1 01:00:01,250 --> 01:00:04,125 Good morning and 2 01:00:04,125 --> 01:00:05,958 welcome to Morning Serial. 3 01:00:08,833 --> 01:00:12,875 Okay, good morning and 4 01:00:12,875 --> 01:00:14,250 welcome back to another Monday. 5 01:00:14,541 --> 01:00:16,458 I hope you had a great weekend and the 6 01:00:16,458 --> 01:00:17,625 big question is, what 7 01:00:17,625 --> 01:00:19,125 will this week hold for 8 01:00:19,125 --> 01:00:19,583 us, right? 9 01:00:20,125 --> 01:00:22,041 We can start with the fact that today is 10 01:00:22,041 --> 01:00:23,541 National Couples Day. 11 01:00:23,541 --> 01:00:25,583 So if you are indeed a part of a couple, 12 01:00:25,583 --> 01:00:26,500 it's a moment to 13 01:00:26,500 --> 01:00:28,875 celebrate your ride or die, right? 14 01:00:28,958 --> 01:00:31,416 Your partner in crime and yes, even your 15 01:00:31,416 --> 01:00:33,708 argument co-star as some might call them. 16 01:00:33,916 --> 01:00:36,083 Well, it's a low key Valentine's sequel 17 01:00:36,083 --> 01:00:37,083 just six months later 18 01:00:37,083 --> 01:00:38,458 and it's designed for love 19 01:00:38,458 --> 01:00:39,875 in all of its modern forms. 20 01:00:40,291 --> 01:00:42,041 And if love isn't your vibe today or 21 01:00:42,041 --> 01:00:43,208 maybe even if it is, 22 01:00:43,208 --> 01:00:45,541 it's also never give up day, 23 01:00:45,958 --> 01:00:47,916 honoring the inner hero in all of us 24 01:00:47,916 --> 01:00:49,833 created to remind you that 25 01:00:49,833 --> 01:00:51,666 when life knocks you down, 26 01:00:51,875 --> 01:00:53,958 resilience is your best rebound. 27 01:00:54,500 --> 01:00:56,708 So whether you're sending heart emojis to 28 01:00:56,708 --> 01:00:57,833 that someone special 29 01:00:57,833 --> 01:00:58,958 or you're sending heart 30 01:00:59,000 --> 01:01:00,791 emojis to yourself if that's your thing, 31 01:01:01,250 --> 01:01:02,083 or maybe you're just 32 01:01:02,083 --> 01:01:03,916 flexing your willpower today 33 01:01:04,083 --> 01:01:06,291 and this week is yours to own. 34 01:01:06,625 --> 01:01:08,125 All right, here's a bit more inspiration 35 01:01:08,125 --> 01:01:09,291 for you for this week 36 01:01:09,291 --> 01:01:10,333 and it comes from the late 37 01:01:10,416 --> 01:01:11,833 Patrick Swayze who said, 38 01:01:11,833 --> 01:01:14,125 "Don't be afraid of being different. 39 01:01:14,125 --> 01:01:15,375 Be afraid of being the 40 01:01:15,375 --> 01:01:16,666 same as everyone else." 41 01:01:17,458 --> 01:01:19,291 Now that's your Monday 42 01:01:19,291 --> 01:01:20,833 morning mantra, right? 43 01:01:21,166 --> 01:01:23,375 Embrace whatever makes you stand out. 44 01:01:23,833 --> 01:01:25,208 Well, today's news facts and birthdays 45 01:01:25,208 --> 01:01:26,625 are for August 18th. 46 01:01:26,625 --> 01:01:28,000 We're going to start back in 1920. 47 01:01:28,333 --> 01:01:30,500 That's when the 19th amendment, it was 48 01:01:30,500 --> 01:01:31,791 ratified when Tennessee 49 01:01:31,791 --> 01:01:34,000 cast the deciding vote and 50 01:01:34,000 --> 01:01:36,458 it gave women the right to vote and it 51 01:01:36,458 --> 01:01:38,000 changed American history forever. 