1 01:00:00,000 --> 01:00:03,708 [MUSIC] 2 01:00:05,250 --> 01:00:06,500 Do you think you'd be 3 01:00:06,500 --> 01:00:08,791 interested in doing a podcast with me? 4 01:00:09,000 --> 01:00:11,208 I mean, it's laughable. 5 01:00:11,666 --> 01:00:12,041 No. 6 01:00:12,625 --> 01:00:13,458 Like and subscribe. 7 01:00:14,041 --> 01:00:15,125 But you're lame. 8 01:00:15,500 --> 01:00:16,750 I'm not gonna do the time of day. 9 01:00:17,583 --> 01:00:19,333 Oh, you think this is how you just waited 10 01:00:19,333 --> 01:00:20,500 for 30 year old Megan? 11 01:00:21,000 --> 01:00:21,958 Could not have done that. 12 01:00:22,291 --> 01:00:23,000 It's meant to have happened. 13 01:00:23,000 --> 01:00:24,125 I think football is made for snacking. 14 01:00:25,041 --> 01:00:25,791 You've got to sleep for napping. 15 01:00:26,166 --> 01:00:26,375 Yes. 16 01:00:27,291 --> 01:00:28,250 The whole point of the sports. 17 01:00:28,541 --> 01:00:28,916 You bet. 18 01:00:29,000 --> 01:00:29,916 You're a 40-degree. 19 01:00:31,000 --> 01:00:33,250 You're like 50-50 yoga and more. 20 01:00:33,250 --> 01:00:33,708 50-50 yoga. 21 01:00:34,375 --> 01:00:34,958 I am a female. 22 01:00:35,708 --> 01:00:36,083 That's crazy. 23 01:00:36,625 --> 01:00:36,958 Insane. 24 01:00:37,250 --> 01:00:38,458 We all know who that person is. 25 01:00:38,458 --> 01:00:39,333 We all have one of those. 26 01:00:39,500 --> 01:00:40,916 The stupid of juggernaut has been the 27 01:00:40,916 --> 01:00:41,958 term I've been talking about. 28 01:00:42,166 --> 01:00:43,166 Your job will be posted 29 01:00:43,166 --> 01:00:44,166 before you're obituary. 30 01:00:44,583 --> 01:00:46,500 Money has nothing to do with happiness. 31 01:00:46,500 --> 01:00:46,666 No. 32 01:00:46,916 --> 01:00:47,750 I'll get to that one later. 33 01:00:48,000 --> 01:00:48,166 Yeah. 34 01:00:48,166 --> 01:00:49,833 Whether that's healthy or not, Tonya. 35 01:00:50,083 --> 01:00:51,166 We basically work 36 01:00:51,166 --> 01:00:53,083 anytime we are not at soccer. 37 01:00:53,791 --> 01:00:54,541 [LAUGHTER] 38 01:00:54,541 --> 01:00:55,125 Four track. 39 01:00:55,750 --> 01:00:56,916 Episode 43, In the Books. 40 01:00:57,166 --> 01:00:57,583 In the Books. 41 01:00:58,000 --> 01:00:59,000 So here we go. 42 01:00:59,000 --> 01:00:59,458 Chow, chow. 43 01:01:00,041 --> 01:01:00,333 Nailed it. 44 01:01:01,000 --> 01:01:01,541 Nailed it. 45 01:01:01,541 --> 01:01:02,625 Welcome to the Mr. and 46 01:01:02,625 --> 01:01:03,500 Mrs. English Podcast. 47 01:01:04,000 --> 01:01:04,375 I'm Megan. 48 01:01:04,791 --> 01:01:05,375 And I'm Sean. 49 01:01:05,625 --> 01:01:07,625 We're here to talk about the wild ride of 50 01:01:07,625 --> 01:01:09,958 raising kids and growing careers, keeping 51 01:01:10,000 --> 01:01:10,833 life together in the 52 01:01:10,833 --> 01:01:11,833 middle of all the chaos. 53 01:01:12,583 --> 01:01:14,875 So buckle up because we're all in this 54 01:01:14,875 --> 01:01:16,208 crazy journey together. 55 01:01:17,916 --> 01:01:20,166 La, la, land, bippity, boppity. 56 01:01:20,833 --> 01:01:21,041 Boo. 57 01:01:21,541 --> 01:01:21,750 Boo. 58 01:01:22,416 --> 01:01:23,083 Here we go. 59 01:01:23,583 --> 01:01:24,083 I know. 60 01:01:24,666 --> 01:01:25,666 Episode 43, hun. 61 01:01:27,000 --> 01:01:29,708 Last year this time, did you ever think 62 01:01:29,708 --> 01:01:31,000 you'd be doing an episode? 63 01:01:31,000 --> 01:01:32,750 I mean, we had not considered doing a 64 01:01:32,750 --> 01:01:34,791 podcast and now we're on episode 43. 65 01:01:35,500 --> 01:01:35,666 43. 66 01:01:36,125 --> 01:01:36,750 No, no. 67 01:01:37,000 --> 01:01:37,916 I mean, I don't know 68 01:01:37,916 --> 01:01:40,000 that I thought about that. 69 01:01:40,208 --> 01:01:42,083 Although I'm trying to think like when 70 01:01:42,083 --> 01:01:43,166 was it last year that 71 01:01:43,166 --> 01:01:45,333 we started to think about 72 01:01:45,333 --> 01:01:46,416 it? 73 01:01:46,416 --> 01:01:49,333 It had to have been around this time. 74 01:01:50,000 --> 01:01:50,208 Yeah. 75 01:01:50,458 --> 01:01:54,291 I mean, it wasn't until after Christmas 76 01:01:54,291 --> 01:01:56,750 that it really kind of 77 01:01:56,750 --> 01:01:58,458 took shape, I think, because 78 01:01:58,458 --> 01:02:00,000 I was working on morning cereal just 79 01:02:00,000 --> 01:02:01,500 thinking because I've had 80 01:02:01,500 --> 01:02:03,083 those people that don't know 81 01:02:03,083 --> 01:02:04,375 I've had a bit of a career change. 82 01:02:05,375 --> 01:02:07,875 I've kind of retired from baking and I've 83 01:02:07,875 --> 01:02:08,666 been chasing dreams 84 01:02:08,666 --> 01:02:09,625 that I've always wanted 85 01:02:09,625 --> 01:02:10,875 to do something I'm passionate about. 86 01:02:11,166 --> 01:02:12,916 And I'm loving it. 87 01:02:12,916 --> 01:02:14,291 I haven't looked back one second. 88 01:02:14,500 --> 01:02:15,375 It's been exciting. 89 01:02:17,208 --> 01:02:18,625 But kind of in the midst of finding that 90 01:02:18,625 --> 01:02:21,416 pathway and what I want to do, I've had a 91 01:02:21,416 --> 01:02:25,000 little bit of that just I've got, what do 92 01:02:25,000 --> 01:02:25,750 you want to call it? 93 01:02:26,500 --> 01:02:28,875 A side to me that likes to create. 94 01:02:29,833 --> 01:02:31,041 Yeah, I've got a creative side to me. 95 01:02:31,041 --> 01:02:31,791 That's the easy way to say it. 96 01:02:31,791 --> 01:02:32,166 For sure. 97 01:02:32,541 --> 01:02:32,750 Yeah. 98 01:02:33,166 --> 01:02:36,083 Whether it's making logos and artistic. 99 01:02:38,083 --> 01:02:38,500 We talked about it a 100 01:02:38,500 --> 01:02:39,375 little bit last week. 101 01:02:39,375 --> 01:02:41,083 I had this whole thing of like somewhere 102 01:02:41,083 --> 01:02:41,791 inside of me, I was like, 103 01:02:41,791 --> 01:02:42,583 "Oh, I can be an actor." 104 01:02:42,583 --> 01:02:43,791 I do not want to be an actor. 105 01:02:44,500 --> 01:02:46,958 I do not want to be a, my intent is not 106 01:02:46,958 --> 01:02:48,500 to be a podcast, we're a YouTuber. 107 01:02:48,958 --> 01:02:50,666 But I thought this was something that 108 01:02:50,666 --> 01:02:52,041 might be able to get out 109 01:02:52,041 --> 01:02:53,000 some of my creative juices. 110 01:02:53,541 --> 01:02:55,000 And put some good juju out there. 111 01:02:55,000 --> 01:02:55,500 That's what morning 112 01:02:55,500 --> 01:02:56,750 cereal is about to some degree. 113 01:02:57,333 --> 01:02:57,541 Totally. 114 01:02:58,250 --> 01:03:00,375 And we get a few thousand 115 01:03:00,375 --> 01:03:02,625 people a week to tune into that. 116 01:03:03,791 --> 01:03:04,625 I feel like I'm just 117 01:03:04,625 --> 01:03:06,000 putting good jujus out there. 118 01:03:06,541 --> 01:03:07,458 It's just a good message. 119 01:03:07,458 --> 01:03:08,041 It's fun. 120 01:03:08,041 --> 01:03:09,916 It's lighthearted for the most part. 121 01:03:12,208 --> 01:03:15,083 And so that kind of came up, right? 122 01:03:15,083 --> 01:03:15,583 When I was like, 123 01:03:15,583 --> 01:03:16,708 "Well, what do I want to do? 124 01:03:16,708 --> 01:03:17,583 Here's the things I like. 125 01:03:17,583 --> 01:03:17,916 Here's some of the 126 01:03:17,916 --> 01:03:19,041 things I think I would enjoy." 127 01:03:20,041 --> 01:03:20,250 Right? 128 01:03:20,958 --> 01:03:23,166 And it kind of came up slightly, but 129 01:03:23,166 --> 01:03:25,125 surely because I was, I 130 01:03:25,125 --> 01:03:26,333 was actually scared to be 131 01:03:26,333 --> 01:03:28,875 like, "Hey, do you think you'd be 132 01:03:28,875 --> 01:03:31,166 interested in doing a podcast with me?" 133 01:03:31,166 --> 01:03:32,500 Because I honestly thought the answer 134 01:03:32,500 --> 01:03:34,791 would be to immediately be, "No." 135 01:03:36,708 --> 01:03:37,416 Not at all. 136 01:03:38,375 --> 01:03:39,125 It's funny. 137 01:03:39,500 --> 01:03:40,791 You were like approaching this. 138 01:03:40,791 --> 01:03:42,625 Like, "How do I ask a girl on a date?" 139 01:03:42,625 --> 01:03:43,500 Kind of a thing. 140 01:03:43,500 --> 01:03:45,583 Like, "I'm going to put out some feelers. 141 01:03:45,583 --> 01:03:46,916 Maybe she'll say yes. 142 01:03:46,916 --> 01:03:47,750 Maybe she'll bite." 143 01:03:47,750 --> 01:03:48,083 And then you were 144 01:03:48,083 --> 01:03:49,250 surprised when I said yes. 145 01:03:49,750 --> 01:03:50,041 Yeah. 146 01:03:50,041 --> 01:03:50,500 I mean, you were 147 01:03:50,500 --> 01:03:52,250 totally go for it though. 148 01:03:52,250 --> 01:03:53,166 I mean, it was, there 149 01:03:53,166 --> 01:03:55,125 was no talking you into it. 150 01:03:55,125 --> 01:03:55,375 No. 151 01:03:55,375 --> 01:03:56,250 It was almost as though 152 01:03:56,250 --> 01:03:57,666 you were like, I was waiting. 153 01:03:57,666 --> 01:03:59,833 I was wondering when you're going to ask. 154 01:04:00,500 --> 01:04:02,416 I'm pretty good when 155 01:04:02,416 --> 01:04:04,458 it comes to El Spico. 156 01:04:07,916 --> 01:04:08,208 Speaking. 157 01:04:09,083 --> 01:04:10,666 Speaking. 158 01:04:10,666 --> 01:04:12,500 Speaking. Speaking. Speaking. Was that Spanglish you were speaking? 159 01:04:12,958 --> 01:04:13,875 I'm not sure what it was. 160 01:04:14,208 --> 01:04:15,208 We're not sure, but that's okay. 161 01:04:16,208 --> 01:04:17,500 Yeah, no, I didn't think like, "Well, 162 01:04:17,500 --> 01:04:18,625 when were you going to ask me?" 163 01:04:18,833 --> 01:04:20,750 I was maybe surprised that 164 01:04:20,750 --> 01:04:22,208 you wanted to do it with me. 165 01:04:22,208 --> 01:04:22,791 And then it was like, 166 01:04:22,791 --> 01:04:23,916 "Well, yeah, I'd love to. 167 01:04:23,916 --> 01:04:24,875 This would be fun." 168 01:04:25,333 --> 01:04:25,583 Yeah. 169 01:04:26,166 --> 01:04:26,375 Yeah. 170 01:04:26,375 --> 01:04:27,625 A lot of our friends and family were 171 01:04:27,625 --> 01:04:29,750 like, "Oh, that would be great." 172 01:04:30,583 --> 01:04:32,000 Because I think people think 173 01:04:32,000 --> 01:04:33,458 automatically when you're 174 01:04:33,458 --> 01:04:35,166 like, we don't even tell people 175 01:04:35,166 --> 01:04:36,000 we have a podcast. 176 01:04:36,000 --> 01:04:37,458 People find it out. 177 01:04:37,666 --> 01:04:38,166 I know. 178 01:04:38,208 --> 01:04:39,750 Just slowly but surely 179 01:04:39,750 --> 01:04:40,916 through the grapevine, right? 180 01:04:40,916 --> 01:04:42,000 It's not like we've gone out and be like, 181 01:04:42,000 --> 01:04:43,500 "Hey, everybody, we've got a podcast. 182 01:04:43,958 --> 01:04:46,125 Please smash that like button." 183 01:04:46,125 --> 01:04:46,333 Yeah. 184 01:04:47,583 --> 01:04:50,833 You know, we've never advertised it. 185 01:04:51,125 --> 01:04:51,333 Right. 186 01:04:51,333 --> 01:04:52,083 Like and subscribe. 187 01:04:52,625 --> 01:04:53,250 Right, exactly. 188 01:04:53,458 --> 01:04:55,250 That is definitely us. 189 01:04:55,666 --> 01:04:56,291 Yeah. 190 01:04:56,625 --> 01:04:56,833 Yeah. 191 01:04:56,916 --> 01:04:57,083 Uh-huh. 192 01:04:57,416 --> 01:04:57,833 100%. 193 01:04:59,000 --> 01:05:01,125 You know, but when people find out, it's 194 01:05:01,125 --> 01:05:03,333 like, you know, I 195 01:05:03,333 --> 01:05:04,083 think people were surprised 196 01:05:04,083 --> 01:05:05,083 by it first off. 197 01:05:05,083 --> 01:05:05,666 I think so too. 198 01:05:06,208 --> 01:05:08,166 Secondly, you know, when they find out 199 01:05:08,166 --> 01:05:09,916 we've got one in early on, 200 01:05:09,916 --> 01:05:11,500 everybody was like, "Oh." 201 01:05:12,375 --> 01:05:14,541 Well, because my point was people think, 202 01:05:14,541 --> 01:05:15,375 "Well, you get a podcast 203 01:05:15,375 --> 01:05:16,375 because you want it to take 204 01:05:16,375 --> 01:05:17,833 off and you want to make, you know, a 205 01:05:17,833 --> 01:05:18,666 million dollars a year. 206 01:05:18,666 --> 01:05:19,541 That's what you want to do for a living." 207 01:05:20,708 --> 01:05:21,083 Great. 208 01:05:21,083 --> 01:05:22,000 If that happened, great. 209 01:05:22,000 --> 01:05:23,333 That was not the intention. 210 01:05:23,583 --> 01:05:23,791 No. 211 01:05:24,000 --> 01:05:25,291 And probably not the reality. 212 01:05:25,708 --> 01:05:26,083 Mm-hmm. 213 01:05:26,458 --> 01:05:27,541 But that's the way everybody thought 214 01:05:27,541 --> 01:05:28,500 about it at the beginning. 215 01:05:28,500 --> 01:05:29,125 It's like, "Oh, that's why 216 01:05:29,125 --> 01:05:29,958 you're doing a blah, blah, blah." 217 01:05:29,958 --> 01:05:30,833 I was like, "Oh, Megan and I 218 01:05:30,833 --> 01:05:32,458 are doing one, Mr. and Mrs." 219 01:05:33,208 --> 01:05:35,041 And they're like, "Oh, that 220 01:05:35,041 --> 01:05:36,500 one's going to be incredible. 221 01:05:37,208 --> 01:05:38,625 That's the one that's going to take off." 222 01:05:39,458 --> 01:05:40,166 You know? 223 01:05:40,166 --> 01:05:41,208 And I was like, "Do 224 01:05:41,208 --> 01:05:41,791 you know if it's taken?" 225 01:05:42,208 --> 01:05:43,541 You were like, "Thanks." 226 01:05:43,791 --> 01:05:45,875 The one I carry by myself is... 227 01:05:45,875 --> 01:05:48,666 Like, is just brushed aside. 228 01:05:48,958 --> 01:05:49,166 Yeah. 229 01:05:49,166 --> 01:05:49,583 "Bustura." 230 01:05:51,333 --> 01:05:52,333 Spanish for trash. 231 01:05:52,625 --> 01:05:53,250 Spanish for trash. 232 01:05:54,041 --> 01:05:55,500 Man, you were Spanish. 233 01:05:55,791 --> 01:05:56,916 It's just really kind of... 234 01:05:57,208 --> 01:05:57,416 Yeah. 235 01:05:58,416 --> 01:05:58,625 El Spico. 236 01:06:00,500 --> 01:06:01,750 So, anyways, I just thought that was 237 01:06:01,750 --> 01:06:02,625 funny because, you know, 238 01:06:02,625 --> 01:06:02,875 it's that kind of thing. 239 01:06:02,875 --> 01:06:03,625 That kind of thing that other 240 01:06:03,625 --> 01:06:05,166 people knew we were doing it. 241 01:06:06,708 --> 01:06:08,000 I was surprised you wanted to do it. 242 01:06:08,000 --> 01:06:10,333 I think your family doesn't talk to us 243 01:06:10,333 --> 01:06:11,041 about it, so I think they 244 01:06:11,041 --> 01:06:11,750 just don't even know what 245 01:06:11,750 --> 01:06:12,291 to do with it. 246 01:06:12,291 --> 01:06:12,666 I don't know what... 247 01:06:12,666 --> 01:06:13,458 Or they don't listen. 248 01:06:14,083 --> 01:06:15,291 Well, you know, I thought about that. 249 01:06:15,291 --> 01:06:15,708 I wouldn't... 250 01:06:16,166 --> 01:06:18,666 Let's just say one of your siblings or 251 01:06:18,666 --> 01:06:20,083 one of my siblings had a podcast. 