1 01:00:01,250 --> 01:00:04,125 Good morning and 2 01:00:04,125 --> 01:00:06,583 welcome to Morning Cereal. 3 01:00:11,833 --> 01:00:13,000 Okay good morning and 4 01:00:13,000 --> 01:00:13,875 welcome to Thursday. 5 01:00:14,333 --> 01:00:16,916 Today is a day that says it's okay to 6 01:00:16,916 --> 01:00:18,541 change your mind and your 7 01:00:18,541 --> 01:00:20,125 tattoos because it's National 8 01:00:20,125 --> 01:00:22,541 Tattoo Removal Day, which it's funny 9 01:00:22,541 --> 01:00:23,666 because this is observed 10 01:00:23,666 --> 01:00:26,208 exactly 30 days after National 11 01:00:26,291 --> 01:00:29,458 Tattoo Day because apparently your bold 12 01:00:29,458 --> 01:00:30,958 millennial ink it deserves 13 01:00:30,958 --> 01:00:32,666 a 30-day cool down period 14 01:00:33,041 --> 01:00:34,125 before you can undo it. 15 01:00:34,125 --> 01:00:36,083 I mean hey if it's okay for Pete Davidson 16 01:00:36,083 --> 01:00:37,166 to have some regrets 17 01:00:37,166 --> 01:00:38,458 well we'll go ahead and 18 01:00:38,458 --> 01:00:39,583 let you have a pass too. 19 01:00:39,833 --> 01:00:40,250 No regrets. 20 01:00:41,166 --> 01:00:43,125 And now for our quote today someone with 21 01:00:43,125 --> 01:00:45,500 some laser focus wit Steve 22 01:00:45,500 --> 01:00:47,250 Martin said quote, "Thankfully 23 01:00:47,250 --> 01:00:48,750 persistence is a great 24 01:00:48,750 --> 01:00:50,208 substitute for talent." 25 01:00:50,666 --> 01:00:52,833 Let that settle into your noodle right? 26 01:00:53,250 --> 01:00:54,291 You don't need to be 27 01:00:54,291 --> 01:00:55,625 predigiously talented. 28 01:00:56,208 --> 01:00:57,333 Sticktootiveness can 29 01:00:57,333 --> 01:00:59,375 still get you remarkably far. 30 01:01:00,000 --> 01:01:01,500 Alright today's news facts and birthdays 31 01:01:01,500 --> 01:01:03,166 are for August 14th. 32 01:01:03,166 --> 01:01:04,500 We're going to start back in 1945. 33 01:01:05,291 --> 01:01:06,708 That is when VJ Day. 34 01:01:07,208 --> 01:01:09,666 This was the day that the Empire of Japan 35 01:01:09,666 --> 01:01:12,250 surrendered unconditionally to the Allies 36 01:01:12,375 --> 01:01:13,708 ending World War II. 37 01:01:14,250 --> 01:01:16,875 Then moving up to 1987 rookie Mark 38 01:01:16,875 --> 01:01:18,333 Maguire, gosh that seems 39 01:01:18,333 --> 01:01:20,083 not that long ago, well he 40 01:01:20,125 --> 01:01:22,500 smashed his 49th home run of the season 41 01:01:22,500 --> 01:01:25,125 setting a then rookie record. 42 01:01:25,500 --> 01:01:28,583 Then finally in 1995, Battle of the Brit 43 01:01:28,583 --> 01:01:31,000 Pop, rival bands Oasis, 44 01:01:31,541 --> 01:01:33,416 Roll With It and Blur Country 45 01:01:33,458 --> 01:01:35,208 House they both released 46 01:01:35,208 --> 01:01:37,000 singles on the same day. 47 01:01:37,250 --> 01:01:38,958 Those crazy, crazy Brits. 48 01:01:39,291 --> 01:01:40,375 Well happy birthday to you 49 01:01:40,375 --> 01:01:41,625 if today is your birthday. 50 01:01:41,625 --> 01:01:43,791 You share a birthday with actress Mila 51 01:01:43,791 --> 01:01:45,250 Kunis she's 42 today, 52 01:01:45,666 --> 01:01:47,041 actress Halle Berry she's 53 01:01:47,041 --> 01:01:48,166 59 today. 