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Good morning and

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welcome to Morning Syria.

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Okay, good morning and welcome to Friday.

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We did it, we made it to

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the first Friday in February

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and it feels oh so good, right?

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That's a lot of Fs.

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First Friday February

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feels good, a lot of Fs.

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Well, building off of

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yesterday's odd special day

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of the week, today is just as odd.

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Today is National Working Naked Day,

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which I would strongly

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recommend you interpreting

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as working authentically, right?

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Preferably fully dressed probably.

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Or if you insist, let's go ahead

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and work from home today, right?

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Yeah, that's a good plan.

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Well, yesterday's trivia answer is wax.

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Crayons are made of wax.

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Pretty easy one for you,

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you probably got that one.

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All right, well it is now

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time for the essential vitamins

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in your morning cereal.

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Today's quote is from

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birthday boy Rick Astley,

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who's turning 60 years

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old today, unbelievably.

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Rick Astley said, and

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you probably guessed it,

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never gonna give you up,

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never gonna let you down,

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end quote.

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And we should all be so lucky

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to find our own Rick Astley's

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that promise this

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unconditional love, loyalty,

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and commitment, commitment

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to some sick dance moves.

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Well, let's keep the let them

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theory by Mel Robbins flowing

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because today, Mel takes us

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straight into the deep end.

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Love, dating, and the

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stories we tell ourselves

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about why it's not working.

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All right, this section is all about

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resetting expectations

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and honestly, calling us out just a

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little in a loving way.

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All right, Mel begins

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by challenging the idea

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that finding love is

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about efforting harder,

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fixing yourself or

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chasing the right person.

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Instead, she reframes

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love as something that begins

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with alignment, not pursuit.

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One of her key reminders is quote,

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love doesn't require you to abandon

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yourself, end quote.

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If you feel anxious, unseen,

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or constantly

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questioning where you stand,

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that's not romance,

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that's your nervous

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system waving a red flag, okay?

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She talks openly about how

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many of us confuse chemistry

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with compatibility, that spark?

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It might just be familiarity with chaos.

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Mel explains that

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healthy love feels calm,

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it's consistent, and it's safe.

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And for people used to

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emotional roller coasters,

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that can feel boring at

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first, but boring isn't bad.

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Boring is peaceful,

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boring lets you exhale, okay?

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Another standout quote

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from this section is quote,

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you don't attract love

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by proving your worth,

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you attract it by

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honoring it, end quote, okay?

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That line alone could save people

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many years of dating burnout.

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Now, Mel emphasizes that

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love isn't something you earn

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through over giving, over

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texting, or over thinking.

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It shows up when you

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stop trying to be chosen

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and start choosing yourself.

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Now, she also brings the let them concept

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directly into dating.

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If someone is

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inconsistent, unavailable, or unsure,

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let them be, don't try to

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convince them you're lovable,

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the right people don't need convincing,

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they actually show up on their own, okay?

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This chapter encourages listeners

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to stop romanticizing potential

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and start paying attention to behavior.

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Love isn't hidden,

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it's clear, it's mutual,

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and it doesn't leave you guessing, okay?

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Mel closes this section

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with a powerful reminder.

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The goal isn't just to find love,

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it's to find peaceful love,

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the kind that fits into your life

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instead of taking it over, all right?

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Okay, here is your Friday takeaway.

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Real love doesn't make you chase,

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it meets you where you are, and it grows

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with you, all right?

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So today, show up

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real, enjoy the weekend,

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and don't overthink it, all right?

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Now, the prize from the

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bottom of the cereal box,

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it's the morning cereal

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trivia question of the day.

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On a Friday, which is

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a little bit harder,

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I'm gonna try to

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pronounce some of these words,

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I might get them wrong, so

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forgive me ahead of time here.

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Here's the question.

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What are Assam, Darjeeling, and Royabas,

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all types up?

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All right, well, thanks for listening

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to Morning Cereal today.

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Have a great weekend, and

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we will see you back here

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on Monday for the trivia answer

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and more sugar for your soul.

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And until then, have a fantastic day.

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Thanks again for

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listening, have a fantastic day,

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and we'll see you tomorrow.