You know your Enneagram number. But do you know what it's been quietly telling you about what you need in bed?
Following the success of last week's Love Languages episode, Scott and Brittney go deeper with the framework that actually explains why you want what you want — not just what you want. The Enneagram goes beyond behavior into motivation, which makes it uniquely revealing when applied to intimacy.
In Episode 32, they walk through all nine Enneagram types — what each one needs in intimate relationships, what they bring to a partner, where they get in their own way, what growth looks like for each type, and which Coelle session is built for exactly what they need. Then they share their own types and what they recognized about themselves and each other.
If you and your partner have different numbers — this episode explains some things.
In this episode:
- Why the Enneagram works differently than other personality frameworks for understanding intimacy
- The key split: which types need emotional connection first, and which can separate sex from love
- All nine types — core drive, what they need in bed, what they bring, their growth edge, and a Coelle session recommendation
- Why Type 1s are secretly more adventurous than anyone thinks
- Why Type 2s struggle to ask for what they want — and what happens when they do
- Why Type 3s fuse sex with self-worth — and how that creates performance pressure
- Why Type 9s self-forget in bed — and what a partner can do about it
- Scott & Brittney share their types and what they recognized about each other
- The one question to ask your partner before you go to sleep tonight
Remember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided.
Couples Intimacy Resources
Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship?
Download Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection.
For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence.
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What is Do You Feel That? | A Couples Intimacy & Sex Podcast?
Do You Feel That? is a couples intimacy and sex podcast about love, connection, desire, and building a stronger relationship in and out of the bedroom.
Hosted by Scott and Brittney, a married couple exploring modern intimacy, each episode blends honest conversations, personal stories, and practical tools to help couples improve communication, deepen emotional connection, and create better sex in long-term relationships.
We talk about:
• Marriage and intimacy
• Sexual communication
• Desire differences
• Erotic exploration
• Guided audio intimacy
• Confidence in the bedroom
• Reigniting passion after kids
• Sex toys, play, and connection
• Building emotional safety
• Strengthening relationships through intentional intimacy
Whether you’re navigating mismatched desire, looking to improve your sex life, or simply wanting to feel closer to your partner, Do You Feel That? offers grounded, real-world conversations to help couples grow together.
New episodes every week.