1 01:00:01,250 --> 01:00:02,000 Good morning. 2 01:00:03,958 --> 01:00:06,041 And welcome to morning cereal 3 01:00:11,875 --> 01:00:12,875 Okay, good morning 4 01:00:12,875 --> 01:00:14,125 and welcome to Thursday. 5 01:00:14,541 --> 01:00:15,333 Now, I know what you're 6 01:00:15,333 --> 01:00:17,125 thinking, blah, blah, blah, Sean. 7 01:00:17,458 --> 01:00:19,541 Well, that's okay because today is 8 01:00:19,541 --> 01:00:22,166 national blah, blah, blah day. 9 01:00:22,541 --> 01:00:24,125 Well, let's just probably keep that 10 01:00:24,125 --> 01:00:25,291 between the two of us though. 11 01:00:26,041 --> 01:00:28,416 And today is also national high five day. 12 01:00:28,708 --> 01:00:30,833 So there we go, air high five to 13 01:00:30,833 --> 01:00:32,125 everybody watching on YouTube. 14 01:00:32,916 --> 01:00:33,958 Today is also 15 01:00:33,958 --> 01:00:35,916 national cheese ball day and 16 01:00:35,916 --> 01:00:37,500 I've got a good buddy that lives out in 17 01:00:37,500 --> 01:00:39,833 Colorado and he knows I am not gonna let 18 01:00:39,958 --> 01:00:42,583 national cheese ball day go by without a 19 01:00:42,583 --> 01:00:43,958 shout out to him and 20 01:00:43,958 --> 01:00:46,833 his Costco sized cheese ball crates or 21 01:00:46,833 --> 01:00:49,166 totes that he used to eat all the time. 22 01:00:49,750 --> 01:00:50,958 High five to you, your 23 01:00:50,958 --> 01:00:52,375 body survived those days. 24 01:00:52,958 --> 01:00:54,458 Okay, well, let's go ahead and move on to 25 01:00:54,458 --> 01:00:55,666 our quote for today and 26 01:00:55,666 --> 01:00:57,166 this will be the second quote that we 27 01:00:57,166 --> 01:00:58,250 have from Jennifer Garner. 28 01:00:58,875 --> 01:01:00,916 And she's now joining Jim Carrey as a 29 01:01:00,916 --> 01:01:02,791 multiple quote giver here on Morning 30 01:01:02,958 --> 01:01:03,458 Cereal. 31 01:01:04,166 --> 01:01:06,208 Well, Jennifer Garner said, quote, beauty 32 01:01:06,208 --> 01:01:08,416 comes from a life well lived. 33 01:01:09,000 --> 01:01:11,208 If you lived well, your smile lines are 34 01:01:11,208 --> 01:01:12,958 in the right places, end quote. 35 01:01:13,583 --> 01:01:14,000 Thanks, Jen. 36 01:01:14,500 --> 01:01:16,166 Well, let's move on to today's news facts 37 01:01:16,166 --> 01:01:18,458 and birthdays and they're for April 17th. 38 01:01:18,708 --> 01:01:21,583 On this day back in 1970, Paul McCartney, 39 01:01:21,875 --> 01:01:22,958 he released his first 40 01:01:22,958 --> 01:01:25,166 solo album called McCartney. 41 01:01:26,083 --> 01:01:30,291 Then on the same day in 1970, Apollo 13 42 01:01:30,291 --> 01:01:32,541 safely returned to Earth following 43 01:01:32,541 --> 01:01:34,916 those major issues that made them abort 44 01:01:34,916 --> 01:01:35,916 their moon landing mission. 45 01:01:37,041 --> 01:01:39,375 Then in 2002 on this date, 46 01:01:39,750 --> 01:01:41,666 the TV show General Hospital. 47 01:01:42,083 --> 01:01:43,541 Do you guys remember watching that? 48 01:01:43,541 --> 01:01:44,916 Maybe your parents watching that? 49 01:01:45,458 --> 01:01:46,958 Well, in 2002 on this day, 50 01:01:46,958 --> 01:01:49,000 it aired its 10,000th episode. 51 01:01:49,458 --> 01:01:50,750 That's ABC's longest 52 01:01:50,750 --> 01:01:52,666 running soap opera and 53 01:01:52,666 --> 01:01:54,125 it's the longest running 54 01:01:54,125 --> 01:01:55,958 program still in production today. 