1 01:00:00,500 --> 01:00:03,125 Good morning and welcome 2 01:00:03,125 --> 01:00:04,708 to your morning cereal. 3 01:00:08,833 --> 01:00:11,333 Okay, good morning and welcome to Monday. 4 01:00:11,583 --> 01:00:13,375 I hope you survived the weekend. 5 01:00:13,833 --> 01:00:15,750 You didn't freeze, you stayed warm 6 01:00:15,750 --> 01:00:18,333 and you're ready to attack another week. 7 01:00:18,750 --> 01:00:20,458 But before you attack, 8 01:00:20,750 --> 01:00:22,666 let's take a moment to love. 9 01:00:23,166 --> 01:00:25,291 Today is National Spouse Day, 10 01:00:25,583 --> 01:00:26,833 a day to appreciate the 11 01:00:26,833 --> 01:00:28,250 person who knows your habits, 12 01:00:28,541 --> 01:00:29,541 they know your moods and 13 01:00:29,541 --> 01:00:32,041 exactly how you take your coffee 14 01:00:32,500 --> 01:00:34,791 and they actually still choose you. 15 01:00:35,458 --> 01:00:36,416 Well, the answer to 16 01:00:36,416 --> 01:00:39,291 Friday's trivia question was rerun. 17 01:00:39,875 --> 01:00:40,708 Linus and Lucy's 18 01:00:40,708 --> 01:00:42,041 little brother was rerun. 19 01:00:42,583 --> 01:00:44,583 All right, now the essential vitamins 20 01:00:44,875 --> 01:00:46,125 for your morning cereal. 21 01:00:46,458 --> 01:00:48,125 Today's quote is from birthday girl 22 01:00:48,125 --> 01:00:51,041 who turned 68 today, Ellen DeGeneres, 23 01:00:51,041 --> 01:00:52,875 who said, "Sometimes you 24 01:00:52,875 --> 01:00:54,041 can't see yourself clearly 25 01:00:54,791 --> 01:00:55,875 until you see yourself 26 01:00:55,875 --> 01:00:57,625 through the eyes of others." 27 01:00:58,625 --> 01:01:01,000 Ouch, sometimes it is not 28 01:01:01,000 --> 01:01:02,458 fun at all to self-examine, 29 01:01:02,625 --> 01:01:05,916 but we often have biased or blind spots 30 01:01:05,916 --> 01:01:07,166 about ourselves, right? 31 01:01:07,541 --> 01:01:09,166 And getting an outside perspective 32 01:01:09,166 --> 01:01:11,000 from other people, trusted people, 33 01:01:11,333 --> 01:01:13,666 that can offer crucial insights for your 34 01:01:13,666 --> 01:01:14,916 own personal growth. 35 01:01:15,458 --> 01:01:16,833 But from your spouse, 36 01:01:17,333 --> 01:01:18,458 Jerry's still out on that one. 37 01:01:19,000 --> 01:01:20,291 Well, you've heard enough from me. 38 01:01:20,291 --> 01:01:21,666 Let's pour in some Let 39 01:01:21,666 --> 01:01:23,291 Them Theory by Mel Robbins. 40 01:01:23,291 --> 01:01:26,041 And today's chapter is adults heal 41 01:01:26,041 --> 01:01:28,916 when they are ready to do the hard work. 42 01:01:28,916 --> 01:01:29,208 End quote. 43 01:01:29,791 --> 01:01:30,750 This chapter, it strips 44 01:01:30,750 --> 01:01:32,166 away comforting illusions 45 01:01:32,166 --> 01:01:33,958 and replaces them with 46 01:01:33,958 --> 01:01:36,583 responsibility, without shame. 47 01:01:37,166 --> 01:01:38,333 Robbins is clear here. 48 01:01:38,833 --> 01:01:40,625 No one heals because they should. 