00,000 --> 01:03:02,166 himself, Val Kilmore, he's 65. 94 01:03:02,708 --> 01:03:03,958 So happy birthday to everyone. 95 01:03:04,708 --> 01:03:05,875 Okay, and then moving to one of my 96 01:03:05,875 --> 01:03:07,333 favorite segments of the morning serial, 97 01:03:07,708 --> 01:03:09,916 the music of the 80s, 90s, and 2000s. 98 01:03:09,916 --> 01:03:10,791 The number one song 99 01:03:10,791 --> 01:03:13,125 from this date in 1986. 100 01:03:13,708 --> 01:03:14,375 It's "Walk Like an 101 01:03:14,375 --> 01:03:15,833 Egyptian" from the Bangles. 102 01:03:16,208 --> 01:03:17,791 Interestingly, the song's inspiration 103 01:03:17,791 --> 01:03:19,041 came from watching people 104 01:03:19,041 --> 01:03:20,625 try to keep their balance on a 105 01:03:20,625 --> 01:03:22,708 rocking ferry boat, which make the 106 01:03:22,708 --> 01:03:24,291 songwriter think they look like ancient 107 01:03:24,291 --> 01:03:25,458 Egyptians trying to walk. 108 01:03:25,875 --> 01:03:27,000 And finally, the number one 109 01:03:27,000 --> 01:03:29,250 movie in 1996 was Jerry McGuire. 110 01:03:30,125 --> 01:03:31,416 So many great lines from that movie. 111 01:03:32,083 --> 01:03:34,333 You had me at Hello, Show Me the Money, 112 01:03:35,291 --> 01:03:36,916 and Who's Coming With Me? 113 01:03:38,125 --> 01:03:40,000 You Complete Me? Man, 114 01:03:40,000 --> 01:03:40,958 great movie. Great lines. 115 01:03:41,000 --> 01:03:43,750 Okay, well, let's go ahead and move into 116 01:03:43,750 --> 01:03:45,958 some inspiration here in the book review 117 01:03:45,958 --> 01:03:48,333 segment of morning serial. This is where 118 01:03:48,333 --> 01:03:50,125 we take a few moments to reflect on 119 01:03:50,125 --> 01:03:51,000 lessons learned from 120 01:03:51,000 --> 01:03:52,625 the current book we're reading. And 121 01:03:52,625 --> 01:03:53,416 currently, we're reading 122 01:03:53,416 --> 01:03:54,750 through Dale Carnegie's How to 123 01:03:54,750 --> 01:03:56,916 Win Friends and Influence People. Again, 124 01:03:56,916 --> 01:03:58,000 it's a timeless book that 125 01:03:58,000 --> 01:03:59,500 is consistently on all the 126 01:03:59,500 --> 01:04:01,375 must read lists, and it's packed with 127 01:04:01,375 --> 01:04:02,541 rock solid advice and 128 01:04:02,541 --> 01:04:03,875 actions for all of us to 129 01:04:04,125 --> 01:04:05,708 use and build healthy foundational 130 01:04:05,708 --> 01:04:06,833 concepts to live by. 131 01:04:07,625 --> 01:04:09,875 Okay, we began chapter two yesterday, the 132 01:04:09,875 --> 01:04:11,541 big secret of dealing with people. 133 01:04:12,041 --> 01:04:13,958 And Carnegie has us contemplating basic 134 01:04:13,958 --> 01:04:14,833 human needs and 135 01:04:14,833 --> 01:04:16,916 desires. We'll pick it up after 136 01:04:16,916 --> 01:04:19,000 discussing Carnegie's eight basic needs, 137 01:04:19,333 --> 01:04:20,458 humans will stop at 138 01:04:20,458 --> 01:04:22,333 nothing to get. And for review, 139 01:04:22,583 --> 01:04:24,916 those were number one, health and the 140 01:04:24,916 --> 01:04:27,458 preservation of life, two food, three 141 01:04:27,458 --> 01:04:29,458 sleep, four, money and 142 01:04:29,458 --> 01:04:32,208 the things money will buy, five, life and 143 01:04:32,208 --> 01:04:33,458 the hereafter, six, 144 01:04:33,916 --> 01:04:35,500 sexual gratification, seven, 145 01:04:35,833 --> 01:04:38,125 the