Dear DSO: "Wife Says She Enjoys Our Time... But Sometimes She Doesn't Orgasm"

Ralph dives into a unique and complex relationship concern that's been submitted by one of our listeners, who goes by the pseudonym "Could be worse." In this episode, Ralph tackles the anxiety and insecurity surrounding permission-based intimacy in long-term relationships, especially in the face of health-related challenges.

In our listener's scenario, his wife suffers from unspecified health issues that inhibit frequent, fulfilling intimacy. Despite this, she enjoys and permits him to "use" her between their infrequent, yet mutually satisfying sessions. This episode centers on understanding the psychological and emotional dynamics at play, including feelings of guilt, consent-based fantasies, and addressing the complexities of orgasm-related insecurity in men. Ralph delves into whether these feelings are rooted in genuine discomfort or societal pressures around sexual satisfaction.

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What is Dad Starting Over?

Welcome to the Dad Starting Over podcast! "Starting Over" means different things to different people. It could be that you're newly divorced and starting over fresh with a new life. It could be that you're still married and wanting to hit the reset button and finally do things right within your marriage. Whatever your story may be, you're in the right place.

I'm DSO, the author of books called "The Dead Bedroom Fix", "NOW WHAT?", and "Red Flags". You can learn more about me, my books, one-on-one coaching, and the member-only part of my site called the DSO Fraternity at dadstartingover.com.