1 01:00:00,500 --> 01:00:02,750 Good morning and 2 01:00:02,750 --> 01:00:04,625 welcome to Morning Syria. 3 01:00:08,958 --> 01:00:09,791 Okay, good morning 4 01:00:09,791 --> 01:00:11,250 and welcome to Tuesday. 5 01:00:11,625 --> 01:00:13,291 You are probably already 6 01:00:13,291 --> 01:00:14,500 ahead of the curve today, 7 01:00:14,958 --> 01:00:16,416 especially if you've 8 01:00:16,416 --> 01:00:17,416 already had your coffee. 9 01:00:17,750 --> 01:00:18,875 Because today is 10 01:00:18,875 --> 01:00:20,833 National Coffee Break Day, 11 01:00:21,083 --> 01:00:23,666 which is permission to pause, breathe, 12 01:00:23,916 --> 01:00:25,291 and refill your most 13 01:00:25,291 --> 01:00:27,375 obnoxious mug without guilt. 14 01:00:27,791 --> 01:00:29,125 All right, the answer to 15 01:00:29,125 --> 01:00:30,500 Monday's trivia question, 16 01:00:31,208 --> 01:00:32,541 the Lear, the ancient 17 01:00:32,541 --> 01:00:33,958 harp-like instrument 18 01:00:34,083 --> 01:00:36,625 tied to Romans and Greeks is the Lear. 19 01:00:37,333 --> 01:00:38,000 And now the essential 20 01:00:38,000 --> 01:00:39,416 vitamins in your morning cereal. 21 01:00:39,875 --> 01:00:40,958 Today's quote is from 22 01:00:40,958 --> 01:00:42,833 birthday boy turning 70 today, 23 01:00:43,125 --> 01:00:44,500 Bill Maher, who said, quote, 24 01:00:44,916 --> 01:00:47,041 "Curious people are interesting people. 25 01:00:47,500 --> 01:00:49,500 I wonder why that is," end quote. 26 01:00:49,916 --> 01:00:51,041 Well, that's a reminder 27 01:00:51,041 --> 01:00:53,083 to never stop asking why. 28 01:00:53,583 --> 01:00:54,958 Be inquisitive and 29 01:00:54,958 --> 01:00:56,666 explore different perspectives. 30 01:00:57,250 --> 01:00:58,083 It will expand your 31 01:00:58,083 --> 01:01:00,125 horizons, expand your world, 32 01:01:00,500 --> 01:01:02,250 and possibly make you 33 01:01:02,250 --> 01:01:03,458 the most interesting person 34 01:01:03,666 --> 01:01:04,083 in the room. 35 01:01:04,875 --> 01:01:06,666 Well, you've heard enough from me, 36 01:01:06,666 --> 01:01:08,500 so let's pour in the Let 37 01:01:08,500 --> 01:01:09,916 Them Theory by Mel Robin. 38 01:01:10,208 --> 01:01:12,875 Today's section is titled, It's Simple, 39 01:01:13,208 --> 01:01:15,083 People Want to Feel Good. 40 01:01:15,500 --> 01:01:16,791 And Robin starts this 41 01:01:16,791 --> 01:01:18,666 chapter with a powerful truth 42 01:01:18,666 --> 01:01:21,791 that explains so much human behavior, 43 01:01:21,791 --> 01:01:23,625 saying, quote, "People do 44 01:01:23,625 --> 01:01:25,000 what makes them feel good, 45 01:01:25,541 --> 01:01:28,041 or what makes them feel less bad." 46 01:01:28,458 --> 01:01:29,083 Now, end quote. 47 01:01:29,666 --> 01:01:31,166 Logic, facts, and advice, 48 01:01:31,166 --> 01:01:33,333 they often take a backseat to emotion. 49 01:01:33,833 --> 01:01:35,416 This isn't a flaw, it's 50 01:01:35,416 --> 01:01:37,250 how we are wired as humans. 51 01:01:37,791 --> 01:01:39,791 She explains that many conflicts persist 52 01:01:39,916 --> 01:01:41,583 because we try to convince 53 01:01:41,583 --> 01:01:43,583 people using reason alone. 54 01:01:44,000 --> 01:01:45,708 But reason rarely wins 55 01:01:45,708 --> 01:01:47,083 when emotions are involved. 56 01:01:47,375 --> 01:01:49,625 Quote, "When someone feels threatened, 57 01:01:49,958 --> 01:01:52,458 misunderstood, or judged, they shut down, 58 01:01:52,666 --> 01:01:55,208 no matter how good your point is. 59 01:01:56,291 --> 01:01:57,666 So, Robbins is 60 01:01:57,666 --> 01:01:59,916 emphasizing that influence begins 61 01:01:59,916 --> 01:02:01,625 with emotional awareness. 62 01:02:02,125 --> 01:02:03,500 People aren't resisting change 63 01:02:03,583 --> 01:02:05,291 because they don't understand it. 64 01:02:05,625 --> 01:02:07,500 They're resisting it because it feels 65 01:02:07,500 --> 01:02:08,750 uncomfortable to them, 66 01:02:09,000 --> 01:02:10,791 because it feels scary or it's 67 01:02:10,791 --> 01:02:12,375 destabilizing to them. 68 01:02:13,208 --> 01:02:14,250 Feeling good doesn't mean 69 01:02:14,250 --> 01:02:15,958 feeling happy all the time. 70 01:02:16,375 --> 01:02:17,875 It means feeling safe, 71 01:02:18,291 --> 01:02:20,208 respected, and autonomous. 