well being of our children and eight, 146 01:04:38,333 --> 01:04:38,833 a feeling of 147 01:04:38,833 --> 01:04:41,333 importance. We left off yesterday 148 01:04:41,333 --> 01:04:43,791 with Carnegie saying, quote, almost all 149 01:04:43,791 --> 01:04:45,083 of these wants are usually 150 01:04:45,083 --> 01:04:46,625 gratified except for one, 151 01:04:46,958 --> 01:04:49,875 end quote. And that is the desire to be 152 01:04:49,875 --> 01:04:52,166 important. And note that Carnegie is 153 01:04:52,166 --> 01:04:53,083 making a distinction 154 01:04:53,166 --> 01:04:55,708 here between needs and desires. We need 155 01:04:55,708 --> 01:04:58,458 food, we need sleep. But Carnegie is 156 01:04:58,458 --> 01:04:59,791 saying that only the 157 01:04:59,791 --> 01:05:02,333 eighth item on this list, a feeling of 158 01:05:02,333 --> 01:05:04,166 importance is something we desire. 159 01:05:04,708 --> 01:05:06,375 Moreover, we crave it. 160 01:05:06,375 --> 01:05:07,833 This would suggest that actually 161 01:05:07,833 --> 01:05:10,083 achieving a real sense of importance is 162 01:05:10,083 --> 01:05:11,333 not easily obtained. 163 01:05:11,916 --> 01:05:14,041 Carnegie says, quote, the rare individual 164 01:05:14,041 --> 01:05:16,916 who honestly satisfies this heart hunger, 165 01:05:17,375 --> 01:05:18,875 and he's speaking of feeling appreciated 166 01:05:18,875 --> 01:05:20,375 or important, who 167 01:05:20,375 --> 01:05:22,333 honestly satisfies this heart 168 01:05:22,333 --> 01:05:24,583 hunger will hold people in the palm of 169 01:05:24,583 --> 01:05:26,666 his or her hand. This 170 01:05:26,666 --> 01:05:28,041 desire for importance is 171 01:05:28,416 --> 01:05:30,583 likely innate in us. From the time we 172 01:05:30,583 --> 01:05:31,541 were little, we innately 173 01:05:31,541 --> 01:05:32,958 gravitate to those instances 174 01:05:33,541 --> 01:05:35,875 where we felt important. From the time we 175 01:05:35,875 --> 01:05:36,958 were little, we innately 176 01:05:36,958 --> 01:05:38,500 gravitate to those instances 177 01:05:38,666 --> 01:05:40,875 where we felt important. We kept colored 178 01:05:40,875 --> 01:05:42,458 ribbons from track meets and 179 01:05:42,458 --> 01:05:43,916 trophies from sports teams, 180 01:05:44,291 --> 01:05:46,541 or our parents put up our artwork or test 181 01:05:46,541 --> 01:05:47,916 grades on the refrigerator. 182 01:05:48,625 --> 01:05:49,708 And we felt proud of these 183 01:05:49,708 --> 01:05:51,500 moments. Even to this day, if we're 184 01:05:51,500 --> 01:05:52,875 honest, I think we can 185 01:05:52,875 --> 01:05:54,416 still find some pride in those 186 01:05:54,458 --> 01:05:56,958 accomplishments. And we naturally carry 187 01:05:56,958 --> 01:05:58,250 this desire to feel 188 01:05:58,250 --> 01:06:00,541 important into adulthood. Carnegie 189 01:06:00,583 --> 01:06:02,625 gives several examples of notable people 190 01:06:02,625 --> 01:06:04,000 in history that this desire 191 01:06:04,000 --> 01:06:05,375 for a feeling of importance 192 01:06:05,541 --> 01:06:08,000 pushed them to huge success. And Carnegie 193 01:06:08,000 --> 01:06:09,333 also says, quote, this 194 01:06:09,333 --> 01:06:11,166 desire makes us want to wear 195 01:06:11,166 --> 01:06:13,583 the latest styles, drive the latest cars 196 01:06:13,583 --> 01:06:14,375 and talk about our 197 01:06:14,375 --> 01:06:15,791 brilliant children, end quote. 198 01:06:17,000 --> 01:06:18,791 And it's the same desire that can lead us 199 01:06:18,791 --> 01:06:20,708 astray at times too, luring 200 01:06:20,708 --> 01:06:22,166 people into joining gangs or 201 01:06:22,208 --> 01:06:24,875 into criminal activities. Here, Carnegie 202 01:06:24,875 --> 01:06:26,708 points out that one time New 203 01:06:26,708 --> 01:06:27,875 York City police commissioner 204 01:06:28,291 --> 01:06:31,000 says criminals are filled with ego. And 205 01:06:31,000 --> 01:06:32,166 their first request after 206 01:06:32,166 --> 01:06:33,500 being arrested is what the 207 01:06:33,500 --> 01:06:35,916 newspaper said about them on the pages 208 01:06:35,916 --> 01:06:38,166 where they are happy to see themselves 209 01:06:38,166 --> 01:06:38,916 that they're sharing 210 01:06:38,916 --> 01:06:41,166 space with sports figures, TV stars and 211 01:06:41,166 --> 01:06:43,208 politicians. And that's not 212 01:06:43,208 --> 01:06:45,250 changed much from today when you 213 01:06:45,250 --> 01:06:47,416 consider our own era of social media and 214 01:06:47,416 --> 01:06:49,250 full TV coverage. People 215 01:06:49,250 --> 01:06:51,000 want their 15 seconds of fame 216 01:06:51,416 --> 01:06:54,125 because it makes them feel important. So 217 01:06:54,125 --> 01:06:55,250 to bring this back around 218 01:06:55,250 --> 01:06:56,666 to those of us not looking to 219 01:06:56,666 --> 01:06:59,333 join a gang, Carnegie asks the reader, 220 01:06:59,625 --> 01:07:01,791 quote, if you tell me how you get your 221 01:07:01,791 --> 01:07:02,708 feeling of importance, 222 01:07:03,208 --> 01:07:05,208 I'll tell you what you are. That 223 01:07:05,208 --> 01:07:07,291 determines your character. That is the 224 01:07:07,291 --> 01:07:08,625 most significant thing 225 01:07:08,625 --> 01:07:10,916 about you, end quote. Carnegie contrast 226 01:07:10,916 --> 01:07:12,458 John D. Rockefeller getting 227 01:07:12,458 --> 01:07:13,625 his feelings of importance 228 01:07:13,875 --> 01:07:16,291 by using his money to help others, many 229 01:07:16,291 --> 01:07:17,375 of whom he would never meet 230 01:07:17,375 --> 01:07:19,458 versus a bank robber and a 231 01:07:19,458 --> 01:07:21,541 murderer named Dillinger who was proud of 232 01:07:21,541 --> 01:07:22,500 the fact he was public 233 01:07:22,500 --> 01:07:24,708 enemy number one. There was 234 01:07:24,708 --> 01:07:26,416 a significant difference between how 235 01:07:26,416 --> 01:07:28,208 these two men, Rockefeller and Dillinger, 236 01:07:28,458 --> 01:07:29,625 got their feeling of 237 01:07:29,625 --> 01:07:32,666 importance. Now Carnegie gives some great 238 01:07:32,666 --> 01:07:34,208 and funny examples of famous people 239 01:07:34,208 --> 01:07:35,083 throughout history that 240 01:07:35,083 --> 01:07:36,666 struggled for a feeling of importance. 241 01:07:37,750 --> 01:07:39,041 George Washington wanted 242 01:07:39,041 --> 01:07:40,750 to be called his mightiness, 243 01:07:40,958 --> 01:07:42,500 the president of the United States. 244 01:07:43,791 --> 01:07:44,666 Christopher Columbus, 245 01:07:44,666 --> 01:07:46,000 he pleaded for the title, 246 01:07:46,500 --> 01:07:48,916 Admiral of the Ocean and Viceroy of 247 01:07:48,916 --> 01:07:50,750 India. And ladies, this 248 01:07:50,750 --> 01:07:52,166 isn't just a testosterone thing. 