252 01:06:21,458 --> 01:06:24,041 Honestly, I am so busy that I probably 253 01:06:24,041 --> 01:06:25,750 wouldn't take the time to listen to it. 254 01:06:25,750 --> 01:06:29,416 Not because I was like, "Oh, you're lame. 255 01:06:29,708 --> 01:06:30,291 I'm not going to give 256 01:06:30,291 --> 01:06:31,000 you the time of day." 257 01:06:32,166 --> 01:06:33,500 I actually thought about this. 258 01:06:33,875 --> 01:06:34,083 Right. 259 01:06:34,958 --> 01:06:37,500 I take zero offense that 260 01:06:37,500 --> 01:06:38,750 people close to us don't. 261 01:06:38,750 --> 01:06:39,416 I don't either. 262 01:06:39,833 --> 01:06:41,625 People, friends, sidelined people don't 263 01:06:41,625 --> 01:06:44,041 listen because, A, it's 45 minutes long. 264 01:06:44,500 --> 01:06:44,916 True. 265 01:06:45,583 --> 01:06:46,166 When do you... 266 01:06:46,166 --> 01:06:47,583 I mean, I don't have 45 minutes, do you? 267 01:06:47,583 --> 01:06:47,875 No. 268 01:06:48,125 --> 01:06:49,041 Right. 269 01:06:49,291 --> 01:06:50,583 We do this somewhat so we 270 01:06:50,583 --> 01:06:51,416 can spend time together. 271 01:06:51,916 --> 01:06:52,000 Exactly. 272 01:06:52,625 --> 01:06:53,000 You know? 273 01:06:53,000 --> 01:06:53,291 Exactly. 274 01:06:54,041 --> 01:06:55,458 Even our own siblings, though, I don't 275 01:06:55,458 --> 01:06:56,083 know that I would have 276 01:06:56,083 --> 01:06:57,333 time to listen to their 277 01:06:57,500 --> 01:06:59,416 45-minute podcast week in and week out. 278 01:07:00,083 --> 01:07:00,583 I agree. 279 01:07:00,875 --> 01:07:01,083 Right? 280 01:07:02,000 --> 01:07:03,083 I don't know when we 281 01:07:03,083 --> 01:07:04,208 would have time to do that. 282 01:07:04,208 --> 01:07:04,416 Right. 283 01:07:04,416 --> 01:07:05,166 The people that do it 284 01:07:05,166 --> 01:07:05,916 are like, "Hey, great. 285 01:07:05,916 --> 01:07:06,125 Thanks." 286 01:07:07,083 --> 01:07:08,250 That's been a little bit of the hard 287 01:07:08,250 --> 01:07:09,750 part, is just trying to keep things... 288 01:07:10,750 --> 01:07:12,125 We could talk for hours. 289 01:07:12,416 --> 01:07:12,916 Of course. 290 01:07:12,916 --> 01:07:14,041 But we also want to talk about things 291 01:07:14,041 --> 01:07:15,250 that would be somewhat 292 01:07:15,250 --> 01:07:16,000 interesting for the people 293 01:07:16,000 --> 01:07:16,958 that do listen to it. 294 01:07:17,291 --> 01:07:17,500 Yeah. 295 01:07:17,583 --> 01:07:17,791 Yeah. 296 01:07:19,250 --> 01:07:21,208 We try to bring up topics. 297 01:07:21,458 --> 01:07:22,541 We like to reminisce. 298 01:07:22,666 --> 01:07:24,541 People, I think, think 299 01:07:24,541 --> 01:07:26,916 some of the nostalgia part. 300 01:07:27,250 --> 01:07:29,583 I think part of it is just trying to be 301 01:07:29,583 --> 01:07:32,458 relatable because this is 302 01:07:32,458 --> 01:07:35,000 a busy time of life that 303 01:07:35,000 --> 01:07:36,750 everybody has to go through. 304 01:07:37,166 --> 01:07:37,708 That's right. 305 01:07:40,041 --> 01:07:42,041 If I'm being honest, I actually told the 306 01:07:42,041 --> 01:07:43,208 two older kids this one 307 01:07:43,208 --> 01:07:44,916 day, I was like, "I wasn't 308 01:07:44,916 --> 01:07:47,250 prepared for just how 309 01:07:47,250 --> 01:07:50,250 taxing and chaotic it would be." 310 01:07:50,916 --> 01:07:52,500 I couldn't envision that. 311 01:07:53,250 --> 01:07:53,791 What would be? 312 01:07:54,750 --> 01:07:58,000 This phase of life and having pre-teens 313 01:07:58,000 --> 01:08:00,708 and teenagers while 314 01:08:00,708 --> 01:08:02,750 working a job, et cetera, 315 01:08:03,250 --> 01:08:03,458 I... 316 01:08:04,666 --> 01:08:05,000 Naively... 317 01:08:05,208 --> 01:08:06,166 Probably because I just 318 01:08:06,166 --> 01:08:07,041 didn't know any better. 319 01:08:07,041 --> 01:08:09,791 I always heard parents of teenagers, they 320 01:08:09,791 --> 01:08:10,708 would tell us when our 321 01:08:10,708 --> 01:08:12,458 kids were babies, "Oh, 322 01:08:12,458 --> 01:08:13,416 you think this is hard? 323 01:08:13,416 --> 01:08:13,916 You just wait. 324 01:08:14,708 --> 01:08:15,333 You just wait." 325 01:08:15,583 --> 01:08:15,791 Yeah. 326 01:08:16,500 --> 01:08:16,708 Yeah. 327 01:08:16,750 --> 01:08:18,500 Now I'm like, "Oh, wow. 328 01:08:19,208 --> 01:08:20,708 They told me just wait because they 329 01:08:20,708 --> 01:08:22,166 couldn't actually put into words." 330 01:08:22,458 --> 01:08:22,666 Yeah. 331 01:08:23,791 --> 01:08:24,041 Yeah. 332 01:08:24,458 --> 01:08:27,000 I mean, it's just how chaotic, how 333 01:08:27,000 --> 01:08:30,416 taxing, but how wonderful it is. 334 01:08:31,500 --> 01:08:32,291 That's the beauty of 335 01:08:32,291 --> 01:08:33,333 this whole thing though. 336 01:08:34,750 --> 01:08:38,750 This is a time that 337 01:08:38,750 --> 01:08:39,583 everybody goes through. 338 01:08:39,833 --> 01:08:40,083 Yes. 339 01:08:40,583 --> 01:08:40,791 Right? 340 01:08:41,000 --> 01:08:43,833 This is a stepping stone that everybody 341 01:08:43,833 --> 01:08:45,125 that has chosen to have 342 01:08:45,125 --> 01:08:47,291 children and is living 343 01:08:47,291 --> 01:08:49,541 in a certain way, but in one way or 344 01:08:49,541 --> 01:08:51,208 another, they step on this beach. 345 01:08:51,458 --> 01:08:52,000 I can't think of a 346 01:08:52,000 --> 01:08:52,833 better metaphor, right? 347 01:08:53,083 --> 01:08:54,333 But they spend some time here. 348 01:08:54,666 --> 01:08:54,875 They do. 349 01:08:55,250 --> 01:08:55,500 Right? 350 01:08:55,500 --> 01:08:56,500 And then they make their way through it. 351 01:08:56,791 --> 01:08:58,166 Some of the older listeners, they've been 352 01:08:58,166 --> 01:08:59,041 there, they've done it, and they're like, 353 01:08:59,208 --> 01:09:00,000 "Yeah, I know. 354 01:09:00,750 --> 01:09:01,125 Just wait. 355 01:09:01,125 --> 01:09:02,458 Just wait till this, to wait till this." 356 01:09:02,458 --> 01:09:02,583 Right? 357 01:09:02,583 --> 01:09:02,791 Yeah. 358 01:09:03,166 --> 01:09:04,333 Because it is true. 359 01:09:05,666 --> 01:09:07,000 People look back and say, "Wait till you 360 01:09:07,000 --> 01:09:07,916 see this," just like you said. 361 01:09:08,375 --> 01:09:08,458 Right? 362 01:09:08,458 --> 01:09:09,125 Like, "You thought that was 363 01:09:09,125 --> 01:09:10,208 a hard way to get to this." 364 01:09:10,208 --> 01:09:10,458 Yeah. 365 01:09:10,833 --> 01:09:12,750 And very, I think, 366 01:09:12,958 --> 01:09:14,666 apropos, we've named... 367 01:09:15,750 --> 01:09:16,875 We've kind of named our 368 01:09:16,875 --> 01:09:19,000 podcast after the chaos train. 369 01:09:19,000 --> 01:09:19,291 Right. 370 01:09:19,708 --> 01:09:19,958 Right. 371 01:09:21,500 --> 01:09:24,541 This series, this beach of our life, this 372 01:09:24,541 --> 01:09:27,458 part of our life, is just chaotic. 373 01:09:27,458 --> 01:09:28,541 And we don't say it to be, 374 01:09:28,541 --> 01:09:29,583 "We're more chaotic than you. 375 01:09:29,583 --> 01:09:30,333 We're more chaotic than that person." 376 01:09:31,666 --> 01:09:32,875 I think everybody that's in the same 377 01:09:32,875 --> 01:09:33,875 stage of life, on the 378 01:09:33,875 --> 01:09:36,291 same beach, is running crazy, 379 01:09:36,583 --> 01:09:37,500 just like we are. 380 01:09:37,500 --> 01:09:39,333 And I know a lot of people that are. 381 01:09:39,666 --> 01:09:40,041 Oh, yeah. 382 01:09:40,500 --> 01:09:41,708 I know people who are more so. 383 01:09:41,708 --> 01:09:43,041 I know people who are less so, but it's 384 01:09:43,041 --> 01:09:44,500 like, you have reached out. 385 01:09:44,500 --> 01:09:46,708 It's like, this is just what 386 01:09:46,708 --> 01:09:48,000 it is at this phase of life. 387 01:09:48,083 --> 01:09:49,541 And that's one of the reasons why we 388 01:09:49,541 --> 01:09:50,541 wanted to do this, because 389 01:09:50,541 --> 01:09:52,208 it's like, we talk through 390 01:09:52,208 --> 01:09:55,958 it and like, how do we get through all 391 01:09:55,958 --> 01:09:57,500 the logistics of a day? 392 01:09:57,500 --> 01:09:59,666 And how do we juggle spending time 393 01:09:59,666 --> 01:10:00,833 equally with the kids? 394 01:10:00,833 --> 01:10:03,250 How do we continue to invest time in our 395 01:10:03,250 --> 01:10:04,666 marriage, but yet still 396 01:10:04,666 --> 01:10:07,583 hold down jobs, launch new 397 01:10:07,583 --> 01:10:09,791 careers, build a 398 01:10:09,791 --> 01:10:10,916 house, for crying out loud? 399 01:10:11,166 --> 01:10:13,083 It's building back that onion a little 400 01:10:13,083 --> 01:10:14,500 bit, right, of all those 401 01:10:14,500 --> 01:10:15,333 things that people take 402 01:10:15,333 --> 01:10:15,666 on. 403 01:10:16,333 --> 01:10:18,541 And I think I was just saying to you, 404 01:10:18,541 --> 01:10:19,125 just right before we 405 01:10:19,125 --> 01:10:20,000 came in here, I was like, 406 01:10:20,000 --> 01:10:21,166 "Who would have thought when we were 25 407 01:10:21,166 --> 01:10:21,708 years old, we'd be 408 01:10:21,708 --> 01:10:22,500 doing what we're doing right 409 01:10:22,500 --> 01:10:22,833 now?" 410 01:10:23,083 --> 01:10:23,333 Right. 411 01:10:24,083 --> 01:10:25,750 Or when we're 33 years old, doing what 412 01:10:25,750 --> 01:10:26,500 we're doing right now. 413 01:10:26,500 --> 01:10:27,708 Maybe even 39 years old. 414 01:10:27,708 --> 01:10:29,166 I mean, that was still half 415 01:10:29,166 --> 01:10:30,666 a decade or more ago for us. 416 01:10:31,333 --> 01:10:31,541 Yeah. 417 01:10:32,041 --> 01:10:34,791 And I don't mean from a career 418 01:10:34,791 --> 01:10:35,833 standpoint, I don't mean 419 01:10:35,833 --> 01:10:37,291 from an economic standpoint, 420 01:10:37,291 --> 01:10:40,458 I just mean from a sheer, everything we 421 01:10:40,458 --> 01:10:41,375 get done to keep going 422 01:10:41,375 --> 01:10:43,375 in a day, just to keep 423 01:10:43,375 --> 01:10:44,458 moving forward in life. 424 01:10:45,291 --> 01:10:48,375 We've, there's no way that 30 year old 425 01:10:48,375 --> 01:10:49,125 Sean or 40 year old 426 01:10:49,125 --> 01:10:49,875 Sean, I think would have been 427 01:10:49,875 --> 01:10:51,083 able to do what we're doing today. 428 01:10:51,625 --> 01:10:51,833 No. 429 01:10:52,250 --> 01:10:52,458 Right? 430 01:10:52,666 --> 01:10:53,291 Do you feel that way? 431 01:10:53,291 --> 01:10:54,333 Because you've had to lay it in. 432 01:10:54,541 --> 01:10:55,000 Yeah, no. 433 01:10:55,375 --> 01:10:56,916 And when I say no, I had 434 01:10:56,916 --> 01:10:59,083 full confidence you could do it. 435 01:10:59,333 --> 01:10:59,583 I could. 436 01:11:00,000 --> 01:11:00,875 30 year old Megan. 437 01:11:01,250 --> 01:11:03,000 Sean, you were really struggling. 438 01:11:04,333 --> 01:11:05,125 You've always been my 439 01:11:05,125 --> 01:11:06,250 rock and you know it. 440 01:11:07,166 --> 01:11:09,708 I look at that like 30 year old Megan 441 01:11:09,708 --> 01:11:11,000 could not have done that. 442 01:11:11,583 --> 01:11:13,916 I just, I think about what I 443 01:11:13,916 --> 01:11:15,750 thought a busy weekend was. 444 01:11:16,583 --> 01:11:16,791 Yeah. 445 01:11:17,083 --> 01:11:20,041 And you're like, it's laughable. 446 01:11:20,500 --> 01:11:21,208 We used to take naps. 447 01:11:21,208 --> 01:11:22,625 If you used to take naps, I never took 448 01:11:22,625 --> 01:11:23,708 naps till I met you. 449 01:11:24,416 --> 01:11:25,041 Before we had children 450 01:11:25,041 --> 01:11:25,958 and then we took naps. 451 01:11:26,208 --> 01:11:26,833 We took naps. 452 01:11:26,833 --> 01:11:27,208 On weekends. 453 01:11:27,541 --> 01:11:29,000 I was like, gosh, kind of sleepy. 454 01:11:29,250 --> 01:11:30,041 I think I might fall asleep 455 01:11:30,041 --> 01:11:31,000 during this football game. 456 01:11:31,416 --> 01:11:31,625 Yeah. 457 01:11:32,083 --> 01:11:32,291 What? 458 01:11:33,000 --> 01:11:33,208 Yeah. 459 01:11:33,958 --> 01:11:34,208 Oh yeah. 460 01:11:34,458 --> 01:11:36,625 Golf is the best sport to sleep through. 461 01:11:36,958 --> 01:11:38,500 I mean, they whisper even on the. 462 01:11:38,500 --> 01:11:38,750 Yeah. 463 01:11:39,041 --> 01:11:39,750 It's meant for that. 464 01:11:40,541 --> 01:11:41,791 Football is made for snacking. 465 01:11:42,666 --> 01:11:43,458 Golf is made for napping. 466 01:11:43,750 --> 01:11:43,958 Yes. 467 01:11:44,250 --> 01:11:44,458 Yeah. 468 01:11:45,125 --> 01:11:45,833 Whole point of the sports. 469 01:11:46,333 --> 01:11:46,541 Exactly. 470 01:11:47,750 --> 01:11:49,000 You know, but you start thinking about 471 01:11:49,000 --> 01:11:49,791 all those things that 472 01:11:49,791 --> 01:11:51,791 we do now, which is just 473 01:11:51,791 --> 01:11:53,041 crazy because once you get to this age 474 01:11:53,041 --> 01:11:53,791 and everybody else is 475 01:11:53,791 --> 01:11:54,750 here too, but it's like, 476 01:11:54,750 --> 01:11:57,375 it's not just so family and 477 01:11:57,375 --> 01:11:58,708 career kind of head that out. 478 01:11:59,041 --> 01:11:59,375 Right. 479 01:12:00,333 --> 01:12:02,125 So career, we're both worker. 480 01:12:02,375 --> 01:12:03,000 We both work. 481 01:12:03,541 --> 01:12:03,750 Yeah. 482 01:12:04,416 --> 01:12:05,083 You know, we're both 483 01:12:05,083 --> 01:12:06,166 corporate for a long time. 484 01:12:06,166 --> 01:12:06,916 You're still corporate. 485 01:12:06,916 --> 01:12:07,708 I'm now self-employed. 486 01:12:08,833 --> 01:12:10,875 There's still a lot of pressure on that. 487 01:12:11,375 --> 01:12:11,583 Yeah. 488 01:12:11,666 --> 01:12:13,833 On both of us for many reasons, right? 489 01:12:13,833 --> 01:12:14,333 We're so great. 490 01:12:14,333 --> 01:12:14,916 We just have to bring in a 491 01:12:14,916 --> 01:12:16,083 certain level of cash flow. 492 01:12:16,083 --> 01:12:17,291 We know what our bills are, all that kind 493 01:12:17,291 --> 01:12:19,333 of stuff, but you're 494 01:12:19,333 --> 01:12:21,541 wanting to grow a career, 495 01:12:22,041 --> 01:12:22,375 right? 496 01:12:22,375 --> 01:12:23,625 So you're making a name for yourself. 497 01:12:23,916 --> 01:12:25,875 You're checking the boxes in the 498 01:12:25,875 --> 01:12:27,916 corporate world, which 499 01:12:27,916 --> 01:12:29,000 we've talked about many times 500 01:12:29,000 --> 01:12:29,291 before. 501 01:12:29,833 --> 01:12:30,500 People on the sideline 502 01:12:30,500 --> 01:12:32,000 don't know that side of Megan. 503 01:12:33,000 --> 01:12:33,291 No. 504 01:12:33,666 --> 01:12:34,750 And they didn't, they don't know that 505 01:12:34,750 --> 01:12:35,500 side of Shawn either. 506 01:12:35,750 --> 01:12:36,708 You know, they don't. 507 01:12:37,208 --> 01:12:38,250 People in your personal life don't know 508 01:12:38,250 --> 01:12:40,250 who you are in your professional life. 509 01:12:40,500 --> 01:12:42,500 And, or, and I think it's 510 01:12:42,500 --> 01:12:43,791 kind of nice to keep it that way. 511 01:12:43,791 --> 01:12:44,916 Otherwise sometimes you're like, well, 512 01:12:44,916 --> 01:12:46,750 you're a hoity twitty jerk. 513 01:12:47,250 --> 01:12:47,458 Yeah. 514 01:12:47,791 --> 01:12:49,250 But I know it's on a scale there though, 515 01:12:49,250 --> 01:12:49,625 but like what 516 01:12:49,625 --> 01:12:50,791 percentage of your time do you 517 01:12:50,791 --> 01:12:55,416 think you're using on a weekly basis, a 518 01:12:55,416 --> 01:12:56,125 hundred percent of your 519 01:12:56,125 --> 01:12:57,708 time on a weekly basis goes 520 01:12:57,708 --> 01:12:59,166 to a career towards career. 521 01:13:00,000 --> 01:13:01,250 What effort is towards career? 522 01:13:01,958 --> 01:13:02,791 Oh my gosh. 523 01:13:03,333 --> 01:13:06,458 Knowing, knowing that you, you were, 524 01:13:06,458 --> 01:13:07,500 you're working like 14, 525 01:13:07,500 --> 01:13:08,583 15 hour days right now. 526 01:13:08,583 --> 01:13:10,375 It's just, I've never seen you in a 527 01:13:10,375 --> 01:13:11,750 busier season at work. 528 01:13:12,166 --> 01:13:12,416 Yeah. 529 01:13:12,416 --> 01:13:13,500 It's busy right now. 530 01:13:13,500 --> 01:13:13,750 Yeah. 531 01:13:13,750 --> 01:13:16,458 It is really busy and it comes at the 532 01:13:16,458 --> 01:13:17,708 cost of sleep because I'm 533 01:13:17,708 --> 01:13:18,708 not willing to sacrifice 534 01:13:18,750 --> 01:13:19,250 family. 535 01:13:19,250 --> 01:13:21,750 So it usually comes at the cost of sleep. 536 01:13:22,166 --> 01:13:22,375 Yeah. 537 01:13:23,291 --> 01:13:24,750 Um, so it's like, I'll say goodnight to 538 01:13:24,750 --> 01:13:26,125 you and head to the office. 539 01:13:26,458 --> 01:13:27,833 You know, I almost always work through a 540 01:13:27,833 --> 01:13:28,833 soccer practice anymore. 541 01:13:29,750 --> 01:13:31,166 It's just a foregone conclusion. 542 01:13:33,000 --> 01:13:36,041 Um, you know, but I don't even know. 543 01:13:36,041 --> 01:13:37,291 I don't know as a percent 544 01:13:37,291 --> 01:13:38,416 of hours, what that equals. 545 01:13:38,625 --> 01:13:40,125 It's a huge part of time. 546 01:13:41,000 --> 01:13:41,500 Greater than 50. 547 01:13:41,958 --> 01:13:42,750 Yeah, absolutely. 548 01:13:43,625 --> 01:13:44,708 Probably 85. 549 01:13:46,583 --> 01:13:47,291 Hey, you spent a lot 550 01:13:47,291 --> 01:13:49,166 of waking hours working. 551 01:13:49,708 --> 01:13:50,500 My point here is this 552 01:13:50,500 --> 01:13:51,750 is just how busy life is. 553 01:13:51,750 --> 01:13:52,125 So I mean, like 554 01:13:52,125 --> 01:13:53,875 literally it's 85% of your time. 555 01:13:54,125 --> 01:13:55,875 Let's just even round down to 80% of your 556 01:13:55,875 --> 01:13:57,833 time is on your career. 557 01:13:58,166 --> 01:13:58,416 Yeah. 558 01:13:59,541 --> 01:14:01,500 Which is incredibly 559 01:14:01,500 --> 01:14:02,791 important to both of us. 560 01:14:03,208 --> 01:14:03,416 Right. 561 01:14:03,791 --> 01:14:05,208 I've probably spent about the same time. 562 01:14:05,208 --> 01:14:05,416 Yeah. 563 01:14:06,000 --> 01:14:06,166 Absolutely. 564 01:14:06,625 --> 01:14:06,916 You do. 565 01:14:07,583 --> 01:14:08,333 If not more sometimes. 566 01:14:08,541 --> 01:14:09,166 The best of it's on yoga. 567 01:14:11,666 --> 01:14:14,875 I'm about 50, 50 yoga and work. 568 01:14:14,875 --> 01:14:15,791 50, 50 yoga and work. 569 01:14:15,791 --> 01:14:17,500 Uh, no, I'm kidding. 570 01:14:17,916 --> 01:14:18,125 Obviously. 571 01:14:18,416 --> 01:14:19,750 Although yoga would be nice to 572 01:14:19,750 --> 01:14:20,625 fit in at some point in time. 573 01:14:20,625 --> 01:14:21,583 Yoga would be really 574 01:14:21,583 --> 01:14:22,458 nice to fit in sometime. 575 01:14:22,833 --> 01:14:23,041 Yeah. 576 01:14:23,625 --> 01:14:25,708 So, but, but career is always secondary 577 01:14:25,708 --> 01:14:28,458 to, I mean, our family. 578 01:14:28,500 --> 01:14:33,333 But yet we were spending just inordinate 579 01:14:33,333 --> 01:14:35,500 amounts of unbalanced time doing that. 580 01:14:35,500 --> 01:14:36,250 Now I know that pays the 581 01:14:36,250 --> 01:14:37,208 bills and all that kind of stuff. 582 01:14:37,208 --> 01:14:37,875 And that's what, yeah. 583 01:14:38,291 --> 01:14:41,000 40 hour work weeks or 80 hour work weeks. 584 01:14:42,125 --> 01:14:42,333 Yeah. 585 01:14:42,541 --> 01:14:44,708 That's how we put food on the table and 586 01:14:44,708 --> 01:14:46,500 buy new soccer shoes for 587 01:14:46,500 --> 01:14:47,666 these kids that are $300 588 01:14:48,416 --> 01:14:49,125 each now people. 589 01:14:50,000 --> 01:14:50,541 That's crazy. 590 01:14:51,041 --> 01:14:51,291 Insane. 591 01:14:51,958 --> 01:14:52,666 Side bit here. 592 01:14:52,916 --> 01:14:55,041 My shoes, when I played basketball in 593 01:14:55,041 --> 01:14:55,666 high school, were like 594 01:14:55,666 --> 01:14:57,291 110 bucks, which was a ton 595 01:14:57,291 --> 01:14:57,708 of money. 596 01:14:58,291 --> 01:14:58,875 I got flights. 597 01:14:59,083 --> 01:15:00,416 I couldn't afford Air Jordans or Jordans 598 01:15:00,416 --> 01:15:01,958 like 135 back then or 599 01:15:01,958 --> 01:15:02,875 something like that, which 600 01:15:02,875 --> 01:15:04,083 I don't know that they've changed much. 601 01:15:04,375 --> 01:15:06,458 I'm not in the market for Air Jordans 602 01:15:06,458 --> 01:15:07,625 anymore, but they're 603 01:15:07,625 --> 01:15:10,083 probably closer to $200 now I 604 01:15:10,083 --> 01:15:10,500 would guess. 605 01:15:10,750 --> 01:15:10,958 Yeah. 606 01:15:10,958 --> 01:15:11,083 Right. 607 01:15:11,083 --> 01:15:12,625 Which is an expensive shoe. 608 01:15:12,916 --> 01:15:14,500 It's an expensive shoe. 609 01:15:14,958 --> 01:15:15,250 Right. 610 01:15:15,250 --> 01:15:18,000 Now I've had some expensive work shoes. 611 01:15:18,791 --> 01:15:19,000 Sure. 612 01:15:19,500 --> 01:15:21,125 You know that when you walk down a hall, 613 01:15:21,125 --> 01:15:21,625 everybody knows you're 614 01:15:21,625 --> 01:15:22,208 there because you're, because 615 01:15:22,208 --> 01:15:23,375 you click, click, click, click. 616 01:15:25,458 --> 01:15:25,833 Yeah. 617 01:15:25,833 --> 01:15:27,291 I don't know that I've ever owned a pair 618 01:15:27,291 --> 01:15:28,375 of $300 shoes and we 619 01:15:28,375 --> 01:15:29,958 buy our kids $300 shoes 620 01:15:30,125 --> 01:15:31,125 every six months. 621 01:15:32,166 --> 01:15:33,708 I am a female who actually 622 01:15:33,708 --> 01:15:36,458 worked in fashion basically. 623 01:15:36,791 --> 01:15:37,958 I still have never had 624 01:15:37,958 --> 01:15:39,250 a $300 pair of shoes. 625 01:15:39,583 --> 01:15:39,791 Yeah. 626 01:15:40,208 --> 01:15:40,416 200. 627 01:15:40,625 --> 01:15:40,833 Yeah. 628 01:15:41,041 --> 01:15:42,583 Well, I don't think 629 01:15:42,583 --> 01:15:43,958 Target's carrying manila blanks. 630 01:15:44,416 --> 01:15:46,416 No, no, but I did. 631 01:15:46,416 --> 01:15:46,750 Did I say that right? 632 01:15:47,458 --> 01:15:47,750 Yeah. 633 01:15:48,291 --> 01:15:48,583 Yeah. 634 01:15:48,833 --> 01:15:49,250 That's pretty good. 635 01:15:49,375 --> 01:15:49,916 Manila Blonix. 636 01:15:50,375 --> 01:15:51,125 Oh, Balonix. 637 01:15:51,125 --> 01:15:51,791 I got the blanks. 638 01:15:52,416 --> 01:15:52,958 That's great. 639 01:15:52,958 --> 01:15:53,625 I pulled that out. 640 01:15:55,333 --> 01:15:55,708 You're good. 641 01:15:56,708 --> 01:15:58,333 And you owned it. 642 01:15:59,375 --> 01:15:59,541 Sorry. 643 01:15:59,750 --> 01:16:00,625 I had to pat myself on 644 01:16:00,625 --> 01:16:01,791 the back and I exposed it. 645 01:16:02,166 --> 01:16:03,791 I thought it was really good. 646 01:16:05,375 --> 01:16:09,458 Anyways, that was a side note too, to the 647 01:16:09,458 --> 01:16:11,125 fact that, what was the side note to? 648 01:16:11,416 --> 01:16:12,958 I interrupted our main train of thought. 649 01:16:12,958 --> 01:16:14,708 Oh, just how you put food on the table 650 01:16:14,708 --> 01:16:16,500 and you pay for all this stuff, right? 651 01:16:16,500 --> 01:16:16,708 Oh, yeah, made paper 652 01:16:16,708 --> 01:16:17,708 shoes and stuff like that. 653 01:16:17,958 --> 01:16:20,500 So, I just think of all the things that 654 01:16:20,500 --> 01:16:21,916 we layer on that 655 01:16:21,916 --> 01:16:22,875 everybody that's watching this 656 01:16:22,916 --> 01:16:25,250 at some point is going to do or is in the 657 01:16:25,250 --> 01:16:27,416 middle of, is already done, career. 658 01:16:27,791 --> 01:16:28,250 It's just huge. 659 01:16:28,541 --> 01:16:30,083 We are in the highest 660 01:16:30,083 --> 01:16:32,875 earning years of our lives. 661 01:16:32,875 --> 01:16:33,083 Yup. 662 01:16:33,333 --> 01:16:33,500 Right? 663 01:16:33,875 --> 01:16:35,500 Mid 40s to mid 50s. 664 01:16:35,500 --> 01:16:35,708 Yeah. 665 01:16:35,916 --> 01:16:36,625 To late 50s maybe. 666 01:16:37,166 --> 01:16:39,125 And I walked away from a very good career 667 01:16:39,125 --> 01:16:40,125 to do another career. 668 01:16:40,375 --> 01:16:40,541 Yeah. 669 01:16:41,041 --> 01:16:44,041 So, that's been a scary road for us this 670 01:16:44,041 --> 01:16:45,000 last year, but I think 671 01:16:45,000 --> 01:16:46,458 we're going to be good. 672 01:16:46,708 --> 01:16:46,958 Right. 673 01:16:47,291 --> 01:16:47,500 Right. 674 01:16:48,000 --> 01:16:49,458 So, career. 675 01:16:49,750 --> 01:16:50,541 That's huge for us. 676 01:16:51,250 --> 01:16:53,708 The ebbs and flows of that are stressful. 677 01:16:54,333 --> 01:16:54,583 It is. 678 01:16:55,208 --> 01:17:00,208 Like, the pressure of a day is, I mean, I 679 01:17:00,208 --> 01:17:01,583 do try to balance and 680 01:17:01,583 --> 01:17:03,625 walk away and not let 681 01:17:04,000 --> 01:17:06,625 the pressure of a day of, "Oh, this was a 682 01:17:06,625 --> 01:17:08,125 mistake," or even 683 01:17:08,125 --> 01:17:09,500 just the expectations of, 684 01:17:09,750 --> 01:17:11,541 "Hey, so and so needs this and they need 685 01:17:11,541 --> 01:17:13,916 it now," and those types of things. 686 01:17:15,041 --> 01:17:17,250 And being able to just shut that down 687 01:17:17,250 --> 01:17:20,166 immediately because there is pressure. 688 01:17:21,083 --> 01:17:22,500 Shut it down so that your kids don't see 689 01:17:22,500 --> 01:17:23,875 it, so that you don't see it. 690 01:17:23,875 --> 01:17:24,041 Yeah. 691 01:17:24,666 --> 01:17:26,125 And you're really good at doing that. 692 01:17:26,125 --> 01:17:27,500 I'm not really as good at doing that. 693 01:17:27,500 --> 01:17:29,125 I carry things with me too long. 694 01:17:29,500 --> 01:17:31,083 You can be like, "I'll put this little 695 01:17:31,083 --> 01:17:31,916 one in a compartment 696 01:17:31,916 --> 01:17:33,000 right up here for it and 697 01:17:33,000 --> 01:17:34,250 I'll get to that later." 698 01:17:34,250 --> 01:17:35,166 I'll get to that one later. 699 01:17:35,500 --> 01:17:35,583 Yeah. 700 01:17:35,583 --> 01:17:37,000 Whether that's a healthy or not, that's 701 01:17:37,000 --> 01:17:38,500 another question I think. 702 01:17:38,500 --> 01:17:40,291 I think you're probably right. 703 01:17:41,041 --> 01:17:42,125 I think the thing that helps with that 704 01:17:42,125 --> 01:17:43,000 though sometimes is I 705 01:17:43,000 --> 01:17:44,000 had a buddy I used to work 706 01:17:44,000 --> 01:17:45,791 with, Mark, in Unihome Talk. 707 01:17:45,791 --> 01:17:46,000 Yeah. 708 01:17:46,291 --> 01:17:48,250 He'll know if he sees this or whatnot, 709 01:17:48,250 --> 01:17:48,833 but he used to always 710 01:17:48,833 --> 01:17:50,125 say, "Hey, look, if I get 711 01:17:50,208 --> 01:17:51,000 to buy a bus tomorrow, 712 01:17:51,458 --> 01:17:52,166 the bank's going to open. 713 01:17:52,708 --> 01:17:53,875 My clients are going to 714 01:17:53,875 --> 01:17:55,000 still conduct business. 715 01:17:55,375 --> 01:17:56,000 Things will go on." 716 01:17:56,333 --> 01:17:58,666 And so when things really get pushed, 717 01:17:58,666 --> 01:17:59,250 comes to shove 718 01:17:59,250 --> 01:18:00,333 sometimes, it's like, "You know 719 01:18:00,333 --> 01:18:00,500 what? 720 01:18:00,750 --> 01:18:02,583 If you need to walk away for an hour, 721 01:18:03,166 --> 01:18:04,583 walk away because the 722 01:18:04,583 --> 01:18:05,541 company's going to be okay." 723 01:18:05,541 --> 01:18:05,791 Yeah. 724 01:18:06,208 --> 01:18:06,416 Yeah. 725 01:18:06,625 --> 01:18:08,500 I saw one time they were like, "Your job 726 01:18:08,500 --> 01:18:10,000 will be posted before you're obituary." 727 01:18:10,375 --> 01:18:12,041 And you're like, "Oh." 728 01:18:12,666 --> 01:18:13,958 That is true. 729 01:18:14,166 --> 01:18:14,833 That is very true. 730 01:18:15,166 --> 01:18:15,375 Yeah. 731 01:18:15,750 --> 01:18:16,791 And it was helpful when I 732 01:18:16,791 --> 01:18:18,041 worked for Target Corporation. 733 01:18:18,666 --> 01:18:20,208 We had a saying, and it was just like, 734 01:18:20,208 --> 01:18:21,000 "We just sell Tide." 735 01:18:22,708 --> 01:18:23,250 That's all we do. 736 01:18:23,708 --> 01:18:26,416 I don't have someone's heart in my hands. 737 01:18:26,416 --> 01:18:27,250 Their life is depending 738 01:18:27,250 --> 01:18:30,000 on me to keep them alive. 739 01:18:31,625 --> 01:18:32,041 Life's good. 740 01:18:32,291 --> 01:18:32,958 It'll be fine. 741 01:18:33,375 --> 01:18:34,208 We just sell Tide. 742 01:18:34,208 --> 01:18:35,583 It's going to be okay in the end. 743 01:18:35,666 --> 01:18:35,791 Yeah. 744 01:18:35,791 --> 01:18:36,000 Yeah. 745 01:18:36,000 --> 01:18:36,541 And that was similar. 746 01:18:36,875 --> 01:18:38,833 That's how all jobs, but everybody gets 747 01:18:38,833 --> 01:18:39,666 very serious when it 748 01:18:39,666 --> 01:18:40,500 comes to their job because 749 01:18:40,500 --> 01:18:42,125 people find value in that, and that's 750 01:18:42,125 --> 01:18:43,125 part of the career thing, right? 751 01:18:43,625 --> 01:18:45,250 You want to economically, you want to 752 01:18:45,250 --> 01:18:46,083 provide for your family. 753 01:18:46,500 --> 01:18:46,583 Yes. 754 01:18:47,666 --> 01:18:49,166 And you feel that you're adding a value 755 01:18:49,166 --> 01:18:50,833 that you can be proud of. 756 01:18:51,208 --> 01:18:51,416 Right. 757 01:18:51,791 --> 01:18:52,000 Right. 758 01:18:52,500 --> 01:18:53,708 Those are huge things. 