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      "body": "Truth and Conversation, a podcast with Gary John Bishop."
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      "body": "What do you do when results don't go your way? You know, what do you do when you've tried and tried and gone through everything you can think of? What do you do when the results just aren't coming in? More importantly, who do you become? I got an email from Rina."
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      "body": "She said pre Covid I had a thriving business and I've been trying to build another one And she's been advertising everywhere, she's been emailing, she's been reaching out to clinics and schools and professionals and she gets no response. And it's been going on for three years and she doesn't know what to do anymore. Now if this was a freaking business podcast, right, I'd be maybe giving her tips and tricks. But when I read Rena's email, I was struck way more not by what she was saying but who she's become. And in my line of work who you've become will have a massive say in the results you produce."
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      "speaker": "Speaker 2",
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      "body": "So I don't think Rina's question is a business one at all. I think it's a question about what happens when life stops agreeing with your expectations. The first thing to confront here is the lie. Now it doesn't seem like there's a lie here but that is a lie and it's unspoken. And whatever you've got going on in your life, this obviously isn't just for Rena, this is for anybody who listens."
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      "speaker": "Speaker 2",
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      "body": "The first place you do look is where am I not being completely straight with myself? Right? Where have I kind of got way ahead of where I am? So for Rina, she's living inside a conversation like this. The results I'm getting should be different than the ones that are appearing in front of me."
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      "speaker": "Speaker 2",
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      "body": "That's the lie. Now it's not because we're intended to lie to yourself but she's arguing with reality And it's true for everybody listening to this podcast right now. Reality only ever has one answer for you. These are your results. That's it."
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    {
      "speaker": "Speaker 2",
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      "body": "There's no drama, no story, no nothing, no pre COVID, no none of that. These are your results. And for everybody here, the results you're getting in your life are 100% consistent with everything you're doing and not doing. There's no anomalies here. There's no mystery."
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      "speaker": "Speaker 2",
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      "body": "There's no injustice. There's no exceptions. Reality is simply reporting back to you with where you are given what you've done and haven't done. Your actions are producing these results. Period."
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      "speaker": "Speaker 2",
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      "body": "There's nothing else to it. Now in your head it's like this shouldn't be happening. This isn't right. This isn't fair. I've done everything I know to do."
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      "speaker": "Speaker 2",
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      "body": "All this stuff worked before which is often not a good idea because you're not dealing with reality. You're dealing with what happened before. But the moment that you insist this shouldn't be happening you've lost your power and it's cumulative every time you take an action and it doesn't produce anything. It just builds, the confusion builds, the stuckness builds. It's like you're trying to solve a mystery that simply doesn't exist."
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      "speaker": "Speaker 2",
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      "body": "Because reality isn't mysterious. Reality is incredibly honest. So everything you're doing in your life, for everybody listening right now, everything you're doing in life right now, all the results you're producing are consistent with all the actions you're taking and the actions you're not taking. Now it's not for me to say do this, do that, do this, do that but I want you to understand you're always functioning within a kind of realm or a spectrum of what you think is possible or doable. And we love to say things like I've done everything and I've done No."
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      "speaker": "Speaker 2",
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      "body": "You've done everything you know to do. Maybe. But once you stop arguing with that, once you stop arguing with the results or, you know your view of the results, right, or this you know affinity for how you expected it to go which by the way I wrote about this in Unfuck Yourself. You know whenever you endeavor to do something you don't you're not writing out how you expect it to go you've got a picture in your mind of how you expect it to go And people do get messed up when I talk about expectations because they think it's the same as goals. It's not."
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      "speaker": "Speaker 2",
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      "body": "Expectations is your attachment to how this is supposed to go. It's an emotional attachment to how this is supposed to go. So that's the first thing you have to get straight yourself. You land on there. You land on everything I'm doing is getting me what I've got."
