1 01:00:01,250 --> 01:00:02,000 Good morning. 2 01:00:03,958 --> 01:00:06,041 And welcome to morning cereal 3 01:00:12,541 --> 01:00:13,458 Okay, good morning 4 01:00:13,458 --> 01:00:14,750 and welcome to Thursday. 5 01:00:15,500 --> 01:00:17,041 And good news if you haven't left for 6 01:00:17,041 --> 01:00:18,250 work today or if you 7 01:00:18,250 --> 01:00:19,333 haven't logged in yet. 8 01:00:19,625 --> 01:00:20,541 Today is national. 9 01:00:21,041 --> 01:00:22,875 Don't go to work unless it's fun day. 10 01:00:23,416 --> 01:00:25,750 Sounds great, but my grandmother would 11 01:00:25,750 --> 01:00:26,791 never let me hear the 12 01:00:26,791 --> 01:00:28,125 end of it if I skipped out 13 01:00:28,125 --> 01:00:28,541 our work. 14 01:00:29,208 --> 01:00:29,958 So I guess we'll just 15 01:00:29,958 --> 01:00:31,500 have to make work fun today. 16 01:00:32,125 --> 01:00:34,416 Well, it's also national find a rainbow 17 01:00:34,416 --> 01:00:35,916 day and we've got some 18 01:00:35,916 --> 01:00:36,958 rain in the area today 19 01:00:36,958 --> 01:00:38,541 so I might actually be able to 20 01:00:38,541 --> 01:00:40,166 participate in finding a rainbow today. 21 01:00:41,125 --> 01:00:42,708 But lastly, if all else 22 01:00:42,708 --> 01:00:45,125 fails, it's world party day. 23 01:00:45,666 --> 01:00:48,000 So grab your gazoos and your crazy 24 01:00:48,000 --> 01:00:49,708 glasses and let's hit the rave. 25 01:00:51,208 --> 01:00:51,875 I think I just really 26 01:00:51,875 --> 01:00:52,916 showed my age there. 27 01:00:53,250 --> 01:00:54,875 That's what I think a world 28 01:00:54,875 --> 01:00:56,375 party day makes me think of. 29 01:00:57,166 --> 01:00:57,375 Oh well. 30 01:00:58,041 --> 01:00:59,416 Well, here's a question for you. 31 01:00:59,916 --> 01:01:01,458 Do people still say 32 01:01:01,458 --> 01:01:02,875 kill them with kindness? 33 01:01:03,750 --> 01:01:06,125 Well, Cobie Smulders may not think it's 34 01:01:06,125 --> 01:01:07,500 happening as much as it used to. 35 01:01:07,541 --> 01:01:10,291 She said, "Kindness is something that I 36 01:01:10,291 --> 01:01:11,750 feel is leaving us a bit. 37 01:01:12,125 --> 01:01:14,041 People are getting more self-involved." 38 01:01:15,208 --> 01:01:17,416 And that's a sad state if 39 01:01:17,416 --> 01:01:18,708 that's true folks, right? 40 01:01:18,708 --> 01:01:20,625 We need to bring back kindness. 41 01:01:21,875 --> 01:01:23,083 All right, well, let's take a look at 42 01:01:23,083 --> 01:01:24,041 today's news facts and 43 01:01:24,041 --> 01:01:26,041 birthdays for April 3rd. 44 01:01:26,291 --> 01:01:28,125 And we're going to start back in 1882 45 01:01:28,125 --> 01:01:29,500 when on this date, 46 01:01:29,500 --> 01:01:31,583 Jesse James was murdered by 47 01:01:31,583 --> 01:01:33,750 his own gang for the reward money. 