1 01:00:00,500 --> 01:00:02,750 Good morning and 2 01:00:02,750 --> 01:00:04,666 welcome to Morning Syria. 3 01:00:09,250 --> 01:00:10,333 Okay, good morning and 4 01:00:10,333 --> 01:00:11,541 welcome to Wednesday. 5 01:00:12,041 --> 01:00:13,666 Good news people, it is 6 01:00:13,666 --> 01:00:15,083 all downhill from here. 7 01:00:15,416 --> 01:00:17,041 And today we recognize 8 01:00:17,041 --> 01:00:18,875 National Make a Friend Day. 9 01:00:18,875 --> 01:00:20,125 So prepare yourself 10 01:00:20,125 --> 01:00:21,500 mentally to get out there 11 01:00:21,500 --> 01:00:23,000 and smile at someone or 12 01:00:23,000 --> 01:00:24,666 maybe buy someone a coffee. 13 01:00:25,083 --> 01:00:26,125 Just remember this, 14 01:00:26,500 --> 01:00:27,541 friends are the family 15 01:00:27,750 --> 01:00:29,666 that we actually get to choose. 16 01:00:30,375 --> 01:00:31,291 All right, here is 17 01:00:31,291 --> 01:00:32,833 yesterday's trivia answer. 18 01:00:33,958 --> 01:00:37,458 Greenwich, as in the greenwich mean time. 19 01:00:37,833 --> 01:00:39,041 It's not a fancy sandwich. 20 01:00:39,041 --> 01:00:41,166 That's what the G stands for in GMT. 21 01:00:42,083 --> 01:00:44,083 All right, now the essential vitamins 22 01:00:44,083 --> 01:00:45,583 in your morning cereal. 23 01:00:45,583 --> 01:00:46,708 Today's quote is from 24 01:00:46,708 --> 01:00:49,125 birthday girl turning 56 today, 25 01:00:49,791 --> 01:00:51,958 Jennifer Aniston, who said, quote, 26 01:00:52,291 --> 01:00:53,125 "There are no regrets 27 01:00:53,125 --> 01:00:55,166 in life, just lessons." 28 01:00:55,333 --> 01:00:56,916 Now, our friend 29 01:00:56,916 --> 01:00:58,666 Jennifer is right here, right? 30 01:00:59,000 --> 01:01:00,041 Negative experiences, 31 01:01:00,041 --> 01:01:02,000 mistakes, and failed attempts 32 01:01:02,166 --> 01:01:03,250 should be viewed as 33 01:01:03,250 --> 01:01:05,000 opportunities for growth 34 01:01:05,333 --> 01:01:07,958 rather than sources of shame or guilt. 35 01:01:08,458 --> 01:01:09,875 All right, well, let's go 36 01:01:09,875 --> 01:01:10,958 ahead and hear from the experts. 37 01:01:11,333 --> 01:01:12,750 Now it is time to pour in some 38 01:01:13,166 --> 01:01:14,958 The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins. 39 01:01:15,291 --> 01:01:17,041 And today's chapter has one 40 01:01:17,041 --> 01:01:18,916 of the most jarring titles 41 01:01:19,208 --> 01:01:20,375 in the entire book. 42 01:01:20,375 --> 01:01:23,250 Here it is, They Don't Like You, Wake Up. 43 01:01:24,041 --> 01:01:25,125 And while that might 44 01:01:25,125 --> 01:01:26,791 sound harsh at first, 45 01:01:27,416 --> 01:01:28,333 Mel delivers it with 46 01:01:28,333 --> 01:01:29,500 clarity and compassion 47 01:01:29,708 --> 01:01:31,291 and a whole lot of freedom 48 01:01:31,291 --> 01:01:32,750 on the other side, all right? 49 01:01:32,750 --> 01:01:34,083 So stick with us on this one. 50 01:01:34,500 --> 01:01:35,833 This chapter is all about 51 01:01:35,833 --> 01:01:37,583 releasing the exhausting need 52 01:01:37,583 --> 01:01:39,541 to be liked, approved of, 53 01:01:39,541 --> 01:01:41,541 or validated by everyone around you. 54 01:01:42,458 --> 01:01:43,500 Mel explains that most 55 01:01:43,500 --> 01:01:44,500 people don't struggle 56 01:01:44,541 --> 01:01:45,916 because they're unlovable. 