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So here's the deal, people are going to
talk and say things about you or your

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situation no matter what you do.

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So we're going to dig into that a little
bit here on the podcast today.

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So welcome to the Ranch Ramone podcast.

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list so anyways with that I

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I just want to kind of dive into this
whole concept of...

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people always have something to say,
right?

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People will talk about your situation,
about your decision, about your

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circumstances, whatever that is.

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It seems like no matter what you do, it's
kind of that damned if you do and damned

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if you don't kind of situation sometimes.

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The hard part about that can be becoming
okay with that within yourself.

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So something that's been on my mind a lot
lately regarding this is...

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You know, we don't know what's driven
someone to a decision.

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We don't know their thoughts, their
reasoning.

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We don't know their heart.

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You know, we don't know their goals and
deep desires and struggles and trials and

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all of those things behind the scenes.

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We don't know that.

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And it is not our place to know that.

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Now, if a person decides they want to
share part of their story, then that's

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awesome.

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We can respect that.

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You know, we can listen to that
thoughtfully and compassionately.

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And then, you know, attempt to have
some...

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some type of understanding rather than
judgment.

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And I think that that's so important
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If you flip it around and it's you being
criticized or judged for being where you

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are in your life or making a decision or
you know whether it's accepting or leaving

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a job or renegotiating the terms of a
contract or you know a decision to grow

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your family or that your family is
complete.

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Whatever that is, that draws a lot of talk
and a lot of outside nonsense.

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And ultimately, what matters is what you
and your partner feel is best for your

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family.

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And so I'm going to talk like I'm talking
to the women, but I know a lot of husbands

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listen on here.

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And so please just flip that around to
match your situation.

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But what matters is that...

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that you guys as a family, as a husband
and wife, or if you're not married, you as

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an individual, you need to be okay with
your decision.

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You cannot live with, you know, unrest or
anger or turmoil or stress continually on

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your heart.

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And if you are, I really encourage you to
step back and...

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look at what's causing that discomfort and
kind of identify that, identify your goals

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and where you want to go.

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And you know, really just get clear on
that direction and figure out your next

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step.

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And a lot of times our anxieties are
caused by the lack of action or that kind

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of goes hand in hand with feeling trapped
or feeling stifled.

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And if we're not able to live up to...

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what we know we're capable of, this kind
of, this is not in a prideful way, but

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like the standard we've set for ourselves,
then that begins to feel kind of

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suffocating sometimes.

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And that's not a healthy way to live.

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And if you're feeling that way with your
job or with some kind of circumstance that

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you have happening, I really...

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encourage you to zoom out and dissect that
a little bit, dig into what's causing

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that.

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And sometimes it's a mental block on our
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And all we need is a perspective shift
there.

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And that can clear up a lot of that.

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But there are also a lot of extenuating
circumstances that we as humans tend to

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deal with because society says that we
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And the easiest example for me to share
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is the job situation and again this
applies over through every fiber of life

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We're not meant to work all day away from
our families, come home, we see our kids

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for a couple hours maybe before bedtime,
and then go to sleep, and then wake up and

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do it all again.

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And if that works for you, that's cool.

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If that makes you happy and gives you that
joy and that fulfillment, that's awesome.

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And I am not judging that at all.

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I am also, I want to be really clear right
here, I am not...

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Peyton on nine to fives.

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Because you have to do what you have to do
to take care of your family.

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But amid all of that, if you're just kind
of stuck in that tunnel vision, there's a

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way to look beyond that and to step out of
that and you don't have to do that

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forever.

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And...

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If you're not completely satisfied with
what your current circumstances are, use

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them as a stepping stone to get where you
want to be.

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Don't settle for that being your forever.

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We only have one life.

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We only have one, you know, one family,
one chance at raising our kids, one chance

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at building something with our husbands,
you guys, like, I don't know about you, my

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husband's my best friend.

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And...

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There are so many things that we want to
accomplish and build together.

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There's so much joy in building and
creating.

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And that goes, that looks like however,
however you want that to look.

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From building your family, to building
businesses, to making nice horses.

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You can sector that down into...

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in the tiny little fragments, but...

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Life is not meant for you to be unhappy.

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God did not design us to be miserable.

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Men are that they might have joy.

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So this is a righteous joy though, right?

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Like, and I'm not taking this a preachy
direction, but this is so much a part of

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my life, I feel it's important to talk
about that the worldly things are not

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what's gonna bring you the lasting joy.

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But part of that, it kind of weaves
together a little bit in the fact that if

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you don't get to spend time,

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with your family, are you gonna have joy?