55 01:01:56,583 --> 01:01:58,125 The soap began airing in 56 01:01:58,125 --> 01:02:01,875 1963 and as of two days ago, 57 01:02:02,083 --> 01:02:05,583 it aired its 15,690th show. 58 01:02:06,333 --> 01:02:08,333 So just by comparison, everybody knows 59 01:02:08,333 --> 01:02:09,416 how long The Simpsons 60 01:02:09,416 --> 01:02:10,416 have been on, right? 61 01:02:10,416 --> 01:02:12,166 They've been on the air since 1989. 62 01:02:13,041 --> 01:02:15,541 They have been extremely lazy and only 63 01:02:15,541 --> 01:02:18,208 released 785 episodes. 64 01:02:19,375 --> 01:02:22,333 Well, finally, back in 2011 on this date, 65 01:02:22,708 --> 01:02:25,333 based on the novels by George RR Martin, 66 01:02:25,708 --> 01:02:26,791 the show Game of 67 01:02:26,791 --> 01:02:28,625 Thrones premiered on HBO. 68 01:02:29,625 --> 01:02:31,041 Well, happy birthday to you 69 01:02:31,041 --> 01:02:32,333 if today is your birthday. 70 01:02:32,416 --> 01:02:33,583 You share a birthday with 71 01:02:33,583 --> 01:02:37,458 singer Victoria Posh Spice Beckham. 72 01:02:37,500 --> 01:02:39,625 She's 51 today and 73 01:02:39,625 --> 01:02:40,875 actress Jennifer Garner. 74 01:02:41,125 --> 01:02:42,291 She's 53 today. 75 01:02:43,125 --> 01:02:45,208 The number one song on this date back in 76 01:02:45,208 --> 01:02:49,083 1999 was No Scrubs by TLC. 77 01:02:49,750 --> 01:02:52,000 This is a classic song from the last year 78 01:02:52,000 --> 01:02:53,208 of the 20th century. 79 01:02:53,791 --> 01:02:55,083 It's about men who have 80 01:02:55,083 --> 01:02:56,583 nothing going on for them, 81 01:02:57,125 --> 01:02:59,375 but hit on women just the same. 82 01:02:59,958 --> 01:03:01,500 Sadly, that's probably not 83 01:03:01,500 --> 01:03:03,541 just a 20th century problem. 84 01:03:04,083 --> 01:03:05,166 Too many cheese puffs. 85 01:03:06,083 --> 01:03:07,083 Okay, well, let's move 86 01:03:07,083 --> 01:03:08,708 on to our book review. 87 01:03:08,708 --> 01:03:10,083 And as you know, we're reading through 88 01:03:10,083 --> 01:03:12,416 Stephen R. Covey's The Seven Habits of 89 01:03:12,416 --> 01:03:13,708 Highly Effective People. 90 01:03:14,208 --> 01:03:15,083 And in this first 91 01:03:15,083 --> 01:03:16,916 chapter entitled Inside Out, 92 01:03:17,333 --> 01:03:18,625 Covey is discussing the differences 93 01:03:18,625 --> 01:03:19,375 between character 94 01:03:19,375 --> 01:03:21,250 traits and personality ethic. 95 01:03:21,708 --> 01:03:23,916 And he's unpacking how our behaviors are 96 01:03:23,916 --> 01:03:25,166 based on our perspectives 97 01:03:25,666 --> 01:03:26,583 and our experiences, 98 01:03:26,583 --> 01:03:27,875 what he calls our paradigms. 99 01:03:28,375 --> 01:03:30,958 And Covey describes the idea that despite 100 01:03:30,958 --> 01:03:32,750 our individual paradigms, 101 01:03:33,083 --> 01:03:35,916 within each of us exists an awareness of 102 01:03:35,916 --> 01:03:38,375 certain innate foundational principles 103 01:03:38,375 --> 01:03:40,166 like fairness, integrity, and honesty 104 01:03:40,166 --> 01:03:41,500 that cannot be broken 105 01:03:41,500 --> 01:03:43,875 and they're self-evident one degree or 106 01:03:43,875 --> 01:03:45,500 another in every one of us. 107 01:03:46,166 --> 01:03:48,000 And yesterday, we began Covey's 108 01:03:48,000 --> 01:03:49,416 sub-chapter Principles 109 01:03:49,416 --> 01:03:50,750 of Growth and Change. 110 01:03:51,291 --> 01:03:53,666 And Covey was laying the groundwork that 111 01:03:53,666 --> 01:03:55,041 it is these types of 112 01:03:55,041 --> 01:03:56,333 foundational concepts 113 01:03:56,708 --> 01:03:58,125 that we must build real 114 01:03:58,125 --> 01:04:00,625 change upon and step by step. 115 01:04:01,416 --> 01:04:03,833 This process of growth is difficult to 116 01:04:03,833 --> 01:04:06,375 rush or shortcut, no matter what it is 117 01:04:06,375 --> 01:04:07,083 you're trying to learn. 118 01:04:07,500 --> 01:04:09,083 Covey gives a quick example of learning 119 01:04:09,083 --> 01:04:10,541 to play the piano, right? 120 01:04:10,875 --> 01:04:12,083 You can't rush that. 121 01:04:12,083 --> 01:04:13,625 There's no shortcut that can teach you to 122 01:04:13,625 --> 01:04:15,041 play the piano better, faster. 123 01:04:15,750 --> 01:04:18,375 And it's similar and just as difficult 124 01:04:18,375 --> 01:04:19,791 and you cannot shortcut 125 01:04:19,791 --> 01:04:21,583 emotional growth as well. 126 01:04:22,208 --> 01:04:24,083 So Covey tells a story of a situation 127 01:04:24,083 --> 01:04:26,750 between himself and his young daughter, 128 01:04:26,958 --> 01:04:29,666 where at her birthday party, she was just 129 01:04:29,666 --> 01:04:31,416 clutching all of her presents, 130 01:04:31,416 --> 01:04:32,416 refusing to share them 131 01:04:32,416 --> 01:04:33,458 with her party guests. 132 01:04:34,291 --> 01:04:36,083 And Covey was embarrassed as he was 133 01:04:36,083 --> 01:04:38,000 attempting to get her to share with the 134 01:04:38,000 --> 01:04:39,083 other kids at the party. 135 01:04:39,541 --> 01:04:41,416 He started feeling the pressure and felt 136 01:04:41,416 --> 01:04:42,291 the judgment from the 137 01:04:42,291 --> 01:04:43,416 other parents that were there. 138 01:04:44,250 --> 01:04:45,541 So Covey asked his 139 01:04:45,541 --> 01:04:46,833 daughter twice to share. 140 01:04:47,500 --> 01:04:48,833 Then he reasoned with 141 01:04:48,833 --> 01:04:50,375 her, quote, "If you share, 142 01:04:50,416 --> 01:04:51,333 they will share their 143 01:04:51,333 --> 01:04:52,416 toys with you," end quote. 144 01:04:53,041 --> 01:04:55,083 All emphatic no's from his daughter. 145 01:04:55,916 --> 01:04:58,083 Now Covey with his growing embarrassment 146 01:04:58,083 --> 01:04:58,875 and having no 147 01:04:58,875 --> 01:05:00,416 influence over his daughter, 148 01:05:00,416 --> 01:05:01,791 Covey then tried bribery, 149 01:05:02,291 --> 01:05:03,750 offering a piece of gum. 150 01:05:04,250 --> 01:05:06,041 Again, a no from his daughter. 151 01:05:06,625 --> 01:05:07,916 Then Covey, now getting 152 01:05:07,916 --> 01:05:09,875 upset, he resorted to, quote, 153 01:05:10,583 --> 01:05:13,000 "fear and threat," saying, "unless you 154 01:05:13,000 --> 01:05:14,208 share, you will be in 155 01:05:14,208 --> 01:05:15,708 real trouble," end quote, 156 01:05:16,250 --> 01:05:17,333 to which the daughter 157 01:05:17,333 --> 01:05:19,500 quadrupled down now with a no. 158 01:05:20,291 --> 01:05:21,791 They were her toys and 159 01:05:21,791 --> 01:05:23,250 she didn't have to share. 160 01:05:25,000 --> 01:05:27,125 Finally, Covey resorted to force and 161 01:05:27,125 --> 01:05:28,750 simply just took some of the toys 162 01:05:28,750 --> 01:05:29,458 and gave them to the 163 01:05:29,458 --> 01:05:30,416 other kids to play with. 164 01:05:31,208 --> 01:05:33,875 And as Covey reminisced on this, what he 165 01:05:33,875 --> 01:05:35,166 viewed as a failure 166 01:05:35,166 --> 01:05:37,000 of himself as a father, 167 01:05:37,000 --> 01:05:38,875 he thought, quote, "Perhaps my daughter 168 01:05:38,875 --> 01:05:40,375 needed the experience of 169 01:05:40,541 --> 01:05:42,708 possessing the things before she could 170 01:05:42,708 --> 01:05:43,875 give them," end quote. 171 01:05:44,500 --> 01:05:46,625 Covey felt his desire not to feel judged 172 01:05:46,625 --> 01:05:47,666 by the other parents 173 01:05:48,125 --> 01:05:50,708 affected his parenting and he did not 174 01:05:50,708 --> 01:05:51,583 provide the proper 175 01:05:51,583 --> 01:05:52,916 patience and understanding. 176 01:05:53,958 --> 01:05:54,875 Here's Covey's 177 01:05:54,875 --> 01:05:56,500 primary point of the story. 178 01:05:57,083 --> 01:05:59,333 To compensate for his own deficiency of 179 01:05:59,333 --> 01:06:01,416 patience and understanding, he, quote, 180 01:06:01,875 --> 01:06:03,000 "borrowed strength from 181 01:06:03,000 --> 01:06:04,708 his position and authority 182 01:06:05,250 --> 01:06:07,208 and forced her to do what he 183 01:06:07,208 --> 01:06:09,000 wanted her to do," end quote. 184 01:06:10,000 --> 01:06:11,375 This borrowed strength, Covey is 185 01:06:11,375 --> 01:06:13,166 referring to, builds weakness in both 186 01:06:13,166 --> 01:06:14,208 people in the situation, 187 01:06:15,041 --> 01:06:17,541 in the borrower, it, quote, "reinforces 188 01:06:17,541 --> 01:06:19,666 dependence on external factors to get 189 01:06:19,666 --> 01:06:20,750 things done," end quote. 190 01:06:21,375 --> 01:06:23,500 And in the person that's being forced to 191 01:06:23,500 --> 01:06:25,458 acquiesce, it builds weakness, quote, 192 01:06:26,083 --> 01:06:27,833 "stunting the development of independent 193 01:06:27,833 --> 01:06:29,916 reasoning, growth, and internal 194 01:06:29,916 --> 01:06:31,250 discipline," end quote. 195 01:06:31,833 --> 01:06:33,833 And it ultimately, quote, "builds 196 01:06:33,833 --> 01:06:35,500 weakness in the relationship," end quote, 197 01:06:35,916 --> 01:06:38,875 "as fear replaces cooperation and sows 198 01:06:38,875 --> 01:06:40,458 seeds of defensiveness." 199 01:06:41,416 --> 01:06:43,958 Lastly, Covey discusses the idea that 200 01:06:43,958 --> 01:06:45,541 kids and people in 201 01:06:45,541 --> 01:06:47,125 general need to, quote, 202 01:06:47,291 --> 01:06:49,916 "gain a sense of real possession before 203 01:06:49,916 --> 01:06:52,583 they can give back and share naturally, 204 01:06:52,583 --> 01:06:55,166 freely, and spontaneously," end quote. 205 01:06:55,708 --> 01:06:57,583 Before someone can properly give and 206 01:06:57,583 --> 01:07:00,041 share in a marriage, in a family, 207 01:07:00,541 --> 01:07:02,500 they need to, quote, "possess themselves 208 01:07:02,500 --> 01:07:04,958 their own sense of identity and 209 01:07:04,958 --> 01:07:07,000 self-worth," end quote. 210 01:07:07,708 --> 01:07:08,833 Now, that's definitely a 211 01:07:08,833 --> 01:07:10,083 concept that makes you think. 212 01:07:10,875 --> 01:07:12,125 Well, come back tomorrow because we're 213 01:07:12,125 --> 01:07:12,666 going to dive into 214 01:07:12,666 --> 01:07:14,125 Covey's next sub-chapter, 215 01:07:14,583 --> 01:07:15,541 the way we see the 216 01:07:15,541 --> 01:07:17,291 problem is the problem. 217 01:07:18,500 --> 01:07:20,500 Well, high five on some self-improvement 218 01:07:20,500 --> 01:07:21,583 this morning and another 219 01:07:21,583 --> 01:07:23,166 high five on making it to 220 01:07:23,166 --> 01:07:25,666 Friday Eve. 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