759 01:18:53,708 --> 01:18:55,375 A lot of people don't ... We've been 760 01:18:55,375 --> 01:18:56,250 lucky enough to kind of 761 01:18:56,250 --> 01:18:57,708 hit those, check those boxes 762 01:18:58,250 --> 01:19:01,875 in our careers and have an economic 763 01:19:01,875 --> 01:19:03,916 incentive that's been nice. 764 01:19:04,833 --> 01:19:07,791 But that aside, or along with that, like 765 01:19:07,791 --> 01:19:08,708 everybody else is doing, 766 01:19:09,041 --> 01:19:11,208 we're at those ages too where 767 01:19:11,208 --> 01:19:12,291 we have to plan for retirement. 768 01:19:12,875 --> 01:19:13,083 Yeah. 769 01:19:13,458 --> 01:19:13,666 Right? 770 01:19:14,583 --> 01:19:16,666 And I remember, I touched on this just 771 01:19:16,666 --> 01:19:18,291 barely before, but I 772 01:19:18,291 --> 01:19:20,083 remember being in 30s. 773 01:19:21,250 --> 01:19:24,125 And I was in my young 30s, I think, when 774 01:19:24,125 --> 01:19:25,083 I started one of my first 775 01:19:25,083 --> 01:19:26,958 companies and we liquidated 776 01:19:26,958 --> 01:19:28,791 some of our savings, our 401ks and 777 01:19:28,791 --> 01:19:29,875 everything to start that, 778 01:19:30,458 --> 01:19:32,250 to fund that business, which 779 01:19:32,250 --> 01:19:32,625 was great. 780 01:19:33,166 --> 01:19:37,583 It was a good business, but it drained 781 01:19:37,583 --> 01:19:39,000 our coffers a little bit, right? 782 01:19:39,000 --> 01:19:40,750 And so then we got back to the corporate 783 01:19:40,750 --> 01:19:41,833 world after selling that 784 01:19:41,833 --> 01:19:42,916 company and it was like, 785 01:19:43,083 --> 01:19:45,333 "I really need to think 786 01:19:45,333 --> 01:19:46,250 about how we're saving." 787 01:19:46,625 --> 01:19:47,666 And then at that point in time, I was 788 01:19:47,666 --> 01:19:49,375 doing all these numbers and crunching. 789 01:19:49,375 --> 01:19:49,583 Yeah. 790 01:19:49,833 --> 01:19:50,458 And I remember saying, 791 01:19:50,458 --> 01:19:51,500 "I think we're behind." 792 01:19:51,875 --> 01:19:52,166 Yeah. 793 01:19:52,833 --> 01:19:54,791 And we make too much money to be behind. 794 01:19:54,791 --> 01:19:58,458 And this was 15, 20 years ago almost now. 795 01:19:58,458 --> 01:19:59,000 Oh, at least. 796 01:19:59,458 --> 01:19:59,666 Yeah. 797 01:19:59,916 --> 01:20:00,833 At least, yeah. 798 01:20:00,833 --> 01:20:01,083 Yeah. 799 01:20:01,708 --> 01:20:02,708 Sometimes I lose track of time. 800 01:20:03,500 --> 01:20:04,708 I'm only 27, I think. 801 01:20:07,000 --> 01:20:09,500 But at this point in time, this is when 802 01:20:09,500 --> 01:20:10,250 you're crunching those 803 01:20:10,250 --> 01:20:12,458 numbers constantly of trying 804 01:20:12,458 --> 01:20:14,416 to figure out, "Okay, I 805 01:20:14,416 --> 01:20:15,250 got to save enough money. 806 01:20:15,250 --> 01:20:16,375 How long do I want to work for? 807 01:20:17,166 --> 01:20:18,000 What kind of lipo I 808 01:20:18,000 --> 01:20:19,333 want to have when I retire? 809 01:20:19,625 --> 01:20:20,416 Can I retire? 810 01:20:20,625 --> 01:20:20,833 Yeah. 811 01:20:21,500 --> 01:20:22,833 How much can I pay for my children? 812 01:20:23,083 --> 01:20:23,791 Can I pay for my 813 01:20:23,791 --> 01:20:24,625 children and go to college? 814 01:20:25,083 --> 01:20:26,583 I got to save for a wedding." 815 01:20:28,291 --> 01:20:30,958 Again, I don't know how everybody does it 816 01:20:30,958 --> 01:20:32,750 because we live 817 01:20:32,750 --> 01:20:36,291 modestly to some degree for 818 01:20:36,291 --> 01:20:37,250 what we make. 819 01:20:38,000 --> 01:20:40,375 And maybe it's because we 820 01:20:40,375 --> 01:20:42,000 didn't grow up with money. 821 01:20:42,708 --> 01:20:43,625 I think it's because of money. 822 01:20:43,750 --> 01:20:46,500 Again, we're not Bill Gates here. 823 01:20:47,666 --> 01:20:48,125 You know what I mean? 824 01:20:48,208 --> 01:20:49,000 We're very average Joe. 825 01:20:49,250 --> 01:20:50,083 We're very average Joe. 826 01:20:50,375 --> 01:20:52,791 But you have to weigh those things with, 827 01:20:53,041 --> 01:20:54,833 "Okay, what are the next steps though?" 828 01:20:55,250 --> 01:20:58,333 And at some point, you got to really 829 01:20:58,333 --> 01:21:01,291 weigh that out of, "Okay, I need to save. 830 01:21:01,291 --> 01:21:02,291 I need to put this behind. 831 01:21:02,291 --> 01:21:03,166 I need to put one case. 832 01:21:03,166 --> 01:21:04,125 Oh, I need other assets. 833 01:21:04,500 --> 01:21:05,041 Oh, equities." 834 01:21:05,458 --> 01:21:05,625 Yeah. 835 01:21:06,375 --> 01:21:07,125 And you're like, "All 836 01:21:07,125 --> 01:21:08,041 these different things." 837 01:21:08,708 --> 01:21:10,791 So these are all these things now. 838 01:21:10,791 --> 01:21:11,750 Now you've got a portfolio. 839 01:21:13,000 --> 01:21:14,875 And when you're 33, you always hear about 840 01:21:14,875 --> 01:21:16,083 people that are in 841 01:21:16,083 --> 01:21:16,833 their 50s and are like, 842 01:21:16,833 --> 01:21:17,750 "Oh, I've got a portfolio." 843 01:21:18,125 --> 01:21:19,166 "Oh, I'm so cool. 844 01:21:19,166 --> 01:21:19,791 I have a portfolio." 845 01:21:20,500 --> 01:21:21,583 But you do. 846 01:21:21,958 --> 01:21:23,416 And you also, now we have a 847 01:21:23,416 --> 01:21:24,708 will and we have a living test. 848 01:21:24,916 --> 01:21:25,333 You know what I mean? 849 01:21:25,333 --> 01:21:25,791 All these things. 850 01:21:26,083 --> 01:21:27,083 So these are the things 851 01:21:27,083 --> 01:21:28,291 that we're layering in. 852 01:21:28,916 --> 01:21:30,666 I want to pause just to 853 01:21:30,666 --> 01:21:31,958 see what am I missing. 854 01:21:31,958 --> 01:21:33,791 Obviously, the 855 01:21:33,791 --> 01:21:34,875 children's a whole other thing. 856 01:21:34,916 --> 01:21:36,375 The family one, which is the second most 857 01:21:36,375 --> 01:21:37,833 important that we were talking about. 858 01:21:38,791 --> 01:21:40,458 I mean, think about all the 859 01:21:40,458 --> 01:21:41,375 things that we do with that. 860 01:21:41,375 --> 01:21:42,625 Just constantly learning. 861 01:21:43,916 --> 01:21:44,708 That's real time. 862 01:21:45,458 --> 01:21:47,208 Oh, that is real time 863 01:21:47,208 --> 01:21:49,000 on the job training. 864 01:21:49,250 --> 01:21:49,875 Training all the time. 865 01:21:49,875 --> 01:21:50,291 All the time. 866 01:21:50,666 --> 01:21:50,875 Yeah. 867 01:21:51,083 --> 01:21:52,916 Like, I realize there's a lot of 868 01:21:52,916 --> 01:21:55,083 parenting books, but 869 01:21:55,083 --> 01:21:56,250 you're like, "Gosh, how would I 870 01:21:56,250 --> 01:21:59,625 have known that I needed to read that my 871 01:21:59,625 --> 01:22:01,916 eighth grader was going to 872 01:22:01,916 --> 01:22:04,083 lose a teammate suddenly?" 873 01:22:04,791 --> 01:22:06,791 How do I help him through that loss? 874 01:22:07,500 --> 01:22:08,250 Like a passing. 875 01:22:08,833 --> 01:22:09,041 Right. 876 01:22:09,666 --> 01:22:09,875 Yeah. 877 01:22:10,416 --> 01:22:10,708 Death. 878 01:22:11,458 --> 01:22:11,625 Yeah. 879 01:22:12,000 --> 01:22:12,166 Exactly. 880 01:22:12,458 --> 01:22:14,375 If they don't tell you then, sure, 881 01:22:14,375 --> 01:22:15,041 there's a book out there. 882 01:22:15,958 --> 01:22:16,708 You just didn't know you 883 01:22:16,708 --> 01:22:17,666 needed to read that book. 884 01:22:18,250 --> 01:22:18,833 And it's hard to find 885 01:22:18,833 --> 01:22:19,750 time to read those books. 886 01:22:19,750 --> 01:22:20,500 I actually have bought a 887 01:22:20,500 --> 01:22:22,291 couple books to be a better dad. 888 01:22:22,791 --> 01:22:23,208 You have a couple 889 01:22:23,208 --> 01:22:24,750 sitting on your nightstand. 890 01:22:24,750 --> 01:22:26,000 Yeah, just right on the nightstand. 891 01:22:26,375 --> 01:22:29,041 And I've made it through half of some and 892 01:22:29,041 --> 01:22:30,416 I've read other ones and whatnot. 893 01:22:30,833 --> 01:22:31,875 But yeah, but it's hard 894 01:22:31,875 --> 01:22:32,791 to find time to do that. 895 01:22:32,791 --> 01:22:33,750 We all want to be better. 896 01:22:33,791 --> 01:22:34,083 Yeah. 897 01:22:34,541 --> 01:22:36,208 But it's really, really hard. 898 01:22:36,500 --> 01:22:37,333 And that's part of that, 899 01:22:37,750 --> 01:22:38,375 everything you're juggling. 900 01:22:38,791 --> 01:22:39,125 Exactly. 901 01:22:39,833 --> 01:22:40,041 Exactly. 902 01:22:40,333 --> 01:22:41,125 Because it's like you don't want to lose 903 01:22:41,125 --> 01:22:42,166 touch of who you 904 01:22:42,166 --> 01:22:43,458 thought Megan was going to be. 905 01:22:43,458 --> 01:22:44,500 Who did 25-year-old Megan 906 01:22:44,500 --> 01:22:45,166 think she was going to be? 907 01:22:45,166 --> 01:22:46,166 Who did 35-year-old Megan 908 01:22:46,166 --> 01:22:47,000 think she's going to be? 909 01:22:47,500 --> 01:22:48,291 And are you on that path? 910 01:22:49,041 --> 01:22:51,625 If I am completely honest with you, yes. 911 01:22:52,000 --> 01:22:52,708 I bet you are. 912 01:22:52,958 --> 01:22:55,708 You're like, "I don't doubt that at all." 913 01:22:55,958 --> 01:22:57,083 I have everything I 914 01:22:57,083 --> 01:22:58,416 could have ever wanted. 915 01:22:58,416 --> 01:22:58,625 Yeah. 916 01:22:59,666 --> 01:23:01,583 And you're the person you wanted to be. 917 01:23:01,583 --> 01:23:02,750 I'm not talking about material things. 918 01:23:02,791 --> 01:23:04,000 Yeah, yeah, yeah. 919 01:23:04,000 --> 01:23:05,833 I'm actually talking about all the 920 01:23:05,833 --> 01:23:07,166 immaterial things, right? 921 01:23:07,166 --> 01:23:07,416 Yeah, right. 922 01:23:07,916 --> 01:23:10,791 I'm not saying that I don't have stress 923 01:23:10,791 --> 01:23:12,583 and things that I'm 924 01:23:12,583 --> 01:23:14,416 like, "Well, that sucks." 925 01:23:14,875 --> 01:23:16,333 You know, like in my life. 926 01:23:17,166 --> 01:23:18,166 That's not the case. 927 01:23:18,958 --> 01:23:21,541 But on the whole, am I happy? 928 01:23:21,541 --> 01:23:22,583 Am I satisfied? 929 01:23:22,583 --> 01:23:24,666 Am I who I thought I would be? 930 01:23:25,750 --> 01:23:27,250 Yeah, I am. 931 01:23:27,791 --> 01:23:31,250 Like if I really dig down, I'm honest. 932 01:23:31,250 --> 01:23:31,916 I'm like, "Yeah, I am." 933 01:23:32,250 --> 01:23:33,541 And that's kind of cool. 934 01:23:33,750 --> 01:23:34,083 Are you? 935 01:23:35,000 --> 01:23:36,500 I'll come back to that. 936 01:23:36,833 --> 01:23:37,791 I'll answer that for you. 937 01:23:37,791 --> 01:23:39,458 But I mean, when you're like 25 and 938 01:23:39,458 --> 01:23:39,958 you're going through these 939 01:23:39,958 --> 01:23:41,416 corporate training sessions 940 01:23:41,791 --> 01:23:45,583 or at school or 35, they always give you, 941 01:23:46,000 --> 01:23:46,708 "What's your two-year plan? 942 01:23:46,708 --> 01:23:47,500 What's your five-year plan? 943 01:23:47,500 --> 01:23:48,375 What's your 10-year plan?" 944 01:23:48,708 --> 01:23:49,083 You know what I mean? 945 01:23:49,791 --> 01:23:51,416 So clearly, you're kind of checking the 946 01:23:51,416 --> 01:23:52,500 boxes on some of those plans. 947 01:23:52,708 --> 01:23:55,041 But today, you should 948 01:23:55,041 --> 01:23:55,791 have a three-year plan. 949 01:23:55,791 --> 01:23:56,125 You should have a 950 01:23:56,125 --> 01:23:56,750 five-year plan, a 10-year plan. 951 01:23:56,791 --> 01:23:59,291 You're kind of just... 952 01:24:00,375 --> 01:24:01,375 Do you have that still? 953 01:24:01,625 --> 01:24:04,000 Or is life moving so fast that you're 954 01:24:04,000 --> 01:24:05,625 just trying to keep up with it? 955 01:24:05,625 --> 01:24:06,208 You do have it. 956 01:24:06,333 --> 01:24:06,708 I do. 957 01:24:07,083 --> 01:24:07,416 I do. 958 01:24:08,041 --> 01:24:08,708 And I think... 959 01:24:09,041 --> 01:24:11,500 I tell people this at work. 960 01:24:13,000 --> 01:24:14,500 I'm like, "I have taken 961 01:24:14,500 --> 01:24:17,166 intentional steps aside. 962 01:24:17,750 --> 01:24:20,125 I've taken steps back in my career to... 963 01:24:20,666 --> 01:24:22,250 I mean, when I started with my current 964 01:24:22,250 --> 01:24:24,750 company 15 years ago, 965 01:24:24,791 --> 01:24:26,833 we had just had a baby. 966 01:24:26,833 --> 01:24:28,000 I was on maternity leave." 967 01:24:29,208 --> 01:24:31,000 I'm like, "I can't be in management." 968 01:24:31,000 --> 01:24:31,500 I had been. 969 01:24:32,000 --> 01:24:33,083 I was like, "I don't have time. 970 01:24:33,083 --> 01:24:34,375 I want to raise my family." 971 01:24:34,750 --> 01:24:35,958 You were traveling all 972 01:24:35,958 --> 01:24:37,375 the time, worked downtown. 973 01:24:37,583 --> 01:24:39,083 I was like, "I need to be closer to home, 974 01:24:39,083 --> 01:24:39,791 closer to the baby." 975 01:24:40,541 --> 01:24:41,875 I took a step back. 976 01:24:42,791 --> 01:24:45,125 I'm like, because it 977 01:24:45,125 --> 01:24:46,708 didn't matter at that point. 978 01:24:46,708 --> 01:24:47,375 That was the right 979 01:24:47,375 --> 01:24:49,166 step to make at that time. 980 01:24:50,041 --> 01:24:51,333 And I think there's 981 01:24:51,333 --> 01:24:53,791 going to still be pauses 982 01:24:53,791 --> 01:24:56,041 and step on the gas 983 01:24:56,041 --> 01:24:57,458 pieces of my career left 984 01:24:57,458 --> 01:24:59,291 for whatever time I have left to work. 985 01:25:00,750 --> 01:25:03,083 Now, do I have the exact timing? 986 01:25:03,958 --> 01:25:05,000 I actually joked the 987 01:25:05,000 --> 01:25:05,666 other day with someone. 988 01:25:05,666 --> 01:25:07,500 I was like, "I cannot take a promotion 989 01:25:07,500 --> 01:25:09,083 until I have a driver in the house." 990 01:25:09,458 --> 01:25:11,875 Until we are no longer outnumbered. 991 01:25:12,458 --> 01:25:13,416 A third driver, yeah. 992 01:25:13,625 --> 01:25:15,208 Yeah, a third driver in the house. 993 01:25:17,875 --> 01:25:18,750 Because it is what it is. 994 01:25:18,791 --> 01:25:21,625 I'm like, "We have to step aside. 995 01:25:21,875 --> 01:25:22,833 We have to step out of 996 01:25:22,833 --> 01:25:24,208 our jobs to go pick up kids 997 01:25:24,208 --> 01:25:25,583 and get them to practice." 998 01:25:25,833 --> 01:25:26,041 I mean... 999 01:25:26,500 --> 01:25:26,666 Yeah. 1000 01:25:27,791 --> 01:25:29,833 I don't know how people do that. 1001 01:25:30,083 --> 01:25:30,916 I mean, we talk about this 1002 01:25:30,916 --> 01:25:31,791 kind of stuff all the time, 1003 01:25:31,791 --> 01:25:37,541 but it's astonishing to me the way that 1004 01:25:37,541 --> 01:25:39,875 school is set up here in Texas at least. 1005 01:25:40,625 --> 01:25:43,708 I mean, they clearly plan on at least one 1006 01:25:43,708 --> 01:25:45,000 parent not having a job. 1007 01:25:45,750 --> 01:25:46,125 Definitely. 