Show Notes
Transcript for Ep 13
Welcome to SHE is Confident. Hi! This is Deon Teh and in this episode, I will be sharing with you about TWO WAY COMMUNICATION.
Why are we talking about today episode? Give 2 reasons why
Two way communication is the basic foundation for communication with children.
As parents, we want our children to grow up with a good character and we want to be able to communicate well with them. We can play an important role in their life like a mentor, and whenever they face any problems, they will want to discuss with us.
When our children grow up, their psychological and physical bodies will rapidly change. They will expect to be respected like an adult as they feel that they are mature and know what they are doing.
Therefore a two way communication will play an important role to enter into their world.
When the two way communication was not done properly, the children will slowly keep to themselves and be reluctant to share anything with the parents.
When our son was two months old, we had to send him to a nanny to help us take care of him as I needed to go back to work.
Due to my busy work schedule, I did not consider any other aspects of his development and I only sent him to the nanny's house in the morning and picked him back after work.
After he entered primary school, one day we were informed by his form teacher regarding an incident that happened in the classroom - this led me to be more sensitive to him and his actions.
At the same time, I also found out that whenever he plays at the playground, he will lose his temper easily. His interaction with his friends at the playground was not pleasant either.
Whenever someone does not agree with him or satisfy his request, my son will lose his temper and throw his tantrum at others. I do not know the reason why at that time , Probably he is the only child in the family and over at his Nanny’s place, he is adored by her family members, and everyone gave in to him, and resulted in a competitive personality in him.
The playground incident happened more than once and this has led me thinking if either me or the nanny has indeed spoil my child.
Through many trials and errors and using the parenting tips that we picked up, we learnt how to tackle the problems instead of picking on him or telling him off. We found out that when we allow him to speak out his thoughts, and give him life examples for him to learn are the best ways to guide him.
Nothing can be achieved by forcing him to change overnight .
Luckily, there were several times where I could help out by volunteering in his school activities, I was able to observe how he interacts with his classmates and also get to know his classmates better. There was one particular boy who was considered by all the classmates, unco-operative, mischievous, and having an attitude. No one likes to play with him.
During my volunteering times, I had the opportunity to interact with him. Perhaps it was due to my caring and also non judgemental attitude towards him, he was rather polite to me and will even greet me whenever he sees me. He appeared to be a nice boy unlike what the others said. Hence I realised that if we were to leave our judgements behind, stop labelling our children and treat them with respect, they will also treat us back the same way.
We need to learn to accept and love our children the way they are. As parents, we need to realise that they cannot be the perfect child we want them to be. At times when they start to lose themselves or get lost along the growing up years, we need to encourage them to get back on the right path/track. By doing so, they will gain confidence and strength, to generate more self esteem and overcome difficulties.
Through these incidents, I have more connection with my son and I have started to pay attention to his personal development.
My connection with my child has deepened and I started to pay more attention to my own personal development because I need to learn ways to help him.
Now, we are able to communicate with each other better and I also find that I am able to effectively communicate with others as well. My husband’s relationship with my son has also improved greatly.
By having a two way communication between parent and child, this will help to develop a closer bond. The child will feel a sense of belonging and feel safe to express their emotions. This is because they know that they will not be judged. Trust is the most important support for the parent to give to a child, this will form their self-confidence, and build the strength for them to face more challenges in the future.
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I look forward to seeing you in my next episode where I will be sharing with you on FAMILY HARMONY
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