57 01:01:46,416 --> 01:01:47,250 They struggle because 58 01:01:47,250 --> 01:01:48,625 they keep chasing people 59 01:01:48,625 --> 01:01:50,875 who have already made it clear they're 60 01:01:50,875 --> 01:01:51,541 just not interested. 61 01:01:52,375 --> 01:01:53,458 As she writes, quote, 62 01:01:53,458 --> 01:01:54,958 "When someone doesn't like you, 63 01:01:55,000 --> 01:01:57,000 that's information, it's not an 64 01:01:57,000 --> 01:01:58,500 emergency," end quote. 65 01:01:59,000 --> 01:02:00,875 So she points out how much 66 01:02:00,875 --> 01:02:02,833 time and emotional energy 67 01:02:02,833 --> 01:02:05,666 that we waste trying to win people over, 68 01:02:06,333 --> 01:02:08,041 co-workers who don't respect us, 69 01:02:08,500 --> 01:02:10,541 friends who barely reciprocate, right? 70 01:02:11,333 --> 01:02:12,083 Romantic interests 71 01:02:12,083 --> 01:02:13,458 who send mixed signals. 72 01:02:14,041 --> 01:02:15,291 Mel's message is simple 73 01:02:15,291 --> 01:02:16,833 here, but it's powerful. 74 01:02:17,541 --> 01:02:19,500 Stop chasing clarity from 75 01:02:19,500 --> 01:02:21,416 people who have already given you 76 01:02:21,833 --> 01:02:22,958 an answer through the 77 01:02:22,958 --> 01:02:24,541 way that they behave, okay? 78 01:02:25,250 --> 01:02:26,125 One of the strongest 79 01:02:26,125 --> 01:02:27,500 lines here in this chapter 80 01:02:27,500 --> 01:02:28,916 is when Mel says this, quote, 81 01:02:29,291 --> 01:02:32,916 "This interest is not a challenge, it's a 82 01:02:32,916 --> 01:02:34,333 boundary," end quote. 83 01:02:34,333 --> 01:02:35,500 So that line, it 84 01:02:35,500 --> 01:02:37,833 refrains rejection entirely. 85 01:02:38,333 --> 01:02:39,416 Instead of seeing it as 86 01:02:39,416 --> 01:02:41,333 something to overcome or fix, 87 01:02:41,833 --> 01:02:44,125 she invites us to see it as a signal, 88 01:02:44,291 --> 01:02:46,666 pointing us toward people and spaces 89 01:02:47,125 --> 01:02:49,375 where we actually belong, right? 90 01:02:49,791 --> 01:02:52,000 Mel also emphasizes that not being liked 91 01:02:52,041 --> 01:02:53,750 doesn't mean you did something wrong, 92 01:02:53,750 --> 01:02:55,083 it means you're human. 93 01:02:55,708 --> 01:02:56,541 Personalities clash, 94 01:02:56,791 --> 01:02:59,000 values differ, seasons change, 95 01:02:59,500 --> 01:03:01,000 and trying to contort yourself 96 01:03:01,000 --> 01:03:03,208 to fit into places you don't belong, 97 01:03:03,625 --> 01:03:04,958 well, it only leads to 98 01:03:04,958 --> 01:03:06,791 resentment and burnout, right? 99 01:03:07,083 --> 01:03:08,541 As she bluntly puts it, quote, 100 01:03:08,541 --> 01:03:10,291 "You don't need closure, you need 101 01:03:10,291 --> 01:03:11,541 clarity," end quote. 102 01:03:12,125 --> 01:03:14,750 So this chapter is deeply freeing 103 01:03:14,833 --> 01:03:16,541 because it gives permission to stop 104 01:03:16,541 --> 01:03:17,666 explaining yourself, 105 01:03:18,125 --> 01:03:19,625 stop auditioning, and 106 01:03:19,625 --> 01:03:21,625 stop softening your edges 107 01:03:21,833 --> 01:03:23,541 to make other people comfortable. 