“I think I married my mother/father”.
If only I had a nickel for every time I heard this in my DM’s
from people stuck in a “should I stay or go?” situation in their relationships.
I talk to so many people who swear they don’t want to become like their parents,
or they want to find the OPPOSITE of what they experienced,
but mortified to find themselves repeating a similar dynamic.
Freud called this the “repetition compulsion”.
It’s not even conscious.
In the weird cosmic dance of life,
we are pulled to what’s familiar.
There are parts deep inside us that calls for resolution.
For attention.
For completion.
If we don’t, we then get stuck in Trauma Bonds—
which are powerful and addictive entanglements with partners
who feel toxic, exhausting, even abusive…
Not because there’s something wrong with us or them.
But because it’s FAMILIAR.
Familiar = “Like Family”.
In my private Chiropractic practice I would see correlations
between these relationship dynamics and poor health outcomes.
Even though we want healthy relationships,
we don’t have a clue what that would even look like,
because it would be so unfamiliar.
And the worst part is that when we don’t get to the cause of these
dynamics and heal the attachment wound at it’s root,
we then spill that into our children
who end up in the same insecure relationships that we were in.
The good news is that you CAN break the cycle by dismantling
the root of the Trauma Bond:
Learning how to become Trigger-Proof.
Resolving the primary wound and ensuring you know exactly how to
RESPOND (instead of react) every time it gets activated.
The wound is a rupture from the SELF.
Learn to resolve THAT, and the trauma bond heals,
you learn to speak your truth,
share your boundaries in a healthy way,
you tolerate nothing less than being cherished and respected,
the types of people you attract upgrade,
the types of people you’re ATTRACTED TO start to change,
And you learn to connect to your own inner voice, trust, and KNOWING.
One day you realize you’re in a loving, mutual relationship—
not with a child anymore.
And no longer with your parent.
It’s all on the other side of learning the skills of becoming Trigger-Proof.
Your wingman on the adventure,
Nima
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships
https://drnima.com/lp/should-i-stay-or-go/?sl=transistor-podcast
Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.
https://go.drnima.com/oevw?sl=transistor-podcast
Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)
https://drnima.com/discovery/application/?sl=transistor-podcast
Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproof
Are you on Telegram? Click link below to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.
https://t.me/joinchat/TPQjyH2MCBKHonIR
What is Trigger Proof Transmissions (Cyclebreaker Collective)?
Welcome to the TriggerProof podcast.
This is the first season of the Podcast which are audio renditions of
Facebook Live Video Transmissions done for the “TriggerProof” Facebook Community.
These were set up by request of our community members who wanted an opportunity to listen
to insights, tools, and strategies to help heal relationship dynamics, deepen intimacy,
and master the fine art of Autonomic Nervous System Regulation so that we can build resilience,
heal from the past, and become active operators of our mind, body, and life.
This first season wasn’t designed to be a podcast, so you’ll notice the audio isn’t
Professional Studio Quality (like it is on season 2 as we’ve upgraded incrementally).
These trainings are designed to introduce and deepen you to the most critical 2 skills we’ve never been taught:
1) The skill and practice of taking our triggers (Nervous System Activations) and turning them into deeper safety and self-love,
2) The skill and practice of taking conflict (that happens in any relationship) and turning them into deeper intimacy between the parties involved.
Not learning these two critical skills at this time in history costs us dearly: Physical and Mental health is on the DECLINE.
Doing this deep level of healing work can break the cycle of Intergenerational Trauma that didn’t start with you.
It didn’t start with you, but it can end with you,
#Cyclebreaker.
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When you're ready, here's what we got:
Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships
https://drnima.com/lp/should-i-stay-or-go/?sl=transistor-podcast
Upcoming "Breathwork and Badassery" Live Event (Every month)
Regulate Your stress, deepen your connection to your inner child, process your stuck emotions and improve your capacity
https://go.drnima.com/bbvw?sl=transistor-podcast
Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.
https://go.drnima.com/oevw?sl=transistor-podcast
Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)
https://drnima.com/discovery/application/?sl=transistor-podcast
Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproof