Show Notes
Transcript for Ep21:
Welcome to Be True, Be Happy, Be Yourself show, I'm Yuki Miyaki. In this episode, I will be sharing with you my personal story and the Power of Surrender
What is Surrender? Does surrender means giving up or that you are a failure? For a long time, many successful people and stories have emphasized that we must persist and hold on to our beliefs. Today, let me share with all of you about how everything comes by our way when we learn to yield to life.
Perhaps for most people, surrendering is equivalent to giving up. That they are incapable and therefore surrender. And that only the weak will give up.
There is a book called "The Power of Surrender". The author explains that surrender was once, I was full of confidence perhaps arrogant. I always think that everything can be solved with money, life have always been under my control.
For instance: Until 28 days after my eldest son was born, he was sent to the emergency ward because of cramps that could not even be explained by science. So, he had to take morphine for 3 months. This affected him, leading him to have learning disabilities. On the way to seek medical treatment, I asked myself countless times: Why me?
Another instance is that: My parents have been very loving couples since I was born. Until a few years ago, they had a breakdown in their relationship due to an incident. Eventually, my father left home and my mother fell into depression. This was a heavy blow for me, and I blamed myself and had guilt as I have no way to save or do anything to change the relationship between my parents. This originally happy family left an irreparable gap. For countless nights, I felt very helpless and asked myself: Why can't I do anything?
Next, is my marriage relationship. Because of my husband’s affair, I fell into the bottomless pit of emotions. My life was full of doubts. During that time, I seemed to have given up, I surrendered but in fact, I was fighting internally. I continuously asked myself: What did I do wrong? Why me?
Surrender means accepting the arrangements of life from the heart and trusting all these arrangements, without doubts, worries, and attachments. Embrace every moment of the present and believe that all unhappiness and sorrow will be transformed into a light that illuminates life.
In the process of learning to surrender, we can continue to learn through the following three things:
1. Acceptance
Many times when we are facing problems, we will evade, resist, and attack, clenching our fists and trying to regain control of the out-of-control situation. The first step in accepting is to let go. Let go of your perfectionism, let go of fear, let go of doubts, let go of control, and accept everything no matter good and bad.
2. Trust
Remove the label that others put on you. Surrendering is having trust in life and believing in yourself. When we are facing problems, we will have doubt in life, why me?Why is this happening? Even with fear, with anger and unwillingness to question all these encounters. However, learn to let go of your fears, let go of the wounds that the past brought you, and forgive them. Those results that you cannot control, do not judge, do not have too much interpretation and worry. Believe in everything that happens in life, as they are the best arrangements.
3. Embrace the present.
Open your hands and hearts to experience every possibility. When we can accept it, we can fully embrace the present and feel them. The experience that life wants to bring to us. Be grateful for every process that life brings us, and enjoy every moment life bring to you. When you do not crave for it you will easily reach the goal. (use the last part)
There will be many unexpected things in life. When we accept and embrace it we will eventually return to ourselves with the power in the past and become the master of our own life. I admire a world spiritual teacher Byron Katie, who is also the author “一念之转、loving what is",
She once said: “Everything happens for me, not to me ". Because of this quote / sentence, I found the most precious gift in my life after going through three difficult stages in my life: and that is “surrender”
I hope that by sharing my story, it will inspire you to have the courage to change and create an abundant life.
I look forward to seeing you in my next episode where I will be sharing with you more stories about my life and how you can Be True, Be Happy and Be Yourself!