1 00:00:01,034 --> 00:00:04,304 we're good to start, There. 2 00:00:04,838 --> 00:00:05,005 Okay. 3 00:00:05,005 --> 00:00:06,806 The studio is looking really good today. They didn't really. 4 00:00:06,806 --> 00:00:08,008 Nice job here. 5 00:00:08,008 --> 00:00:11,544 Yeah, well, what's good today is I look forward to this each and every week. 6 00:00:11,544 --> 00:00:14,014 I was hanging out with you and, sharing. 7 00:00:14,014 --> 00:00:15,181 And by the way, thank you so much. 8 00:00:15,181 --> 00:00:18,184 In case you're just tuning in, what's good with John and Joyce? 9 00:00:18,351 --> 00:00:20,854 And we focus on silver linings. 10 00:00:20,854 --> 00:00:24,724 What's good we try to stay away from the negativity is so much of it out there 11 00:00:24,724 --> 00:00:25,425 in the real world. 12 00:00:25,425 --> 00:00:28,261 When you listen to this show, exactly. 13 00:00:28,261 --> 00:00:29,829 When you listen to this, watch it. 14 00:00:29,829 --> 00:00:32,098 We just want to focus on positivity. 15 00:00:32,098 --> 00:00:33,266 I know it sounds Kumbaya. 16 00:00:33,266 --> 00:00:36,269 We've said that before, but, you know, it's, I think the world needs it. 17 00:00:36,703 --> 00:00:38,538 That's what I'm hearing from, you know, viewers and listeners. 18 00:00:38,538 --> 00:00:40,740 Anyway. Yeah, I agree. 19 00:00:40,740 --> 00:00:42,375 So thank you. Subscribe on YouTube. 20 00:00:42,375 --> 00:00:45,211 It's free and we're available in all the major platforms. 21 00:00:45,211 --> 00:00:48,848 So I'm John Cadillac Seville from iHeart Radio and John Seville 22 00:00:48,848 --> 00:00:51,851 Entertainment, and Joyce, I'm just Joyce. 23 00:00:51,918 --> 00:00:52,485 No, Joyce. 24 00:00:52,485 --> 00:00:52,986 Come on. 25 00:00:52,986 --> 00:00:55,889 You're you're you're you're a world renowned author. 26 00:00:55,889 --> 00:00:58,591 You're a therapist. You're a supermom. 27 00:00:58,591 --> 00:01:01,594 You're a loyal friend. All that nice. 28 00:01:01,628 --> 00:01:02,495 You're a great baker. 29 00:01:03,630 --> 00:01:06,933 Oh, you know, I'm also a person who found interviews. 30 00:01:07,500 --> 00:01:08,635 I love them, I love them. 31 00:01:08,635 --> 00:01:11,638 I didn't know I had, you know, 32 00:01:12,405 --> 00:01:14,240 they're beautiful. 33 00:01:14,240 --> 00:01:16,543 I know you're very color coordinated. 34 00:01:16,543 --> 00:01:18,278 You know, you always, you know. 35 00:01:18,278 --> 00:01:20,580 Yeah. 36 00:01:20,580 --> 00:01:21,915 Amazing thing this morning 37 00:01:21,915 --> 00:01:25,018 because let's just say even the undergarments are pink. 38 00:01:25,185 --> 00:01:26,052 Yeah. 39 00:01:26,052 --> 00:01:27,387 You know, 40 00:01:27,387 --> 00:01:30,523 interesting about we talked about visuals before when people watch 41 00:01:30,824 --> 00:01:34,661 and the majority of the people I talk to listen more than they 42 00:01:34,661 --> 00:01:39,032 watch and talk about their they're not like yours anymore. 43 00:01:39,065 --> 00:01:41,734 Like, listen to the podcast right then and watch it. 44 00:01:41,734 --> 00:01:44,204 They're usually, you know, on on the treadmill. 45 00:01:44,204 --> 00:01:45,405 They're in the car. 46 00:01:45,405 --> 00:01:48,374 Always curious about where people are viewing from 47 00:01:48,842 --> 00:01:52,645 speak spake Leon Spinks, the old boxer. 48 00:01:52,645 --> 00:01:52,846 Right. 49 00:01:52,846 --> 00:01:56,616 Leon Spinks, she's sparkly shoes. 50 00:01:56,683 --> 00:01:58,418 Yeah. You know where I got them? 51 00:01:59,652 --> 00:02:00,587 Yeah. 52 00:02:00,587 --> 00:02:03,890 There's was an old song back in the day called Pink Shoelaces, which I, we were 53 00:02:03,890 --> 00:02:08,828 talking about author Dodie Stevens, and I haven't said that name in 100 years. 54 00:02:08,828 --> 00:02:11,831 It just came out all right. Right. 55 00:02:11,931 --> 00:02:15,969 Because as radio geeks, we always talk in song titles. 56 00:02:16,336 --> 00:02:18,571 We're up at the radio station, we'll have a conversation, 57 00:02:18,571 --> 00:02:20,807 but we'll use song titles as the conversation. 58 00:02:20,807 --> 00:02:22,909 It's, you know, just inside geek stuff. 59 00:02:22,909 --> 00:02:24,410 Yeah, 60 00:02:24,410 --> 00:02:27,413 I know there's a song coming through my head lately. 61 00:02:28,448 --> 00:02:30,750 Going on in my head, little Anthony. 62 00:02:30,750 --> 00:02:32,552 Oh, let's see. 63 00:02:32,552 --> 00:02:35,488 Oh. You sure you. 64 00:02:35,488 --> 00:02:38,925 But it's not someone I've heard in years 65 00:02:38,958 --> 00:02:41,961 and years, and it's playing in my head. 66 00:02:42,195 --> 00:02:43,796 Jane. Oliver. 67 00:02:43,796 --> 00:02:46,132 Jane. Oliver. I've heard. I've heard of her. 68 00:02:46,132 --> 00:02:46,466 Yeah. 69 00:02:46,466 --> 00:02:51,304 She's a great singer, great vocalist, very unique. 70 00:02:52,038 --> 00:02:55,475 Her songs, it's a little haunting. 71 00:02:57,043 --> 00:03:00,346 A serial affair in a sense. 72 00:03:00,847 --> 00:03:03,583 Not quite anything real, but, you know, different. 73 00:03:03,583 --> 00:03:05,251 Not quite that, 74 00:03:05,251 --> 00:03:07,754 but she's saying I. 75 00:03:07,754 --> 00:03:09,289 Oh, the Rockville rocket. 76 00:03:09,289 --> 00:03:11,157 Connecticut's own Gene Pitney. 77 00:03:11,157 --> 00:03:13,126 Love, love loved him. 78 00:03:13,126 --> 00:03:15,728 Yes. You know he's he's wonderful. 79 00:03:15,728 --> 00:03:19,399 I'm laughing about it because I worked, a couple of shows with them, 80 00:03:19,999 --> 00:03:22,802 and I kept saying to everyone, 81 00:03:22,802 --> 00:03:27,073 I think I'm, I'm never nervous meeting a celebrity. 82 00:03:27,373 --> 00:03:29,008 I just never was. 83 00:03:29,008 --> 00:03:32,011 You know, I get excited, but not nervous. 84 00:03:32,512 --> 00:03:33,780 But I was watching. 