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So what can we do in the meanwhile to
better our circumstances and therefore

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better our family circumstances?

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And then this ripple effect of when I have
joy, my family has joy, when my kids are

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joyful, my husband is joyful, everyone
around them also feels a little bit of

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that and it just ripple effects on out,
right?

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And so we have the capacity.

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to make our individual circumstances such
that we can enjoy what we're doing, be

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fulfilled, work hard.

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I'm not saying this is not going to be
easy, right?

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Like it's going to take effort.

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Everything good takes effort.

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And if you're going to put in the effort
for something, you might as well put it in

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for your family, right?

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I'm going to spend the same amount of time
working to make somebody else's dream come

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true.

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I might as well shift the direction and
make mine come true.

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Now if I have to work for somebody else
along that, along the way, that's awesome.

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There's nothing, that's currently what I'm
doing and I love it.

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I work for some great people.

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It's a great company.

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I have an awesome schedule.

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I have awesome responsibilities and I
really am enjoying what I'm doing.

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But this is a stepping stone where
simultaneously I'm building my own dream

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for my family.

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Right?

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I want to show my girls that they don't
have to live in a box.

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They can make whatever they want to do
work for them.

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They just have to have that confidence in
themselves, that belief in themselves and

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in what they're doing and the faith that
God's going to help them get there.

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And I want to model that.

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them.

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Right?

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So that's what I'm doing.

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And the more, you know, the more we can do
this in an affluent way, I love that word

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affluent, and I'm not gonna get off into
that right now because that's a whole

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other deal, but when we can live our lives
like this in affluence, meaning there is

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enough of everything, there is enough
time, there is enough money,

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for me and everyone else.

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There is enough opportunity for me and
everyone else.

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When we live affluently like that, it
lifts this ceiling that I think we

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unintentionally put on ourselves.

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It kind of lifts the ceiling away and
allows us to live fully and so we can

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serve others.

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Because by me giving my family time
freedom,

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I can stop in at my friend's house and
say, hey, you know what?

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I know you're getting ready for the baby.

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Well, let me clean your kitchen.

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That's the kind of person I want to be.

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I don't know if, it's not because I love
cleaning, but it's because I love my

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friends, right?

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I want to be able to serve other people
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the hangups of, yeah, I'd really love to
come help you, but I don't have the time

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today.

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Now there are some days we are scheduled,
but we need to...

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Consciously look at creating time to be
the people we want to be So make the time

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To study the scriptures to go to church To
work on your business To spend time one

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-on -one with your kids to ride your
horses.

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Whatever it is that looks like You get to
build your life

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And I do want to speak to this too that I
understand when you've got to survive and

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you've got to pay the bills, you've got to
do what you've got to do.

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And you're a freaking rock star for doing
what you have to do.

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I just encourage you that while you're in
that time of life to look beyond and begin

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making plans.

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Because if you...

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see nothing but a brick wall in front of
you, you are never going to take that

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step.

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But if you can start dreaming and
finding...

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I'm going to bring this stat up again.

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If you spend 18 minutes a day on one
thing, you're then, you're better after a

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year, you're, I think, I think that's what
it is, after a year, you're better than 90

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% of the population in that thing.

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Because society doesn't have the
dedication and persistence and

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consistency.

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to pursue that.

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And so this is where I really love this
concept of taking where you are, looking

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at where you want to be, and adding one
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Eighteen minutes is...

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That's 18 minutes, yes.

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But if you're working an 8 hour shift, you
can find 18 minutes somewhere to...

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work on something, to pick on something
that you want to add.

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And you want to know what's cool about
this is I've kind of experimented with

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this myself over the last few years.

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And when you purposely put the effort into
creating time to better yourself in

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whatever this thing is.

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then all of a sudden you have time opening
up for yourself other places.

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You're going to find yourself within
another 18 minutes somewhere.

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And you're going to realize that we kind
of stick ourselves in this rat race of

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life.

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and suck the joy out of the things that
are supposed to bring us the most joy.

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Because you're tired from your shift at
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And you come home and sometimes all you
want is your own mind.

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I get that.

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I don't work at a daily eight hour shift,
day after day after day.

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And I still feel that way.

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That I come home and all I want is my own
thoughts for an hour.

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And you've got the kids.

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wanting to tell you about their day and
their singing songs and quoting movies and

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yelling and giggling and screaming at each
other and sometimes it's so overwhelming

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and it's like, holy moly, I just want my
own thoughts and I got tired of feeling

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that way.