72 01:02:20,708 --> 01:02:21,583 One of the strongest 73 01:02:21,583 --> 01:02:22,958 reminders in this chapter 74 01:02:23,208 --> 01:02:25,666 is that control backfires. 75 01:02:26,291 --> 01:02:27,000 Robbins writes, quote, 76 01:02:27,000 --> 01:02:27,916 "The more you try to 77 01:02:27,916 --> 01:02:29,291 control how someone feels, 78 01:02:29,750 --> 01:02:31,958 the more resistance you create." 79 01:02:31,958 --> 01:02:32,333 End quote. 80 01:02:32,875 --> 01:02:35,458 When people feel forced, they push back, 81 01:02:35,875 --> 01:02:38,291 even if the chance would benefit them. 82 01:02:38,750 --> 01:02:40,291 So instead, Robbins 83 01:02:40,291 --> 01:02:43,333 encourages creating emotional safety. 84 01:02:43,750 --> 01:02:46,041 This doesn't mean enabling bad behavior. 85 01:02:46,541 --> 01:02:47,583 It means allowing 86 01:02:47,583 --> 01:02:49,541 people to arrive at change 87 01:02:50,000 --> 01:02:51,125 in their own time. 88 01:02:51,500 --> 01:02:53,541 When people feel seen and not managed, 89 01:02:53,833 --> 01:02:55,291 their defenses soften. 90 01:02:55,875 --> 01:02:57,583 She also turns the lens inward. 91 01:02:58,291 --> 01:02:58,916 Understanding this truth 92 01:02:58,916 --> 01:03:00,416 helps you manage yourself better, 93 01:03:00,500 --> 01:03:00,791 too. 94 01:03:01,291 --> 01:03:02,666 If you know your brain 95 01:03:02,666 --> 01:03:04,000 moves toward comfort, 96 01:03:04,375 --> 01:03:05,250 you can design 97 01:03:05,250 --> 01:03:07,125 systems that support growth 98 01:03:07,500 --> 01:03:08,708 rather than fight it. 99 01:03:09,125 --> 01:03:10,041 This chapter, it's 100 01:03:10,041 --> 01:03:11,250 not about manipulation, 101 01:03:11,666 --> 01:03:12,916 it's about compassion. 102 01:03:13,500 --> 01:03:14,791 When you understand that 103 01:03:14,791 --> 01:03:16,333 people want to feel good, 104 01:03:17,000 --> 01:03:18,500 conversations then can shift. 105 01:03:19,208 --> 01:03:20,500 Expectations can soften. 106 01:03:21,416 --> 01:03:22,833 Progress becomes possible. 107 01:03:23,333 --> 01:03:25,541 Okay, here is your Tuesday takeaway. 108 01:03:26,125 --> 01:03:27,291 If you want change, 109 01:03:27,791 --> 01:03:29,375 focus less on being right 110 01:03:29,583 --> 01:03:31,666 and more on helping people feel safe. 111 01:03:32,500 --> 01:03:34,541 So today, take an extra coffee break 112 01:03:34,666 --> 01:03:37,625 and let today unfold with intention. 113 01:03:38,125 --> 01:03:39,500 All right, now the prize from 114 01:03:39,500 --> 01:03:40,666 the bottom of the cereal box, 115 01:03:41,000 --> 01:03:42,041 the morning cereal 116 01:03:42,041 --> 01:03:43,416 trivia question of the day. 117 01:03:44,208 --> 01:03:46,041 What animal is closely 118 01:03:46,041 --> 01:03:47,750 related to the llama? 119 01:03:48,500 --> 01:03:49,125 All right, we'll see 120 01:03:49,125 --> 01:03:49,750 you back here tomorrow 121 01:03:50,041 --> 01:03:51,500 for the answer and for 122 01:03:51,500 --> 01:03:52,708 more sugar for the soul. 123 01:03:53,041 --> 01:03:53,916 Hey, thanks for 124 01:03:53,916 --> 01:03:55,083 listening to morning cereal 125 01:03:55,291 --> 01:03:58,458 and until then, have a fantastic day. 126 01:03:59,625 --> 01:04:01,208 Don't forget to follow and subscribe 127 01:04:01,208 --> 01:04:02,708 to the morning cereal podcast 128 01:04:02,958 --> 01:04:04,666 on the One Life Live It channel. 129 01:04:05,208 --> 01:04:06,875 You can find more episodes and videos 130 01:04:06,875 --> 01:04:08,333 by visiting our YouTube channel 131 01:04:08,500 --> 01:04:09,666 and the website at 132 01:04:09,666 --> 01:04:12,166 seaningless and at 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