52 01:01:38,833 --> 01:01:41,916 Then in 1986 on this date, John Tesh, you 53 01:01:41,916 --> 01:01:43,125 know that name, made 54 01:01:43,125 --> 01:01:44,541 his first national TV 55 01:01:44,541 --> 01:01:46,375 appearance for entertainment tonight. 56 01:01:46,625 --> 01:01:47,541 And that was long before 57 01:01:47,541 --> 01:01:48,833 he became a music legend. 58 01:01:49,708 --> 01:01:52,916 Then in 1991, basketball icon Larry Bird, 59 01:01:53,208 --> 01:01:54,708 one of the greatest shooters the NBA has 60 01:01:54,708 --> 01:01:55,416 ever seen. 61 01:01:55,750 --> 01:01:57,625 Well, Larry announced his retirement, 62 01:01:57,625 --> 01:01:59,291 closing the chapter on an 63 01:01:59,291 --> 01:02:01,000 era of Celtic dominance. 64 01:02:01,750 --> 01:02:02,708 Well, happy birthday to you. 65 01:02:02,708 --> 01:02:03,625 Today is your birthday. 66 01:02:03,916 --> 01:02:04,791 You share a birthday 67 01:02:04,791 --> 01:02:06,000 with a few standouts. 68 01:02:06,500 --> 01:02:07,916 Still gleaming the cube, Christian 69 01:02:07,916 --> 01:02:09,750 Slater, he's 56 today. 70 01:02:10,583 --> 01:02:12,083 Actor and director who's still gleaming 71 01:02:12,083 --> 01:02:13,000 the cube himself, 72 01:02:13,375 --> 01:02:15,041 Robert Redford, he turns 89 73 01:02:15,375 --> 01:02:18,250 today and the late Patrick Swayze, actor 74 01:02:18,250 --> 01:02:20,625 and dancer grit and grace incarnate. 75 01:02:20,916 --> 01:02:22,291 He would have been 70 today. 76 01:02:22,958 --> 01:02:24,875 Well, the number one song on this date 77 01:02:24,875 --> 01:02:27,000 back in 1989 was right 78 01:02:27,000 --> 01:02:28,333 here waiting by Richard 79 01:02:28,333 --> 01:02:28,666 Marx. 80 01:02:28,916 --> 01:02:31,291 Now, you know this song, this bittersweet 81 01:02:31,291 --> 01:02:32,583 ballad, it soared to 82 01:02:32,583 --> 01:02:33,375 the top of the billboard 83 01:02:33,458 --> 01:02:36,041 Hot 100, spending three weeks at number 84 01:02:36,041 --> 01:02:37,458 one and becoming a 85 01:02:37,458 --> 01:02:39,375 platinum certified anthem of 86 01:02:39,375 --> 01:02:41,166 long distance devotion, right? 87 01:02:41,500 --> 01:02:43,208 Richard Marx originally wrote it as a 88 01:02:43,208 --> 01:02:44,666 love letter to his wife and 89 01:02:44,666 --> 01:02:46,416 fun fact here, he intended 90 01:02:46,416 --> 01:02:48,750 for Barbara Streisand to sing it, but she 91 01:02:48,750 --> 01:02:50,958 passed on it and it seemed to have worked 92 01:02:50,958 --> 01:02:52,000 out pretty well for Rich. 93 01:02:52,583 --> 01:02:55,125 Well, we are right here waiting for the 94 01:02:55,125 --> 01:02:56,291 book review segment and 95 01:02:56,291 --> 01:02:58,166 we're in part three of 96 01:02:58,166 --> 01:03:00,250 Stephen R. Kobe's The Seven Habits of 97 01:03:00,250 --> 01:03:01,541 Highly Effective People 98 01:03:01,541 --> 01:03:03,250 and we're in habit five, 99 01:03:03,500 --> 01:03:03,708 right? 