1008 01:25:46,125 --> 01:25:47,375 With everything that they schedule. 1009 01:25:47,791 --> 01:25:49,583 And the times that they schedule? 1010 01:25:50,333 --> 01:25:50,875 It's incredible. 1011 01:25:51,125 --> 01:25:52,875 Even sports are early. 1012 01:25:53,666 --> 01:25:57,416 In practice, it's after school, but 6 1013 01:25:57,416 --> 01:26:00,416 o'clock or 6.15 an hour away. 1014 01:26:01,541 --> 01:26:04,500 And again, if I left the office at 5 and 1015 01:26:04,500 --> 01:26:07,208 I got home at 5.45, best case, 1016 01:26:08,083 --> 01:26:10,125 pick up the kid, leave, best case 1017 01:26:10,125 --> 01:26:12,833 scenario over there at 6.50 maybe, 1018 01:26:13,500 --> 01:26:15,750 and practice started at 35 minutes ago. 1019 01:26:15,791 --> 01:26:16,791 Right. 1020 01:26:18,125 --> 01:26:20,125 I don't even know how that computes. 1021 01:26:20,125 --> 01:26:24,166 There was a time when all 1022 01:26:24,166 --> 01:26:26,666 jobs like that as you get older, 1023 01:26:26,875 --> 01:26:28,000 you just had that more flexibility, 1024 01:26:28,833 --> 01:26:32,791 I would struggle to believe that your dad 1025 01:26:32,791 --> 01:26:35,250 or mine had flexibility 1026 01:26:35,250 --> 01:26:36,500 like that at their job. 1027 01:26:37,166 --> 01:26:38,875 Guys, I'm going to be taking off at 3.15 1028 01:26:38,875 --> 01:26:41,208 every Tuesday, Wednesday, and Friday 1029 01:26:41,208 --> 01:26:42,916 because it's my time to pick up the kids. 1030 01:26:43,750 --> 01:26:44,125 You know what I mean? 1031 01:26:44,791 --> 01:26:45,083 No way. 1032 01:26:45,750 --> 01:26:46,458 No way. 1033 01:26:46,708 --> 01:26:46,916 Right. 1034 01:26:47,458 --> 01:26:50,083 And I mean, even when I was early in the 1035 01:26:50,083 --> 01:26:51,791 corporate world, that wasn't a thing. 1036 01:26:52,166 --> 01:26:52,375 Yeah. 1037 01:26:53,041 --> 01:26:54,916 I don't know of my colleagues. 1038 01:26:55,375 --> 01:26:56,833 Again, I was younger, so I probably had a 1039 01:26:56,833 --> 01:26:57,958 younger group around me. 1040 01:26:58,208 --> 01:26:59,875 But I did know some parents, it's not 1041 01:26:59,875 --> 01:27:01,500 like they were headed out at, you know, 1042 01:27:02,250 --> 01:27:04,541 3.45 or 4 o'clock in the afternoon to go 1043 01:27:04,541 --> 01:27:05,541 do things with their kids. 1044 01:27:05,833 --> 01:27:08,541 That's only been in the last five to 1045 01:27:08,541 --> 01:27:09,750 seven years, I feel like. 1046 01:27:09,750 --> 01:27:11,750 I don't know if it's COVID, but COVID I 1047 01:27:11,750 --> 01:27:13,041 think exaggerated it. 1048 01:27:13,041 --> 01:27:13,250 It did. 1049 01:27:13,791 --> 01:27:14,166 Right. 1050 01:27:14,166 --> 01:27:15,458 For everybody now, we'll do those lines. 1051 01:27:15,791 --> 01:27:16,791 We'll do those lines a little bit more. 1052 01:27:17,125 --> 01:27:18,333 But I mean, that was especially in 1053 01:27:18,333 --> 01:27:19,375 banking and finance. 1054 01:27:19,375 --> 01:27:22,083 I was never, I mean, like, you know, it 1055 01:27:22,083 --> 01:27:22,666 was always the last 1056 01:27:22,666 --> 01:27:23,958 man standing was the best 1057 01:27:23,958 --> 01:27:24,833 guy, you know? 1058 01:27:25,291 --> 01:27:25,500 I know. 1059 01:27:25,791 --> 01:27:26,000 Yeah. 1060 01:27:26,625 --> 01:27:30,500 And now I think, I don't know, I think 1061 01:27:30,500 --> 01:27:31,916 the balance, the 1062 01:27:31,916 --> 01:27:34,916 differences now, like, we talk 1063 01:27:34,916 --> 01:27:36,291 about how much time we spend working. 1064 01:27:37,250 --> 01:27:39,208 We could also probably spend a little bit 1065 01:27:39,208 --> 01:27:40,750 of time and double-click into like, 1066 01:27:40,791 --> 01:27:43,125 how much time did I spend in my workday 1067 01:27:43,125 --> 01:27:46,375 texting about carpooling, 1068 01:27:46,583 --> 01:27:47,750 scheduling appointments, 1069 01:27:48,125 --> 01:27:50,375 adjusting our calendar, responding to 1070 01:27:50,375 --> 01:27:52,291 parent or teacher emails, 1071 01:27:52,708 --> 01:27:54,416 like, looking at the kids' 1072 01:27:54,625 --> 01:27:55,833 grades, making sure, you know, putting 1073 01:27:55,833 --> 01:27:57,416 money to their lunch account. 1074 01:27:58,000 --> 01:27:59,750 I mean, I do that during the 1075 01:27:59,750 --> 01:28:02,250 day, that during my workday. 1076 01:28:02,791 --> 01:28:03,000 Yeah. 1077 01:28:03,583 --> 01:28:07,416 So do I feel then like I'm being cheated 1078 01:28:07,416 --> 01:28:08,250 if I have to spend an 1079 01:28:08,250 --> 01:28:09,500 extra hour at night working 1080 01:28:09,791 --> 01:28:12,125 to make up that time that I wasn't, you 1081 01:28:12,125 --> 01:28:13,416 know, like, no, not at 1082 01:28:13,416 --> 01:28:14,875 all, because I was like, 1083 01:28:14,875 --> 01:28:16,583 I really was probably doing all of those 1084 01:28:16,583 --> 01:28:17,583 things for an hour today. 1085 01:28:17,583 --> 01:28:19,166 And that's what's blurred big time too. 1086 01:28:19,166 --> 01:28:20,250 And I don't know if other people are like 1087 01:28:20,250 --> 01:28:20,916 this, I'm guessing 1088 01:28:20,916 --> 01:28:22,625 quite a few probably are, 1089 01:28:24,416 --> 01:28:25,583 especially on our soccer teams, because I 1090 01:28:25,583 --> 01:28:26,208 mean, it is like, 1091 01:28:26,208 --> 01:28:27,208 those lines are so blurred, 1092 01:28:27,458 --> 01:28:30,333 but it just has become natural for us and 1093 01:28:30,333 --> 01:28:33,625 our household at least, that we basically 1094 01:28:33,791 --> 01:28:36,083 work anytime we are not at soccer. 1095 01:28:37,000 --> 01:28:37,750 Or track. 1096 01:28:37,791 --> 01:28:38,166 Or track. 1097 01:28:38,625 --> 01:28:39,083 Or track. 1098 01:28:39,750 --> 01:28:40,625 Or basketball now. 1099 01:28:40,958 --> 01:28:42,291 And basketball now, yeah. 1100 01:28:42,708 --> 01:28:43,916 Our daughter made the basketball team. 1101 01:28:44,166 --> 01:28:44,958 Yay, way to go. 1102 01:28:45,125 --> 01:28:45,958 Yeah, it was awesome. 1103 01:28:46,166 --> 01:28:46,500 It was. 1104 01:28:46,500 --> 01:28:47,041 First kid playing 1105 01:28:47,041 --> 01:28:47,958 basketball, which is awesome. 1106 01:28:47,958 --> 01:28:49,708 I couldn't care less if they played or 1107 01:28:49,708 --> 01:28:50,833 not, but it was kind of cool. 1108 01:28:50,833 --> 01:28:51,875 She wanted to do it all on her own. 1109 01:28:52,000 --> 01:28:52,208 She did. 1110 01:28:52,791 --> 01:28:55,333 I had never played before either, and I 1111 01:28:55,333 --> 01:28:56,250 thought she killed it. 1112 01:28:56,250 --> 01:28:56,875 She crushed it. 1113 01:28:57,291 --> 01:28:57,500 Yeah. 1114 01:28:57,666 --> 01:28:58,208 She crushed it. 1115 01:28:58,208 --> 01:28:58,500 It was awesome. 1116 01:28:58,916 --> 01:28:59,750 Defensive juggernaut has been 1117 01:28:59,750 --> 01:29:00,750 the term I've been throwing. 1118 01:29:02,166 --> 01:29:03,041 And she came off 1119 01:29:03,041 --> 01:29:04,000 feeling good about herself. 1120 01:29:04,541 --> 01:29:04,750 And basketball is not easy. 1121 01:29:04,791 --> 01:29:06,625 There's a lot to still learn. 1122 01:29:07,083 --> 01:29:08,291 But to come off feeling good about your 1123 01:29:08,291 --> 01:29:09,083 first time out, I 1124 01:29:09,083 --> 01:29:10,083 mean, I can't ask for more. 1125 01:29:10,291 --> 01:29:11,041 She's enjoying it. 1126 01:29:11,291 --> 01:29:12,541 She's proud of what she's 1127 01:29:12,541 --> 01:29:13,500 been able to accomplish. 1128 01:29:13,500 --> 01:29:14,000 I love it. 1129 01:29:14,000 --> 01:29:15,041 Can't wait to see what the season brings. 1130 01:29:15,833 --> 01:29:15,958 Yeah. 1131 01:29:15,958 --> 01:29:16,458 For sure. 1132 01:29:16,958 --> 01:29:17,041 Right. 1133 01:29:17,041 --> 01:29:17,250 Right. 1134 01:29:18,791 --> 01:29:19,500 But what was I saying? 1135 01:29:19,791 --> 01:29:21,166 Again, I threw a tantrum. 1136 01:29:21,500 --> 01:29:23,125 Oh, how we're working if we aren't doing 1137 01:29:23,125 --> 01:29:23,916 one of those things. 1138 01:29:24,250 --> 01:29:25,916 If we're not doing one of those things, 1139 01:29:27,208 --> 01:29:29,291 then we're probably working. 1140 01:29:29,291 --> 01:29:30,041 I mean, then we're probably working. 1141 01:29:30,458 --> 01:29:32,375 We're sitting on the couch watching, you 1142 01:29:32,375 --> 01:29:33,375 know, NFL football with 1143 01:29:33,375 --> 01:29:33,750 our laptops on our thing. 1144 01:29:33,791 --> 01:29:36,791 I mean, there is no division. 1145 01:29:36,791 --> 01:29:39,958 Whereas at 25, 35, maybe even 40 years 1146 01:29:39,958 --> 01:29:40,791 old, I mean, it was 1147 01:29:40,791 --> 01:29:42,375 like, you know, at five, six 1148 01:29:42,375 --> 01:29:44,125 o'clock rolls around, pop 1149 01:29:44,125 --> 01:29:46,041 that thing down and I'm off. 1150 01:29:46,041 --> 01:29:47,291 I'm not even thinking about it. 1151 01:29:47,291 --> 01:29:47,500 Yeah. 1152 01:29:47,833 --> 01:29:48,041 Yeah. 1153 01:29:48,791 --> 01:29:49,708 It's right. 1154 01:29:50,125 --> 01:29:52,500 Like, I think part of that 1155 01:29:52,500 --> 01:29:53,750 is that work from home thing. 1156 01:29:54,041 --> 01:29:55,541 You know, if you are working from home, 1157 01:29:55,541 --> 01:29:57,416 it's like, what did that even? 1158 01:29:57,416 --> 01:29:58,625 I just saw an email come through. 1159 01:29:58,625 --> 01:29:59,750 I should probably check it. 1160 01:30:01,791 --> 01:30:03,708 And but it is so then 1161 01:30:03,708 --> 01:30:08,000 hard to protect couples time. 1162 01:30:08,791 --> 01:30:11,083 It's hard to protect your own time. 1163 01:30:11,291 --> 01:30:11,791 Family time. 1164 01:30:12,291 --> 01:30:13,125 Family time. 1165 01:30:13,583 --> 01:30:14,541 I mean, all of it. 1166 01:30:14,541 --> 01:30:16,500 It's just like I was telling someone the 1167 01:30:16,500 --> 01:30:17,041 other day, I was like, 1168 01:30:17,041 --> 01:30:19,833 there is not one minute in 1169 01:30:19,833 --> 01:30:21,208 my day that's unaccounted for where I'm 1170 01:30:21,208 --> 01:30:22,708 like, what should I do? 1171 01:30:23,708 --> 01:30:26,041 I might just sit here, you know, like not 1172 01:30:26,041 --> 01:30:27,166 even one minute 1173 01:30:27,166 --> 01:30:29,291 between five, 45 and 11, 15. 1174 01:30:29,791 --> 01:30:30,041 That's right. 1175 01:30:30,291 --> 01:30:31,791 The best day for you this whole year. 1176 01:30:32,000 --> 01:30:33,250 I want one of the best 1177 01:30:33,250 --> 01:30:34,250 days for you the whole year. 1178 01:30:34,250 --> 01:30:34,458 Right. 1179 01:30:34,666 --> 01:30:35,041 Oh my God. 1180 01:30:35,041 --> 01:30:35,916 It was two weeks ago. 1181 01:30:36,333 --> 01:30:36,583 It was. 1182 01:30:36,958 --> 01:30:38,916 So my company gives a wellness day. 1183 01:30:38,916 --> 01:30:40,208 I think we may have talked about this. 1184 01:30:40,458 --> 01:30:40,916 Oh, did we? 1185 01:30:41,125 --> 01:30:41,583 I don't remember. 1186 01:30:41,583 --> 01:30:42,166 I don't know. 1187 01:30:42,166 --> 01:30:45,291 But it is a day that the company gives 1188 01:30:45,291 --> 01:30:48,750 everybody and it's picked on me. 1189 01:30:48,750 --> 01:30:50,208 I usually last Friday of the month or 1190 01:30:50,208 --> 01:30:51,833 last Friday of October. 1191 01:30:52,583 --> 01:30:54,333 So it's a day when people who have 1192 01:30:54,333 --> 01:30:55,125 children, their kids are 1193 01:30:55,125 --> 01:30:57,375 in school so they don't have 1194 01:30:57,791 --> 01:30:59,708 to take care of their kids. 1195 01:31:00,041 --> 01:31:02,541 I mean, or less they want to. 1196 01:31:02,875 --> 01:31:03,041 Right. 1197 01:31:03,500 --> 01:31:05,666 It is truly a wellness day for you to do 1198 01:31:05,666 --> 01:31:07,916 however you want to do it. 1199 01:31:09,708 --> 01:31:10,416 Go for a walk. 1200 01:31:10,416 --> 01:31:12,125 I mean, they give suggestions. 1201 01:31:12,375 --> 01:31:13,250 Go for a walk. 1202 01:31:13,500 --> 01:31:16,916 Like whatever makes you feel good. 1203 01:31:17,875 --> 01:31:19,708 And because everybody in the company does 1204 01:31:19,708 --> 01:31:20,875 it, you don't get emails. 1205 01:31:21,125 --> 01:31:22,375 I mean, it's like, it's like 1206 01:31:22,375 --> 01:31:23,291 Thanksgiving, right? 1207 01:31:23,291 --> 01:31:24,750 Like everybody gets Thanksgiving off. 1208 01:31:25,833 --> 01:31:27,583 And so you're not because if you take a 1209 01:31:27,583 --> 01:31:29,208 day off, you still get emails all day. 1210 01:31:29,208 --> 01:31:29,958 That was the key. 1211 01:31:30,208 --> 01:31:32,541 If you work piling up, you don't have 1212 01:31:32,541 --> 01:31:34,375 work piling up because everybody's off. 1213 01:31:34,833 --> 01:31:35,041 Yeah. 1214 01:31:35,208 --> 01:31:36,875 And I didn't understand that until I was 1215 01:31:36,875 --> 01:31:37,500 like, why don't you just 1216 01:31:37,500 --> 01:31:38,333 take every other, why don't 1217 01:31:38,333 --> 01:31:39,000 you take more Fridays 1218 01:31:39,000 --> 01:31:39,833 off so you get this? 1219 01:31:40,541 --> 01:31:41,916 Because everybody else is working and 1220 01:31:41,916 --> 01:31:42,666 your phone was just 1221 01:31:42,666 --> 01:31:43,541 ding, ding, ding, ding, ding. 1222 01:31:43,666 --> 01:31:43,875 Yeah. 1223 01:31:44,250 --> 01:31:44,666 So that's fantastic. 1224 01:31:45,041 --> 01:31:45,583 They give you those. 1225 01:31:45,583 --> 01:31:46,166 So it is like another 1226 01:31:46,166 --> 01:31:47,041 Thanksgiving or Christmas. 1227 01:31:47,416 --> 01:31:47,625 Yeah. 1228 01:31:47,666 --> 01:31:50,500 Those few holidays where only that one 1229 01:31:50,500 --> 01:31:52,333 person showing off is sending an email. 1230 01:31:52,708 --> 01:31:52,916 Exactly. 1231 01:31:53,583 --> 01:31:53,791 Exactly. 1232 01:31:55,166 --> 01:31:56,208 We all have one of those. 1233 01:31:57,375 --> 01:31:58,125 I'm not that person. 1234 01:32:00,083 --> 01:32:02,375 But that to me, I look 1235 01:32:02,375 --> 01:32:05,541 forward to that day all year. 1236 01:32:06,375 --> 01:32:08,708 And I mean, sure, I get the chance to 1237 01:32:08,708 --> 01:32:09,666 actually take all the kids 1238 01:32:09,666 --> 01:32:10,625 to school in the morning. 1239 01:32:11,250 --> 01:32:11,750 Why not? 1240 01:32:12,083 --> 01:32:13,250 Like usually get a 1241 01:32:13,250 --> 01:32:15,875 Starbucks, put together a puzzle. 1242 01:32:16,333 --> 01:32:17,666 Like, what? 1243 01:32:20,416 --> 01:32:21,000 It's amazing. 