48 01:01:34,375 --> 01:01:35,583 Well, that wasn't kind. 49 01:01:36,791 --> 01:01:39,958 Then in 1924 on this date, actor and 50 01:01:39,958 --> 01:01:41,541 Superman's dad and 51 01:01:41,541 --> 01:01:43,541 everybody's favorite godfather, Marlon 52 01:01:43,541 --> 01:01:44,458 Brando was born. 53 01:01:45,500 --> 01:01:48,250 Then in 1953, the first issue of the TV 54 01:01:48,250 --> 01:01:49,250 Guide was published 55 01:01:49,250 --> 01:01:50,875 with the cover featuring a 56 01:01:50,875 --> 01:01:53,166 picture of Lucille Ball's newborn baby. 57 01:01:53,416 --> 01:01:54,333 You can see it right here if you're 58 01:01:54,333 --> 01:01:54,958 watching on YouTube. 59 01:01:56,083 --> 01:01:58,666 Then in 1973 on this date, the very first 60 01:01:58,666 --> 01:02:00,458 mobile phone cell call 61 01:02:00,458 --> 01:02:01,958 is made from downtown 62 01:02:02,250 --> 01:02:04,750 Manhattan, New York City by Motorola 63 01:02:04,750 --> 01:02:05,958 employee Martin Cooper. 64 01:02:06,208 --> 01:02:09,041 And he called Joel Engel at the Bell Labs 65 01:02:09,041 --> 01:02:10,291 headquarters in New Jersey. 66 01:02:11,083 --> 01:02:13,583 Now apparently his first words were, 67 01:02:13,833 --> 01:02:15,791 "Joel, I'm calling you from 68 01:02:15,791 --> 01:02:17,708 a real cellular telephone, 69 01:02:18,166 --> 01:02:20,708 a portable handheld telephone." 70 01:02:22,000 --> 01:02:24,500 It would be about 25 years later that I 71 01:02:24,500 --> 01:02:25,750 bought my first cell phone. 72 01:02:26,875 --> 01:02:30,083 Well, lastly in 1996, this is the date 73 01:02:30,083 --> 01:02:31,250 that federal agents in 74 01:02:31,250 --> 01:02:33,416 Montana apprehended Ted 75 01:02:33,416 --> 01:02:35,000 Kaczynski, the Unabomber. 76 01:02:36,041 --> 01:02:37,125 Well, happy birthday. 77 01:02:37,125 --> 01:02:39,291 If today is your birthday, you share a 78 01:02:39,291 --> 01:02:41,375 birthday with actor Alec Baldwin. 79 01:02:41,666 --> 01:02:42,375 He's 67. 80 01:02:43,291 --> 01:02:44,125 Comedian Eddie Murphy. 81 01:02:44,500 --> 01:02:45,583 He's 64 today. 82 01:02:46,583 --> 01:02:48,583 Actress Jenny Garth from 90210 fame. 83 01:02:48,791 --> 01:02:49,500 She's 53. 84 01:02:50,500 --> 01:02:52,500 Actress Cobie Smulders from How I Met 85 01:02:52,500 --> 01:02:54,083 Your Mother and the MCU. 86 01:02:54,291 --> 01:02:55,500 She's 43 today. 87 01:02:56,333 --> 01:02:57,708 And singer Leona Lewis. 88 01:02:58,041 --> 01:02:59,208 She's 40 years old today. 89 01:03:00,208 --> 01:03:01,875 And the number one song on this date back 90 01:03:01,875 --> 01:03:04,583 in 1982 was, "I Love 91 01:03:04,583 --> 01:03:06,125 Rock and Roll" by Joan 92 01:03:06,125 --> 01:03:07,208 Jett in the Blackhearts. 93 01:03:07,750 --> 01:03:09,250 Now everybody knows this song, right? 94 01:03:09,583 --> 01:03:10,375 I mean, put another 95 01:03:10,375 --> 01:03:11,708 dime in the jukebox, baby. 96 01:03:11,916 --> 01:03:12,750 Everybody knows this. 97 01:03:13,333 --> 01:03:15,458 But interestingly, the writer of the song 98 01:03:15,458 --> 01:03:16,750 was based in England 99 01:03:16,750 --> 01:03:18,083 and he wanted that line 100 01:03:18,083 --> 01:03:20,625 to be put another coin in the jukebox to 101 01:03:20,625 --> 01:03:21,791 make it more universal. 