249 01:07:52,833 --> 01:07:54,375 Catherine the Great refused to open 250 01:07:54,375 --> 01:07:55,500 letters that weren't 251 01:07:55,500 --> 01:07:58,041 addressed to her imperial majesty, 252 01:07:58,541 --> 01:08:01,625 among other examples. The point is we all 253 01:08:01,625 --> 01:08:03,083 go about finding this feeling of 254 01:08:03,083 --> 01:08:04,375 importance in different 255 01:08:04,375 --> 01:08:07,125 ways, some more healthy than others. Some 256 01:08:07,125 --> 01:08:08,208 people can find a feeling of 257 01:08:08,208 --> 01:08:10,125 importance based on sympathy 258 01:08:10,125 --> 01:08:12,458 and attention. Has anyone felt important 259 01:08:12,458 --> 01:08:13,833 because someone stayed by 260 01:08:13,833 --> 01:08:14,666 your side when you weren't 261 01:08:14,666 --> 01:08:16,541 feeling well or someone skipped an event 262 01:08:16,541 --> 01:08:18,291 to stay with you? It does 263 01:08:18,291 --> 01:08:19,708 feel good, but the strategy 264 01:08:19,708 --> 01:08:22,083 could be taken too far and can become 265 01:08:22,083 --> 01:08:24,083 unhealthy quickly. Here 266 01:08:24,083 --> 01:08:25,875 Carnegie points out over a few 267 01:08:25,875 --> 01:08:28,708 paragraphs to make the point that people 268 01:08:28,708 --> 01:08:29,791 will go to extremely 269 01:08:29,791 --> 01:08:31,625 unhealthy lengths to feel important. 270 01:08:32,291 --> 01:08:34,291 Now relating this to how to win friends 271 01:08:34,291 --> 01:08:35,250 and influence people, 272 01:08:35,541 --> 01:08:37,250 imagine what a miracle we 273 01:08:37,250 --> 01:08:39,375 could each perform by simply giving 274 01:08:39,375 --> 01:08:40,458 people honest 275 01:08:40,458 --> 01:08:43,125 appreciation in order to give them a 276 01:08:43,375 --> 01:08:46,000 feeling of importance. That feeling of 277 01:08:46,000 --> 01:08:47,166 importance is something we 278 01:08:47,166 --> 01:08:49,333 covet and desire, and imagine 279 01:08:49,333 --> 01:08:51,416 giving that feeling away freely to 280 01:08:51,416 --> 01:08:53,125 others. I hope you can see 281 01:08:53,125 --> 01:08:54,666 the connection there, how we can 282 01:08:54,666 --> 01:08:56,458 freely give something to someone else 283 01:08:56,458 --> 01:08:57,583 that is often the most 284 01:08:57,583 --> 01:08:59,041 difficult thing to obtain 285 01:08:59,541 --> 01:09:02,125 of the eight needs and desires we have as 286 01:09:02,125 --> 01:09:05,333 humans. Okay, well I feel 287 01:09:05,333 --> 01:09:06,250 like we need to get up and 288 01:09:06,250 --> 01:09:08,666 stretch after that one. Tomorrow, 289 01:09:08,958 --> 01:09:09,958 Carnegie tells us a story 290 01:09:09,958 --> 01:09:12,000 about why a man paid another man a 291 01:09:12,125 --> 01:09:15,208 million dollars per year salary in 1921 292 01:09:15,208 --> 01:09:17,666 when $50 per week was 293 01:09:17,666 --> 01:09:18,791 considered well off. 294 01:09:19,750 --> 01:09:22,333 Okay, get out there, have a great day, 295 01:09:22,708 --> 01:09:24,666 celebrate another year and the 296 01:09:24,666 --> 01:09:26,083 possibilities of the year to 297 01:09:26,083 --> 01:09:28,291 come. Thanks again for joining us today 298 01:09:28,291 --> 01:09:29,458 and we'll be back next 299 01:09:29,458 --> 01:09:30,833 year. Well, actually it'll be 300 01:09:30,833 --> 01:09:32,375 tomorrow. So have a 301 01:09:32,375 --> 01:09:34,375 fantastic day and happy new year's.