1244 01:32:21,833 --> 01:32:21,958 Yeah. 1245 01:32:22,666 --> 01:32:25,083 So those are some of those things as 1246 01:32:25,083 --> 01:32:26,375 you're kind of just 1247 01:32:26,375 --> 01:32:29,750 peeling back that onion, just 1248 01:32:29,875 --> 01:32:32,166 all the things that you do at this age. 1249 01:32:32,166 --> 01:32:33,583 And it's just how you just 1250 01:32:33,583 --> 01:32:35,041 keep putting more and more on. 1251 01:32:35,416 --> 01:32:37,000 And now we're getting to that point where 1252 01:32:37,000 --> 01:32:37,958 we're putting even more on. 1253 01:32:38,416 --> 01:32:39,500 I think one of these next levels we're 1254 01:32:39,500 --> 01:32:41,333 doing is preparing the kids for college. 1255 01:32:41,333 --> 01:32:41,541 Yeah. 1256 01:32:42,375 --> 01:32:42,583 Right. 1257 01:32:42,833 --> 01:32:44,541 And there's just so much more to it. 1258 01:32:44,541 --> 01:32:45,333 Again, we're blessed to 1259 01:32:45,333 --> 01:32:46,500 have athletic children. 1260 01:32:47,250 --> 01:32:50,500 So searching for an athletic scholarship 1261 01:32:50,500 --> 01:32:51,791 and academic 1262 01:32:51,791 --> 01:32:52,666 scholarship is something that 1263 01:32:52,666 --> 01:32:53,291 we're going to be doing. 1264 01:32:53,625 --> 01:32:53,833 Yeah. 1265 01:32:54,250 --> 01:32:54,458 Yeah. 1266 01:32:54,750 --> 01:32:57,250 And all the, I mean, it's 1267 01:32:57,250 --> 01:32:59,125 nothing that we didn't know, right? 1268 01:32:59,125 --> 01:32:59,750 We have friends who 1269 01:32:59,750 --> 01:33:00,583 have gone through this. 1270 01:33:00,583 --> 01:33:03,166 I went to a college recruiting thing that 1271 01:33:03,166 --> 01:33:05,541 they were putting on to just help prepare 1272 01:33:05,541 --> 01:33:07,750 parents and students for kind of what to 1273 01:33:07,750 --> 01:33:08,791 expect, especially if 1274 01:33:08,791 --> 01:33:09,875 you are a student athlete. 1275 01:33:11,208 --> 01:33:15,000 And I mean, it is very involved of what 1276 01:33:15,000 --> 01:33:16,000 you have to do and when 1277 01:33:16,000 --> 01:33:16,791 you have to start doing 1278 01:33:16,916 --> 01:33:19,291 it and it's like, okay, well, we're 1279 01:33:19,291 --> 01:33:20,375 adding another full-time job. 1280 01:33:20,750 --> 01:33:22,166 Just don't put that on there. 1281 01:33:22,375 --> 01:33:24,541 And it's night and day from when we were 1282 01:33:24,541 --> 01:33:25,541 in college at least. 1283 01:33:25,625 --> 01:33:26,000 Oh, yeah. 1284 01:33:26,000 --> 01:33:26,583 Going to college. 1285 01:33:27,000 --> 01:33:27,166 Yeah. 1286 01:33:27,875 --> 01:33:29,958 So, it's just so much more to it. 1287 01:33:29,958 --> 01:33:31,875 And it's one of those things that I feel 1288 01:33:31,875 --> 01:33:33,500 a little bit like on the line. 1289 01:33:33,666 --> 01:33:34,000 Yeah. 1290 01:33:34,416 --> 01:33:34,625 Right? 1291 01:33:34,666 --> 01:33:36,250 Because it's, you have to have all this 1292 01:33:36,250 --> 01:33:37,583 stuff that you do this, and it reveals that, and 1293 01:33:37,583 --> 01:33:48,583 it videos this. And so a bit, unfortunately, and people with teenagers have to understand that or have teenagers, it's just so much more important. And I think that's what we're doing. And I think that's what we're doing. And I think that's what we're doing. And I think that's what we're doing. Yeah. 1294 01:33:48,875 --> 01:33:51,208 I can't do all that. 1295 01:33:51,208 --> 01:33:51,416 No. 1296 01:33:51,958 --> 01:33:53,875 You know what I mean? 1297 01:33:54,250 --> 01:33:57,541 And that, I mean, I heard the phrase long 1298 01:33:57,541 --> 01:33:59,083 ago, like, we're actually raising adults. 1299 01:33:59,750 --> 01:34:01,708 And here's where it's like, you hope that 1300 01:34:01,708 --> 01:34:02,666 some of those seeds 1301 01:34:02,666 --> 01:34:03,875 have landed because they 1302 01:34:03,875 --> 01:34:05,750 have to take control in 1303 01:34:05,750 --> 01:34:07,000 an active role in this. 1304 01:34:07,083 --> 01:34:09,166 This is no longer, mom, 1305 01:34:09,708 --> 01:34:10,541 hey, can you do this for me? 1306 01:34:10,541 --> 01:34:11,625 Dad, can you do that for me? 1307 01:34:12,333 --> 01:34:14,583 Which is one reason why it's like, I 1308 01:34:14,583 --> 01:34:15,750 mean, I don't ever talk 1309 01:34:15,750 --> 01:34:17,083 to my kids, teachers at 1310 01:34:17,083 --> 01:34:17,750 this point anymore. 1311 01:34:18,500 --> 01:34:19,916 Maybe the sixth grader. 1312 01:34:19,916 --> 01:34:21,250 But like, I'm like, no, no, no, no, no, I 1313 01:34:21,250 --> 01:34:22,125 shouldn't be doing that. 1314 01:34:22,750 --> 01:34:25,000 You should be doing that because you're 1315 01:34:25,000 --> 01:34:25,875 going to have to talk to a 1316 01:34:25,875 --> 01:34:26,916 college recruiter or your 1317 01:34:26,916 --> 01:34:28,166 professor or your boss. 1318 01:34:28,833 --> 01:34:29,625 I can't do it. 1319 01:34:29,625 --> 01:34:29,833 Yeah. 1320 01:34:30,250 --> 01:34:32,416 But now it's that point too where it's 1321 01:34:32,416 --> 01:34:32,708 just, it's scary because I've told you before you 1322 01:34:32,708 --> 01:34:36,375 say it to the kids. Like I've taught you 1323 01:34:36,375 --> 01:34:37,458 everything you need to know. 1324 01:34:37,458 --> 01:34:37,666 Yeah. 1325 01:34:37,916 --> 01:34:39,708 You know what's right and what's wrong. 1326 01:34:39,958 --> 01:34:42,125 You know the things that we want you to 1327 01:34:42,125 --> 01:34:43,500 be, you know, for the 1328 01:34:43,500 --> 01:34:44,541 spirit and kind hearted 1329 01:34:44,541 --> 01:34:45,541 and what we need to know. 1330 01:34:46,000 --> 01:34:46,750 You know it all. 1331 01:34:47,208 --> 01:34:47,708 It's just now up to you whether or not you're going to go out there and do that or not. 1332 01:34:47,708 --> 01:35:00,500 I know. And you don't have to be perfect. You're going to make mistakes. But I mean, it's just scary for someone who likes to have control over things. I can rarely admit that all the other people are free, but I do like to have control over things. I'm just going to say, I'm going to say, I'm going to say, I'm going to say, I'm going to send our children out there without, 1333 01:35:02,041 --> 01:35:04,416 you know, I mean like, 1334 01:35:04,416 --> 01:35:05,958 please make good decisions. 1335 01:35:07,750 --> 01:35:08,541 and our children out 1336 01:35:08,541 --> 01:35:11,833 there without, you know, 1337 01:35:11,833 --> 01:35:14,166 I mean, like, please make good decisions. 1338 01:35:14,166 --> 01:35:14,625 And I know they're 1339 01:35:14,625 --> 01:35:15,416 not gonna make perfect, 1340 01:35:15,416 --> 01:35:16,000 they're not gonna be perfect. 1341 01:35:16,333 --> 01:35:18,333 Right, right, but-- 1342 01:35:18,375 --> 01:35:20,416 But today, I just feel like it's just, 1343 01:35:20,625 --> 01:35:21,125 it's just so much 1344 01:35:21,125 --> 01:35:23,333 easier to screw up, you know, 1345 01:35:23,333 --> 01:35:26,000 and have something in a digital format 1346 01:35:26,125 --> 01:35:28,083 that'll haunt you for a long time. 1347 01:35:28,166 --> 01:35:30,666 Yeah, it's, yeah, the 1348 01:35:30,666 --> 01:35:32,375 repercussions, I feel like, 1349 01:35:32,375 --> 01:35:35,000 are just so paramount, and 1350 01:35:35,000 --> 01:35:37,041 that is yet another thing 1351 01:35:37,125 --> 01:35:39,791 that gets added onto the plate of, 1352 01:35:42,500 --> 01:35:43,125 you're parenting, 1353 01:35:43,333 --> 01:35:44,625 you're learning in real time, 1354 01:35:45,083 --> 01:35:46,791 but you're also trying to walk 1355 01:35:46,791 --> 01:35:49,125 that fine line of letting go, 1356 01:35:49,833 --> 01:35:51,458 but yet staying close 1357 01:35:51,458 --> 01:35:53,791 enough, like, and again, I, 1358 01:35:54,500 --> 01:35:57,000 I don't know, it's frightening, 1359 01:35:57,000 --> 01:35:57,916 because you don't know how you're doing. 1360 01:35:58,208 --> 01:35:59,125 Yeah, yeah. It's like-- 1361 01:36:00,250 --> 01:36:01,041 Yeah, and that's like the 1362 01:36:01,041 --> 01:36:02,166 second most important thing. 1363 01:36:02,166 --> 01:36:03,041 I know we're bouncing 1364 01:36:03,041 --> 01:36:04,083 around here a little bit, 1365 01:36:04,083 --> 01:36:06,041 because career takes up the most time. 1366 01:36:06,625 --> 01:36:07,500 Family's the most 1367 01:36:07,500 --> 01:36:10,291 important thing, you know, 1368 01:36:10,500 --> 01:36:11,625 but then you find 1369 01:36:11,625 --> 01:36:12,791 yourself getting interested 1370 01:36:12,791 --> 01:36:14,333 in other things too, like, I know, 1371 01:36:15,333 --> 01:36:16,083 I would not have called 1372 01:36:16,083 --> 01:36:17,375 myself a political person, 1373 01:36:17,791 --> 01:36:19,625 you know, in my 20s, or 1374 01:36:19,625 --> 01:36:21,791 even my 30s really, that much, 1375 01:36:21,791 --> 01:36:23,166 you know what I mean? I know, yeah. 1376 01:36:23,250 --> 01:36:24,416 Into my 40s, I don't know 1377 01:36:24,416 --> 01:36:25,541 if this just comes with age 1378 01:36:25,541 --> 01:36:26,875 or what it is, you know, 1379 01:36:26,875 --> 01:36:28,416 but I know polysci interest 1380 01:36:28,500 --> 01:36:29,666 whatsoever, in college 1381 01:36:29,666 --> 01:36:30,583 or anything like that. 1382 01:36:31,083 --> 01:36:32,041 Some people do at 1383 01:36:32,041 --> 01:36:33,458 that age, which is great, 1384 01:36:34,166 --> 01:36:34,958 but, you know, I 1385 01:36:34,958 --> 01:36:36,208 don't know if it's because 1386 01:36:36,208 --> 01:36:37,333 you get to a certain age, 1387 01:36:38,333 --> 01:36:39,416 where I'm getting at here, 1388 01:36:39,416 --> 01:36:40,166 is starting to care 1389 01:36:40,166 --> 01:36:41,666 about politics, right? 1390 01:36:42,375 --> 01:36:43,041 And I don't know if 1391 01:36:43,041 --> 01:36:43,875 you get to a certain age, 1392 01:36:43,875 --> 01:36:44,333 and you're like, you know 1393 01:36:44,333 --> 01:36:45,791 what, I grew up in a certain world, 1394 01:36:46,666 --> 01:36:48,166 and I wanna make sure my kids can grow up 1395 01:36:48,166 --> 01:36:49,541 in the same kind of world that I did, 1396 01:36:49,541 --> 01:36:49,833 with the same 1397 01:36:49,833 --> 01:36:52,083 opportunities that I had, right? 1398 01:36:52,083 --> 01:36:52,541 So I don't know if 1399 01:36:52,541 --> 01:36:54,416 that's why parents, you know, 1400 01:36:54,416 --> 01:36:55,875 are adults at a certain age. 1401 01:36:56,416 --> 01:36:57,541 Sometimes I see people get 1402 01:36:57,541 --> 01:36:59,083 more political as they get older. 1403 01:36:59,083 --> 01:37:00,583 Yeah. Is that a natural-- 1404 01:37:02,166 --> 01:37:04,416 I think so, I've noticed it too. 1405 01:37:05,666 --> 01:37:08,291 You know, in myself, I mean, I was never 1406 01:37:08,291 --> 01:37:10,125 a political person at all, 1407 01:37:10,375 --> 01:37:12,041 and I think part of it is, 1408 01:37:12,708 --> 01:37:15,958 as you grow in your career, it is, like, 1409 01:37:16,250 --> 01:37:18,083 not knowing the current environment that 1410 01:37:18,083 --> 01:37:19,125 you're operating in, 1411 01:37:19,125 --> 01:37:20,500 like, is not acceptable 1412 01:37:20,500 --> 01:37:21,708 anymore, you have to know that, 1413 01:37:22,083 --> 01:37:23,666 but I think part of it is the kids, 1414 01:37:24,000 --> 01:37:27,250 and like, how do I preserve and protect 1415 01:37:27,250 --> 01:37:30,416 a good life for them? 1416 01:37:31,625 --> 01:37:33,375 But I also think it 1417 01:37:33,375 --> 01:37:34,291 just comes with wisdom, 1418 01:37:35,000 --> 01:37:36,416 and it's less about, I 1419 01:37:36,416 --> 01:37:38,666 mean, think about the 20, 1420 01:37:39,666 --> 01:37:41,458 in your 20s, you're 1421 01:37:41,458 --> 01:37:45,250 still very self-centered, 1422 01:37:45,250 --> 01:37:47,541 you're still very, like, focused on you, 1423 01:37:48,416 --> 01:37:50,291 and as you get older, your 1424 01:37:50,291 --> 01:37:53,416 perspective opens so much more. 1425 01:37:53,416 --> 01:37:54,750 Part of it is because of 1426 01:37:54,750 --> 01:37:56,416 the kids and the community 1427 01:37:56,625 --> 01:37:58,166 that you find yourself 1428 01:37:58,166 --> 01:37:59,708 in, that all of a sudden, 1429 01:37:59,750 --> 01:38:02,250 you care way more about 1430 01:38:02,250 --> 01:38:04,125 things outside of your own home. 1431 01:38:04,583 --> 01:38:06,625 Yeah, there's a, I can't 1432 01:38:06,625 --> 01:38:07,291 even think of the name of it 1433 01:38:07,291 --> 01:38:08,708 right now, but that's the pyramid, right, 1434 01:38:09,291 --> 01:38:13,375 of self-discovery and self-efficacy, 1435 01:38:13,625 --> 01:38:14,875 I don't know what it is, but 1436 01:38:14,875 --> 01:38:17,375 you take of your basic needs, 1437 01:38:17,375 --> 01:38:18,166 that's the biggest one. 1438 01:38:18,625 --> 01:38:19,458 Once you hit your basic 1439 01:38:19,458 --> 01:38:20,666 needs, you go on to the next one, 1440 01:38:20,666 --> 01:38:21,458 right, which are things 1441 01:38:21,458 --> 01:38:23,125 that you don't have to have, 1442 01:38:23,125 --> 01:38:23,916 but you like to have. 1443 01:38:25,000 --> 01:38:27,833 The very top of that is altruism, right, 1444 01:38:27,958 --> 01:38:29,291 which means you feel 1445 01:38:29,291 --> 01:38:30,333 like you've got everything 1446 01:38:30,333 --> 01:38:31,583 you've needed taken care of, and that 1447 01:38:31,583 --> 01:38:32,416 doesn't mean economic, 1448 01:38:32,625 --> 01:38:34,333 just means, sometimes it is economic, 1449 01:38:34,333 --> 01:38:35,791 but it doesn't have to be, right, 1450 01:38:36,208 --> 01:38:38,083 but at the top of that is altruism, 1451 01:38:38,083 --> 01:38:40,666 which means you actually understand 1452 01:38:41,458 --> 01:38:42,625 that taking care of 1453 01:38:42,625 --> 01:38:45,041 everybody helps take care of you. 1454 01:38:45,041 --> 01:38:45,250 Yeah. 1455 01:38:45,666 --> 01:38:46,833 You know what I mean? Yeah, yeah. 1456 01:38:46,875 --> 01:38:47,625 And that's kind of where 1457 01:38:47,625 --> 01:38:48,416 you're going with that, 1458 01:38:48,416 --> 01:38:49,208 I think people do get 1459 01:38:49,208 --> 01:38:50,125 that way as they get older, 1460 01:38:50,583 --> 01:38:52,208 where it's like, okay, this world's 1461 01:38:52,208 --> 01:38:53,500 bigger than just me. 1462 01:38:53,500 --> 01:38:53,750 Yeah. 1463 01:38:54,500 --> 01:38:57,625 If we can, if we can all work together, 1464 01:38:57,666 --> 01:38:59,333 maybe we can make the world the place 1465 01:38:59,333 --> 01:39:00,625 that we want it to be. 1466 01:39:00,625 --> 01:39:01,458 Yeah, yeah. 1467 01:39:01,500 --> 01:39:02,458 And I think that's the 1468 01:39:02,458 --> 01:39:04,375 way it kind of used to work. 1469 01:39:04,375 --> 01:39:05,666 I don't know if it's used to work, 1470 01:39:05,666 --> 01:39:06,541 because you can go through 1471 01:39:06,541 --> 01:39:07,916 history the last 250 years, 1472 01:39:07,916 --> 01:39:08,791 and it's been ups and downs. 