85 00:03:33,780 --> 00:03:35,515 I can't tell how many people around me. 86 00:03:35,515 --> 00:03:36,616 He's a legend. 87 00:03:36,616 --> 00:03:37,617 Yes he is. 88 00:03:37,617 --> 00:03:39,752 A lot of the people didn't know who. 89 00:03:39,752 --> 00:03:41,187 Right? 90 00:03:41,187 --> 00:03:41,921 Right. 91 00:03:41,921 --> 00:03:44,390 And I said, you don't know him. 92 00:03:44,390 --> 00:03:45,725 He's from Connecticut. 93 00:03:45,725 --> 00:03:48,962 Yeah. You know, he's he's a legend, right? 94 00:03:49,128 --> 00:03:52,131 So, yeah, that was a that was a fun night. 95 00:03:52,565 --> 00:03:54,567 But the thing with the Jane Oliver's song, 96 00:03:55,635 --> 00:03:58,404 as she's singing his song, 97 00:03:58,404 --> 00:04:02,442 he comes on in the bridge. Wow. 98 00:04:02,775 --> 00:04:07,480 And this song is half head, half heartache. Yes. 99 00:04:07,847 --> 00:04:08,581 Beautiful ballad. 100 00:04:08,581 --> 00:04:11,584 It builds. It builds. 101 00:04:11,818 --> 00:04:13,453 And I had, 102 00:04:13,453 --> 00:04:17,023 I had a really profound feeling. 103 00:04:17,123 --> 00:04:20,059 Listen, boy, this music for you has feelings. 104 00:04:20,059 --> 00:04:20,660 It really does. 105 00:04:20,660 --> 00:04:22,829 And if you're not familiar with Gene Pitney, those of you 106 00:04:22,829 --> 00:04:24,197 watching and listening right now just, 107 00:04:24,197 --> 00:04:28,101 you know, Google and go to Spotify, Pandora, iTunes, check him out. 108 00:04:28,268 --> 00:04:31,037 An amazing voice, a really great talent. 109 00:04:31,037 --> 00:04:31,938 Yeah. 110 00:04:31,938 --> 00:04:32,438 Oh yeah. 111 00:04:32,438 --> 00:04:34,307 That was a movie. A Town Without Pity, too. 112 00:04:34,307 --> 00:04:37,143 And I guess it must have been his vocals, right? 113 00:04:37,143 --> 00:04:38,745 Right. Yeah. 114 00:04:38,745 --> 00:04:43,416 So yeah, that song really got to me and brought out a lot. 115 00:04:43,416 --> 00:04:47,120 And, I you have a lot of grief. Yeah. 116 00:04:49,455 --> 00:04:50,890 You could, you could tell with Joyce music. 117 00:04:50,890 --> 00:04:54,427 So our passion, you know, I mean, just, you know, we we go down that rabbit hole 118 00:04:54,427 --> 00:04:57,430 really quick, you know, you just mention the song and bam, there we go. 119 00:04:57,597 --> 00:04:59,299 Yeah, that you guys do too. 120 00:04:59,299 --> 00:05:01,034 I think everybody does that. 121 00:05:01,034 --> 00:05:01,401 Yeah. 122 00:05:01,401 --> 00:05:06,172 So, anyway, it was I felt it was cathartic in a lot of ways. 123 00:05:06,506 --> 00:05:09,509 I don't know why that song showed up in my mind. 124 00:05:10,109 --> 00:05:12,345 And then I put it on YouTube 125 00:05:12,345 --> 00:05:15,882 and you don't see, you know, the visuals, just the audio. 126 00:05:16,449 --> 00:05:19,519 And I love the bridge. 127 00:05:19,519 --> 00:05:22,989 So have, have and have and one more song I have to mention 128 00:05:22,989 --> 00:05:25,992 Gene Pitney, my all time favorite, Every Breath You Take. 129 00:05:26,259 --> 00:05:28,394 Oh every, every breath you take. 130 00:05:28,394 --> 00:05:32,699 It just goes, you know, it starts off really slow and then it crescendos. 131 00:05:34,400 --> 00:05:35,735 You know, that was that was another song. 132 00:05:35,735 --> 00:05:36,302 That's a good point. 133 00:05:36,302 --> 00:05:39,339 But every breath you take with you right police, Every breath You take, 134 00:05:39,339 --> 00:05:42,342 which was the biggest song of the 1980s. 135 00:05:42,642 --> 00:05:46,346 The number one song in the entire decade, which we play on the River. 136 00:05:46,346 --> 00:05:49,349 1059 she plug it singing 137 00:05:49,415 --> 00:05:52,118 yeah, you know, it's like Barbra Streisand singing people. 138 00:05:52,118 --> 00:05:56,389 The reason why he hates singing that song is because it's. 139 00:05:56,389 --> 00:05:59,392 I mean, what's the stalking song, 140 00:05:59,959 --> 00:06:01,828 right? It's a stalking song. 141 00:06:01,828 --> 00:06:03,262 But I didn't take it as that. 142 00:06:03,262 --> 00:06:06,299 Back when he first recorded I took it. 143 00:06:06,299 --> 00:06:07,467 I was very passionate. 144 00:06:07,467 --> 00:06:08,067 Right? 145 00:06:08,067 --> 00:06:10,703 Like, every step you take, I am watching. 146 00:06:10,703 --> 00:06:12,105 Oh I know, yes, it it. 147 00:06:12,105 --> 00:06:15,074 And it's like a song by the song by R.E.M. 148 00:06:15,074 --> 00:06:17,477 called This Goes Out to the one I love. 149 00:06:17,477 --> 00:06:20,113 A lot of times I meet together, I get together with Brian Rooms 150 00:06:20,113 --> 00:06:22,682 to talk about music because I deejay a lot of weddings 151 00:06:22,682 --> 00:06:23,950 and they'll say, I want that song. 152 00:06:23,950 --> 00:06:26,953 I say, you know, that's really not a love song. 153 00:06:26,953 --> 00:06:29,055 It's a song about, you know, betrayal. 154 00:06:30,123 --> 00:06:30,923 What is this? 155 00:06:30,923 --> 00:06:33,926 This one goes out to the one I love by R.E.M., 156 00:06:34,127 --> 00:06:38,965 one of my favorite bands of the 80s is about betrayal, and people just hear 157 00:06:38,965 --> 00:06:42,568 this goes out to the one I love, like a request, but it's not a love song. 158 00:06:43,770 --> 00:06:45,071 Not a love song at all. 159 00:06:45,071 --> 00:06:46,539 Like every breath you take. You don't want that. 160 00:06:46,539 --> 00:06:48,841 Maybe at the divorce party 161 00:06:48,841 --> 00:06:51,077 you could play that at the wedding. 162 00:06:51,077 --> 00:06:54,080 Because I remember someone telling you that, 163 00:06:55,014 --> 00:06:58,017 I don't think. 164 00:06:58,751 --> 00:07:01,087 Just likes the song. 165 00:07:01,087 --> 00:07:03,990 That's right, that's right. 166 00:07:03,990 --> 00:07:06,793 What are we supposed to be talking about today, anyway? 