1 00:00:00,720 --> 00:00:03,840 People often hate small talk. But why? 2 00:00:04,480 --> 00:00:08,320 You're meeting new people, you're getting more friends, 3 00:00:08,640 --> 00:00:12,400 you're learning about others. Well, here's why. It 4 00:00:12,560 --> 00:00:16,320 causes a great deal of anxiety. You can't control it. You 5 00:00:16,320 --> 00:00:20,160 don't know what's going to happen. There might be awkward silences, might be moments 6 00:00:20,160 --> 00:00:23,680 where you don't know what to do, what to say. 7 00:00:24,000 --> 00:00:27,050 Okay, well, welcome to the club. 8 00:00:38,090 --> 00:00:41,770 We only build relationships by being willing to take 9 00:00:41,770 --> 00:00:45,570 a risk. And today I'm going to talk to you, give you a 10 00:00:45,570 --> 00:00:48,890 tool that's going to help you to deal with these 11 00:00:48,970 --> 00:00:52,570 awkward situations, networking situations where 12 00:00:52,570 --> 00:00:55,970 small talk is necessary. And you're going to turn it into something that's fun and 13 00:00:55,970 --> 00:00:59,460 energizing and, and exciting. So. Welcome to the Decide youe Legacy Podcast. 14 00:00:59,460 --> 00:01:02,580 Today's episode is called Unlock, Clarity, 15 00:01:03,220 --> 00:01:06,580 Create youe own top 10 questions list. 16 00:01:06,980 --> 00:01:10,740 Today, starting today. So I'm Adam Gragg. I'm a legacy coach. 17 00:01:11,220 --> 00:01:14,180 For three decades, I've been a family therapist 18 00:01:14,980 --> 00:01:18,740 working with thousands of clients. And I'm dedicated to teaching others 19 00:01:19,220 --> 00:01:22,820 how to face life with courage. Relationships 20 00:01:23,310 --> 00:01:26,910 take courage. And if 21 00:01:26,910 --> 00:01:30,590 you're watching today, I would really 22 00:01:30,590 --> 00:01:34,350 encourage you to click, 23 00:01:34,430 --> 00:01:38,150 subscribe and to. 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These small talk 39 00:02:34,750 --> 00:02:38,590 type conversations, they lead to meaningful, 40 00:02:39,150 --> 00:02:42,590 impactful life, transformative conversations. 41 00:02:43,790 --> 00:02:47,550 One of those benefits to having these types of conversations is the transformation that 42 00:02:47,550 --> 00:02:50,910 can take place in your life, in your house, in your life. 43 00:02:51,230 --> 00:02:54,920 You can make a lot of. It decreases tension with people. 44 00:02:55,240 --> 00:02:58,840 When you have meaningful conversations because you're starting to connect with them, you learn how 45 00:02:58,840 --> 00:03:02,560 to empathize with what they're going through. You learn about people's 46 00:03:02,560 --> 00:03:06,040 interests and skills, their talents, how they can benefit you 47 00:03:06,520 --> 00:03:10,040 not in a selfish way, but just how you connect with somebody. You have a 48 00:03:10,040 --> 00:03:13,640 meaningful conversation. You realize, well, they know somebody that can be an asset to help 49 00:03:13,640 --> 00:03:17,160 you with a problem that you are looking for a solution for. And 50 00:03:17,320 --> 00:03:20,930 you find that they're good at something like golf or 51 00:03:21,170 --> 00:03:24,850 tennis or pickleball, and you get to go and engage in some kind of 52 00:03:24,850 --> 00:03:28,330 activity with them based on the interaction that you had. And if I look at 53 00:03:28,330 --> 00:03:30,530 my life, the most significant 54 00:03:32,290 --> 00:03:36,010 life altering transformations, the pivotal moments 55 00:03:36,010 --> 00:03:39,690 in my life have been the result of a 56 00:03:39,690 --> 00:03:43,450 good meaningful conversation. And what starts 57 00:03:43,450 --> 00:03:47,140 a good meaningful conversation? Well, questions. Questions. 58 00:03:47,620 --> 00:03:51,060 So today you're gonna learn three. Three 59 00:03:51,140 --> 00:03:54,500 ways to start engaging 60 00:03:55,220 --> 00:03:58,620 in great questions with other people. 3. 