102 01:03:22,833 --> 01:03:25,333 Well, this is also another song that 103 01:03:25,333 --> 01:03:26,333 Weird Al Yankovic 104 01:03:26,333 --> 01:03:28,375 recorded a parody of with his 105 01:03:28,375 --> 01:03:30,625 title, "I Love Rocky Road." 106 01:03:31,291 --> 01:03:32,166 Well done, Al. 107 01:03:32,416 --> 01:03:32,791 I do too. 108 01:03:33,083 --> 01:03:33,958 I do too. 109 01:03:35,083 --> 01:03:37,708 Well, I also like some self-improvement. 110 01:03:37,708 --> 01:03:39,583 And today we start in earnest reading 111 01:03:39,583 --> 01:03:41,250 Stephen R. Covey's The 7 112 01:03:41,250 --> 01:03:42,500 Habits of Highly Effective 113 01:03:42,583 --> 01:03:43,000 People. 114 01:03:43,791 --> 01:03:46,458 And recall, we are beginning the first of 115 01:03:46,458 --> 01:03:47,416 four parts in this 116 01:03:47,416 --> 01:03:48,875 book called, "Paradigms 117 01:03:48,875 --> 01:03:49,250 and Principles." 118 01:03:49,916 --> 01:03:50,875 And this first chapter 119 01:03:50,875 --> 01:03:52,541 is entitled, "Inside Out." 120 01:03:53,666 --> 01:03:55,666 And Covey begins this chapter laying the 121 01:03:55,666 --> 01:03:57,333 groundwork about why he 122 01:03:57,333 --> 01:03:59,500 wrote this book, that over his 123 01:03:59,500 --> 01:04:01,708 lifetime in both his personal and 124 01:04:01,708 --> 01:04:03,416 professional settings that 125 01:04:03,416 --> 01:04:05,750 he's known, "many individuals 126 01:04:05,875 --> 01:04:07,833 who have achieved an incredible degree of 127 01:04:07,833 --> 01:04:09,625 outward success, but 128 01:04:09,625 --> 01:04:10,458 have found themselves 129 01:04:10,583 --> 01:04:13,250 struggling with an inner hunger, a deep 130 01:04:13,250 --> 01:04:14,458 need for personal 131 01:04:14,458 --> 01:04:15,750 congruency and effectiveness 132 01:04:16,083 --> 01:04:18,166 for healthy, growing 133 01:04:18,166 --> 01:04:19,833 relationships with other people." 134 01:04:21,333 --> 01:04:23,625 And Covey gives a few examples of things 135 01:04:23,625 --> 01:04:25,416 people might say like, 136 01:04:25,666 --> 01:04:27,083 "I just can't seem to keep 137 01:04:27,083 --> 01:04:28,666 a promise I make myself. 138 01:04:29,416 --> 01:04:31,583 And what's really important to me? 139 01:04:32,416 --> 01:04:34,041 And they won't listen to me. 140 01:04:34,041 --> 01:04:34,916 What can I do? 141 01:04:35,875 --> 01:04:38,750 Or I still don't feel I'm living the 142 01:04:38,750 --> 01:04:39,791 happy, productive, 143 01:04:40,166 --> 01:04:41,958 peaceful life I want to live. 144 01:04:42,708 --> 01:04:45,125 And lastly, I always wonder what other 145 01:04:45,125 --> 01:04:47,583 people really think of me and my ideas." 146 01:04:49,375 --> 01:04:51,875 So we are all human, and I'm sure at 147 01:04:51,875 --> 01:04:53,166 least one of these 148 01:04:53,166 --> 01:04:54,500 hits home for you, right? 149 01:04:54,833 --> 01:04:55,750 Or perhaps you have 150 01:04:55,750 --> 01:04:57,583 something similar you're thinking of. 151 01:04:58,208 --> 01:05:00,875 Well, Covey says, "These are deep 152 01:05:00,875 --> 01:05:02,375 problems, painful 153 01:05:02,375 --> 01:05:04,875 problems, problems that quick fix 154 01:05:04,875 --> 01:05:06,375 approaches can't solve." 