167 00:07:06,793 --> 00:07:09,028 We lose our train of thought here. 168 00:07:09,028 --> 00:07:10,463 Love talking about music. 169 00:07:10,463 --> 00:07:12,465 Yeah. Me too, me too. 170 00:07:12,465 --> 00:07:14,400 And thank you for playing Billy Squier. 171 00:07:14,400 --> 00:07:15,835 And we're on the radio this morning. 172 00:07:15,835 --> 00:07:17,270 Yes. For you. 173 00:07:17,270 --> 00:07:18,805 Music is Billy Squier. 174 00:07:18,805 --> 00:07:20,873 The Beatles, if you throw that. 175 00:07:20,873 --> 00:07:22,909 Yep, I am. 176 00:07:22,909 --> 00:07:27,046 Yeah, we play a little bit of both on on that on our station to an early Beatles. 177 00:07:27,280 --> 00:07:28,514 Right. 178 00:07:28,514 --> 00:07:28,781 Yeah. 179 00:07:28,781 --> 00:07:32,819 Anyway, anyway, some people have said to me 180 00:07:32,819 --> 00:07:36,422 and I thought this could be a good show topic today that, 181 00:07:37,423 --> 00:07:38,624 you know, choice. 182 00:07:38,624 --> 00:07:41,194 I have tried everything. 183 00:07:41,194 --> 00:07:43,029 I've meditated. 184 00:07:43,029 --> 00:07:47,066 I have all kinds of self-help books and I pray 185 00:07:48,134 --> 00:07:51,037 I don't see any change in my life. 186 00:07:51,037 --> 00:07:54,607 So if, if you dig a little deeper, 187 00:07:55,541 --> 00:07:59,445 I've found that the meditation is not something they do every day. 188 00:07:59,445 --> 00:08:01,814 It's only sporadically. 189 00:08:01,814 --> 00:08:04,984 And I think you can address the prayer part of it. 190 00:08:05,451 --> 00:08:08,054 And maybe the you expect 191 00:08:08,054 --> 00:08:11,057 the answer to come right away, or the exact answer that, 192 00:08:11,624 --> 00:08:15,361 well, Joyce, we live in a world where everybody wants it yesterday, you know, 193 00:08:15,361 --> 00:08:18,798 and so many people think successful people come out of a genie bottle. 194 00:08:19,565 --> 00:08:21,467 You know, all of a sudden they're successful. 195 00:08:21,467 --> 00:08:23,202 They see someone like you, you know, who's done 196 00:08:23,202 --> 00:08:27,106 so many wonderful things, and they watch American Idol, they watch The voice, 197 00:08:27,406 --> 00:08:30,243 and they think all of a sudden these people are up on stage 198 00:08:30,243 --> 00:08:31,611 and they're getting all this, 199 00:08:31,611 --> 00:08:34,914 all these accolades, but they don't realize all the rejection, 200 00:08:35,414 --> 00:08:38,384 all the people who told them they couldn't do it on the way up, 201 00:08:38,751 --> 00:08:42,655 all the clubs they played, all the people that booed them, all the people said, 202 00:08:42,655 --> 00:08:45,791 you coming from a small town and, you know, delight Arkansas. 203 00:08:46,125 --> 00:08:47,827 I mean, who cares about you? 204 00:08:47,827 --> 00:08:49,428 What makes you think you're going to make it? 205 00:08:49,428 --> 00:08:53,266 There's always those negative voices, and most people give up 206 00:08:53,733 --> 00:08:56,736 just when they're in the threshold of making it. 207 00:08:56,802 --> 00:08:59,972 But to address your point about that, they sporadically do 208 00:08:59,972 --> 00:09:02,975 things is something we need to do consistently. 209 00:09:02,975 --> 00:09:04,377 I think the most 210 00:09:04,377 --> 00:09:08,114 I think the greatest trait of anybody successful is consistency. 211 00:09:08,614 --> 00:09:11,851 Show up even when you don't want to go out there 212 00:09:11,851 --> 00:09:14,854 and do the things you don't want to do, even when you don't want to. 213 00:09:15,354 --> 00:09:17,690 And there are so many things I don't want to do many times, 214 00:09:17,690 --> 00:09:20,526 but I get up, I want to go to the gym every day, 215 00:09:20,526 --> 00:09:23,296 but I go to the gym every day because I know it's good for me. 216 00:09:23,296 --> 00:09:26,032 It's good for my insides, it's good for my outsides. 217 00:09:26,032 --> 00:09:29,035 It helps, it makes me feel better about myself. 218 00:09:29,402 --> 00:09:32,104 But so many people, I want to lose 25 pounds, and I want to lose it 219 00:09:32,104 --> 00:09:35,608 because I'm going to be in a wedding in a month, and I got to lose 25. 220 00:09:35,641 --> 00:09:37,610 No, it doesn't work out that way. 221 00:09:37,610 --> 00:09:39,345 You have to take time. You. 222 00:09:39,345 --> 00:09:40,212 It's discipline. 223 00:09:40,212 --> 00:09:41,747 It's plodding along. 224 00:09:41,747 --> 00:09:45,117 It's very unsexy to be successful. 225 00:09:45,685 --> 00:09:48,154 And that's why, unfortunately, they talk 226 00:09:48,154 --> 00:09:52,024 about the 95 percentiles or the 5% to 5% of the people, 227 00:09:52,058 --> 00:09:55,061 the ones 95% of the people who work for 5% of the other people, 228 00:09:55,528 --> 00:09:58,598 because 5% of the people go out there and they just they hit it. 229 00:09:59,131 --> 00:10:00,166 Yeah, yeah. 230 00:10:00,166 --> 00:10:03,069 I just put I would just say be disciplined, too 231 00:10:03,069 --> 00:10:04,270 consistent and disciplined. 232 00:10:04,270 --> 00:10:07,106 And I fall short all the time. We're human. 233 00:10:07,106 --> 00:10:10,543 There are so many times where it's like, oh, I wish it would happen quicker, but 234 00:10:11,510 --> 00:10:12,411 doesn't, you know, 235 00:10:12,411 --> 00:10:15,948 things tend to happen when you are out there out and about. 236 00:10:16,282 --> 00:10:21,487 And I remember my mother's heart after a wonderful, wonderful man. 237 00:10:21,554 --> 00:10:23,122 Doctor solution. 238 00:10:23,122 --> 00:10:24,857 Doctor fresh, 239 00:10:24,857 --> 00:10:27,860 Bruce Barouch I think sure. 240 00:10:29,528 --> 00:10:30,463 Yeah. 241 00:10:30,463 --> 00:10:31,964 Oh, I'm not man. 242 00:10:31,964 --> 00:10:36,335 And he said to me one day when people go to visit, 243 00:10:36,335 --> 00:10:39,338 even if you're going to McDonald's or you go to a bank, 244 00:10:39,739 --> 00:10:45,478 you don't drive through, get out of the car, engage with people. 