100 01:03:04,083 --> 01:03:04,750 Seek first to 101 01:03:04,750 --> 01:03:07,041 understand, then to be understood. 102 01:03:08,000 --> 01:03:10,166 And this sub chapter is a powerful 103 01:03:10,166 --> 01:03:13,166 principle diagnosed before you prescribe. 104 01:03:13,791 --> 01:03:14,000 Okay. 105 01:03:14,500 --> 01:03:17,083 Here, Kobe argues that most people leap 106 01:03:17,083 --> 01:03:18,291 to solutions before 107 01:03:18,291 --> 01:03:20,125 understanding the real problem. 108 01:03:20,541 --> 01:03:22,250 It's like diagnosing a fever 109 01:03:22,250 --> 01:03:23,708 by turning up the thermostat. 110 01:03:24,041 --> 01:03:24,541 Is that helpful? 111 01:03:25,083 --> 01:03:25,750 Not so much. 112 01:03:26,250 --> 01:03:26,500 All right. 113 01:03:26,750 --> 01:03:29,208 Kobe says, quote, you must never pretend 114 01:03:29,208 --> 01:03:30,458 to understand before 115 01:03:30,458 --> 01:03:32,625 you actually do, or you'll 116 01:03:32,625 --> 01:03:34,791 be prescribing the wrong solutions. 117 01:03:35,083 --> 01:03:35,333 End quote. 118 01:03:35,833 --> 01:03:37,708 Now that resonates deeply, right? 119 01:03:38,000 --> 01:03:39,833 How often do we give advice? 120 01:03:39,833 --> 01:03:42,250 We offer fixes or we jump right in with 121 01:03:42,250 --> 01:03:43,750 solutions with what the 122 01:03:43,750 --> 01:03:45,708 other person really needs is 123 01:03:45,708 --> 01:03:47,291 just to be heard, right? 124 01:03:47,625 --> 01:03:50,000 This habit draws a medical parallel here. 125 01:03:50,375 --> 01:03:52,541 Doctors don't prescribe medicine before 126 01:03:52,541 --> 01:03:54,125 diagnosis, yet in 127 01:03:54,125 --> 01:03:56,041 relationships and in family and at 128 01:03:56,041 --> 01:03:58,625 work, we often do exactly that. 129 01:03:58,875 --> 01:04:00,458 We say things like, here's what you 130 01:04:00,458 --> 01:04:01,375 should do before the 131 01:04:01,375 --> 01:04:03,416 first empathetic ear tunes in, 132 01:04:03,416 --> 01:04:03,583 right? 133 01:04:04,750 --> 01:04:06,208 Emphasizes true listening 134 01:04:06,208 --> 01:04:08,000 as a form of service, right? 135 01:04:08,666 --> 01:04:09,666 Giving respect, giving 136 01:04:09,666 --> 01:04:11,458 empathy and giving space. 137 01:04:12,000 --> 01:04:13,625 Kobe writes that empathic listening is 138 01:04:13,625 --> 01:04:15,583 not agreement, but an 139 01:04:15,583 --> 01:04:17,250 accurate understanding. 140 01:04:17,625 --> 01:04:20,250 You reflect not just words, but feelings. 141 01:04:20,250 --> 01:04:22,791 Quote, you deeply understand, not your 142 01:04:22,791 --> 01:04:24,291 interpretation of what they 143 01:04:24,291 --> 01:04:26,333 said, but their intent, their 144 01:04:26,333 --> 01:04:27,500 meaning, end quote. 145 01:04:28,083 --> 01:04:29,541 So this patience and 146 01:04:29,541 --> 01:04:31,541 awareness nurtures trust. 147 01:04:31,541 --> 01:04:33,625 And as Kobe states, people listen best 148 01:04:33,625 --> 01:04:34,833 when they feel heard. 149 01:04:35,500 --> 01:04:37,833 And only then can real connection occur. 150 01:04:38,125 --> 01:04:39,666 So applying this, right? 