3 61 00:03:58,620 --> 00:04:02,420 tips. 3 things you wanna keep in mind to create your own top 62 00:04:02,420 --> 00:04:06,220 list of 10 questions. And you can take this into interactions, 63 00:04:06,220 --> 00:04:09,860 like for a long time, I would suggest. Over 64 00:04:09,940 --> 00:04:13,380 20 years, I've challenged clients, and I just talked to somebody today 65 00:04:13,860 --> 00:04:16,860 that I didn't even remember challenging them to come up with a list of their 66 00:04:16,860 --> 00:04:20,599 10 fav. And this was something that I was challenged to do years and 67 00:04:20,599 --> 00:04:24,039 years ago in my own training as a mental health professional to actually have a 68 00:04:24,039 --> 00:04:27,679 list of 10 favorite questions. What would those be? You're gonna think about those 69 00:04:27,679 --> 00:04:31,359 today, and during this episode, you're gonna think and be inspired 70 00:04:31,359 --> 00:04:34,999 to say, like, wow, I can have this list of 71 00:04:34,999 --> 00:04:38,839 questions tucked away that I can pull out at any point. I'm gonna share some 72 00:04:38,839 --> 00:04:41,759 of my favorites in the episode with you, and by the end of the episode, 73 00:04:41,759 --> 00:04:45,399 you're gonna have at least have started your own list 74 00:04:45,399 --> 00:04:48,479 of favorite questions that you can start practicing 75 00:04:49,820 --> 00:04:53,540 victimizing your family with and your friends with later. So you can 76 00:04:53,540 --> 00:04:57,180 go home. And if you got four boys, then you're gonna start 77 00:04:57,180 --> 00:05:00,620 asking them some of these questions today. And so 78 00:05:00,780 --> 00:05:04,620 my podcast engineer has four boys, right? Yep, four 79 00:05:04,620 --> 00:05:08,420 boys. Yeah, four boys. One of which is locked up 80 00:05:08,420 --> 00:05:12,180 in a closet right now. And he's been 81 00:05:12,180 --> 00:05:15,740 there for how many days? Three days now? Three days? Four days. 82 00:05:15,740 --> 00:05:19,420 Okay, we're just kidding. I'm wanting to make sure you're listening right 83 00:05:19,420 --> 00:05:23,160 now. So, you know, something funn happened on that note. 84 00:05:23,960 --> 00:05:27,560 Yesterday I was talking to a business and 85 00:05:27,720 --> 00:05:31,480 one of my employees who does a lot of content stuff, and he. 86 00:05:31,640 --> 00:05:35,320 He's behind his computer a lot working on stuff. He's a great employee, does a 87 00:05:35,320 --> 00:05:38,840 great job. But I'll tell you, I went to introduce him in his office 88 00:05:39,400 --> 00:05:43,160 to some of these other people that were in my office that I was meeting. 89 00:05:43,320 --> 00:05:46,920 We. We have offices nearby each other. And so I just have a small 90 00:05:46,920 --> 00:05:50,690 team. But I, I went over to introduce them and sometimes I look at 91 00:05:50,690 --> 00:05:53,930 him and I say, man, he is like on the verge of falling asleep. Cause 92 00:05:53,930 --> 00:05:56,330 he's got, he's one of those jobs where he has to look at the computer 93 00:05:56,330 --> 00:05:59,410 for a long time. And so I'm not, not bashing on him at all. But 94 00:05:59,410 --> 00:06:03,210 it was like, ah, you know, okay, we can and we will 95 00:06:03,210 --> 00:06:06,890 wake up when we have interactions that are meaningful. Not that he's not having 96 00:06:06,890 --> 00:06:10,690 meaningful interactions, but as I do things that are relational 97 00:06:10,690 --> 00:06:14,330 with other people, I'm not gonna fall asleep. I mean, it keeps me alive 98 00:06:14,570 --> 00:06:18,410 and awake as I'm engaging people. You're gonna learn how to do that today. 99 00:06:18,410 --> 00:06:22,070 So first thing you wan, as I've mentioned, this is you go ahead 100 00:06:23,190 --> 00:06:26,710 and it's three steps to creating your list is to know the 101 00:06:26,710 --> 00:06:30,470 rules of asking great questions. Alright, so here's some of the 102 00:06:30,470 --> 00:06:33,990 rules. I mean one of the rules that I find is so helpful is ask 103 00:06:34,230 --> 00:06:37,830 questions that are genuine where 104 00:06:37,910 --> 00:06:41,670 you don't already know the answer. You're not trying to manipulate them into 105 00:06:41,670 --> 00:06:45,110 answering it in a way that you want them to answer that question, that you're 106 00:06:45,110 --> 00:06:48,710 genuinely wanting to know the actual answer. So you're not judging them with the question. 