245 00:10:45,745 --> 00:10:47,847 That's what helps your heart. 246 00:10:47,847 --> 00:10:50,249 And and improves your life. 247 00:10:50,249 --> 00:10:55,821 It not only are you walking right but you're actually speaking to someone. 248 00:10:55,821 --> 00:11:00,593 You may see someone in there that you know and you do that all the time. John 249 00:11:00,993 --> 00:11:05,197 I know we are out and you are engaging with people and having conversations. 250 00:11:05,865 --> 00:11:09,135 So when somebody prays and let's say you're praying, 251 00:11:10,636 --> 00:11:13,172 for their business or whatever, 252 00:11:13,172 --> 00:11:16,409 but if you if you stay in a small little area 253 00:11:16,909 --> 00:11:19,812 and you don't get out and express that to someone else 254 00:11:19,812 --> 00:11:22,815 when they say, I have an idea, right, 255 00:11:23,249 --> 00:11:26,719 I've got a friend or I've got and, whatever. 256 00:11:26,719 --> 00:11:29,655 In fact, I heard someone speaking yesterday, 257 00:11:29,655 --> 00:11:32,358 when they lived in L.A. 258 00:11:32,358 --> 00:11:34,894 They never interacted with people 259 00:11:34,894 --> 00:11:37,663 because you're driving your car all the time. 260 00:11:37,663 --> 00:11:42,301 But when they moved to New York, they started going out to a Broadway 261 00:11:42,301 --> 00:11:46,872 play and having dinner and having coffee, because you can do it by yourself. 262 00:11:47,239 --> 00:11:50,142 But eventually they met a lot of people. 263 00:11:50,142 --> 00:11:54,714 Sure that so I do think that getting back 264 00:11:54,714 --> 00:11:57,917 to the original question, so people had 265 00:11:59,085 --> 00:12:02,855 is what you said, first of all, don't give up. 266 00:12:03,856 --> 00:12:07,126 And maybe not all 267 00:12:07,126 --> 00:12:10,963 players are the answer the way you want them to be. 268 00:12:11,263 --> 00:12:14,266 Well, Garth Brooks had a song unanswered Prayers. 269 00:12:15,034 --> 00:12:18,037 I thank God for unanswered prayers 270 00:12:18,471 --> 00:12:20,072 because God am I. 271 00:12:20,072 --> 00:12:23,075 You know, the God universe, whatever you call it, I call it God. 272 00:12:23,776 --> 00:12:26,412 God knows best. He knows what's best for us. 273 00:12:26,412 --> 00:12:27,646 And many, many times 274 00:12:27,646 --> 00:12:30,750 things don't happen at that time because it's not the right time. 275 00:12:31,183 --> 00:12:33,686 If something happened at that time you tried to force it, 276 00:12:33,686 --> 00:12:36,989 it would be more of a burden than a blessing. So. 277 00:12:37,156 --> 00:12:40,760 So we everything we've heard that time that's saying everything happens 278 00:12:40,760 --> 00:12:41,627 in God's timing, right? 279 00:12:41,627 --> 00:12:44,263 Timing is everything, even from a secular standpoint. 280 00:12:44,263 --> 00:12:46,398 If you want to put God in the equation. 281 00:12:46,398 --> 00:12:49,401 But too many times we force things in our own time 282 00:12:49,735 --> 00:12:52,505 and it ends up, you know, not being exactly. 283 00:12:52,505 --> 00:12:55,407 And I think our maker wants the best for us. 284 00:12:55,407 --> 00:12:58,244 So we just have to be patient. Patient. 285 00:12:58,244 --> 00:13:02,381 And it's not easy, but just go out there and be the best where you are now. 286 00:13:03,015 --> 00:13:06,152 If you don't like the job you're in now, be grateful for that job. 287 00:13:06,418 --> 00:13:07,820 Be the best person I don't like. 288 00:13:07,820 --> 00:13:10,422 You know, bagging up groceries at, at a grocery store. 289 00:13:10,422 --> 00:13:13,392 Well, be the best friggin bagger ever. 290 00:13:13,592 --> 00:13:15,661 Yeah, and talk to people. 291 00:13:15,661 --> 00:13:18,130 Look them in the eye. How is your day? 292 00:13:18,130 --> 00:13:18,564 You know? 293 00:13:18,564 --> 00:13:20,533 And can I help you with this, this and that? 294 00:13:20,533 --> 00:13:23,502 And then you engage, like you said, in conversation, 295 00:13:23,636 --> 00:13:26,505 and then eventually that person might say, you're really good at what you do. 296 00:13:26,505 --> 00:13:29,175 What's your long term goal? What would you like to do? 297 00:13:29,175 --> 00:13:30,810 Well, I like to do so and so well. 298 00:13:30,810 --> 00:13:32,444 I just happen to know a person 299 00:13:33,746 --> 00:13:36,749 to address your point, engaging a conversation. 300 00:13:36,849 --> 00:13:39,852 And everybody knows somebody who knows somebody who knows somebody. 301 00:13:40,452 --> 00:13:42,087 So put it out in the universe. 302 00:13:42,087 --> 00:13:43,889 So right. 303 00:13:43,889 --> 00:13:44,924 Yeah. 304 00:13:44,924 --> 00:13:47,927 I have a habit of speaking with cashiers. 305 00:13:48,227 --> 00:13:51,230 I love cashiers, I don't hold, 306 00:13:53,199 --> 00:13:54,133 right. 307 00:13:54,133 --> 00:13:56,802 But, yeah, I love speaking especially 308 00:13:56,802 --> 00:14:01,674 to young people and who don't seem very friendly. 309 00:14:01,674 --> 00:14:06,345 And I've met a few of them, and I just asked a person 310 00:14:06,345 --> 00:14:10,516 so what's your so what's your what's your goal like? 311 00:14:10,516 --> 00:14:11,584 What do you love doing? 312 00:14:11,584 --> 00:14:13,285 I love I love the way you say that. 313 00:14:13,285 --> 00:14:14,687 I love it. 314 00:14:14,687 --> 00:14:16,455 Yes you do. 315 00:14:16,455 --> 00:14:19,458 That's a gift you have to sing. 316 00:14:19,625 --> 00:14:22,061 So now every time she sees me, she waves. 317 00:14:22,061 --> 00:14:23,495 Yeah. Isn't that great? 