49 01:01:41,041 --> 01:01:42,833 Healing happens when somebody decides 50 01:01:42,833 --> 01:01:44,500 that they're ready to do the work. 51 01:01:44,833 --> 01:01:47,333 She writes, quote, "You can't drag 52 01:01:47,333 --> 01:01:48,375 someone into healing. 53 01:01:48,750 --> 01:01:50,750 They have to walk there themselves." 54 01:01:51,083 --> 01:01:51,583 End quote. 55 01:01:52,250 --> 01:01:54,416 Now that truth, that can be painful, 56 01:01:54,750 --> 01:01:56,250 especially in close relationships 57 01:01:56,750 --> 01:01:59,000 where we want growth for someone more 58 01:01:59,500 --> 01:02:00,833 than they want it for themselves. 59 01:02:01,708 --> 01:02:02,958 Now Robbins explains that 60 01:02:02,958 --> 01:02:04,458 healing requires effort, 61 01:02:05,000 --> 01:02:06,541 honesty and consistency. 62 01:02:06,875 --> 01:02:07,500 It's not motivation. 63 01:02:07,791 --> 01:02:08,583 It's not about motivation. 64 01:02:09,083 --> 01:02:12,250 Motivation fades, commitment doesn't. 65 01:02:12,583 --> 01:02:14,083 So adults will heal 66 01:02:14,083 --> 01:02:15,375 when they're willing to sit 67 01:02:15,375 --> 01:02:16,041 with uncomfortable 68 01:02:16,041 --> 01:02:18,125 truths, examine patterns, 69 01:02:18,125 --> 01:02:20,000 and take ownership of their behavior 70 01:02:20,666 --> 01:02:22,458 instead of blaming circumstances. 71 01:02:23,250 --> 01:02:25,458 So one powerful idea in this chapter 72 01:02:25,458 --> 01:02:26,083 is the difference 73 01:02:26,083 --> 01:02:27,708 between insight and action. 74 01:02:28,500 --> 01:02:29,958 Knowing why you are the 75 01:02:29,958 --> 01:02:31,333 way you are isn't enough. 76 01:02:31,750 --> 01:02:32,750 Robbins notes, quote, 77 01:02:33,083 --> 01:02:35,000 "Awareness is the starting line. 78 01:02:35,000 --> 01:02:36,041 It's not the finish line." 79 01:02:36,041 --> 01:02:36,458 End quote. 80 01:02:37,208 --> 01:02:38,125 Healing happens when 81 01:02:38,125 --> 01:02:40,625 awareness turns into changed behavior. 82 01:02:41,291 --> 01:02:43,583 She also highlights that timing matters. 83 01:02:43,791 --> 01:02:45,125 People often ask, quote, 84 01:02:45,666 --> 01:02:46,625 "Why won't they change?" 85 01:02:47,000 --> 01:02:49,083 The real answer is simpler and harder. 86 01:02:49,541 --> 01:02:51,083 They're not ready yet, and 87 01:02:51,083 --> 01:02:52,833 readiness can't be rushed, 88 01:02:53,291 --> 01:02:55,916 negotiated, or guilted into existence. 89 01:02:56,583 --> 01:02:59,041 So this chapter is encouraging us to 90 01:02:59,041 --> 01:03:00,708 redirect our energy. 91 01:03:01,250 --> 01:03:02,916 Instead of waiting for others to heal, 92 01:03:03,250 --> 01:03:05,083 Robbins urges us to ask where 93 01:03:05,083 --> 01:03:07,541 we might be avoiding hard work. 94 01:03:08,375 --> 01:03:09,458 Growth becomes less about 95 01:03:09,458 --> 01:03:11,708 control and more about example. 96 01:03:12,458 --> 01:03:13,708 So healing, she reminds us, 97 01:03:13,708 --> 01:03:14,875 is deeply personal, right? 98 01:03:15,250 --> 01:03:16,916 It's earned through repetition, 99 01:03:17,416 --> 01:03:19,125 through boundaries and self-respect, 100 01:03:19,583 --> 01:03:21,125 not these grand gestures. 