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      "speaker": "Speaker 2",
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      "body": "That's it. Everything that I'm doing is getting me exactly what I've got. And when you start to address that and really kind of see it clear for itself, you'll see it's got much less of a grip on you. The only real question you want to be dwelling in right now is what's missing here? Like if I keep doing what I'm doing those are the kind of results I'm going to get."
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    {
      "speaker": "Speaker 2",
      "startTime": "452.095",
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      "body": "That's fine. But what's missing? What have I missed? It's not a case of you know why me and why isn't this working and when will my luck change? It's just simply what's missing here?"
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      "speaker": "Speaker 2",
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      "body": "And that's the question that a creator would ask themselves. And it's not a question by the way that you'll just ask at one time and you're done. You may ask yourself that question daily for the next ten years. And you might get answers and you might not. It doesn't mean to say you stop asking the question what's missing here?"
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    {
      "speaker": "Speaker 2",
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      "body": "But you adjust and you ask it again and then it might give you an answer again then you adjust. But there's but this is kind of like this is more of a kind of structural answer to Rina's problem or her issue and for each of you less than you might have something either similar either in the line of business or your health or whatever but you can grabbed on it as soon as I started to read Rina's email because who she has become was loud. Right? It was loud because three years of disappointing results have created or in other words a way of being has arisen. Not like she's discouraged, not like she's unlucky."
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      "speaker": "Speaker 2",
      "startTime": "551.745",
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      "body": "Who she has become is desperate. And you'll have to look in your life who have you become in the matter of the results of your life? Fatigued? Exhausted? Apathetic?"
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      "speaker": "Speaker 2",
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      "body": "But in Rina's case it was so loud when when when I read her email. Like this was a desperate person communicating. Who she is being is desperate. Now this is the part that people often trip up on. Doing does what being is."
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      "speaker": "Speaker 2",
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      "body": "Being desperate does desperate things. Desperate writes emails. Desperate follows up. Desperate speaks. Desperate sells."
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      "speaker": "Speaker 2",
      "startTime": "614.965",
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      "body": "Desperate thinks. Everything comes from desperation right but what people tend to do with that is they'll talk to somebody right especially in the area of business and they'll fake something. Right they'll put a smiley face on it or try to sound positive. All of that is inauthentic. So now you've just got pretense on top of your desperation trying to drum up business."
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      "speaker": "Speaker 2",
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      "body": "And when you when you boil it all the way down, here's what it comes down to. And this could be for you as a listener right now, but it's definitely the case for Rina. Rina, you're so desperate for the finish line that it's completely altered the way you're running the race. You don't love the race. You don't love the engagement."
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      "speaker": "Speaker 2",
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      "body": "Every lead has to work. Every phone call has to become a client. Everything's getting more heavy and more weighty. Reality is not your enemy. Reality is a guide, it's just telling you something but what you've done for three years is just keep driving it deeper and thinking no this time, no this time, no this time."
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      "speaker": "Speaker 2",
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      "body": "I would assert you need to take a real inventory about what you think it takes to build this business And you need to confront who you've become. Because every result and this is true for everybody listening. Every result is 100% consistent with the actions you're taking. The actions you're taking, this is what it produces. You just got to stop arguing with that like it should be different."
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    {
      "speaker": "Speaker 2",
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      "body": "No, no. These actions produce these results. This is what you get when you do that. It's no mystery. I mean, you can just let that be."
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    {
      "speaker": "Speaker 2",
      "startTime": "741.59",
      "endTime": "752.385",
      "body": "Right? Just let it be itself. Right? You don't have to get your mickers in a twist about this. I mean, you know, if you let it, it'll be a massive for you."
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      "speaker": "Speaker 2",
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      "body": "Like, I'm wrestling with something that's doing what it does. What are you wrestling for? I would rather you stood in something like possibility and ask yourself okay if I continue to do x y and z I'm going to get this result over here But I'm looking for this result over there so what's missing here? What's a piece or pieces? And then you go try it out and it might fail but you keep asking what's missing here?"