318 00:14:23,495 --> 00:14:24,029 Yeah. 319 00:14:24,029 --> 00:14:25,598 It's like the gym I go to. 320 00:14:25,598 --> 00:14:29,068 And I see a couple of these guys behind the counter, and it's boring for them. 321 00:14:29,068 --> 00:14:30,469 They're just standing there and. 322 00:14:30,469 --> 00:14:32,872 And it's like they're there for eight hours shifts. 323 00:14:32,872 --> 00:14:36,041 And every time I walk in there, I always say hi to them, call them by name 324 00:14:36,041 --> 00:14:39,345 because people love to hear their names saying, I really appreciate you guys. 325 00:14:39,345 --> 00:14:41,580 You know, you're always so friendly when people walk in. 326 00:14:41,580 --> 00:14:43,082 I like the way I notice from a distance. 327 00:14:43,082 --> 00:14:45,684 The other day, the way you talk to that elderly person. 328 00:14:45,684 --> 00:14:47,319 I thought that was really nice. 329 00:14:47,319 --> 00:14:49,555 And then I'll kind of lean into him and say, so what's your like? 330 00:14:49,555 --> 00:14:51,657 You said, what's your long term goal? 331 00:14:51,657 --> 00:14:54,793 I guarantee you that when you asked them and I asked them, 332 00:14:54,793 --> 00:14:57,963 were were among the very few that ever asked him. 333 00:14:58,163 --> 00:14:59,832 So what's your long term goal? 334 00:14:59,832 --> 00:15:02,034 What do you want to do with your life? 335 00:15:02,034 --> 00:15:05,271 Because I think most people, especially I hear 336 00:15:05,838 --> 00:15:09,041 what you're hearing is you're complaining about the price. 337 00:15:09,141 --> 00:15:11,443 Yes, I understand that. 338 00:15:11,443 --> 00:15:13,779 But the cashier can't now, therefore. 339 00:15:13,779 --> 00:15:16,248 So you just stirring up the pot of negativity. 340 00:15:16,248 --> 00:15:17,883 Which brings me back to 341 00:15:19,051 --> 00:15:20,452 why you 342 00:15:20,452 --> 00:15:23,889 feel you're doing everything and nothing is happening, 343 00:15:24,356 --> 00:15:27,359 so you can't do short term 344 00:15:27,893 --> 00:15:30,896 prayer thinking positive, positive. 345 00:15:31,363 --> 00:15:34,366 It's the moment you wake up 346 00:15:34,400 --> 00:15:36,835 to walking down the street, 347 00:15:36,835 --> 00:15:39,505 engaging with people. 348 00:15:39,505 --> 00:15:40,572 Don't engage. 349 00:15:40,572 --> 00:15:43,542 And, this. 350 00:15:44,443 --> 00:15:46,011 You know, the prices are high. 351 00:15:46,011 --> 00:15:48,047 Politics and blah blah. 352 00:15:48,047 --> 00:15:50,482 Don't even engage in that because 353 00:15:50,482 --> 00:15:53,953 then it robs you of that precious mind. 354 00:15:54,186 --> 00:15:55,154 That's right. 355 00:15:55,154 --> 00:15:58,157 That energy is not there. 356 00:15:58,290 --> 00:16:01,427 You can't connect where you want to be. 357 00:16:01,994 --> 00:16:04,964 It's like energy attracts like. 358 00:16:05,297 --> 00:16:07,766 That's right. That's why it's for feather. 359 00:16:07,766 --> 00:16:09,969 Flock together, get rich to forage. 360 00:16:09,969 --> 00:16:10,769 Important. 361 00:16:10,769 --> 00:16:13,806 All those things are true for what's good for the goose 362 00:16:13,806 --> 00:16:16,809 is good for the gander. 363 00:16:16,909 --> 00:16:18,477 I don't know why I threw that in there. 364 00:16:18,477 --> 00:16:19,845 I heard somebody say that the other day. 365 00:16:19,845 --> 00:16:21,981 I was like, whoa, I have to use that somewhere. 366 00:16:21,981 --> 00:16:23,215 You gave me an invoice, 367 00:16:24,683 --> 00:16:26,151 and I'm trying to think 368 00:16:26,151 --> 00:16:29,154 it so I feel like that. 369 00:16:31,023 --> 00:16:32,691 But but it is being, you know, 370 00:16:32,691 --> 00:16:34,994 consistent, being disciplined, putting yourself out there. 371 00:16:34,994 --> 00:16:36,996 I love that to do. 372 00:16:36,996 --> 00:16:41,700 Maybe initially it feels that way, but the more you do it, the easier it becomes. 373 00:16:42,434 --> 00:16:44,837 And then what happens is 374 00:16:44,837 --> 00:16:49,641 then you feel that negative energy from other people 375 00:16:49,875 --> 00:16:52,811 and you think, oh, I'm stepping away, right? 376 00:16:52,811 --> 00:16:53,445 Right. 377 00:16:53,445 --> 00:16:56,915 And you maybe forgot that you were one of them, 378 00:16:57,649 --> 00:17:00,085 and now you're somebody different, 379 00:17:00,085 --> 00:17:03,956 and you like that feeling, you like this feeling of saying 380 00:17:04,356 --> 00:17:07,526 instead of saying like, why is this happening? 381 00:17:07,526 --> 00:17:11,497 Just to say, you know what, it may be raining, 382 00:17:11,497 --> 00:17:13,866 but you know, we need the rain. 383 00:17:13,866 --> 00:17:15,434 It's good for the earth. 384 00:17:15,434 --> 00:17:16,702 Yes, there could be flooding. 385 00:17:16,702 --> 00:17:18,103 There's always been flooding. 386 00:17:18,103 --> 00:17:21,073 Isn't it great that we have people who are helpers? 387 00:17:21,540 --> 00:17:24,076 There's so many ways to turn terrible things around. 388 00:17:24,076 --> 00:17:28,280 Tornadoes that have wrecked and and killed people. 389 00:17:28,547 --> 00:17:31,550 I mean that has always taken place for sure. 390 00:17:31,717 --> 00:17:35,954 But you can't sit there and just dwell on that. 391 00:17:36,522 --> 00:17:39,525 You can think about cleaning helpers, 392 00:17:39,558 --> 00:17:42,895 you can think about the great caring people 393 00:17:42,895 --> 00:17:46,331 you know, you hope will be building homes and and all of that. 394 00:17:47,066 --> 00:17:51,203 But, and then that will get you started on we shouldn't be knowing the news. 395 00:17:51,703 --> 00:17:54,039 Oh, no, no, no, don't do it. 396 00:17:54,039 --> 00:17:55,741 I'll check you in 20 minutes. 397 00:17:55,741 --> 00:17:57,876 During the course of the day. It's all run on loop. 398 00:17:57,876 --> 00:17:58,544 It's right on loop. 399 00:17:58,544 --> 00:18:00,312 No too much negativity. 400 00:18:00,312 --> 00:18:03,148 Community. Community based. 