107 00:06:49,970 --> 00:06:53,690 It's generally an open end question as well. And it's going to be a what 108 00:06:53,690 --> 00:06:57,330 or how question. What or how questions keep you 109 00:06:57,730 --> 00:07:01,010 engaged with somebody. They force somebody to think 110 00:07:01,570 --> 00:07:04,610 about their answer and you don't 111 00:07:05,490 --> 00:07:09,130 know what the answer is going to be. So you're not trying to lead them 112 00:07:09,130 --> 00:07:12,690 in a specific direction. So a why 113 00:07:12,690 --> 00:07:16,450 question can often be leading. A when question can often seem 114 00:07:16,450 --> 00:07:19,770 leading or it can seem closed ended. They don't have a whole lot of room 115 00:07:19,770 --> 00:07:23,510 to elaborate or to go deeper. So you're not going to get as much 116 00:07:23,510 --> 00:07:27,190 information and it's not going to trigger them to think. When you ask a great 117 00:07:27,190 --> 00:07:29,550 question and as you think about formulating your list, 118 00:07:30,830 --> 00:07:34,190 these questions are going to lead the other person to a pause. 119 00:07:35,390 --> 00:07:39,070 And that pause for many people is uncomfortable because they're having 120 00:07:39,070 --> 00:07:42,710 to do some internal reflection. Some people don't like 121 00:07:42,710 --> 00:07:46,550 what's inside and when they have to look at what's inside, it makes them 122 00:07:46,550 --> 00:07:49,670 uncomfortable. It doesn't mean you're asking a bad question. It means you're asking a great 123 00:07:49,670 --> 00:07:52,610 question and it's just making them uncomfortable. 124 00:07:53,730 --> 00:07:57,570 So know the rules. The rules are, and I'll give you this, these rules, 125 00:07:57,570 --> 00:08:01,370 a number 1A is, you know, ask questions that 126 00:08:01,370 --> 00:08:04,730 are Open ended. B is don't be judgmental in your 127 00:08:04,730 --> 00:08:08,490 questioning. So you have to watch your own heart because you can ask a 128 00:08:08,490 --> 00:08:12,290 question that's open ended still with a what or how. You think it's open ended 129 00:08:12,290 --> 00:08:15,850 with a what or how, but it really is judgmental. It really is a closed 130 00:08:15,850 --> 00:08:19,410 ended question because you're trying to get a response from them that is going to 131 00:08:19,410 --> 00:08:22,040 be the response that you want, you know, so what are you going to do 132 00:08:22,040 --> 00:08:24,560 about it? You know, and you're glaring at them and you want them to say, 133 00:08:24,560 --> 00:08:27,040 well, I'm going to go take care of it right now. You know, what are 134 00:08:27,040 --> 00:08:30,120 you going to do about it? Or what ideas do you have? And you've slid 135 00:08:30,120 --> 00:08:33,560 over a piece of paper that has the ideas that you want them to incorporate 136 00:08:33,560 --> 00:08:37,360 in their job. You know, so those are not open ended questions. 137 00:08:37,600 --> 00:08:41,200 We had a great interaction on my team today and 138 00:08:41,760 --> 00:08:45,480 it was an open ended question. It started with a what? And 139 00:08:45,480 --> 00:08:49,300 this made all of us fairly uncomfortable. Here was the question. The question 140 00:08:49,380 --> 00:08:53,060 was, what would you change? And 141 00:08:53,140 --> 00:08:56,220 everybody on the team had to share their answer with everyone else on the team. 142 00:08:56,220 --> 00:08:59,900 And so we just have a small team, but everyone had to share. 143 00:08:59,900 --> 00:09:03,500 And so it was what one thing would you change about the other person if 144 00:09:03,500 --> 00:09:07,220 you could related to their job? And everybody shared. 145 00:09:07,220 --> 00:09:10,740 Awkward, I know, but it was actually very positive. 146 00:09:11,060 --> 00:09:14,900 I felt like I got some great information from my team about 147 00:09:14,900 --> 00:09:18,550 how I can improve and I was able to give some information that from 148 00:09:18,550 --> 00:09:21,950 what they shared was useful to them. So the second step 149 00:09:22,110 --> 00:09:25,910 in creating your top 10 question list that you can 150 00:09:25,910 --> 00:09:29,630 use to manipulate people for the rest of your life. Just kidding, 151 00:09:29,790 --> 00:09:33,310 just kidding about that. Is you want to make these 152 00:09:33,310 --> 00:09:37,070 questions yours. They're not questions other people 153 00:09:37,070 --> 00:09:40,430 have told you would be good for you to ask others. They're questions that 154 00:09:40,430 --> 00:09:43,660 resonate with you. They are things that you believe 155 00:09:43,820 --> 00:09:47,140 truly are a part of your 156 00:09:47,140 --> 00:09:50,780 curiosity set. So way to think about. 