54 01:01:48,666 --> 01:01:50,000 All the famed basketball player Magic 55 01:01:50,000 --> 01:01:52,625 Johnson 66 today and 56 01:01:52,625 --> 01:01:55,708 comedian, actor and someone I 57 01:01:55,708 --> 01:01:56,791 do wish I was friends with 58 01:01:56,791 --> 01:01:58,791 Steve Martin he's 80 today. 59 01:01:59,541 --> 01:02:01,500 Now the number one song on this date in 60 01:02:01,500 --> 01:02:04,875 1988 was Roll With It by Steve Winwood. 61 01:02:05,416 --> 01:02:07,625 Now this head bop and groove it rode the 62 01:02:07,625 --> 01:02:08,625 charts with smooth 63 01:02:08,625 --> 01:02:10,541 keyboard riffs and irresistible 64 01:02:10,833 --> 01:02:11,208 rhythm. 65 01:02:11,208 --> 01:02:14,416 It became an 80s radio mainstay and it's 66 01:02:14,416 --> 01:02:15,333 still a nostalgic 67 01:02:15,333 --> 01:02:16,791 touchdown dance for our generation. 68 01:02:17,458 --> 01:02:18,500 And just like that we're going to go 69 01:02:18,500 --> 01:02:19,291 ahead and roll from 70 01:02:19,291 --> 01:02:20,916 rhythm into resilience right 71 01:02:20,916 --> 01:02:22,791 because it's time to dig into habit five 72 01:02:22,791 --> 01:02:24,458 officially in habit five now 73 01:02:24,458 --> 01:02:26,291 character and communication. 74 01:02:26,833 --> 01:02:29,708 Okay, habit five centers on the idea that 75 01:02:29,708 --> 01:02:30,583 trust isn't built by 76 01:02:30,583 --> 01:02:32,000 just what you say, but 77 01:02:32,375 --> 01:02:33,791 how you say it and who 78 01:02:33,791 --> 01:02:35,500 you are when you say it. 79 01:02:35,500 --> 01:02:37,541 Kobi reminds us saying quote trust is 80 01:02:37,541 --> 01:02:39,000 created by two dimensions of 81 01:02:39,000 --> 01:02:40,541 communication, character 82 01:02:40,833 --> 01:02:43,083 and competence end quote and that means 83 01:02:43,083 --> 01:02:46,000 being both skillful and grounded. 84 01:02:46,500 --> 01:02:48,750 Kobi emphasizes the cornerstone of 85 01:02:48,750 --> 01:02:50,500 communication saying again 86 01:02:50,500 --> 01:02:52,583 quote seek first to understand 87 01:02:53,041 --> 01:02:54,791 then to be understood end quote. 88 01:02:55,375 --> 01:02:56,416 It's empathy, it's not 89 01:02:56,416 --> 01:02:57,750 ego that opens doors. 90 01:02:58,250 --> 01:02:59,875 Remember early workplace water cooler 91 01:02:59,875 --> 01:03:02,000 moments or awkward family dinners. 92 01:03:02,458 --> 01:03:04,000 I mean how much smoother could things 93 01:03:04,000 --> 01:03:05,000 have gone if someone just 94 01:03:05,000 --> 01:03:06,250 pause for a minute, they 95 01:03:06,375 --> 01:03:08,833 listen and heard the other person before 96 01:03:08,833 --> 01:03:10,083 launching into their defense. 97 01:03:10,916 --> 01:03:13,250 Next Kobi dives into integrity again 98 01:03:13,250 --> 01:03:14,458 here, living your 99 01:03:14,458 --> 01:03:15,791 values and letting that shine 100 01:03:15,791 --> 01:03:16,875 through in conversation. 101 01:03:17,666 --> 01:03:19,416 Kobi writes that effective communicators 102 01:03:19,416 --> 01:03:20,750 quote don't make their 103 01:03:20,750 --> 01:03:22,750 actions conflict with abstract 104 01:03:22,791 --> 01:03:23,958 principles end quote. 105 01:03:24,416 --> 01:03:25,583 In other words, if you 106 01:03:25,583 --> 01:03:27,875 promise I'll be there, be there. 