401 00:18:03,148 --> 00:18:05,417 You know what's going on in your home, right? 402 00:18:05,417 --> 00:18:07,086 How can you help out? 403 00:18:07,086 --> 00:18:10,089 We can't. It's impossible to help everyone. 404 00:18:10,189 --> 00:18:13,959 You can send a general prayer out every night, which I do 405 00:18:14,293 --> 00:18:15,160 for the whole world. 406 00:18:15,160 --> 00:18:18,163 Healing for every leader of the world 407 00:18:18,897 --> 00:18:21,600 to be helpful and let it go. 408 00:18:21,600 --> 00:18:24,103 Right? You know, that could be your part. 409 00:18:24,103 --> 00:18:28,173 If you want to send money to the Red Cross Salvation Army, God bless you. 410 00:18:28,207 --> 00:18:29,308 Do that. 411 00:18:29,308 --> 00:18:33,045 You know, if that makes you feel good, if it makes you feel better, 412 00:18:33,212 --> 00:18:34,213 put it out into the universe. 413 00:18:34,213 --> 00:18:35,948 At the end of the day, just pray, pray, pray. 414 00:18:35,948 --> 00:18:37,116 And then you're like this. 415 00:18:37,116 --> 00:18:39,985 I'm doing my best and you take care of the rest. 416 00:18:39,985 --> 00:18:42,821 What if a guy with a big, you know, enjoy your life? 417 00:18:42,821 --> 00:18:44,690 Exactly. Right? Right. 418 00:18:44,690 --> 00:18:48,760 But but you're it's so easy to get baited in the negativity. 419 00:18:48,760 --> 00:18:50,562 People do it all the time, right? 420 00:18:50,562 --> 00:18:53,398 The bait and, you know, click bait that. 421 00:18:53,398 --> 00:18:58,036 Oh, I can't believe you're putting out all that little sake. 422 00:18:58,103 --> 00:18:59,705 Rest in peace. 423 00:18:59,705 --> 00:19:02,441 And it's someone famous, right? 424 00:19:02,441 --> 00:19:05,310 You know, they're not dead. I mean, why why? 425 00:19:05,310 --> 00:19:09,114 Oh, she died or he died and it's like, no. 426 00:19:09,181 --> 00:19:09,648 Yeah. 427 00:19:09,648 --> 00:19:13,152 I just want you to click on the news of my death has been greatly exaggerated. 428 00:19:13,385 --> 00:19:16,155 Connecticut's own Mark Twain said that, didn't he? 429 00:19:16,155 --> 00:19:19,424 Who? Hey, back in the day, Mark Twain and I were good 430 00:19:19,424 --> 00:19:20,893 buddies, hanging out on the river. 431 00:19:21,960 --> 00:19:24,963 Well. 432 00:19:30,135 --> 00:19:33,138 You're. 433 00:19:34,273 --> 00:19:37,209 I'm not sure if that's a good thing or bad thing is, it depends on who you talk to. 434 00:19:37,209 --> 00:19:40,179 Your Joyce. My goodness. 435 00:19:40,179 --> 00:19:41,013 Right. 436 00:19:41,013 --> 00:19:42,614 But the whole thing is just, you know, be patient. 437 00:19:42,614 --> 00:19:44,383 It's really hard because. 438 00:19:44,383 --> 00:19:46,618 Because we want we want things now. 439 00:19:46,618 --> 00:19:48,086 We see so many people around us. 440 00:19:48,086 --> 00:19:52,424 We base our well-being on likes on social media, 441 00:19:52,958 --> 00:19:54,927 or somebody else is doing something really well. 442 00:19:54,927 --> 00:19:59,398 You people have a tendency sometimes, you know, to get a little envious or jealous. 443 00:19:59,498 --> 00:20:02,501 Remember, there's enough success to go around for all of us. 444 00:20:02,534 --> 00:20:06,572 So I rather cheer for people and it's a good feeling to cheer them. 445 00:20:06,772 --> 00:20:08,707 No, you don't know their story. 446 00:20:08,707 --> 00:20:11,710 They just pop like I said it and just all of a sudden become successful. 447 00:20:11,743 --> 00:20:14,179 But cheer them on and you feel better about yourself 448 00:20:14,179 --> 00:20:16,215 rather than trying to knock people down. 449 00:20:16,215 --> 00:20:18,850 Knock people down. And we know people like that. 450 00:20:18,850 --> 00:20:20,752 Oh, no, they probably know somebody. 451 00:20:20,752 --> 00:20:23,188 Oh, they oh, they probably had plastic surgery. 452 00:20:23,188 --> 00:20:26,158 You know, there's right 453 00:20:26,158 --> 00:20:30,162 they want to rock, but they want of or somebody works out really hard. 454 00:20:30,162 --> 00:20:32,464 Well, they're probably just genetics. They were born that way. 455 00:20:32,464 --> 00:20:36,101 No, I mean celebrate people's hard work, celebrate them. 456 00:20:36,368 --> 00:20:37,603 Right? Right. 457 00:20:37,603 --> 00:20:38,570 It makes a big difference. 458 00:20:38,570 --> 00:20:41,240 It does. And when you compliment that person, you probably made their day. 459 00:20:42,407 --> 00:20:45,410 If you see somebody who's done very, very well, compliment them. 460 00:20:45,677 --> 00:20:48,547 I'm very big on that energy flow. 461 00:20:48,547 --> 00:20:50,649 Yeah, you do that, it bounces back. 462 00:20:50,649 --> 00:20:51,850 It does. 463 00:20:51,850 --> 00:20:52,284 Yeah. 464 00:20:52,284 --> 00:20:55,287 Like a rubber ball puncture or boomerang. 465 00:20:55,420 --> 00:20:56,188 Like a boom. 466 00:20:56,188 --> 00:20:59,191 Like a boomerang out that echo. 467 00:20:59,191 --> 00:20:59,958 Oh. Like in the mount. 468 00:20:59,958 --> 00:21:02,961 Echo echo echo echo 469 00:21:03,595 --> 00:21:05,998 you everybody I fired up today. 470 00:21:05,998 --> 00:21:08,133 Joyce Farnam is fired up. 471 00:21:08,133 --> 00:21:12,237 You know, my my wife said it's a good thing that you don't do drugs. 472 00:21:12,237 --> 00:21:13,238 Drink. 473 00:21:13,238 --> 00:21:13,672 All right, 474 00:21:13,672 --> 00:21:18,010 then you know, never have, you know, but, I guess you can count coffee as a drug. 475 00:21:18,043 --> 00:21:18,310 You can't. 476 00:21:18,310 --> 00:21:21,446 You technically, caffeine is that good because there a 477 00:21:22,414 --> 00:21:25,417 I guess my grandson calls my Snapple a, 478 00:21:29,154 --> 00:21:30,489 Right, right. 479 00:21:30,489 --> 00:21:31,290 Yeah. 480 00:21:31,290 --> 00:21:32,724 But what's your favorite drug? 481 00:21:32,724 --> 00:21:33,959 Love is a drug. 482 00:21:33,959 --> 00:21:36,194 Like the old song by Roxy Music. 483 00:21:36,194 --> 00:21:38,263 Love is a drug that I'm thinking of. 484 00:21:38,263 --> 00:21:39,998 Okay, so that one that 485 00:21:41,266 --> 00:21:42,134 music. 486 00:21:42,134 --> 00:21:43,168 Yeah. We were playing that song. 487 00:21:43,168 --> 00:21:46,171 A player back in the day when you and I were there together. 488 00:21:47,172 --> 00:21:47,973 Love is a drug. 489 00:21:47,973 --> 00:21:50,108 There's another one you can look up out there. 490 00:21:50,108 --> 00:21:52,344 Yeah. No. 491 00:21:52,344 --> 00:21:54,246 Well I mean I apologize. 492 00:21:54,246 --> 00:21:57,249 Everybody's watching and listening today because I'm all over the friggin map. 493 00:21:57,749 --> 00:22:00,485 I'm like you know squirrel duh duh duh duh. 494 00:22:00,485 --> 00:22:03,255 So my wife says, can you focus on one thing? 495 00:22:03,255 --> 00:22:04,990 You know, it's 496 00:22:04,990 --> 00:22:07,559 yes, you can, focus on the positive. 497 00:22:07,559 --> 00:22:09,861 Yeah. That's right. Yeah. 498 00:22:09,861 --> 00:22:12,864 So what we say to people who say 499 00:22:13,465 --> 00:22:16,468 that they're going through a real tough time and, 500 00:22:16,702 --> 00:22:20,305 they can't seem to get to that, I think. 501 00:22:20,305 --> 00:22:22,207 I think we should just empathize with them. 502 00:22:22,207 --> 00:22:24,743 The last thing people want to do is be judged 503 00:22:24,743 --> 00:22:26,678 and this and that, say, listen, I know how you feel. 504 00:22:26,678 --> 00:22:28,246 I felt the same way. 505 00:22:28,246 --> 00:22:30,515 And I still do feel the same way at times. 506 00:22:30,515 --> 00:22:32,784 But you just keep doing what you're doing. 507 00:22:32,784 --> 00:22:35,087 If it feels right in your heart and it's something 508 00:22:35,087 --> 00:22:38,290 you really want to go for and do it, you keep firing away and doing it. 509 00:22:38,590 --> 00:22:41,159 B b bloom where you're planted. 510 00:22:41,159 --> 00:22:42,160 When were you planted? Right now. 511 00:22:42,160 --> 00:22:43,895 And even if it's not where you want to be 512 00:22:43,895 --> 00:22:46,898 and be grateful for that because gratitude is riches 513 00:22:46,998 --> 00:22:48,300 and the more grateful you are, 514 00:22:48,300 --> 00:22:50,469 the more good things are going to happen in your life. 515 00:22:50,469 --> 00:22:52,204 I found that in my life. 516 00:22:52,204 --> 00:22:55,073 But you know, let's face it, I mean, it's not all Pollyanna here. 517 00:22:55,073 --> 00:22:58,410 There are days when I'm frustrated and I'm sure you are. 518 00:22:58,410 --> 00:23:00,479 It's like, I wish something would happen quicker than this. 519 00:23:00,479 --> 00:23:03,014 Or oh, man, I didn't see that coming. 520 00:23:03,014 --> 00:23:05,751 Because, I mean, life throws your curveballs all the time, 521 00:23:05,751 --> 00:23:08,387 but it's all about how you respond to it, you know? 522 00:23:08,387 --> 00:23:11,390 I mean, everybody watching and listening right now, you know, it's 523 00:23:11,857 --> 00:23:14,326 we were never promised a free ride in this world. 524 00:23:14,326 --> 00:23:17,729 You know, our maker said that, you know, you will have trouble, but 525 00:23:17,929 --> 00:23:18,997 I will always be with you. 526 00:23:18,997 --> 00:23:23,068 And there's always there's always an escape hatch somewhere, or, 527 00:23:23,568 --> 00:23:26,571 you know, whether we take it or not, that's up to us. 528 00:23:26,772 --> 00:23:30,575 And what I've learned during my darkest times in life, 529 00:23:30,575 --> 00:23:35,614 and there have been many and that's where the richness is. 530 00:23:36,248 --> 00:23:41,520 And I've learned to be quiet during those times, not complaining and just 531 00:23:42,521 --> 00:23:45,724 going inward as to why this is happening, 532 00:23:46,124 --> 00:23:49,361 whether it's an illness I've been through or death. 533 00:23:51,163 --> 00:23:54,833 It's just a time to get quiet. 534 00:23:55,700 --> 00:23:58,703 And however you do that, whether it's in prayer 535 00:23:58,703 --> 00:24:02,240 or reading or watching a movie, maybe crying, 536 00:24:02,774 --> 00:24:05,777 even just, 537 00:24:05,811 --> 00:24:08,814 there's there's a reason for that. 538 00:24:09,548 --> 00:24:12,484 And that's where, 539 00:24:12,484 --> 00:24:16,888 I think like these deep faith it 540 00:24:17,489 --> 00:24:22,093 if even if faith could be a lot of things, it doesn't have to be, you know, 541 00:24:23,028 --> 00:24:25,831 a belief in anything except, 542 00:24:25,831 --> 00:24:28,233 things will get better. 543 00:24:28,233 --> 00:24:30,936 Stays dark for ever. 544 00:24:30,936 --> 00:24:33,338 Even people who've gone through. 545 00:24:33,338 --> 00:24:36,341 I think the worst tragedy is losing a child. 546 00:24:37,008 --> 00:24:40,512 Many of them rise up and start 547 00:24:40,712 --> 00:24:44,983 foundations and charities or they support others 548 00:24:45,417 --> 00:24:50,355 and they take that painting and they use it for good adversity. 549 00:24:50,355 --> 00:24:52,991 They take adversity and use it into an opportunity. 550 00:24:52,991 --> 00:24:55,694 And then they, then they can bless other people. 551 00:24:55,694 --> 00:24:59,498 So when somebody else goes that through that horrible situation, 552 00:24:59,798 --> 00:25:02,968 they can pat their shoulder or give em a hug and say, listen, I know how you feel. 553 00:25:03,201 --> 00:25:04,369 I've been there and look. 554 00:25:04,369 --> 00:25:07,639 And if you're in a really good place, I came out pretty good 555 00:25:08,507 --> 00:25:11,877 because they say that every setback is really a setup for something better. 