157 00:09:50,860 --> 00:09:54,500 The questions you formulate are what do 158 00:09:54,500 --> 00:09:58,260 you want other people to ask you? So what are you 159 00:09:58,260 --> 00:10:01,980 hoping that someone would ask you? You know, is it maybe you like when people 160 00:10:01,980 --> 00:10:05,100 ask you about your hobbies or you like when people ask you about your kids. 161 00:10:05,100 --> 00:10:08,140 Those would be good questions for you to ask other people. You love when people 162 00:10:08,140 --> 00:10:11,820 ask you about where you're from. So I'm from California. 163 00:10:11,820 --> 00:10:15,060 I kind of like that because not many people where I live are from 164 00:10:15,060 --> 00:10:18,420 California. And then people also where I live 165 00:10:18,740 --> 00:10:22,420 sometimes joke about people from California. And I find it funny to 166 00:10:22,420 --> 00:10:25,740 kind of say, well, you're not really right about that because I'm from California and 167 00:10:25,740 --> 00:10:28,860 I don't agree with that. So it's kind of fun. I know if people are 168 00:10:28,860 --> 00:10:32,580 from Louisiana, they sometimes like to talk about it. You 169 00:10:32,580 --> 00:10:36,020 know, my brother lives in Louisiana. I'm going to see him tomorrow. He's flying into 170 00:10:36,020 --> 00:10:39,580 town for my, for his niece's graduation. He's from 171 00:10:39,580 --> 00:10:43,060 Metairie, Louisiana, and he loves 172 00:10:43,140 --> 00:10:46,820 the New Orleans area. He's very proud of it and he knows it very well. 173 00:10:46,980 --> 00:10:50,100 So if you ever travel in New Orleans, he knows every restaurant and every place 174 00:10:50,100 --> 00:10:53,780 to go and all the history and every professional athlete's from New Orleans 175 00:10:54,260 --> 00:10:57,780 as well. And he's an excellent cook and he loves to talk about food. 176 00:10:57,940 --> 00:11:01,620 So if I'm going to engage with my brother and I ask him 177 00:11:01,620 --> 00:11:05,390 questions about food and he, he will love to engage in that. In 178 00:11:05,390 --> 00:11:08,030 fact, one of the things he's going to want to do is go to cool 179 00:11:08,030 --> 00:11:11,870 restaurants in Wichita. And I'm just thinking right now that I really need to 180 00:11:11,870 --> 00:11:15,630 connect him with my podcast engineer. 181 00:11:15,630 --> 00:11:19,030 Is it okay to call you that Podcast engineer? Troy, 182 00:11:19,430 --> 00:11:23,030 who's sitting right here behind the camera because he is also from Louisiana. 183 00:11:23,270 --> 00:11:26,830 Although Brandon, my brother, is from California. But Troy and my 184 00:11:26,830 --> 00:11:30,300 brother have a lot in common because they both are very passionate about food. My 185 00:11:30,300 --> 00:11:33,860 brother's, my brother's grandfather in law 186 00:11:34,420 --> 00:11:37,940 who was a, is a, well, was a 187 00:11:37,940 --> 00:11:41,580 barber in New Orleans downtown and still lives 188 00:11:41,580 --> 00:11:44,980 downtown. I think he lives in the French Quarter actually. He's a great cook and 189 00:11:44,980 --> 00:11:48,420 he's learned all kinds of stuff from him. So what kind of things 190 00:11:49,460 --> 00:11:53,300 would make your 10 questions. Your 10 questions? You may find it. Here's some ones 191 00:11:53,300 --> 00:11:56,220 that are really good today. I mean, what am I? But you got to make 192 00:11:56,220 --> 00:11:58,940 it your own. I mean, one of my favorite questions to ask just a silly 193 00:11:58,940 --> 00:12:02,610 question is how do you like your eggs? Soft, 194 00:12:02,690 --> 00:12:06,210 yolk, runny, nasty. Which that would be a leading question 195 00:12:06,770 --> 00:12:09,850 if I phrase it like that. So what do you like? How do you like 196 00:12:09,850 --> 00:12:13,530 