What if your partner doesn’t want to “do the work”?
I get this question all the time.
This video is an excerpt from our recent "Breathwork and Badassery” Experience.
I get this question almost every single time.
It’s almost as though we aren’t going to take part in our healing
unless we have permission first.
This is the hallmark of Co-Dependency.
The very reason why you must— will be the very reason why you say you can’t.
Many folks resist the work because deep down they think
“If I heal— I know I will outgrow my partner.”
This is the toughest part of Trauma Bonds.
We know that the quality of our lives depend on us healing and breaking free from them.
BUT:
We don’t want to let them go.
We’re addicted to them.
Even worse: They form a part of our identity.
You were born into it.
Your learned it from your parents.
And guess what?
You’re teaching it to your children (without even knowing).
This is where courage comes in.
It takes courage to become a #Cyclebreaker.
It takes courage to say “this isn’t to save us. This is to save me. I can’t keep sinking with this ship anymore.”
When people apply to work with us, we often say:
“What if they say no?”
“What if they don’t help you pay for it?”
“What if you didn’t have their support and permission?”
👆🏽The question is— WOULD YOU STILL BE COMMITTED TO DOING IT?
If the answer is no—
then no judgment here. I get it.
The fear of the unknown is often worse than the known— even if the “known” is miserable.
If you’re finally ready to figure out what self love looks like…
so that 1) they either feel inspired by who you’ve become and are too scared to lose you and will step up to meet you…
or 2) You gather the emotional and material resources to FINALY say yes to yourself and OWN what you deserve….
and step away with love — with an open heart….Free from the Trauma Bonds that tie you together…
The invitation is there…
lean in, and jump into our upcoming event, or apply to receive guidance from a specialist in Breaking free from Trauma Bonds.
I’ve lived it.
I know how hard it is to be “the bad guy”.
The fear and guilt of being the villain in someone’s story is enough to keep you stuck there for decades—
destroying your mental health and rotting your insides and aging you into Chronic illness.
It’s all tied together in the mind/body connection.
It’s certainly not your fault.
It didn’t start with you,
but it can end with you.
See you at the next perfect time, and let me know if this clip from our recent event resonates with you.
Nima
(Your guide on the side).
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships
https://drnima.com/lp/should-i-stay-or-go/?sl=transistor-podcast
Upcoming "Breathwork and Badassery" Live Event (Every month)
Regulate Your stress, deepen your connection to your inner child, process your stuck emotions and improve your capacity
https://go.drnima.com/bbvw?sl=transistor-podcast
Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.
https://go.drnima.com/oevw?sl=transistor-podcast
Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)
https://drnima.com/discovery/application/?sl=transistor-podcast
Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproof
Are you on Telegram? Click link below to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.
https://t.me/joinchat/TPQjyH2MCBKHonIR
What is Trigger Proof Transmissions (Cyclebreaker Collective)?
Welcome to the TriggerProof podcast.
This is the first season of the Podcast which are audio renditions of
Facebook Live Video Transmissions done for the “TriggerProof” Facebook Community.
These were set up by request of our community members who wanted an opportunity to listen
to insights, tools, and strategies to help heal relationship dynamics, deepen intimacy,
and master the fine art of Autonomic Nervous System Regulation so that we can build resilience,
heal from the past, and become active operators of our mind, body, and life.
This first season wasn’t designed to be a podcast, so you’ll notice the audio isn’t
Professional Studio Quality (like it is on season 2 as we’ve upgraded incrementally).
These trainings are designed to introduce and deepen you to the most critical 2 skills we’ve never been taught:
1) The skill and practice of taking our triggers (Nervous System Activations) and turning them into deeper safety and self-love,
2) The skill and practice of taking conflict (that happens in any relationship) and turning them into deeper intimacy between the parties involved.
Not learning these two critical skills at this time in history costs us dearly: Physical and Mental health is on the DECLINE.
Doing this deep level of healing work can break the cycle of Intergenerational Trauma that didn’t start with you.
It didn’t start with you, but it can end with you,
#Cyclebreaker.
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When you're ready, here's what we got:
Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships
https://drnima.com/lp/should-i-stay-or-go/?sl=transistor-podcast
Upcoming "Breathwork and Badassery" Live Event (Every month)
Regulate Your stress, deepen your connection to your inner child, process your stuck emotions and improve your capacity
https://go.drnima.com/bbvw?sl=transistor-podcast
Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.
https://go.drnima.com/oevw?sl=transistor-podcast
Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)
https://drnima.com/discovery/application/?sl=transistor-podcast
Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproof