1 01:00:00,500 --> 01:00:03,166 Good morning and welcome 2 01:00:03,166 --> 01:00:04,708 to your morning cereal. 3 01:00:08,875 --> 01:00:11,416 Okay, good morning and welcome to Friday. 4 01:00:11,833 --> 01:00:13,125 Nicely done. 5 01:00:13,125 --> 01:00:14,916 You stuck with it and you made it 6 01:00:14,916 --> 01:00:16,125 through the end of the week. 7 01:00:16,750 --> 01:00:19,041 Now, with that weight off your shoulders, 8 01:00:19,083 --> 01:00:21,625 how about taking another weight off? 9 01:00:22,083 --> 01:00:24,708 Today is National Apology Day, 10 01:00:24,791 --> 01:00:25,958 which means it's time to 11 01:00:25,958 --> 01:00:27,833 finally say those hard words 12 01:00:28,000 --> 01:00:30,041 for some of us to say, I'm sorry. 13 01:00:30,291 --> 01:00:32,000 Be the bigger person if need be 14 01:00:32,000 --> 01:00:34,166 and just move forward in life. 15 01:00:34,833 --> 01:00:36,583 All right, yesterday's trivia answer, 16 01:00:37,291 --> 01:00:40,500 238,855 miles. 17 01:00:41,000 --> 01:00:41,750 That's how far the 18 01:00:41,750 --> 01:00:43,208 moon is from the earth. 19 01:00:43,791 --> 01:00:44,958 And now the essential 20 01:00:44,958 --> 01:00:46,791 vitamins in your morning cereal. 21 01:00:46,791 --> 01:00:47,875 Today's quote is from 22 01:00:47,875 --> 01:00:50,166 birthday boy turning 76 today, 23 01:00:50,833 --> 01:00:52,500 Peter Gabriel, who said, quote, 24 01:00:53,041 --> 01:00:55,666 "I hold the line, the line of strength 25 01:00:55,833 --> 01:00:58,000 "that pulls me from the fear." 26 01:00:58,333 --> 01:00:58,708 End quote. 27 01:00:59,541 --> 01:01:01,541 Yes, make that conscious 28 01:01:01,541 --> 01:01:03,541 decision to remain resilient, 29 01:01:03,875 --> 01:01:05,125 remain focused and 30 01:01:05,125 --> 01:01:07,125 anchored in your inner strength 31 01:01:07,416 --> 01:01:08,958 and you too will move forward 32 01:01:08,958 --> 01:01:11,375 and courage overcoming that fear. 33 01:01:11,833 --> 01:01:13,208 All right, well, let's go ahead 34 01:01:13,208 --> 01:01:14,625 and hear from the experts now. 35 01:01:14,625 --> 01:01:16,916 It is time to pour in some Let Them 36 01:01:16,916 --> 01:01:18,041 Theory by Mel Robbins. 37 01:01:18,750 --> 01:01:19,541 And today we are 38 01:01:19,541 --> 01:01:21,916 stepping into chapter 19, 39 01:01:21,916 --> 01:01:23,416 which is entitled, How 40 01:01:23,416 --> 01:01:24,833 to Take Your Relationships 41 01:01:25,291 --> 01:01:25,958 to the Next Level. 42 01:01:26,375 --> 01:01:26,875 And today we're gonna 43 01:01:26,875 --> 01:01:27,833 focus on the introduction 44 01:01:28,083 --> 01:01:29,625 and the first sub-chapter in this, 45 01:01:30,083 --> 01:01:30,833 which is entitled, 46 01:01:31,041 --> 01:01:31,916 If You're Always 47 01:01:31,916 --> 01:01:33,875 Picking the Wrong Person. 48 01:01:34,625 --> 01:01:35,875 So, Mel opens this 49 01:01:35,875 --> 01:01:37,500 chapter by challenging the idea 50 01:01:37,625 --> 01:01:40,000 that the problem is out there, right? 51 01:01:40,000 --> 01:01:40,750 She explains that 52 01:01:40,750 --> 01:01:42,000 patterns in relationships 53 01:01:42,208 --> 01:01:44,041 aren't bad luck, they're feedback. 54 01:01:44,416 --> 01:01:45,333 If you keep choosing 55 01:01:45,333 --> 01:01:47,250 emotionally unavailable people, 56 01:01:47,666 --> 01:01:49,791 it's not coincidence, it's familiarity. 57 01:01:50,500 --> 01:01:51,833 As Mel writes, quote, "You 58 01:01:51,833 --> 01:01:53,791 don't attract what you want. 59 01:01:54,083 --> 01:01:55,041 "You attract what 60 01:01:55,041 --> 01:01:56,625 you're ready for," end quote. 61 01:01:57,250 --> 01:01:58,583 So this section is about 62 01:01:58,583 --> 01:02:00,833 responsibility without blame. 63 01:02:01,625 --> 01:02:03,708 Mel encourages readers to stop asking 64 01:02:03,708 --> 01:02:05,500 why relationships keep failing 65 01:02:06,000 --> 01:02:07,875 and start asking what feels familiar 66 01:02:08,041 --> 01:02:09,833 about the people they choose. 67 01:02:10,583 --> 01:02:11,583 Chaos often feels 68 01:02:11,583 --> 01:02:13,666 exciting, distance feels normal 69 01:02:13,666 --> 01:02:16,083 and consistency can feel boring 70 01:02:16,083 --> 01:02:17,583 if you're used to instability. 71 01:02:18,333 --> 01:02:19,375 So one of the most 72 01:02:19,375 --> 01:02:21,375 eye-opening lines in this section 73 01:02:21,500 --> 01:02:22,958 is this, quote, "If you 74 01:02:22,958 --> 01:02:24,750 keep picking the wrong people, 75 01:02:25,208 --> 01:02:27,708 "the common denominator isn't them. 76 01:02:28,291 --> 01:02:29,708 "It's the pattern," end quote. 77 01:02:30,458 --> 01:02:32,708 Mel explains that healing doesn't come 78 01:02:32,708 --> 01:02:34,583 from finding someone new, 79 01:02:34,916 --> 01:02:37,041 it comes from choosing differently. 80 01:02:37,916 --> 01:02:39,000 She also emphasizes 81 01:02:39,000 --> 01:02:40,208 that taking a relationship 82 01:02:40,208 --> 01:02:41,541 to that Next Level, it 83 01:02:41,541 --> 01:02:43,208 starts with self-honesty. 84 01:02:43,916 --> 01:02:45,625 Are you ignoring red flags? 85 01:02:45,958 --> 01:02:46,916 Are you confusing 86 01:02:46,916 --> 01:02:48,416 chemistry with compatibility? 87 01:02:49,416 --> 01:02:51,166 Are you hoping someone will change 88 01:02:51,500 --> 01:02:53,083 once they feel more secure? 89 01:02:53,750 --> 01:02:55,250 Mel's answer here is clear. 90 01:02:55,916 --> 01:02:58,458 Don't build the future on potential. 91 01:02:59,000 --> 01:02:59,875 This chapter invites 92 01:02:59,875 --> 01:03:01,250 readers to slow down, 93 01:03:01,583 --> 01:03:03,958 reflect and raise your standards, 94 01:03:04,500 --> 01:03:06,750 not out of ego, but out of self-respect. 95 01:03:07,333 --> 01:03:08,333 When you stop choosing 96 01:03:08,333 --> 01:03:10,333 from fear of being alone, 97 01:03:10,708 --> 01:03:13,125 you create space for real connection. 98 01:03:13,541 --> 01:03:15,708 All right, here is your Friday takeaway. 99 01:03:16,708 --> 01:03:17,666 Better relationships 100 01:03:17,666 --> 01:03:19,791 start with better patterns, 101 01:03:20,458 --> 01:03:22,291 and that begins with you. 102 01:03:22,958 --> 01:03:23,583 All right, well, 103 01:03:23,791 --> 01:03:25,708 apologize if you need to, 104 01:03:25,708 --> 01:03:28,750 forgive if you can, and by all means, 105 01:03:29,250 --> 01:03:30,958 go and enjoy your Friday. 106 01:03:31,500 --> 01:03:33,041 But first, the prize from 107 01:03:33,041 --> 01:03:34,500 the bottom of the cereal box, 108 01:03:34,500 --> 01:03:35,666 the morning cereal 109 01:03:35,666 --> 01:03:37,208 trivia question of the day. 110 01:03:37,666 --> 01:03:39,000 Friday's a harder one, here it is. 111 01:03:39,333 --> 01:03:39,958 Actually, this one 112 01:03:39,958 --> 01:03:40,916 might not be that hard. 113 01:03:41,458 --> 01:03:42,750 Which soda was introduced 114 01:03:42,750 --> 01:03:44,333 first in the United States? 115 01:03:45,583 --> 01:03:48,458 Dr. Pepper, Pepsi, Cola, or Squirt? 116 01:03:49,083 --> 01:03:50,541 All right, well, thanks for listening to 117 01:03:50,541 --> 01:03:51,375 Morning Cereal today. 118 01:03:51,625 --> 01:03:53,416 Have a great weekend, and 119 01:03:53,416 --> 01:03:54,833 we'll see you back here on Monday 120 01:03:54,833 --> 01:03:56,208 for the answer to the trivia question 121 01:03:56,333 --> 01:03:58,625 and more sugar for your soul. 122 01:03:58,625 --> 01:04:01,458 And until then, have a fantastic day. 123 01:04:29,458 --> 01:04:30,083 (upbeat music)