Patterns, Not Problems

Why do we keep doing things we know don’t work?

Why do we stay too long, shut down, numb out, people-please, self-sabotage—sometimes even when we can see it coming?

In this episode of Unpacking The Mind, we talk about patterns—the deep, automatic ones that shape our relationships, our self-talk, and our choices.

Not as personal failures.
Not as proof that something is wrong with you.
But as survival strategies you learned early on—often without realizing it.

We explore why awareness can feel so uncomfortable, why “knowing better” doesn’t instantly lead to change, and why asking “What did this help me survive?” can be more powerful than asking “What’s wrong with me?”

This episode isn’t about fixing yourself.
It’s about understanding yourself—with honesty, curiosity, and compassion.

Because you’re not broken.
You’re repeating something that once kept you safe.

What is Unpacking The Mind?

Unpacking The Mind is a psychology podcast for curious people who want to understand why we think, feel, and act the way we do — without jargon, gatekeeping, or pretending everything is simple.

Each episode takes a common psychological concept, pattern, or experience and breaks it down in plain language. No clinical lectures, no self-help hype — just thoughtful conversations about being human.

This isn’t a replacement for therapy, and it’s not an academic course. It’s a space to slow down, ask better questions, and make sense of the messy inner stuff we all carry around.

If you’ve ever wondered “why am I like this?” — you’re in the right place.