Show Notes
Kevin expresses that
conflict in a family is not necessarily bad, it's just part of the relationship. He goes so far to say that conflict can show you're doing something right, not something wrong; it shows that the relationship matters to you, or you wouldn't speak up. He brings up
James 4.
Tara responds to Kevin's words by sharing some tools to help you
deal with conflict leading up to it, and questions to ask yourself before engaging. Katie jumps in and says that it's important to know yourself and know if you tend to avoid conflict or what your conflict style is. Kevin gives a great example of asking himself "What's my goal?" before starting the conflict with someone, and Katie gives an example of a time where she stepped away for 20 minutes during a conflict so she could come back in the right frame of mind.
Katie starts the conversation about righteous conflict and when that is appropriate. She references a
verse in Romans that tells us to live peaceably with each other, but also says that sometimes the most loving thing we can do for someone is to start a conversation that might
lead to conflict, if we make the conversation about caring about their wellbeing. She makes the distinction of fighting
with someone and fighting
for someone.
In their final thoughts, Tara reiterates that conflict can be a great opportunity if we let it, Katie encourages listeners to be courageous and speak in grace and truth, and Kevin reminds us to use the example of Jesus.