155 01:05:08,000 --> 01:05:10,375 Covey tells a quick story about how he 156 01:05:10,375 --> 01:05:11,416 and his wife were 157 01:05:11,416 --> 01:05:12,625 concerned with their son. 158 01:05:13,208 --> 01:05:15,166 Their son wasn't being very successful in 159 01:05:15,166 --> 01:05:16,791 school or on the athletic field. 160 01:05:17,333 --> 01:05:19,208 And they tried to be supportive, but this 161 01:05:19,208 --> 01:05:20,125 didn't help and they 162 01:05:20,125 --> 01:05:21,583 could see his self-esteem 163 01:05:21,583 --> 01:05:22,416 as being affected. 164 01:05:23,458 --> 01:05:24,833 Covey at that time was studying 165 01:05:24,833 --> 01:05:26,458 expectancy theory and 166 01:05:26,458 --> 01:05:28,625 self-fulfilling prophecies, leading 167 01:05:28,625 --> 01:05:30,833 him to focus on just how important our 168 01:05:30,833 --> 01:05:32,583 perceptions are, how they 169 01:05:32,583 --> 01:05:34,125 are formed, and how they are 170 01:05:34,125 --> 01:05:36,291 the lens through which we see this world. 171 01:05:37,333 --> 01:05:39,458 And if he and his wife were being honest, 172 01:05:40,000 --> 01:05:42,000 the perception they had of their son was, 173 01:05:42,291 --> 01:05:43,875 "That he was basically 174 01:05:43,875 --> 01:05:46,250 inadequate, somehow behind." 175 01:05:47,083 --> 01:05:49,166 And because of this, despite their 176 01:05:49,166 --> 01:05:51,083 actions and words, what 177 01:05:51,083 --> 01:05:52,500 they really communicated to 178 01:05:52,500 --> 01:05:54,541 him was, "You aren't capable. 179 01:05:54,833 --> 01:05:56,000 You have to be protected." 180 01:05:57,916 --> 01:06:00,291 Covey and his wife concluded, "We began 181 01:06:00,291 --> 01:06:01,541 to realize that if we 182 01:06:01,541 --> 01:06:03,250 wanted to change the situation, 183 01:06:03,958 --> 01:06:05,958 we first had to change ourselves. 184 01:06:06,750 --> 01:06:09,208 And to change ourselves effectively, we 185 01:06:09,208 --> 01:06:11,500 first need to change our perceptions." 186 01:06:12,791 --> 01:06:13,708 There they are again, 187 01:06:13,708 --> 01:06:15,333 perceptions and perspectives. 188 01:06:15,958 --> 01:06:18,291 Both Covey and Carnegie are big on 189 01:06:18,291 --> 01:06:19,791 identifying these and then 190 01:06:19,791 --> 01:06:21,375 reacting appropriately from 191 01:06:21,583 --> 01:06:21,750 there. 192 01:06:22,750 --> 01:06:24,416 Well, we'll dive deeper into this 193 01:06:24,416 --> 01:06:25,416 tomorrow in Covey's 194 01:06:25,416 --> 01:06:27,500 sub-chapter, The Personality and 195 01:06:27,500 --> 01:06:28,250 Character Ethics. 196 01:06:29,166 --> 01:06:30,500 Hey, thanks for joining us today. 197 01:06:31,041 --> 01:06:32,250 Be kind today, people, 198 01:06:32,666 --> 01:06:33,625 and come back tomorrow. 199 01:06:33,625 --> 01:06:35,583 And of course, have a fantastic day. 200 01:06:37,791 --> 01:06:39,541 Don't forget to follow and subscribe to 201 01:06:39,541 --> 01:06:40,166 the Morning Serial 202 01:06:40,166 --> 01:06:41,791 podcast on the One Life 203 01:06:41,958 --> 01:06:42,791 Live It channel. 204 01:06:43,333 --> 01:06:45,250 You can find more episodes and videos by 205 01:06:45,250 --> 01:06:46,916 visiting our YouTube channel and the 206 01:06:46,916 --> 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