1 01:00:00,500 --> 01:00:02,750 Good morning and 2 01:00:02,750 --> 01:00:04,666 welcome to Morning Syria. 3 01:00:05,458 --> 01:00:07,708 (upbeat music) 4 01:00:08,875 --> 01:00:11,791 Okay, good morning and welcome to Tuesday 5 01:00:11,916 --> 01:00:14,125 or as it's officially known today, 6 01:00:14,791 --> 01:00:16,125 National Planal Day. 7 01:00:16,333 --> 01:00:17,708 Now this is a special day 8 01:00:17,708 --> 01:00:19,125 dedicated to those of you 9 01:00:19,500 --> 01:00:21,291 who like to look rugged, right? 10 01:00:21,541 --> 01:00:23,541 While doing absolutely nothing outdoors. 11 01:00:24,041 --> 01:00:24,750 Well done you. 12 01:00:25,500 --> 01:00:27,125 Well now the answer to 13 01:00:27,125 --> 01:00:28,375 yesterday's trivia question, 14 01:00:29,041 --> 01:00:30,500 chickpeas, the type of 15 01:00:30,500 --> 01:00:31,875 bean that is typically used 16 01:00:31,875 --> 01:00:33,625 to make hummus are chickpeas. 17 01:00:34,208 --> 01:00:35,000 And now it's time for 18 01:00:35,000 --> 01:00:35,750 the essential vitamins 19 01:00:35,750 --> 01:00:37,000 in your morning cereal. 20 01:00:37,000 --> 01:00:38,708 Today's quote is from 21 01:00:38,708 --> 01:00:40,166 track star and birthday boy 22 01:00:40,166 --> 01:00:41,666 turning 42 today, 23 01:00:42,416 --> 01:00:43,750 Justin Gatlin, who said, 24 01:00:44,625 --> 01:00:45,833 hard work beats talent 25 01:00:45,833 --> 01:00:48,083 when talent doesn't work hard. 26 01:00:48,875 --> 01:00:50,791 Now I know you don't want 27 01:00:50,791 --> 01:00:52,916 this to be true, but it is. 28 01:00:53,541 --> 01:00:54,500 Natural talent isn't 29 01:00:54,500 --> 01:00:56,000 enough to guarantee success 30 01:00:56,458 --> 01:00:57,541 if you don't pair it 31 01:00:57,541 --> 01:00:59,041 with dedication, effort 32 01:00:59,041 --> 01:01:00,333 and a little bit of consistency. 33 01:01:01,000 --> 01:01:04,208 So put the time in, it is the only way. 34 01:01:04,875 --> 01:01:06,583 All right, well, let's go ahead and hear 35 01:01:06,583 --> 01:01:07,750 from the experts now. 36 01:01:07,750 --> 01:01:08,750 It's time to pour in 37 01:01:08,750 --> 01:01:10,458 some, the let them theory 38 01:01:10,916 --> 01:01:11,875 from Mel Robbins. 39 01:01:12,250 --> 01:01:13,708 In today's chapter, the early 40 01:01:13,708 --> 01:01:15,583 days is all about what happens 41 01:01:15,583 --> 01:01:17,208 at the very beginning of relationships. 42 01:01:17,666 --> 01:01:20,833 When excitement is high and logic is low 43 01:01:21,208 --> 01:01:22,541 and the red flags are 44 01:01:22,541 --> 01:01:24,291 conveniently, well, either ignored 45 01:01:24,666 --> 01:01:25,166 or maybe they're 46 01:01:25,166 --> 01:01:26,208 tinted just slightly pink. 47 01:01:27,208 --> 01:01:27,833 Here, Mel is 48 01:01:27,833 --> 01:01:29,583 explaining that early connection 49 01:01:29,791 --> 01:01:31,583 often feels intense because 50 01:01:31,583 --> 01:01:34,000 novelty activates dopamine. 51 01:01:34,625 --> 01:01:35,958 Everything feels promising, 52 01:01:36,458 --> 01:01:38,041 everything feels possible, 53 01:01:38,375 --> 01:01:40,250 but she warns that that 54 01:01:40,250 --> 01:01:41,875 intensity is not the same thing 55 01:01:41,875 --> 01:01:42,625 as alignment. 56 01:01:43,250 --> 01:01:45,166 As she put it, quote, early 57 01:01:45,166 --> 01:01:46,583 chemistry tells you nothing 58 01:01:46,833 --> 01:01:49,916 about long-term compatibility, end quote. 59 01:01:50,625 --> 01:01:51,458 Now this chapter 60 01:01:51,458 --> 01:01:53,333 urges readers to slow down 61 01:01:53,541 --> 01:01:54,750 and observe instead of 62 01:01:54,750 --> 01:01:56,750 accelerating towards certainty. 63 01:01:57,375 --> 01:01:58,458 Now, Mel explains how 64 01:01:58,458 --> 01:02:00,250 people often abandon boundaries 65 01:02:00,250 --> 01:02:02,291 in the early days because they don't want 66 01:02:02,291 --> 01:02:03,708 to scare someone off. 67 01:02:04,250 --> 01:02:05,375 But if being yourself 68 01:02:05,375 --> 01:02:07,000 is scaring someone away, 69 01:02:07,291 --> 01:02:09,416 well, that's information that you need. 70 01:02:09,958 --> 01:02:11,000 She emphasizes that 71 01:02:11,000 --> 01:02:13,625 consistency matters more than charm. 