556 00:25:12,511 --> 00:25:12,744 You know? 557 00:25:12,744 --> 00:25:15,680 Regardless, you may not see that when you're going through a tragedy you lost. 558 00:25:15,680 --> 00:25:18,617 I mean, no parent wants to outlive their kids. 559 00:25:18,617 --> 00:25:20,352 I never had kids of my own. 560 00:25:20,352 --> 00:25:22,153 I have a beautiful stepdaughter. 561 00:25:22,153 --> 00:25:24,022 But I have lost a spouse. 562 00:25:24,022 --> 00:25:25,924 I know you've lost a spouse. 563 00:25:25,924 --> 00:25:28,460 But. So we know what pains like. 564 00:25:28,460 --> 00:25:32,130 But everybody watching and listening right now is not exempt from that. 565 00:25:32,564 --> 00:25:34,366 If you haven't gone through that pain, you will, 566 00:25:36,635 --> 00:25:37,168 if you live, 567 00:25:37,168 --> 00:25:40,171 if you're lucky enough to live long enough, 568 00:25:40,205 --> 00:25:42,574 the downside is someone's gonna die. 569 00:25:42,574 --> 00:25:43,141 Exactly. 570 00:25:43,141 --> 00:25:46,545 And I celebrate every wrinkle, every this and that. 571 00:25:46,578 --> 00:25:48,780 Because it means that I'm still alive. 572 00:25:48,780 --> 00:25:49,681 That I'm still made it. 573 00:25:49,681 --> 00:25:51,216 I'm still up today. 574 00:25:51,216 --> 00:25:53,218 Yeah, yeah, I'm just like that. 575 00:25:53,218 --> 00:25:56,221 Then I have days like, I'm getting, 576 00:25:56,788 --> 00:25:57,923 Yeah. We all feel that way. 577 00:25:57,923 --> 00:25:59,324 I feel them. 578 00:25:59,324 --> 00:26:00,158 Yeah, yeah. 579 00:26:00,158 --> 00:26:05,497 So I would say take a deep breath, relax your shoulders. 580 00:26:05,497 --> 00:26:07,265 You remember every day. 581 00:26:07,265 --> 00:26:09,801 And I have to remember you should do those breathing exercises. 582 00:26:09,801 --> 00:26:11,636 The end of these podcasts every now and then. 583 00:26:11,636 --> 00:26:13,872 Breathing or the body exercises. 584 00:26:13,872 --> 00:26:15,473 You belly breath. 585 00:26:15,473 --> 00:26:19,578 Think like yourself, like a Raggedy Ann doll sitting in a chair. 586 00:26:20,111 --> 00:26:23,114 And that relaxes all your muscles because you'll be surprised. 587 00:26:23,181 --> 00:26:24,849 I am surprised to 588 00:26:24,849 --> 00:26:28,286 how many times during the day my shoulders start creeping up to me. You, 589 00:26:29,621 --> 00:26:32,624 know, and it's not because you're trying to do trap exercises either. 590 00:26:32,724 --> 00:26:35,093 Ha! Hahaha. 591 00:26:35,093 --> 00:26:35,994 Right. 592 00:26:35,994 --> 00:26:40,498 Just, just relax your shoulders, take a deep breath, and know that this too 593 00:26:40,498 --> 00:26:41,232 shall pass. 594 00:26:41,232 --> 00:26:41,833 Yeah. 595 00:26:41,833 --> 00:26:45,437 You know, I mean, I was working in a restaurant years ago. 596 00:26:46,037 --> 00:26:46,771 Oh my gosh. 597 00:26:46,771 --> 00:26:51,042 And the summers were really like chicken, especially down along the shoreline. 598 00:26:51,343 --> 00:26:55,013 And we were working so hard and the owner, 599 00:26:55,547 --> 00:26:58,550 was very Zen like a wonderful person. 600 00:26:58,984 --> 00:27:01,853 And she said, remember, Joy, 601 00:27:01,853 --> 00:27:06,191 you can't stop time soon in the evening and you'll be home 602 00:27:06,691 --> 00:27:09,694 and you'll be in your bed, and this will be over, 603 00:27:11,863 --> 00:27:14,866 from this period, a lot of wisdom there. 604 00:27:14,866 --> 00:27:16,534 I forget her saying, yeah. 605 00:27:16,534 --> 00:27:19,537 So when I feel like I'm having a rough day, 606 00:27:19,604 --> 00:27:22,107 I then think about this day with so many. 607 00:27:22,107 --> 00:27:23,074 Right. 608 00:27:23,074 --> 00:27:25,543 And I would have made it through. Yeah. 609 00:27:25,543 --> 00:27:27,912 And it depends how I want to make it through. 610 00:27:27,912 --> 00:27:29,447 And those are the days you really look forward. 611 00:27:29,447 --> 00:27:32,417 You look at that bed and it looks so good. You do. 612 00:27:32,417 --> 00:27:35,120 You just get in that bed and you kind of put the pillow. 613 00:27:35,120 --> 00:27:37,422 I mean, laying the pillow, put the blankets over your head 614 00:27:37,422 --> 00:27:39,591 if you want, and then you wake up the next day. 615 00:27:39,591 --> 00:27:42,594 And if it's a rainy day, the sun still shining. 616 00:27:43,028 --> 00:27:44,396 Yeah. The sun's still shining. 617 00:27:44,396 --> 00:27:46,064 We just don't see it at that point. 618 00:27:46,064 --> 00:27:47,932 Know all the time that someone complains. 619 00:27:47,932 --> 00:27:52,404 If you see those clouds above that sunshine, you look right. 620 00:27:52,537 --> 00:27:53,905 Absolutely. 621 00:27:53,905 --> 00:27:58,977 And we thank you so, so much for tuning in and listening again, watching, 622 00:27:59,344 --> 00:27:59,978 you know, our show. 623 00:27:59,978 --> 00:28:00,945 What's up with John and Joyce? 624 00:28:00,945 --> 00:28:04,215 Please share it with somebody you think that really needs, you know, pick me up. 625 00:28:04,482 --> 00:28:06,551 It seems like so many people need that nowadays. 626 00:28:06,551 --> 00:28:10,155 And a lot of anger, a lot of divisiveness, a lot of pain in the world nowadays. 627 00:28:10,155 --> 00:28:13,158 So we just fuel for 30 minutes each week you can come here 628 00:28:13,525 --> 00:28:16,661 and, and get away from that and share those with somebody. 629 00:28:16,661 --> 00:28:17,896 Subscribe for free on YouTube. 630 00:28:17,896 --> 00:28:20,565 But we're available in all major streaming platforms. 631 00:28:20,565 --> 00:28:22,634 And Joyce, as always, is a pleasure 632 00:28:22,634 --> 00:28:24,703 hanging out with you and I pray for you and your family 633 00:28:25,770 --> 00:28:28,306 and you know, and your families too. 634 00:28:28,306 --> 00:28:29,207 Yeah. 635 00:28:29,207 --> 00:28:31,910 Till next time. Bye. 636 00:28:31,910 --> 00:28:32,510 Bye bye.