The Strong New York Podcast

Kenny Santucci sits down with Chris Davids (@EvolvedByChris) — a former physician turned attachment coach who dated 300+ women after his divorce and grew his following from 0 to 300K in six months by telling the truth about relationships.

They break down the anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment styles running most people's dating lives, why men and women process stress and "peace" completely differently, why chasing dopamine early kills relationships, and what women actually want from a man (hint: it's not his bank account).

In this episode:
  • The 3 attachment styles that predict how someone dates
  • Why "honesty" in dating isn't about looks or money
  • Dopamine vs. oxytocin — why the honeymoon phase always ends
  • Why smart people still make terrible relationship decisions
  • What women actually want from a man

Connect with Chris Davids 
Instagram: @evolvedbychris

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Instagram: @kennysantucci
Instagram: @strongnewyork

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0:00 Intro
0:58 Why Dating Is Harder Than Ever
8:25 Chris’s Journey Into Relationship Coaching
11:50 Attachment Styles Explained: Anxious, Avoidant and Disorganized
18:58 Does Childhood Cause Avoidant Attachment?
24:41 Why You Cannot Love Someone Out of Avoidance
27:36 Avoidant Attachment vs. Narcissism
32:59 The Best First-Date Advice
37:19 How to Choose the Right Partner
41:21 Dopamine, the Honeymoon Phase and Why Feelings Fade
43:16 Friendship, Sacrifice and Compromise in Relationships
50:00 Why Smart People Make Bad Relationship Decisions
56:32 Why Relationships Should Be Run Like a Business
57:59 What Women Actually Want From Men
62:16 These are the Only Qualities Women Look for

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What is The Strong New York Podcast?

Being STRONG is more than just how much weight you can lift.

The Strong New York Podcast is dedicated to inspiring you to become your strongest self- in the gym, in business, in relationships and in life.

Join Kenny as he sits down with his strong as fuck buddies and shoots the shit on what it takes to be strong willed, strong minded and physically strong. Season one features everyone from entrepreneurs and local business owners to doctors and industry leaders in the fitness and wellness space.

With over a decade of experience, Kenny Santucci has made himself known as one of New York City’s top trainers and a thought leader in the health and wellness industry. After transforming his life at 15 years old through fitness, Kenny made it his mission to transform the lives of those around him.

Kenny has trained some of Hollywood’s biggest stars, including Jon Bon Jovi, Liev Schreiber, and Frank Ocean, and has been tapped as a fitness expert sharing his training approach with Men’s Health, Men’s Journal, Runner's World, SHAPE, Well+Good, among other publications.

Kenny is the creator of STRONG New York, NYC's only Health and Fitness Expo. Strong New York is an immersive day of workouts, wellness experiences, panel discussions, and inspiring conversations with the best in-class wellness professionals, industry leaders, and change makers who are sharing their expertise on today's hottest wellness trends and first-hand experiences on how to optimize your overall health and life.

You can find Kenny at The Strength Club, his private training and group strength training facility in the heart of Manhattan located on 28th and 5th Ave in New York City.