1473 01:39:09,041 --> 01:39:10,041 Sure, sure. 1474 01:39:11,666 --> 01:39:12,125 Irregardless of what 1475 01:39:12,125 --> 01:39:12,875 side you're on right now, 1476 01:39:12,875 --> 01:39:14,416 it's an up and down time right now, too. 1477 01:39:14,416 --> 01:39:15,333 Oh, yeah, absolutely. 1478 01:39:16,375 --> 01:39:18,458 But it's crazy, that's just 1479 01:39:18,458 --> 01:39:19,291 another one of those things 1480 01:39:19,458 --> 01:39:21,500 that as you start, when you're 25, 1481 01:39:21,791 --> 01:39:22,958 you don't think about all these things 1482 01:39:22,958 --> 01:39:23,625 that you're just 1483 01:39:23,625 --> 01:39:26,041 really trying to deal with 1484 01:39:26,541 --> 01:39:27,458 and how to handle it. 1485 01:39:28,500 --> 01:39:29,416 Politically, it's funny, 1486 01:39:29,416 --> 01:39:30,958 because now nobody talks about it, right? 1487 01:39:31,166 --> 01:39:32,791 You know who it's safe to talk to 1488 01:39:32,791 --> 01:39:34,458 and who it's not safe to talk to about 1489 01:39:34,458 --> 01:39:35,541 politics these days. 1490 01:39:37,583 --> 01:39:39,291 And that's kind of what people do. 1491 01:39:39,291 --> 01:39:41,750 I hope it changes as we get older, 1492 01:39:42,833 --> 01:39:44,666 or as we get further along at some point, 1493 01:39:45,333 --> 01:39:46,250 these parties are gonna 1494 01:39:46,250 --> 01:39:47,416 have to get their acts together 1495 01:39:47,416 --> 01:39:49,250 so that we can get back 1496 01:39:49,250 --> 01:39:51,833 to having good arguments 1497 01:39:52,750 --> 01:39:55,500 and shaking hands and having dinner. 1498 01:39:56,541 --> 01:39:59,833 In Washington, but that's 1499 01:39:59,833 --> 01:40:01,125 just another one of those things 1500 01:40:01,125 --> 01:40:02,083 that as you get older, you 1501 01:40:02,083 --> 01:40:03,500 just kind of just keep layering 1502 01:40:03,500 --> 01:40:04,958 in all this stuff. 1503 01:40:06,125 --> 01:40:07,250 And then you start thinking about, 1504 01:40:07,250 --> 01:40:07,833 I mean, I don't know, 1505 01:40:07,833 --> 01:40:09,291 am I missing anything yet 1506 01:40:09,291 --> 01:40:11,125 that just jumping off the thing for you? 1507 01:40:12,000 --> 01:40:12,791 I don't think so. 1508 01:40:12,833 --> 01:40:14,458 But I'm not quite there 1509 01:40:14,458 --> 01:40:17,250 yet, but legacy, right? 1510 01:40:17,458 --> 01:40:19,000 Is something because our 1511 01:40:19,000 --> 01:40:20,875 kids are getting to an age 1512 01:40:21,875 --> 01:40:23,208 where they're gonna 1513 01:40:23,208 --> 01:40:25,125 leave our house soon, right? 1514 01:40:25,125 --> 01:40:26,541 And they were talking earlier, it's like, 1515 01:40:27,041 --> 01:40:31,125 I hope you have everything 1516 01:40:31,125 --> 01:40:32,458 that you could possibly have had 1517 01:40:32,458 --> 01:40:34,750 that we could provide you with, right? 1518 01:40:35,541 --> 01:40:36,541 And I hope it's enough to 1519 01:40:36,541 --> 01:40:38,791 just give you that inertia 1520 01:40:39,083 --> 01:40:40,125 and that push and that 1521 01:40:40,125 --> 01:40:41,875 inner fire or whatever it is, 1522 01:40:42,208 --> 01:40:42,958 just to go out there 1523 01:40:42,958 --> 01:40:45,500 and just enjoy your life. 1524 01:40:45,541 --> 01:40:46,750 Exactly. Right, crush it. 1525 01:40:46,750 --> 01:40:47,750 Like we've told our kids, 1526 01:40:48,458 --> 01:40:50,000 like, all I want you to be 1527 01:40:50,416 --> 01:40:52,791 is be someone that, I want 1528 01:40:52,791 --> 01:40:53,791 you to be happy and kind. 1529 01:40:54,708 --> 01:40:55,875 And I want you to give 1530 01:40:55,875 --> 01:40:56,958 something to society. 1531 01:40:56,958 --> 01:40:58,583 Find whatever you're good at. 1532 01:40:59,083 --> 01:40:59,958 Whatever, you know, I 1533 01:40:59,958 --> 01:41:01,000 don't wanna say makes you happy 1534 01:41:01,000 --> 01:41:01,750 because I think that's a 1535 01:41:01,750 --> 01:41:02,708 little bit of a misnomer, 1536 01:41:02,708 --> 01:41:03,416 like, you know what I mean? 1537 01:41:04,458 --> 01:41:06,000 Drawing in the sand makes me happy. 1538 01:41:06,000 --> 01:41:06,833 Well, you gotta do more 1539 01:41:06,833 --> 01:41:07,500 than draw in the sand. 1540 01:41:08,083 --> 01:41:09,208 Right. You know what I mean? 1541 01:41:09,916 --> 01:41:10,708 But, you know, add some 1542 01:41:10,708 --> 01:41:12,125 value, find a way to add value, 1543 01:41:12,125 --> 01:41:13,500 find your way to add value 1544 01:41:13,500 --> 01:41:15,750 to society in an economic way. 1545 01:41:15,750 --> 01:41:16,708 And you'll find, you'll 1546 01:41:16,708 --> 01:41:18,333 get some sense of self worth 1547 01:41:18,500 --> 01:41:21,375 back from that and be kind and be happy. 1548 01:41:21,375 --> 01:41:22,250 That's all I want from them. 1549 01:41:22,291 --> 01:41:23,875 Yes, yes. For them. 1550 01:41:24,250 --> 01:41:25,125 I know, like. 1551 01:41:26,000 --> 01:41:27,750 But then, you know, once, 1552 01:41:27,875 --> 01:41:29,375 that's kind of our job to get that done. 1553 01:41:29,375 --> 01:41:30,000 And there's a lot we can 1554 01:41:30,000 --> 01:41:31,541 do as parents after that. 1555 01:41:31,583 --> 01:41:32,916 Yeah. You know? 1556 01:41:33,125 --> 01:41:33,750 And that'll be 1557 01:41:33,750 --> 01:41:35,000 interesting because, you know, 1558 01:41:35,000 --> 01:41:35,708 that gets into that 1559 01:41:35,708 --> 01:41:37,041 whole discussion of like, 1560 01:41:37,041 --> 01:41:38,041 well, how are our parents 1561 01:41:38,041 --> 01:41:39,458 and how are they with us now? 1562 01:41:39,458 --> 01:41:40,666 And how do we wanna be different? 1563 01:41:41,041 --> 01:41:42,166 Everybody wants to be a different parent 1564 01:41:42,166 --> 01:41:43,625 than their parents were to some degree. 1565 01:41:43,625 --> 01:41:45,000 Some degree. Or improve on this, 1566 01:41:45,000 --> 01:41:46,333 or improve on that or whatever. 1567 01:41:46,458 --> 01:41:47,000 Right, right. 1568 01:41:47,291 --> 01:41:48,250 I mean, it's very few 1569 01:41:48,250 --> 01:41:50,291 people who are like exactly like, 1570 01:41:50,291 --> 01:41:51,458 I wanna be just like 1571 01:41:51,458 --> 01:41:52,916 this parent, you know? 1572 01:41:52,958 --> 01:41:54,125 I was like, oh no, I really 1573 01:41:54,125 --> 01:41:56,166 liked how my parents did this. 1574 01:41:56,208 --> 01:41:57,208 And that's not a dig on the parents. 1575 01:41:57,375 --> 01:41:57,916 No, not at all. It's just everybody's 1576 01:41:58,208 --> 01:41:59,250 individual and, right. 1577 01:41:59,250 --> 01:42:00,000 Our kids are gonna do 1578 01:42:00,000 --> 01:42:00,875 the same thing to us. 1579 01:42:00,875 --> 01:42:02,750 Be like, oh my gosh, my 1580 01:42:02,750 --> 01:42:03,791 mom was awful at this, 1581 01:42:03,791 --> 01:42:05,458 so I'd like to improve on that, you know? 1582 01:42:05,458 --> 01:42:06,625 Like, it's okay. Right, right. 1583 01:42:06,666 --> 01:42:07,958 But she was really good at this 1584 01:42:07,958 --> 01:42:09,750 and I wanna do that the same way. 1585 01:42:09,833 --> 01:42:11,125 Yeah. I expect that. 1586 01:42:11,208 --> 01:42:12,333 Yeah, exactly. And I hope that. 1587 01:42:12,708 --> 01:42:13,500 That's true because I 1588 01:42:13,500 --> 01:42:14,833 think being a parent 1589 01:42:15,041 --> 01:42:15,750 more than anything, 1590 01:42:16,916 --> 01:42:18,708 like you do have to be 1591 01:42:20,208 --> 01:42:21,666 somewhat authentic to who you are. 1592 01:42:21,708 --> 01:42:23,375 I mean, yes, you have to be a 1593 01:42:23,375 --> 01:42:24,250 disciplinarian sometimes, 1594 01:42:24,250 --> 01:42:26,541 even if that's not where it comes, 1595 01:42:27,708 --> 01:42:30,708 naturally, but you still have to be that. 1596 01:42:31,125 --> 01:42:32,458 But at the same time, 1597 01:42:32,458 --> 01:42:33,666 your kids are gonna know 1598 01:42:33,666 --> 01:42:34,458 your authentic self 1599 01:42:34,458 --> 01:42:35,416 through how you parent them. 1600 01:42:35,875 --> 01:42:36,916 Yeah, and I think that's something 1601 01:42:36,916 --> 01:42:38,250 that I've worked really hard on 1602 01:42:38,250 --> 01:42:39,708 and I know you're working on it. 1603 01:42:40,000 --> 01:42:40,875 You're good at it, but 1604 01:42:40,875 --> 01:42:41,791 there are some aspects 1605 01:42:41,791 --> 01:42:42,583 you're working on, but 1606 01:42:42,583 --> 01:42:43,541 I've been very honest 1607 01:42:43,541 --> 01:42:45,041 with our kids of, hey, 1608 01:42:45,041 --> 01:42:45,833 look, this is who I am. 1609 01:42:46,666 --> 01:42:48,000 I'm not perfect. 1610 01:42:48,666 --> 01:42:51,875 I'm not trying to pretend I am. 1611 01:42:52,166 --> 01:42:52,791 We're all humans. 1612 01:42:53,208 --> 01:42:53,916 It's trying to show them 1613 01:42:53,916 --> 01:42:55,125 it's okay not to be perfect 1614 01:42:55,125 --> 01:42:56,833 because we've talked about it. 1615 01:42:56,833 --> 01:42:57,666 We have super high 1616 01:42:57,666 --> 01:42:58,666 expectations in our house, 1617 01:42:58,666 --> 01:42:59,625 whether it's academic, 1618 01:42:59,625 --> 01:43:00,333 whether it's athletic, 1619 01:43:00,708 --> 01:43:02,000 whatever it is, all kinds of things. 1620 01:43:02,000 --> 01:43:03,375 We have high expectations, 1621 01:43:03,625 --> 01:43:05,250 but we don't expect you to be perfect. 1622 01:43:05,291 --> 01:43:06,208 No. You know what I mean? 1623 01:43:06,875 --> 01:43:08,166 And the way I show 1624 01:43:08,166 --> 01:43:09,083 them that is by leading. 1625 01:43:09,333 --> 01:43:10,458 I'm not perfect either. 1626 01:43:10,458 --> 01:43:11,041 Right, right. You know what I mean? 1627 01:43:11,041 --> 01:43:11,791 And I'm not trying to, 1628 01:43:11,791 --> 01:43:13,458 I'm not trying to, what 1629 01:43:13,458 --> 01:43:14,291 am I trying to say here? 1630 01:43:14,458 --> 01:43:19,416 I'm not trying to subtly suggest 1631 01:43:19,416 --> 01:43:20,625 that I've got major issues. 1632 01:43:20,958 --> 01:43:22,708 I don't, I've got life 1633 01:43:22,708 --> 01:43:24,041 together fairly well, 1634 01:43:24,041 --> 01:43:25,125 but I'm not perfect. 1635 01:43:25,416 --> 01:43:25,916 You know what I mean? 1636 01:43:26,458 --> 01:43:27,958 With our kids, like, do I 1637 01:43:27,958 --> 01:43:29,000 overreact to things sometimes? 1638 01:43:29,291 --> 01:43:29,625 Yeah. 1639 01:43:29,958 --> 01:43:31,041 If I'm in a bad mood, do I take it on 1640 01:43:31,041 --> 01:43:31,750 other people sometimes? 1641 01:43:32,208 --> 01:43:32,500 Yeah. 1642 01:43:32,958 --> 01:43:34,500 And those are the things that we go back 1643 01:43:34,875 --> 01:43:36,166 and we're like, hey, I messed up. 1644 01:43:36,708 --> 01:43:38,083 I was mad about this at work. 1645 01:43:38,791 --> 01:43:40,583 You kinda, you forgot to do your thing. 1646 01:43:40,583 --> 01:43:41,333 You've had to throw trash 1647 01:43:41,333 --> 01:43:42,458 away, and I took it out on you. 1648 01:43:43,000 --> 01:43:43,625 I mean, it's something that 1649 01:43:43,625 --> 01:43:44,666 wasn't that big of a deal. 1650 01:43:44,666 --> 01:43:44,875 Right. 1651 01:43:45,125 --> 01:43:47,208 So those are the things that I feel like, 1652 01:43:47,500 --> 01:43:49,166 you know, like, we do 1653 01:43:49,166 --> 01:43:51,625 try very hard to be real. 1654 01:43:51,916 --> 01:43:52,166 Yeah. 1655 01:43:52,875 --> 01:43:53,875 You know, like with emotions, 1656 01:43:54,083 --> 01:43:55,166 and that's something you kinda work on 1657 01:43:55,166 --> 01:43:56,875 is trying to show emotions to them. 1658 01:43:57,250 --> 01:43:57,458 Right. 1659 01:43:57,625 --> 01:43:58,666 It's not always just perfect. 1660 01:43:58,916 --> 01:44:00,000 It's not always perfect, yeah. 1661 01:44:00,250 --> 01:44:01,458 Yeah, it's okay to be sad. 1662 01:44:01,458 --> 01:44:02,875 It's okay to be frustrated. 1663 01:44:02,875 --> 01:44:03,750 It's okay, you know. 1664 01:44:03,791 --> 01:44:04,000 Yeah. 1665 01:44:05,166 --> 01:44:06,291 So it's that legacy though is 1666 01:44:06,291 --> 01:44:07,083 where I was going with that. 1667 01:44:07,083 --> 01:44:08,750 It's like, that next stage is like, 1668 01:44:08,750 --> 01:44:09,750 what are we leaving behind? 1669 01:44:09,750 --> 01:44:10,416 We're leaving hopefully 1670 01:44:10,416 --> 01:44:11,791 some very well-adjusted, 1671 01:44:12,166 --> 01:44:15,333 happy, well, you know, successful kids. 1672 01:44:15,375 --> 01:44:15,541 Yeah. 1673 01:44:15,875 --> 01:44:17,208 You know, and successful in whatever way 1674 01:44:17,208 --> 01:44:18,541 that defines their success. 1675 01:44:18,583 --> 01:44:19,708 Their success, exactly. 1676 01:44:20,041 --> 01:44:20,416 You know. 1677 01:44:20,833 --> 01:44:21,041 Exactly. 1678 01:44:22,083 --> 01:44:24,791 I think that's, that is huge, 1679 01:44:24,791 --> 01:44:25,500 and now is the time 1680 01:44:25,500 --> 01:44:26,333 when we start thinking 1681 01:44:26,416 --> 01:44:27,541 about that more and more. 1682 01:44:27,958 --> 01:44:28,166 Yeah. 1683 01:44:29,333 --> 01:44:31,000 Because it's, I mean, 1684 01:44:31,125 --> 01:44:33,041 you start counting down 1685 01:44:33,250 --> 01:44:36,125 of like the utter shock and awe of like, 1686 01:44:36,500 --> 01:44:37,708 we only have two more years left, 1687 01:44:37,708 --> 01:44:38,166 or two and a half 1688 01:44:38,166 --> 01:44:40,416 years left with that child 1689 01:44:40,458 --> 01:44:41,875 before they leave the house. 1690 01:44:41,916 --> 01:44:45,041 And your children, even 1691 01:44:45,041 --> 01:44:46,083 after they leave the house, 1692 01:44:46,083 --> 01:44:46,916 are still your children. 1693 01:44:47,208 --> 01:44:48,375 And it doesn't mean that 1694 01:44:48,375 --> 01:44:49,541 you don't have time with them, 1695 01:44:49,541 --> 01:44:51,208 but that time changes 1696 01:44:51,208 --> 01:44:55,416 entirely after they leave your home. 1697 01:44:56,125 --> 01:44:56,333 I know. 1698 01:44:57,041 --> 01:44:57,833 I'm just not ready. 1699 01:44:57,833 --> 01:44:59,291 I've said it a million times on here. 1700 01:44:59,291 --> 01:45:00,208 I'm just not ready for it yet. 1701 01:45:00,416 --> 01:45:01,875 But you know, he hasn't, 1702 01:45:01,875 --> 01:45:04,333 you know, soiled the nest yet. 1703 01:45:05,125 --> 01:45:05,583 You know what I mean? 1704 01:45:05,833 --> 01:45:06,083 That's right. 1705 01:45:06,083 --> 01:45:06,791 I can't imagine. 1706 01:45:06,791 --> 01:45:09,208 I mean, he gets more attitude than the 1707 01:45:09,208 --> 01:45:10,083 necessary sometimes. 1708 01:45:10,916 --> 01:45:11,750 But you know, within, 1709 01:45:11,750 --> 01:45:13,333 I think, expectations. 1710 01:45:13,875 --> 01:45:14,083 Yeah. 1711 01:45:14,208 --> 01:45:15,666 But he also can be like, 1712 01:45:16,333 --> 01:45:18,333 he just will blow your expectations away 1713 01:45:18,333 --> 01:45:19,208 when you're like, oh my 1714 01:45:19,208 --> 01:45:20,541 gosh, you just completely, 1715 01:45:21,000 --> 01:45:21,875 or the sweetest human 1716 01:45:21,875 --> 01:45:23,750 being, or whatever it was, 1717 01:45:23,750 --> 01:45:25,083 like, oh my gosh, I'm so proud of you 1718 01:45:25,083 --> 01:45:26,041 because you did that. 1719 01:45:26,333 --> 01:45:26,500 Right. 1720 01:45:26,958 --> 01:45:27,666 And the other part of 1721 01:45:27,666 --> 01:45:28,666 that's hard for them, 1722 01:45:28,666 --> 01:45:29,583 just leaving the house, 1723 01:45:29,583 --> 01:45:30,375 is just knowing that I 1724 01:45:30,375 --> 01:45:31,625 saw this the other day. 1725 01:45:31,625 --> 01:45:32,250 Like we've known it, 1726 01:45:32,250 --> 01:45:33,291 but I've seen the stats 1727 01:45:33,291 --> 01:45:34,375 and it's coming out a 1728 01:45:34,375 --> 01:45:35,083 little bit more to you 1729 01:45:35,083 --> 01:45:36,041 that this will likely 1730 01:45:36,041 --> 01:45:36,958 be the first generation 1731 01:45:36,958 --> 01:45:38,000 that won't be able to improve 1732 01:45:38,000 --> 01:45:39,541 upon their parents' economic status. 1733 01:45:40,500 --> 01:45:41,625 I mean, that's been the 1734 01:45:41,625 --> 01:45:43,333 case for multiple generations, 1735 01:45:44,583 --> 01:45:46,375 in modern era, basically. 1736 01:45:46,708 --> 01:45:47,833 And this will be the first generation 1737 01:45:48,000 --> 01:45:51,000 that really finds difficult to improve. 1738 01:45:51,875 --> 01:45:52,958 And that's something that 1739 01:45:52,958 --> 01:45:55,333 would be difficult, I think. 1740 01:45:55,875 --> 01:45:56,500 And I've already tried 1741 01:45:56,500 --> 01:45:57,708 to lay seeds for this, 1742 01:45:57,708 --> 01:45:58,166 being like, hey, 1743 01:45:58,166 --> 01:46:00,250 look, you have two parents 1744 01:46:00,250 --> 01:46:01,500 that have been successful in their 1745 01:46:01,500 --> 01:46:03,000 careers to some degree. 1746 01:46:04,125 --> 01:46:06,750 And don't feel like you have 1747 01:46:06,750 --> 01:46:08,000 to live in a house like this. 1748 01:46:08,333 --> 01:46:09,000 If you don't live in a house 1749 01:46:09,000 --> 01:46:10,041 like this when you grow up, 1750 01:46:10,083 --> 01:46:10,708 that's okay. 1751 01:46:11,375 --> 01:46:11,541 Yeah. 1752 01:46:11,625 --> 01:46:12,000 You know what I mean? 1753 01:46:12,875 --> 01:46:13,916 Like, just want you to be happy again. 1754 01:46:13,916 --> 01:46:14,791 Just want you to be happy. 1755 01:46:14,791 --> 01:46:15,458 Just be kind and happy. 1756 01:46:15,791 --> 01:46:16,250 You know what I mean? 1757 01:46:16,750 --> 01:46:17,666 Find success in your own way. 1758 01:46:18,000 --> 01:46:18,875 Has nothing to do 1759 01:46:18,875 --> 01:46:19,916 with that kind of stuff. 1760 01:46:20,375 --> 01:46:22,125 Money has nothing to do with happiness. 1761 01:46:23,000 --> 01:46:23,916 We were just talking about the other day, 1762 01:46:24,166 --> 01:46:25,375 like I don't think it was on this, 1763 01:46:25,375 --> 01:46:26,333 but we were talking about the other day, 1764 01:46:26,333 --> 01:46:27,500 like we could be billionaires. 1765 01:46:28,083 --> 01:46:29,500 We could be billionaires. 1766 01:46:30,208 --> 01:46:31,000 And the things that make 1767 01:46:31,000 --> 01:46:32,416 us mad on a daily basis, 1768 01:46:33,125 --> 01:46:34,250 money wouldn't change. 1769 01:46:34,500 --> 01:46:35,166 Nope, nope. 1770 01:46:35,541 --> 01:46:36,500 I would still be annoyed 1771 01:46:36,500 --> 01:46:38,625 at X, Y, or Z, you know? 1772 01:46:38,916 --> 01:46:39,083 Like-- 1773 01:46:40,041 --> 01:46:41,500 It wouldn't change any of those things. 1774 01:46:41,500 --> 01:46:41,833 No, it wouldn't. 1775 01:46:42,500 --> 01:46:44,666 So money's just not the answer. 1776 01:46:45,166 --> 01:46:47,500 It makes life easier, buys fun toys. 1777 01:46:47,875 --> 01:46:49,708 All that's true, but it's not the answer. 1778 01:46:50,166 --> 01:46:53,208 You have to be okay before. 1779 01:46:53,791 --> 01:46:54,208 There's plenty of 1780 01:46:54,208 --> 01:46:55,041 people that have got money 1781 01:46:55,041 --> 01:46:56,000 one way or another, 1782 01:46:56,000 --> 01:46:57,083 and they're miserable. 1783 01:46:57,458 --> 01:46:58,291 That's exactly right. 1784 01:46:58,583 --> 01:46:59,791 Or they lose it because 1785 01:46:59,791 --> 01:47:00,750 they don't want to handle it. 1786 01:47:02,541 --> 01:47:03,583 Anyways, I just thought 1787 01:47:03,583 --> 01:47:04,500 it was interesting today 1788 01:47:04,500 --> 01:47:05,500 to talk through that, but 1789 01:47:05,500 --> 01:47:06,666 am I missing anything else? 1790 01:47:07,125 --> 01:47:08,416 I don't think so. 1791 01:47:08,416 --> 01:47:08,666 Okay. 1792 01:47:09,250 --> 01:47:11,000 I think you nailed it. 1793 01:47:11,333 --> 01:47:12,166 I nailed it, yes. 1794 01:47:12,416 --> 01:47:13,666 Nailed it. We did, nailed it. 1795 01:47:13,666 --> 01:47:15,541 Well, we're squeezing 1796 01:47:15,541 --> 01:47:17,041 this in between a pickup 1797 01:47:17,041 --> 01:47:18,208 and a takeoff. 1798 01:47:18,625 --> 01:47:20,250 Yep, that's exactly right. 1799 01:47:20,541 --> 01:47:21,875 That's exactly right. 1800 01:47:21,875 --> 01:47:23,583 Because the chaos train keeps going. 1801 01:47:23,625 --> 01:47:26,041 The chaos train is not stopping. 1802 01:47:26,041 --> 01:47:26,708 It doesn't stop. 1803 01:47:27,500 --> 01:47:28,208 It slows down so you 1804 01:47:28,208 --> 01:47:29,166 can like hop on board, 1805 01:47:29,458 --> 01:47:31,458 but yeah, it doesn't stop. 1806 01:47:31,750 --> 01:47:32,333 I think there's been a 1807 01:47:32,333 --> 01:47:33,125 couple times where I'm like, 1808 01:47:33,125 --> 01:47:34,375 "Here, we're gonna hit me." 1809 01:47:35,583 --> 01:47:36,791 I'll catch the next one, I guess. 1810 01:47:37,875 --> 01:47:39,833 It's just so chaotic. 1811 01:47:40,166 --> 01:47:40,833 That is funny. 1812 01:47:41,875 --> 01:47:42,791 I feel that way. 1813 01:47:44,541 --> 01:47:45,250 Yeah, yeah. 1814 01:47:45,708 --> 01:47:48,166 All right, well, I guess 1815 01:47:48,166 --> 01:47:49,250 we gotta think of our words. 1816 01:47:49,958 --> 01:47:50,291 Yeah. 1817 01:47:52,666 --> 01:47:53,041 Mine's kinda weird. 1818 01:47:53,708 --> 01:47:54,833 Okay, I was gonna say, I 1819 01:47:54,833 --> 01:47:55,416 don't think I have any. 1820 01:47:55,666 --> 01:47:56,291 Yeah, I don't know that 1821 01:47:56,291 --> 01:47:57,291 I do either, but I know. 1822 01:47:57,875 --> 01:47:58,916 One, two, three. 1823 01:47:59,125 --> 01:47:59,875 Tetris. Autumn. 1824 01:48:00,791 --> 01:48:01,916 Tetris is a really good one. 1825 01:48:02,250 --> 01:48:03,916 Oh, so tell me about Autumn. 1826 01:48:04,500 --> 01:48:05,291 No, it's just the time of 1827 01:48:05,291 --> 01:48:06,125 the year, similar to yours. 1828 01:48:06,166 --> 01:48:09,625 Yours last year was the drink. 1829 01:48:11,041 --> 01:48:12,041 Pumpkin spice. Oh, yeah, 1830 01:48:12,041 --> 01:48:13,208 pumpkin spice, yeah. 1831 01:48:13,291 --> 01:48:14,208 Mine's Autumn, you 1832 01:48:14,208 --> 01:48:15,833 know, we've got the scents 1833 01:48:15,833 --> 01:48:18,416 in the house, we've 1834 01:48:18,416 --> 01:48:20,041 got seasonal decorations, 1835 01:48:20,291 --> 01:48:21,208 we had cold weather this 1836 01:48:21,208 --> 01:48:22,458 week, it's just starting to feel 1837 01:48:22,791 --> 01:48:23,958 a little bit like Autumn. 1838 01:48:24,791 --> 01:48:25,291 Which is a great 1839 01:48:25,291 --> 01:48:26,541 season, I love this season. 1840 01:48:27,041 --> 01:48:28,625 I know the kids do too, so. 1841 01:48:28,625 --> 01:48:30,041 Oh my gosh, it's like 1842 01:48:30,041 --> 01:48:31,291 all the anticipation 1843 01:48:31,583 --> 01:48:32,625 and we're coming up on 1844 01:48:32,625 --> 01:48:33,666 Thanksgiving and Christmas 1845 01:48:33,958 --> 01:48:34,833 oh my gosh, it really 1846 01:48:34,833 --> 01:48:36,541 is, it is an awesome time. 1847 01:48:36,541 --> 01:48:38,041 Trying to fight off sinus infections, 1848 01:48:38,041 --> 01:48:39,458 it's a great season. It's a great season. 1849 01:48:40,000 --> 01:48:40,625 It's a great season. 1850 01:48:41,625 --> 01:48:42,500 But Tetris for you. 1851 01:48:42,916 --> 01:48:45,500 Tetris, I feel like last 1852 01:48:45,500 --> 01:48:47,541 week, this week, next week, 1853 01:48:47,541 --> 01:48:50,583 it is just about fitting it all in. 1854 01:48:50,875 --> 01:48:53,250 100%, that would work for me too. 1855 01:48:53,625 --> 01:48:57,041 I mean, I could, I could, what is it? 1856 01:48:57,333 --> 01:48:58,666 Same same. Same same. 1857 01:48:58,708 --> 01:48:59,875 Yeah. Same. 1858 01:49:00,291 --> 01:49:01,125 Same, yeah. 1859 01:49:01,375 --> 01:49:03,291 (laughing) Yeah, there's a lot of 1860 01:49:03,291 --> 01:49:04,833 just gotta get that done, 1861 01:49:04,833 --> 01:49:05,333 gotta get that done. 1862 01:49:05,958 --> 01:49:07,458 I am in that mode right now, I'm in mind 1863 01:49:07,458 --> 01:49:08,125 where it's just like, 1864 01:49:08,625 --> 01:49:09,291 just gotta put my 1865 01:49:09,291 --> 01:49:10,000 head down and keep going. 1866 01:49:10,250 --> 01:49:11,208 One foot in front of the other. 1867 01:49:11,250 --> 01:49:13,000 Yep. Can't stop, just gotta go. 1868 01:49:13,000 --> 01:49:13,541 Cause at some point 1869 01:49:13,541 --> 01:49:14,875 we're gonna get to a spot 1870 01:49:14,875 --> 01:49:15,541 where I can't take a 1871 01:49:15,541 --> 01:49:17,166 breath, but it's nice to me. 1872 01:49:17,583 --> 01:49:20,041 Nope, hopefully over Thanksgiving break. 1873 01:49:20,291 --> 01:49:20,916 For the next day. 1874 01:49:21,666 --> 01:49:22,583 (laughing) 1875 01:49:22,625 --> 01:49:24,958 Yeah, I feel like I 1876 01:49:24,958 --> 01:49:26,208 look at my outlet calendar 1877 01:49:26,208 --> 01:49:28,750 and I'm like, okay, 1878 01:49:29,333 --> 01:49:30,916 Tetris, let me move this 1879 01:49:31,000 --> 01:49:32,375 so I can accommodate this and let me 1880 01:49:32,375 --> 01:49:33,916 switch that on its side. 1881 01:49:33,916 --> 01:49:35,083 I can get it in here. 1882 01:49:35,333 --> 01:49:35,916 Well, let me know if 1883 01:49:35,916 --> 01:49:36,583 there's anything I can do 1884 01:49:36,583 --> 01:49:37,416 or let me know if there's anything 1885 01:49:37,416 --> 01:49:38,375 these people can do for you. 1886 01:49:38,958 --> 01:49:39,375 They can. 1887 01:49:40,333 --> 01:49:41,375 We'll call them friends and family. 1888 01:49:41,416 --> 01:49:43,083 We'll call them, it takes a village. 1889 01:49:43,666 --> 01:49:45,125 Yeah, delivered dinners 1890 01:49:45,125 --> 01:49:46,208 would be great, lasagna. 1891 01:49:48,625 --> 01:49:49,000 (laughing) 1892 01:49:50,375 --> 01:49:51,333 I actually know lasagna kids. 1893 01:49:52,708 --> 01:49:53,875 They need to, I love lasagna. 1894 01:49:53,916 --> 01:49:54,875 I love lasagna. I like it so good. 1895 01:49:54,875 --> 01:49:56,416 Make it again, they might like it now. 1896 01:49:56,416 --> 01:49:56,750 Oh, they might. 1897 01:49:57,000 --> 01:49:57,708 How do we have kids 1898 01:49:57,708 --> 01:49:58,625 that don't like pasta? 1899 01:49:58,625 --> 01:49:59,166 Where is my mic? 1900 01:49:59,625 --> 01:50:00,166 I don't know. 1901 01:50:00,875 --> 01:50:01,750 Well, let's let these people go. 1902 01:50:02,375 --> 01:50:03,458 Episode 43, in the books. 1903 01:50:03,708 --> 01:50:06,083 In the books, so here we go, chow chow. 1904 01:50:06,125 --> 01:50:07,083 All right, we'll see ya. 1905 01:50:07,291 --> 01:50:07,500 Bye. 1906 01:50:10,166 --> 01:50:11,541 I was trying to get you out of there. 1907 01:50:11,541 --> 01:50:13,916 Yeah, all right, thank you. 1908 01:55:12,916 --> 01:55:14,416 (upbeat music) 1909 01:55:15,083 --> 01:55:16,666 Do you think you'd be interested 1910 01:55:16,916 --> 01:55:18,791 in doing a podcast with me? 1911 01:55:18,791 --> 01:55:19,541 (laughing) 1912 01:55:19,541 --> 01:55:21,041 I mean, it's laughable. 1913 01:55:21,666 --> 01:55:21,958 No. 1914 01:55:22,583 --> 01:55:23,333 Like and subscribe. 1915 01:55:24,000 --> 01:55:25,000 But you're lame. 1916 01:55:25,375 --> 01:55:26,583 I'm not gonna give you the time of day. 1917 01:55:27,416 --> 01:55:28,708 Oh, you think this is hard. 1918 01:55:28,708 --> 01:55:29,208 You just waited. 1919 01:55:29,666 --> 01:55:30,416 30 year old Megan 1920 01:55:30,416 --> 01:55:31,708 could not have done that. 1921 01:55:32,041 --> 01:55:32,875 It's meant for napping. 1922 01:55:32,875 --> 01:55:34,041 Football is made for snacking. 1923 01:55:34,875 --> 01:55:35,708 You got this made for napping. 1924 01:55:35,958 --> 01:55:36,250 Yes. 1925 01:55:36,541 --> 01:55:36,750 Yeah. 1926 01:55:37,250 --> 01:55:38,333 Whole point of the sports. 1927 01:55:38,541 --> 01:55:38,750 Exactly. 1928 01:55:38,750 --> 01:55:39,750 Like, well, you're a weighty-dwee. 1929 01:55:40,666 --> 01:55:40,875 Sure. 1930 01:55:41,541 --> 01:55:43,125 I'm like 50-50 yoga and work. 1931 01:55:43,125 --> 01:55:43,916 50-50 yoga and work. 1932 01:55:44,166 --> 01:55:44,833 I am a female. 1933 01:55:45,541 --> 01:55:45,958 That's crazy. 1934 01:55:46,458 --> 01:55:46,833 Insane. 1935 01:55:47,125 --> 01:55:48,291 We all know who that person is. 1936 01:55:48,291 --> 01:55:49,208 We all have one of those. 1937 01:55:49,416 --> 01:55:51,083 Deep it's a juggernaut has been the term 1938 01:55:51,083 --> 01:55:51,541 I've been through. 1939 01:55:52,083 --> 01:55:53,041 Your job will be posted 1940 01:55:53,041 --> 01:55:54,000 before you're obituary. 1941 01:55:54,541 --> 01:55:56,208 Money has nothing to do with happiness. 1942 01:55:56,625 --> 01:55:57,625 No, I'll get to that one later. 1943 01:55:57,916 --> 01:55:58,583 Yeah, whether that's 1944 01:55:58,583 --> 01:55:59,666 healthy or not, it's all over. 1945 01:55:59,916 --> 01:56:01,083 We basically work 1946 01:56:01,083 --> 01:56:02,916 anytime we are not at soccer. 1947 01:56:04,208 --> 01:56:04,250 (laughing) 1948 01:56:04,416 --> 01:56:04,958 Or track. 1949 01:56:05,458 --> 01:56:05,750 All right. 1950 01:56:05,750 --> 01:56:06,791 Episode 43, "In the Books." 1951 01:56:07,000 --> 01:56:07,458 "In the Books." 1952 01:56:07,750 --> 01:56:08,791 So, here we go. 1953 01:56:08,916 --> 01:56:09,416 Chow, chow. 1954 01:56:09,416 --> 01:56:09,958 All right, yeah. 1955 01:56:10,791 --> 01:56:11,541 Nailed it.