No frameworks today. No five-step method. No guest. Just 25 hard truths in 25 minutes from almost 10 years of living alcohol-free and thousands of coaching conversations. At least one of these is going to follow you around for the rest of the week.
In Episode 25 of Beyond the Gray, Kari Schwear does something completely different. She drops 25 truths she's learned the hard way, one per minute, covering everything from drinking and identity to faith, marriage, loneliness, and why the most successful people are often the most empty. Some of these will make you uncomfortable. Some might make you laugh. All of them are honest.
The 25 Truths:
1. You're not hiding it as well as you think
2. You don't have a drinking problem, you have a peace problem
3. Healing starts with honesty, not confidence
4. Information has never changed your life, decisions have
5. Comparison is the cheapest excuse for staying stuck
6. The strongest people I know are willing to cry
7. Most men over 50 haven't had an honest conversation in years
8. Success doesn't solve misalignment
9. The day I stopped waiting for someone else to change my life is when my life changed
10. The best decision I ever made was the scariest one
11. Alcohol wasn't the hardest thing I gave up, identity was
12. If your morning routine takes two hours, you might be avoiding your life
13. You spend more on your car than your health
14. Prayer is the most underused resource in my life
15. People misrepresent God
16. Your calendar tells the truth about your priorities
17. The people who need help most are the best at hiding it
18. No client has ever regretted making a courageous change
19. Action creates clarity, waiting creates doubt
20. Your kids are still watching, even if they're grown
21. You can be grateful and still want more
22. You can't heal the life you're still hiding
23. Peace begins where pretending ends
24. God invited me to become who He created me to be
25. There is life beyond the gray
Bonus #26: You don't have to change everything today. You just have to stop pretending nothing needs to change.
Which one hit you the hardest? Drop it in the comments.
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What is Beyond the Gray?
You’ve built something solid. A business. A reputation. A life that looks the part.
But somewhere along the way, something started feeling off.
Not broken. Not a crisis. Just… not right.
Maybe the drinking has become more of a habit than you'd like to admit.
Maybe the marriage is stable but not exactly alive.
Maybe you're still driven, but the fire feels different.
You're functioning at a high level — and wondering why that still isn't enough.
Beyond the Gray explores the gray areas of life that successful people rarely talk about — including gray area drinking, midlife identity shifts, relationships, faith, health, and purpose.
Host Kari Schwear, founder of GrayTonic, helps business owners, leaders, and high-achievers understand what’s driving their habits, reconnect with what actually matters, and lead their lives with the same intention they bring to their work.
This isn’t a sobriety podcast.
And there are no labels here.
Just clarity, honesty, and conversations most people are too busy performing to have.
While many of Kari’s clients are men over 50 navigating these transitions, the ideas explored here resonate with anyone ready to move beyond the gray.
New episodes every Tuesday.