151 01:04:39,958 --> 01:04:42,083 The next time someone vents, especially 152 01:04:42,083 --> 01:04:43,500 at work or at home, 153 01:04:43,875 --> 01:04:45,875 don't just reach for advice. 154 01:04:46,458 --> 01:04:49,291 Maybe just soak in their tone, their 155 01:04:49,291 --> 01:04:51,375 pause, what they're not saying. 156 01:04:51,583 --> 01:04:53,875 Then ask some clarifying questions like, 157 01:04:54,250 --> 01:04:55,583 what's that like for you? 158 01:04:55,583 --> 01:04:57,250 Or what does that feel like? 159 01:04:57,708 --> 01:04:59,958 Let the diagnosis emerge naturally. 160 01:05:00,375 --> 01:05:01,875 Okay, here's your takeaway. 161 01:05:02,791 --> 01:05:03,500 Kobe teaches that 162 01:05:03,500 --> 01:05:05,583 effectiveness starts with empathy. 163 01:05:06,458 --> 01:05:08,250 Before prescribing solutions, first 164 01:05:08,250 --> 01:05:11,458 listen deeply to diagnose the real need. 165 01:05:11,958 --> 01:05:13,708 When people feel truly understood, 166 01:05:13,708 --> 01:05:15,166 solutions become meaningful and 167 01:05:15,166 --> 01:05:16,291 relationships thrive. 168 01:05:16,916 --> 01:05:18,583 So as you step into this new week, 169 01:05:18,958 --> 01:05:21,375 remember, understand before advising. 170 01:05:22,000 --> 01:05:25,125 Love even on ordinary days and never 171 01:05:25,125 --> 01:05:26,916 underestimate your own resilience. 172 01:05:27,500 --> 01:05:27,750 All right. 173 01:05:28,041 --> 01:05:29,166 Thanks for tuning in today. 174 01:05:29,333 --> 01:05:30,250 Come back tomorrow for 175 01:05:30,250 --> 01:05:31,750 more nostalgia and insights. 176 01:05:32,083 --> 01:05:35,000 And as always, have a fantastic day. 177 01:05:36,666 --> 01:05:38,375 Don't forget to follow and subscribe to 178 01:05:38,375 --> 01:05:39,000 the Morning Serial 179 01:05:39,000 --> 01:05:41,125 Podcast on the One Life Live 180 01:05:41,125 --> 01:05:41,583 It channel. 181 01:05:42,125 --> 01:05:44,083 You can find more episodes and videos by 182 01:05:44,083 --> 01:05:44,833 visiting our YouTube 183 01:05:44,833 --> 01:05:47,000 channel and the website at Shawn 184 01:05:47,000 --> 01:05:49,750 Inglis and at ShawnInglis.com, where you 185 01:05:49,750 --> 01:05:50,916 can also follow our 186 01:05:50,916 --> 01:05:52,333 other podcasts, the Mr. and 187 01:05:52,333 --> 01:05:53,875 Mrs. Inglis podcast and 188 01:05:53,875 --> 01:05:54,708 the Life Happens podcast. 189 01:05:55,750 --> 01:05:57,875 And these other podcasts will dive deeper 190 01:05:57,875 --> 01:05:58,791 into everyday issues, 191 01:05:59,041 --> 01:05:59,875 self-improvement and 192 01:05:59,875 --> 01:06:01,416 well-being, business and finance. 193 01:06:02,041 --> 01:06:03,583 And we welcome special guests too. 194 01:06:04,083 --> 01:06:04,833 So join us. 195 01:06:04,833 --> 01:06:05,833 It'll be a good time. 196 01:06:05,833 --> 01:06:06,250 I promise. 197 01:06:06,875 --> 01:06:07,958 Thanks again for listening. 198 01:06:07,958 --> 01:06:09,041 Have a fantastic day. 199 01:06:09,458 --> 01:06:10,041 And we'll see you tomorrow.