108 01:03:24,125 --> 01:03:25,833 When you let them not like 109 01:03:25,833 --> 01:03:27,708 you, you reclaim your time, 110 01:03:27,708 --> 01:03:28,375 you reclaim your 111 01:03:28,375 --> 01:03:29,833 confidence and your peace. 112 01:03:30,541 --> 01:03:31,791 Mel is reminding us that 113 01:03:31,791 --> 01:03:33,541 authenticity is a filter. 114 01:03:33,875 --> 01:03:36,166 The more real you are, the more clearly 115 01:03:36,291 --> 01:03:37,666 people will self-select 116 01:03:37,666 --> 01:03:39,583 in or out of your life, 117 01:03:39,833 --> 01:03:40,875 and that's a good thing. 118 01:03:41,208 --> 01:03:43,083 You don't need to be liked by everyone, 119 01:03:43,083 --> 01:03:44,250 you just need to be 120 01:03:44,250 --> 01:03:45,875 aligned with yourself. 121 01:03:46,833 --> 01:03:48,208 All right, here it is, everyone. 122 01:03:48,625 --> 01:03:49,958 Your hump day takeaway 123 01:03:49,958 --> 01:03:52,541 is stop chasing approval. 124 01:03:53,041 --> 01:03:53,666 When someone doesn't 125 01:03:53,666 --> 01:03:54,833 choose you, let them. 126 01:03:55,458 --> 01:03:56,833 Choose yourself instead. 127 01:03:57,666 --> 01:03:59,333 All right, cereal is 128 01:03:59,333 --> 01:04:00,500 nearly finished here. 129 01:04:01,083 --> 01:04:03,250 Courage has been restored, so go forth 130 01:04:03,333 --> 01:04:05,708 and take on the day with renewed energy. 131 01:04:06,000 --> 01:04:07,500 But first, the prize from 132 01:04:07,500 --> 01:04:09,000 the bottom of the cereal box, 133 01:04:09,541 --> 01:04:10,666 morning cereal trivia 134 01:04:10,666 --> 01:04:11,916 question of the day. 135 01:04:11,916 --> 01:04:12,500 Here it is. 136 01:04:13,208 --> 01:04:15,041 What empire was led 137 01:04:15,041 --> 01:04:17,000 by Alexander the Great? 138 01:04:17,833 --> 01:04:19,375 All right, hey, thanks for listening to 139 01:04:19,375 --> 01:04:20,291 Morning Cereal today. 140 01:04:20,291 --> 01:04:21,666 We will see you back here tomorrow 141 01:04:21,833 --> 01:04:23,208 for the answer to the trivia question 142 01:04:23,416 --> 01:04:25,500 and more sugar for the soul. 143 01:04:25,791 --> 01:04:28,666 And until then, have a fantastic day. 144 01:04:43,208 --> 01:04:45,125 You can also follow our other podcast, 145 01:04:45,500 --> 01:04:46,666 the Mr. and Mrs. English podcast 146 01:04:47,208 --> 01:04:48,375 and the Life Happens podcast. 147 01:04:49,208 --> 01:04:51,333 And these other podcasts will dive deeper 148 01:04:51,333 --> 01:04:53,291 into everyday issues, self-improvement, 149 01:04:53,291 --> 01:04:54,875 and well-being, business and finance, 150 01:04:55,375 --> 01:04:57,041 and we welcome special guests too. 151 01:04:57,541 --> 01:04:58,625 So join us, it'll be a 152 01:04:58,625 --> 01:04:59,583 good time, I promise. 153 01:05:00,291 --> 01:05:00,833 Thanks again for 154 01:05:00,833 --> 01:05:02,500 listening, have a fantastic day, 155 01:05:02,833 --> 01:05:03,500 and we'll see you tomorrow.