    },
    {
      "speaker": "Speaker 2",
      "startTime": "785.89",
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      "body": "What do I need to add here that's going to shift some of these outcomes I'm having for myself? But I think the biggest thing you've got to deal with is again who you've become. You're not in love with the game. You're desperate about the game. And when you're desperate about the game you're going to do desperate things."
    },
    {
      "speaker": "Speaker 2",
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      "body": "Reality is not judging you. It's reporting on you. And so this would be a moment for you to start thinking about. What's missing in your life? What's missing in the way you you go about your business?"
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      "speaker": "Speaker 2",
      "startTime": "842.075",
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      "body": "Who have you become? I'll give you a great quote from Epictetus. He said, don't explain your philosophy. Embody it. Become what this business is for you, express it."
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      "speaker": "Speaker 2",
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      "body": "It's a possibility and you've turned it into a chore. You've minimized it and it's all being shrouded in desperation and the other point here is, listen, if you have to find other ways to make your life work while you're building your business, you should do that. You should demand that your life works first. Don't put up with an unworkable life in the name of this because you've had three years of it and you can just see, you know, you're getting deeper and deeper and deeper in the hole with it and it's getting more desperate and more desperate. So any new thinking it won't arrive until the old conversation loses its grip."
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    {
      "speaker": "Speaker 2",
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      "body": "And the old conversation is I'm doing this and this should be different. No. No, you're doing this and you're getting the results that are consistent with that. A 100% of the time. There's no tragedy."
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    {
      "speaker": "Speaker 2",
      "startTime": "929.34",
      "endTime": "943.005",
      "body": "There's no travesty. There's no injustice. You've you've looked to a business model that you had years ago and you just think that that should work. No, no. The actions you're taking are consistent with the results you're getting."
    },
    {
      "speaker": "Speaker 2",
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      "endTime": "966.10004",
      "body": "It's time for something new and that you might spend the next three, four, five, six months just on that. Just what would be new? And then there's one last little piece I'll give you. You talked about I've done everything. That's never true."
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      "speaker": "Speaker 2",
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      "body": "A more accurate way to say that would be I've done everything that I know to do. And again, that's true of everybody here. When you speak in those kind of broad terms, you're not speaking in terms of the world, you're speaking in terms of your world. And that's nowhere near as big as the world. Now, week, this is what we're going to do here, right?"
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      "body": "We're going to take people's questions and we're going to distinguish it through an ontological phenomenological model. And we're going to use these conversations to get wiser, to get smarter, to get clearer. Right? To get more resolute. To become more effective, more powerful."
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      "body": "And as I encourage you every time we speak, you know, you should read the books. Know what is out you, your life and the truth you've been avoiding and you know, look this is the perfect book for this conversation. Now what? You've told me everything. Now what?"
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      "body": "Right? You don't get to just sit there stuck. You got to demand something of yourself, demand something of your creativity, demand something of your imagination. But you can find it more on the website, garyjohnbishop.com. And we're getting closer and closer to the new retreat."
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      "body": "At time of recording, we still had one or two spots left. So if you're up for that, if you want to come and spend three and a half days with me in a pretty intense conversation, twenty plus hours, and to give you a sense of that by the way, you know, when I have clients, I speak with clients once a week for fifty five minutes. That's it. And, you know, we get so much done, so much ground gets taken. People advance their lives in ways they never thought imaginable."
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      "body": "So in a retreat, it's a very limited number of people, 20 something people coming together. And it's intense, you know, it's intense. But it's freaking great because you're sharing the room with people who are vested in the possibility of their own lives. There's some skin in the game. So if that's something that interests you, go to the website, garyjohnbishop.com."
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      "body": "You'll see the retreat there. Click. You can register and I'll see you in Washington State by the lake of an evening starting August 21. Now, of course, you have a question, you have a conundrum, if you have something in your life that you think needs a fixing, email me: connectgaryjohnbishop Also, as we're wrapping things up here, don't forget to write the show. If you've got the time, leave us a nice review and subscribe."
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      "body": "That's it for this week. Until next time. Have a great one."
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