In this episode, DSO responds to a letter from Nate, who is feeling drained and frustrated in his marriage. After a long military career, Nate has come to realize that his wife is lazy, unambitious, and constantly negative. He has recently started focusing on self-love and personal growth, but his wife's behavior is wearing him down mentally. DSO offers two options for Nate: either his wife needs to join him in his positive mindset and make an effort to improve the relationship, or Nate may need to consider moving on to a new chapter in his life without her.
Key Takeaways:
- Military deployments can cause couples to grow apart, especially if one partner struggles to cope with the challenges of being left behind.
- Hyperachieving individuals often thrive as entrepreneurs and may struggle in traditional employment settings.
- Discarding negative influences from your life can lead to significant improvements in mental and physical health, as well as personal and professional success.
Quotes:
- "You're Mr. Winner, and you're looking over your wife saying, 'You going to join me?' And her answer is, 'Nope.'"
- "When you discard negative people from your life, things really start to click for you."
- "You owe it to her to give her a chance to work through this, but if not, it's time to call it quits."
What is Dad Starting Over?
Welcome to the Dad Starting Over podcast! "Starting Over" means different things to different people. It could be that you're newly divorced and starting over fresh with a new life. It could be that you're still married and wanting to hit the reset button and finally do things right within your marriage. Whatever your story may be, you're in the right place.
I'm Ralph, a.k.a DSO, the author of books called "The Dead Bedroom Fix", "Divorce Panic", "Real Talk" and "Red Flags". You can learn more about me, my books, one-on-one coaching, and the member-only part of my site called the Brotherhood at https://helpformen.com