How Being Needy Can Make You More Attractive

If you want to be attractive, they say don't be needy. But this is bad advice. It's not neediness that makes you unattractive; it's neurotic validation. This video discusses the crucial but often misunderstood distinction between men seeking validation and being needy. The speaker debates the commonly held belief that seeking external validation signifies weakness and neediness, arguing instead that it's an inherent human tendency. The speaker emphasizes the importance of providing appreciation, respect, and valuing one's partner for long-term relationship flourishing. The video thus offers insight into men's emotional needs in relationships, the essence of validating and being validated, and strategies for addressing feelings of unappreciation.

What is The Way of The Confident Husband - Chuck Chapman, M.A.?

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