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betaalt.

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interessant

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moment,

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date.

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brengt

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Nederlandse

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datingcultuur?

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partners

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ouderwets.

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verwachting.

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directheid,

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Nederlandse

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directheid.

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tenminste

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belangrijke

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beslissingen

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betaalt,

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kopen?

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duidelijke

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afspraken.

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Precies.

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relatie.

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Zeker.

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interessante.

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Als

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Precies.

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Lekker

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duidelijkheid.

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Geen

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spelletjes.

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Daar

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Uiteindelijk

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mening

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respecteert,

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Eigenlijk

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komen.

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Aha!

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Duidelijk.

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Gaat

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leraar

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Maarten.

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Dus,

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als

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we

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het

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samenvatten,

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komt

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de

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Nederlandse

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datingcultuur

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volgens

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ons

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neer

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op

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een

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paar

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dingen.

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Ja:

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direct

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en

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eerlijk

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zijn,

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streven

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naar

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een

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gelijkwaardige

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relatie,

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en

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heel

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veel

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praten

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over

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alles.

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En

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de

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rekening

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delen

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natuurlijk.

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Dat

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een

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vrij

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complete

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samenvatting,

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ja.

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Nou,

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ober!

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Mogen

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wij

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de

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rekening?

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we

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betalen

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apart,

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hoor!

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Haha,

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uiteraard.

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Goed,

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moet

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weer

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eens

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gaan.

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Ja,

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ook.

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Tot

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volgende

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keer!

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horens,

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doei!