A lot of men end up believing things like “women cheat more,” “women want sex more than men,” or “most women cheat”.
Those beliefs don’t usually come from careful analysis.
They come from pain.
I break down why these stories feel so convincing — especially for analytical, system-oriented, and neurodivergent men — and why certainty often feels safer than ambiguity after betrayal, dead bedrooms, and relationship failure.
We’ll talk about:
- why men gravitate toward black-and-white explanations
- how hidden-truth and conspiracy-style thinking sneaks into relationship beliefs
- what the data actually says about libido differences
- what long-running surveys show about infidelity
- why “women just lie on surveys” isn’t the argument people think it is
- and why flattening an entire sex into a slogan quietly keeps men stuck
This isn’t about defending women or blaming men.
It’s about understanding how the male brain copes with uncertainty — and why rigid, comforting stories often cost you more than they protect you.
What is Dad Starting Over?
Welcome to the Dad Starting Over podcast! "Starting Over" means different things to different people. It could be that you're newly divorced and starting over fresh with a new life. It could be that you're still married and wanting to hit the reset button and finally do things right within your marriage. Whatever your story may be, you're in the right place.
I'm Ralph, a.k.a DSO, the author of books including "The Dead Bedroom Fix", "Divorce Panic", "Real Talk" "Red Flags" and "REBUILD: The Complete Guide to Starting Over as a Man". You can learn more about me, my books, one-on-one coaching, and the member-only part of my site called the Brotherhood at https://helpformen.com