107 01:03:28,416 --> 01:03:30,541 Our generation knows all about saying I'm 108 01:03:30,541 --> 01:03:31,875 on my way when we 109 01:03:31,875 --> 01:03:33,416 weren't on our ways, sometimes 110 01:03:33,416 --> 01:03:34,708 even to ourselves right. 111 01:03:35,125 --> 01:03:37,458 So align your words with your walk 112 01:03:37,458 --> 01:03:39,791 credibility grows when they match. 113 01:03:40,541 --> 01:03:42,916 Kobi also clarifies competence, knowing 114 01:03:42,916 --> 01:03:44,833 your stuff matters but 115 01:03:44,833 --> 01:03:46,458 without character competence 116 01:03:46,958 --> 01:03:49,375 can slide into arrogance right and 117 01:03:49,375 --> 01:03:50,750 conversely character without 118 01:03:50,750 --> 01:03:52,375 competence might come across 119 01:03:52,375 --> 01:03:53,500 as empty virtue. 120 01:03:54,000 --> 01:03:56,166 The magic lies in the balance of those. 121 01:03:56,500 --> 01:03:58,958 Okay putting this into practice, start 122 01:03:58,958 --> 01:04:00,833 small in work calls, 123 01:04:00,833 --> 01:04:01,875 start with a check in. 124 01:04:01,875 --> 01:04:02,583 How was your day? 125 01:04:02,583 --> 01:04:04,416 I want to understand your workload or in 126 01:04:04,416 --> 01:04:05,916 family chats actually listen 127 01:04:05,916 --> 01:04:07,791 to the team before offering 128 01:04:08,041 --> 01:04:08,416 advice. 129 01:04:09,041 --> 01:04:09,791 Even if they're 130 01:04:09,791 --> 01:04:10,958 rolling their eyes at you. 131 01:04:11,375 --> 01:04:14,750 Now over time this rewiring grows trust 132 01:04:14,750 --> 01:04:16,583 and trust is the superglue 133 01:04:16,583 --> 01:04:18,250 of all these relationships. 134 01:04:18,791 --> 01:04:20,083 All right here's your takeaway. 135 01:04:20,541 --> 01:04:22,583 Habit five teaches us that communication 136 01:04:22,583 --> 01:04:24,333 isn't just about being 137 01:04:24,333 --> 01:04:26,000 heard, it's about being trusted. 138 01:04:26,666 --> 01:04:29,291 Combine character with competence, listen 139 01:04:29,291 --> 01:04:31,083 first and watch how your 140 01:04:31,083 --> 01:04:32,125 connections look deeper. 141 01:04:32,625 --> 01:04:34,833 Whether that's with your kid, with your 142 01:04:34,833 --> 01:04:36,291 partner or even with 143 01:04:36,291 --> 01:04:37,666 your stubborn inner voice. 144 01:04:38,250 --> 01:04:40,166 All right well whether you're actually or 145 01:04:40,166 --> 01:04:42,291 metaphorically removing old regrets like 146 01:04:42,333 --> 01:04:44,916 beta tattoos or just rolling with 147 01:04:44,916 --> 01:04:46,000 whatever life throws at 148 01:04:46,000 --> 01:04:47,791 you today, do it with grit, 149 01:04:48,000 --> 01:04:49,375 do it with grace and maybe 150 01:04:49,375 --> 01:04:50,916 a little Steve Martin win. 151 01:04:51,375 --> 01:04:53,583 Hey thanks for tuning in this Friday Eve. 152 01:04:53,583 --> 01:04:55,125 Come back tomorrow for your daily dose of 153 01:04:55,125 --> 01:04:55,833 nostalgia and 154 01:04:55,833 --> 01:04:57,833 motivation and have a fantastic 155 01:04:58,125 --> 01:04:58,291 day. 156 01:04:59,500 --> 01:05:01,333 Don't forget to follow and subscribe to 157 01:05:01,333 --> 01:05:01,958 the Morning Serial 158 01:05:01,958 --> 01:05:04,041 Podcast on the One Life Live 159 01:05:04,041 --> 01:05:04,500 It channel. 160 01:05:05,166 --> 01:05:07,000 You can 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