your eggs? Okay, it's a what or how, but how do you like them? Nasty, 197 00:12:13,530 --> 00:12:17,170 runny or yummy? Soft, I mean, or semi hard. 198 00:12:17,330 --> 00:12:21,050 So I'm leading because I'm already saying nasty. So obviously you know 199 00:12:21,050 --> 00:12:23,650 my opinion about that. But I could phrase that in a way that was non 200 00:12:23,650 --> 00:12:27,330 judgmental would be are you, how do you like your 201 00:12:27,330 --> 00:12:31,090 eggs? Do you like them runny 202 00:12:31,090 --> 00:12:34,490 yoke or do you like them hard yolk? And then they get to answer. There 203 00:12:34,490 --> 00:12:38,210 you go. So some other ways to think about 204 00:12:38,530 --> 00:12:42,210 Creating this top 10 list is what are you most curious about with other people, 205 00:12:42,850 --> 00:12:46,570 Genuinely curious about other people, and then what will 206 00:12:46,570 --> 00:12:50,170 open those around you up the most? So I have a 207 00:12:50,170 --> 00:12:53,890 little bit of a, I have a 208 00:12:53,890 --> 00:12:57,660 little bit of an advantage when it comes to asking 209 00:12:57,660 --> 00:13:01,260 questions because I've been asking questions as a family therapist to families 210 00:13:01,420 --> 00:13:05,180 and people for a long time in a lot of settings. 211 00:13:05,180 --> 00:13:08,700 And I have an idea of what opens people up. And so 212 00:13:08,860 --> 00:13:12,140 about a decade ago, over a decade ago, I started to create 213 00:13:12,220 --> 00:13:16,060 legacy jars and sell legacy jars, which are 109 of 214 00:13:16,060 --> 00:13:19,860 my favorite questions to ask families and people in a 215 00:13:19,860 --> 00:13:23,340 counseling coaching session to get them to open up. You can actually buy the digital 216 00:13:23,340 --> 00:13:26,720 version of that. If you hit the link, buy that digital version, you can make 217 00:13:26,720 --> 00:13:30,200 your own. I'm sold out of these except for one that's right behind me. 218 00:13:30,360 --> 00:13:33,560 That's the last one that I have. And I'm going to make a new batch. 219 00:13:33,560 --> 00:13:36,800 We're actually working on that right now. Where you can buy the legacy jar, use 220 00:13:36,800 --> 00:13:40,200 it in your car, use it with your friends, your family, all of that. So 221 00:13:40,280 --> 00:13:44,120 another thing to something to keep in mind is 222 00:13:44,520 --> 00:13:48,360 what types of questions just excite you and energize you when you ask them 223 00:13:48,520 --> 00:13:51,480 personally? That's going to give you an idea. So you look at your list and 224 00:13:51,480 --> 00:13:55,320 I'll give you some ideas. Here's some. And there's an article that I wrote years 225 00:13:55,320 --> 00:13:59,160 ago. It's 22 questions or 25 questions. Great questions that are 226 00:13:59,160 --> 00:14:03,000 conversation starters. A number of these blogs you can get the 227 00:14:03,000 --> 00:14:05,920 link to in the show notes as well. But here's a few that I like. 228 00:14:06,320 --> 00:14:10,120 So what's a tipping point that changed your life's trajectory and 229 00:14:10,120 --> 00:14:13,600 what happened? Great question. So how would you, 230 00:14:13,920 --> 00:14:17,440 how would your life change if you were 10 times bolder and more 231 00:14:17,440 --> 00:14:21,040 confident? Cool. Here's another one that I like because I love doing 232 00:14:21,040 --> 00:14:24,640 career coaching. So what's most fascinating and motivating to you about your 233 00:14:24,640 --> 00:14:28,320 job? Answer that. Journal about it. These are 234 00:14:28,320 --> 00:14:31,560 great things. You could journal about any of these questions. A couple more of my 235 00:14:31,560 --> 00:14:35,400 favorites. Cool. One one is about goals. So what are two of your biggest goals 236 00:14:35,400 --> 00:14:39,240 over the next 90 days? Love that question because it gets people 237 00:14:39,240 --> 00:14:42,760 thinking. They got to really. Again, some people are going to say, I don't like 238 00:14:42,760 --> 00:14:46,600 that. They're going to brush it off. They're going to be resistant to those questions. 239 00:14:47,000 --> 00:14:49,160 So another one that I like is what's a tough decision 240 00:14:50,930 --> 00:14:54,730 that you're putting off? And then you let 241 00:14:54,730 --> 00:14:58,570 them squirm and think about it. So the third step to creating your top 10 242 00:14:58,570 --> 00:15:02,330 list is to start after you formulated your top 243 00:15:02,330 --> 00:15:06,050 10 list to practice asking. So you practice asking 244 00:15:06,050 --> 00:15:09,450 in a way where you're working on your tone. You're 245 00:15:09,450 --> 00:15:13,090 adjusting it as you go. You're adjusting even the questions you ask because you're seeing 246 00:15:13,090 --> 00:15:16,890 the response potentially. Not that you ask them based on the response, but as 247 00:15:16,890 --> 00:15:20,650 you ask them, you're going to start realizing that this opens somebody up, this doesn't 248 00:15:20,650 --> 00:15:23,130 open them up. This is how I'd want to ask this question. This is how 249 00:15:23,130 --> 00:15:26,690 I wouldn't want to ask the question. And then you become very skilled 250 00:15:26,770 --> 00:15:30,490 at being curious in a really positive and productive way. A lot of fun 251 00:15:30,490 --> 00:15:33,530 and it will be more fun. So those top three pieces of advice as you 252 00:15:33,530 --> 00:15:37,250 create your question list, your top 10 question list to ask others 253 00:15:37,730 --> 00:15:41,410 is first, know the rules, follow 254 00:15:41,410 --> 00:15:44,590 the rules, keep the rules in mind, what or how non 255 00:15:44,590 --> 00:15:48,430 judgmental, open ended. Number two is make them your questions so 256 00:15:48,430 --> 00:15:51,470 they're genuine. People are going to know if you're manufacturing this and it's not coming 257 00:15:51,470 --> 00:15:55,310 from you. And number three, you practice asking. So if you found 258 00:15:55,310 --> 00:15:58,829 this podcast helpful, you're going to love Shatterproof Yourself. 259 00:15:59,550 --> 00:16:03,190 This is our online course and community. We do a live Q and 260 00:16:03,190 --> 00:16:05,950 A. We do live events twice a month. 261 00:16:06,990 --> 00:16:10,540 People submit questions and I get to ask 262 00:16:10,540 --> 00:16:14,300 them and people on my team get to answer those questions in this live 263 00:16:14,300 --> 00:16:18,060 community, get to interact with challenges that happen weekly. One of the 264 00:16:18,060 --> 00:16:21,700 challenges that's going on this week is actually creating your top 10 265 00:16:22,100 --> 00:16:25,940 question list. Engage. Hit the link. You're going to get information. 266 00:16:26,180 --> 00:16:28,940 One of those seven steps to a giant leap in your mental health that I 267 00:16:28,940 --> 00:16:32,780 address in Shadowproof Yourself. As you go over worksheets and workbooks that I've 268 00:16:32,780 --> 00:16:36,520 been using. I mean worksheets and activities I've been taking clients throughout for 269 00:16:36,520 --> 00:16:40,240 three decades is on relationships. So one of the sections is on 270 00:16:40,240 --> 00:16:43,840 building healthy relationships, being curious. And you can go through all 271 00:16:43,840 --> 00:16:47,440 that content on the app through Shatterproof yourself. Check it out right 272 00:16:47,440 --> 00:16:51,080 there. So to decide means that you're eliminating other 273 00:16:51,080 --> 00:16:54,880 options. And your legacy is the impact that your life is gonna have and 274 00:16:54,880 --> 00:16:58,680 is having you are having on other people. Decide what you're gonna 275 00:16:58,680 --> 00:17:02,280 apply from today. What insight did you gain? 276 00:17:03,070 --> 00:17:06,670 Action makes the biggest difference change, 277 00:17:06,910 --> 00:17:10,390 long term, positive change. 20% of it is gaining some 278 00:17:10,390 --> 00:17:14,150 insight, but 80% of it is action taking action based on 279 00:17:14,150 --> 00:17:17,990 what you have learned today. So in closing, I'm going to share with you 280 00:17:17,990 --> 00:17:21,830 what I always do. Live the life today that you want to be remembered 281 00:17:21,830 --> 00:17:25,270 for 10 years after you're gone, you decide your 282 00:17:25,270 --> 00:17:28,980 legacy, nobody else. I appreciate you greatly, and 283 00:17:28,980 --> 00:17:29,940 I'll see you next time.