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I do not want to be overwhelmed at my
children having fun.

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I want to have to to have you know,
awesome memories of their childhood and me

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at the stage of as a mom and I don't want
to feel

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those yucky negative feelings.

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And so what I did was I purposely...

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identified some things that I want to
accomplish that that give me some personal

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fulfillment and I have picked one or two
days a week depending on what it is that

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I'm working on I've picked those days a
week and I've set aside 60 to 90 minutes

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that I go to my little studio my little
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and that's what I think about.

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And then when I'm done, I go be with my
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And I'm not thinking about, you know, the
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have the time to sit down and work on this
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If you're like me, your mind's kind of
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need to take away from the joy.

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I've ended up having some of my best
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playing with my children or intentionally
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their horse.

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and I whip out my notes, jot them down
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then I can just put that away, and it's
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moment.

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And so that kind of got off a little bit,
and this is why it's rant -trampling, you

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guys, and if you're here, you'll know
that, and I hope that you appreciate it.

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But these things are also interconnected,
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step back and get clear on what it is you
want to do.

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Not only are you going to eliminate the
stress, but as you practice this, this is

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how it went for me.

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You start practicing this and what other
people think of you becomes significantly

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less important because I'm a good mom and
I'm a good wife and I'm actually pretty

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good at what I do and I can be all those
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think.

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And so that's something that I think is an
important perspective to have.

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And I'm not saying that I'm 100 % like,
yes, I'm so good at this.

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I'm actively practicing this every day
because I'm human.

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And the reason I'm sharing that is because
I want to give you maybe a little bit of

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hope and clarity.

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This is kind of a messy process.

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It's not a perfect clean cut, cut and dry
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But when we can give ourselves that space,
it's really cool because then we end up

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being able to give other people that space
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And I think that's really empowering for
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When we can look at somebody and be
genuinely happy, holy crap, they bought a

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new truck!

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How good for them!

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Like, they must be...

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They must be making some really good
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You know, wow, their job must be going
really good for them.

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I'm so happy for them.

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Now they're able to take their kids to the
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I know they've wanted to do that for a
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Isn't that a cool perspective to have?

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And when we can have that perspective with
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perspective to ourselves and vice versa.

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And as always, working on ourselves is
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the most change is going to happen
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You have to work on the inside before the
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And so likewise as we go through life
there are people that are not going to be

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as open -minded as you and that's okay.

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You do you anyways.

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You be open -minded and kind and
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for other people's successes.

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and the people that aren't quite there
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the capacity to be compassionate and open
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journey because...

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We're all on our own and it all matters
and it all makes a difference and the best

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we can do is to try to create that ripple.

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You be the person to throw that rock in
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It does have a bigger effect than you
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And so with that, I just want to thank you
all for being here.

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I hope that you got some nuggets out of
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This has been a really fun thing for me to
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And I've been talking about it with some
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And it's just, you know, we got to give
people the space to do what they're going

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to do.

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And we don't know why.

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they're making those decisions.

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We don't know what their home life is
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We don't know what struggles and trials
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brought them.

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So if she quits a job and it doesn't make
sense to you, it doesn't have to make

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sense to you.

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it we don't know we don't know other
people's circumstances and it's not our

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job to know and so with that you guys
thank you so much for being here i

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appreciate you all so much

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I'm loving having the podcast.

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I'm loving what I'm working on in behind
the scenes.

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I'm so excited to announce the second part
of this launch to you.

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This first one has been the retreat.

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Again, we were full and then one girl had
a scheduling conflict.

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So we do have a spot open currently.

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I'm recording this episode on Tuesday the
18th.

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So as of this day, I have one spot
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Amy and I have wanted to do this for a
really long time and we finally decided to

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pull the trigger and make it happen
because we want to provide this kind of

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service to other women like us.

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Amy and I have worked really hard to put
together a system to help ranch women

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cowboy gals.

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moms wherever you fit on that spectrum
navigate life in a positive mindset space

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and it's done awesome things for our
personal lives and we just we want to

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share that with all of you and so of
course that's part of where the podcast

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came from but this retreat thing has just
evolved and i am just so excited to be

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actually

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you know, having it come to fruition.

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So get on the email list for that.

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Again, part two of the launch is coming.

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It's kind of my own personal little
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I'm really excited for that.

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So that's underway.

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Anyways, you guys are awesome.

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You guys are why I'm here and love you all
and be sure to share, leave the reviews

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because those help small businesses and
podcasts so much more.

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then you can realize and just thank you
all for being here and until next time

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don't you dare cut your dowlies on that
dream.