101 01:03:21,625 --> 01:03:24,708 All right, here is your Monday takeaway. 102 01:03:25,500 --> 01:03:26,125 Healing sticks when 103 01:03:26,125 --> 01:03:27,500 you choose responsibility 104 01:03:28,166 --> 01:03:31,375 over excuses and action over intention. 105 01:03:32,416 --> 01:03:33,750 So today, whether 106 01:03:33,750 --> 01:03:35,541 you're celebrating a spouse 107 01:03:35,750 --> 01:03:37,000 or just yourself, 108 01:03:37,000 --> 01:03:39,458 remember, real growth shows up 109 01:03:39,916 --> 01:03:41,541 in what we do consistently. 110 01:03:42,166 --> 01:03:43,333 All right, now the prize 111 01:03:43,333 --> 01:03:44,500 from the bottom of the box, 112 01:03:44,875 --> 01:03:46,000 the morning cereal 113 01:03:46,000 --> 01:03:48,000 trivia question of the day. 114 01:03:48,000 --> 01:03:49,833 This might be an easy one for you. 115 01:03:50,083 --> 01:03:51,750 It's a Monday, I'm not trying 116 01:03:51,750 --> 01:03:53,125 to make it too hard for you. 117 01:03:53,583 --> 01:03:57,000 What does the E stand for in the equation 118 01:03:57,000 --> 01:03:59,375 E equals MC squared? 119 01:04:00,041 --> 01:04:01,000 All right, I know 120 01:04:01,000 --> 01:04:02,166 these Mondays can hit hard, 121 01:04:02,166 --> 01:04:02,875 so we're not gonna hit 122 01:04:02,875 --> 01:04:04,041 hard on the trivia question. 123 01:04:04,541 --> 01:04:06,416 But we will see you back here tomorrow 124 01:04:06,416 --> 01:04:08,000 for the answer to that and 125 01:04:08,000 --> 01:04:09,416 for more sugar for your soul. 126 01:04:09,833 --> 01:04:10,625 Thanks for listening 127 01:04:10,625 --> 01:04:11,625 to morning cereal today, 128 01:04:11,833 --> 01:04:14,791 and until then, have a fantastic day. 129 01:04:16,125 --> 01:04:17,625 Don't forget to follow and subscribe 130 01:04:17,625 --> 01:04:19,166 to the morning cereal podcast 131 01:04:19,166 --> 01:04:21,083 on the One Life Live It channel. 132 01:04:21,625 --> 01:04:23,333 You can find more episodes and videos 133 01:04:23,333 --> 01:04:24,333 by visiting our YouTube 134 01:04:24,333 --> 01:04:25,625 channel and the website 135 01:04:25,791 --> 01:04:28,666 at seaningless and at seaningless.com, 136 01:04:28,916 --> 01:04:29,750 where you can also 137 01:04:29,750 --> 01:04:31,208 follow our other podcast, 138 01:04:31,500 --> 01:04:32,833 the Mr. and Mrs. English podcast 139 01:04:33,250 --> 01:04:34,416 and the Life Happens podcast. 140 01:04:35,208 --> 01:04:37,375 And these other podcasts will dive deeper 141 01:04:37,375 --> 01:04:38,291 into everyday issues, 142 01:04:38,541 --> 01:04:40,000 self-improvement and well-being, 143 01:04:40,041 --> 01:04:41,833 business and finance, and we 144 01:04:41,833 --> 01:04:43,083 welcome special guests too. 145 01:04:43,625 --> 01:04:44,666 So join us, it'll be a 146 01:04:44,666 --> 01:04:45,625 good time, I promise. 147 01:04:46,375 --> 01:04:46,875 Thanks again for 148 01:04:46,875 --> 01:04:48,541 listening, have a fantastic day, 149 01:04:48,916 --> 01:04:49,541 and we'll see you tomorrow.