72 01:02:14,125 --> 01:02:16,291 Anyone can be impressive for a few weeks, 73 01:02:16,291 --> 01:02:18,333 heck a few months, but what matters is 74 01:02:18,333 --> 01:02:19,500 how someone shows up 75 01:02:19,625 --> 01:02:21,500 over time, especially 76 01:02:21,500 --> 01:02:23,083 when it's inconvenient. 77 01:02:23,708 --> 01:02:25,666 One standout line is this, quote, 78 01:02:26,083 --> 01:02:27,375 "Don't confuse potential 79 01:02:27,375 --> 01:02:29,291 with patterns," end quote. 80 01:02:29,625 --> 01:02:31,083 Now, Mel also reminds 81 01:02:31,083 --> 01:02:32,916 readers that the early days 82 01:02:33,041 --> 01:02:36,000 are where self-trust is built or broken. 83 01:02:36,500 --> 01:02:38,625 If you ignore discomfort now, 84 01:02:38,875 --> 01:02:41,333 you'll definitely feel it louder later. 85 01:02:41,833 --> 01:02:43,125 So the let them approach 86 01:02:43,125 --> 01:02:44,500 invites you to notice behavior 87 01:02:44,666 --> 01:02:46,208 without reacting emotionally. 88 01:02:46,833 --> 01:02:48,500 No chasing, no forcing 89 01:02:48,500 --> 01:02:50,125 clarity, just observation. 90 01:02:50,875 --> 01:02:53,125 She encourages dating with curiosity 91 01:02:53,416 --> 01:02:54,458 instead of expectation. 92 01:02:55,375 --> 01:02:56,583 Ask yourself how you feel 93 01:02:56,583 --> 01:02:58,250 after spending time with someone. 94 01:02:58,458 --> 01:02:59,541 Are you energized? 95 01:02:59,541 --> 01:03:00,208 Are you calm? 96 01:03:00,208 --> 01:03:01,333 Are you anxious? 97 01:03:01,333 --> 01:03:02,000 Are you confused? 98 01:03:02,625 --> 01:03:03,958 Your body often knows 99 01:03:03,958 --> 01:03:06,041 before your brain will catch up. 100 01:03:06,541 --> 01:03:09,250 So here it is, your Tuesday takeaway. 101 01:03:10,000 --> 01:03:11,000 The early days aren't 102 01:03:11,000 --> 01:03:12,625 about locking things in, 103 01:03:12,625 --> 01:03:14,125 they're about paying attention. 104 01:03:14,791 --> 01:03:15,375 Well, we've already 105 01:03:15,375 --> 01:03:16,541 checked off two boxes. 106 01:03:16,583 --> 01:03:18,416 Today we've got the flannel fit check 107 01:03:18,625 --> 01:03:20,375 and the wisdom absorbed. 108 01:03:20,791 --> 01:03:23,041 Let's go ahead and get into this Tuesday. 109 01:03:23,291 --> 01:03:24,833 But first, the prize from 110 01:03:24,833 --> 01:03:26,125 the bottom of the cereal box. 111 01:03:26,333 --> 01:03:27,500 It's the morning cereal 112 01:03:27,500 --> 01:03:29,333 trivia question of the day. 113 01:03:29,750 --> 01:03:32,000 Here it is, what does the G 114 01:03:32,625 --> 01:03:36,875 in the time zone acronym GMT stand for? 115 01:03:37,500 --> 01:03:38,666 All right, we'll talk about it tomorrow. 116 01:03:39,041 --> 01:03:39,916 Hey, thanks for listening 117 01:03:39,916 --> 01:03:41,041 to morning cereal today. 118 01:03:41,041 --> 01:03:42,583 We will see you back here tomorrow 119 01:03:42,583 --> 01:03:44,375 for the answer to the trivia question 120 01:03:44,958 --> 01:03:46,541 for sugar for your soul. 121 01:03:46,750 --> 01:03:49,583 And until then, have a fantastic day. 122 01:03:50,750 --> 01:03:52,333 Don't forget to follow and subscribe 123 01:03:52,333 --> 01:03:53,833 to the morning cereal podcast 124 01:03:54,041 --> 01:03:55,791 on the One Life Live It channel. 125 01:03:56,291 --> 01:03:58,000 You can find more episodes and videos 126 01:03:58,000 --> 01:03:59,458 by visiting our YouTube channel 127 01:03:59,666 --> 01:04:00,791 and the website at 128 01:04:00,791 --> 01:04:03,333 seaningless and at seaningless.com, 129 01:04:03,541 --> 01:04:04,416 where you can also 130 01:04:04,416 --> 01:04:05,833 follow our other podcast, 131 01:04:06,166 --> 01:04:07,375 the 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